Wife of 33 Years "Accidentally" Cheated & Wanted Forgiveness, So I Told Her to Get Out & Divorced...

Wife of 33 Years "Accidentally" Cheated & Wanted Forgiveness, So I Told Her to Get Out & Divorced...
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[@5XXFelipe]

Based sister in law. She could've hidden her own sister's affair but decided to be the MVP and start the deserved chain reaction. Respect.

[@Tralvan]

Oh yeah, fully forgot about that part because It was only one small sentence on the side, but given the context SIL probably found out and told/threatened wife "tell your husband yourself or I'll do it." Gives the entire situation a compleately new light. And I was even just about to comment something like *_"While divorce is ALWAYS the correct course of action in case of cheating in marriage, he could've been at least a bit amicable because she immediately regretted it after the fact and voluntarily called him the next morning, so she at least deserved a "somewhat amicable" seperation instead of going full scorched earth on her."_* ... well so much for that and her voluntarily confessing/actual regret. Like basically 95% of cheaters, she only regrets she got caught and would've never told a soul and probably continued to cheat if she wasnt discovered and pressured into confessing.

[@5XXFelipe]

@@Tralvan Precisely.

[@jontrellolando]

But she also didn’t expect dude to leave her sister. If she knew that I don’t think she would’ve snitched

[@TheGodfather101]

you arent your family. you are your values. take note ladies.

[@harshvardhansinha5267]

Yeah, but than she could lose her own wedding if SIL's fiance pulled a sherlock.

[@jaidenkoch3487]

I don’t understand cheaters when they say that their partner can cheat or do whatever they want with them, like if your partner is disgusted by you cheating what makes you think they would want to cheat

[@realkyunu]

Projection. Cheaters think just because they see no problem with cheating their spouse think the same.

[@leonidas0242]

Desperation. "Drowning man grasping at straws" so to speak.

[@genericmodz]

Same,if you want to have sex with someone else say to your husband wife gf bf etc it's not working working or get a divorce do it right

[@LS-jv9hp]

Women always underestimate men at all levels that's why. They think we only think with our cocks and aren't determined when we decide something. If a woman doesn't respect you completely, drop her. It's been shown time and time its the only time a woman will be loyal.

[@BonnerDoesYouTube]

I can say this as someone who revenge cheated once, it feels like shit. So don't revenge cheat.

[@ShiNijuuAKL]

"The 33 years we shared together will bring us back" also the 33 years they shared together didn't stop her from cheating, curious

[@AleV69692]

Indeed

[@runemidgard938]

shhh. logic doesn't apply to cheaters

[@alwaysright3943]

It sounds crazy, but that's literally how female brains work.

[@ShiNijuuAKL]

@@alwaysright3943 looking for reasons to hate women in general? xD get away from the redpill man

[@TwilightMysts]

My response: "The 33 years we spent together couldn't stop you from throwing away our marriage, it won't stop me from walking away from it."

[@aaronprice1497]

"You didn't make a mistake. You made a decision" Is the coldest thing he could have said.

[@Mayhzon]

Man was a true vet. And on that note: What is it with all the military men always getting shafted? I swear that's a common theme. Yet another reason not to to stick your head in the mud for Father Government.

[@hercdrc]

It is not about giving them the right to get even, on the contrary, it is a trap. You go and do it and then they for ever more have the counter argument of "you sure didnt mind doing it as well when you got the chance". They are not offering it in order to get absolution, they offer it to get ammunition.

[@Asapnorocky0]

@@Mayhzon get drafted then your partner shows true colors

[@agreeable-youth]

@@Mayhzon Husband/Boyfriend away for long periods of time. Could be A) The perfect opportunity B) Missing sex C) Both A and B

[@oneofspades]

Didn't make the mistake but sure is a part of the dumpster fire in not fixing it.

[@burakan9264]

The fact that she wasn't gonna tell him until she got caught just makes it worse 💔💔💔

[@greatnessmasakadza9277]

I don't think it would have made things any better though. Wouldn't change the fact that she cheated.

[@l-l-l-l-l-l-l]

@@greatnessmasakadza9277 pretty sure she had done it before and only then was caught

[@Kboyer36]

The old saying with cheaters continues to ring true. They are never sorry they cheated, they are sorry they got caught cheating.

[@MW-cx3sb]

That's why they say they are sorry for, they are sorry they got caught.

[@devincooper7821]

She got caught? How did she get caught?

[@BaeBunni]

Gotta love that he literally tries to change himself for the better arguably so he can be a better father and husband and be more attractive to her. But instead of seeing this as a positive she took it as "I gotta sleep around so someone wants me" He wanted you! He wanted you for 33 years and got healthier to keep wanting you!!

[@FractalPrism.]

If the man levels up, she cheats / leaves bc she's insecure if the woman levels up, she cheats / leaves bc she "deserves better"

[@Taveren]

The irony right? Especially when you listen to how she explains her psychology where she's like well he became the attractive one and that made me feel shitty so I had to go out and make myself feel good....

[@Nameless82284]

​@@Taveren Yeah, usually affairs happen because they aren't physically attractive to you but this time it was the opposite. Her husband got into shape and became more attractive instead of seeing this as a good thing she got insecure because she was the hot one in the relationship and when someone else found her attractive it boosted her ego. WHAT ABOUT HIM?! HER HUSBAND FOUND HER ATTRACTIVE! But no she didn't think of going to him. And even if she was honest and never decided to do it again it was her mistake. There is only one way for both of them to be happy and together forever and that is 💀

[@K4113B4113]

Insecurity is a hell of a drug.

[@Wolf-1211]

Had an ex like this, she was by far the prettier one and I was abit fugly, as I could older I grew into my looks and she would get very insecure if she even noticed a women look my way. And would berated me that “I dressed too attractive” or “my hair is styled too well.” In all honesty of being with her for several years at that point I was constantly called ‘rocky’ because I was punching up and alot of people would berate me saying “how does a guy like you get a girl like that.” So as I got older, I took care of myself more, because I was worried that people’s negative comments would make her think less of me. But, as I was getting older and I guess a little better looking she would then go fish for other guys praise and affections, purposely would take way more provacative pictures on social media to get other people’s attention. She even sent my friend a picture of her in nothing but underwear, but he is a good mate who immediately told me and sent me there whole chat thread. That b**ch even tried to go so far to try and blame him… there talks where normally very casual and in all honesty he wasn’t even that fond of her. He really only thought “yeah she’s alright” but wouldn’t go out of his way to talk to her because he always had a bad feeling about her. I sided with him 100% and she tried saying that he was trying to ruin our relationship… delusion little girl. She tried to control me to the point where I had to show what I was wearing to simply go to college. If I wore anything that slightly suited me I had to change into something not particularly fitting or clean looking. While she would go in the tightest, skin revealing clothing she could find, while flaunting her body when she saw men walk by. It blows my mind at how so many women can be jealous of their own partner who starts to look attractive and only shows affection to them! My ex went so far to try and say I was even more ugly now and people just lie to me. I wasn’t bothered if people felt I was ugly, I just didn’t want to have her find me unattractive. I stopped all intimacy a few months before I left her. One night she got completely naked and wanted s** I said no because I don’t want to do it with someone who will go to any length to make me feel worse just so you can feel good. She then slapped me and named plenty of people that we both knew who would do it with her just from seeing her naked. When I say this chick loved her self, I mean it. I’m pretty sure she just looks in her mirror and it turns her on… I left her a few days after our anniversary and all I wanted to do was treat her coldly, she flaunted herself, degraded me, flirted with others and would take time out of her day to tell me who wanted her and her number and how she can have anyone she wanted. A year after I left her and completely cut her off, she made a random insta account and started messaging me, I knew it was her immediately despite the account name. She kept trying to tell me that she had been with someone new and they was so much better, even then sending me a nude photo of herself. I did not ask for it, nor do I agree with sending those sort of pictures. Always been very internet safe and never trust those sort of pictures to always be in safe hands. She quickly deleted it and I told her how happy I was that she was out of my life and good to see that she was being herself. It was very unlike her to send nudes as that’s the first time I’ve ever seen her send one, but like I said she loved herself so of course. I told her multiple times that her new fella must be dull and boring if you’re sending your so called ugly ex boyfriend nudes and trying to joke I was single now and I only have my hand to satisfy me. Unknown to her I had started dating my now fiancé just a few months prior. I didn’t tell her because it had nothing to do with her who I was now seeing. What makes this even better was that her new boyfriend messaged me a year later, calling her crazy and that she missed me. I initially didn’t have a clue who he was and thought he just messaged the wrong person. After he told me who he was I found out what a piece of work he was and thought to myself “these two are perfect for eachother.” He offered to send me her nudes and I swiftly said no, we had common ground on how she acted and treated others but I could tell he wasn’t exactly what someone would call a nice person either. So as much as we had common ground and the chat was civil I knew I didn’t want the chat to be anything other than a one time thing to happen. I made an excuse to stop talking and that was that. All I gathered was we both thought the same of her and both hated her. The next morning I find my phone blowing up from her mum messaging me asking what her daughter’s boyfriend told me the night before. I told her it had nothing to do with her and I don’t want to be communicated further, as I sent that message I get a huge paragraph about how he is abusive and threading to send her nudes everywhere. Quite frankly I couldn’t care less about how he treated her, because I knew she did the same to him, as she did me, she is very abusive and manipulative and likes to do two things. 1 take pictures of her self provocatively and 2 punch her boyfriend. Yes she hit me many times and glad to see that she has ended up with a piece of work fitted perfectly for her. Her mum tried to manipulate me into helping them with her daughter’s new boyfriend. I told her I was much happier and now live with the woman of my dreams… my ex then took over her mums phone started texting me frantically. Telling me that her new boyfriend is mean and I don’t know what he is like. I told her to just get over me already and leave me alone. She said she was over me, I pointed out that her and her mum have come to me for help and you that she had even told her new boyfriend that she should go back to me… so tell me how that works you walking contradiction. I blocked her mum shortly after, if people wonder why she was not already blocked was because in truth I got on very well with my ex’s family and did not see a need to block people I got on well with. Very long and probably no one will see this or I should just put a full story on Reddit itself lol

[@RavenScherazade]

People: *get married, agrees to not cheat or they'll separate* Cheater person: *33 years cheats* Other person: We're through. Cheater person: *surprise pikachu face* The audacity people think they can use their relationship history to try and fix their problem they agreed to not do but did. Oof. 🤣

[@randomusername3873]

She only came clean because her sister caught her "She felt insecure" I mean yes, can't blame her for this, she's repulsive

[@AHFAN11]

wow, while I will always despise cheating and never give second chances, the fact the wife fking PLANNED IT OVER MONTHS makes it 100x worse, and she even LIED ABOUT IT AND THOUGHT SHE COULD GET AWAY WITH IT. I don't know how op kids can even look at their mother anymore. like, planning it? after 33 years of going through thick and thin together? honestly it's taking everything I have to not spend 20 minutes of cursing her out on the internet. some people can work through cheating ( I could never do it, would feel even more disgusted then op does), and if it's an actual accident after like 10 years of marriage, maybe you can rebuild 10 years of trust, but 33? neither of them likely have 33 years of life left so you can't rebuild 33 years of trust anymore. she had every opportunity to come to her senses before her affair, but still went through with it anyways. mad respect for op being as civil about it as he could be, because I know I wouldn't be able to be as civil as him.

[@knightsolaire8192]

the biggest kicker here is the actuall motivation for her cheating... she saw her marriage as some kind of beauty contest. Her man took his health in his own hands and improved his looks for her... but all she saw was that now she is the less attractive one and she deliberately planned to get some reinforcement from another man. Not for the actual sex or to have another relationship... just so that she could hold that over her husband in her head. And after all that she still thinks that OP will just return to her... this only implies that throughout all of their marriage she always considered herself to be some kind of a superior being to her husband.

[@Dreamstrafe]

​@@knightsolaire8192girls are raised with the belief that they are the prize in the relationship. This viewpoint naturally places them above men. Men have to build themselves up to be worthy of the prize creating a false sense of superiority for women. The idea of being a prize etc is an extremely toxic concept that ignores the purpose and basis for romantic partnership

[@fumothfan9]

​@@knightsolaire8192as is many such cases sadly. An ego to a man is a force to be reckoned with but to a woman !?! May as well be an asteroid collision. Nah 10 years 33 years hell even 1 month. Doesn't matter the time span. Cheating is cheating. Once done cannot be undone. I remember a stat that only like 20% of 2nd chances after cheating ever recover some form of relationship. Though it is never the same. Good news op's ex wife is now the best looking in the relationship (because it's only her lol).

[@trollerjakthetrollinggod-e7761]

Oof. She chose to cheat in her 50s? God damn, that is a really bad choice. She was so close to retirement, good luck 😔😔😔

[@DaShikuXI]

Women: "my sex life with my husband sucks, I'm gonna cheat" Women: "my sex life with my husband is great, I'm gonna cheat" Men, we can never win.

[@Personontheinternet4598]

Women☕️

[@celebrium83]

"A strange game - the only winning move is to not play" - Wargames(1983)

[@agentpaper8130]

I'm bi so I am pretty much good. Sorry about the bad hand.

[@redguy2312]

50% Of men cheat while 40% of women cheat. You can win if you get a good woman.

[@PurpleDoople]

I’m gonna keep it real with you. Individual people act in their own ways and if someone decides to cheat, they decide to cheat. Getting cheated on isn’t a guarantee just because it’s a woman.

[@Aelwyn]

The man literally had only one ultimatum and that was literally to not cheat on their monogamous relationship, woman couldn't even do that - even planned the whole thing and only came clean because she got caught. She knew it was a make or break part of their relationship and it was literally him just asking to be singular to one another and she did it anyway, then had the gall to be shocked and upset when his response was to file for divorce. The decision to split everything 50/50 was actually a really good deal considering all of that.

[@kunka592]

Fuck no-fault divorce. She should have been thrown out with nothing.

[@Aelwyn]

@@kunka592 yeah she deserved nothing

[@jakobgallaher2353]

A better man than I, I would’ve taken everything I could.

[@SuperSeniorGojoSatoru]

Hold up, I think this woman was cheating for a long time She didn't admit, until her sister saw her, so she wouldn't tell, and they were in contact.

[@aoi_lov3r]

Agreed, also your pfp is beautiful

[@Joetradersjoe]

@@aoi_lov3r yup that’s KFC Killua

[@aoi_lov3r]

@@Joetradersjoe kfc Killua is perfection 👌

[@SuperSeniorGojoSatoru]

@@aoi_lov3r yeah, thanks, froppy

[@carlos_is_sea-deep]

I remember someone telling me trust and love take a million actions to achieve, but are both broken by one. She had something many people look for many years and she ruined 33 years

[@xxKillgorxx]

It's so crazy how when the one who was cheated on doesn't want to work it out the cheater calls them hurtful and purposely difficult. Like, why would i want to work out anything with you?

[@FractalPrism.]

"im sorry, did my back hurt your knife?"

[@valerixcrim3716]

This is why my late mother wanted me to get a very strict prenuptial agreement, if my wife ever cheats everything will belong to me. Of course that works both ways but since the dating scene has become so freaking bad in the past decade I don't think I am going to marry ever. Even if I get a life partner we will never get married.

[@kalizibeozi7348]

bro this world has gone to shit.

[@5XXFelipe]

Same, i like to daydream sometimes about finding the love of my life, enjoying life together until the end of things, but nowadays what even is love? Just a currency like any other, people are willing to throw it away for one night.

[@kalizibeozi7348]

@@5XXFelipe fr bro, i feel you.

[@AleV69692]

Exactly, i honestly don't think I will EVER throw an 'i love you' to anyone besides my family ever, specifically BECAUSE of the dating scene.

[@idminister]

should take into account where you live, laws. If the country/state where you live has common law marriage... then sadly you are better off getting married, with customized and personalized marriage contract, but do jump through hoops of both parties having their own lawyers and get a court to approve the contract if you can to minimize the chance of contract being voided later by a court and that is because the default marriage contract, that common law marriage puts people in is, bad, utterly terrible for males tbh common law marriage should be abolished

[@Vikashar]

When he said he lost weight to 1) "See grandkids grow up", I was fully expecting him to say he was trying to see something else...

[@wagaboond6443]

man just tried to live a little longer...

[@minutemuse]

Funny how 33 years of marriage should be enough for him to forgive her, but it wasn’t enough for her to not cheat. 🤔

[@PS3PCDJ]

Cheaters regret, they don't remorse

[@spicymeat786]

im never getting married that's for sure, ive seen too many stories about cheating both online and in real life its just a clear sign idk 💀

[@Personontheinternet4598]

She belongs to the streets

[@greatnessmasakadza9277]

Unpopular opinion but "We met at a night club" should've been the first red flag

[@riverdunlap5826]

I dont know man. 33 years those are pretty good numbers for night club girls.

[@ooSHINIES]

@@riverdunlap5826 tbf that would put them married around late 1980s/90s at least, could be even longer ago depending on how old the story is. different times

[@riverdunlap5826]

your right of course, better times one might say.@@ooSHINIES

[@imaperson813]

love is like a gamble at this point, you can be the perfect, like a walking aphrodisiac, but still get cheated on. it's all about lust nowadays

[@dwaynethecuckjohnson2.08]

Don't worry about it too much. Don't let the fear of getting cheated on stop you from loving people and getting into relationships or living your life to its fullest. At the end of the day, whatever happens, happens. You don't have any control on these types of events, so there's no need to obsess over them or desperately try to stop them from happening. The best you can do is accept what happens to you and react accordingly to them.

[@Chilcoo]

Its always been that way and it will never change.

[@aleksandarvil5718]

*Return 304 back to THE STREETS !!!*

[@warturtallo953]

and here i thought that the couple took advantage of her... they dont have much fault in it, the husband there didnt cheat since it was consensual, its op's wife that didnt even try asking him for consent, they might've asked her about it and she could've lied to them too

[@derekconstantino7759]

Cheating on spouse needs to be a punishable crime in the US

[@ugyiggy]

Agreed. It’s something that clearly has consequences on others. It’s not a victimless crime.

[@riverdunlap5826]

it was at one point. not anymore

[@FractalPrism.]

it is, no matter who cheats the husband is punished with alimony payments / divorce / loss of custody 90% of the time

[@notting2640]

@@riverdunlap5826adultery used to be punishable by death (still is in Islamic countries)

[@nancestpasmoi1834]

@@notting2640 but only for women

[@LNPragathiesh-ef9dz]

I am pretty sure all feminists will go on the way saying: "SHE IS IN HER OLD AGE LET HER DO WHAT SHE LOVES TO DO!"

[@itz_violet21]

As a woman, who the hell cheats in their old age?! You guessed right, no one. At least no one sane.

[@FaizatheTempest]

You mean misandrists?

[@sheraldamoore2290]

You just wanna feel stupid with that statement, don't you?

[@alwaysright3943]

@@FaizatheTempest One and the same thing.

[@mr.wilson9941]

Op dropped this 👑

[@Brian6587]

That's sad seeing a marriage that long and cheating happens. My parents have been married for 40 years. They're both Christians and I credit that to their marriage surviving. They had issues but they always tried to work it out. It taught me alot about what I want to look for in my own marriage someday.

[@thatonememe_guy]

Religious parents are just more tolerating to the other.I definitely would also look for a religious women myself so it wouldn’t be a waste of time.

[@rhiarebecca2000]

People are never upset or sorry for cheating, only ever sorry and upset that they got caught. Otherwise you wouldn’t hear those apologies or see those tears, she wouldn’t have told him if she wasn’t so paranoid about someone else telling him, if no one was aware of what she did then she’d have never confessed😴

[@pioneerxx]

“It wasn’t even that good” naahhh she wildin

[@ryancxe]

Yea, what she is actually communicating is ‘I am disappointed that the cheating wasn’t as good as I thought it would be, so since it was bad I won’t have any desire to cheat again’ - but she doesn’t understand that how satisfied she was is completely irrelevant, by choosing to cheat, she communicated that having sex with that couple is higher in importance than a loyal marriage. That’s why cheaters rationalisations always confuse me, if having sex with someone else is more important, which your actions show, then why do you even care about staying in the marriage??

[@FaizatheTempest]

**sighs and adds to list of reasons why I'm never getting married**

[@itamealves4382]

1 night of sex to ruin , 33 YEARS of a loving Relationship... Trully sad

[@ajaypatil7565]

All these story look same , i think some of them are fake

[@TheReal_Antrey]

Cheating Emotional distress Conflict Divorce It is pretty much how a divorce looks like

[@ryancxe]

Yes, while they interesting, most people are not very good story tellers, and these stories are told in extremely engaging ways with minimal useless information, that alone is evidence that some are likely fake. Still extremely entertaining though

[@pplicker4462]

Cheaters get what they deserve. If someone cheats on you, they obviously couldn't love you as much as they claim in the aftermath.

[@wiresculptor5951]

There is no such thing as accidental cheating😂😂😂😂

[@ashleyyoung796]

Lol!😂 Oops, I've "accidentally" cheated on my husband. Like, c'mon! That wasn't a mistake, it was a choice.🤦‍♀️

[@LadyDecember]

Agreed. Affairs don't "just happen", they are fed step by step. There were at least 50 stop signs this woman clearly had to ignore in order to get to the end result.

[@genericmodz]

What a guy respect to you brother 🔥

[@misuterinaso]

Hello guys, just saying Have you ever heard people tell a woman who got cheated on, 'He cheated on you but he's still a good dad.' Just saying

[@rexaustin2885]

Oh yeah, that's a classic. Maybe people need to have strong standards and not compromise on them. Does this happen to only women though?

[@MrTStat]

I bet this wasn't a first this was the first time she got caught

[@ThePawerStation]

This is one of the stories that I come back once a month. It's surreal how people tend to destroy their life for something that can be solved by communication and therapy. She wanted to grow old with op but she chose to F it and plan an encounter to cheat. This people take the SO for granted but they can't stand the consequences or go full denial. But the icing on the cake is when they suggest anything to salvage their F'd up. It's funny because they don't care about auto-humiliating themselves so bad in order to propose stupid things like "One side open relationship" but a divorce... HOW COULD YOU?!

[@user-qq2ic2vd7y]

I think Drunk mistakes can be a thing that someone may or may not forgive but the lying and premeditated cheating is not forgivable

[@rexaustin2885]

If drunk mistakes can be a thing then drinking is the mistake

[@FractalPrism.]

"i didnt run over your family i made a mistake while drunk you should forgive me"

[@Willy_Warmer]

being drunk doesn't make you do anything, it makes you more inclined to do things you already wanted to, or would want to do. She wanted to cheat, and alcohol was the thing that gave her the push in this instance.

[@denizkenger52]

Then she shouldn’t drink alcohol if she can’t handle it. She chose to drink alcohol, she chose to put herself in a state where her decision making is bad.

[@alwaysright3943]

What a gloriously robust backbone on this man. I'm in awe considering this is reddit.

[@KarthikAlva-t9k]

the 1% who hate are prob the cheaters

[@Poroty]

As someone who survived infidelity, I wish I had a shred of his strength when it happened. I've taken few points as lesson, wishing OP a better life moving forward

[@gwenrichard7507]

55 m with no ED, he'll be fine.

[@theandroidgamer2109]

potato

[@SamuelHelligins]

potato

[@Personontheinternet4598]

🥔

[@Telltales.]

potato

[@mew_me23]

Potato

[@tac3158]

potato

[@michaeld.henryiii6703]

At first I thought he overreacted but then wife proved I shouldn’t trust humanity that much…

[@Jacksonmoonstar1714]

Imagine cheating when you’re in your 50’s and already looking bigger and much older. That’s a stupid move, cheating is already stupid but this is like, advanced stupid 😂 I have no sympathy for cheaters, and it’s why I’m still single after 2 years after my last ex cheated and I caught them. Cheaters can honestly go to hell and don’t deserve a single shred of dignity or respect

[@wiresculptor5951]

If she cared about her children she wouldnt even be able to think about cheating i hope she self deletes😂😂

[@yevgeniygrechka6431]

At least the kids are grown up. At that point all their decisions only affect themselves.

[@janteun3]

Yeah he is correct cheating is unforgiven she belongs to the streets

[@gigachad1021]

Kucks lol

[@mauriman2210]

Sir, I hope anyone going through a betrayal will hear your story_ it is inspiring!

[@beverlypotter3236]

She's not sorry at all she hates that she got caught and probably wood have Continued to chet on him

[@chadisnotachad]

Cheating should result in the marriage legally ending. It's a contract and you chose to void it.

[@brianarnold8666]

Accidental cheating is you're dating a twin and accidentally kiss the identical twin then go "oh fuck". This aint it

[@stephano2996]

Understand the divorce and all but a dead bedroom of 20 years??? Surprised the relationship lasted as long as it did.

[@MisterLuu]

Right? They both are terrible. Should’ve ended on both side decades ago

[@АлександраГришина-с5р]

I don't understand, he completely cuts his wife out of his life because of her actions, but assures his son not to destroy relationship with her despite her actions? I really can't wrap my head around this. Yes, it's not kids' trust that was betrayed, but this betrayal was still done by the same person.

[@riverdunlap5826]

yeah but the relationship between husband and wife is a little different from mother and son.

[@johnhunt2390]

@@riverdunlap5826One hopes…

[@Willy_Warmer]

because it's their mother. Growing up without a mother or father can be damaging. She cheated on her husband, not her son, so it's up to the son to decide if that was betraying him to. The father is pushing his son to not do what he's doing because he's worried that it'll negatively effect him.

[@GM-wu7cn]

That was the first time she was caught.

[@Duncanate]

You want forgiveness? Get religion.

[@TravellerZasha]

Man stories like this make me believe love isn't real lol.

[@FractalPrism.]

women dont love, they tolerate you during the time you're able to provide resources, distraction and protection better than her 2nd best option only men love with their heart and give selflessly to their woman

[@notting2640]

It isn’t. It’s all just evolutionary chemicals in our brain inducing us to mate and continue our species.

[@Olimar92]

Why does the guy getting in better shape and getting some looks and attention mean "I'm going to cheat and never tell him, because I want other people to show me attention"?

[@tausifchowdhury8180]

Honestly, society has degraded beyond imagination at the very least western society has. The woman threw away 33 years of marriage for carnal pleasure. 33 YEARS! I get cravings from time to time like wanting to delete my physics teacher from existence but I never act on it just to see how it feels like. If she did that in south asia, middle east, sea etc places she would have suffered repercussions for the rest of her life. Yet somehow in western countries the concept of sexual freedom has been blurred so much that people now think getting married is a MISTAKE! People throughout ages had a universe goal of success in their minds. A loving family, good social status, a house, good career etc. But nowadays people(especially in the West) are considering these to be shackles! In the case of ops spouse she threw away the marriage herself which was bad for everyone involved but what surprises me was that couple and ops action after divorce. That couple was disgusting and twisted as for op he got over 33 years of marriage in about an year and a half and went back to intercourse with other people. Seriously, how do you do that? 33 years! I wouldn't even be able to get over that fact. Yet to people like him it's almost expected consciously or subconsciously. The world and society need boundaries. Permeable and tangible but definite boundaries otherwise this hapens. And it's no longer just the West. Their poisonous customs are bleeding into the world. Truly a shame at what has become of the world

[@MinisterManDan]

Nothing will rot your life worse than unexamined and untreated insecurity. She lost everything she valued because talking honestly to her husband of 33 years about how she felt old and less attractive was too hard.

[@IamW4RL0RD]

I was on the fence until OP said she had planned it.

[@larissagomes451]

On the fence? Just a kiss would be enough to me divorce, how little do you have to value your partner to risk everything for something quick? Have some self respect.

[@IamW4RL0RD]

@@larissagomes451 alcohol can make people do stupid things. Which is why I was on the fence until she tried to hide and revealed she’d planned it

[@larissagomes451]

@@IamW4RL0RD if alcohol can make you do stupid things how about stop drinking? Nobody should be drinking around strangers is stupid and dangerous for a number of reasons.

[@IamW4RL0RD]

@@larissagomes451 I mean yeah. I can’t drink so I can’t really say much

[@matthewbarabas3052]

wrong. you should have been fully aganst cheating of all forms from the start. its 100% a deal breaker no matter how mild it is. rethink your life...

[@systemverilog4727]

I know everyone says "alcohol is an excuse", but I regardless must say that this is the exact reason why I cannot understand how everyone in the world _doesn't_ think that getting drunk is stupid, worthless, idiotic, etc.

[@arthaiser]

alcohol is not an excuse, if you are drunk and do something you will regret once you are sober, i dont care that you were drunk when you did it, because you choose to get drunk when sober and then did it.

[@thorcadail5812]

While I 100% agree cheating is wrong, I'm seeing a lot of ppl just making a blanket statement that she must have been in her right mind while drunk and it almost feels like it's pairing with the claim that "drunk ppl can consent." Ik not everyone was saying that but others were. Pls remember everyone, a drunk person can't consent. Just like you can't make a sale legally while one of the parties are drunk, it applies to sex as well.

[@ryancxe]

She planned it months in advance, alcohol is not even relevant.

[@thorcadail5812]

@ryancxe I wasn't referring to that part, I'm talking about ppl making a blanket statement that "drunk ppl can consent." Which they cannot. Ik not everyone was saying that blanket statement and that's why I mentioned it in my original comment. I'm not even really talking about the ex. I'm talking about drunk ppl in general. I'm assuming you didn't know that and just made the comment about the cheater. I'm just pushing awareness that drunk ppl can't consent

[@RobertO-rg7kk]

Wasn’t the first time cheating just first time caught that’s why she was cool with him cheating as much as he wanted

[@ericerto8250]

I will never understand cheaters. They never seem to try to talk to their partner and 80% of the time it's the woman that has the issue the man is oblivious to what's going on. Did you ever think of maybe try talking to your husband letting him know your feelings your frustrations maybe you guys can work on things. And then when you get caught you act surprised and then play the victim. That's what happened to me

[@adamalexander4883]

33 years…Jesus Christ. I’m glad our hero is getting some easy lays now. As for her, lol good luck as a cheating divorcee in her 50s. I’m sure Mr. Right can’t wait to jump all over that hot mess.

[@sKlush]

I laughed when he said "I loved her unconditionally but she fucked up" he loved her with the condition that she doesn't cheat,. Good for him, he is truthful to his values and I admire that but he had conditions for his love for her, as any normal human being.

[@Syrin23]

"She thinks all of our years together will be enough to get us through this". THIS is why she cheated. She thought that because they had been together so long, he would never leave her. IF she TRULY believed he would dump her, she wouldn't have cheated.

[@TheGodfather101]

Whenever a cheater says 'youre being x'. you simply respond with "Betrayers dont get to have x".

[@vonkieffer1126]

"After 20 years of a dead bedroom" because he was to obese. Hold up... How can someone be so negligent with his health and his marriege?

[@Playeryewen]

So she was insecure that she wasn’t « the good looking one » anymore and planned an affair and used her fantasy and her insecurities as reasons and NOW she is regretting it! And thinks she can reconcile after that

[@Grimeaper]

She told you a dozen times why she did what she did the truth is the same as now as then. She kept saying one thing over and over in a dolled-up way you will take me back, you were a sure thing, you gave her all the loving and attention and gave her assurance, when women have that when they think they own you, they will lose any respect for you and run off and go on a dick hopping journey always do. Women love on conditions, when they know without a doubt that those conditions are met they will do whatever they please.

[@kianna2530]

What’s crazy is, she needed validation because her husband decided to better himself for her. It made her jealous!

[@madambutterfly1997]

There’s no such thing as accidentally cheating the same way I refuse to believe that the OP wife from a different story was just manipulated into having an affair her boss abused his position and the fact that he was as sociopath

[@nick-brothwood]

How do you ACCIDENTALLY cheat on your spouse?!

[@roabarton7962]

This is why I'd rather die alone. I'm not a fan of drama. Just not worth it being with people.

[@omartherandomguy8566]

Genişliğe bak GENİŞLİĞE BAK.

[@zengeki23]

This all could have been resolved if she communicated her husband or went to marriage therapy.

[@keppinks]

at first i thought they should try and move past a 1 night stand to save 33 years but planned? nah. that means she was sober in her decisions and she had all the time in the world to change her mind and go back to her husband. smh

[@lolmanv]

if my wife said she accidentally cheated and wanted forgiveness, ill say, "i accidentally filed for divorce and dont want forgivness"

[@tabicat.puccino7425]

she was stupid and you were mature, you have a new life for you while hers is dying, good luck on this new adventure

[@dragonsncake9787]

With her first story I was genuinely concerned she was taken advantage of especially when it sounded like she had drank a lot but in the end she just an asshole who didn't communicate and then decided to cheat

[@Frgres-zka32]

why tf were there people blaming the op. communicate don't cheat simple shit.

[@alicatfelix5144]

Shewas drunkDRUNK

[@theblackcatgirl7013]

😮The lighting in the game at the end is gorgeous! Is it a type of mod?

[@Chuck_vs._The_Comment_Section]

Well, in this case you can't help but wonder whether it wouldn't have been better for all those affected if it had never come out.

[@shanadelahaye1213]

I'm watching because I want to know how a person cheats by accident!

[@FlipflopB]

I noticed that you only post girls cheating on guys. I’d love to see some reversals

[@szklanylabirynt151]

Can you tell me what is the music track you used in the video? Thank you kindly in advance.

[@ioanairimies4378]

That wasn't the first time she cheated. She is sorry she got caught

[@brokencreationlordmegatrol3037]

Wait you have to be separated for a year to officially divorce in some places???

[@leninproles]

Who writes this?? An incel??

[@razofdead]

I believe best revenge and not revenge is DNA test on kids

[@tgoodfella]

Delusional is definitely the key word in this story

[@Omega_Prim]

Damn 😔

[@MorinoRavenberg]

Well done 👍🏻