You are not your past mistakes

0:00 Intro and disclaimers
2:06 The consequences of running from our past mistakes (and the problem with dissociation).
8:31 The pain of having to justify your past actions to others.
13:02 The difference between guilt and shame.
14:21 Owning your past: Taking accountability and apologising.
15:41 Conclusion and summing up.
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[@MoPoppins]

If you’ve walked away from people because their behavior (often after giving them TOO many chances) was unacceptable and had a toxic effect on your health & wellness, GOOD ON YOU! 👏 If you’ve been walked away from, and you’ve now reformed your ways, but you were the way you were because you became a product of your environment, or were living unconsciously & didn’t know better, etc., DON’T consider the person/people who are now gone forever from your life to be a loss-view them as the VESSELS for the LESSONS you were meant to learn. 🙏✨💕 If you’re truly a new person, there will be other (good) people entering your life, whom you will now be deserving of, with your freshly-upgraded character. ✨ 👍

[@dearkristin]

Love this comment! Thank you 😊

[@LifeIsToGoodToBeTrue]

The hard part is to keep the pain of what you done/what happened and see what you learn from it... It isnt JUST menories, there are strong feelings to accept as well... 😢❤

[@MoPoppins]

@@LifeIsToGoodToBeTrue You can’t change the past, but you can create anew future. You make amends for your past actions by essentially “overwriting” them with new actions via the new you! If you’re truly remorseful & reformed, all who want to see you as you are will be able to witness the changes in you. Learn to forgive yourself by offering your sincere apologies to anyone who’s willing to accept them, and then moving forward and proving to yourself that you’re no longer your past self by being present and doing & being all the good things possible to bless as many as you can for the remainder of your existence! You can’t alter the past, but are shaming & blaming yourself helpful in any way? Does the guilt aid you in becoming a better person? 🤔

[@grazynawolska8160]

I think the past made you, but you have a choice in every moment to choose a different path, therefore your path doesn't define you.

[@janaretlow8699]

One massive thing I‘ve learnt during one of my deep dives into psychology is the need to differentiate between primary and secondary emotions. For example, if someone says something really hurtful to you, you might cover up your primary emotion of sadness with anger and lash out on the person, because that is less vulnerable. Instead of responding with your secondary emotion, which will cause damage to your relationship, you can learn to realize that you actually feel hurt and express your sadness to A: set healthy boundaries and B: nurture healthy relationships with the people around you. It will take a lot of reflection and courage to do that, but I‘m sure it prevents a lot of damage in the long run.

[@hj_lostintheinternet3754]

I love Fi Fridays because as an INTP, Fi is my 8th function and up until (relatively) recently, I have literally never thought about anything related to it before. But I started my self-healing journey about 2 years ago, and through this whole process, I've learnt a lot about repressed emotions, blocked trauma, negative habits and so much else that's allowed me to confront and process. This content really helps me because it's more information to me - as a Ti dom - on how to process my emotions generally and get much more mature and healthier emotionally because of it. Thank you for all the good work you do, Kristin! 😁

[@MichaelG5500]

My daughter is going through a tough time after breaking up with her fiancé and I was struggling to come up with something to help her. Then I saw this and after watching realized I took a lot from this and she could too so I sent it to her. A couple of days later I got a hug and a thanks dad.🙂 So I am passing on my thanks to you Kristin for this video and helping me voice some of what I needed to say to help her at least a little. Keep up the good work!

[@dearkristin]

I'm so glad to read this 😊 Thank you for sharing!

[@MichaelG5500]

@@dearkristin You are very welcome. Thank you. ☺

[@trinaq]

Thanks so much for this Fi Friday series, Kristin. I've always beaten myself up inside for my past mistakes, but your videos have made me come to terms with them, and move forward as a person.

[@dearkristin]

I'm so glad. 😊

[@marxiewasalittlegirl]

Same

[@sirbradfordofhousejones]

“ you have control of nothing in this world except your own mentality.” PREACH IT, SISTER!!!

[@justanordinarydemigay5243]

Kristin: sits down to record another wonderful Fi-Days video: *Gets possessed by the ENFJ *

[@janaretlow8699]

Yes. Especially the aggressive "YOU ARE ENOUGH!" 😂

[@justanordinarydemigay5243]

@@janaretlow8699 "Let's *UNPACK* that!"

[@WolfoxBR]

SO true.

[@melissaholm1988]

Lady, You just made me cry in my office. This was so amazing. Be proud of the good things you are. I love you girl.

[@jameswilkerson4412]

I was holding back tears on a commute

[@dearkristin]

Thank you so much 🙏

[@melissaholm1988]

@@dearkristin I feel super starstruck that you commented back.

[@thegnosticmike]

INTJ --> -*-*Se**: Why focus on your past There are activities to do today! **Fi**: This video speaks to me! **Te**: Why focus on your past? You have to engage in your future now. Shut up! :)

[@jameswilkerson4412]

This is a great response to the mentality of Imagine Dragons’ “Demons”, which I tended too much a few years before the song was released

[@kingnothing613]

This is the first fi Friday I've listened to, it was great! Much of this message reminds me of Christian inner prayer

[@WolfoxBR]

ESFPs must be pretty good at healing from their past mistakes, because I'm sure they make a lot of those. ;) Seriously now... kristin, I love how much you care. It's very noticeable. I love how much you want to be better. Because one thing is tied to the other, in fact. It's also easy to notice how much of what you said in this video, to others, is something you very clearly told yourself - many times, through many years, even. I'd bet many of the things you said are things you want and need to hear even now, and I'm sure a lot of people need those too. And I'm glad you're sharing that. If I have any comments, it's that, as we age, we realize that there were things we thought to be true that are not necessarily so. That some things we believed to be true were not necessarily true, but things we *wanted* to be true, because of things we don't want to see. And if we need to accept what's beautiful in us, we also need to accept what's not. Not everything can be saved and not everything can be changed. But we can learn to be aware of those things and to accept them. They'll never be beautiful. And that's OK. They're not supposed to be. (I wouldn't be a good intuitive without a metaphor somewhere, so here it goes:) With light come shadows, and the shadows never leave. They might shift and change, but they're always there. They'll never be light. They can't be. But that's alright.

[@m4lev0lentdem0nknightamv5]

I was depressed lately for not being able to change from my past self ..... But this help me realise that I've always been trying to improve and I have in many ways ....

[@dearkristin]

You're doing the hard work. Good on you! 👌

[@bruhmomento2592]

This is what the world needs. You go gurrrl!

[@oddmenttweak7]

Kristin I'm so glad that you're making these videos. I think this is a message that a lot of people need to hear 🥰

[@gouki4u]

This video was relatable in an unexpected way. I had friendship where both people involved hurt each other, and I was the one who left, but never felt good about how I did so. I've moved on and changed for the better, but I still feel like I owe that person an apology more than a decade later. The problem is I have no idea if the other person has moved on. I'd like to think so, but I don't know if an apology after so much time has passed would bring closure or open an old wound for them. I normally don't give this situation much thought, but recently learned from an old mutual friend the other person took my leaving much harder than I knew. So it has been bothering me lately. I'm an INTP, but try as I might, I can't think my way out of this one.

[@mikerivera373]

Honestly, one of the most encouraging videos I’ve seen in a long time. Multiple parts spoke pretty directly to me. Thank you.

[@dearkristin]

I'm glad. Thank you 😊

[@azarishiba2559]

Best Fi-day until now. I actually relate a lot with your last pair of anecdotes. The last time someone left me, when I tried to see what I did wrong this time, I didn't found nothing, and that is considering I talk with some people when I think I did something wrong, and they said the same despite I was expecting some nags: that this time I did nothing wrong, and I actually applied what I learnt in the past, especially just before the pandemic when another person left me. Also I have noted how I have improved each time more than the previous one. Having autism and being such the eccentric guy is interesting. Sometimes, you can't change your personality (especially the core of it), but you can decide what to do with said personality traits, how to work with them and compensate your weaknesses with some strategies to make your relationships healthy enough. In other words, it's like having lemons and making lemonade, or having grapes and making grape juice. Or even better (and that's why Umbrellas are my symbols along with Hats), it's like having a damaged Umbrella, but instead of just throwing it off, you can use it for a lot of things aside from covering you from the rain or the sun. "A Broken Umbrella has still Potential", that's my way of life n_n

[@thanhheu4129]

Yeah, we Si dom - as an ISTJ i know this for sure. But yeah, we make mistakes, that makes us human. It may costs us losing some people or losing years in ups and downs of a healing journey. What happened, happened. It means to happen like that and no way else. We all act our best with what we know at the time. “Our psychology is what decided our thoughts and actions” - is true to the core, dear Kristin 👍👍 And the first and second mental process and feelings when we’re reacting, dealing with a conflict is much different. I know this and next time if i have to roll in a conflict if necessary, i need to be more objective and consider more perspectives of a subject, a person. Thank you for the sincere message, Kristin 👏

[@rad4924]

I love the timing of these videos because Friday happens to the one day of the week in which I'm usually drunk enough to tolerate genuine, emotional conversations. This resonates with me because I have more than a few skeletons in my closet. I'm also guilty of frequently using the Ship of Theseus excuse - i.e. Every cell in my body is different to 7 years ago, therefore it wasn't me. Unfortunately no court of law is ever willing to buy that excuse...

[@dearkristin]

Ah yes. A very natural response. The body changes, but the soul remains. Thanks for the comment! 😊

[@rad4924]

@@dearkristin Thank you for having the courage to be honest and open on the hostile cesspool that is the internet. I think you're amazing, honestly.

[@rad4924]

@@jimclayson That's a very strong argument that there may be something fundamentally metaphysical defining us. For me I note that even though the cells are different, the neural pathways and connections are the same. It's a fascinating topic that I'd honestly love to talk about more, but right now I'm about two drinks to the right side of unconsciousness...

[@nerysghemor5781]

@@rad4924 Two drinks to the right side of unconsciousness…that sounds rough. Haven’t been drunk before unless you count being doped up for a medical procedure a few times, so I don’t have a ton of experience in that area. I apologize for being a mother hen here, but that worries me for your safety since that biologically means poisoning. How are you this morning?

[@nerysghemor5781]

This video needs to be shared with everyone who thinks “sensors r stoopid,” because clearly not. A sensing function, well used, as with any function well used, can put out a perspective that others might not have considered. 👍

[@Specter._365]

Kristin everytime be like I'm not a Psychologist but like tbh she is imo more helpful than a Psychologist. Keep up the good work!! :)

[@crontzy_poprocks]

Not Kristine, resolving all my sadness in life with just one video. I truly love this video!!

[@jdsjigglypuff9419]

At first I read the title as "You are not past your mistakes" and I was really confused

[@jeffgagen3561]

Great video, 1st up. So hard to say, I have been what other people wanted me to be, they'd just questioning me why I was "ME", I'am so pissed with myself it so long to work out who I am. I'm so glad I found not only your channel but others like your's. The 1 thing about being an INTP is you can be "brutally honest" which has come up in my pass with out me knowing why. I now know, that's me the "Real Me". Over the last few years I studied INTP. I am so happy I now know that's me. ( I am not brutally honest with every one, or not out loud.) If the people who put me down before met me now, I don't how I would feel. Maybe, I would let a little INTP out on them. Or in reality, "Ghost Them".

[@stop_hitting_me]

I know I'm a month late here, but I believe that I'm a fellow esfp who has so much shame (thank you for that distinction!) That it's kind of robbed me of who I am, in a sense. Between no support for adhd, a high demand religion (aka cult, aka mormonism) that gave me a lot of stress over this "factual", eternal future, punishments given in anger and being snapped at, and very few people not thinking much of me, mocking me for being "dumb"... my childhood was really rough and unhealthy. At some point I started repressing myself so much, thinking I was inherently worth less than the people around me(I was basically trained to value others more than myself) since I felt I couldn't do anything right. A lot of what you said I feel like I knew in some sense, but the way you phrased it made it feel more "real", and it helps having someone else say it instead of it being something I puzzle out myself. It's funny, for a bit I was really confident I was an isfj, and while the functions are in the same order they're all flipped. I was always drawn to the esfp though, maybe that was my inner self fighting to get out :). It also helps seeing you so smart, esfp has that stereotype of being dumb, which is something I've had thrown against me despite being able to learn things really quickly. I especially like the bit of being proud of who you were for continuing to fight and grow despite mistakes. I was presented with a brick wall and given no tools to get around it, but often my sheer stubborn personality helped me get through it anyway, by hitting my head against the wall until the wall crumbled. Not the best way, but it was the way I had, and I'm proud of myself for getting back up so many times. I still have a lot of work to do, even at 32, but I think this helped. Thank you :)

[@nickolaszissimos1189]

I do have to say that I learned this and I am working on trying to make myself into the person I have always wanted to be. I too have had many mistakes, most of them left me feeling guilty and it took me quite a while to get over it each time. I learned that taking accountability for my action and realizing that it was me, and that I needed to lift myself up and move away from holding myself down and instead pick myself back up. I also learned the root cause of a depression that I had for quite a long time that also lead me to self hating, self loathing, and self despising and it lifted it almost right away. I also found my reflection, jumped into it, and met my true self down in the depths of my soul. Warmest embrace I have ever had, and I never needed anyone else to validate me ever since. I am someone that is stronger on my own but still would like someone maybe cheering me one from the side lines every once in a while. I can also see the depths within someone else's eyes, and your eye are pretty deep, and I feel they can still get deeper. So far, I have never seen eyes deeper then Ni eyes like my own but I feel others can make it to those depths, eventually.

[@dearkristin]

Beautiful! Thank you for commenting 😊

[@nickolaszissimos1189]

@@dearkristin You are welcome milady, and I do have to say that it takes allot of time to see the depths within people. It is pretty difficult but once you see it, it helps on knowing whom to let into your life and whom not to let in.

[@brandonbradley9540]

Hi Kristin, I’ve watched your channel for almost a year now, but never mustered up the courage to comment until now. I just wanted to say I think this is the best video you have shared. I found it very helpful and illuminating on a personal level. I struggled keeping close friendships in the past with my tendency to shut people out for fear I may be abandoned or resented for showing who I naturally am. I put up a facade that is positive and outgoing, wanting to maintain harmony with others I meet. But behind it all, I hide my anxieties, my constant fears of what others think of me, and if I am being authentic enough with that person. When things get real, and I begin to peel back layers showing my authentic self, I panic and shut them out. This leads to me never reaching out, wanting to reconnect, or keep good rapport with that person ever again. I’ve lost meaningful friendships over the years, and I regret it. This video was a real wake up call for me. My negative actions of shutting people out in the past continue to haunt me, but I’m relentless to improve myself, learn to be more comfortable around others and let my personality shine through. And instead of leaving my past self behind, I want to forgive and accept who I was to build a better future for myself and my relationships. Thank you for always being real. I look forward to your content every week.

[@dearkristin]

Hi Brandon! Thank you so much for commenting, and for supporting the channel by watching over the year. I am so glad that this video has helped you, and I think your take-away it a valuable. Good on you for being, real, vulnerable and open to doing the work! 😊

[@admadegl]

Ty! This is exactly what I needed to hear now. I’m living this and your words are so helpful and consoling. Your appearance on Catholic Current was where I found your YT channel btw. You’ve given me great hope on my journey. Like you I’ve made some horrible mistakes in relationships that hurt people who I love most in my life and as a result lost them and their love/- very painful and traumatic. You’ve given me so much hope! Thank you so much and God bless!

[@AthenaIsabella]

WHEW! Needed this. Thank you! God bless!! ❤️

[@LiquidWolfmans]

"And because of her, now I am here. And I love me." We love you too :D What defines you is not an easy question to answer. People tend to be agreeable when you take one thing and say that this one thing does not define you. I would even argue that you could take many things into account and still be unable to define a person. Your past is proof of what you were once capable of. You could take a full compilation of somebody's nature and nurture and make a pretty good guess on what they will do in any given situation. At the end however, it's still only a guess, a highly-likely-to-be-accurate guess, not a locked-in script. I enjoy listening to your Fi, it really helps people appreciate the depths of the ESFP. I think their strong Fi is one of the reasons that things often just seem to work out for the ESFP.

[@vanessavalentin4304]

This video is so validating, especially for someone like me with blind fi. It’s especially hard to move forward from past mistakes because there’s always that lingering part of me that wishes that I could make the people in my past peer into my head and heart of who I am now, so they can see how sorry I am, and how much I’ve grown as way to help them move forward as well, but it’s tough because as people, we have absolutely no control over anything but our own selves. You 100% have to learn how to let the past just be the past. Amazing video, Love! 😜

[@dearkristin]

So relatable!!

[@deccy_boi5569]

I have saved this to my personal KZbin playlist. Thank you. ~ Infp

[@yourhotgothex1331]

In treatment for CPTSD from an abusive relationship with a narcissist and funny enough I've had more issues forgiving myself for putting myself in the relationship in the first place, red flags ignored, etc. I'm so happy you made a video about this topic as it's a continued struggle for me.

[@dearkristin]

Fair and a very hard situation! Go easy on yourself; you're only human and it's only 20/20 in hindsight.

[@metalmax462]

Thanks Kristin ❤ - Stay strong everyone!

[@maggieo1683]

Kristin, I don't know if you'll see this, but you really touched me with this one. I've been watching you for a while now, and time and time again I've seen this video in my recommended or when scrolling through your channel, and I kept skipping over it because I wasn't ready to face my past mistakes. But I just watched your new video of things you learned in your 20s, and when you made the point about saying sorry and forgiving, something inside me broke because it reminded me of someone in my past. We both hurt each other, but I could not get over the guilt that riddled me all this time. I genuinely thought I was a horrible person because I realized I was capable of hurting someone who I loved very dearly. But what I realized a few days ago is what you mentioned in this video- that I'm still a good person BECAUSE I feel guilt. I would be a bad person if I didn't care that I hurt my old best friend. I want to apologize to her, but in this specific scenario I don't think I'll be able to, because she blocked me on social media. That hurts, but I think I finally have the courage to be okay with that. I may never be able to get her forgiveness, to get closure, and that sucks, but I know now that I was young (and I still am young) and just as you said here, I didn't have the tools at the time to properly handle the situation, and made some mistakes that I regret because of it. But that's a very human thing. Also, what you said about dissociating from your past self and convincing yourself they were a different person really touched me. That's exactly what I have been doing for the past year. Considering myself from a year ago as a 'character' and that I am someone completely different. But you really moved me when you said the past me is still me, I am exactly the same person. I grew, but I didn't become anyone different. I could go on and on but I don't want this comment to get too long and I also don't want to trauma dump too much. But thank you for making this video. You really did me good with this one. I finally felt ready to watch this video, and I'm so glad I did.

[@alicial4857]

Thank you for these Fi-day videos, Kristin. You would not believe how much I needed this one.

[@littleflower115]

Hi Kristin, I don't understand how I am so compassionate and kindhearted to other people while I'm literally eating myself alive by guilt and shame. I know the video contains my answer but in my daily life, I really cannot apply it. My compassion to others turn into silent anger after some point. Because I'm too harsh and agressive and it keeps disassociating me from the reality. I hope I can handle it at some point in my life. I'm soon to be 26.

[@littleflower115]

- an infp

[@ecatcheshire9741]

Thank you. Wise and helpful words from someone still very young. 🥰

[@kuro_tadori]

This message is so important! Amazing video.

[@tatyannafrancis9935]

The last few minutes were very nice to hear, thank you Kristin :)

[@GundamnWing]

Thanks so much for this. In the past, i've always felt so hurt by the critique and what i perceived to be the unfair judgement of others. But as you said, its about my personal journey and taking responsibility for the past. We all have the capacity to recover from the pain of the past.

[@daniellira3162]

Wow, three days ago I broke with my girlfriend and even though this video isn't about relationships, it made me think about a lot of things that I felt in the past and that were the cause of the current relationship I was into. This has been so helpful! I love your videos since typing teas and I love your work with this video a lot. My most sincere thanks!!

[@dearkristin]

I'm so glad, Daniel! Thank you for commenting 😊

[@dominicsey3032]

This is a video I will keep coming back to throughout my life. Thank you Kristin for sharing your mind and heart.

[@TaunellE]

I don't think I have (fi). I have introveted intuition and extroverted feeling. I dont care. (Omg, I have to figure yall out.. infj.) I just wanted to be around good people for awhile. Even online. So much love and respect to you, Kristen and our weird community. Thank you. I love you all. 💙

[@calmingbabysleep1256]

Infj's- have strong fi , just unconscious to them and not as appreciated and obvious as Ni and Fe

[@echibussy]

This video has spoken so much to me. The fundamental message of this video has really made me think through some of the things that I experienced, my own things that my Ni never wanted to reach; because I couldn’t fully face them. Truly, thank you.

[@dearkristin]

Amazing! I'm so glad 😊 It's not easy to face. Thank you for leaving this comment.

[@Hyurno]

Thank you

[@Suvikki74]

Hi Kristin! I just tried to find your newest video so here I am. Off topic: I enjoy vastly of your videos so I share them in FB. Australian humour is the best, has that dryness of British but relaxed than in American. I´m ENFP and a Finn so hope you would get viewers from Finland. Keep on doing these amazing videos, I love them!

[@Shiri_Yam]

What an incredible video! Kudos for being so real and honest :)

[@tatyannafrancis9935]

I don’t know why, but 10:23 is my favourite part

[@adamkasztankiewicz8835]

Thank you, I needed to hear this

[@mostcreativenickname]

Thank you. I’m already in therapy but this video has been a nice extra-session + reminder.

[@triscuit4000]

This is an awesome message. We all make mistakes and we all are responsible for our mistakes and making sure we do not repeat them. This is one of the reasons studying psychology is so interesting. I've learned so much and realized some of my mistakes from the past. Understanding psychology has helped with forgiving others and self forgiveness. Thank you, Kristin!

[@bradwilliams7198]

A lol of fantastic insights and recommendations in this video! Thank you 🙏

[@LifeIsToGoodToBeTrue]

"We all look the same in the dark". 😂 Not totaly true but I will remember that one. 😊❤

[@SimoneEppler]

This is just brilliant, Kristin. These videos are healing I themselves❤️🙏! You know, there's a reason why I use the craft of Kintsugi as brand images for my business. Because I too think, if you let yourself heal by confronting, processing and letting go and changing your narrative within yourself, you're even more beautiful and unique than before.

[@magic13christispage]

Just saw this one, it is so true & wonderful, I honestly and deeply thank you for your genuine work Kristin, you are awesome

[@its_sylvie6002]

Thank you so much Kristin, this is exactly what I need to hear at this moment! Perfect timing!

[@hobbietdays]

Is this- is this free therapy?????

[@mibo747]

Love it, MANY THANKS!

[@bluejjay]

I really appreciate the distinction you made between shame and guilt. I would just group the two into "bad feelings of my past", but it's majorly important to distinguish something which I'm imposing on myself, and something which I should take responsibility for and see how to amend. Awareness of this distinction will definitely improve my journaling and introspections. Thanks again Kristin. From an ISFP.

[@dearkristin]

I'm glad! 😊 Thank you!

[@brandonrayner3655]

So grateful for this powerful video thank you

[@mudman619]

Kristin, you have no idea how close to home this discussion hits me. No idea. I have PTSD & severe depression & the specter of suicide is always lurking - & most of it bc of my past. But I doubt I'll ever get to forgiving myself. At some point, you just don't deserve it & forgiving yourself is a pass you shouldn't get.

[@Noseworth]

Thank you for this video

[@jxc.]

Thank you, truly.

[@jacobwilliams5271]

And people don't really change, they try but they usually don't. There is a lot of verifiable real world proof to "once a cheater, always a cheater"

[@harshitakarnam7236]

beautiful , absolutely

[@CassieAngelica]

Brilliant!

[@aniouta64]

the wind waker poster 🙏🏻🛐 anyway, great video!!

[@applepatronum4934]

I'm ISFJ and my Si is staring angrily at the title

[@ilveyouful]

Yeah 🙃

[@bruhmomento2592]

Amen. Everything you're saying is the truth. There's a certain peace when you come to terms with the reality of being human; we're flawed, HOWEVER, we're forgiven and have the capacity to forgive. As an individual, you're always going to be on the receiving and giving end of disappointment, no ones perfect but we live, we learn and we LOVE.

[@dearkristin]

Amen!

[@nerysghemor5781]

Also…as an INFP I will admit I do walk away from people more easily than some. But the thing is it’s a lot more because of me than others sometimes. It’s just hard for me to go back once someone has hurt or scared me. I try to separate my own needs from the other person though so I don’t get too bent out of shape with anger or hate towards that person though. I don’t know if that makes sense or not…

[@widewailcorduroy7278]

"The past is prologue", but YOU determine the plot from there.

[@ioanacretu9882]

Wow that was some deep stuff

[@Marathecat90]

Köszönjük!

[@dracsharp]

There are no mistakes: You are assuming you could have acted differently at the time, but you did your best, that's all you ever do. Not identifying with the past is not about pushing away the bad, it's about not identifying with anything. That means you can't take pride or confidence over stories in your head. You were never loved either. They are nothing but books. Everything in your head are books. I am not evaluating it as a strategy, I am just pointing out that is not what you described.

[@-emir5484]

Ooook those windwaker intro cutscene runes thooooooooooooo

[@draspotnuk]

Kristin you gotta turn Fi fridays into funny comedy days. Too many feelings going around.

[@lovedlavender3266]

Yes your past defines you. There are people with criminal records and your past won't go away. Your past mistakes can ruin your future. You have to live with the bad things in your life.

[@Natalie-yg5rn]

I love that video

[@Spectacular-Spider-Dan]

I love the Wind Waker picture behind you! 😃 Did you buy that somewhere or was that homemade? I've noticed you wearing the Wind Waker Link shirt before. Are you a fan of any of the other Legend of Zelda games? Sorry, I'm distracted. *Goes back to learning about serious topics.* Edit: Okay, I've finished watching and I've got to say, this was a truly beautiful video. Your serious videos are just as potent as your funny ones. It's awesome that you're using this channel, and your talents, for so many worthwhile things.

[@YourNickIsTaken]

I just don't contact with people IRL. So I cannot hurt any of that poor-poor, extremely sensitive souls.

[@KorkwiN7]

Um wow. I always thought you just made entertaining personality videos. Girl, you go deep. Thank you so, so very much. You get it. Sorry I didn't see this sooner. You're a badass.

[@restlessmosaic]

Where were you when I was 15? (Probably being about 7.) So much of why I try to improve myself is to keep being a useful part of communities like yours.

[@jocelyneke6445]

I was in high school in Connecticut.

[@settheray2jerry1]

what are those posters on your wall? They look so cool! :P (-- a curious INTP)

[@kathrinethalund4729]

Hi Kristin❤️ Can you recommend some books around this subject?

[@WolfoxBR]

Quick comment: I *love* the Wind Waker poster. Lovely. ;)

[@sashalarious5990]

I've noticed the wind waker merch sprinkled throughout your videos, I'd like to know more about that :) cool vid btw

[@dearkristin]

This is my brother's wall, and my brother gave me the shirt. But I have wonderful memories of Wind Waker from when I was a child :)

[@emilys.7321]

This INFP drinking a Margarita approves this message

[@montealegreluis5983]

Are final fantasy 6 and zelda the pictures at the bottom 🤔🤔

[@tatyannafrancis9935]

Is this a corner of your house we haven’t seen yet? I love the wall art!

[@dearkristin]

This is my brother's wall 😊

[@tatyannafrancis9935]

@@dearkristin he has a great wall 👌🏻

[@edmundoboone1259]

What is Fi?

[@niteshyadav-fc2ub]

I was listening but riddle uploaded a golf ball hitting steel at 240 mph

[@FluffyEmmy1116]

Once an amazing KZbin, always an amazing KZbinr Also, what's an Fi? [INFJ]

[@AmberArtNYC]

❤

[@montealegreluis5983]

17:30 english united kingdom sub: So have fun, have lot of fun, have so lot of fun, have so lot amount of plenty uncontable unconsiderable tons and tons of infinite fun She in realta: look towards the future, No way ._. Thats NI

[@AccessKelly]

I've got Fi Critic in the shadow functions and it's a real b!tch. Thank you, INFJ

[@edwarddandrow6359]

Thank you for this video. You are very passionate about the material. I feel like you should be working for a counseling/psychology advanced degree, if you aren't already.

[@dearkristin]

Absolutely!

[@glueball214]

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