Are All Married Women UNHAPPY???

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[@selloanemahlatsi541]

The thing is, people, specifically women, always believe that they will be the exception when the truth is that most people end up being the rule.

[@peacefreedom4930]

My mother who has been married over 40 years turned to me the other day and said, “ why the hel! do people act so happy when a woman gets engaged? That’s nothing to be happy about “. I was shocked. I asked my mother “ why are you just now saying this. Why aren’t older women telling younger women the truth before they get married?”. She just sat in silence looking off in the distance. WOW!

[@kia.203]

Wow!!! That speaks volumes. Society has conditioned us to be happy for women that get engaged because if we don't, we are just bitter and jealous. But, that's not the case.....at least not for me.

[@saturnteatree]

😂😂😂

[@peacefreedom4930]

@HeeeyOhaji It’s kinda upsetting. If you know misery is on the other side of the wedding why aren’t you saying anything? You wouldn’t let your child walk into a burning building. So, why would you not stop them from ruining their future? Maybe women are waking up from some kind of sleep. This is crazy.

[@sg5720]

@@peacefreedom4930probably did not know until she was in it for herself. I also think a lot of women get mad when older married people woman advises the younger women NOT to get married, the. Younger woman says- “you have your husband, you just want me single” or “your jealous”. Unfortunately a lot of Married women feel forced to be happy for the new bride because of their current situation. 🤷🏽‍♀️😔

[@dustrepellent8986]

😂she sat in silence looking off into the distance 🤣🤣😆

[@HighFrequencyGuru]

Marriage is about how much abuse you can tolerate. ✌🏾 Some women need love so badly that they’re willing to tolerate the abuse and some don’t even see it as abuse but it is in fact psychological abuse in most cases. That’s normal when dealing with humans in general. I think as we progress as a collective we’re all becoming less willing to tolerate certain behaviors our parents considered normal. That’s what I think.

[@saranghae2808]

💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯 I was just saying that some of us didn't have to go to Tiktok to see these things. You see enough in your environment growing up.

[@d.thompson7464]

A lot of women are not yet ready to let go of the fantasy of a happy marriage. Also they’re so busy with work, kids and life it’s not hard to ignore how they truly feel.

[@SheilaTrueLove]

Being MARRIED these days is NOT A FLEX or an ACCOMPLISHMENT. Marriage these days is nothing but a TRAP for WEAK MINDED and GULLIBLE WOMEN. A lot of these women are in MISERABLE MARRIAGES and are trying to save face like they're so HAPPY and CONTENT. Well let me tell you...I am a PAID Advice Coach and Christian Counselors and I wish you could hear what really goes on behind closed doors. Also, a lot of these women who have been married for years is because they don't mind or care about SHARING A MAN...He cheats on her, and she still stays with him...last time I checked, that's SHARING A MAN. I know of WIVES who agree to OPEN MARRIAGES, THREESOMES, POLYAMORY, etc.... Most of these women I counsel have no decent STANDARDS or BOUNDARIES they KEEP in place. When I look at MARRIED women today, I feel nothing but PITY for them. They don't have the GUTS or COURAGE to get out of these TOXIC relationships. Trust and believe I know what marriage is all about...I've been married 2.5 times (was engaged to be married a third time but thank God and Christ I dodged that bullet.)

[@heneverforesakesme4038]

Sigh...okay..just hear me out ladies...I've been married twice to both flavors of ice cream. First vanilla then chocolate and I'm here to tell ya: It sucks...in both marriages I did 99% of the domestic labor while working full time. The first marriage I had a crappy job and couldn't leave due to financial insecurity, in the second marriage I paid 90% of all the bills because his money went to child support. In the first marriage, he was verbally, emotionally and mentality abusive along with being a mama's boy and putting his mother before me and his child up to the day he died. The second, he was financially abusive and did not care that I was working 50 to 60 hours a week or even two full time nursing jobs while he sat at home. (kind of like that movie, Acrimony, just a financial leech). Of course, I didn't get the house or million dollars in the end, but I digress. I believe in marriage to the right partner. The first one, I was young and stupid, the second one, I was lonely and stupid. Had I had access to forums like these, I know I me. I would have made different choices and been ten times more vigilant. So, good luck young ladies. I wasted 28 years of my life, with these xy's, please don't do what I did.

[@Jac527]

I really appreciate your the honest on this. Marriage life is not for everyone and it’s should not be forced into people’s throats 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@trichmomma]

Man I wish we'd get that half of assets they whine about us supposedly getting. 16 yrs and I came out financially worse than when I went in.

[@Sunlumiinous]

So sorry it's horrible for you. I was married twice too and and it's horrible. Wish I know of these forums too or learn about Princella the Queenmaker sooner before I meet these xys.

[@PanteraRosa91]

You are a brave woman❤❤ I'm 32 and I tell you: it's never late to change your life 180 degrees

[@bodhisattva2348]

This is exactly y I tell women to avoid men with children

[@MsStrange1526]

They too busy trying to maintain the appearance of marriage bliss to be honest. Notice as soon as divorce hits, they suddenly have all the time and energy to spill the tea, they go viral overnight.😂

[@HighFrequencyGuru]

I noticed that too like Teyanna Taylor! She swore up and down they were happily married now here we go with the truth lol

[@valery5900]

It NEVER fails‼️

[@sg5720]

😂😂😂I’m a married woman. I’m laughing cause it is true. I married my best friend so I have not been through a fraction of what a lot of married women have gone through. I am being honest, marriage is NOT guaranteed happiness. You have to be happy with yourself before you decide to be with a man and expect him to make you happy. He is suppose to add to your happiness not take it away. I have had women literally ask me WHY my husband and I always do things together. Cause he is my best friend, and we actually like and love to do things together. We BOTH realize are union works for us, we want the same things in life. Mine just look more feminine and his more masculine you can say. Some days are amazing some days are not, that is normal and that is life. As long as the pros outweighs the cons you good. As long as your not being abused you good. People getting married just to get married and that is crazy to me. Compatibility exist. I have not been happy 24/7 in my marriage, that is impossible, but damn have I been happy majority of time. It will never be bliss, it is a pulse, high peaks and low peaks. I have been married 20 plus years, it can be amazing but BOTH the man and wife have to be I. The same page. I love where I am and my hubby has helped me elevate and I would marry him all over again. The wedding day is 1 day, but marriage can be a lifetime. Like my bonnet sister said, make marriage your own. 🙏🏽😊💯

[@masixchell]

Right!!! 😂 it’s so cring and sad at the same damn time. Especially the dirty community D ones🫨, everyone knows but they don’t want to know and project that everyone is jealous of them 😳🥴👎🏽.

[@masixchell]

@@sg5720you prob have the husband outcast. Which is a great thing on a personal side 🫶🏽🙏🏽 I’m in finance - a very YT male dominated industry. 99.9% of meetings, networking events, even board meetings ~ they talk about their naggin wives- how can we “keep this going” so they didn’t have to go home. Side mistress comments and even high fives when they showed off a new pic of a new side piece. Any man that said he loved his wife, was looked at with a double head, asked if he was “ok” or “ohh your still in the honeymoon phase”. Being in the “locker room” with them and being privy to these inside thoughts ~ men seem to hate marriage more then women & only do that to climb the ladder and take on more projects as their wife is stuck at home. You are blessed ❤ so happy you found a man like this. This sounds like a real healthy an successful marriage.

[@missinterpretation4984]

If marriage wasn’t awful for women then they wouldn’t have had to force it on us and condition us for it since the minute we’re born.

[@senorpapi3659]

And divorce wouldn’t so much higher when it comes to women initiating it.

[@theiswithin3649]

​@@senorpapi3659and why is this? Majority off woman do not know how males brain work. And woman don't know what love is.

[@PettyIsMyMiddleName]

I’d never say ALL , but definitely the vast MAJORITY. I’ve never met a truly happily married woman. On the surface yes , but once you get to know her she’s not. And I’m not basing my “opinion or observations “ on just family . I’m basing it on the fact of the variety of people and cultures/ethnicities etc from various countries , beliefs, socioeconomic backgrounds, you name it . On top of social media and the various cultures, I’ve pretty much concluded, what’s the point of marriage?

[@erobinson5942]

Agreed. They all lead with complaints

[@lemonlimesnout]

As a child of a married mother, i can for sure attest that she was unhappy. My dad abused her in all the possible ways he could. She always told me never to get married and to not have kids. From the get go i could see that marriage benefits the man only. I felt bad because i always said i never wanted to end up like my mom. As i maneuver through work life i encountered many women who were married and lived unhappy lives as well. Horrible. I never want to end up like any of them.

[@Goddess_Infinity]

No I think it’s silly to say all but I do believe majority are .

[@purevenus6359]

I don’t think we can say it’s all. But I believe it’s the majority. And it has to be by design. We live in a patriarchal society with men who have been programmed to be patriarchal misogynists at their core. It will take a man who did not undergo this programming or actively recognizes it and fervently tries to unpack it/break it through therapy for there to be a glimmer of progress. Those are my thoughts atleast. Love your content btw.

[@nothereyetlost]

Men were not programmed to be misogynistic by patriarchy. Men were BORN misogynistic, and irs their own misogyny embedded in patriarchy. So patriarchy isn’t making them do what they already don’t want to do.

[@nothereyetlost]

Also, I’m theorizing it’s ALL of them. They just don’t know it yet. Remember SHE was “happily” married for 30yrs until she realized it didn’t just break at the end, it WAS ALWAYS BROKEN. Now do you know HOW MANY WOMEN HAVE SAID THIS? That their husband had been doing some BS the whole time they were happy. Sorry but I can confidently say it’s ALL.

[@nothereyetlost]

@@xoeyeam lol exactly. I’ve been observing men gif a long time two as well as thinking about things in society. And they definitely support the all.

[@lexa_power]

💯

[@idreadFell365]

I broke out of that patriotic bs and I’m disappointed that most other guys (or should I say boys) hadn’t.

[@kia.203]

Well, look at the divorce rates. That will answer the question right there.

[@Emptytopfloor]

There are nearly half of all marriages last (don’t end in divorce). I think this is about the ones that do last the test of time. But if you look at the happiness among demographics data……..yeah, married women don’t make to the top 3.

[@kia.203]

@Emptytopfloor the ones that do last, is because of the woman. I don't think all women are unhappy, but like you said, data show they aren't in the top 3 lol. That's sad honestly

[@tresboujay]

5:16 Marriage is not like any other relationship. I’m not even talking about the physical either. Marriage is a completely different animal and that is why so many of us are opting out and getting divorced. It’s asking for way too much for too little in return.

[@magdadarling2655]

Thanks for posting this. I have been married to my current husband for almost 11years, and yes I'm happy. I am happy because my husband is more than a husband...he is my friend. Not only do we love each other....We LIKE each other. I like being in his company and we do activities together and are constantly laughing, joking and teasing each other (lovingly of course). We love and respect each other and will consult each others on all important decisions.

[@trichmomma]

The married women and couples are making videos. They can choose what we see and just look at what they decide to show. Based on what married folks are saying/doing for us to see they are sitting at a comfortable level of unhappiness.

[@Jac527]

Tolerable level of Permanent unhappiness. 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@saturnteatree]

Notice the married women didnt talk about their own marriages they just talked about the topic lol

[@nothereyetlost]

Well that’s bc they are putting up with BS too. And their husband demands “privacy” in order to keep on with his bs. That the married women aren’t talking about their marriage is a clue they have horrible husbands. Bc also if they had great husbands, they’d be GUSHING about him nonstop, and HE would want to be GUSHED about nonstop. Thanks for bringing that to our attention 😂😂😂

[@brittanyb8997]

💯 💯

[@Lastdayone]

Yep!!! especially her 10:44 😂 lol she had to gaslight herself.

[@LouLouLion]

When i think of a woman that i personally know who isn't being mistreated or abused, I'll let you know. I can't think of anyone rn

[@lilig8323]

The way some married people wearily discuss their relationships is depressing. Relationships should be happy and fulfilling. I enjoy spending time with my best friends, my grandma, my cousins. No one is perfect and I try to be patient, empathetic, forgiving etc but it should not take a Herculean effort to endure any relationship, especially with your own spouse. I’m mad this is normalized.

[@Diana734]

Women have to sacrifice so much of themselves when they get married especially if they have children. I always imagine who my Mother could have been had she and my Father not had children....

[@traceylennon1204]

@Diana734 I wondered that about my mom too..😕

[@somebodycomelistentothispo7217]

If they are honest, YES, most are unhappy. And yes most of them cheat. Y’all just don’t know. Men don’t try to be better because they don’t change. Wome try and we do change. It is definitely DOOMED 😂🤷🏾‍♀️

[@erobinson5942]

The first girl took forever to explain ma’am are y’all happy or not lol

[@beautyforashes1948]

😂😅🥴🫣

[@talkingtochapri]

I never understood the hype about marriage and kids. Aren't these two things the most painful thing in most women's life 🧐 in my opinion, go on dates, let males treat you like the prize, date only rich, focus on your career, and have fun. But don't take these things too seriously, don't let a male girlfriend trap you and make you his servant or baby trap you. We already live in a patriarchal society don't make you life more difficult.

[@marissa._]

ALL of this! 🎯

[@2okaycola]

You won’t date much if you do this

[@kitty1256x]

Yes, men are looking for a slave, called wife.

[@talkingtochapri]

@@2okaycola that's the whole point, to avoid low-quality ones

[@samco63]

Yes! The best years of my life were when I was doing that. But I think I got scared into settling as I’m getting up to almost 40 - but I still get plenty of attention now, but worried it will stop soon… but then again, it doesn’t seem to ever stop for women 😂 And also would still be better off and not dating I guess, than to be stuck in a bad marriage

[@kennyav25]

My dad would always say "Don't look for a husband but for a LIFE PARTNER. Anybody can be a husband but it takes a special man to be a life partner" I use to be in a mom group and the amount of time these women were complaining about their husband in anonymous mode... I don't want your life sis😌

[@2okaycola]

God is listening

[@XenaCallisto]

A little over half...OVER HALF...~51%...of marriages end in divorce. Of the remaining portion, we know some couples just stay together for the kids, money, assets etc. Others are rife with cheating. Very few marriages are built on a sturdy foundation of genuine love and respect. The numbers aren't too good out here. Also, view the studies on why men benefit from marriage and women don't. Very interesting read.

[@flowerpower7065]

Lots of ppl rode the “marriage” train because of social media trends like engagement proposals/surprises, honeymoon vlog, etc. 😂 and now its NOT a trend. Having kids was trending. Everyone rode the gender reveal train, the baby shower vlog, the hospital vlog, maternity shoot, etc. now its NOT a trend. Its reached its peak.

[@jozzz222]

You think so?? I’m still seeing it lol what’s trendy now?? I hope this decentering men and childfree movement are not trends. Please God don’t let them be trends!!

[@tricieb.5921]

I've realized this after covid hit, people actually had to be responsible for their own children and do their jobs as parents instead of showing off and flexing, and now realized it's not all glitter and gold like they thought it would be. 🤷🏿‍♀️

[@2okaycola]

Having kids is still a big deal. I see more pregnant women than fatty

[@masixchell]

@@jozzz222very much so it’s here to stay it’s not a trend. Having freedom and stability is not a fad 😂. Ppl litterly gave their life for freedom. My ancestors worked hard to get where we are today. Freeeeee. Breaking away from mental slavery and healing their Stockholm syndrome, cause marriage was created from slavery, women were litterly proprety of men. And just like Slavery is not coming back, marriage is going out and never coming back😊🙏🏽🙌🏽 We women do not support this system, never had. Our Gmas, mothers, aunties, all told us don’t do it.

[@masixchell]

@@2okaycolaall over the world birthrates are down, and have stated economic hardships for counties with a high aging population. Every year in just America (and we are not the leading stat) birth rates decline , and had been in a steady fall since the mid 1900s. Seeing ppl with babies is an anomaly, most ppl are choosing not to have kids. All over the world.

[@OneTwo-yw4ij]

This question is tricky because it's like asking someone if you're happy right now. The ups and downs of marriage usually brings different seasons of bliss or discontentment. If you're continually unhappy for years then it's a yes. But I have seen people in a tough place last year, but they're perfectly happy this year.

[@GardensFlowers-f7k]

Girl. Accept the truth. ❤Choose yourself.

[@IndependentPrettyGirlis]

Just hearing the word marriage 🤢🤮😖😵‍💫

[@PhotoJeticPoet]

Listening to the girl in the black bonnet felt like I was being gaslighted into a bad relationship

[@AminahMight]

😂😂😂😂

[@toscadonna]

She’s gaslighting herself into staying married.

[@omphilemoerane2569]

​@@toscadonnaand it's only been 6 years phew.

[@candyKane117i]

I could barely finish it, I had to fast forward that part

[@bodhisattva2348]

I can't really answer the question but I'll leave u w/this: women file for divorce more than men do. The women who r married, doesn't mean the marriage is successful because staying in a marriage because u need 2 incomes, staying for the kids or staying because "its cheaper to keep her" are not successful marriages, & a lot people will stay in marriages for such reasons & they'll never post that to social media.

[@darkskinbae3544]

No we’re not but the majority is;the ones who “my husband” you to death, i noticed are always unhappy af.

[@toscadonna]

My paternal grandmother was happy with my grandfather; he was a real man. The only one I’ve ever met, and unfortunately, he died in 1987. She’s the only woman I’ve ever known to cry 25 years after he died, because she missed him.

[@l0111]

This is such a great telltale sign 🤯 I’m yet to hear of a widow who misses her husband. And in the vice versa, the widowers usually say how much they miss the things their wives used to do for them.

[@jenbodhi1133]

My aunt married 30 years told me do NOT get married, if she had the choice she never would’ve done it

[@DivineLioness]

Most marriages I see today are not united. My parents (although they had rough patches) always presented a united front.

[@missinterpretation4984]

I’m not saying all I’m just saying all the ones I know. 😂

[@laulutar]

I know I'm happy in my marriage. My spouse and I have been together over 20 years, and married for a little less than 10 years. Have we had rough times in that time? Yes, but mostly when things outside of our relationship have hit the fan. For example, we've both lost our dads while we've been together, and have had to deal with that, but even at the sh*ttiest times, we've tried to treat one another (and ourselves) with grace and kindness. I think it helps that we were friends before getting romantically involved and see ourselves as a team. When one of us is having a tough time, we support eachother and act as one another's biggest cheerleader.

[@TheMspoodle2]

I only get hit on by married men all the time from different race/ethnicities. it's so damn annoying. I tell them I do not date married men.

[@nataliesparks4829]

life is already tough, so why get married?

[@kitty1256x]

You said absolute truth! The only time when marriage benefits a woman is when a husband helps to raise a child or pays money for woman not to work or raise kids. And even then she might be treated badly sometimes or feels unheard or not supported enough.

[@Lastdayone]

It’s a reason why older women especially the Silent Generation, they didn’t cry when their husbands passed away. They were happy to finally be free✨

[@dontme4132]

If 50% of all marriages end in divorce, we can’t assume that the 50% of couples who don’t divorce are all happy. In fact we know that’s not the case. So yeah, most marriages are unhappy.

[@Reevay762]

What's marriage? Nothing beats solitude, being happy alone, peaceful. Jesus is with me in my solitude. That's better than Jesus in a marriage lol 😅😅😅😂😂😂😂

[@LukeRev480]

I'm just disheartened by the level of cheating amongst the couples. My sister used to say " we are competing with married women in the dating scene and they have no shame, they seem to have more boyfriends than us single women." I used to think she was exagerating but from what I've seen and heard lately I think she was right.

[@traceylennon1204]

@LukeRev480 It's true!!

[@LukeRev480]

@@traceylennon1204 very sad!

[@traceylennon1204]

The preparation for the wedding seems like a chore..and the man doesn't seem involved but appears to be bored or experiencing anxiety with the process!

[@Sunlumiinous]

Marriage cannot work with narcissists especially covert narcissists. When you're not taught about these chameleon like type people and you think everyone are good, you get set up for so much pain and abuse. How you marriage with someone who pretend to marry but aint putting the work? I say avoid marriage period. I didn't have a regular wedding like paid thousands of dollars for it. Didnt believe in it and thought it was wasteful. Despite me being low maintenance, marriage is just awful. Both of them. It doesn't benefit me as a woman, so stressful. Do an ironclad contract folks cause that's what marriage is... make sure there's financial consequences for them when they break their words with you. Or else just avoid marriage all together. Your health, mental, emotional, financial, spiritual well-being will thank you for it.

[@marissa._]

Has anyone else noticed that when a person is good/happy in their relationship...they tend to keep it to themselves??? Like, if a woman is happy in her relationship, she's not going to go on social media to give unsolicited advice on how to "find a good man", especially when her OWN man isn't any good and doesn't wanna be kept! Its weird how even in today's time, single-shaming is still a thing! I, personally never understood the hype around marriage and kids! Those two things are some of the most painful things in a woman's life! And then when a woman happily single and childfree, we're accused of being "jealous" and "bitter" and God forbid you end up with a cat or a dog because apparently having a pet is an insult. 🤦‍♀️😂 A guy isn't going to go on these red pill, misogynistic podcasts and give unsolicited advice on what he thinks women should do, what he thinks women want, etc! Anyway, from my observation, the people that are genuinely happy in their relationships, they tend to keep it to themselves for the most part. But on the other hand, I'm really glad more and more women are coming out and talking about their unhappy marriages, relationships, red flags to look out for, what to be cautious of and for normalizing being single-by-choice and being childfree! Women and girls NEED that representation so they can have the option/choice to be single and childfree! Marriage and kids ain't for everyone and that's okay! Being single and childfree needs to be normalized! Marriage and kids shouldn't be shoved down people's throats! Women and girls NEED to have the option whether they decide to marry and reproduce or stay single and childfree or be in a childfree relationship with a partner or be in a childfree marriage with a spouse or be a single parent by choice via artificial insemination, whatever that woman chooses to do with her life - representation is fundamental and I'm glad more and more women are speaking out. And if you're happy in your relationship/marriage that's great. You lucked out.

[@traceylennon1204]

@marissa 🗣THIS🗣

[@user-dq9rr9mv3f]

I think that ppl are so miserable, that when Happy ppl show up, they are not believed.. Same for single ppl, same for childfree ppl, same for SAHM, same for Career ppl… According to everyone, everyone is miserable and unhappy.:

[@LukeRev480]

It started with society pointing unhappiness to the direction of single people. Now we are admitting , I think we realized long time but refused to admit that marriage does n't equal happiness. Single people started to factually and fiercely defend themselves and highlight the not so talked about ills of marriage. Now everyone feels threatened and all are busy defending themselves.

[@jozzz222]

Both of these comments make so much sense

[@DWPersianExcursion]

Love and support from Texas ❤

[@trichmomma]

Not all married women are happy or unhappy- all of the time. When i get questions like this, "Are all married women unhappy?" first of all nothing is ALL of something but Im also going to need clarification. What do you mean and what are you asking? Noone is unhappy/happy all of the time. Unhappily married people are going to divorce and wont have nice things to say about their dashed hope. Thats logical no? But how does one explain the husband asshatery and foul play when there is no divorce or when the wife say "its a joke"? Those videos of moms workinh, cooking three meals for their children, taking care of the house and home, with only a male voice in the background or the wife's honorable mention of him- explain that. Understand not every woman is going to see the busy housewife life as "goals". Alot of them will see the slavery for what it is.

[@tynaangelici3023]

I got married at circus circus in Las Vegas. That should have been a red flag right there that I married a clown.

[@TruCunt]

All married women are not unhappy. I’ve seen some happy married people. They do have their issues but they were generally happy. I think if you want to have a successful marriage and a happy one a man needs to understand the pressures of actually raising children 24/7. Unless he is in there as well he’s going to believe there is nothing to it because women make it look so easy.

[@blueravenchick]

I've been married 17 years and I urge ALL young women to remaining single, child free and celibate. My husband isn't abusive and he's basically a good man, but he still makes me feel as if I do nothing (I do almost all of the housework and work full time too), he acts like only his physical labor factory job matters because I just still in an office all day, he's a pervert, but I guess he doesn't cheat. Even with a decent guy, marriage is hard and you will probably still be unhappy.

[@cinnamonthomas3075]

Omg I respect your honesty 😢

[@chachachin5697]

I’m happy In my marriage. He has his flaws but he’s a really good person and very disciplined. Never cheated. Never lied. Wants to be good. He’s attractive af. Gives me the world and doesn’t act like he’s doing me a favor. I don’t let him do any chores in the house. My choice. He offers to help. He does certain work like anything that breaks he fixes. Helps with our children when he’s around. He’s so envolved and doesn’t put it all on me. He deserves everything he gets. He spoils me. He’s not even rich. He makes a good amount tho. Morally he’s amazing. To be fair tho he had a great example of marriage by his parents. His dad treats his mom like a queen and he treats me like a queen and vice versa. I’m happy I met someone like him. He’s the best man I’ve ever met. Love my dad. But my dad is a good dad but a terrible husband even tho him and my mom are still married. My mom is very good wife but she endured too much. I’m very happy tho. I pray my husband never dies because no one could ever replace him or be this amazing. Men nowadays are scary sometimes. My husband is an actual leader. I trust him with my life and I know he wants the best for us as a family. Lot of men are deceivers and are selfish so they don’t deserve submission cuz they will just ruin the woman with that overlord mentality. My husband listens to me and values my opinion and doesn’t do things that will make me unhappy. He’s not perfect but he is perfect to me. So when men say stuff like they can’t help but cheat. They lie. It’s a choice. A good man won’t do things that he knows hurt you.

[@sensei9084]

Completely agree! I also have a wonderful husband that does so much for our family

[@EvaVanessa100]

I am also happy in marriage. My husband and I are best friends. I got lucky that he had a wonderful father, that taught him how to respect women. I came with a lot of emotional baggage and trauma, that I had to work on.

[@juliebella1221]

"I don't let him do any chores in the house." You're his Mom 2.0, not his wife. Everybody wants someone to do all the chores. He will cheat when he meets a woman and not a Mom 2.0. Desire for a woman and not a Mom will win him over. You're a pickme. Enjoy doing chores for a grown man the rest of your life. That is not "attractive AF." It's weird at best.

[@AI-ch3if]

It seems God has blessed you.

[@Cateyes767]

You know, I always tell my daughter, if she ever wants to get married, check out how the dad treats his mom immediately and preferably only date men who grew up with dads who treated their wife like a queen. Everyone always says, "its how your man treats his momma" sure that is true in SOME cases but what we all should be checking out is how your new man's DAD treats his wife.

[@Keepinglivingintruth]

Men give and woman brings forth. Example. A man provides the seed inorder for the woman to bring forth a child or a man brings home the groceries so the woman could make the meal. So what ever the man gives the woman should multiply. If the man gives disrespect the women will multiply disrespect. If the man love her correctly with respect the good woman would do the same ect. It truly depends on the person.

[@clc5819]

And get rid of love by "race." Why are we so obsessed with "black love?"

[@ivegotmypopcorn3401]

Why are we so obsessed with “ divesting” a man is a man and will treat you well or not so well based on his character, NOT his race.

[@yujuy.1329]

You can weed out at least 50% of failures by not dating bm.

[@nasha4everr310]

@@yujuy.1329Thank you… Choosing better for BW means bypassing at LEAST 60% of the BM walking this Earth…. 😂

[@IndependentPrettyGirlis]

​@@yujuy.1329bingo

[@OneTwo-yw4ij]

@@ivegotmypopcorn3401, That is true! However, BW outnumber BM so not everyone will find "black love." That's just reality. Now, keep in mind, certain behaviors are prevalent among all men. And there are more concentrated negative behaviors that are more prevalent among a smaller demographic of males. BM are a very small minority of the population in the US. Their negative behaviors spread more rapidly among them. In many cases you're looking for a tarnished unicorn. You'll find less variation in smaller populations. Especially, if said group is not use to accountability.

[@abetterlifestyle_24]

I wouldn’t say all are unhappy but I would say most of them are miserable. Just being stuck legally with someone then have to pay money to get away.

[@idreadFell365]

Most probably are

[@lexa_power]

I’m currently single and unhappy…. But not because I don’t love being alone…. I can take or leave having a partner but enjoy having a partner for sure. However, the current state of late stage capitalism in the US has made it so that it’s really impossible to get by on one income so I’d say the root of my unhappiness is just late stage capitalism / inflation / wage stagnation, not horrible men haha. I wish one income was enough to get by comfortably and afford an apartment, because so many of us women wouldn’t even opt in to relationships if there weren’t a glass ceiling and we could get by comfortably on our own. I was unhappy in my marriage as well because I was being treated horrible, so that wasn’t good either. But i won’t sugarcoat it- I’m not a huge fan of the season of singleness. I’m exhausted like all women, and it’s tough to maintain a house and work full time on your own. I don’t know how anyone doing it alone could be happy but God bless them. I’m honestly miserable and exhausted from the current state of things and want a break from the patriarchy and capitalism for even just one day. Better to be single than to be abused, but it definitely seems like a lose lose situation because being single isn’t my cup of tea either. Just wish there was some more good people out there, but thank you for these videos, helps me realize I’m not alone with all of these thoughts.

[@khrisi9410]

I definitely can relate. A lot of women are compensating their income with gig work on weekends or work a few hours after work ie Uber/Door Dash. Realize these men are not helping women out here, many are exploiting women financially and using them for labor and resources. If you decide to get out there and cast your net please vet very carefully.

[@tracyjacksonjackson4221]

Of course not. There are people out there who are well matched and equally yolked. There is happiness in some marriages.

[@UniquaDaBackyardigan]

9:36..what kinda weird 'Not Like Other Girls' credentials was she trying to roll out?🤣

[@Kberry_]

lol 😂I’m married unh😢unhappy, mad n frustrated

[@embluvya]

Remember, the people who leave a review tend to be the ones who either loved it or hated it. Happy married life is usually not that interesting. Happy love stories are boring and peaceful, and usually aren't worth posting on the internet about. Long term successful relationships are not like an exciting romantic movie with huge ups and downs. Happily married women are living their lives, they dont have a big dramatic story to post online the way women who have been mistreated do. I think this gives some of us the impression that everybody out there is experiencing a horrible marriage, when part of it is that people experiencing a horrible marriage are more likely to post about it. That might be part of the reason it feels like everyone is being cheated on and abused.

[@AIG1188]

You 2 have to be friends not co workers