Why I Relate to Incels | (Female to “Male”) Incel Phases

[@RAMBLINTRANSMAN]

Shane from Squirmy and Grubs has spinal muscular atrophy not cerebral palsy my bad!

[@ihintrr]

Preach, a video on advantages would be facinating

[@RAMBLINTRANSMAN]

@@ihintrr advantages as a transguy?

[@ihintrr]

@@RAMBLINTRANSMAN yes

[@RAMBLINTRANSMAN]

On it 🦾

[@ashleyc8303]

Its interesting to see your perspective in things. Obviously, I went the other way around so your feed came to me due to transgender topics. You're right that if people work for something, eventually things turn around. Its all about life experiences and also who is willing to have confidence in your ability but it first comes out of your confidence. The one thing I have learned is that as a trans person if your confident everyone that lacks confidence seems to be jealous if you succeed, but confidence seems to be the key to life. Even for women it takes confidence just as much as for men.

[@RAMBLINTRANSMAN]

Very true when you’re confident you’re happy when others are confident or succeeding, or you take the envy and turn it into motivation to become better in a serious but compassionate way. Envy is more of a sign to develop more in a certain area rather than a signal that something is wrong with you or the people you’re comparing yourself to. Thanks for the comment.

[@LynIsALilADHD]

Knowing that you **can** change your life is incredibly powerful!

[@wannabecake1]

i realate but as soon as they start blaming women thats where they lose me

[@RAMBLINTRANSMAN]

Some women or things women do are to blame though. Not entirely as a sex or class per se but women can be just as abusive as men and sadly one of the only spaces in our culture for men to discuss this uncensored is the manosphere. I don’t agree with living from a place of rage or misogyny but there needs to be a space for men to vent and grieve and find support and positive (hopefully) solutions.

[@eurydicefan]

@@RAMBLINTRANSMAN of course thats true, but "some ___ are to blame" applies to every group of people, every gender, race, etc. them being women has nothing to do with it.

[@User700-tm7xx]

​@@jane-holliOK Feminist...

[@NebulaSon]

Well, what else would they blame? It is women that do the rejections.

[@NebulaSon]

And Im pretty sure you never have a problem when women blame men for pumping and dumping and everything else.

[@Fren-m3i]

Do you think your new "red pill" beliefs are more "correct" than your previous "'feminist and queer activist" beliefs or do they just suit your current lifestyle better?

[@RAMBLINTRANSMAN]

It’s a different layer to the puzzle so some feminist and queer takes are correct as well but the red pill is correct from a more male or masculine perspective. So it is more helpful and advantageous for me to focus on red pill at this point in my life than the latter. I still support certain feminist and queer issues but personally and socially I see men’s issues as more relevant at the moment and also giving a trans perspective that overlaps with men’s issues.

[@RAMBLINTRANSMAN]

@@lordfreeza_ ah I see you’re back to troll you like my channel a lot I see

[@Fren-m3i]

@@RAMBLINTRANSMAN I don't want to encourage any trolling. I like and support what you do. I just felt like you were open to having a little bit of community conversation and that your videos were not purely one sided. I don't want to assume your pronouns, but suffice to say freeza's reply could have been better phrased.

[@RAMBLINTRANSMAN]

@@Fren-m3i I am open as long as it’s in good faith debate, respectful and genuine curiosity. I had no issue at all with your inquiry and appreciate your feedback.

[@Fren-m3i]

@@RAMBLINTRANSMAN I want to be nothing but genuine with you because I appreciate what you share. When I see Incel thought and Red Pill rhetoric are such a cornerstone of your channel, it makes me want to take part in the conversation. Sometimes I do think that some concerns that redpillers have are valid, their struggles legitimate. My biggest unease is where they place the blame. Often the systems that abuse them come from above, like the capitalistic oppression that limits all of us, but instead of joining in the conversation about how their struggles align with feminism many of them instead see women's rights in opposition with their "Men's rights movement". They often talk about systems of control to take what they feel entitled to. When you talk about hierarchies and status, I refuse to live in those systems. If you and I can fundamentally change how the world sees us, we can also change the way we see the world.

[@sublunarymessaging7462]

Bi ftm here, the only lie in this video is that you or goose wayne aren't good looking. Goose wayne has the funny hair but the skull shape and facial feautures are really good.

[@gjhartist3685]

I relate to incels too. Being a gay closet case and growing up in a cult left me unable to explore myself sexually. Wasn't until I was in my mid-twenties that I finally lost my virginity. So i felt an odd sense of kinship to these guys who couldn't find a partner or get laid. The empathy stalls around there though. As most incel spaces I looked through had a lot of disgust for women, for sexually active men, and for anybody not straight. Basically, anybody who is not straight cis male celibate isn't welcome. I think this insular setup for the community causes a negative feedback loop that makes their problems worse than they would have been otherwise. It's a shame but they do it to themselves.

[@RAMBLINTRANSMAN]

Interesting. Yeah there is a lot of what you described although I think one reason for this is a reaction to the demonization of straight cis/bio males and masculinity from women and the lgbtq community. Although there’s always going to be those guys that are misogynistic or anti lgbtq regardless. I think if a lot of guys worked through they’re rage they wouldn’t harbor as much resentment towards the groups you mentioned, and then there’s the issue of a lot of the guys have been bullied from women and sexual successful men their whole lives so I guess I have more empathy. I was never bullied by straight men mostly women and occasionally gay men. There’s a men’s rights Reddit thread about my KZbin channel and 98% of the guys were supportive and or respectful to me and being trans so I do think if more lgbtq ppl talk about their cross over experiences with women or relating to incels, there would be more understanding and conversations between us. We’re you ever resentful towards men for not getting laid or it was more internalized your struggles being closeted and shaming from the cult? Appreciate your comment and sharing your experience with this.

[@gjhartist3685]

@@RAMBLINTRANSMAN I was never resentful towards men who could get laid. I mostly resented myself, and like many incels, dealt with severely low self-esteem. Thanks to the biblical doctrines of the cult + the homophobia of many people there I basically felt like an evil sleeper agent predestined to some dark fate. A Judas if you will. tmk nobody ever found out, and i never experienced direct shaming from them. I thankfully avoided situations where I could get outed. I won't deny that i was in some ways envious of sexually successful men (Gay or straight). I never disliked anybody on a personal level though. I rarely hate anybody.

[@RAMBLINTRANSMAN]

Gotcha that makes sense. Sry for the late response just saw it today.

[@InfernoG-or4s]

I can't relate because growing up I was what Eliot Roger described as "Obnoxious" because I was a typical jock, very athletic but intellectually limited but I would get along very well with women. I try to have empathy for incels ever since I learned about them a few years ago,but the problem is that they think men like are also part of the problem.

[@RAMBLINTRANSMAN]

Well a lot of it is envy - human mating is not fair especially for males, so successful naturals like yourself get most of the mating opportunities, respect and being valued in society. It’s a tough situation but luckily there’s other avenues incels could pursue. Not ideal but with sex robots coming out and all the medical technology that could help guys “looksmax” and all the info on “game” and how to socialize, there’s more potential for climbing the hierarchy or at least having more upward mobility than ever before. But I hear ya it sucks being on the receiving end of the envy/hate.

[@InfernoG-or4s]

@@RAMBLINTRANSMAN I understand I've been lucky genetically but I'm glad you mentioned some of those potential solutions to the incel epidemic. You know I have a son with my girlfriend and I hope he doesn't fall for these rabbit holes of incels or red pill nonsense, but just like you said the mating game isn't fair so he might.

[@RAMBLINTRANSMAN]

@@InfernoG-or4s well if he has your genetics and models himself after you he should be fine. I think guys that have masculine fathers that understand women can save guys from the red pill. A lot of us are in these spaces cause we didn’t have masculine fathers and never learned the truth and how to be successful given what we had to work with.