Radhi Shetty on How to STOP Beating Yourself Up, and START LOVING Yourself Unconditionally

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Anything can set you off when you are feeling emotionally raw and trapped within your stress, frustration, or personal doubt. Yet, when you try to hold those emotions in, projecting an air of stability, you likely feel even more unstable. Radhi Devlukia Shetty joins me in this episode and opens up to all the vulnerabilities and insecurities we experience as women. We explore being emotional, and how healthy and freeing it is to have emotional release so you are not storing those emotions in your body.
SHOW NOTES:
Estrogen | Radhi on the symptoms and way she’s dealing with high estrogen levels [0:38]
Support | Recognizing when you’re emotional or just need a little more support [3:17]
Being Emotional | Why crying isn’t a weakness and permission to sit with your sadness [5:34]
Emotional Release | Radhi on value of allowing emotions to move through and out of you [8:06]
Trapped Emotions | Advice on how to release trapped emotions as a routine practice [11:49]
Meltdowns | Radhi on feeling overwhelmed and not knowing what to do out of frustration [16:11]
Pressure | Feeling pressure like you “should” be good at everything and processing that [21:17]
Comparison | Radhi breaks down how detrimental it can be to your person growth [23:26]
Weakness | Radhi shares how powerful it can be to use your weaknesses to grow [27:19]
Self Doubt | Radhi’s evolution, not allowing it to turn into self destructive behavior [34:12]
Future Stuck | Radhi & Lisa discuss being stuck by future expectation & fear of unknown [38:18]
Conflict & Pain | Radhi on the healing we block when we hurt and try hurting others [42:17]
Self Control | Radhi explains why self control is a daily practice and having freedom in it [48:16]
Being Proud | Radhi & Lisa discuss the angles of feeling pride and celebrating yourself [50:00]
QUOTES:
“Whether you're getting a high from a happy thing, or a low from something that's made you sad, treat them equally. Allow them to feel those emotions equally, because actually, one is not better than the other.” [6:13]
“Even if you want to cry alone, don't see it as a weakness. See it as something that's making you stronger and happier in some way.” [7:41]
“Any emotions trapped in your body, anything mental trapped in your body is going to physically manifest in some way” [9:22]
“Exactly how I do with exercise now, exactly how I see with working out, exactly how I see journaling, exactly how I see my meditation, I see releasing of emotion being just as important. [...] energy is not meant to be stagnant in your body.” [11:16]
“If you just think of one thing that you're good at, and you realize that one thing actually does make you feel very happy, the rest is just bonuses.” [25:52]
“if your weaknesses are something that you really are fixated on, and that you want to change, and you really feel is preventing you from progressing in some way, take one weakness a week, take one weakness a month, however long it takes you to feel like you're a little bit more in control of it, you're a little bit better at it, then you were.” [28:02]
“belief in yourself is what you exude out of yourself, like what people feel the energy that they feel when they're around you. It's everything that you are feeling about yourself within you.” [33:25]
“I really have found so much growth in terms of doubting myself, but also so much growth which has come from the process of doubting myself.” [35:05]
“I don't think self doubt is a negative thing, as long as you are trying to figure out ways to and using it as a platform for further growth.” [35:20]
“...a lot of us use our past to keep us stuck but what we don't realize is, we use our future to keep us stuck.” Lisa Bilyeu [38:22]
“Whatever I'm giving out to people, it's not only what they're receiving is what's being created inside of me, which means I'm choosing to create the energy within me to give out. I can't give out anything that's not already within me.” [43:19]
“So pain and giving out pain is never going to heal your heart from the pain that you're feeling, you're gonna have to heal that, and you're going to have fend through that pain and, and really learn how to digest it, recycle it in a way that it's coming out of you in something better.” [45:56]
“Yes the work is done by me but that work is supported through the nourishment that I receive through my teachers, through nature, through my parents, through the person that I randomly meet that inspires me.” [53:22]
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[@nawaldoghri]

“The more I say things that I’m not actually sticking to, the less integrity I am living with” ✨ This one hit hard 🙏

[@senan13]

I love what you said about crying as a release and trapped emotions manifesting physically. That's exactly why I give my kids space to cry and release their feelings without shutting it down. They are always so much lighter and happier after a good cry. But then again aren't we all?

[@charlottewhite1277]

Absolutely

[@Frussian40]

You are a good mom. A lot of parents don’t tolerate crying. 🥲

[@debramcmartin905]

It's great to.let your kids cry.

[@thiroknanic7016]

This really spoke to me, im older now but i came to realize it was important to heal myinner child to better love those around me including myself and i think that a healthy amount of crying is okay and it helps you to reflect on things (when you make time for it )that i never got to before in this busy world, and it takes a while sometimes

[@NathalieLazo]

Dear lovely person that's reading this, we may not know each other but I wish you all the best in life! ✨ I believe in you! Love - Nat ❤️

[@CianTAllen]

Right back at you beloved.

[@sophieganneshofer8720]

I wish you the same!!

[@beam8250]

Right back atcha!!! How sweet of you!!! Thank you.

[@NathalieLazo]

@@CianTAllen Thank you, Cian, I receive that :) You are so loved by many

[@NathalieLazo]

@@sophieganneshofer8720 Thank you so much, Sophie! You're the best! :)

[@CianTAllen]

This reminds me when I'm Journaling or meditating and then I start crying. At first I didn't understand it, but then I understand that this is emotions that needs to be released. I'm not alarmed anymore when I cry, I now feel good because I understand it.

[@Frussian40]

Someone give Lisa a television show 🙏. EVERY episode is so impactful. 💟☮️

[@anyangthiep8802]

I truly agree with Radhi for saying not to keep our emotion inside, but to let it out and bawl our eyes out and have ugly cry. I do that all the time whèn I have a ugly cry after that I feel much better. It's helpful and healing it's reliefs stress completely.

[@anayagrant3609]

Yes, I have learned how to accept all my emotions whether I want to experience them or not. If I have to cry,I cry. I realize trying to suppress the emotions prolong the pain I feel. However, when I just "sit" in my feelings, they are organically released from my emotional body.

[@ArtByHazel]

Yasss! At some point we all have moments of “I didn’t like myself.” Crying 😭 is cleansing for the soul. I’m so glad and grateful that I shifted old beliefs about vulnerability and weaknesses. It’s just emotions and energies trapped in our body. That’s it. Removing the drama of from it all is easier these days rather than making it wrong or right. I feel lighter now because I released everything that no longer serves me. Blessings to whoever is reading this. It’s okay to cry and be sad. ❤️

[@Manchestergirl54]

Love Radhi,she is such an HONEST and OPEN person.Thanks for having such GREAT guests Lisa.

[@luisaa.7906]

49:00 nailed it, as Jocko Willink says: "discipline is freedom"

[@CrystleSky]

I love these two souls your both inspiring, I started my KZbin channel it's not like your channel but you inspire me a bunch to start it. Your both really inspirational and encouraging to be our best selves. We have to be gentle and compassionate to our own selves. 💖💞✨🐎🐎🐎🐎

[@shikastormcrow6224]

We can all relate to Radhi and Lisa so much! Thank you so much for this, it's super relieving and reassuring knowing we're not alone in feeling what we do and thinking how we do. Thank you Radhi and Lisa!

[@oarabileminkymoilwa1370]

Radhi Shetty is full of wisdom. Love her honesty.

[@seanagardner-fader4310]

You're (lisa's) comment about being proud of yourself and how hard it is for you to say out loud, woah that hit home. It definitely struck something in me. I struggle with this, why is it so hard, and "bad" to say "yea, I am proud of myself", why should we feel ashamed to say that about ourselves. Why is it perceived as bad to have confidence in ourselves, and to own our successes.

[@anchalpanwardance8157]

She is so genuine and real... Super relatable.... Love radhi

[@urmilav2050]

I've been waiting for this so long!! Luv u both! ♥️

[@mella_butter]

Thank you so much for this. I am glad I'm not the only one so far from family, feeling anxiety, crying a lot. This is needed. I will go get my levels checked out asap.

[@agatharankin3376]

Yes, releasing of emotions is so good for us even though we don't always want to do it. It's a spiritual thing also. We tend to hold on to so much but God knows it's great to release those emotions especially if they are negative and if they are holding us back. It helps us to be able to move forward and not stay stuck in that negative place. I love Radhi's teachings and that she tells us to meditate and journal to help us understand ourselves more. Something I need to work on a lot more.

[@monikaazariah9237]

What you said about crying is sooo relatable...of late I've been crying a lot...missing my dad who I lost 2 years back....it's a huge release of emotions and it also heals ! We have to flow through our emotions

[@jonesfamily4465]

Omg my mind is not an organized place..I would have never been able to explain this to anyone how I feel..Radhi is really speaking my life

[@theash333]

Absolutely love this ❤️ she's so pure, you can see the positivity and light shine through 💛 Love what she said about channelising self-doubt and using it as a tool to grow yourself 👏

[@mariepayraud7788]

She’s so relatable I love her!

[@petaashton4301]

Loved it girls! So glad you covered all those important points! Definitely resonated with me as I have been working so so hard in those areas for a while. Celebrating yourself I need to do that more also. Thanku powerful ladies. Have an amazing day!❤🙏

[@lucian1607]

Thank you for having this conversation!

[@vibinnhi4u]

I am so happy to have watched this video...thank you...two incredibly proud and self aware ladies that are gonna turn the world on its head!!!

[@Jessica-jl6nn]

Thank you so much for all you do ladies💗🙏 You both are saving me and helping me heal❤!

[@xandra9107]

Radhi and Lisa, thanks for the inspo. I figured out the one weakness to work on for a week. Love that concept of breaking things down and shaking up the way we look at it. Really a great interview 👍 💛👏

[@booth9553]

What an eye opening, inspiring and delightful talk. I love it. Thank you.

[@debramcmartin905]

I think it's so important to have a good cry when needed. I cry often. Sometimes it's hard to keep myself from crying.

[@rayandsammy]

Rhadhi are doing well showing people its okay to share emotions. This has helped me so much in my relationship

[@karolinawyrzykowska3574]

A beautiful interview. Thank you. So many things resonated. I agree with Lisa, Rhadi is very uplifting and it's a joy to listen to her. Thank you again. Karolina

[@keishawilliams6460]

This video 😍 was a God send. Released a lot of pain through tears listening to this. Thank you for the wonderful work you are doing ❤️

[@PinkZePeony0]

I totally get the unorganized mind but being so creative 🙌🏻 it is something I have to work on as well ! Thank you for saying this truth about yourself which makes me not feel alone lol

[@drishtik6355]

I love radhi.. Wow.. Soo happy to see her.. She is inspiration for us all.. Thank you for bringing her back. ❤❤❤

[@krissyaguilar1814]

Yes ! Every time I have a good cry a few minutes later I feel lighter , stronger and empowered , it’s weird but it’s been helping me

[@anjanabenitha]

This is the second time I've watched one of your videos. Both times with this woman as a guest. I love your conversation. Both times I really learned something I can do in my own life but the commercials are driving me crazy. That's the sad part.

[@hopeful9160]

You both are freaking awesome!! I can't wait too buy your book, im thinking about writing one as well.

[@corinabalaceanu6774]

Great interactive interview ladies! Being proud about ourselves is actually linked with our worthiness and not our ego. It’s not about pride, it’s about Praise. The meaning we give to our words is running our mind and self talk all the time. If the meaning we give to our words keeps us stuck in same self defeating cycle, then change the meaning and you’ll be able to change the narrative till becomes ingrained in our brain. Let’s praise ourselves, be proud and celebrate small wins to boost our self esteem, self worth and confidence. That’s Self Love. When I get out of my old way and handle a situation using a different lens and approach than I’ve used to, I catch and tell myself “that was good, that was so good I wanna kiss myself”😁

[@meruyertbalgabek]

Loved that - convert pain to love. This is one of the best interviews I have watched on KZbin. The interviewer is also so sincere and present. Thank you 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻💕

[@shikastormcrow6224]

*"Be the hero of your own life."* ~ Lisa Bilyeu p.s. really love how all the key quotes are listed in the vid description with timestamps to boot! Amazing, thank you so much

[@recoverywithlee2591]

Questioning our self-doubts is key in the preventing a return to past harming behaviors, it gauges over confidence, which can breach progress.

[@GadgetsGearCoffee]

I talked about that in my self-care video actually, totally agree how it's "easier" but will make you feel worse to stay in that depression hole. It'll be painful and work to get out of it but so worth it in the long run because eventually you'll be out of that depression hole and above ground and will start thriiiiiiiving!

[@Bexinja]

I hope so. 🙏

[@janettemccuien4249]

Prayer is the key

[@anushas2654]

Feel really glad to watch this show with Radhi Mam as guest....I could find so much transformation in terms of energy, boldness and confident than the the show I watched last, with same Radhi mam as guest...Thank you for sharing it..

[@lailap.d]

BEAUTIFUL conversation!

[@ArtByHazel]

Ahhh! Thank you. I feel seen. Divorcing from the negative energies trapped in my body and the old program, beliefs about myself gave me back my freedom to love the real me I rejected and abandoned for so long. What a blessing to be consciously aware. Thank you for sharing this inspirational conversation. Blessings everyone. ❤️

[@mayakingz6454]

I felt that

[@mirelladlima5278]

it's okay to feel sad. it's okay to cry. yes it is a release of pent up feelings and emotions and after a good cry, one does feel lighter and one feels sort of done with that issue. Tks Radhe for being so sincere, honest and down to earth. Tks Lisa for teaching us so many valuable lessons.🤗🙏

[@mirelladlima5278]

Yes Lisa. Radhe is so articulate, so sincere and so uplifting, and it's easy to identify with her as she shares her thoughts in a way that is easy to relate to as a woman. Tks🤗💗🙏

[@barbaraalmeida4634]

Love you, bad ass Lisa! Radhi... always so surprising to see how you allows yourself to be vulnerable. And that you haven´t all figured out, just yet!! Congrats to both!

[@niqi7027]

Really needed this today, thank you for the insightful discussion!

[@radhidevlu]

💛💛💛💛

[@cynthramir333]

GOSH! Radhi is sooo beautiful! Love her eyes and her style

[@ohmtimrod5927]

Thank you! I love how you explain the process of releasing the negative energy! it works with me too. :)

[@radhidevlu]

💛💛💛💛

[@ohmtimrod5927]

@@radhidevlu ❤❤❤❤

[@immersivestudyandliving4272]

Thanks for giving me permission to cry without feeling bad about myself. Now listening song “Every time I cry, I get a little bit stronger” by Ava Max 💪🏼💪🏼.

[@samdasuleiman73]

Only podcast I listen ever single time I get chance thanks for you both you are really inspiring

[@wendylaxton3777]

Wow what a podcast Lisa. I got so much out of this one I will be watching it again and again. Lisa you Rock too. Congratulations on your book too. 💜

[@radhidevlu]

💛💛💛💛

[@alixvillat2946]

The way Radhi articulates things and put them into prospective (hers) is inspiring and nourishing. The duo Radhi/Lisa is good 👍

[@illuminata8097]

Thank you for this video.. I learned a lot.

[@nafisatsuleiman4628]

Thank you so much for this

[@moonlight_557]

Yeah i feel the same ❤️...it really thought me that it's ok to cry ...allow yourself to realise your emotions....

[@texaSteffi]

Totally resonated! Love this!

[@poojithar9731]

I love both of you 💖 Rafi you’re the most genuine human beings I’ve come across

[@elsjemassyn8921]

Wonderful interview I loved the information its so practical makes so much sense

[@erinfinnan4239]

I am so glad to have stumbled on this video. Wow, Radhi you are a gem💎

[@ishikaagarwal7065]

She is just so inspiring ❤

[@LisaBilyeu]

What lesson on self-love will you try and implement immediately? Did you hear?!? I am writing a book!! To sign up and stay in the know on all things go to: lisabilyeu.com/

[@jordanmcdaniel1398]

so good - THANK YOU

[@ilmashukoor1427]

Woah nice episode!

[@queensoniah2056]

I was balling at the gym when this video popped up! I sooo needed to hear this. Thank you!

[@radhidevlu]

Ahhhh I hope it helped in some way 💛💛💛

[@charlineorozco]

🔥🔥💕

[@angalmeida29]

What’ a fantastic duo ! Thanks girls

[@Paty19Rosa]

I'm a Scorpion so all the time I'm defending myself (even when it's not an attack) and I want the other person to feel what I'm feeling. And I notice that but I haven't found a way to change it. And when you said that in order to give something (ex: anger) you have to creat it within yourself first and that is horrible for the world and for you...damn, it hit me! If I have to spent energy creating and giving an emotion, I rather creat something positive.

[@punchlores5760]

My favourite in 'The Chair'🤩

[@rainbowpeapod2796]

she's so beautiful inside and out. it's hard being human 💜💜💜

[@asjpeace4052]

Great episodes a must watch

[@hananusmn4555]

I love how she walked us through the process the way people like me can relate to. . She made it sound sooo doable. Thank you. That’s beautiful. ❤️

[@mirelladlima5278]

yes Radhe you are so right. One needs to set the intention and mindset that today is going to be a bit better in my relationship because I set the intention and create the mindset and I have agency to call on that intention. This empowers me to have a handle on the way the day turns out, it's up to me. Tks👏🤗🙏

[@sunvavachi]

I wonder if the ad could be placed in the beginning of the video? I find it distracting when listening to the podcast. Fantastic episode though, so real and the dynamic of it was great.

[@pamelaramirez4541]

Radhi just emanate beautiful energy!! Not sure what it is but she is an amazing soul... 🤗 those people that you just want to be friend with hehe

[@petaashton4301]

So glad she's back! Two amazing gals right here! X

[@minalitalreja]

This one is exceptionally good :D

[@ishitamalik8638]

You ladies are wonderful! Absolutely adore the person in you and everything you do in the world! Thank you both for being such great inspiration. Always. Hopefully can be and do the same some day :)

[@belle2263]

I switch between your channel and your husbands. Both do a great job and interesting topics. I just love all of it!!! Better than commercial tv thats for sure. I love your personality....so happy, warm and friendly!!!!

[@sarahlorenz901]

From a neurological point of view, living and “releasing” negative emotions reinforces them during that point in time - which has direct physical reactions . Something to be aware of. Despite that, living them might give that sense of gratification that can relief you and move forward

[@lf29854]

Radhi you are Amazing thank you so much for this talk you help me a lot send you love from argentina 🌸💖🤗

[@artbygilik]

Love this conversation. I'm also a vegan chef and I'm a crier. Back when I owned my restaurant I was so burned out that I'd literally get in my car and cry every night. I'm now in self care and repair mode but grateful for the experience. Love this conversation and how genuine she is

[@vbiddy]

I always feel better when I cry.

[@investingwithkat]

Wowwwww !! " how can you keep Breaking your word to yourself and still belief in yourself" wow!!!!!

[@ownimprovements7517]

I love both these ladies so much 🥰 I'm a cryer too 🤷🏼‍♀️😂❤️

[@autumnrosa]

I would love an interview between you and Sheleana Aiyana of Rising Woman.

[@dianaadhdchannel]

She had me at the orange slice earrings 🙌

[@bibbiya]

I love Radhi so much 😍💜

[@muelitassasg]

Hi Lisa, I have a minor hearing deficiency wondering if you can enable the CC for this video, :), Thank you

[@rokhanariaz1394]

i wish to be on your show one day lisa

[@dianasamuel8942]

Crying simply allows me to feel it’s a beautiful thing believe it or not.

[@Oshe465]

Radhi, you are Love.

[@gimashacelineedirisinghe6379]

Love her ♥️

[@alaakamal2870]

Finally, Radhi is back 😍

[@nataliereuben4276]

What do you do if you miss someone and you can not ever see them again because they have died and you are grieving them. What actions can you take because you won't see n can't see them ever again. My best friend lost her mum she's really missing her she can't ring her and tell her because she's passed away so I suggested she just talk to her because she is shining down from heaven and listening the same with God n jesus. I told her to just talk to them and cry it out. I totally agree with you the releasing is so healthy.

[@TheImperfectReader]

I am no alone...omg

[@mesi724]

i agree wz u about crying but now my eyes ....i cant tell u girls watch out

[@thisisold.newchannelmagdal3778]

This interviewer has even better interviewing skills than her husband … impressed.

[@naturaltress5774]

🖤