Psychologist on Why 70% of Relationships FAIL Within Year One - #1 Sign That love Won't Last

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New love is easy, staying in love is hard work (believe me!) Today, my homie, Dr. Nicole LePera is joining me for a relationship dive into the complexities that lead to 70% of couples never seeing their 1 year anniversary.
Falling in love is a thrilling ride, but what happens when the adrenaline fades and reality sets in? That's where the majority of relationships hit a snag. Does your relationship feel more like a roller coaster than a peaceful journey? As fun as roller coasters are in the amusement park, you may be addicted to the highs and lows of toxic love, and that’s not fun or healthy in your grown up relationships.
In this episode, Dr. LePera shares valuable tips to help you identify if you're in an incompatible relationship and how to navigate through the emotional minefield. We also discuss why change can be as challenging as squeezing into skinny jeans after Thanksgiving dinner, and how to handle your emotional responses in a healthier way.
If you're struggling with your relationship or just want to understand love better, this episode is a must-watch. So, hit that play button and let's dive in! And if you haven't subscribed yet, do it now so you don’t miss any episodes.
Let’s uncover the truth behind love, relationships, and self-discovery on Women of Impact.
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Chapter Markers:
[00:00] Relationship Red Flags 🚩
[00:14] Roller Coaster Highs 🙌
[07:57] Shameful Love & Emotions 💔
[11:53] Escaping Toxic Love & Rage 😰
[29:07] Swearing Off B.S & Conflict 🚦
[37:50] ‘They Should KNOW Better’ 😜
[49:57] Embrace Your Quirks & Intuition 👀
[1:12:47] Ditch The Family Drama Zone 🚨
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[@LisaBilyeu]

WARNING: I will never ask for your contact info in the comments section, that is someone impersonating me!

[@nadjeschda7633]

Same to you and everyone💖

[@ritacarpinteiro8142]

Lisaaaa are you going to be the one interviewing Irene Lyon??

[@MandyJRoss]

If you're reading this I pray you receive the highest form of love. You deserve the best.💗🙏🏼

[@OneWhoKnowz]

Thank u ❤

[@kathymiller4385]

Thank you, and I pray the same comes to you also.

[@mariami8268]

Amen. Thank you. Wish you the same !!

[@ambition112]

0:00: 💔 Recognizing signs of trouble in a relationship and finding a stable version of love. 11:47: 🔒 Setting boundaries can lead to backlash, but it's important for personal growth and healthy relationships. 22:55: 🔍 The video discusses the tendency to make oneself smaller in relationships as a response to potential love or connection, leading to a loss of self-recognition over time. 34:27: ⚖ Learning conflict resolution skills in adulthood to navigate disagreements and create a path forward that serves both partners. 45:28: ⚖ The video discusses the importance of clear communication and understanding in relationships. 56:47: 🔍 The speaker discusses the importance of trusting and validating one's intuition in a past relationship. 1:08:22: ⚖ Creating a safe and secure environment in a relationship can lead to positive changes and better communication. 1:19:37: 💔 The video discusses the guilt and fear of sending a potentially final email to a loved one, and the importance of holding space for these emotions. 1:31:12: ⏳ Couples discuss and respect each other's different interests and needs for alone time to avoid feeling neglected or dismissed. 1:42:58: ⭐ The importance of speaking up about your needs in a relationship. 1:53:02: 🤝 The purpose of a relationship is to encourage independence and emotional bonding, not to limit independence. 2:03:20: 🤔 The video discusses the challenge of changing someone in a relationship and knowing when to walk away. 2:13:44: 🤔 The speaker discusses the concept of borrowing and letting go in life, and the importance of understanding the 'why' behind our desires. Recapped using Tammy AI

[@lilylelob]

It looks like it’s hyper-complicated and dangerous to be in a relationship. After experiencing more than 10 years married life and 15 happy single-hood I wonder how this psychologist would comment if she experienced the blissful peace of a single life. Why to be in a couple if there are more headaches than positives? I can’t get it.

[@jayl1712]

Wow she is just letting out all this immense wisdom .

[@taniagil3122]

Amazing. Thank you for this podcast.

[@chriskvasnicova]

This is extremely educational and a beautiful extension of Nicole’s published books and workbooks. Thank you Lisa!

[@EnigmasDiary]

Lisa asks reaally good questions! I've noticed that across every interview

[@smith2648]

This woman is an infinite fountain of wisdom. I wish they would play these interviews for teens in highschool.

[@OneWhoKnowz]

This is Absolutely GOLD ‼️‼️‼️ I don’t know who else balled 😭 I’m blown away everything I’ve known my whole life yet experiencing the complete Fckn Opposite wow wow wow thank u for the gift of this episode. I hope we can all lovingly moved to the more de-conditioned self but still holding space to what we learned to be ❤ as we hold on to ourselves as we heal yet stay open to being our whole selves whatever that IS‼️

[@livinmabestlife]

Lovee the psychological aspect. This doesn't get talked about enough

[@jennifernguyen357]

I agree, it’s imperative to teach our children the aspects of how they feel and think so they are aware of how they are being treated and what to accept from others. And for them to have their own mindset of thinking instead of following others for temporary gratification instead teaching them what it takes to have long term friendships and who they choose in their lives that needs to be meaningful. Also the more in depth communication as they grow into their ages and to respect each other and support each other.

[@Fuzzyblossom]

✌️💖🪽🌈🪬🌸

[@cdragon1829]

Thank you Dr.Mandela, I had brain surgery 9 weeks ago today and I really want to get toxins form antibiotics out out my body and needed this as a daily practice. I came home with thrush and it got worse went to my esophagus then my intestines, and then my Colin, so I ended up having Candidiasis! I was totally allergic to the 3 rounds of Ancelf during surgery and then they gave me doxycycline two days after surgery and I was totally allergic to it. I had nine side effects so I am trying to get all these toxins out of my body and get my good bacteria back and I think that doing all this to hand draining my lymph node system is just what I needed very much for detoxing and draining my lymph node system. You are a great demonstrating and easy to follow and remember because it’s not too much info a one time. A Great Big Thank You!!!!

[@JavieraCorrea]

I am SOOOO excited for this interview!!

[@Diana-sb4yl]

Self healers. Circles

[@FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj]

Beautiful ❤️😍❤️

[@FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj]

I was living in toxic turmoil and now am living clean pure better way of living l don't know if all ever go back two my old ways am living way differently now

[@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

Happy to hear of your growth! congrats ❤

[@SunnyinHTX]

I’ve needed to hear every second of this video 🙏🏼💖 sending peace love and light to everyone

[@josiepalmer6240]

Lisa, Thank you for asking the question “how to know the difference between real emotion and gaslighting?” I find that this is a common question I ask myself… it’s a struggle for me to decipher the difference between the two, I am often left wondering if I am “damaged”, believing the opinion of the person I love… but also fighting something else within me… Haven’t been able to articulate it to myself or out-loud yet. Thank you for all your words of wisdom, different insights, and motivating self confidence.❤

[@jennas.9063]

I LOVEEEEE this lady. I always watch her and Dr. Ramani ❤

[@artifundio1]

Oh yes! ❤

[@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

two legends ❤

[@andreaholmquist5281]

I❤Nicole & Lisa!! Thank you both for sharing your light.💛

[@rcz2023]

Thank you!

[@Escapingabuse101]

I think its because everyone has the perfect picture of the ideal partner and jus falls for the fascade then when they are deep in the relationship and see their partners true color, they realise its not what they want

[@cherylannebarillartist7453]

IF a partner is able to understand the other is reacting to some trauma that happened in their past, it is NOT ours to attempt to fix. The same if it is our own trauma. We can only help guide them to the clarity of 👉This is where professional help is needed. IF either of you knew HOW to do it differently you’d already be doing that. Get the help. And if the other is not willing to do that you then have to make a decision for yourself. Our well-being and eventually our physical health too, are NOT the price we pay for a relationship. And then too, get the help.

[@karynwebster6384]

This is such a great episode!! Thank you!

[@Imskyhighy]

I blew up, because she would call me from a private number. Promised me she would come 3 days in a row. For me it’s about her not keeping her word. Then blowing up my phone but when I do it it’s a problem.

[@nilepearl1997]

21:10 well said

[@MamaMilkBubbles]

Omgggg!!! You got Nicole on the show 🎉❤ yaaaay this is going to be great. Take notes, everyone!

[@johnjosiah8839]

Girl your 'accent' ❤😊

[@FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj]

I won't never be the same that l don't know

[@johnjosiah8839]

🔥

[@heckyesitsjess84]

"Facts are stubborn things." 😊

[@theforensicbadass]

I've been completely alienated from my own three grandchildren for expressing my boundaries for safety peace and security. The punishment of seeing my beautiful grandchildren used as weapons and turned against their Memaw was nothing less than heart wrenching. There seems to be a cruelty and a punishment for any woman to be able to express her needs for safety, and that's been going on for millennia. I think Society is groomed to react in defensiveness.

[@FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj]

I shame myself alot when l was living toxic

[@joanmu1053]

This woman is not breathing while talking

[@FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj]

I was in a lot of unhealthy situations toxic turmoil relationship's before l don't know why l was ever in a toxic relationship

[@melissasmess2773]

💯they only last a year and I am done with relationships and all their BS 💩👋🏻

[@FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj]

I got almost on year soberity

[@rahmasamir909]

I have high values if the man cross my boundries one time I say bye good Luck

[@nj3195]

Sorry you lost me on the supporting the erroneous emotional perspective, because the person is going through a phantom trauma in a relationship ( actually felt or not) that no longer exists. I won’t support the negative bias of the trauma or be a crutch in any way to that old pattern. I want my partner to grow new emotional limbs that can learn trusts so they gain the independence to build real boundaries on their own, and not just psycho babble that is not a path but a crutch for a traumatized person who doesn’t know how to make new patterns. I don’t support emotions related to my partner’s feelings related to this trauma. I need my partner to take the risk of trust and I reward them with my words matching my actions. I’m intuitive and consistent to create trust in my partner’s.

[@FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj]

I feel like l have been startled by a lot of folks l don't understand why l was ever living like that childhood wounds and my toxic lust life . This religious stuff two this god and devil thing it's just l don't know what to believe about alot of things

[@rupinderrandhawa5485]

🙏😘🥀❤️

[@LightWork4444]

That vocal fry is CRAZY!!

[@louisa4012]

Omg I know I couldn’t watch the video her vocal fry is so distracting

[@towritemichelle210]

I like it! Different strokes

[@LightWork4444]

@@towritemichelle210 I thinks it's very attractive in a way 😎

[@karadaniel6334]

I feel bad for her, but I think it would be helpful for her to work on that. It is very distracting and very hard to listen to.

[@ciggytwiggy]

What is a vocal fry

[@samsamsam82]

Mind twisting. Do this don’t do that say this don’t say that. 🥴

[@ClusterB-Magnet]

Am I the only one thinking... WTF is Nicole even trying to say? She seems to be glorifying her recovery from lets just say a "difficult" personality type.. lol. For Example.. My partner better have the dishes done and hot meal on the plate when I get home or else Im going to give them the silent treatment and stonewall them? WTF? Or she had to restrain her instincts to "dominate and control" in order to listen to her internal whatever? WTF?? Or in her last family story her natural instincts were to blame her partner for her internal distress?? Sorry Lisa but you shouldnt have fawned on this woman so much. It was slightly disturbing. Id be mortified if she was my "hollistic" psychologist 😂

[@Fuzzyblossom]

I think it's all insiteful+ she did remind me ov my X's mens attitude in my life, @ least she's learnt, I can honestly say all males in my life wudnt even want to change, ..just change partners to a more submissive un Woke new female, so growth is only positive if Ur prepared to self reflect+ try to learn+ understand, I'm going to single forever out ov choice now as I'm not prepared to teach support wait for a new partner to choose to grow emotionally ever again, less triggers+ headwork, I'm not bitter I'm just not wasting my life+ compassion nomore✌️💖🪽🪬🌸

[@FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj]

My sister Kim is way two controlling her attitude stinks she wants the best for me