Why Some People Struggle to Get Over Infidelity

[@busterknott4168]

This description of someone who has difficulty overcoming betrayal describes me in a nutshell. Listening to you describe this was almost eerie.

[@lucdrouin4653]

Betrayal trauma is trauma, the real deal. It injures you. The way I explain it to people: you see in films people reacting on being cheated by their spouse; take the hurt you see on film, multiply it by ten and that is about how it feels. The pain then lingers for a lifetime. For me, it has been 16 years since “the incident”; I moved on, but it always is hurting. And it tints every prospective relationship. There are no escapes that I know of; I have to live with it.

[@MaryJoRapini]

I am so sorry but yes you describe it well!

[@ElimEx1]

Have you tried counseling, EMDR or Ayahuasca? After 16 years, you should not be hurting anymore. You're stuck.

[@lucdrouin4653]

@ElimEx1 Thanks! Yes, I have seen a psychologist for a while. He helped me deal with anger and self-worth issues, so it is less hurting now. I now have to deal with sadness and revenge desire. You may be on to something; I think I will go back to see him. Thank you and Merry Christmas!

[@DavidKuhn-q1i]

I love your no-nonsense delivery and approach plus you're easy to look at and listen to.

[@MaryJoRapini]

Thank you, David. I do the best I can to be honest and frank.

[@viiiRA_]

I'm curious what the argument for why infidelity _should_ be forgiven? (Especially when no children are involved) I'll address that I don't have a big problem doing the work for healing from that trauma however, I'll leave someone who cheated with no return. It's not difficult to be faithful.

[@janinejansevanvuuren7954]

The forgiveness is to release yourself from the rage of betrayal. It doesn't mean you have to stay in the relationship though. You do it for yourself to be able to move forward and not steal your future as well as your past which has already been stolen by the betrayal. Been there and it took me 10 years to move on. I regret that I gave the betrayer another 10 years of my life in addition to the 10 years lost on the marriage. If I could do it over I would have left on day one and have forgiven so that I could move forward.

[@RN_BSN_PHN]

There should is no argument. They're fired

[@RaychelBowles-m1v]

Your makeup is always so on point you wear beautiful colors that very well suit you. It’s a beautiful break for us while we’re going through this hell on earth

[@MaryJoRapini]

Awwww, thank you, this means a lot to me❤️

[@louismorejohn586]

@@MaryJoRapini You don't need any makeup MaryJo. You're the real deal au naturel.

[@louismorejohn586]

@@MaryJoRapini BTW, I'm the guy you just described. I wish you were wrong about me. I'd be okay.

[@jimobrien6903]

Your posts are just gold. My wife cheated on me and I deal with a lot of PTSD from it. What you say describes me to a T.

[@anewlifestirring]

Reliance on partners can shrink progressively, without a struggle to restore confidence. Emotional betrayal and infidelity are only part of mistrust issues.

[@rjdavis7503]

You have pretty eyes Mary.

[@ShaunyP26]

It's so telling that the picture is a man.

[@dedclownsRfunny]

Mary Jo I think you’re really missing the many situations outside the common. Some of us actually do deeply care about their AP. We began with a strong friendship though

[@andynorton5830]

Cheating is cheating and a dismissal of your partners trust

[@MMMM-mm1rl]

Cheaters are scum & o ly care about themselves. They don't care about AP, they care about how the AP makes them feel about themselves