Why Single People's Opinions Don't Matter In Relationships - Episode 114

[@coachchauntea5222]

Jalon was the last of the trio to get into a relationship and I always valued his wisdom on relationships. A wise person is a wise person whether in a relationship or not. Single people with God-given wisdom definitely have opinions that matter!

[@WhoIsTheeMeister]

You ATE with that!

[@beu2543]

Nah you cleared with this.

[@jaywalker4701]

That's a good point

[@ivyp4142]

🥃🥃🥃

[@marybutidk]

I totally agree with this! I’m still single currently, however, I was married previously, but my current married friends all come to me for advice

[@whobutcrissy]

You should use discernment when taking advice from anyone - single or married. Just because someone is single doesn’t mean they can’t give you sound advice. And most advice comes from personal experiences…. Relationships aren’t one size fit all. Some people actually learn from their mistakes

[@marybutidk]

This!! Discernment does play a big factor! Because sometimes married people will be unhappily married, and give you advice from a broken place. So it’s best to always seek council from someone that you trust, regardless of their title or relationship status.

[@whobutcrissy]

Yes girl!!

[@dealingst0nes]

i think its funny that now that all of the men are engaged/married, its now "single ppls opinions dont matter". when jalon was "single and also had a kid before marriage" but his opinion still mattered to the viewers. hmmm, have to disagree. i understood where they were coming from but also thought it was degrading to alot of single viewers.

[@Aprilllllll564]

Hey there, I usually enjoy your content, but I found your comment about a single person's opinion holding no value to be a bit degrading. Many partnered people can give terrible advice because they're unhappy in their relationships, while single people often offer an objective viewpoint. It's similar to saying someone without a child can't have a valid opinion on child welfare. If your circle includes people who don't want the best for you in your relationship, then it's simply a matter of them not being good people-regardless of their relationship status.

[@DeliBoyzz]

As a single man, I offer relationship advice but it’s more so all types of relationships. Main thing that talk about is being considerate to your partner or other ppl . I can’t ever speak for some else’s relationship because I’m not in that but based off a lot of relationship I’ve been in and seen and hear from ppl, a main issue is “if you don’t want it done to you, don’t do it to them”

[@Erica-cf1xb]

People are okay with giving, but not receiving. That's pretty consistent amongst alot of people from different walks of life.

[@jubelooyeniran9021]

Duke. You’re looking crazy healthy bro, proud of you

[@heyerikan]

So what about y’all’s Stefan Speaks interview? Ain’t he single?

[@Aprilllllll564]

Right! This whole thing is a very weird take.

[@evolve5418]

Right! That man doesn’t give the best advice either

[@AngelaElikya]

He isn't married but I don't think he's single 😂😂

[@tierrasardine562]

Two things can be the true at one time fellas ❤ not everyone have “great intentions” on others relationships (could be bitter, lonely,etc) but I also have those few single friends that reminds me of the value of being married ☝🏽it’s really about WHO the single friend is, because I’ve had peers(military married friends)who opinions and views of marriage is not in alignment with me and my husband’s beliefs/goals.❤

[@Shaylahrsm]

Great point ❤

[@roea7846]

I love these thought-provoking conversations, but I disagree. Single people's opinions do matter if they are coming from the right person. There are married people operating single and giving bad advice because they aren't happy. I am single and always encourage my married friend to try to work things out when she goes through a rough patch in her marriage. You gentlemen are talking from a healthy place. There are a lot of broken people in relationships, so their opinion might or might not matter either.

[@soniaevans1]

Jalon was single and he had some advice about relationships but he asked much more questions than he did giving advice, amongst men who are in stable relationships. Context is needed here

[@thoughtsideas6929]

Wildly classist and mean to say she’s “post mates girl”. Even if I ran into an ex under those circumstances there’s a way to succinctly address it wo being classist or mean (not to mention the fact that she could be doing post mates for any number of reasons - to save more quickly for a home etc).

[@Ohhitoi]

I was thinking the same thing. I didn’t expect them to say anything like that.

[@Kenesha_]

Dem the rules is back!! Great episode guys as always! 👌🏾

[@6figuregainz856]

No one opinion matters lol only the people in the relationship

[@Erica-cf1xb]

As it should be.

[@WhoIsTheeMeister]

The majority of relationship therapists and counselors are single..let that sink in…

[@randyvixamar3072]

. Dem the rules segment is back 👌🏾. I agree if you’re single not trying to be apart of a relationship you shouldn’t give advice unless you want to try too. You should speak about things or give advice that you live your life by. Great episode 💯🥃

[@WhenSaraiSpeaksUListen]

Great episode. This is why as a currently single person, outside of certain things such as respect, etc, I keep my mouth shut when it comes to folks relationships lol.

[@keyarraali6517]

Why do married people come for single people so hard?

[@a_anita_p]

The relationship status of a person doesn't mean anything. Whether someone is mentally, emotionally, and physically healthy is the only thing that matters when communicating. Y'all definitely missed the mark on this episode.

[@lookandfeelgorgeous]

The overall concept is we were all single at some point and once we get into a relationship, perspectives change. The ones who are single, still have the same mindset that is all about them. While in a relationship, you have to consider the other person. I stopped seeking advice about dating and relationships from single women because there’s too much hypocrisy. They advise what you should do, but wouldn’t do the same in their situation. If someone was in a long term relationship/marriage, but now single and healed, they might be a good source of advice. Basically use single advice for what not to do 😂💯

[@TereseFields]

Wisdom is wisdom…Ive seen both sides and know single people who honor God and family and married people with just the title and no honor. This would also imply that all the knowledge Jalon was giving while single was invalid.

[@mzohmeohmy25]

Loved the convo and insight to situations presented

[@jasminekatyce]

I don’t know Jalon, I typically love your opinions and values but were they not valid until just recently when you put a ring on Brittany’s finger? 🤔 Be wise counsel and a resource for possibly giving other men clarity to knowing it’s possible to find their wives. It just starts with inner work. I know things get black & white when you find your person. But as you all agree the dating world can be treacherous, so yes he may aspire to be where you are but don’t discount his opinion for not being there yet.

[@melaninbeaute6968]

Idk…wasn’t Jalon single amongst y’all 3. He gave good, sound advice. I don’t agree AT ALL….

[@Mona_G34]

I think he was just speaking for his self and the people he was around. He could have worded it differently. But he is one of those people who is very wise

[@LindseyDean-hp7qg]

It's usually those who are in so-called relationships that are the most vocal and annoying! Always trying to get in the business of happily single people.

[@dolaposarumi3216]

LOOOOL this has to be one of the funniest episodes. Dem the rules scenarios 😂😂😂

[@eugeniakamau2676]

“That just pure ego huh..? O’s face 😂 soo funny

[@ssmith1473]

That's why I don't take advice from people that have not achieved what I want to achieve.

[@Kingme1love]

This one was very Raw and necessary ❤

[@soleneptune9498]

I love hearing these convos

[@instrinsiclove]

This episode had so many good chuckles! I was cracking up.

[@beatricecharles1370]

I normally enjoy this podcast but this sounds very ignorant. So single people couldn’t possibly be intelligent when it comes to relationships? Jalon, I used to enjoy your opinions the most when you were single. A wack person will be wack whether they are single or not.

[@heyerikan]

We need the whistle, half time show, PLUS, Dem the Rules haha

[@lordgully5951]

Yo DEM THE RULES 🔥 😂!! But Y’all Forgot to Close The Round! Lol I was waiting for Duke to Be Like “And DEM…” lmao O tried to pass it off a Few Times!!! Lmaoo Awesome Episode Kings 🎉

[@dken1149]

Great convo 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@DestinationDionna]

Come on now fellas put it out there….its time for those brand deals!

[@bonjouritsabi]

If you really believed that first statement was true jalon that means that’s every piece of advice you’ve given on this show before 2 years ago was invalid and didn’t matter because you were single. And that’s not true.Like many other people are saying. It’s about the intention and the action and in said single persons life. You could have your head screwed on straight and still be single and you can be married and have a life full of chaos and destruction.

[@lillianogugua]

Finally dem the rules is back! But y’all forgot to say it all together lol

[@Thegirlwiththejuice]

omfg the post mates example took me out

[@keys8885]

Your woman or your man saying a random guy or girl is cute or handsome just can’t be innocent

[@_foreverbobo]

First off yall funny ! as a single lady i really do be listening to what yall be saying. Secondly, granted it do be a good lil ki’ki but don’t be job shaming people 😂 !

[@albertontanda5413]

Inspite of what occupation someone you were involved with is doing, Jalon and my brothers you shouldn’t be dismissive about their hustle bc they’re just trying to do push through and work hard. You shoulda kept that same energy when you were tryna get some 🐱 from them or spend time with them. So i wasn’t feeling Jalon’s response about the postmastes Dem the rules. There are finer women out here tryna feed their families. Peace and love

[@danmeck5978]

My friend has been married for 16 years. Her marriage is a mess. I will not be taking advice from her.😂

[@ShondraRenae]

😂 you guys just 5 minutes before said how you don’t like to lie etc and then postmates vs Super Bowl singer comes up and you all just crumble. Damn 😂😂

[@hgfw9295]

Yea. All comes down to we are what we do and not what we say we want. The wan who jugles a few women is not commitment minded. Simply

[@marybutidk]

6:44 BOOM!!

[@soniaevans1]

Why are people defending single advice for couples? There are many married counsellors and dating mentors so why are we focusing on singles for married people? If you need a doctor, vet, electrician, plumber, etc, who do you go too? This should not be offensive to singles. There’s a lot more being said here!

[@Corinaab]

THIS PART IN ITS ENTIRETY 💯💯💯

[@Corinaab]

I’m single + didn’t get offended. However everyone is speaking from a different heart posture so it doesn’t matter. Love these convos!!!!

[@ghostgore2.0]

Very true there’s people that say you shouldn’t be married and you should cheat on your wife but they always come from single parent households so I don’t even take dudes from single parent household serious. Most men want their women to be their moms. most men that like to be “husband sons” to their mom but dog out their women like that didn’t happen to their mom in the first place. Who’s Andrew’s tate wife to be talking crazy who’s fresh n fit wife to be talking crazy none of these guys have proof of women consistently staying in their life. But i get the issues with marriage because of the laws…. A perfect marriage is a marriage that no side has the advantage to leave and get benefited more. That way you can authentically grow together.

[@ghostgore2.0]

But wait there’s a huge elephant in the room with you guys because you guys are former professional athletes with status….dating will never be difficult for you guys at all.

[@soniaevans1]

Can singles gain in-depth advice from married couples in long term relationships, taking into consideration that times in the dating world significantly changed? Married couples aren’t offended

[@koriami18]

I’m stealing who you calling a Habitch 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@AngelaElikya]

Single or married your advice don't matter !😂 people will do what they want. Some married people are trash at being married even if they have longevity in their marriage

[@senseidej]

26:53 big guy is so lost oh lord

[@lasonyabass4424]

Stephan Speaks is “single”

[@TycoonToyo]

oh thats not…

[@LaChaleur]

Thanks for reminding me why i unsubscribed. It’s still a contradiction.

[@heyyou8885]

Im sorry, this is a very odd, illogical take. Jalon, was all your advice over the years not valid because you were single? Bad advice can come from anyone. You must use discernment with all advice, as bad advice can come from just about anyone. Yes, some single individuals give terrible advice because they're selfish. But we also must keep in mind that not everyone in a relationship is in a healthy one. Therefore simply taking advice from a couple, simply for the fact that they're a couple, isn't wise.

[@jazzyj904]

TBH, when Duke posted in his stories a while back about the mixer and said something along the lines of “if you’re tired of masculine women come to our event”. It was THAT day that I looked at you guys a little differently and it’s a little sad. You guys have almost done a complete 360. A lot of your content as of lately has been turning into the podcasts that we can’t stand. Within the past few episodes and actually for a while you guys have misconstrued situations to give your opinion without even understanding the situation itself because it’s not coming from a woman’s perspective. You guys barely respond to the comments anymore because they look the way they do. Single People have learned lessons in their relationship relationships that they can share with their friends. It’s valuable if it can be used positively. You guys need episodes where y’all just talk about men and what they do to women because if you’re having conversations with them, if you’ve been and if you have healthy relationship relationships with your women who can tell you what has been happening, y’all have enough content to do something with that I’m sure.

[@NiceAndNeatThePodcast]

Are we watching the same the show???

[@missdrea_marie]

SINGLE PEOPLE OPINION DOES MATTER FOH.

[@AngelaElikya]

It matter only if you want it to matter

[@JazeeJ]

Most single people have been in relationships. 🤔 Sooooooo

[@soniaevans1]

Help me understand, these three black men are talking about men being faithful and commit to one woman etc, and some women can only hear them say they want advice from married people. Seriously? Then we wonder why relationships don’t work, listen to hear not to respond

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