You Are Spoiled.

[@bubbly6379]

As an electrician I absolutely hate going into people's attics to run cable because it's super dangerous (easy to fall thru if you misstep) and always dirty and nasty. BUT. I love seeing how great my work looks at the end of the day because I didn't make a huge hole somewhere I didn't need to, because I was willing to do the shitty part of my job.

[@larrytate1657]

Just hope you charge a lil something extra than.

[@ultimasurge]

nothing like some sexy conduit thats not crooked at all. plum clean and neat. See it whenever i walk in a building now.

[@TheShizzlemop]

@@larrytate1657 then

[@csanadtemesvari9251]

@@TheShizzlemop bruh

[@YiddishDancingClown]

@@TheShizzlemop did you not understand what he meant?

[@cloak5857]

I just wanna say I appreciate that Dr. K reads the entire post and doesn't skip anything. It makes it seem like he takes every poster seriously.

[@mYcRiSpDiScK]

Alok "fantastic post" Kanojia

[@joshuakingsilberstein7387]

I was gonna comment something similar! He goes down to the root and looks through everything. This post only had 6 upvotes when he saw it as well, content is more important than visibility or popularity. Very cool stuff

[@mysticq8680]

That's kind of his job, and he seems really good at it

[@BarbaraMerryGeng]

He does

[@Dairunt1]

Alok "Let me think for a second" Kanojia

[@theyopo3426]

this is why i’m so eager to work, i know i’m completely under my parents roof rn, and i really want to branch out and be independent so i feel more responsible on my own. idk i just feel bad about how much i depend on my parents still

[@SatanicBarbeque]

That's honestly a worry in mainly the United States, many societies around the world have children providing support under the parent's roof until they get married and start their own family. We're in a recession bruh, as long as you keep working and carry your weight, there's no reason to feel ashamed. Edit: I guess we're not currently in a recession right now, but we're apparently expecting another in a year because...politics idfk

[@personontheinternet2164]

There's a difference between living 'with' your parents and 'off' your parents. Don't be the latter and you're good.

[@NightWatch652]

That’s fair. I went through the same thing. As soon as I had enough money and a roommate I got an apartment. Which is really hard, but it definitely made me grow up. Just be careful when you do it, try not to rush things so fast like I did. Obviously I don’t know how old you are, but it’s still good to slow down and do some research and save up money for a while

[@_WeDontKnow_]

@Mank Hobley clearly not why they feel bad. It's the feeling that we're taking advantage of that love by not contributing as much as we possibly could be. No one feels bad bc their parents love them, that makes no sense

[@_alreph]

Same dude, but I've noticed this is a very western thing to move out early. My family is from West Africa and its pretty normal to live at home and be working until you get married, in fact its seen as the parental obligation to support the child their whole life pretty much (to an extent). Sometimes not even working. Everyone should move at their own pace, but don't mooch.

[@timeforamazingchest5271]

"Gatekeeping suffering and unhappiness" is a phrase I'm so glad to have heard, so thanks for that. It really accurately describes how I've been made to feel by some people. That if your problems aren't life-threatening then they're not worth other people's time.

[@meinschmerz6074]

Yeah but triage is still a thing you know. i wish we could treat anyone.

[@interdimensionalsailboat]

"You say this but meanwhile there are starving children in Africa." Same person 3 seconds later. "Turn the heater up its cold in here!" When its like 18 Celsius.

[@littlewigglemonster7691]

Everyone's life is easier than their own until they have to walk in those shoes

[@OwningAuthenticity]

"The Unicorn isn't found, it's crafted." Maybe the most genius thing you've ever said! Thank you for your content and sharing your own passion.

[@dcngn_]

I feel attacked by the notification

[@Lloydter1]

That's me getting hit by his notifications for the past month

[@lucasfink876]

Why go to a therapist when youtube video titles can already diagnose you.

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[@jeffreylau2010]

the fact that you feel attacked means you're spoiled...

[@lauraigla6319]

A lot of us are presented with so many different pathways now that it is easy to feel spoiled. It's not that we can't do a difficult job... But when it appears there are better options it's tempting to keep hopping to get the "best" one. We all know that one guy who brags about making 100k a year on their computer from home while gaming half the day...

[@ejun251]

I think part of what's wrong with that is the glorification of an easy paycheck. If you're making 100k a year and spending half the time gaming instead of working, then you're making way less impact on the world. You're also not becoming your best self. I think that type of lifestyle ends up feeling quite empty in the long run.

[@lauraigla6319]

@@ejun251 for sure, I don't condone most people to waste an opportunity like that. But I'd go nuts for an opportunity like that because I'd actually use the extra time and money to better my community. Extra time= I can finally be a foster parent. Extra money= I can pour money into my community. A lot of people waste it on bullshit though

[@Quelkei]

@@ejun251 so be it lol... honestly let's stop thinking that working and only working is what gives you meaning. With 100k/yr and a remote job which allows me to do nothing for half of my working hours i would game yes, but i would also read, talk to my friends, make art, even travel since its remote. That's wayyyyyy far from an empty life imo. Working 40 hours a week and being able to be free for 3 weeks a year is a far more empty life.

[@ejun251]

@@Quelkei I'm not in disagreement with that. We all have different values. People who consider work to be everything are usually very unfulfilled in family and community. If you're using the time not spent working on something meaningful, then there's no real problem with it. I wouldn't sacrifice my career for volunteer work in the community or become a stay at home dad personally, but I would respect someone who does. There are great books on how to find what your most important values are, such as "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People"

[@MochaxMatcha]

Riiiight!

[@moosh6989]

"Whatever you do there's gonna be some work that you don't enjoy." This is so true. I currently study computing so I've got experience programming and that extends to developing simple games here and there and someone I knew kept coming to me with new ideas on the daily about games they wanted to make except they never stuck on one idea long enough to see it through to completion. They kept saying that they couldn't stick on the same idea or do the less fun tedious work bits required to make the ideas into a reality because they didn't want to lose their passion for it. I remember thinking even if you love playing video games, making them is not always gonna be fun, there's boring and frustrating aspects to literally anything you do.

[@michalkovac2765]

I'll tell you my story, which might relate to this. I had been studying biotechnologies and finished my PhD. But during that time I also had a feeling I would want to be a personal trainer and nutritionist. I trained couple of my friends and they got results, so they told me to give it a try. At the same time I was dissapointed from my PhD and science in general. Likewise, my tutor was having some issues and complaints were pointed at him from all over the uni. As I was finishing, I did not change tutor, because I found out I don't want any tutor or boss at all. I wanted to be my own boss. I moved back from UK (where I finished my PhD) to my home country, and completely forgot about science. At the same time, I was determined to start a fitness business. Now four years later, I am so glad that I made that decision. Some can say those years on PhD were wasted, but that is not true. As Doctor says, try to combine it in some way. There is a lot of **** and scam in fintess industry, but there are scientific papers also. Not everybody can interpret these studies in fitness industry. I can read those papers and understand them well because in was in science. I also gained a good writing skill during my PhD, as I wrote few scientific papers myself. I studied fitness and nutrition a lot during my PhD so I was already ahead of others when I started my business. While my fitness colleagues did not financially survive corona-crisis, I was able to raise my prices twice during it. But do not live in ideals that fitness industry is all shiny and you will wake up motivated every day. There is also plenty of boring stuff, as in every other job. As Doctor says, in the end it is about value, and you might as well be doing good in engineering. I would try to make it a part-time job so you could see how you like it. Good luck!

[@di3486]

I went to college to be a Nutritionist (a 5 year degree) I was so disappointed of how little intelectual challenge I would get out of that career so I went to grad school for immunology and molecular biology and I loved it.

[@100Rhiannon]

This is really nice to hear. I'm currently in my second year of my PhD (physics/electrical engineering) and also feel like I want to be my own boss. I also want to be a maker (see Mark Rober or Simone Giertz if you're wondering what I mean) and I'm running into so many problems in my daily life, that could be fixed with an object, but that object doesn't exist. So I'm gonna build them myself, because I have the skillset and enjoy inventing/building/making/DIY stuff. And I also feel like iterating over this first prototype and then letting it mass produce and sell it, wouldn't be that large of a step. So yeah, I kind of really want to found my own company a few years in the future (I first need some of the first prototypes and stuff), but designing helpful furniture and gadgets is not in the field I studied. A carpetenter education would be much more helpful than a physics degree and a Dr Ing.

[@blondscientist]

Thanks for sharing! Going through the same thing. Have to find what’s gonna be my alternative industry though.

[@lj516]

I'm an Electrical Eng. and was "trained" for power transmission. It took lots of time and patience but I made the transition to my preferred industry and as of last week, received my dream job offer. Hang in there fellow engineers

[@Alesanascreamokid]

What job offer did you receive?

[@EricLeafericson]

Greetings fellow Power Engineer! I actually just took my Power PE test for the 2nd time. What industry did you move to?

[@JourneyToJourneyman]

Bump. Curious to see how this turns out

[@lj516]

Hey guys, I'm now in the auto industry for inverter electrical design! Doubled my salary in about 5yrs...

[@Jason608]

Dr. K speaks the truth. I'm in IT because of my love of computers. My day to day is inefficient meetings, fending off vendors' sales teams, asking other teams to get their part done, writing technical documentation, and double-checking spreadsheets. But that 10% where I'm elbow-deep in the tech, configuring something cool, and then launching it to production and watching all the endpoints check in and execute the script perfectly, those are the moments I live for, and it makes it all worth it. I'm paid to do that 10%, but also the other 90% shitty stuff.

[@littlemontanalady]

Even working for myself in a career I value I often have moments where I procrastinate and become apathetic. It's just apart of adulting and taking breaks from it from time to time can help. I think social media has some play in this as well. It glamorizes certain maybe unrealistic lifestyles for most.

[@ghadi9332]

Well said ... about the social media aspect.

[@SnailHatan]

It isn’t really social media. It’s social progress. COVID enlightened hundreds of millions to the fact that they hate their jobs/careers and need something more, or different.

[@YukioKH]

I feel like Dr K's most used quote is "I know it sounds kinda weird but..." I guess there's a lot of weird stuff when it comes to the mental health of humans.

[@munkyenima]

The hard truths can seem weird to the person analyzing their own psyche, because emotions are often illogical. We just need a gentle outside perspective to see the path forward for our selves. Dr. K has an amazing bedside manner!

[@YukioKH]

@@munkyenima True dat

[@YukioKH]

​@@munkyenima That was very well said by the way. Thank you. I took a moment to think about it and appreciate it.

[@dsakurai]

Also the fact that we do not "usually" think introspectively, and most of the introspections that Dr. K would bring up would be "unusual", so I suppose he preface it that way so that the listeners could be ready for a potentially "unusual" thought that he would introduce. Once the unusuals are normalized, they become the usuals.

[@YukioKH]

@@dsakurai I also think he says it so he doesn't sound too alien and unusual to his viewers. He's like "I also think it sounds weird" And then his viewers are like "Oh okay he's a relatable human. He hasn't gone completely insane". Also I support normalizing unusual stuff lol. A lot of humans have been like limited, programmed, corrupted NPCs for so long.

[@richiecastle460]

Dr. K mentions something i always felt people missed when looking for their dream career: it has to provide value. People will often talk about how they must find a career that helps them, then forget that whatever they do has to actually provide value for someone else. Growing up the example was that "no one's going to pay you to play video games". In reality, you can be a video game tester, but they pay you to improve the game, not enjoy it. The way you have to play that video game will be unenjoyable.

[@behindzerosp]

But this excludes anithing artistic because in direct sense it doesn`t bring value like monetarily. People will say it`s just entertainment or escapism. But people want to draw make music or write books and those things are not without importance.

[@ShazySoft]

I work for myself by myself, on a project based on a passion I've been cultivating for over a decade now. I'd say most of the time I don't "enjoy" what I do, per se. It's difficult, frustrating work that takes a lot of different skills coalescing in order to pull off. "Enjoyment" isn't the point for me, though. Fulfillment and meaning through self-expression and self-determination are what get me through it all. It's a deeper motivation. I believe that if you don't have a deeper motivation towards your job than "I enjoy it," then you are going to struggle a lot in that job. Enjoyment is fickle and fleeting. Meaning is forever.

[@0Ciju0]

Well said.

[@kevinbissinger]

@@nikolas4347 Clearly not true. Why are you online watching psychology videos and commenting if you don't have it? Sounds more like you're trying to convince yourself you don't care to protect yourself from something

[@lucyandecember2843]

o.o

[@АлисаХрупкина]

Mom: you're spoiled Me: STOP BEING SO TOXIC WITH ME OMG YOU'RE RUINING MY MENTAL HEALTH! Dr.K: you're spoiled Me: *I have no doubt on that*

[@heinzarniaung2915]

That's because you know he isn't engaging in boomerisms

[@bradleycarrington9093]

Because you know doctor K will actually listen to you and your concerns, be honest with you, won't judge you, and won't bring emotion into the equation.

[@phoenixsenju8984]

That’s because of a few reasons but one of the main ones being that he only gets to see the “you” how you are right now instead of the past

[@juris4564]

Damn. This is so unbelievably helpful. I (attorney) am in a very similar situation, and hadn’t considered the points you bring up. It feels like everyone around me loves what they do and I couldn’t figure out how to get that in my life. Thank you for posting this when you did. Love the content.

[@Moya4789]

Hello there! Law graduate here. I remember vividly when I started my apprenticeship at an attorney's office and realiziing "omg the true studying begins now😮" I asked the experienced attorney for advice saying "Sir, I think this profession isn't for me" he replied sitting behind his desk with piles of paper etc : I would do that for a penny. He enjoyed all of it? How?? I left and settled with simple jobs like sales, even waitressing. I would be grateful for any input. Greetings from Greece

[@the_markoman]

My suggestion is to look for your passion - and when I say passion I mean something you feel is meaningful enough to sacrifice comfort and enjoyment for. An olympic medalist might have a passion to be at the top, but that doesn't mean they enjoy training all the time. No pleasure can be maintained forever, so it's important to find something that's meaningful on days when it's not fun. As a sidenote, people who call work slavery don't typically say that because work is hard or boring, it's moreso pointing out that it's in the boss/owner's interest make a profit on the value their employees are generating, by having them work as hard as possible for as little pay as possible.

[@divagaciones1628]

Dr. K.: "I don't think you're spoiled". Video title: "you' are spoiled".

[@oscarhope]

There’s definitely a demand for engineers in the fitness industry. A machine that effectively isolates the lower lats would help a lot of bodybuilders. A portable device that could accurately measure a person’s basal metabolic rate and daily energy expenditure could help the millions of people struggling to gain/lose weight. So there’s definitely a market for this person.

[@Meraxes6]

I’m 35 and have changed careers several times. It’s a complicated topic, but balance is the most important thing to consider for me. If your job is super challenging and stressful, it better be rewarding. If it’s boring and easy, it should be giving you the free time and mental energy to pursue more interesting projects. Nothing wrong in having a high-powered career that takes all of your energy, and there’s nothing wrong with taking easy mindless low-paying jobs to free your mind up for side projects. And always be looking for the root cause of your problems and not immediately looking for external solutions

[@rexistreves]

Man Dr. K is such a great guy, glad we have the opportunity to listen to his advices

[@DeniseSkidmore]

When I get to those unpleasant bits of the job, I take a deep breath and say, "Well, if it was all fun they wouldn't pay me."

[@AnonymousOnimous]

Got my master's in Disaster Resilience during the pandemic, so I'm trying to get an internship now. Been volunteering for the American Red Cross on/off since 2016. Turns out, I really do dislike disaster response. Irregular hours, organization style tends to be lax, and action is more reactive. I'm hoping that disaster mitigation is more my speed - regularity, more streamlined, more attention to improving existing efforts, and being proactive. It's not that I've wasted time or that I haven't enjoyed what I've gotten to do so far with the ARC. It's that I'm perpetually learning more about what kind of work I enjoy.

[@kdog8658]

spot on at 9:44. being a faux postive hustler does not lend itself to emotional honesty.

[@canuckasaurus]

My own career has been filled with starts and stops and a full reboot. If I were only to look at my more successful peers, I'd feel significantly behind and struggling to catch up. But I also know some people that seemed to have stopped developing at college and have been in the same rut for the last twenty years. Keeping a balanced perspective is tricky, especially if you don't have much intrinsic motivation to keep doing what you're doing.

[@henryholsten8802]

Comparing with others instead of focusing on the present = not good is what I am learning from dr. K

[@furrosama]

Good luck my guy, sometimes the extrinsic advice from dr. K helps as well! Hope you can keep maintaining or improving that balance

[@spammus1]

I feel like most of this stuff comes from the fact that western cultures pushes a lot the idea of having a successful career and dedicating yourself to a job. I struggled with it a lot too, because I just felt bad every single day because I knew I had to spend most of my awake time at a job I hated, just because I was good at it and it paid good. This is also another problem, I hear too many people saying that you "should do something you are good at rather than something that you like", which might be fine short term, but in the long run it will drain you out. No really liking it most of the times it's normal, I don't know anyone who actually loves their job every single day, but it's just not good for you to do something you REALLY hate. My life drastically improved when I actually took a step back, and got a way less stressful part time job, which doesn't pay a lot and requires a lot of sacrifices, but at least it only occupies 4 or 5 hours of my day. People called me "lazy and spoiled" a lot, but I honestly came to realise that I value my limited time on this planet way more than a successful career or having loads of money. I don't really like it most of the times, but I don't hate it as much as I hated my previous job and more importantly, I can actually spend more time doing the things I enjoy.

[@GreenBlueWalkthrough]

100% agree! As for me I grew up wanting to be a US air force pilot and fly A-10s and get an aerospace engineering degree... But I just can't 1. I have like 5 chronic illnesses and you out with 1. 2. the math, procurer, temperament, exactness involved I just can't. I have the rest though so I play flying games/sims on my KZbin channel and write books and make art/games using aerospace engineering work and research into the USAF as imperation for the stories and make then more realistic... So yeah you don't need do the thing you can't but you can take what you can do and do something else.

[@jakubbaran6357]

You've pointed one, very important thing, that while we're chasig efficiency in modern world our jobs becoming more and more mundane. Before you had to walk around a hospital and look at the real people - good for psychical and psychological health - now you can do the same sitting in front of 2D screen.

[@johannes7056]

Really starting to see the patterns in those temporal hardships which seem to pressure us into deciding between "live changing" paths, just like the other video about the guy in his 6th year architecture. Myself inclouded, I feel like everyone is going through such situations once every while not knowing the reason why and making it by that a lot harder than it has to be ^^.

[@AshTreeDweller]

He nails it pretty squarely. There is suffering in life, we just need to proper tools to navigate through the suffering.

[@novelgiani]

I'm definitely very spoiled, been spoiled all my life and still am, I'm turning 23 in about a week and I have no idea how to maintain or even obtain a job. I thankfully have my parents' support to do whatever I want, but I feel like that's also what's making me spoiled. My dad *doesn't* want me to leave the house because he has an overattachment to me, and I'm fine with that too, but at the same time, I feel like that's limiting me as a person who has to be more independent and, well, be an adult. I'd like to get a job but I was never taught how to do a lot of things. I'm not even that good at basic social interaction tbh. The idea of working at a fast food place scares me to hell and working briefly as a cashier once wasn't the most pleasant experience. Just thinking about that time makes me feel like crap because that's probably just part of the job. So basically, I've been so spoiled all my life by my family that I feel like I'm still a teen in a 23 year old's body.

[@Gerolix]

i dont have a lot to say but yeah man i can relate, especially the last sentence

[@terminaldeity]

The only way to learn is to try. If you fail at something, learn from that failure and try again.

[@Danielxt34]

I'm in the EXACT same situation. Sheltered with low self esteem and coping with frustration. Two days lasted my last job. But fortunately, I dont feel that bad right now. If you want someone to talk and practice social interaction, I can give you a hand.

[@onethousandfaces]

Maybe try something like doordash or uber if you can because the barrier to entry is smaller. This way you can get some type of work experience. Working in a grocery store is an option too that I consider less stressful than fast food, but that's based on individual experience.

[@novelgiani]

@@onethousandfaces I don't have a licence and I've never learned how to drive. My father got a car gifted to him a few weeks ago and then gave it to me for free because again, he spoils me to hell, so I hope to get some driving lessons soon at least.

[@SCFick318]

This video added value to my life, answered a question I never knew how to ask

[@chowinsnow]

You’re blowing my mind. This stuff is so simple but it’s still like 🤯

[@Onthe9thlife3730]

It's always "you have it so easy/no one likes work/you can't love everything in a job" all my life. Yet I haven't had a single job where I had something that was enjoyable, not a single aspect of it. Queue debilitating burnout that's crippled me and finding out I'm autistic and ADHD. This explains so much and now I don't have a job and unable to find a single job that fits any of my needs. I've worked in retail, hospitality front and back end, fitness industry, financial industry, and data review validation and entry. I always struggle in school environments and never had a single interest in any course offered in university. Eternally clumsy is just dyspraxia so working in something like carpentry is just going to lead to injuries. I was constantly burning, bruising, and cutting myself even with correct techniques when cheffing. What to do when there isn't even an identifiable factor of any job that I've worked in that I got enjoyment from? I struggle with noise, lighting, and either need to be moving around or not moving around but I don't get to pick, it's whatever my brain needs at the time. I can't even mask and push through anymore.

[@bufficliff8978]

Park ranger or the arts

[@Onthe9thlife3730]

@@bufficliff8978 thank you for the suggestions, I was looking for the arts when all the rubbish with AI stuff went down, the artists I follow stopped getting commissions and are struggling and even the well known ones are having difficulties with it, those who haven't already completely given up, it was bad enough with all the cheap Chinese knockoffs and stealing but now it's on a much larger scale and people just don't care it's all theft and stolen IP. Then there's the massive layoffs happening in animation and game development. Ranger is out of scope for me, I've looked at that too and landscaping/gardening, unfortunately spring and summer are hell seasons for my allergies and asthma, even winter is too hot for me most the time and Australia still has stuff flowering and grasses I can't run away from. A librarian was another one I looked at but is also beyond since they're no longer quiet calm spaces, just loud noisy centres hosting community events and the excessive lighting in the buildings is almost as bad as grocery stores.

[@casualnerdjason6678]

Thank you for bringing up Starcraft. As a fellow boomer, I deeply appreciate this.

[@aries2242]

It's kind of comforting but also freaky how similar his situation is to mine. We're at the same age too lmao. I've had three jobs so far and none really stuck. My first job lasted a year. My second job lasted 3 months coupled with a mental breakdown haha. I took a long ass break and now I'm in my third job and I'm wondering once again if I can last while just in my 8th month. I already told myself I needed to stick it out at least for 2 years cause job hopping looks bad on the resume. So now I'm asking the exact same questions on whether I'm spoiled, whether I'm weak-willed, whether I just don't know how to persevere.

[@breadboigaming7420]

he could literally make exercise equipment! I would tell him to go to the gym, but this time make note of exercises he did and felt could be optimized more on the equipment side? ergonomic dumbells, different angles of resistance pathing and so on. It's absolutely there

[@zandariko1942]

As a former engineer student, I had it hard earlier this year when I came to the realisation that i also only wanted to click buttons in video games. Having already tried a lot of things to make it better the job offered by engineering could not satisfy my will to talk to humans and to think and talk about science. I was giving courses aside and was getting much more satisfaction from that, i decided to quit after realising that I would get the same money per hour if I made my tutoring full time. This video was spot on for me ^^ In the end I also don't recommend to make macroscopic changes at first. Trying and being less invested in the 'secure' to free time to get into something else was huge to me. I also had to rebudget everything and being your own boss is harder on a lot of levels, but I knew what I was getting into because I tried it on the side before going for it. Was the best decision of my life

[@franacha]

I have a job in public administration. And I always felt like I'm wasting my potential and condemning myself to a life of poverty once I leave my mother's house. BUt, I can't bring myself to study. For decades I've beat myself both physically and mentally. But when the time comes for me to sit down and actually do something boring and non-stimulating I just can't do it. I drift off almost immediately and every part of my mind go insane. I'm awful at taking care of myself. I am the worst person to be responsible for myself. Because I just can't do what I have to and mature and start doing anything productive. I've been procrastinating living my life for almost a decade now. And I don't know how to break myself out of this cycle. There's always one more video to watch, one more post, one more meme. And if my phone isn't available I daydream. I will always find what to distract myself with. The idea of studying many hours a day for YEARS to get a degree is simply science fiction to me. I feel like the lack of discipline when I was a kid and teen absolutely ruined me beyond repair. It feels dreadful.

[@Amarytha]

Hey! Not trying to diagnose in a youtube comment here, but have you looked into ADHD assessment?

[@franacha]

@@Amarytha Yeah, I do have it. I was diagnosed more or less seven years ago, when I was 22. But it was already too late. I can't discipline myself and overcome it. I never could.

[@marcelokj954]

hey just want to share that it's really possible to change. I went from never cleaning nothing at home and letting stuff in my room grows mold to now keep things kinda organized and cleaning my room once a month or so, for instance. It happened in a time span of three years kind of and since I got in therapy it helped me alot. Im struggling with lot of things still but wanted to tell you that who you are is not determined in any shape or way.

[@Klarified01]

This guy is the embodiment of good shit! Love you Dr. K

[@msnbmnt]

Just recently found out about you, Dr K. Always on point and I feel deeply that you are really speaking to my situation in many videos. However, this one really hits home with my current situation after getting terminated from my data science job and having reactionary thoughts of building a career in music with little to none of the requisite skills/resources. Your encouragement to combine the unicorn with the technicals has given me some good ideas and I am excited to pursue them. Thank you.

[@max_the_mantis5173]

Fascinating to observe. My dream job is to be a villain who sings and makes enough money from my art to pay rent alone without assistance from anyone. Currently I’m unemployed, because working retail gave me frequent panic attacks, and I had a heart attack at 21, from masking as a ‘nuerotypical happy girl’ when actually I’m an autistic boy who didn’t get diagnosed until 20, and didn’t realize I was a guy until around when I quit my job because I was beginning to have alot of physical side effects from hiding the depression. I quit in late 2021 for another job that only lasted a few months, and then lost my ex girlfriend who lives in another country, now I’m living in poverty with a family friend. I’m 22. So now I’m recovering from the first 20 years and for the first time feel like I actually have a choice over my future and honesty with the past. I actually really love myself now when I’m not among other humans that is. I’m autistic, and I REALLY love singing, character design, and all artistic expression because art helps me understand myself, people, and characters. I’m very good at the nonsense I make, but although I’m very skilled, I have no idea how money works. So for now I stick to my room creating stuff that helps me express my humanity and focusing on gaining meditations, more knowledge and skill no matter what happens next.

[@ryanbarker3978]

The advice towards the end of the video is worth its weight in gold. Combine your passions to find purpose.

[@trev1783]

Dr K is really on a role with these videos.

[@thunderjolt69]

You're right, I am spoiled.

[@nick246824]

I take back what I thought about you. Such a moving wave of confidence.

[@deebo5474]

This guy needs to learn a trade. The manual work will keep him fit, and he can use his passion physics in an applied way. No more theoretical equations, its actual real life physics.

[@mellodees3663]

I know I'm spoiled. I'm doing well in life and everything I'm doing is because of opportunities given.

[@Ryahu]

Hmmm laterally moving from apartment maintenance to something to do with music.. I got nothing but I'll update if I figure it out lol. Maybe my core skillset is I'm a guy with a truck and a bunch of tools and people who throw music shows might need stuff installed or worked on? Definitely gives me some things to consider!

[@Meraxes6]

"The unicorn isn't found, it's crafted." SO TRUE

[@phosspatharios9680]

"Do you drink grapefruit juice?" I know exactly why Dr.K is mentioning this question, and this makes me realize my psychiatrist never asked me this question... ...maybe it's because grapefruit is not common in my country, but still

[@ghadi9332]

I literally studied this pharmacological fact in my current med school semester and I feel powerful right now.

[@paulv6732]

I'm kinda new here, what is the effect of grapefruit ?

[@paulv6732]

I'm kinda new here, what is the effect of grapefruit ?

[@ghadi9332]

@@paulv6732 grapefruit juice alter some medication effect, to put it simply: it blocks enzyme that is important in breaking down medications in the body, so the net result is medication will stay longer in the body and will cause more effect...so sometimes it's important to know before administration of a drug (especially neurological drugs) if grapefruit juice is present or not

[@ChoseSimba]

I've been in the same predicament before but I work in IT Operations not Engineering. Working in fitness is absolutely tedious and unrewarding even if you have a passion for it. Once you start dealing with other people's motivations, diets, excuses, etc it really loses its charm. Also you will sit on the computer writing diet and workout plans for hours on end every day and you will need to learn a study a lot of really boring material/studies as well. It's not all hitting PRs and hanging out with chiseled sexy people lol. The other factor is that working in fitness is largely about marketing so if you don't have a background or nack for that it will be very tough to do well, specially when compared to Engineering pay. I decided to stick with IT Ops but I still follow my passion in fitness on my own and help people who seek me for that. It's much more rewarding this way.

[@fgregerfeaxcwfeffece]

Oh, I remeber what that grapfruit juice thing was about: That's actually not random. If I recall correctly grapefruit juice dissolves the casings of some meds that are supposed to slow the bodies absorption of it.

[@CB66941]

I like it, this video had been... validating? Not sure what other word to describe it. Several things I wanna add is that when people tell you you're spoiled, and when you tell yourself you're spoiled, it just doesn't help. Because being told that you're spoiled is in a way a form of "comparative suffering", because of the "other people are having it worse, what do you have to complain about" attitude (also funny how these same people can tell you not to compare yourself with others yet call you spoiled). Comparing people's problems solves no problems. It's also mostly true that if you do find something you're interested in, you aren't going to enjoy every step or part of the process to bring value to your work. I've talked with artists who had creative blocks, writers with writer's block, etc. Same goes for what I myself am venturing into. Combining 2 fields to create value is what Steve Jobs did when he introduced fonts to computing typeface from his calligraphy days.

[@letsreadtextbook1687]

Yeah, frankly the best way is accepting a realistic goal and underlying enjoyment in which one can achieve. The goal is something good, not creating more suffering just to be perceived self as un-spoiled (in whìch mindset can create compulsiveness)

[@lucyandecember2843]

o.o

[@thegnosticatheist]

11:30 that is a great thing to say. I'll add one word more to this. Work is about delivering value.

[@Moose92411]

For reasons that I can’t quite elucidate, this was one of the most intriguing sessions I’ve seen in a long time

[@vladislavkaras491]

Great topic to discuss. I had similar problems, I will now treat them well. Thank you! Also, great design, without chat on the videos. For me it was always disturbing. Thank you for the video!

[@vrahnkeneisenbach9148]

So the thing I have to say about this is: it's one thing to be a drama queen when you have it relatively well and you complain about how hard your life is, but it's another thing to be a boot-licking suckup who let's themselves get walked over because they COULD have it worse. It's not only a right for society to find issues and keep ironing them out to shoot as high as we can go, but a duty, and if we shirk on those duties because WE have it relatively well, then we're being overly self-centered. Everything's all connected, and so our minor issues could be symptoms that share a common root cause to something worse like homelessness. The issue shouldn't be there, and it's representative of something nefarious, either way.

[@painter5391]

I appreciate this video a lot, thank you

[@kristianyotov5202]

This video is incredibly helpful, thank you!

[@alrightbro]

7 years into my career, I've come to accept that at least this job doesn't make me want to kill myself EVERY day, maybe 4 out of 5 days but at least 1 day I enjoy it and see its value and worth. And it ebbs and flows, some weeks are amazing 5 of 5 days and some weeks its shit Monday AM to Friday PM. I feel lucky because of that. And to this point, I've also learned there are things in my control I can do to make things better.

[@kaga13]

My job is in some ways a dream for my undergrad self who thought the best physicists were generalists like Freeman Dyson who did work in lots of different fields; in some ways that's what I do, my job pulls from E&M, thermo, mechanics and I solve physics problems based on that on super computers. There are days were it is an outright pain in the ass to get simulations running, things that need redoing, sometimes outright silly mistakes that themselves are embarrassing and such that definitely doesn't invoke the childlike curiosity I had growing up watching Carl Sagan documentaries. There are other days where it's the exact opposite and I light up learning this math and seeing that my stuff added to the value of the products we're looking at to our costumers. I disagree with Dr. K alot but his advice here is pretty spot on especially about engineers in the fitness industry. I have an electrical engineering (and physics) background but I work in a field that's dominated by mechanical engineers, don't limit yourself based on the name of the field of your degree.

[@Daycros]

this is a message I need to hear.

[@AlanNess]

Another video that is uploaded right as I needed it the most. I'm a fresh graduate and I am afraid of committing my time to working a job. Now I have a new perspective on what having a job and performing duties should be about.

[@jjkthebest]

The problem is, my dad loves his work and it pays well. Maybe not day in day out, but it's rather demotivating when I see I'm probably never gonna enjoy my work that much nor earn as much. I'm a programmer, so at least the earning part is decent, but when your main example of what you should be when you grow up feels so out of your league, it's impossibly demotivating. Looking exclusively at my passions and skills I should be writing videogames or AI, but the videogame industry is notoriously bad to its employees, and the AI companies I applied to would take me. I guess one day I'll try to switch to AI again, hoping that my increased work experience will get me the job I couldn't get now, and hoping that that job will actually be as fun as I now think it will be. But that still puts me in a position where I'm gonna have to stay with a mediocre job potentially for years. It's not exactly a fun prospect.

[@callummdev]

100% agree with the career stuff. I pursued game design because I had a passion for it in high school on a surface level, and now that I’m working as a designer in the industry not everything is super enjoyable. That’s fine though, and I’m still very happy with my career choice, but the idea of “find your passion and you’ll never work a day in your life” is not as binary as people make it sound.

[@Meraxes6]

Yep. I’m an artist, which is my dream job and my passion, and I enjoy the actual work maybe 10% of the time. Still worth it

[@1BuLeT2KPS3]

The title of this video should be changed to something career related. I've really been trying to find videos on career stuff and stumbled upon this one and it helped a lot. Thank you HealthyGamer

[@DejaquezernDenaster]

Uh oh. I felt extremely lucky when Dr K was describing those who really enjoy what they do and are excited to do it daily, and then he mentioned the personal relationships part and I want to be better about it but I really love what I do and feel so grateful for the opportunity that I don’t want to squander it

[@mintee8638]

For me, here are three steps when one has a passion. (1) Develop an awareness of all the topics or subcategories within that passion or that closely relates to it. (2) Figure out what are the things in that passion that one specifically enjoys playing with or learning. (3) Make a list of what others are willing to pay for within this area in general. Then, how can I create a pathway using (2)'s to lead me to (3). For (3), be aware of the entrepreneurial path. Though that is much harder, it provides more options. Business is pretty much the art of dealing value to people and to yourself. In dealing value to oneself, it means improving one's mindset and not letting one's mind become the bottleneck toward providing more value to others.

[@AshTreeDweller]

This is why I’m glad I went into nursing. There’s a bunch of different things you can do as a nurse. Same with other degrees, I’m sure having an engineering degree if similar?

[@kaga13]

It depends, mechanical engineering is the most general and so the easiest to move around engineering fields with; though I moved into a field that's traditionally mechanical engineering focused with a mixed electrical engineering and physics background so it's possible.

[@CatGirl12311]

That’s great that you enjoy nursing! However, I personally know many who’ve burned out after just a couple of years, some in my own family. Feeling like we need to be having honest conversations about the realties of high stress/burnout in our healthcare & helping professions ❤️‍🩹

[@eonryan8491]

8:23 10:10 - wouldnt chase the incredible passion that is lucrative “myth”, most people are in the middle 10:26(10:33) 11:25 - work is about value, which is the best reason to work 13:48 15:13 - lawyer movie example 21:50 - combining skills and passions 25:50 - what is being spoiled

[@koolkel00]

So I'm from Iowa but I moved to Colorado to go to a film school here. My dream is to be a film/animation director. I want to make movies that are fun or interesting to watch, but also help people. To start out I got a security job and so my income has been stable. I put a pause on starting film school because I wanted wait out the pandemic because I have ADHD and I cannot learn what I need to through online classes, I came here because I want to physically be around people and have hands on experience. In the meantime I'm at a post where I can work on my art and writing and animation skills at my security desk and I have a stable income. Now after all this time has passed, I'm afraid to go to school because I'm scared of losing my income and this really good post I'm at. It's really expensive to live in Denver and I'm terrified I won't be able to cope with the stress of full time classes and being able to make rent while also still working. But I don't want to be stuck in security forever, it's not a field I'm passionate about, it's just the only job I can get that will give me health insurance. I'm having second thoughts about this college because Im feeling more drawn towards animation as time passes, and this college is only for film. I don't know if I'm spoiled for being afraid to lose my income, I'm not ungrateful for this job, but I know for a fact making movies is what I'm meant to do, but I don't know how to cope with this transition. I feel like a fraud because I'm a security guard but that's not what I want to be, but I'm too much of a coward to take that leap because I know it's incredibly difficult to make a living wage as a film director. What should someone like me do?

[@TomMinnow]

Hey so I went to school for art, worked in the field for years and i personally feel as though school was a waste of money. In my experience, when you're an artist nobody cares if you have a degree, they care about your portfolio. Those fancy schools don't teach you anything you can't learn through trial and error. Keep your job, maybe cut back on some of the hours if you can, and build up your portfolio, watch tutorials, take a few cheap classes for learning a specific animation software if you need to. Post online, build a following, that's how you make it as an artist nowadays.

[@wdviolet8434]

The work world is completely stacked against workers. Y’all really need to think about your clip titles. I get that Dr K doesn’t want to get into politics, and that it’s best to adapt to the world even though it’s unfair. But that doesn’t mean we have to pretend that the problem is always you, you, you, when society is so deeply sick. Work is an exhausting, unfair, undemocratic environment. It isn’t neutral like learning piano or a hobby like that; it’s controlled by powerful people who benefit from keeping you down. It can be demeaning and degrading, it unnecessarily pits you against others. And if you dont succeed at your career, America says great! You get to starve. Good luck climbing out of the poverty hole! So if you dont feel great about work and careers, maybe.. just maybe… that isn’t your fault

[@phosspatharios9680]

There is no personal solution to a systemic problem. Only final solutions

[@koi_krapfen]

Man, your victim mentality is pathetic. There are many ways to take life into yout own hands. Humans are hirachic beeings, so everybody want's to be number one and thus nobody will gift you your dreamlife. If you are unhappy in your situation then use yout anger to fuel your drive.

[@andeddoberubetto]

So much this. I think we're all able to compare and contrast, looking at other countries, etc. and realize "hey, I'm being exploited". And that's not a good motivator, haha. Even working to get out of the United States is very difficult, and most of us are in such poor health, that overcoming our ridiculous AF healthcare system to get treatment that WE NEED is a whole other fucking ballgame. From what I see and hear, and from my own personal experiences, it makes me feel like we're entering a dark age of mental health crises, social media corruption, and an older generation that simply cannot understand, because they never personally experienced this kind of technological boom interfering with rewiring their brain and their perceptions of reality. MONKE brain go REEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE

[@wdviolet8434]

@@koi_krapfen thanks for illustrating the problem for everyone. Next time though, read the comment you’re replying to first, and then spell check before hitting enter

[@wdviolet8434]

@@xenonsan3110 the burnout video was more about one worker having a problem, the root of which can be the particular workplace or the particular worker, or both. What we’re talking about here is the larger system of work, careers, and wealth in the states. We’re put in that system and then repeatedly told that it’s totally neutral, that it’s the only natural way to organize society, that no one built it this way - it just somehow came to be on its own. Have fun figuring out your career, kid! Meanwhile that system degrades and exhausts you and coerces you into providing value to owners, because if you don’t play ball you get to be poor. You don’t even get healthcare. That is bad and people feel bad about it. I have a very well paying job, but I refuse to look down on people who are struggling for the very limited number of truly well paying jobs just so that they can be afforded human dignity. Whether you win this game or not, it is degrading.

[@lewisnorden3744]

Would love to see a video from you on gratitude

[@b.a.r.c.l.a.y]

same feel like i have a perfectionistic and ungrateful, maybe even anti-grateful, devil on my shoulder all the time would really wanna know what too low standards are and what too high standards are

[@lewisnorden3744]

@@b.a.r.c.l.a.y I want to know what i should be grateful for when things aren't great, like with illness or a serious unfortunate event occuring

[@blondequijote]

22:30 I’ve heard ppl injure themselves on elliptical machines, which are a low impact alternative to running outside or on a treadmill. Obviously there no such thing as idiot proof and it’s probably ppl pushing themselves too hard or using the machine wrong but I bet a sound understanding of how our bodies move and how they’re not supposed to move would really help the person designing workout equipment. Not that we need more different types but there’s definitely a market for it.

[@TheSabotaje]

Wonderful content, keep it coming please 🙏🏻

[@andrewg2586]

I think this is what a father should tell their son or daughter when they are going through career growth.

[@rrjack12345]

Main Points: 1. Look at temporary factors, why are you asking this question now? 2. Privilege absolutely matters, there's correlation between income and happiness buutt it's not black and white. Just because you're "privileged" does not mean you are happier than others. 3. Be careful about making a drastic life decision based on temporary factors, try to fix those first. 4. Work is about value. 5. Definitely gravitate towards stuff that you care about but realize that it's more than likely that there are going to be things that you are going to do that you will not like and that's ok. 6. Remember if you're deciding between two careers or more, it doesn't have to pay an either/or, you can get creative and combine the two or more. 7. Most important part of a job interview is asking good questions so that you can figure out if the job is right for YOU.

[@Gabster1990]

People have trouble leaving their comfort zones.

[@koi_krapfen]

Cause we addicted to comfort

[@Balloonbot]

Thats just...human nature. We should ideally always have some semblance of comfort in our lives at one point or another. Maybe youre learning a new skill outside of ypur comfort zone, then having a reliable comfortable job will benefit greatly. Or if youre travelling more then having a decent place to live when you return is valuable. This instagram notion of "COMFORT IS THE ENEMY" Is way overplayed, its a balance. If we feel everything we have is a crutch it just makes us anxious and self deprecating, leading to further in action

[@krox477]

The whole human progress is for comfort

[@JerziTBoss]

I am a programmer... And I wake up hating going into the work... I hate debugging and fixing broken code that is not my own... Especially since my broken code is usually fixed by 1-3 lines of code while other mess require much more. There also a bright sides because when I can showcase my skill to the fullest I can see the respect and gratitude from customers who are happy that their work get easier and I can see my skill rising because once again I gained more experience. I hate the grind mindset and I try to avoid it as much as possible. My job is not easy and my goals are never easy but with right balance of grind and rest you can go far. Expecting career to be easy is really dumb mindset. Nothing is easy and even in jobs you like there will be hard times but if you quit every time things get tough well then good luck I guess.

[@bobobsen]

Same dude.. I had that exact same job and it felt dead end even though I was just starting out. It sounds like you're doing alright so that's fair, but my advice is if you don't enjoy it AND you don't feel like you're learning for it AND you don't desperately need it right now, quit and find out what you want to do instead. One of the best decisions I ever made.

[@jerseattle0722]

I think there is a balance of creating value and enjoying work. Life is not continually joyous for most. Work wont be either. But if life is miserable you know change is necessary to get past misery. Same with work.

[@RahulSharma-ot3wo]

Sometimes I feel personally attacked pepelaugh but it's helpful

[@haunts3479]

wtf? randomly pepelaugh emotes wtf? how pepelaugh helpful is pepelaugh that?

[@JLchevz]

Excellent advice

[@Dimitris__09]

I am agreeing with so many things you say, it is actually scary

[@SwayTree]

Oh yeah! I know it so well. I graduated with Computer Science degree. I love programming but in a way of making computer solve my problems. I really enjoyed algorithms, formal languages etc. But when I went to work at the age of 23 I quickly realized that it is NOTHING like this! You fight for a half of day to center a button or wonder why the value isn't passed correctly. And you do it again and again and again. I quickly realized that there is a lot of jobs for programmers but they are mostly super boring (at least from my point of view). You rarely analyze anything and get to creative solutions most of the time you go through documentation or internet. So I became business analyst. And that was it. I can talk to people, learn about dfferent businesses, design solutions, gather requirements, analyze and be creative. I solve problems again. And I still get the kick when I see the software running on different stages of development and how it does exactly what I want. It's just not written by me.

[@whatever361]

Thank you so much , so intersting topic

[@susrev88]

not sure if it was addressed here, but dr. k said "work is creating value". my problem with this is that no matter how hard i work or how much value i create, i will have the same fairly low salary as long as i am an employee. also, i'd recommend thinking about the role of work in our lives throughout history. nowadays you have to have a job to have the right to be exist (cf. homeless). you spend half of your awake time to work, most probably for somebody who barely pays you. most people not gonna break their necks during work because they are paid by the hour and not by performance. furthermore, you have to have a job to sustain yourself, and it's getting more common that you work to pay the rent because you need a rent to have that job, and you need that job to pay the rent, etc. so i don't think that a lot of us are just spoiled. finally, most jobs are either dumbed down to a point that anyone with an IQ higher than 90 can't enjoy, or 2-3 jobs are combined into one, and you need to be an above average performer to deal with it. most people are not like these.

[@SArthur221]

20:22 someone drinking grapefruit juice can easily OD on say heart medication, so that's an important thing

[@reade_gauvin]

Also, I take Sertraline, and apparently Grapefruit doesn’t react well with certain SSRIs.

[@AGiLiTY-1]

Hello Dr.K just wanted to ask “should I or people in general, lower their standards in order for one to have a successful relationship?” I thought it would be a good topic to talk about.

[@angelnokare6906]

I for sure am chasing that dream(or at least thinking about it). While I don't care much about pay, as long as it gets me by I'm fine with it. At current job I constantly say.. I would rather do something enjoyable and be paid less.

[@bbsonjohn]

13:07 doesn't matter how many zealots and upgrades you have. Fly in your arbiter to a Terran base -> happen to avoid missile turrets by luck -> recall to win.

[@nerissacrawford8017]

I got into a type of engineering just because my dad is working in there. Two years ago, I got into nuclear engineering and THAT ignited me with the passion of a thousand suns. I LOVE anything to do with the atom, to the point I would live by it. I am working on a bachelor's degree to get there. Never had a full-time job. I am waiting to do nuclear engineering full-time job. Am I entitled? Is it dumb to wait on getting a full-time job before a nuclear engineering job? I have no idea.

[@henryholsten8802]

I work something that has an as of yet totally unknown value (not a start up) I hope what I do will make a positive change in the future

[@eatnplaytoday]

If they had to question if they’re spoiled, I think they are not. A true spoiled person would cry and stay unemployed like me

[@jin394]

lol, I'm here also as an electrical engineer. I've managed to stay at 1 job for 3 years now out of college, but I ALSO really like health and fitness and especially mobility, and am debating going back to school and becoming a Physical Therapist, and get involved in the fitness/health industry that way. I'd have to pay a lot of money to get the degree, and wouldn't easily make as much as a PT as a I do now and could if I stayed as an engineer, but I don't care about money too much (after a point at least), I would definitely still be able to live comfortable on a PT's salary.

[@henryholsten8802]

This was a good one

[@QoraxAudio]

Yes, it's about generating value, like real estate speculation! 👍

[@nema151]

You create value if you LIVE FOR THE SWARM.

[@Moose92411]

Dr. K’s tab list is spectacularly revealing

[@mofire5674]

The way Dr.K goes "Hmm maybe you can combine engineering and fitness?" makes me see the foreshadowing of this leading to the guy becoming a successful workout machine designer or something.