Women On Tiktok Are Talking About Men That Did More/If He Wanted To He Would

[@erobinson5942]

Meeting someone in your vulnerable state isn’t it.

[@Poodle_Gun]

Yep

[@moonlightstargem1006]

If he wanted to he would. I realized i don’t have a good boyfriend. What hurts is what they choose not to do. Men choose cruelty more over kindness. No wonder women are not attracted to them as much as they’d like

[@TamTam9-15]

❤hugs

[@DelphineTheWorstBladeEver]

No wonder women choose to be child free. We never know when that cruelty could start showing. I bet he wasn't bad at first. I bet he was decent. You're so hot bb, you got this. You will find someone you deserve.

[@ExtraOni]

I know it can be hard to comit to a new life. Are you staying because ur attached or is it financial?

[@toscadonna]

Yeah, the guy you meet in a low spot is going to be another narcissist. I’ve never seen it happen any other way. My sister met her husband when she was having to take her abusive ex boyfriend to court, and guess who turns out to be abusive, too? Once he’s got her 100% convinced that he’s a good guy and he feels she loves him, he will switch up. That’s just how males operate,

[@cloudypolly22]

I agree. The first girl screams trauma bond co dependancy. Those males love broken women and repulsed by self confident women. Like no i'd never cry in front of a guy i've just met.

[@purposefulltea]

I'm saying though! I thought the same thing for the first woman with the wine glass. I said to myself, "He sounds like a shark that smelled blood in the water. He went right for her when she's completely wounded and bleeding out." She needs to go on her OWN healing internal journey. Definitely sounded like a narc, knowing when to take advantage and swooping right in.

[@sg5720]

I just said the same thing. Men love to LOVE BOMB women. They have been playing that game forever because they know what women desire. They know women will stay and up with BS. Only now some women are realizing that how they were brought up was a lie and getting smarter when dealing with men. No one is perfect, but if you want to deal with a man- you have to see how he is at his worse when things ain’t going right. His display of self control will determined if he is a decent human being for you. 🙏🏽😊

[@hxdcm]

I hope people are able to recover with genuinely kind person but yeah y'all are right. Hopefully young ladies are ahead of the games now with all the knowledge being spread and will make wise choices. Unfortunately you really have to be calculating and cold because 9/10 you'll run into are either delusional or deliberately malicious. You have to make them believe you're stuck with them to see what will come out.

[@gravityclarity]

It sucks so much that you can't trust any man. You can't trust that he's a good person. You have to wonder if he's actually a good person or if he's just lying and trying to manipulate you. I don't know why men are like that. Why can't they just be genuinely good people?

[@winxclubstellamusa]

“If he won’t, somebody else will” really is comforting!! I love that 🩷

[@cruiseny26]

Girl. Don’t get enthusiastic. This feels love bomby to me. Give him a few months. If he’s still like that in a few months then go for it. But please do t give your heart away too soon. My ex did that crap and he ended up being a covert narcissist.

[@ehamilful]

I know right! It's especially creepy when there are some apparently popular mind games that circulate like "the penny method", it's enough to make a lady develop trust issues. Idk, to me it seems to be safer to be paranoid and alone. I really want to hear a man's perspective of this "if I want to I would"

[@toscadonna]

Yeah, the guy you meet in a low spot is going to be another narcissist. I’ve never seen it happen any other way. My sister met her husband when she was having to take her abusive ex boyfriend to court, and guess who turns out to be abusive, too?

[@vernetta111]

You see and them covert narcs are the purest form of demons they are evil and they honestly don't give a fuck 💯 no thank you I'm sorry but no thank you

[@nothingbutme1150]

A lot of women aren’t going to like this but men change their minds like the weather and tend to live in the moment. The real test is time which will tell you everything and he will eventually show he is .

[@jodynanci]

Same with me girl😂. I don’t trust nothing these guys do

[@BlkOnyx0508]

“If he wanted to he would” The best question is Why does he want to? Ladies that will save you a lot of time and emotions. Gifts don’t equate to good character and morals. A lot of men love robbing Peter to pay Paul to put up an image that they can’t maintain

[@food4thought692]

This! Why does he want to? Nobody asks this.

[@Poodle_Gun]

The first guy sounds like a psychopath

[@OnlyLilynn44]

The 1st girl’s story is so cute and I love it it sounds wholesome but as someone who knows what Love Bombing is and how many evil men out here do EXACTLY THAT and act like literal Prince Charming, Rom-Com Main character worthy, before morphing into literal Demons, I still don’t trust the kindness and love displayed, especially when it’s a new relationship, because gaining trust is a CRUCIAL step in their evil operation and they tend to use your specific insecurities to 1st get you to then use against you. Sometimes the grandiose acts of love is a shield to hide the smaller, less noticeable red flags. Sometimes, it’s BECAUSE they know your worth, that they seek to destroy you. They see something in you they don’t see in themselves and they don’t like that and thus seek to destroy it. Be romantic and by all means, don’t give up on Love but be careful. Not every act of love comes from love. But her story was cute 🥰 and I hope he’s the one ♥️ you can tell how much he means to her and I truly hope the feeling is mutual.

[@vernetta111]

Yep i don't trust the kindness either I learnt the hard way about Mr Nice guy 😂😂😂no thank you

[@LisaFrank39]

My thoughts too. Sounds sus

[@rhanna12]

100%. Some guys can be very nice, but some can be very manipulative. He has to earn your trust over time. I’ve seen one guy be on his best behaviour, willing to do things for people, however he’s mentioned to me how he has been friends with people to use them so it makes me question his motives. Not to mention some things he says makes me think he is a bit on the red pill side, ie lack of respect for women over 30, and other things. I think some men can put up a front of doing things for others because they find reward in being useful and finding solutions, but their true intentions can be blurred sometimes. When I meet people that give too much right away, some may come from a good place, but trust your intuition and don’t be too trusting with them early on. Wait everything out a little bit more. I think seeing if they ever want to isolate you from others and get you solely dependent on them is a huge red flag. Don’t find yourself relying solely on them.

[@JesusisGod2001]

"Not every act of love comes from love" Exactly, which is exactly why it's called an "act" of love. Because it's just an act, it's al fake

[@KeykeeMari]

I came here to say exactly this. I wanted to know how long she’s been in that new relationship because it sounds like textbook love bombing.

[@TamTam9-15]

I’m so tired of men and women telling women that men would do stuff if we did or didn’t do a,b or c but we are expected to be the perfect girlfriend and wife immediately. They deserve great treatment off the jump but we must earn good things!

[@VixxKong2]

I love when men aren't bums❤❤❤

[@lacheregriffin-denton9946]

The thing is if he wanted to he would on a consistent basis and I think people don't put that consistency is the key. If he is consistent in his behaviors then genuinely they are his overall character and therefore you will know if he's of good character and honors his word or if he's a bad character and doesn't honor his word.

[@munix9351]

Humans are not consistent in general

[@anxie_teaa]

I wouldn’t trust someone who will tell me I’m worth it…. I just met you……….. wth…… she is getting ready for another divorce…

[@vernetta111]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@oOIIIMIIIOo]

Yes, I would look like this. 🤨

[@ineedhoez]

Y'all are really traumatized out here. Somebody who sees how awesome you are when you can't see it in yourself is the definition of having an MVP on your team. Abusers want you to have low self worth. He was trying to gas her up like a bestie does. He's out here being your biggest cheerleader. He wants you to succeed. Y'all are so damn broken you can't even pick properly. Go to therapy and heal.

[@oOIIIMIIIOo]

@@ineedhoez Writes the boy with the desperate nick. Projecting much, huh? 😄

[@ineedhoez]

@@oOIIIMIIIOo I'm a woman. Try again. Y'all legit have PTSD and don't know what love looks like. How do I know? You picked men that traumatized you in the first place. Go heal.

[@Reevay762]

First gal needs to wake up! He cried with you? Narcissistic behavior at its best.

[@Ilikefrogs..]

I honestly want to know how long she's been dating that guy for, that story is rife with red flags.

[@ineedhoez]

Not necessarily. She needs to be careful because she is down bad emotionally. His actions are measured, consistent, thoughtful, and high investment. Those 2 hours drives are proof positive. He can't fake that level of effort. Some of y'all have never had a man take care of you, so you don't know what it feels like to be under his protection and provision. It is warm, caring, quiet, and supportive. He is showing up for her.

[@ExtraOni]

We are also ignoring how pretty that girl was AND that she rejected him at first. Men, especially average men, will break their back to achieve a woman they believe is above them (at least in the early relationship) its not nessisarily narc. My boyfriend was very similar early on. He cried for me, I wasn't even crying, when he heard about my story. He's just a softie, he cries for other people to this day 😂 we can't watch sad movies. He also blew 3000$ in our first month in the desperate attempt to impress me. When I found out the full amount he spent after we got together I chewed him out and he told me why. "I couldnt believe i had even gotten a date. You were so out of my league and it was obvious you were on the fence about me. You didn't find me attractive what else was I supposed to do? I'd already fallen in love" and he still to this day just pauses and stares at me in the cutest way years later. He is very insecure and to someone else that would be a red flag, but it really doesn't bother me. He's become so much more secure since then too.

[@Poodle_Gun]

It's the stereotypical Ben and Jerry's backrub thing for me. The fact that she needed to be alone. The fact that she cried about him.

[@Poodle_Gun]

@ineedhoez my ex drove 12 hours each way and was a narcissist. Ruined my life. Listen, don't tell.

[@23MzSmith]

The blanket lady gave too much backstory for me. I skipped a lot of it. 😂😅

[@talkingtochapri]

That pink blanket woman should stop telling stories 😢😴 that was soo painful. And i have no idea what she even said 🤭💀

[@thenaturalfloh]

I zoned out so many times

[@lunkee6972]

Girl the playboy bunny girl made me cringe so hard. How she laid on the table after. GIRL STOP HES only there because YOURE EASY TO LAY!!! Smh

[@jessicaraye]

Yesss it was very cringe!!

[@aurora8749]

Right, I just was thinking, you are not cute enough to be that overtly sexual. This guy is there for that reason only.

[@sonyyyjay]

I was wondering why so many ppl started talking about the lady in the pink robe… until i got to the lady in the pink robe 😂😂

[@vonnii1013]

If he wanted to he would but the reality is men are selfish and self centered....ladies just take care of u be selfish be self centered as well and be unapologetic about how u value urself above everyone else....those who truly love u and care will always show themselves!!!

[@ineedhoez]

Agreed.

[@rinabeauty7614]

They start all sweet and caring but eventually get comfortable and start not giving af about being sweet

[@bsinclair6264]

Her story was so cute! And though ppl have brought up it may be love bombing, you do have to be able to observe and then further access if they are love bombing or if they truly just are a good mate.

[@SusieSue242]

yeah let's see the update five years later.

[@kimwhatmatters4085]

The girl pretending like she was homeless because she “lived in her car” when she had a dorm room she just didn’t want to go to for one measly week was insensitive & shows she’s a professional victim 🙄

[@kourtneydouthard-becker1501]

I wonder if this trend is inspired by the country song by Kylie Morgan- "if he wanted to he would" 😊 That song put some sense into me when dealing with men. I love country music, but Whether you listen to country or not, I think that's a song all women should listen to.

[@khem127]

I love hearing all these great stories about happy relationships. Thank you!!!

[@NoPickmeishasAllowed]

Me too

[@lacheregriffin-denton9946]

So the second woman said that what the first woman said was further from the truth but then she validates her by saying that the man pursued her and makes her feel as if she's wanted and desired and she's never had to question that? I'm so confused on what she was trying to say.😂😂

[@ineedhoez]

She was responding to another video. Because at the very end, she then agrees with the original OP.

[@awesomegirl97]

The ones that disagreed with what she said made no sense.

[@ladyeva1980]

The problem with if he wanted to sounds so smug, like there is something wrong with those of us not getting the treatment we desire, like the first woman sounds like she's bragging

[@zerodeconduite804]

Thank you for creating this positive compilation of people sharing their experiences ❤

[@ehamilful]

So legit question, how does a woman discern whether he legit wants to, as opposed to love bombing? I know Time has a lot to do with it, but I get really scared of the stories when a husband just takes off his mask after the wedding and it throws the wife for a loop.

[@kaylad1669]

Most men are not good at hiding their true self.. most of the time the woman is just not paying attention or ignoring yellow flags that will eventually turn into red. (That’s not to say that some men aren’t literal psychopaths and can’t hide it good, but MOST can’t.) Get around his family and friends. Ask him questions about humanity and women and children and more than likely you will be able to tell if he is genuine. Things like gender roles, lgbtqia+, women’s rights, and racism are good giveaways.. just don’t make it obvious that you’re trying to get his insight. Bring it up naturally when the conversation leads there and take note.

[@lunkee6972]

Girl honestly I take the love bombing with all the gifts. Because then he leaves suddenly in an attempt to make you chase him, and if you’re secure in yourself it doesn’t matter. Love bombing doesn’t matter. Be confident and comfortable with yourself and receive it. The man who stays and continues that behavior is a keeper and the one who uses it to play games, you’ll be able to see if you stay detached.

[@kaylad1669]

@@lunkee6972 ‼️💯💯

[@Ilikefrogs..]

Pretty much be aware of ALL the red flags, and be ready to head out if/when you see them. Other than that, all you can do is wait them out. That mask is always going to slip at some point, just hope that it's before you're married and pregnant.

[@vernetta111]

​@@kaylad1669but even then they can't still lie/fake 😂😂😂 I just don't have time or energy for the games it's draining 😂

[@hxdcm]

The first lady in the clip found an angel on earth... her story made me cry! Bless them!

[@sarahcover7248]

I'm glad so many people have know what love bombing is. We need to make sure our children do as well so they don't fall for it. The question is do they consistently over years do sweet considerate things for you? My husband does. We've been married 10 years just had our first baby 2 weeks ago. Yesterday i wanted steak. And even though there is a freezer full of easier food, and we are both sleep deprived, he made me a steak. There was only one. So its not like he was making himself one too. He just cooked me a steak cause I needed the red meat. That is love. Consistent caring sustained over years.

[@gravityclarity]

This is true. So if he doesn't, just leave.👏🏽

[@AstroBaby91]

Must be nice. I gave up on men.

[@lexa_power]

Another amazing video! Thanks for putting these together. I’d love to know all the names of the creators so I can follow them on Tik Tok! So many amazing videos here, thanks for making these compilations for us! I know it probably takes a long time to edit and I personally never have the energy to go through Tik Tok myself so thank you for bringing these interesting stitches to KZbin so we can stream them on TV and have these insightful discussions in the comments section! Really enjoyed every stitch and thought they all made really interesting and valid points. The one thing that sucks about hearing the good stories about when the guys do nice stuff like the shoulder popping out one - I’ve had a lot of guys do stuff like that for me in the beginning and be obsessed with me in the beginning and then the mask falls and it turns out they’re a narcissist and end up being abusive and discarding me shortly after. So it’s really tough to know if someone is a good person even when they do nice things. Consistency over time is the only true way to know someone’s character.

[@vonnii1013]

This!

[@unicorn73212]

Agreed I've had John's and pimps by the side of the road at a bus stops try to pick me up too while insisting that there a good person. Some of these women are delusional and I'm tired of them making women look stupid like that's all we do is open up to men and start trusting them. If you know you have impairments like that don't post your life story on you tube either eventually this won't look cute anymore after you turn 50 and your sitting there with a glass of wine getting ready to go to the club talking about the old days. They just don't get it. It's almost like some dude hired them so he could have an excuse to play the victim because a lot of these women don't seem real almost like there from another planet.

[@aurora8749]

My ex offered me the literal shoes off his feet the first time we hung out because i had a giant hole in my shoe and my foot was touching the ground. He made me breakfast the first time I slept over. At the beginning he often cooked for me. When I first started living with him which was only three weeks in because im dumb and was in a really bad situation, he made me coffee before work and had a beer waiting when I got home. But even early on he did really disrespectful things i overlooked because of his other love bombing. He would go out and tell me he'd be back at a certain time. He wouldn't come back and id call his friends and they wouldn't answer and then hed come back at like 8am the next day, mind you he was getting wasted around other women. I ignored it because we weren't married or anything... until I got pregnant and it continued. Then things escalated to abuse. Id get upset with him for disrespecting me and confront him and hed throw me around or hold me hostage and not let me leave. He refused to hold a job and the abuse became more common when he was mad even the last time when i hadn't said or done anything. He came home drunk at 3:30 am being loud and waking up my kids. I said shhh and that was it. I knew he was going to kill me. He started screaming and accusing me of insane things so i knew I needed to get him out or he was going to kill me, so I told him lets go out and smoke and i locked him out. He literally broke my front door down to get to me. I didn't think he was going to actually be able to at first but then it sounded like he was really going to succeed, so I called the police and cowered in the bathroom with my kids and i knew if he got to me before the police he was going to kill me and possibly my kids so i was pleading with police to get there fast, they acted annoyed and said theyre trying their best. He got in and broke down my bathroom door as well, when he saw i was on the phone with police and he was being recorded on a police line he decided not to kill me. He just looked at me, walked out of the room and said, "You deserve to die." Making it very clear thats what he had the intention of doing. He walked out to the porch and the police picked him up but i didnt know this i just knew the police had arrived and i thought they just missed him so for like 20 mins i was panicking thinking about how my door is broken and hes going to come back after the police leave and kill me. Finally i say to police, "do you know where he is?" And they tell me they detained him. It was friday so he got out of jail two days later and blew up my phone apologizing. I did not answer. He still wont leave me alone

[@rinabeauty7614]

Wow thats terrible yes its crazy how they go from the prefect gentleman to a demon! Im sorry you and your kids went through that

[@ineedhoez]

And this is why the most important aspect of all of this is for women to operate from a place of being fully secure. You always have to maintain your boundaries, your self-worth, and have high levels of self-love. Him pouring into you doesn't give him a pass. If him doing things for you is causing you to relax your standards and boundaries, then you know it's manipulation.

[@rinabeauty7614]

@@ineedhoez facts

[@SweetUareDesi]

First girl: is already letting a man in her house 😂😂 y’all are out here down bad

[@princessbluelight270]

1st story feels to sweet to be real. What's the catch🧐

[@clc5819]

Probably on the DL

[@sweetestsherina]

They always begin sweet. Eventually mask comes off if it's not genuine

[@hxdcm]

Going off of friends families, I believe at least 10% of men are genuinely sweet. But 20% would be way too high. So maybe 15% max are genuinely sweet. And most of those 15% are probably going to become bitter & grumpy from being taken advantage of & run over by people with narcissistic traits. So good luck with those odds!

[@vernetta111]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@LisaFrank39]

I want to find the cute and wholesomeness in the first girl's story but it sounds like love bombing sorry girl. The target parking lot part stuck out to me for some reason.

[@Poodle_Gun]

Because he wouldn't let her be alone. She was crying about this guy, remember?

[@artbygilik]

Same thing happened to me when I got out of my marriage. Worst decision ever. It’s been 7 years and I haven’t met anyone worth it since then and now I’m good not even caring if I ever find it or not

[@oluwashinaomisanya7487]

Not the first girl getting super excited about the bare minimum😂😂😂😂

[@bunneywolf]

8:13 This one literally proved the girls point. If they wanted to be with you they would have been with you. They don’t want you boo.

[@gee_emm]

39:10 “when you are not too… shaking shaking all over them”. Oh my God! I love the way you talk. I’m so here for your accent and your turn of phrase! #DoLess

[@BigBiteDoughnut]

Why is it people get woman and women confused but never men and man?

[@jodynanci]

I’d read that romance novel the first girl talked about

[@kimwhatmatters4085]

How it s she knows for being with the wrong ppl(multiple) 😂 girl what ?!? She said it too like it was a status symbol too. Her new guy arm pops out it’s socket sooo much the ER was getting annoying with him and taught him to do a doctoral procedure😮 sis’s life is a lot

[@KlaudiaShaefferr]

14:00 shouldn’t had had whiskey with Tylenol especially before driving smh

[@henryford752]

Even though I am happy for these women who have these cute stories, I think "if he wanted to he would" is the wrong phrasing. It seems to me that its not so much about the women but the fact that it is in these men's chracter to be generous and attentive,etc. Even though we love to feel special I would hate to think that he is kind to me becuse I am a romantic interest and that he is not kind to others, or has been unkind to women he "didn't" want to be kind to.

[@munix9351]

But that is the reality. Also the lies women have been told. Men treat you based on how they feel about themselves. Not you. Men don't like themselves hence how badly they treat women. It has nothing to do with us. Women need to learn to move on.

[@omphilemoerane2569]

Women are exactly like this. It's always, he treats me good because I XYZ or he married me and not his ex girlfriend of 500 years because I XYZ, not realising that if he can mistreat someone else or deliberately waste their time then he's probably not that great.

[@Heyu7her3]

It's not necessarily about kindness but about how people typically go out of their way for a romantic interest to impress them. You'd want that to happen on top of the generosity they already display

[@ineedhoez]

For some reason you're making this about triangulation with other people and it's not. You simply look at your relationship, and assess whether this person is choosing to meet your needs. That's all. Some people will anticipate your needs. Some people will seek to meet your communicated needs. If a man does not meet your needs, it's because he doesn't want to. We women will often make excuses as to why a man isn't doing something. He has anxiety, he has adhd, he's autistic, he's depressed, etc. We come up with a million reasons as to why a man isn't doing something. The fact of the matter is that behavior is a language. Men communicate how they feel about you by how they treat you. If he cared about you he would seek to meet your needs. Hence the expression, "if he wanted to, he would."

[@erobinson5942]

This story is cute, but I don’t trust him.

[@gravityclarity]

Aww. I like the first girl's video. I hope it actually worked out for her.

[@Minime669]

Not always Men would prefer to lost the chance for love if they feel their ego is threatened by us

[@Lastdayone]

First girl / original video…needs to be careful lol. He told her he wanted to be around when she sees her worth. He didn’t say HE was the one who would value it and her. Smh 🤦🏾‍♀️ girl you can’t tell them what you’ve been through. They will use it against you. Also this sounds like love bombing. Men who are already in relationships are also punctual. They have to plan things out. He could easily say he’s working. Also narcs put their best foot forward so you will applaud them publicly. Then by the time they humiliate you, you’ll be too embarrassed to go back on what you’ve said publicly. It’s a double edged sword.

[@breezluize3282]

The horse lady's clip was WAY too long. It wasn't worth sitting through that whole thing.

[@lily942]

Girrrrl, I was like what is going on. Why are we talking about horses??

[@GretaZ-dd3lu]

FR. That long, meandering, aimless story caused me physical discomfort. She must be thinking, why tell a simple story in 2 minutes when I can take 10? Also, she moved and bought a house with a boyfriend - not a husband. Red flag!

[@MovingAlong531]

Girlll I was like what’s the morale of this story, she was all over the place with that story.

[@NoNameNomad....]

If she wanted to confuse/bore us, she did! 😂

[@BigBiteDoughnut]

Males love language is action. If hes not acting on it then hes not in love.

[@louisachalarca6494]

He gave her time to herself too

[@sg5720]

The girl in the orange shirt, has no idea that she is JUST in the initial stages of getting to know eachother. Like most men, dude is putting his best foot forward. I would not be surprised when she invest her all in him, he switches up. She can only hope he remains the same but majority of the time they don’t. Men get comfortable once they know the woman is invested. What she needs to do is WATCH his reaction when she says NO to something he wants, what happens when she gives him a bad attitude one day? What will happen when you change plans on him? Or one day you don’t call? Have you both had a big argument yet? Any disagreements? How does he handle it when things go wrong.? I know she is excited, cause this is new and wonderful, but time always tell. Unfortunately nothing is guaranteed and I hope this works out for her but she needs to leave room for disappointment as time will tell. She got divorced for a reason. Pay attention ladies. Men love to Love bomb you in the beginning of every relationship. God luck to her. 🤷🏽‍♀️🙏🏽😌

[@oOIIIMIIIOo]

To keep it fair, there are women, too, you can't live with. I wish her luck, too. 😄

[@sg5720]

@@oOIIIMIIIOo hence why I am wondering how things are when things go wrong??🤔😌

[@ineedhoez]

Yeah, my biggest concern is that she's not healed. If she accepted poor treatment in her previous relationship, then it means she is likely a codependent AKA self-love deficit disorder suffer. She has to figure out how to love herself.

[@michelledavidson1781]

When you run from a man, he'll chase. When you stop running, he'll start running. The moment you love him, he will run or detach. He's a narcissist. Your being love bombed. He is building you up and giving you everything you desire, than at that peak, he will slowly remove all those "positive attributes" and give intermittent reinforcement. He will breadcrumb you to keep you on the hook.

[@Poodle_Gun]

The first girl said no a bunch of times and belonged to another man. Guys like that shit.

[@jessiemayfield6749]

I don’t know what to think, if he doesn’t secretly plan a birth day for me or cry with me in his car he’s not the one? Idk

[@ineedhoez]

No that's not what they're saying. Relationships require equitable contributions of love, respect, and care. If you're in a relationship and your needs are not being met, you likely have issues with codependency. You stay in the relationship because of your fear of being alone. All of these stories are just about the level of effort that men put into relationships when they care. If a man wants to meet your needs, he will do it. Maybe all you needed was for him to bring you some McDonald's. Maybe all you needed was for him to listen to you. Behavior is a language. Look at what a man does and you can see how much he cares. If he's not trying to meet your needs, it's because he doesn't want to

[@nwalden5744]

First dude the first girl talking about… who raised him… she needs an award

[@WildAntics13]

Ladies few months and she lives with him already nah!!! 😂 I don’t want to blow the bubble but some men know how to play women the moment they saw you! Remember the Reeza story he paid for her bills she sleeps with him and she fall and didn’t see through the cracks 😂. Don’t sleep with men fast ! See for yourself at least 6 months so you can judge better!

[@catthestar1687]

I had to skip over pink robe. I could not follow her. It was like listening to Chloe talk about at the nail salon get to the point cute rope though.

[@GretaZ-dd3lu]

There's nothing more torturous than a person telling a story who doesn't have the skill of storytelling. Just a long, meandering, aimless story with lots of pauses and tangents. Nothing tries my patience more!

[@madmann1000]

This!!!!! Like make an outline and hit the key points!

[@shanna2.2.2]

I knew I couldn’t be the only one being tortured through this woman’s story lol

[@cwalker6911]

Omg truth!!! Was literally thinking this listening to girl with the red blanky when I went and saw this comment lol

[@levtieart3409]

Some people have adhd/mental disability/autism etc so yea

[@voneyeva]

if a girl that bad at communicating can find her dream boy, so can i

[@UniquaDaBackyardigan]

0:40...she's gonna say "literally" every other sentence, isn't she?😮‍💨😮‍💨

[@DWPersianExcursion]

Love and support ❤

[@vrichards4363]

8:24 you proved op's point 😂😂😂😂😂

[@kennyav25]

Please edit this video and remove the lady with the pink robe... The way she wasted our time with her story... Her tone was so monotone 😩😩 I don't skip your videos but I skipped her part like there's no tomorrow 🤦🏿‍♀️🤦🏿‍♀️🤦🏿‍♀️

[@NoPickmeishasAllowed]

13:46 wow

[@Laoriginal718]

Getting into a relationship with a divorced person is NOT a flex 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@GSoldier1993]

Maria you're lovely and really sweet, but you seriously need to use discernment ASAP and be more professional with some of the clips you use. If it doesn't meet the purpose of the topic at hand, if it's unnecessarily long and just goes off in a tangent - DON'T USE THE CLIP! I feel like you didn't watch the videos until you uploaded them. Please this is the 4th time and it's seriously putting me off your channel. But you're a 9ja sister and your kind, but my patience can only take so much! Thank God i read the comments and skipped the bad clips. If the stich is a bit lengthy but of great benefit and we come away GAINING something from it, fine. But why give free marketing to people talking just to talk?! That pink robe lady made up HALF the video and just rambled on about nonsense!! 🤬😡😒

[@divinelypink]

That’s was very rude of you and you sound more on the narc side of life. Why give someone a compliment then backhand them then give another compliment with a heavier backhand? Move along if you don’t like her content. I found value in every single clip. Back off…you have no idea how long it takes to make these videos for YOU. Bring your temperature down or start your own channel with clips you feel are relevant. Not nice. Not nice at all.

[@divinelypink]

@bradleybrown8428 no, Bradley Brown. What I will say is that you should not emotionally text or comment if you know you are incapable of using proper grammatical formation of the words you use. Instead, you should study the difference between there, their, and they’re so that you are making educated decisions with the wording you’re choosing to use. GSoldier1993 absolutely gave several backhanded compliments and the tone from that comment alone says to [me] covert narc. Do you emotionally attack everyone, in defense of another, that has an opinion of their own?

[@divinelypink]

@bradleybrown8428 “I am getting tired of people just throwing words around without knowing ‘there’ meaning”. Seems to me that you have had previous run ins with this word that has nothing to do with me but you’ve chosen to take that aggression out on me. Very emotionally reckless. You’re falling apart. Relax, you weren’t involved. You inserted yourself.

[@divinelypink]

@bradleybrown8428 in fact that is one of the ways a narc operates. Great job…I am the child of narc mother and family…I know exactly what I am talking about because I lived it for 41 years not just read about it and came to my own conclusion. What you just described is exactly one of her characteristics. It wasn’t just a suggestion. A suggestion is stated once…which she did and should’ve just stopped at “tangent”. That is a suggestion. To linger on and continue to berate the effort she puts into these videos for us all was mean and asinine. “Your a ninja and your kind [but]” (you’re). But, but, BUT. 🙄 Not just that…but… if I had started my response to you with all caps stating, “YOU SHOULD HAVE USED ‘THEIR’ AND NOT THERE, BRADLEY!”…it would’ve met you in the form of hostility. This commenter does not “no better” (know)…I enjoyed every single clip. Just because this commenter didn’t gather any “valuable” information from the video with the robe lady does not mean others did not. And, so what if she decides not to watch all of the videos she gathers…what is wrong with an authentic reaction? Absolutely nothing. Or, the very LESS traveled road…move on to another video of you don’t like what you’re seeing. It really is that simple. Have a great day, Bradley. As you know, we can disagree in her comment section but nicely. I’m all out today. Be safe. ✌🏽

[@nicorriesanders]

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[@BigBiteDoughnut]

Men fall in love at first sight so if hes jot head ove heels hes not into you

[@Floreatmajestus]

18:18 🥴

[@TOFFEETASTICC]

I couldn’t finish Ling Ling’s clip. Too much mouth noises 😕

[@lee_rayyy58]

I agree a lot of mouth noises it’s off putting

[@TOFFEETASTICC]

@@lee_rayyy58Yup. It takes away from the message 😕

[@laurenlynn4464]

Horse girl was incredibly long winded like girl wrap it up goodness. I can not stand a bad storyteller.

[@EmpressInner-G936]

The last lady, if you see this lol it’s okay. I love the back story and I’m honestly very happy that you have your paradise. Everyone’s happiness is suitable for them so if you’re content, that’s all that matters seriously. 😌🫶🏾