Why they pulled away (and lost interest) - Susan Winter

[@k.w.1459]

I read this today and thought I’d share. Might not directly relate to this topic but surely others Susan has touched upon “In my experience, the nicest thing someone who’s not interested in you can do is ignore you. Give me a few weeks of silence and a couple unanswered texts, and I’ll get the hint, I’ll move on, I’ll probably even remember you fondly. What I can’t handle is being turned into your yo-yo. We’ve all fallen for that person who isn’t interested, but will do the bare minimum to keep you from getting over them, just for the sake of their ego. “

[@saraloug23]

Wow....this rings so true.

[@saraloug23]

@@faceofglam me too!

[@LucySoo1]

Surely the nicest thing someone can do if they’re not interested, is just to tell you straight up and not waste any more of your time

[@l-am4606]

Thank you 😊 super helpful after being ghosted

[@beecat9951]

I disagree. Being ignored sucks. It's rude. The kindest thing they can do is tell you gently, honestly and with respect. Then you can really move on and without feeling disrespected, confused or too hurt.

[@DonnyDaison]

Isn't in most cases when we don't value ourselves than wouldn't we just attract a narcissist who acts in that way anyways with all people? I think if someone doesn't appreciate your time they should be let go of. Someone who just eventually gets bored because you are "available", is pretty immature.

[@robertcollins5307]

Well said :)

[@SpaceCadet4Jesus]

Exactly right. Someone who's bored of you or think nothing of you because you make yourself available isn't the kind of person you want to be dating anyway those people will eventually find something to disrespect you about.

[@beecat9951]

Thanks for this lightbulb moment comment, I appreciate it.

[@cloudyday1617]

"People devalue you when you devalue yourself." Thank you Susan, this is the most valuable teaching and I'll always remember this phrase.

[@user-msjazzy]

And most of the time they were never that interested from jump!

[@Ponderosa518]

This makes sense in the context of my ex. He treated himself like shit and flagellated for me, and I got so tired of him so fast once it started.

[@pam164]

This was me in my last relationship i bent over backwards for him to see him! Never again will i do this.

[@mmarnaldkhan7370]

hello karen how are you

[@SusanWinter]

It's a hard lesson, to be sure. But once we get it, we get it!

[@idunno512]

Karen H dont make another guy suffer because of your Ex.

[@hardtopart3346]

Guys make those mistakes too.. I remember going 70km to hold her for 30min.. and she refused to see me so many times

[@caroldixon8699]

Ladies if a guy no matter what he tells you if he asks for money GET OUT NOW

[@d_nuevo4246]

I don't respect a man (boy) who can't carry his own weight.

[@grikmyr]

Great advice

[@khawajamazhar9188]

YOU TOO GUYS!

[@grikmyr]

@@khawajamazhar9188 for sure, I'm a guy and I find Susan Winter's advice/ KZbin channel to be incredibly informative, insightful and incredibly helpful.. Although a lot of the advice is directed towards women, I have equally benefitted from it and think both women and men would greatly benefit from info like this too..

[@anthonymcmorris192]

Tne same advice would apply to men as well

[@lisawalter2311]

Oh Susan. You're so right. This is exactly what caused the demise of my last relationship. I look back and see those incremental shifts; me giving in to every whim of his. A lesson learned.

[@neilpradhan1312]

Old times : No mobile phones, No internet. Going on dates once a week, no way of communicating each other. People complaining no way of communication, and therefore frustrated not knowing if their date is really into them or not. Modern times: people are just a click away. Can communicate with the date any time of the day but will still resort to deliberate ghosting inorder to attract. People still frustrated not knowing if their date is really into them or not

[@JohnDoe-gq3tm]

I agree. However if someone exploits you being overly accommodating then they're a jerk! Just because someone can take advantage of you doesn't mean they should! Don't blame yourself for someone else stringing you along. Hold them accountable and move on to someone who appreciates your efforts. Whether they show their appreciation by reciprocating or clearly and kindly moving on so you can do the same! Love your videos Susan =)

[@annieevansrealty8577]

John Doe in other words, take responsibility for yourself and remove yourself if they don’t change. No they shouldn’t take advantage, but many do and just do not get it. If they are not making changes with you, time to move on.

[@JohnDoe-gq3tm]

@@annieevansrealty8577 Absolutely! I've been overly naive in the past but I've learned from it. When someone shows you who they are, believe them - The first time =)

[@kme3894]

thank you for saying this. It is the bottom line of all these games that unresolved people play: ultimately, it is their responsibility for being jerks. The right person will appreciate you and give you the benefit of the doubt whenever you might be “too” kind or not accommodating enough. Two healthy people find a way to meet halfway, always

[@JohnDoe-gq3tm]

@@kme3894 Exactly!

[@gillesbelanger1090]

They also lose interest when they realise we are struggling to succeed in life.

[@moonbysa]

Gilles Belanger true! Everyone loves you when you’re healthy and wealthy. But anyway, at least you knows who is real...A real advantage.

[@joec1212]

The problem is many people will act harshly when you try to go after your goals, but then also devalue you because you're not successful enough. It's all a learning process to get you to the right person.

[@adventureleopards]

Yes, Yes

[@alfiemarie]

I really get sad when she says Susan Winter from susanwinter . net because it means the video is ending and i just wanna hear her talk and talk and listen to her wisom and advice! Hehe

[@SusanWinter]

OH ALFIE!! I LOVE READING THIS COMMENT. Thank you!

[@xSkyLa]

I’m here now.

[@hepi_hepi]

It's exactly how I feel too. I feel sad when the video about to end. So every time I watch her videos I don't take my eyes and ears off of her even for a second. And I watch each of her videos more than once. At least 3-4 time each video. After few months I come back to watch her old videos.

[@MadawaskaObservatory]

Hi Susan. You're so right. More broadly speaking this applies to all relationships, no matter the nature. As in everything there needs to be a balance.

[@rockylion4382]

You’re videos always come at the right time and stage of where I’m at in life. You’re awesome. Much love

[@SusanWinter]

Rocky, I'm always thrilled when that happens

[@d_nuevo4246]

That is sooo true. She was like fire when it came to attention & intimacy but when I bought a house for us & relocated she started to pull away. I started to realize it when I did things for her & her kids. I woke up one Saturday morning feeling alive & asked her to leave. She then started chasing me but the love I feel for myself is stronger then what I felt for her. Her lost not mine.

[@ingood0867]

When ever I started saying no, they pulled away. Good😁

[@MrJaiscy]

I’ve been doing this for a long time when someone is not ready for a relationship. Making myself available and agreeable Not knowing till now that I was devaluating myself but Thank you for this so I can correct this

[@jillainenewman1358]

It's also possible to lose interest in someone as you get to know them better and realize you're not compatible. It doesn't always indicate something toxic.

[@robertcollins5307]

Law of attraction, we get what we put out into the universe, ie walking away from a toxic relationships, shows the unerverse what you dont want ! And allows space for the right person to come along! Your videos always come exasacly at the right time too Susan! Which i beleave is the unerverse has your back ! Great advice as always !

[@RossafellA1984]

I had this problem back in January. I kept asking her what the problem was and she told me everything was fine. I would try to set up dates and she would either flake last minute or just act like she didn't want to see me anymore. The hardest thing I had to do is breakup with her and get myself right. I really liked her and didn't want to do it. I felt like she wanted it to be over but wasn't willing to pull the trigger. I learned so much from this relationship but at times wonder if I could have waited it out and try to get myself right. Just didn't want to be cheated on or dumped. She didn't give me a lot to go off of.

[@RossafellA1984]

@Alice Beall Thank you so much for your response. This really meant a lot to me and I don't have the words to express my gratitude.

[@joec1212]

@@RossafellA1984 you're right your ex had low interest and was probably trying to let you down easy. This may be the brutal truth, but if someone values and wants you in their life they will climb over barbed wire fences to be with you. It's okay it happens to most of us. Theres many reasons why they lose interest. You made the right decision by moving on. Many people just wait until its miserable and the other partner has to do the deed. Someone better suited to you will come along.

[@grace_alone_toward_repentance]

You made some very good points here. This really resonates with me, because it's just so silly, and such a waste of time to try to get somebody to like me. There's no point in trying to get a woman to like me, and likewise, she should not try anything to get me to like her. We need to just be ourselves, and relaxed. I am 37, so I'm honest, and straight-forward. I'm pushing 40, and don't date around. I never did do that, actually. It's much healthier to choose one partner I like, and tell that person I like them and I want to date them. If I'm rejected, then I deal with it, and move on. Rejection happens to us all. That being said, it also allows us to develop character. God bless you, Susan. I hope you have a wonderful day. 🙏⛱️⛅

[@julie9155]

I came across Steve Harvey show. A 56 year old lady had a coworker friend 36 interested. Steve made fun of it all i felt sorry for her. She was pretty lady. So tired of the negative comments and judgments from others because of a choice of age gap older women younger men. It strikes a nerve so bad and i pray the Lord allows that opportunity for a long term relationship.

[@marilynnorth4281]

What a lot of "shallow" people can't seem to comprehend is that an attraction can be the meeting of the minds. In fact, the brain is the deepest and most profound sex organ and not just what is "in the pants". An older woman has many positive attributes to offer a younger, very mature minded man who understands how to respect women of any age and can connect on her level. And from this attraction, a foundation of respect is born. Those fortunate to experience this type of love understand the attraction. We are so much more than just a rubber stamp of our age. In fact, what is not said can be more seductive than just putting it all out there. Attraction can occur on many levels, a certain look of the eyes, a sexy smile, body gestures, a certain unmistakable energy. None of this has anything to do with age. When real attraction happens, age takes a back seat and so it should.

[@mrsbobbicisse]

too many to write down. changed plans with family to go with his idea of going with his family, stopped going to work out classes because he wanted to cuddle, etc etc. I didn't take calls during the time I knew he would call. Shameful and embarrassing. We're not together now but he had started pulling back and we had the conversation (he said he didn't know anything was wrong) before we later argued and broke up. Excellent tip

[@k.w.1459]

Barbara, isn’t it funny that when people get what they want with no push back, they don’t ever realize anything was wrong!?

[@eatermckinnon4644]

The break up woulda happened anyways. He was just milking you for what he was wanting.

[@mrsbobbicisse]

@@eatermckinnon4644 was that reply for me? Can someone milk someone and give at the same time?

[@eatermckinnon4644]

@@mrsbobbicisse yes Barbara. It was for you. Of course!! I was able to do it!! lol that person can give and still milk you

[@mercy72528]

I watched your video great advise, this just happened to i started dating this guy who was always honest about what what he wanted! We both enjoyed each other company, had fun together it was casual. He always paid for everything, he would drive down to my area to see me! He always gave me complaints and made me feel like the most prettiest woman on earth! So affectionate with me! The passion i felt when we were together was amazing! Then just like that being at my house one evening the next day texts me that he has no feelings for me and has to stop seeing me!!! I was shocked, blown away! Did not see this coming! Help me understand what happened? Thank You!

[@cloudyday1617]

Man: "What are you doing?" Woman: "Oh..I'm doing nothing..." Susan: "Noooo! You ARE doing something." I get your point, Susan 😄

[@daveneedle9889]

You are the perfect example of why I prefer older women. You are absolutely gorgeous x

[@doradebosco]

How much older? Just curious in general because I have my eye on a younger guy-15-13 yrs younger but am wondering if that's too big an age gap.

[@daveneedle9889]

No not at all! I'm 35. When I was 25 I dated a woman in her early 50s. I'm currently in the early stages of something with a woman who is 55. . . I don't actively ' seek out' older women. I just find their femininity more attuned an powerful I guess. So, go for it 😉

[@robertcollins5307]

I agree dude, older ladys much more attractive, muture usally, and kids grown up,

[@eatermckinnon4644]

@@doradebosco awwww snap. Cougar on the prowl!!

[@grace_alone_toward_repentance]

@@doradebosco Take David's advice. If you are pretty sure the guy likes you, then never be afraid to tell him you like him. You might end up discovering he didn't like you, but at least you tried. I really like an older woman who is 15 years older than me, but I just haven't exactly told her yet. I won't tell her unless I'm confident she's attracted to me before I ask her out. Use your gut instinct. If you're not sure, then feel it out. Good luck!

[@weisthor0815]

that is exactly what ruined my 3 year relationship. i knew it was bad but i did it because she went through a rough time. i though she would appreciate it at some point. well, she didn´t ;-) good advice!

[@dellchica2373]

weisthor0815 wow!! I would have appreciated antthing you did.

[@SusanWinter]

Thank you

[@MA7-6585]

Exactly when I started to fall for him, he morphs... Wtf.

[@_Kash88]

I love this woman.. She's always on point!

[@SusanWinter]

Thank you Ashley

[@judyt.857]

Outstanding advice as always!💜

[@UhHellandDoomIguess]

THANK YOU SUSAN! This was exactly the problem I had in my last relationship where I kept being too agreeable and accommodating, when I should have stuck up for myself. I was so bewildered at why she pulled away but now it makes so much sense now. The self-love you give really reverberates back to you through other people. Thank you for helping me to work on myself.

[@6drk6mrc6]

Did she pull away instantly or gradually?

[@rubas4403]

So good as usual

[@dominiccobb6470]

This is great, thank you Susan. I hope I can use this advice in the future

[@mifasola1]

Even though I was living my life I walked away after I gave our relationship 6 months to produce some expected results and when those results were non existent I broke it off and it absolutely killed me because I loved him.

[@dellchica2373]

mifasola1 awwwwwww😐😐😐

[@ariesariesfearless4810]

As they said be selfish ☺☺☺☺ Focus on your self on your goal and plan I really dont care what other 's opinion or validation anymore

[@ivonnasercuchowa1361]

the book "the rules" is great when you are dating. But like Susan says you can't be always available, don't respond right away, too me its a game. But that's the only (twisted) way to get a guy. But then is this real?

[@stormfalcon72]

Wow! Another great and very pertinent video. Very difficult to learn how to value yourself and act accordingly in a healthy relationship when your early childhood was so dysfunctional. When we approach relationships with all these unmet needs, hey?! Had to watch this video four times in a row.

[@janeol3195]

Thank you , you always boost my self esteem 😌 , I always watch your videos ever since I broke up with my boyfriend , you are totally correct , I left everything for him , my family my religion , paid for tickets and visas twice , thank you so much , keep doing what you are doing ♥️ you are a blessing to us 💖

[@alcudiababe1]

Yeah I remembered in my twenties I stopped going to the gym on a Thursday because I thought I was never seeing him and he was telling me he'd be available. I do see why he did devalue me but I didn't see it as devaluing myself at the time - he didn't have to be so cruel about it ☹️

[@analuisamaia8368]

thank you!!!

[@leepop123]

She left me of broken promises I made it wasn't bad our relationship I was trying to fix my self at the time but I guess she gave up on me I did everything pay the bills took her to work picked her up every thing I put her number one befor me I did made promises but things didn't work out we talked about that the following everything will be financially good then we can make those moves but she wasn't willing to wait so she walked out on me I thought this person loved me? I thought that when you love somebody just stay with you no matter what through the highs and lows I didn't think that the promises that I broke she was going to walk out I didn't think that was going to happen but I guess I didn't met her needs satisfy her goals or whatever it is but I realize that love is not enough after she walked out I realize that you have to bring more into the game into the table for someone to stay with you I guess I'm old school but it happened that person walked out of my life and it was devastating because I always thought that love can conquer all but that's not true it's all a lie women only stay if you bring something to the table loving you unconditionally Florida Lottery I did love this woman unconditionally for she needs to feel the same towards me I guess when it was the low times she wasn't happy she wasn't with it she's not a type of woman that likes to struggle

[@alexsinclair2012]

Unfortunately I made this exact mistake in taking my long distance partner for granted while using verbal abuse, We were each others first real relationship.. And she pulled away out of the blue.. And I broke no contact after 1 week.. The initial loss was the most devastating pain I had ever felt but i'm slowly recovering.. I learned allot from her, And I no longer hold a blinding hate towards _all_ women..

[@lilswagboys]

Alex Sinclair get a realationship thats not distance

[@the_magic_shop_013]

Susan love u lady u made my life easy and i regain my self respect and realised what was i doing with myself..thanks a lot

[@sebsebseb1905]

I just want to comment and get reactions from you guys. Why on earth would you want someone who is only interested in giving you test after test, while you are sure of yourself and know very well what you want and the other person just needs a confirmation you're not perfect?

[@joec1212]

I think typically the tests domt start until you've already formed an attachment to someone. It takes time, and experience to get better at letting go of someone you love. Also it's like a fight. You can know all the right moves and things change when you get hit in the mouth. Things change when you fall in love and you sometimes revert back on old habits.

[@felixthecat4584]

I wish I had learned this in my 20's instead of at almost 40... Now I sit here heartbroken with no self-esteem by simply trying to be a "good boyfriend" to her. I only pray that I haven't lost my shot at being happy with a partner. Because it seems like that and I'm running out of time and looking at extreme options.

[@pmdal]

Me 46

[@alphasierra9059]

I feel like I'm talking with a well seasoned sister when I hear you talking. So loving, nurturing and educated 🥰💕💋

[@flipsidetruly1669]

This is my favourite video of yours so far. Thank you so much for the value you bring and your important, positive messages! It's like a breath of fresh air

[@saraloug23]

I love your videos. Going through a slow fade right now. Your words give me strength to change the path I’m on.

[@thehealthbodyfitness]

Yup she I try do everything for her an she said she appreciates everything I did but she didn't care at all

[@ahday5963]

Ty Susan, was thinking to contact in NC time but after I listen to this i think the motivation it’s base on fear to lose him... but totally right to be aware to value yourself

[@jamishepard98]

Wonderful advice, Susan! People pleasing is not an asset when you lose yourself.

[@juliettesleeve1555]

Susan sometimes it's to late When they start to value you Your the one to lost interest How I feel about this Your advise is wonderful if you do want continue the relationship trying different way is so true thanks

[@indigoblue4791]

So true, Women need to take back their agency and make positive choices for their own benefit. If there isn't mural respect in an emotionally and practical balanced relationship Women will never be loved, valued and appreciated for her true worth!!! So heartbreaking 💔 because these Women should be choosing and behaving in a personally positive way, and most importantly Fearlessly!!!😊✨🌟🌟🌟

[@adasanti7312]

Hi Susan, Happy New Year! I don’t know if this happens to anyone else but my ex who still contacts me, unnecessarily mentions his new girlfriend to me. I know they have been dating and I know he usually is away traveling but when it is time for holidays he texts me and all and asks what my plans are and at the end or In the middle suddenly says Jane (for example) will get mad if I don’t take care of myself. I found it silly and didn’t reply. But wondering what that means. Because every time I mentioned a new relationship to him he was like “he doesn’t deserve you” or “are you sure he is not married?” (He wasn’t!! I always make sure!). It is just surprising someone who gets mad even when I go to the movies drops tactless hints about a relationship. Thank you Susan.

[@moonbysa]

That’s the one! No one will value you more than you value yourself. Thanks Susan.

[@ellenvd5543]

Thanks again for sharing Susan....much appreciated! (P.s. your flowers stay well in the background.....I love flowers and i photograph and paint them a lot, thats why i noticed)

[@SusanWinter]

Ellen, they're silk. Thank you. I go back and forth between two homes so I can't have real plants in the house. Wish I could because I love them so.

[@ellenvd5543]

@@SusanWinter They look so beautiful….i thought they always had the same kind of water in the vase…...Thanks for answering, maybe one day i am going to paint them! (I dont react much on your videos, but you have a lot of wisdom, and I learned from them! Thanks again for sharing!)

[@bjewel3751]

Susan, thank you for your invaluable advice and sharing it with the world! You radiate such authenticity, wisdom and charisma👌🏼

[@SusanWinter]

Huge hug!!!!

[@yaffaNC-17]

God I love this woman!! Recently discovered her. Wish I stumbled upon her years ago!! She is right about all of it without the extra fluff!

[@TheLoveChat]

Wonderful coach & content.

[@fifibeal9745]

I walked away from my partner who he and his family have treated me as a door mat. He came back requesting for a reset at his conditions. I told him I would not agree with his request because I love myself, respect myself, and complete myself. That’s self-empowerment!

[@zsofiavera4118]

So, so helpful. A timely reminder 🙏🏽

[@RD-hd6wd]

This was a real slap to the face for me 🙂. I sacrificed a lot of my time for 3 months and had to come up with lies to my friends for her. I need to take a step back now. Thanks Susan! I hope you continue to put videos with similar topic to this one.

[@shanemchavez]

This is a pardadox. Ive been on both sides. Humans are complex.

[@megzzzz1077]

Normally, I’d be watching and looking for answers to my own issues, today, I’m watching to see if your answer is the same as mine, as I’m the one who has lost interest in the one I thought my entire life had led me to. (Commented before watching) hoping there’s a way to get past this before making the final decision to leave.

[@crockett_lee6605]

Thanks! your videos have helped me so much.

[@sterneprinzessin]

Amazing insight Susan! I wish I had realized this before... now he lost interest already and wants to be just friends.

[@maddysunshine4173]

I guess at any cost they would have abandoned us

[@caroldixon8699]

He pulled away because he was a scammer and I stopped feeding him money

[@adamkolm6711]

Can you please answer a question? I ran into an older woman I have ran into for years over 20. She has always been very sweet. She knew it's been 10 years. She has a prosthetic leg. She says she's 62 now. She said yes excitedly yes about a ☕️. Now she's totally not interested. She seemed to always laugh be nice excited have a spark in her eyes. Now she always says she's not interested and she's sure my intentions are good. She's almost even ghosted me at times. I told her I loved her after all these years.

[@MelissaGarza]

Right on time!!

[@999Patriots]

How to keep him from pulling away. Stun gun, leather restraints, 10mg Haldol, 2mg ativan, 50mg benadryl. Ketamine 5mg/kg IM.

[@melgreen5927]

Wow. I just found you. This is perfect for me today. Bullseye

[@LRF49]

This is why I hate relationships. Trying to be balanced with people with varying personalities is impossible. Best thing to do, is to just date different people. It will save the heart ache.

[@SR77736]

Agreed.

[@silvershadow7655]

that's exhausting and not sustainable as you age.

[@oceansoflorewi]

So be arrogant selfish vapid and disinterested...oof.

[@syarh]

you are my favorite love /life coach! love the way you talk, confidence, knowledge and wisdom. and your points and advices are so on point! please keep inspiring Susan

[@SusanWinter]

I'm grateful to hear this

[@Pacifica74]

Constantly have to alter our behaviors to achieve a desired result.

[@rayjulian8044]

Brilliant advice. This is very valuable information for all to learn.

[@SusanWinter]

Thanks Ray

[@erzs.bathory]

I found this channel waaay too late in my life. Thank you

[@p.mccarthy-sher2691]

You are spot on.

[@davidperry4972]

they are the ones that have gotten uninteresting and we get the blame

[@rosemallia5252]

Thank you, great topic.

[@carolb3869]

You can’t lose the right person 💙

[@celalove4631]

Thank you Susan for the wonderful advice. but I do have a question What if you been praying and trying to manifest a rekindle ment with your ex and they call you sporadically every so often to see how you're doing and maybe hang out to go eat how do you know when to turn down an invitation so you dont look desperate and needy like (waiting around) or how do I know if it's an answer to a prayer? And that one invite might be a start of a new romance? Any advice will help😍

[@SusanWinter]

pray for a partner who wants what you want, and wants it with you. Ask your higher self and your higher power to ONLY bring someone into contact with you if they want these things. Also, tell your ex what you want. YOU'RE THE ONE WHO NEEDS TO create boundaries in the real world by stating you only want a loving, commited partnership. Not a friendship

[@celalove4631]

@@SusanWinter Thank you so much.. That advice was so much appreciated and very good. Have a blessed day 🌻❤

[@aussiehillbilly]

Im so tempted to see u for the day. I think i would gain so much. Your a long way away. So i have to factor that in. Hello from sydney Australia

[@SusanWinter]

Hi Aussie. Yes, it's a long way for an in-person. I have an option for A Day With Susan done via Skype. That would work.

[@aussiehillbilly]

@@SusanWinter i went to Denver to watch an ice hockey game and escape Sydney heatwaves .a couple months ago. I need a good excuse to visit new york lol

[@MohamedMego01]

i know the video is not about this topic but i did ghost my crush after talking to her for 4 months i really liked her but she was acting hot and cold not all the times though only when i go to deep in the conversation *she only changes the subject*, and she talks to other guy who also has crush on her. on the day i confessed to her my feelings while i was saying it the other guy called her on phone she didn't pick up so i switched the conversation about him and if their is any feelings towards him and how she sees him, she said he is good guy and can handle responsibility and she may or mayn't like him too even though i am sure she has something for me too, she added to it that the concept of being in a real relationship with him or me is something she cant make dissection about it now. So i saw that she is only playing games and not looking for a real relationship. after 2 days i talked to her and told her that we are only friends and i wish the best for her but she said lets be friends for now and see what will happen in the future. so after that i really felt she is just playing so i ghosted her after 2 days cause i really loved her to the point that i wait for her to be online and wait for her to be offline so i thought that to move on from this i needed to ghost her so am i in the wrong here or no plz need an answer :/

[@PricelessBinkey1337]

Im begininning to hate all this

[@monsun3365]

I did that... she just left... blocked me, broke up the engagement... she was resenting me that she had to do the traveling, because i couldnt because of my visa... I adapted... the worst thing she did is make me feel guilty for wanting her attention more... we went from talking every day for six hours, to seeing each other 24/7 for two months and as soon as she good the company... she didnt want me anymore, when i call at night cuz i miss her, she doesnt want to pick up .... when she calls i leave everything and she is ok... thats what you do, you make compromises. when she wants to watch a movie we do, when i want she doesnt, when she wants to talk we can when i want to she doesnt have time.... i was supposed to leave my whole family and country to move half way across the world to be with her... and she dumps me and blocks me like i never existed.... add to that, 'i will never block you' love you, talk tomorrow.... etc.... now she doesnt even want to pick up her stuff that i sent her.... you are telling me that its normal to brake up an engagement and the intensity after nine months out of the blue for nothing.... like behave like i never existed....

[@BritBrat444]

I love Susan

[@urvashisingh2135]

You are so beautiful. 😗❤️

[@hediakonstanz8263]

I really enjoj watching your videos. It helps me a lot. You refresh my mind and are like an mother or sister to me. I love you. Dont stop being yourself

[@kimnoblesouthwestfloridare7503]

I dumped the man I loved because he couldn’t commit 6 months ago. He has been trying to get my attention for months. I won’t take the bait. Then last week I caught him riding his bicycle past my house and he lives 10 miles away (he does distance rides for exercise). I love him but don’t want a relationship on his terms. I have no idea what to do.

[@kimnoblesouthwestfloridare7503]

You can't leave this empty Sounds like you’re better off without him. I’m sorry you experienced the heartache after being strong for 9 months.

[@iss3669]

Kim Noble, Southwest Florida REALTOR tell him show him your terms. Tell him to meet you half way

[@SusanWinter]

KIm. Write out exactly what you need. Be able to tell him. If you do love him, those are your terms

[@kimnoblesouthwestfloridare7503]

Susan Winter Thank you for excellent advice, as always. He responds well when I put things gently and in letter form so he can think about things without having to react immediately. This is hard for both of us who have deep abandonment issues. We are each other’s mirror.

[@chrissyw.7500]

Yes! You described my last relationship to a T. Thank you for the clarity. By the time I realized I had sacrificed too much for him and started setting gentle boundries it was too late and he had slready fell out of love with me. Boundries are VITAL in the very beginning!

[@cleopetra87]

That's me atm 😢😢😢

[@sarahbeth7440]

you are a very intelligent woman. Ive been watching other channels for the past several months but after just watching one of your videos, i wish I found you sooner. Thank you for sharing💜

[@anitakleinhans8047]

Hi dear Susan, I'm great fan of your videos you give so much of courage to come out of my closed box, all my life I was afraid to except dating younger man, the worse part of it only younger man interested in me, but I haven't found one who really can turn my world around, would you please help me to find a date for me? , pls pls pls Susan

[@marionb8114]

I have been married for 17 yrs and have started putting myself first and saying ‘no, you can do that’ but he is very angry about it.

[@kathleenwharton2139]

You Need to Respect yourself and your rights. I have been Too much..a people pleaser!

[@wawawswfc4957]

They'd be no chance I'd pull away from you ....excellent as per usual

[@gildastigliano7936]

great advice and way to, in retrospect, how I messed up my relationships> hope I get a new one someday and try better.

[@RogueA100]

Excellent advice and well stated! Thank you, thank you! I have fallen into this trap a number of times. It's my fault because I didn't see the dangers of this and the perception it gave. I plan to make these changes moving forward.

[@kimmydichoso5643]

I absolutely love susan .. she is compassionate, she is to the point but also consider peoples feelings when she tells it like it is ... she see the perspective from a dudes POV as well as woman ... Susan is great in telling people how to deal with certain scenarios and encourages you to love and value yourself x x an absolute legend xxx

[@nicole.gallardo]

I’ve been trying to contact thru magnifi to no avail. Any tip to get thru???