Why you NEED to know what your fearbrain is and how it works

[@mielenalkemiaa]

I haven't ever come across someone, who has put words to my experience as vividly as you are. So similiar. More people should be aware of attachement styles. Wish I would have found you few years ago. I also suggest book called The Passion Trap to anyone struggling with these topics. All the love.

[@thfred123]

It’s actually mental how relatable this is. Legit in shock, I thought there was something wrong with me. Huge changes happening in my life and I thought it was all down to my relationship to why I was feeling anxious but it isn’t. Got a long way to go but this was an amazing first step.

[@jaredvaughan1665]

"Perfect love casts out fear." --1 John 4:18

[@kmbrlia]

Yes, this actually all made sense! I felt like I hit a brick wall but I am glad to know that I need to just keep digging and try to become more secure. Good video, thank you 💕

[@SOGSouljah]

Beautiful hair 😍

[@kimberleepike6482]

When people talk about the anyone who showed them the light in the darkness or opened their eyes to something life changing, I want you to know that this is the video and todays day. You don't realize that talking about the hard subjects are the ones that pull the emotions to the front and are actually the most important. All the emotions that we are not "allowed to feel" from the attachment style are pulled forward and the desire to heal in mind are forefront. Then, I started stretching my body. I am in pain everyday and just turned and stood up like a normal person without having to stop. There is something here I cant put into words. Are their any studies like you do the healing process and work on the body, like a rehabilitating physical part ad well? I wish I knew what was going on in my brain but it seems I made a connection. Thank you.❤❤❤

[@MyNoNameChannel2012]

This is 200% my brain! Especially for the 10 days before my period EVERY month :( .

[@paulientimmer-healingthefe9870]

Yes, hormones have such a big impact on it. I made a video on that, it will be coming out somewhere in the next coming weeks!

[@MyNoNameChannel2012]

@@paulientimmer-healingthefe9870 This will be very useful for so many of us! Thank you!

[@purplefenix2946]

The toughts are so violent

[@nikstar1313]

I am on a mission to finally heal this fa atchmt, thank you so much for your work. I’m not going to rush the process though, I’ve been doing the EFT like you suggested about what about if I am not in control? ... and it’s ok to not need to be in control as I won’t die.. I feel like my brain is a sophisticated machine like an aircraft but it malfunctions from time to time and just tries to trick me with negative thought patterns from not ever having maintenance.. im only 2 years into weekly therapy after leaving a cult like family at 46.. I hope that makes sense?

[@Stegosarioth]

Just subscribed for the course The video makes so much sense about what I am going through. I feel a bit less broken now.

[@paulientimmer-healingthefe9870]

So happy to have you!

[@v.o.e7051]

Fear brain= Amygdala. The morning jolt of anxiety you feel = too much Cortisol hormone. And yes, these get out of equilibrium in childhood and will be retriggered by life events again and again.

[@paulientimmer-healingthefe9870]

Yes, what you are explaining is the way your body reacts physiologically. The amygdala can send distress signals when it is trying to process negative feelings or emotions, and when you feel anxious, a lot of cortisol is usually released. This doesn't mean that all of this can be simplified into hormones and organs. There is a reason your amygdala is giving the instruction to start releasing stress hormones, and I believe that the fear brain (the part of your brain that is trying to protect you) has a big role in that. That is bigger than just the amygdala. And the reason you have that morning jolt of anxiety is not because there's randomly too much cortisol. The cortisol gets released for a reason. So it doesn't equate one on one. They do get triggered, as you said, by childhood trauma that is resurfacing!

[@TirsaTalks]

damn, so your fearbrain is just looking for a sacrificial lamb, and your relationship is the biggest sacrifice it could think of...

[@paulientimmer-healingthefe9870]

Yes, that is such a good way to put it!

[@Tobi-pb2fk]

yeah just break up to a situationship when a boy ask me if he could come and stay to my house... knew him from long distance and he wanted to come and he let me know he was interested by being tactile, but i feel like we don't really know each other, only saw him two time in real life, it was toooo quick i needed to go slowly and see each other outside first... even if i wanted to see and talk to him, my brain froze and enter an horror story movie in my head and i just said i don't want to see him again but now i feel disalign with what i just said, and feeling regret and frustrated..

[@sohakhier2309]

Can my fearbrain make all the physical attraction that i once had for my partner go away? And if yes how can i overcome it its been really hard for me to find a solution

[@nygurlswag]

She has a video about that specifically

[@sohakhier2309]

@@nygurlswag what's the title please.

[@paulientimmer-healingthefe9870]

kzbin.info/www/bejne/i5TQlGiMhb2AsKc I think Hazel meant this one!

[@alexistokarska9541]

Working towards solution is something I get soooo easily cough up in, especially in my crash state, I have my ROCD back and I'm overthinking my own thoughts thinking that heyyy I'm working on it, I'm trying to find an answer for some really important question and then when I'm finding my way out (I know how kind of because I had different theme of it years back) I'm like what the sh*t have I done I just wasted half a day and pages in my journal on obsessing and ruminating that now feels so pointless because...well it was. Now that page of my journal is triggering me😅

[@whiteoaksroad]

How do you tell the difference between a healthy and unhealthy relationship? How do you know that you feel emotionally unsafe with your partner because of your fear brain/fearful avoidant , or because they are actually unsafe for you?

[@paulientimmer-healingthefe9870]

It's important to be able to recognize true red flags! Like lying, them putting you down, not honoring your boundaries etc. It is hard to distinguish it based on feelings when you have this attachment style.

[@theglowuplab27]

Is it normal to think everyday constantly that maybe I never loved my partner? This is literally my first thought first think I wake up.. but when I’m with him I’m fine

[@krandly8]

I keep trying to find a life partner out of fear brain. I’m 35 and I want a partner but everyone I date is likely a codependent situation and I obsess over whom to write to to seem like I’m making a decision but I want to be relaxed. I want to find love

[@reneegillman4744]

Do you do private sessions?

[@valeweathers]

I look forward to your videos and your online program. Thank you for giving me hope on this beautiful Tuesday.