Wife is Not Affectionate in a Relationship? (Uncover the REAL REASONS Why)

WIFE NOT AFFECTIONATE IN A RELATIONSHIP? UNCOVER THE REAL REASONS WHY
Is your wife not affectionate in the relationship anymore? One of the biggest and most common complaints I get is “my wife is not affectionate enough” or that “my wife is not affectionate or romantic”.
So what does it mean if your wife is not affectionate lately? What should you do if you’re saying that your “wife is not affectionate towards me” or “wife is not affectionate with me”?
Well, stay tuned to the end of this video to uncover the real reasons why your wife is not affectionate anymore.
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[@GeoffreySetiawan]

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[@pezz4933]

"You need to find a way to appeal to their emotions, and not use logic." Right on the head

[@woolzem]

Thanks ❤ and u are right

[@adelinavaltcheva8772]

Wow ! Someone finally to get closer to what is actually happening for women! Adding to this monthly havoc of hormones jumps and downs, causing headaches and other physical symptoms , overwhelming feeling that you need to care for everyone ones else, crying children, physical tiredness, .. I could go on and on. After 30 years of marriage I have been given the words and scientific explanation.

[@Phoenix-lc7jv]

Great points. Intimacy can become a chore. It goes downhill from there. More of “chore” intimacy doesn’t equal a better relationship.

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Yeeeees! 🙌

[@paradigmshiftllc5214]

Very interesting. I’ve never heard this subject discussed from a scientific standpoint.

[@TheMan-qv1bl]

Intimacy is work. Too much work then intimacy doesn’t equate to a better relationship. At that point the relationship goes downhill from there, especially if one of the parties aren’t reciprocating the energy from the other.

[@AnnaSvedberg12]

Very interesting topic Geoffrey, thanks for sharing! Relationships definitely take some work, but worth it.

[@noelgonzalez9549]

I could have used this information two years ago when it came out! But better relate than never! I adore my wife and want her to feel awesome when she's with me.

[@calvinbarnesministries4885]

This was the most informative video I have ever heard on this subject. I went from woe is me to being very optimistic about my marriage. I have been doing everything so wrong. Thanks for all you do.

[@CliffNotesForPets]

Never looked at it this way. Thank you for sharing.

[@BlueInkLetters]

This is very accurate. The whole relationship starts becoming a chore and fake after a while yet you have to pretend for them sounds pretty bad right.

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Hi BlueInkLetters, I teach my clients how to thrive to where they do not have to pretend. But yes to your first point of usually in there is a point if you are not equipped with the right tools and mindsets yes, the relationship begins to feel like a chore.

[@fordnut74]

Thank you so very much! Feels like you made this video about my wife I. Exactly right to a tee. Best part is I can now understand and correct my behaviors.

[@andrewnaum4749]

You explain things in a way that is practical and very informative and useful.

[@trentpotter1889]

I love how men literally have to jump through hoops for their wives like a circus animal in order to have a need met. My wife and I haven’t had sex in over a year. I help with everything around the house, I help take our kids to practices and games, I try to be intimate with my wife without mentioning anything about sex (ie just cuddling, hugs, volunteering to give her massages after a rough day…), I ask her on weekly date nights, I leave her sweet notes every now ans then before I leave for work…, and not one time in over a year have I even asked for or mentioned anything about sex. Still…nothing. I’ve been listening to you and many others for over a year, and I’ve learned a lot. It’s not what I’m saying to her or not saying to her that’s the problem. She’ll call me daily while I’m at work just to talk to me, and i love to sit and listen to her and chat. I literally feel like I’m doing everything. Care to talk to the wives out there and perhaps give some suggestions as to what they need to be doing for their husbands??

[@chidoquest8759]

Just so you know you're not alone, you literally just described the relationship with my wife. We've had sex once in the last year, that was nearly a year ago now, and it wasn't good sex. It was chore sex complete with the "are you finished yet?" cherry on top of it. I try to do nice things, be romantic without the expectation of sex, do everything, take care of all the problems, but she's chronically too tired, not in the mood, >, etc., however, she's never too tired to go do stuff with her friends. It's like our marriage has been completely replaced with doing stuff with her friends. We once had an amazing sex life, but after our 2nd child, our daughter was born, things went from 3 - 4 times a week, then down to once a week, then once a month, now were at once a year or none at all. I've tried everything, but nothing has worked. Basically my wife and I are roommates, and honestly I don't think she gets it that this is in anyway wrong, or cares for that matter.

[@Billy-the-Kid]

Just RUNNNN, far far away, She doesn't deserve you.

[@gcforTRUTH]

@@chidoquest8759 gut punch, same here.

[@Orcabracer]

I have no idea how men watch and tolerate their sex life going from 3-4 times a week to once a year if that. I love my wife and it sounds like you guys do too but once a year would be a dealbreaker. Ultimatums would be issued at 6 months and if she couldn’t figure her stuff out by a year I’d be gone. I personally believe that both spouses should want and be wanted by their partner as equally as possible. Most of the time this doesn’t happen but it’s close enough to be content and happy. Once a year though? No. Just no. Have some self respect and find someone who will love you properly.

[@rramanauthor2992]

this may help anyone in this situation. interesting thoughts. thanks for sharing!!

[@astroneil78]

I’m finding this a bit much, dealing with the loss of my mum and family issues at home. I feel like going into my garage, starting up the 2 motorbikes in there and sit in a chair and fall to eternal sleep. Seriously money means nothing to me, I’m about to inherit enough to enable me to retire at the age of 45 but atm I’d rather end it all just beacsuse my wife refuses to give my a hug. Love is more important than money!

[@Billy-the-Kid]

Neil, dump her.

[@HipHop-vg7cd]

Thank you, thank you, THANK YOU!!! I wish every man in the world could hear this bc it is SPOT ON 🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️

[@fernandoaguilar2263]

Thanks, you just gave me the answer to my question. ❤️

[@johnvanek1]

So many can use this! Relationships need work. The best ones work forever.

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Well said! Thank you for tuning in sir!

[@SocialConfidenceMastery]

This is such an important topic Geoffrey!

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Thanks man!

[@conversationofmoney]

This is really good, I think it's easy to forget the emotional side of things and to keep going with logic. Viewing it as science makes so much more sense.

[@christianjorquera1721]

Very interesting, you offer a great perspective, specially about the basic foundation, thanks

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Glad it resonated with yah!

[@SimplyBella32]

Oh my goodness! This is so on point! Over time it has a very negative affect.

[@sihlangubongani5075]

This video is so good and makes me not even both to work on my marriage. It's better to correct my mistakes in the next relationship where I will feel really wanted.

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

This is normally the wrong approach and something good leaders never do. When you learn to become a good leader, you are never quick to walk away.

[@SIESA_SQUAD]

Have you been studying my relationship? It's like you're talking only to me. After a month of watching and following your channel I am really starting to see it clearer. From being in a panic and blind sided to where I am calmer and enjoying working on myself. "The outcome" is affecting me less....I am astonished with the results though. Its almost too good to be true. A long way to go but it's a long way I am excited about. 🙂 Great work you are doing. 👍🏽

[@simonheck5560]

This video taught me so much and really applied to me and my girlfriend

[@pres7178]

Thank you Geoffrey, this was very helpful.

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Hi Pres, You are welcome brother! Happy that this video has been helpful…

[@projectspartanco.6519]

Some great insights ty

[@CynthiaGlickman]

This is really helpful! I sure hope that more people find you! :) 😍

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Thank you Cynthia!

[@dermont5]

Good stuff bro. Thanks

[@darkdanofthesith]

WOW Geoffrey, great advice brother , One question, I'm that guy that am in the cycle of getting frustrated, angry and can't hide my feelings, it's written all over my face and in my body language. I love my partner dearly, We have been together for 28 years, she's the mother of my two sons who are 16 and 19 years old now. She never wanted sex after the boys were born. Now we are becoming sexual again. We were wild when we first meet. There's so many elements that I don't want to write here online. My biggest huddle is my anger. I can't let go of the rejection. Any advice ????

[@quizzyondemand]

This is facts!! Your right!

[@babyn3mo]

This is absolutely truuue!

[@chefkartez]

This was helpful

[@enensis]

Hey have you got a link to the second video I cant find it?

[@dopaminegirl8675]

Best explanation ever ❤

[@ryankittle3431]

Seeing this now, but this info is very relevant to me right now

[@philsrandomstuff2392]

When your wife’s goes though Menopause and tells that she doesn’t want or have any desire for intimacy or sex what do you do?

[@crashedking1931]

Very intelligent kid no trickery here. Thanks for the vid.

[@jauquelarouque187]

I've created a negative subconscious conditioning for her.. :( too much pressure. How can i fix it or heal it??? She feels like it's an obligation. And she's openly told me it doesn't make her feel good when it goes that way.. I'm trying to CHANGE MYSELF.. i feel rejected very easily and PERSONALLY.. but.. I'm changing! Hang in there dudes.

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Here is a great one when we are working to become emotionally bulletproof and working to get rid of that feeling of rejection. kzbin.info/www/bejne/faLFZIZtfNaDl7s

[@Kshipss]

This made me cry! If a guy can understand this then I will be open to relationship. Or I stay forever alone!!! Well said Sir.

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Thank you for your kind words. Appreciate it! What would you say was your most insightful part of the video?

[@Kshipss]

@@GeoffreySetiawan 2:23..(psychological and emotional safety)... And the 4 reason why intimacy dies😁

[@frontlineshopping3802]

Stay alone then!

[@so_cal_mom]

Truth!

[@AprilMoor]

Thank you so much for this video. Very informative and so much scientific evidence. Great job Boss :)

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Thank you for tuning in!

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Thanks for tuning in folks! What did you find most eye-opening in this video? Leave a comment below!

[@garciasmallenginerepair2133]

When it comes to women and sex it's a nightmare. I once heard a therapist say something that changed my life. She said that women make the mistake of waiting for something to happen, for something to happen to get turned on. What they forget is that unlike men who stimulate themselves quickly just by seeing something sexy, women need to take the initiative themselves for their body to work. In other words, the most important organ in sex is the brain. And as often happens, women with so much negativity destroy themselves.

[@keishapuryear8180]

Hmm interesting. I think the psychological threat and emotional safety triggers haven't been in our head although the brain is what processes it. Usually the negative triggers come from the partner's words and behavior. I can have happy sexy thoughts all day in my head but if my husband comes home and says or does something offensive all the wasted happy thoughts go right out the window and we're left with disappointment or resentment.

[@woolzem]

The problem is that we don't think like you. We aren't turned on by "seeing something sexy". I orgasm by remembering something that a man has said or done for me years ago. If I could flip the switch, my God, I would. It would bring me so much more pleasure and release. Unfortunately, I can't. I am wired to seek intimacy and emotional connection. Let me make this clear: this is not a FEMALE thing. I am demisexual which falls under the ace umbrella. But I do love sex... just, only when I'm deeply intimately connected with the person. It's very awkward otherwise. My two cents as a woman

[@millerfamilyfitness84]

That’s exactly what’s been happening Guess I need to see the next video on how to fix it.

[@shender78]

You nailed it right on the button.

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Awesome! So glad you are able to find my videos helpful.

[@12mithi]

It’s like you read my mind 🙌

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Sometimes it be like that. Hahaha

[@TheOmega3Zone]

Interesting insight to relationships. What did you find most eye-opening in this video? Probably, the hormones. Thanks for sharing.

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Awesome!

[@Sarah-hc3wn]

What if it is your man that refuses intimacy even though we have talked I’ve let him know how unhappy it makes me? Ten years into this relationship.

[@laylalayla6630]

Its usually the other way around specially when women are married. I don’t want to be the typical married woman who looks for excuses to not have sex (headache, tired, sad, etc.) or use it as a weapon to manipulate him. Are you two still together?

[@viram1831]

Tell me about it....last time she told me AGAIN !!! ever since she told me that idk...I felt like she lost me already, I noticed if I dont touch her or kiss her nothing happens it..its been over 2weeks now am gonna see how long she can withough sex or until she says something....

[@LutherPittman]

The sad thing is this is most people. What is sad we have made this our reality. Basically people falling in love only in emotion. Love is a person, it is a sacrifice, it is an action, a decision. Emotion blows with the wind. Basically this is telling us that we're dealing with a lot of people or ourselves that don't have no self control!!! We let emotion detect who we are and how we're going to treat people. It is funny how we dedicate love to our dreams or our businesses with no emotion, but can't do that in our relationships or the people we say we love.

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Hi Luther, Thank you for your feedback, I guess.. to me I see it a bit differently. To me I see emotion at the forefront of everything I do. Including my business and relationship. I guess tell me more about how you see it?

[@LutherPittman]

@@GeoffreySetiawan We all are human and we're going to feel emotions. I heard some where and i took it like this "Wisdom says patience, while emotion says hurry". Our emotions are fragile and vulnerable. Without using your brain or thought it can cause you to do things out of character and/or make a self-centered reaction without thinking because of how you feel. That is why the world is quick to do things that causes people to divorce 50% and even amongst my brothers & sisters in Christ also do things that go against their vows that end up divorce around 60% i saw in one article. When things don't go our way or don't feel right most tend to react from an emotion that causes destruction to their own character, pain on their spouse, and their children/family is wounded or effected negatively for life in most cases. Jesus talks about it a lot in the Bible, be careful of your emotions!!!

[@whuzup3]

@@LutherPittman well spoken🙏

[@lololollaughatlife1431]

The vicious cycle of a man being an entitled unapologetic a grumpy jerk and then wondering why she finds him unattractive and even repulsive. This is not how they acted to get the woman in the first place. Commitment exposes those expectations -that if all was known up front -the relationship should have never began.

[@cleopatrawf]

On the money!

[@williamclayton9566]

Now, make a video that shows what happens when there's another man in the picture - when the admiration now has gone to someone else.

[@charlesholifield3859]

Pretty goo information..

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Hi Charles, Thank you! Happy this video was helpful...🙂

[@tomyc3758]

Geoffrey. it’s been 15yrs and intimacy has deteriorated in last 3 years. no intimacy in the last 2 years. can it still be fixed?

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Of course! never too late to start reviving your intimacy and connection in your marriage.

[@alwaysmending]

Thank you for this. I’ve been speaking about sexual coercion in marriage for two years and have never heard anyone lay out the science behind my anecdotal experiences. The result of coerced sex is essentially that of sexual assault, so men understanding emotional and psychological safety is the only way to avoid this form of abuse.

[@cebo_sa1952]

My spouse wants sex but is not an affectionate person, so she tells me - I’ve tried telling her we need to be affectionate in various ways so by the time we get to the sex it’s pleasurable - We don’t understand each other. I’m confused, how am I expected to have sex if the mood hasn’t been established.

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Hi Cebo_SA, Just replied to your other comment as well. Seems like you are trying to climb the relationship mountain and many of the foundational layers are missing. If this is confusing to you when I say relationship mountain. Be sure to join my 90 min class to learn more. relationshipsmastered.com/masterclass

[@Nike-jz3oi]

What about guys not initiating or wanting intimacy? Could you explore that topic as well? What is the science for males?

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Hi Veronika, This is explained in my free 90 min master class. relationshipsmastered.com/masterclass

[@Nike-jz3oi]

@@GeoffreySetiawan thank you so much for taking the time to reply! I'm excited to check it out 🥳

[@EnemyAce88]

Women don't have to tell you what they want but still reserve the right to get mad when they don't get it.

[@divine2368]

Lmaooo

[@helga.lifecoach]

Sorry, as a woman that just doesn’t make sense!

[@Pimp_dont_simp]

I think it can be both a art or science

[@tonym9910]

man ÿour so right

[@maomi5298]

Came across your channel accidentally and love your content. I like the science backed advice, women are not irrational as some suggests. I would love to see content/advice for women too. While the content is great, the man have to want to change or improve in the first place. How do you suggest us women get that message across that perhaps they need to watch your channel and that they can do something to improve the relationship, it is not all up to the women.

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Hi mao mi, Thank you for your kind words. In your opinion, do you feel my message applies to both men and women?

[@mathews2088]

What happens if it got lost after 20 years? Divorce or can you get that back?

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Hi Mathews, You can definitely get that back one you have made the right and massive changes. We have had many clients turn things around by joining our Relationships Revival program. If you’d like to learn more about it, you can begin by joining our free masterclass here. relationshipsmastered.com/masterclass At the end of this masterclass, you will also get some information on how you can submit your application for the program. And in case you’re curious as to how life-changing this program is, or how it is MILES beyond what other programs can offer, check out the links below! Client Review Videos: kzbin.info/aero/PLQ8tvyhQlPzsNm-vC_g_8SWGcJRngefgU Client Review Screenshots: drive.google.com/drive/folders/1Gp8UpRV9uMlFx763BfuQnEqN930FQb7b?usp=sharing

[@virtualbabe9171]

You explained the female part so well! I’m tired of some men saying women are crazy for wanting that emotional stability

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Happy you enjoyed the video! What was the most insightful part for you? Would love to hear your comments.🙂

[@jauquelarouque187]

Thanks you! I'm much too LOGICAL..

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Haha, I was too! Glad you are enjoying my content.

[@GabrielB7369]

My husband has narcissistic personality disorder symptoms. He hates human emotions and intimacy. he will use sex to control relationships, he will withhold it and use it if he wants something. He will devalue me intentionally

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

This is great video to watch and something you must ask yourself if you feel you find yourself in this situation. kzbin.info/www/bejne/fqOYdIVrpcdmaZI

[@truthbetold7775]

How do I share with my husband without hurting his feelings???? 😢

[@donwon5917]

In other words you can either stick it out or trade it in for a newer model

[@ridealong5390]

My wife is not affectionate towards me at all. I always have to initiate affection. It makes me want to cheat.

[@user-eo9to7wd2t]

Please don’t! Talk to her about it. If she refuses to compromise, then maybe you guys need to divorce if affection is that important to you. Cheating is never the solution.

[@virtualbabe9171]

Yikes. Think twice before making a mistake.

[@virtualbabe9171]

You wouldn’t want her to do that .

[@viram1831]

I feel you man.. am in the same situation it's hard its tempting to cheat. Remember you only live once and us men get older u know what I mean. First take care of yourself,plan ahead financially take care of your health as you go once your comfortable enough and stable let her go or else depression hits

[@josephh4539]

@@viram1831 right on!!!!

[@Mothermochi]

I think this man is giving the best advice to other men on KZbin

[@oambitiousone7100]

He used to talk and talk about himself. Off loaded problems on me everyday. I felt like his therapist. He didn’t ask me questions or draw me out. Definitely we shifted into opposite polarity. I went distant and masculine; he went needy and feminine.

[@qrpcoaching8198]

That is so sad (and unnecessary)

[@stiffupperlip4]

8:45 dang I thought that was just me

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

HAHA Andres, I too have felt this "Grumpiness" When I do not get my way, or what I want in the past. Tell me, do you see that when doing this, we may get what we want in the short term. But what do we have to sacrifice in the long term?

[@ronniebaker3826]

Do you know how to cope with wife having anhedonia?

[@emmznemmz5897]

Going on 20 years & I chased & begged for years at one point I was open & vulnerable… he just walked all over me & left me alone we split up for 2/3 years & we’re together again & now he’s trying to be “affectionate” but he’s already set the broken foundation of the major lack of safety & trust & I no longer can continue with him I’ve expressed to him I no longer want to continue this relationship I no longer want intimacy I no longer seek companionship with him & we’re always arguing & I’ve told him to move out because at this point we’re just in a constantly cycle of messy emotions he won’t leave he won’t go because he doesn’t want to “Lose” me again but in actual it’s the fear of loneliness.

[@vegangoddess9019]

Sex should be created not expected. This video’s subject is underestimated. Everyone should watch this and educate themselves when they are planning to have a good balance of long lasting intimacy and good quality in their relationship. Most people don’t get it and are missing the point. Sad truth. Thanks for this very educational video.

[@blizzard1198]

Still when you are constantly rejected you can't create it

[@vegangoddess9019]

@@blizzard1198 if you are constantly rejected then you must figure out the reason why? If there is no underlying resentment. In our situation there definitely is on my part.

[@blizzard1198]

@@vegangoddess9019 i don't know why someone would stay with they're partner if they resent them

[@blizzard1198]

@@vegangoddess9019 tho they can be many reasons:some woman think they're husband's are not worth it,some use it as a lever,like you some because of resentment it could also be stress or some problems your partner has themselves or they just don't wanna But me I think intimitacy is important and like affection you should both give it to each other and more

[@RobStone]

Do you think a woman who is stressed over a Degree/Masters in the UK can effect their hormones in this way?

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Rob Stone, feel free to join my free FaceBook community where you can pose your questions. facebook.com/groups/1032426806961329

[@jessjarvis4073]

This is exactly what I’ve been trying to explain to my husband! I will make him watch this video 😂

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Hi Jess, it's great to share this info with your partner... You should suggest that he watch the content to get a better perspective on what you have been trying to communicate to him. 🙂

[@sim7409]

sounds like u found ur justification..

[@babyn3mo]

@@sim7409 😂😂😂😂😂oh hush!!! 😂😂😂😂

[@RedEyrisFilms]

@@sim7409 yep she just don't want to give him any. Sad. Then wonder why things ain't right. It's always the guys fault 6month with no sex, 3 years they think that's ok as well.

[@RochelleAndMegan]

It's 23:10 by me right now... I'm sitting outside on the porch right now, crying my eyes out.. My partner is not being intimate with me anymore. We are both female. She's someone older than me... And I don't know if thats an aspect of it. But I have always been very insecure about myself... Today I dyed my hair and did my makeup nicely for her... And I've brought it up to her as well.. The topic of no intimacy... This morning and yesterday... Its been about a month ago that she was intimate with me. I've lost 5 kgs in that month, to be more attractive... And she says that she is attracted to me.. And she does still want me in that way... But throughout our relationship, our intimacy has decreased drastically on her side. And I don't want to bring it up again, I dont ever want her to feel forced or that she has to. I love her with all of me. Her, along with our son, is my whole entire life. I don't know what to do. I have no one to speak to... I just felt like I had to say it...

[@dierdrecole8027]

I asked my fiancé why he doesn’t kiss me. “I’m just not that into it. I will work on it.” I have been crying off and on in my office my whole shift. The fact that it’s work to him hurt. A lot.

[@qrpcoaching8198]

He might have issues from the past. Ask him.

[@Theodore617]

Can't do anything, waiting for a call

[@Theodore617]

Found her first love , just sitting on the back burner

[@nosfedss]

Geoffrey, I’m needing some advice.

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

How can I help?

[@inkedon3513]

Were all adults no one needs to be massaged to say how theyre feeling. We are adults, if your adult partner cant put on their big people pants and express how they feel wants and needs... well youre dealing with someone that is emotionally immature. So guess what dont ever beg someone to tell you how they feel. If they wanna behave like a child throwing a tantrum respect their space dont bother them remain kind but dont beg to be informed as to their temperment. And they will hopefully realize that speaking and communicating are more adult ways of voicing concerns as opposed to throwing an adult tantrum. No one can offend or upset you. Offence is taken not given. Also we are all personally responsible for our emotions, though others may hurt them.. it is always our personal duty to voice them. Should this cease them communication becomes strained resentment grows. By catering or begging to know how someone is feeling whem they wont simply tell you, you are in fact promoting childish behavior. State once and only once i care for you and when youre ready to talk im here but do not beg or persuade. This only serves to promote this kind of behavior

[@WonderfulIda]

What about just being too busy? Sometimes there just isn’t time.

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Hi Ida! This is definitely a reason, and will be addressed in another video. But in my experience, there is also something to be said about time NOT being the root issue. The issue is that in the small amounts of time you have together, you both may not be doing the right thing to organically create moments of intimacy. My partner and I work 12 hour days, 6 days a week on our businesses, but we still have amazing intimacy.

[@WonderfulIda]

@@GeoffreySetiawan I see what you mean. So it's about making the time when you do finally have time. I find its hardest when one partner is always business and the other isn't.

[@cleopatrawf]

@@GeoffreySetiawan it's also about inequity in the relationship. When women are working full time and looking after home and kids and getting little help from their partner who is relaxing in the evening. It means they're tired and resentful. Sex then becomes another 'job'. Seen too many women in this situation over the past 25 yrs and been there myself. U can only keep on meeting someone elses sexual needs for so long before it starts to eat away at your self worth.

[@goodvibesonly3533]

@@cleopatrawf dont look at it like that, ma,am. I think i can give you some good insight on this.

[@dreamagery]

I obligate myself to making conversations, and spending hours making repairs and honey dos around s the house. She can undergo intimacy duties.

[@barefootmustang777]

thank you so much.this advice has been very helpful.I think this Hollywood style of Hot Sex have ruined a lot of real relationships in the real world.Also, this advice is not for bitter people who just wants to proof their point that women are evil. Women are not an unrealistic pornstar.but a real human being with real feelings.A mature man will understand this

[@aquarius_waves3454]

Threatens to leave me once a week. Horrible. Here to listen

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Aquarius_Waves, Start here and join me in my free 90 min masterclass to learn more. relationshipsmastered.com/masterclass

[@crystalnavarro8012]

If you can't secrete those hormones for her, then she can't secrete down there. Therefore it is painful, and something that goes unnoticed is that it is a sacrifice made for him. You feel forgotten when all is done and you are left with pain. While the experience is supposed to be for both, not just for one.

[@47bk54]

Emotional or logical, I get no cuddles even.

[@trippytrapp64]

I’m here because I’m with an woman who is not affectionate at all

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Hi TRIPPY TRAPP, Learn here in my free 90 min master class why this happens and what you can do to start to change things. relationshipsmastered.com/masterclass

[@copperhead2694]

You nailed it! When it is presented to us as another chore to add to the many we already have , it becomes less attractive to us , it becomes a burden , not a desire. My biggest issue with my husband was that he didn’t no the difference between just being intimate without it having to lead to sex. That made it very difficult to have intimacy , which in turn ended up effecting our sex life. He would put pressure on me in small was and jesters , like Honey We really need along time this weekend. And my logical brains says , he is being open and Honest with me, but my emotional side , start to hear “Demands, pressure, no spontaneity” more like an appointment you make with a doctor 🤷🏻‍♀️ . My logic brains and I do love him wants to say ok , I hear you . But my emotionally side feels robbed, feels completely not motivated. It has been a bigger issue now that age and premenopausal symptoms have emerged. I want to be more affectionate, and have a healthy sex life, but sometimes it just feels more like work then enjoyment, and I’d rather just go to sleep. Lol He is trying to be better and understand, but it’s hard for me to get out of this mindset we have put ourselves into over the yrs . I need help with that!

[@shortydoowopski9083]

Same.

[@amrica8128]

Your must not having multiple organisms a spot and g spot organism maybe you need a new experience

[@Billy-the-Kid]

You are no sex loving wife. Cold as ice.

[@heatley1]

She ultimately needs to know hat she’s enough as well.

[@jackielone1035]

Never going to happen.

[@gillmahoney4742]

Yes but what about a man cold shouldering?

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Hi Gill Mahoney, What changes? How does this differ from closing off, stonewalling. These are all forms of dismissive behavior and resistance. You see once someone knows how to create emotional safety you will be shocked at just how open our partners can become. So the right question to ask ourselves is, do I know how to create emotional safety?

[@TheForgivenman]

Any longer... How about from day one

[@BlockIce84]

I totally dislike the 5 languages of Love.

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Hey Yoni, what I teach my clients is why can't we learn to give and receive all 5? What are your thoughts about this concept?

[@an0therdimensi0n99]

when a parent spells their kids name Jeffrey like "Geoff" they should be tarred & feathered for 9 lifetimes. what an outrage

[@oambitiousone7100]

OBLIGATES HERSELF. OMG EXACTLY.

[@Leslie-es5ij]

My wife likes to be taken long and slow, she isn't affectionate, but likes attention , and wants it firm, but not rough, or mean. She doesn't want to chat, and she doesn't want to have to do anything, but I can do anything I want to her.

[@dyoung5999]

So it’s still all your fault guys.

[@davidtaaru3588]

Man so we us man we meant to do all this shit how about us lol 😂 we go through stress as and our testosterone level goes down and we still have to be affectionate let’s just say women are selfish and it’s always me me me me me open the door for me be romantic blah blah blah what the hell you doing to make sure my mental state is good as well , if is say go into the kitchen and cook women say well that’s outdated but when they need a tree cut down oh it’s a man job , listens women chose what’s best for them simple so guys it’s 2023 so 50/50 mate we both need love and care etc lol 😂