You Are A Toxic Perfectionist

Perfectionism, Procrastination, and Obsession are all related. We might think of Steve Jobs when we think of perfectionism - but the iceberg goes deeper than that.
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[@renaigh]

"If I can't do it right, I'll never do it at all" - Me

[@Waryfuls]

Could not have said it better.

[@yourbroskijack]

WHY!!!!!?!!??!!!?!? Failure is BEUTIFUL!’nnnn!!!!!!

[@elizabethwells3043]

School taught me that lesson. My teacher yelled at the "bad" kid, "You need to get it right the first time!"

[@yourbroskijack]

@@elizabethwells3043 THAS NOT RIGHT I don’t like that for you

[@elizabethwells3043]

@@yourbroskijack thanks broski

[@Joaquim-nz9vp]

I really liked the difference you set between the idea and the practice of getting better. It's something I've been noticing over time, as in wanting to read books but never actually reading anything at all, for example. Loved the video!

[@SarcasticQuokka]

Yeah this really hit. Slowly learning this with my studies. You can sign up for the course and attend classes but if you don't get your work done you won't get the qualification.

[@potatopotato5354]

Something worth mentioning is that perfectionism running up against productivity is actually a conflict between two pretty negative outlooks. There is no obligation to be productive, and nobody should be guilted into producing things they're unhappy with. At the same time, perfectionism is pickiness in another form. You don't starve just because you can't have your favourite meal, and you shouldn't starve your need to create just because you can't make something perfect.

[@Fads]

good point! my argument is largely driven by the way perfectionism has stifled me personally, but yours is a good perspective too.

[@scary5455]

There is an obligation to be productive. All animals die without productivity.

[@mehenyt]

“you don’t starve just because you can’t have your favorite meal” will be my new life quote i love it so much

[@Jerry_quesoso]

Amazing vid, there's something that I'd like to say which is that an episode of Courage the cowardly dog named "Perfection" represented how insidious this constant seek for perfectionism can be. You're left with nothing but concerns about yourself.

[@finderskeepers8]

"Progress is an action not an outcome." I love it.

[@nastyahvatalina4102]

Your channel should have more subscribers, your videos are so good!

[@Fads]

Thank you so much!

[@Re9an]

WoW "chase consistency not progress" This is the most valuable thing I so needed to hear. i roll with Cptsd & adhd & am painfully self aware so valuable & helpful. Super glad to have already sub'd Thank you.

[@jakers5139]

your videos are always a treat

[@Fads]

Glad you think so!

[@cooperjohnson5157]

I am grateful for your videos and the time you put into making them

[@TomInTheSky2001]

I think working to 80% of your effort is better than 100% if you can be more consistent. The last 20% takes way too long and might not be noticed. Plus the repetition will make your 80% surpass your old 100% quickly. I experienced this with my latest video and I finished it within a deadline instead of searching to create perfect clips. Before it would be take me ages because it 'Needed to be perfect'. But being imperfect is perfect in a way.

[@Fads]

Agreed!!

[@Jaxan-dq2jy]

Wabi Sabi is perfect imperfection :) It is a beautiful idea

[@let_it_sin_kin]

I'll just leave it here. My insight was that my perfectionism came from PTSD. I always thought you have to go through something really terrible. But you can get PTSD just by the fact your parents didn't do what was needed to raise a healthy child. Maybe it's obvious for some, but definitely not me. Have a great life, everyone that reads this comment! Fads, thank you for your content, I really do like it a lot more than most popular channels that I'm subscribed to, because you put out vids on topics that many filmed about but you always add this uniquenness to the info, you always make me think about things from a different perspective! I value it a lot.

[@Qwerzxcv954]

I tend to overcomplicate things due to my perfectionism... As a result, I procrastinate a lot, I feel incompetent, worthless, and I am always unsatisfied with my life even when I do better than others. I always feel like "I'm not doing good enough" and that makes me anxious when I have to do thing I'm not used to do... Perfectionism can be very dangerous.

[@auraliax1323]

Thanks for talking about this topic, loved the video♥

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I have a good feeling about this channel's future

[@mrknowledge7966]

Great work! Thanks for making this!!!

[@hectormaldonado9241]

Your channel really is my cup of tea, thanks for putting so much effort in your videos

[@ChickyNYC]

Yet again, great vid

[@jktech2117]

your channel is chill and nice.. +1 sub!.. is hard to see someone talking about serious topics and staying in a good mood and upbeat

[@garrisondinsmore5808]

Amazing video, thank you! You explained some concepts I've never thought of before, and your delivery is calm and relaxing.

[@gobble_gang]

Amazing amounts of work went into this. While not even close to the type of videos I usually click on, here on KZbin, I'm super glad I did. Pretty relevant topic for me since college started today lol. Reshaping how you manage yourself internally and externally seems multiplicities more integral to success now.

[@eliogilbert8071]

You're amazing. Thank You for this video ❤

[@lucaskretschmann5307]

Bro your content is great, please keep it up

[@yourstrulytk12]

brother extremely excellent video. loved it. subscribed.

[@Justaz101]

Good video! As a perfectionist you addressed some great points that were helpful in my own life.

[@mony1809]

I gotta say that this thumbnail is AMAZING!

[@dinnerwithlydia]

Just subscribed. Amazing videos! In this one, the idea of chasing consistency rather than chasing an outcome-based idea of "progress" actually blew my mind in the best way! Thank you!

[@cookiemaster537]

I really like your videos, feels like advice from a caring friend

[@Kirapsi]

Thank you for this video! Very interesting

[@garrettsgaming8300]

Perfect question to end the video. Well done!

[@smartideas-pedro1690]

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[@CalumRaasay]

Great video! 👍🏻

[@Fads]

Thanks so much!!! Cheers for the superthanks too

[@stevenlomon]

Your videos are slowly becoming some of my favorite to watch on this platform. Wholesome chill vibes but also profound and thoughtful, kudos! :D Also this is the best exploration and reflection on perfection I think I've ever seen

[@Fads]

Thanks so much! Glad to hear it and I'm happy to hear you're enjoying em!

[@EduzReeveM]

I just found your channel and watched some of your videos and I like the way you talk and show off your ideas. plus for a 50k sub channel your content is really hq and I think youll grow quickly. hope you never run out of ideas brother :)

[@proxicat123]

"...and ask yourself: what do I think makes a person worthy of being loved and of being valuable?" I'll be thinking for an answer for this for the rest of the year which is precisely the reason as to why I love you and you're channel :D

[@TomInTheSky2001]

First of all, Great Thumbnail!

[@inderbirsingh3592]

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[@ghaida2349]

Thank you!

[@Th3Gumbo]

This video is perfect

[@yusufu]

i used to be a perfectionist which lead to me never getting anything done but recently i realized that perfection is unattainable so i decided to just do whatever and stay consistent at what im doing

[@sophiagionis]

that's amazing! do you have any tips for people like me still struggling?

[@yusufu]

​@@sophiagionis you have to force yourself to do stuff u dont feel like doing "do the hard work especially when u dont feel like it", start off small like make your bed as soon as you wake up. overtime it becomes a habit of yours to get stuff done even if u dont feel like it. good luck :)

[@sophiagionis]

@@yusufu thank you so much!!!

[@l30S3UX]

This video stil under 10k views so I just want to make sure you are listened and I love your scripts

[@DredFulProductions]

The master has failed more times than the beginner has even tried

[@noobuserlol4266]

6:22 this actually made me tear up a little.

[@djels6348]

I just found this yt channel 20 mins ago & u know too much 🤣😂

[@potapotapotapotapotapota]

Even the greatest number you can think becomes like nothing when compared to Infinity.

[@eyonfrankston1344]

im a toxic perfectionist by the book - i get enraged at small trivial and inconsequential problems and throw and smash up or scream abuse at the problematic source (people included) and you can thank my last boss for that as he was like that with me, think gordon ramsay on meth (figuratively) that was him and thats what he moulded me to be even years later and outside of work

[@troylater8614]

This was bars

[@scary5455]

Nice

[@mmdullard]

be a guest on the shoooooooooooow

[@aleisterlilywhite1109]

I haven’t painted in years for this very reason.

[@JeanMarceaux]

The thumbnail is misleading: you don't care about perfectly level surfaces until your washing machine skidaddles all the way to Tampa, Florida due to vibrations. While you live on another continent. Jokes aside, this is a pretty good outlook on the problematic perfectionism, and something I need to teach myself to overcome.

[@Waryfuls]

For some reason, I think of Gordon Ramsey when I think of "trying to achieve perfection"

[@sherlockbones3519]

Hey Fads, I really enjoy your videos. I have one comment though, I find your videos really quiet, even when I raise the volume to the maximum. Could you maybe do something about that? Thanks.

[@Fads]

Noted! thanks for the tip!

[@aliveslice]

The fact that I cannot stand Kubrick's films and feel of Wes Anderson's films as "serviceable" should help me understand the drawbacks of perfectionism 😅 it really doesn't matter if most people call these creations perfect, I don't feel that way, so why would I bother? But it probably only speaks of a different view on perfection though 😥

[@adaydreamhd]

just a question... how can we save civilization or natre or both while in the 3rd mass extinction?

[@Fads]

I have no idea bro, this is way beyond me lmao

[@aliveslice]

3:00 5:30

[@angeloselarja]

is this a personal attack? 😂

[@avacadomangobanana2588]

Go work for vox until your individual media brand is large enough to go solo

[@Fads]

hahaha Vox would literally be my dream job lol

[@forfree6150]

Bro, you're cute, no homo