Ya'll We being Gaslit : Blackfishing, Nicki Minaj, & Colorism

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[@kendallglover2830]

I have a white father and a very dark black mother and I remember the day that my younger brother was born and he came out with a darker complexion and the nurse literally said "Don't worry, he'll lighten up later." 🤮🤮 This was in Canada.

[@nyangumbewe2885]

Omg that’s horrible 😯

[@DieezahArts]

Not only was that horrible but in most cases it is incorrect. The one thing that may happen is when the baby has a spot on their body with a concentration of melanin (like my eldest who had their backside so dark it was almost blue while the rest of them was whitish/pinkish) it typically lightens over time, but it's just that spot. Other than that, black babies who were born dark remain dark and those who were born pale or white-looking typically darken as they age and their "real color" starts showing when they start being old enough to play outside a lot. Living in a tropical climate, you won't see much variation after that until much later in life (or if sickness comes along). In a country like Canada, there will be variations in hue depending on the season but nothing huge. I can't believe the ignorance, especially from folks in the medical field...

[@LadyVanilla3000]

Wow… What race was this Nurse?

[@iBeJuicenallday]

@@DieezahArts nothing like having a doctor try to diagnose me and doesn't realize my skin doesn't change color when irratated. He was actually a pretty darker skinned man just nowhere dark as me to know... I guess he had never had a darker skinned friend or family member in his life too know something so simple. Yet has a 9 year college degree. kinda odd.

[@iamwinklebottom]

Omfgggggggg......!!!! Grosss!!!

[@sunnyshayv]

nicki could have any man in the world, but she chose a known sex offender. the worst part though is her attempts to silence the victim.

[@shimmerandshineee]

Yeah and she even defended Tekashi when he was grooming underage girls

[@khlikb8796]

The free form locs…..the white eye brows 😍🥰✨ you are a gem ! Thank you for the commentary !

[@Imanibtch]

Black fishing is really weird for me. I’m black and didn’t grow up in predominantly black neighborhoods but I’m almost positive people would accuse me of being mentally ill if I suddenly developed a Hispanic accent, and threw myself a quince…

[@iBeJuicenallday]

exactly...

[@itumelengthokwane8960]

🙂

[@snappingturtlehiddentiger6571]

And ‘threw myself a quince’ lasttttttttttt omg 😂😂😂😂😂😂 BRILLIANT!!!! No no no that’s effen hysterical

[@zaneashur9269]

Ouu this comment right here... Somebody help me blow up this comment right herrre bc wtf... I just pictured this and immediately felt a gross churning in my stomach y'all are weird for that fr fr and it's been so normalized that it I just overlook it atp but like, y'all siqqqqq frrr😭

[@alexish8183]

Supporting celebrities is an extreme sport at this point.

[@mayowasworld]

LMAO

[@brib6046]

I really appreciate your commentary on this, especially the nuances you bring up like the mixed fishing and aspirations to be biracial

[@nonah7675]

You mentioned, "Why not collab with Bree Runway?" and that shifted my perspective from "Nicki is annoying" to "Nicki is trash". It just clicked into place all the excuses she has for the bad behavior of those in her circle, and yet I can't think of a single time she tried to bring another black woman up with her.

[@grassfedcharlie]

Isn’t Jesy the same girl who stayed shut when the actual black girl of the group was getting racist slander from “fans?”

[@christinagriffin5154]

Yes and Nicki went for that actual Black woman (Leanne) for liking a video calling out Jesy backfishing… calling her jealous. It’s a mess.

[@naomiwilliams8850]

There aren't any Black girls in the group

[@user-qt7qn7yk2f]

@@naomiwilliams8850 yup, she’s a mixed-breed

[@TheTribalized]

@@user-qt7qn7yk2f just mixed is fine. breed is usually used in animal context

[@user-qt7qn7yk2f]

@@TheTribalized ok thx for informing me, English isn’t my first language so i thought these were synonyms.♥️

[@noia888]

that part about affirming us that nothing is wrong with us is so important! It feels like watching a car crash and people ignoring it

[@yanara6333]

I like your talk because you flow and keep it concise while still delivering your point. No crazy jump cuts. Also cute makeup

[@mayowasworld]

aww this is the sweetest comment thank you!!!

[@marnadanyelle]

Love your videos. BTW your hair and eyebrows look gorgeous

[@mayowasworld]

thank you love!

[@CarloGonzalezTV]

I was told that Black-fishing is costuming being “Black-ish” or “Black-adjacent”. My understanding is the goal with it is for non-Black people to never be seen as *only* Black, but, borrow and benefit from the objectification that Black people can’t escape/choose to take off. Like any other word though, definitions change overtime and take on a new collective meaning. That was just the one example I was personally given. I really enjoyed this video, I got a lot of insight from it. I hope you’re well ☀️

[@AfroBoi14]

Ugh I’m just so grateful for your videos ❤️. Your commentary is on point as always.

[@mayowasworld]

aw thank you!!

[@equilibrium76]

I very much agree!!!

[@stateyourthesis]

This shit is bananas. My momma said one day they were gonna outright try to be us. 7:05 also that's why they get to the top bc they are okay with the bullshit.

[@munirayussuf1032]

👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏

[@nopalesconfrijoles]

👏👏👏

[@chocolate_cosmos]

Well, black men (in the US) have been saying that they can create black children with non black women 🤔 It's just strange, delusional and dangerous. Black women need to gatekeep our blackness.

[@brib6046]

You are always delivering makeup looks but I love this look today! It’s like a blend between 1920’s and 1990’s and I love it! I also love the color of your top!

[@ayuanathesinger]

Yes black fishing is VIOLENT! Uhg thank you for yet another video hitting all the points. We hear you and we agree. Thank you beautiful!💓💓💓

[@nebulamars1488]

YESSS Bree Runway is sooooo f**king talented, p.s. love your looks and vids

[@125loopy]

I get so happy when I see her mentioned. It's a travesty that she isn't more popular.

[@AlllyEatsVav]

I feel like being Black feels good to people when it comes to being biracial or some other ethnicity as long as the skin is not black..other than the original Black Women...That's why other races can be seen as cool and pull the black card and next thing you know they go viral and start making millions.

[@luci8497]

I still don't get why Nicki did the collaboration. The song & video weren't great & you'd think someone of her success level wouldn't be trowing away features like that.

[@MelaninBae90]

The Label they share, made the feature a contractual thing.

[@luci8497]

@@MelaninBae90 That's messed up

[@Pheeebz707]

the intro song speaks to my soul

[@beautyandfashion1563]

your commentary NEVER disappoints! you’re always on the money! the gaslighting is so crazy. i love this eye look and the eyebrows, you look amazing💛

[@shaktiashok07]

I'm soo glad I really never got into Nikki because she's been a hot ass mess ..as always your on the money

[@38dd]

you never miss

[@KKKtrucky2]

The first thing you said was everything for me because I have been arguing that point four years!... I love Ari Lennox and she dropped a new song and video on the same day that Chloe Haley dropped a new song and video. And I noticed that even though both songs are good Chloe has Beyonce and Jay-Z behind her with all of their money and all of their resources so it received a harder put I don't even follow her and that s*** was in my mentions no less than 10 times. Somehow because I like Ari Lennox new song and video Chloe's video was recommended to me over and over again. Some artists are not as popular and it's never because they lack Talent it's because they don't have the same marketing management and money behind them.

[@mayowasworld]

yuppp exactly what you said thanks for pointing that out.

[@jordysworld2799]

Watching this at 5am 😅 getting ready for work.

[@kimberlynmccarthy2884]

I've been off the grid for a while, but I'm glad I logged on. I love hearing your point of view. P.s love the brows.🥰

[@tinkhix]

I LOVE your channel!!! Thank you thank you thank you for the education!! ❤❤

[@hersupreme3348]

So grateful for your content!!!!!!

[@loveheals6184]

FACTS

[@Assata111]

Side note: your face!! Those white eyebrows, your hair- girl everything! Flawless. Absolutely gorgeous 😮❤️

[@mzilla911]

Showing support 🥰

[@spacekatipk2175]

You tellin' the truth.

[@nataliab3883]

Your pdiddy comment is definitely in the works now wow

[@GoGetFree]

Someone has the courage to say it and it is Mayowa!!!

[@Jasminejupiterjuice]

I don't follow celebs but this was still affirming for me.

[@joehendrix600]

You are so right!

[@jahmekmi2165]

Lol...girl. I love your point of view

[@blessednotstressed2739]

I’m at a point where I’m just not stabbing celebrities. I like to listen to to commentaries about events regarding celebrities because I believe those events say a lot about our current society. I was over Nicky after the rainbow guy who says the n word. Also I agree that those women are trying to look racially ambiguous but they do so with styles rooted in black culture such as box braids, Bantu knots, feed in braids/cornrows, etc so that’s why I say black fishing. They’re using that ambiguous look to justify appropriating alot of elements of black culture. Anyway I love your channel. ❤️

[@missdigioia]

You out here making me think I want coloured brows 😩🤪 maybe green.

[@JB-nw1ix]

I enjoy listening to your perspective but have a couple of controversial views. We as black women participate in our own cancellation. (1) We actively support the bi racial women and the black men that elevate them. I think that black fishing wouldn’t be as much of a thing if there wasn’t money to be made from it and part of that money is the money BW use to support. (2) We include in our group people who are not black and people who are not women, and then get surprised when they feel entitled to our space. I prickled every time you referred to non-men as though the only groups are men and non men. I have never heard you refer to non women. I think that type of thinking also contributes to our erasure as black women.

[@moviechick007]

Everyday, all day.

[@Daijxo]

Have you been in my head? Lol

[@doll.ov.poetrii4682]

Truuuuue

[@soukeynaadeleseck]

You are absolutely correct! I got dragged on Instagram for telling people that Biracial does not mean Black! If you are biracial you are mixed not just one race.

[@RT-pj7tc]

I agree that the term non men isn't ideal but I think that women, non binary individuals and other gender minorities share a common experience of being cast aside. I think tags what she meant.

[@JM-gm1te]

❤ at the goddess brows

[@c.c.292]

Its getting hard for Jessi's friends to talk about it to her since the whole ciberbullying and body shaming she's been through, I think that why people are nonchalant to call her out because of this whole hatred of herself she had, depression and suicide attempts ect.. It wasn't Nicky's place to talk for her or defend her I think we all saw how she was harassed and how she lost a lot of weight and did a lot of surgeries, this matter should have been addressed by her and she should listen to her friends rather that Nicky 's weird logic

[@afrocurly_Selena]

I'm not surprised Niki stepped in to support jesy...I mean look she's a black women who calls herself Barbie

[@sinceresong9907]

I have no idea what this is all about, but I'm from the UK I don't like either females.

[@dreameva1400]

She's not black she's still biracial

[@astrogirl2675]

@@dreameva1400 Nicki is a light skin black women her parents are black her grand parents are black she comes from the west indie heritage of Trinidad and Tobago

[@Chatchann]

@@astrogirl2675 light skin? She been bleaching but she never been light skinned. She’s brown skinned.

[@astrogirl2675]

@@Chatchann forgive my eyes never been super into her so I wouldn’t know lol

[@munirayussuf1032]

Oh my God I just want to say thank you . I have been saying the same thing

[@datsquisheeboi]

im glad you brought up her catalog because she has been instrumental in white women rebranding themselves through the tough bad sassy black caricature used to signify a change in sound or looks. Ariana, Katy, Jessy. Meanwhile, Black non-men (including gay people because of the stigma of gayness stripping you of your gender) come few and far between on her catalog. She goes out of her way to beef with other Non white female rappers. Tearing them down and using mysogynoir then turning around and calling out other people for it.

[@AnnaCatherineB]

I wanna buy yer music and idk how. Thanks for this video ❤️❤️ you're so beautiful

[@imaniife5437]

White women want to be "black passing" for profit only. I agree that dark skin women have a harder time getting the same kind of support that lighter women get. I get your point by mentioning Doja but keep in mind that she was making music for about 8 years before she was noticed, she's still pretty young. All of her popular songs that we hear now are over 5 years old. I don't think she got a break due to being biracial. There are many who have for sure. I fall in the middle of the brown spectrum but if there's a lighter woman and me in the room I become invisible. I've also seen the favour I get compared to my sister who is a black woman with very dark sink. Sorry for rambling. I love your videos and hearing your pov.

[@lola.odetola]

doja was only used as an example, it’s not about her previous catalog or the fact that she’s been working for 8 years. it’s about the money that is invested into light skinned/ biracial acts once signed because they have “the look.” it’s about how willing the industry is to platform her opposed to dark skinned artists. it’s about the fact that she went viral for moo because it was funny and she’s considered to be very conventionally attractive (and many people find biracial people highly attractive because we’ve been socialised to do so).

[@ktnixon81]

@@lola.odetola Yup! There are underground dark skinned artists that have been grinding for years that still haven’t had the money train behind Doja. Rapsody (underground for over a decade) and Tierra Whack (about the same) are just now getting some play but still not a lot of money behind them. It could also be linked to sexuality as those two tend to stay covered up compared to Doja Cat.

[@ayadhyist]

It could also be texturism. Doja Cat’s natural hair texture is type 4 and almost as coily as the hair of the average black person.

[@chandraanjelica5608]

Mayowa i love you girl. Your eyebrows always surprise me hahaha

[@monsieurfrancoise]

🔥🔥

[@sknight2810]

This is my first video of you and...i rlly love ur lips 😭

[@anamallee1805]

There are alot of written articles on p.diddy. could use a verbal one. 🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@OwolabiEsther]

To the person reading this I pray you find what your heart truly desires

[@pixie77531]

👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻❤

[@Anewrevelationformine]

gorg☺️

[@BlaireDavidson-rb3mn]

where do the sex come from all this sex...I am utterly dumb founded because there are young people listening to the radio nowadays and if you are speaking so vulgarly it will cause them to grow up to soon. I want to see artist win all the time. But if there are people too afraid to approach the label about supporting talent without sex, violence, and materialism we are creating a yes culture. People are too afraid to say that we have had enough as the public of sex, violence, love, marriage, procreation, and materialism in music. Artist are tired of it too. They put it out because they think it will sell and to appease the fans. It is too much sex. I get it that Hollywood is full of beautiful, smart, talented, and rich people but they need to be told when they have bad ideas. Also the labels and the public need to step up and support the artist financially they don't get as much as they should.

[@HomemakerDaze]

I did think jesy was mixed and then I saw her younger pictures and I was like omg she must really hate herself and have no shame to pretend.. bit scary.

[@samyljones3871]

OMFG!!! SUPER LATE YET very prevalent. WHEW CHILE! THE RESOURCES POURED INTOOOO these girls. Nicki has been anti black and anti black woman FOR A WHILE and has always bragged about being mixed! I would LOVE TO SEE A NUANCED video on my darling AZEALIZA BANKS! SHE is the perfect example of what BALDWIN SAID "to be black in America is to be angry ALL THE TIME"!!

[@OCDandme123]

Nicki Minaj is an opportunist

[@blaqwitch7781]

Nicki Minaj: Look bubbles go back to your habitat! What kind of woman do you think you she was talking about?

[@teeade]

I swear Nicki's dad isn't even Black?

[@grassfedcharlie]

Nobody has seen him. She don’t give af that he died either.

[@AlatOnDemand]

He’s a mixed man, black and Indian

[@AlatOnDemand]

@@grassfedcharlie Omg really?!? Did she not post about it or anything? I don’t keep up with Nicki

[@likekush09]

@@AlatOnDemand yeah he got hit by a bus or something 🤷🏽‍♀️ I do know for a fact he was ran the hell over though and died due to injuries

[@GoldenGhanaBoy]

@@AlatOnDemand she did post about it actually

[@DustyBanditRepellant]

In my world, Nikki Minaj is not light skin. In New England she would considered brown skinned. Beyonce is light skinned.

[@Valley__]

Trash song 🎶 🗑 Wasn’t this artist just saying how they was forcing her to look that way and some other stuff about her old band. But she comes out with this song

[@cardiyansane1414]

Just quickly on the R Kelly mention: he did pray on ALL women , ( most very young) not just dark skin or light skin …. Just sayin

[@aorose12]

Nicki has been moving like an odd broad!

[@HomemakerDaze]

I think black people are amazing and cool and I wish I had a deep culture as you do. But I am who I am, a white girl from New Zealand with no religion, no culture, so I wouldn't pretend to be anything I'm not.. I'm just boring, lost me haha

[@michellepittman7886]

People see it but they don’t believe black women are significant enough to call out this behavior. The more I watch your videos, the more I am disgusted at this modern day black face. Like it’s okay for everyone to be a black woman except a dark skin woman. Mad weird.

[@gothbat676]

Mayowa I've been going through a really rough time and need someone to talk to when it comes to mental health and colorism, can I dm you through Intsagram? What's the best way to reach you?

[@AllyBeenie123]

As a person who has gone through colorism and mental stigma, I completely understand what you are going through.

[@gothbat676]

@@AllyBeenie123 Yes I just really need someone to speak too after something really triggering that happened to me last night. People were being colorist to me and I just need someone to talk to to seek some advice.

[@likekush09]

Cuss their ass tf out next time and they'll leave you alone you don't have to be scared say something about them who are they to make you feel as if your skin is wrong😒

[@gothbat676]

@@likekush09 What if I already did that but I'm still triggered and affected by what they said?

[@natashalisa4825]

@@gothbat676 omg bae if u wanna dm me, I am here as well!!

[@elo6214]

🔐U GET LOCKED OUT IF YOU HAVE YOUR AFRO-TEXTURED HAIR.🎯

[@tylachad6102]

They’re black fishing. They’re trying to appear mixed, with blackness, just to access black culture in a way that they couldn’t before. They don’t want to just be mixed, they could pretend to be white and Asian but instead they chose blackness to imitate. These women look crazy and so do everyone supporting them. This woman has probably never seen a black person before but because she wants to rap, she has to dress up as black today. Like why they can’t just rap or sing or talk as themselves? Why do they have to put on a costume to sing?? It’s so sick, the worst part is that if a black woman were to do that with say K-pop, people would scream self hate and delusion. 🙄

[@grenalien]

"non-men"?? Why do you frame us in relation to the patriarchy lol that's sus

[@OFAGODFACE]

i’m not her so idk, but she might of done that to include other black folks that do not identify as a female/woman (she/her). i do understand what you’re saying tho

[@LoyaltyQueen]

I believe it's to include people whose gender fits outside the gender binary

[@grenalien]

@@LoyaltyQueen you NEVER hear "non-woman" though. Ever.

[@mcgovemj]

@@grenalien So? Why exclude nonbinary people?

[@grenalien]

I'm not excluding anyone, I just don't wanna be referred to as a non-man. Simple as that

[@DieezahArts]

Whenever the gate keepers allowed a dark-skinned woman into the spotlight zone, best believe it was one that could easily be objectified by the white male audiences thanks to features such as prominent lips, prominent derrières, or something else to the same overall effect... (not always a combo of all of the above in a single individual but hey...). And typically that black woman was introduced by, formatted/shaped by a white person be it in the world of haute couture, cinema or music. I'm thinking of Grace Jones, the one dark-skinned icon from my childhood. I'm also thinking Naomi Campbell when I was a teen (by the way, a fact that folks tend to be ignorant about is that even when living in a tropical climate, our skintone will be subject to variations over time depending on several factors including sun exposure, aging and health so folks who see Naomi NOW and call her light-skin make me laugh. She's initially dark and she spent her whole life in cold countries which is accelerating factor in the loss of pigmentation...). I'm in my early 40s and apart from these two (and they both worked the fashion industry and tried singing) the only other dark-skinned female I've seen who stayed in the spotlight for a while was Tracy Chapman. And when you take a closer look at the music industry in the U.S., it was really a thing in the 80s and 90s, to make black singers appear lighter on album covers, magazine photos and music videos, thanks to makeup and overexposure during the shoot... It really didn't help.

[@kandijoneko1508]

Hey! I hate to be that person, and this really is just a nitpick that's meant as lighthearted, but non men is very flawed as a term. Like it gets the message across but it technically leaves out a lot of people it's meant to include, like gender fluid people or trans men who's experiences overlap with the experiences of women but are men, whether it's sometimes or all the time. It also just sends the message of "men bad" which hurts a lot of marginalised people like trans men and gay men, or any queer person attracted to men really. It's just my opinion though, it's not that serious I just know that a lot of people including me don't like that term because it excludes us when it's meant to be inclusive of us.

[@tama3442]

*What is the Gospel?* The true gospel is the good news that God saves sinners. Man is by nature sinful and separated from God with no hope of remedying that situation. But God, by His power, provided the means of man’s redemption in the death, burial, and resurrection of the Savior, Jesus Christ. Ephesians 2:8-9 For it is by grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of GOD, not a result of works, so that no one may boast. Romans 10:9 9 because, if you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. JESUS CHRIST can come anytime! Just Believe ❤️ Love you and GOD BLESS

[@Trash7598]

what is black non-men?

[@niya3338]

Exactly what it means. A black person who is not a man/doesn't identify as a man.

[@anobodytrynatelleverybody7535]

I appreciate your perspective queen and I hear you but in my opinion this is a NON issue Racism can not be combated on an individual level. If someone like black culture more on a white person, that is their personal ignorance. But I don't care about their ignorance and I'm not gonna waste my time trying to crucify a grown woman who likes a certain culture and wants to act and look any way they want. Jessy is grown. What if you liked a style and someone said you cant wear or portray it cuz ppl will like it better on you than on our own ppl. That's immature and a pointless battle to have. The fact that our culture is more favorably accepted on others is f'ed but it's not the ppl who want to honor and mimic our culture. Its not their fault. Let them live and be adults and dress and act how they want (as long as they arent deliberately mocking us) And let's focus on fighting racism through systematic f'ed up laws and statutes and hold this system accountable. Ppl like jesy are not the enemy.

[@Samuel115s]

Nicki is allowed to wear straight blonde hair and contact lenses so jessy should be allowed some lip filler and a tan.

[@divestedkonservativekarame4269]

Jesy nelson is mixed race she's English and possibly other.... That means she's not white her mom is dark skinned as well

[@gdesiree29]

Both of her parents are white. Research it

[@missdigioia]

And that "other"isnt of black or African descent lol so really what's your point...

[@divestedkonservativekarame4269]

@@gdesiree29 I already did on at the Nestle ABS it says that she is white and other therefore it's unknown what her heritage is

[@gdesiree29]

@@divestedkonservativekarame4269 she siad she's a white British woman. She's not a person of colour.

[@divestedkonservativekarame4269]

Yet Nicki Minaj and Beyonce are literally the same color as a paper bag and don't look like biracials...... See this is how you guys love to even blame brown skinned women for colorism. It's weird because darker skinned women than you will blame you too for colorism so why do you guys love to blame those lighter than you as a brown skinned woman I refuse to deduce myself to nonsense like this. and the thing that's so crazy is this. You ds black people think you can call us black people all foul names and it's ok because you're dark the second someone calls you black that's brown skinned like Nikki it's colorism you stay claiming victimhood when you're the main people who spread racism around

[@sharjjahnaziz4122]

The term " Colorism " died out back in 2019.

[@africanodyssey4805]

How can a term that’s been around for decades that’s actively used to describe something that’s been happening for centuries, have “died out”?

[@doll.ov.poetrii4682]

No, the last of your brain cells died out in 2019. If you come up from under that rock you live under for 5 seconds, whatever is left of your intelligence may allow you to realize that colorism STILL exists.

[@AlatOnDemand]

@@africanodyssey4805 Right, like wtf

[@leilaholivia]

@@doll.ov.poetrii4682 😂 that sass was needed, thank you

[@vminajj1267]

You look like Dobby off of Harry Potter girl don’t mention nicki. It’s always you freaks mentioning onika. This has nothing to do with colorism. And if anything jesy is mixed fishing not black fishing y’all always want to include y’all selves live we care about y’all struggles we don’t