"You can't afford designer stuff with a 9-5 job" | Chat & Storytime

I had a great question from one of you a few weeks ago, talking about whether it's possible to buy luxury when you work a 9-5 job.
In this I chat through some of my thoughts and my own personal experiences. I think the answer to this is yes & no and will differ person to person (based on their salary + outgoings)
Please share your thoughts in the comments :)
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[@veronicavenditti3614]

Social media are destrying us. They distort reality. At 17 you shouldn't be obsessed with luxury bags. I started buying luxury bags after I was 30, when I started to have an economic stability, if you don't have it, how can you think about spending money on unnecessary things..?

[@NatashaEstrada]

I think at 17 you're probably doing well if you even HAVE a bag to put your stuff in. Designer bags are a status symbol in a way and while they are nice to have you shouldn't stress if you don't have them because you are 17 and haven't had time to work your way up yet. If you're 17 enjoy your youth and leave the status bags to old hags like me haha.

[@SophieShohetOfficial]

I think social media was at its sweet spot in 2010-2013. You could post a pic on IG and not get bamboozled with a post vs a story vs reel 😂😅 KZbin was just chill and it all felt more fun. I think in recent years some of the fun is being lost. Thank you both for sharing your thoughts on this 🙏🏽❤️ hugs xx

[@eloy8487]

i don’t see a problem in thinking about spending money on “unnecessary things” at a young age. i’m 20 and i’ve been wanting luxury bags for years and obviously i understand i am in no position to afford such items but my desire and love for luxury bags motivates me. luxury is my goal so i work towards attaining it because that’s what i want and it’ll make me happy

[@NatashaEstrada]

@@SophieShohetOfficial I think also the last 2 years of being shut in has amplified this distortion because these influencers become in a way their "peer" group and there isn't that comparison to real life. I was in Vegas last week and did a little people-watching survey and even in a nice casino probably 1 in 100 handbags are designers that cost more than $300 and very few are anything more elaborate than Louis Vuitton. Saw a few Chanels and a single Birkin. Made me feel a little overdressed. I only dined out because I'm too old to go clubbing. Social media influencers are literally 1 in a million

[@ianaemi5608]

agree. only end of 20s i have somewhat achieve economic stability and i bought my first LV neonoe at 30.

[@hollyalwaysjolly9123]

You are, by far, the ONLY realistic, sensible, and truly logical "influencer" out there. I keep telling my 20 something nieces that buying Louis Vuitton, Chanel, and Dior is not an everyday thing a normal person does. The trouble is, they're watching these people on KZbin who post nothing but their luxury hauls, they think that this is how they should be living! I try to explain to them that the influencers are being paid or being given vouchers a lot of the time so that these products and brands can be featured on their channels. They just think that they must have a Chanel bag. They wouldn't be caught dead wearing a $40 bag from TK Maxx. So frustrating.

[@jennifermcgee8621]

These influencers have presented a very unrealistic of life to young woman.

[@hollyalwaysjolly9123]

@@jennifermcgee8621 Absolutely. That's why I like Sophie. She tells you up front the reality of the situation.

[@emmy7436]

They also RETURN and RESELL those items! I used to work at Nordstrom’s in LA and I would see “influencers” buy an item and return it the very next day after their unboxing and photoshoot. All smoke and mirrors.

[@shaniathemen]

I’m 20 and I would love the own luxury items but now it’s just not realistic for me to own such items at such a young age. I’ll just rock my MK bags I got from the outlet for now 😂. Me and my boyfriend are focusing on saving for our house that we at least want to built before the age of 27 when that’s done I’ll start saving for luxury. I’m not going to have unrealistic goals at such a young age and I will definitely not beg my parents for luxury goods, my goal is to buy my first luxury piece with my own hard-earned money but if my parents offer to buy me it I won’t say no either 😂

[@sarizonana]

@@shaniathemen it’s all about showing style, you don’t need luxury bags to look great I love MK bags and all contemporary brands. It’s about confidence and fashion sense

[@christinarobinson3654]

It is ABSOLUTELY possible to afford luxury and work a "9 to 5." However, it's totally dependant on salary & budgeting; those things determine how often you can actually afford to purchase. Buying 2nd hand certainly makes owning luxury more attainable in many cases. Multiple income streams also helps. It doesn't have to be beyond reach.

[@BedeliaMikk]

Plus, not having kids makes it a lot easier. Kids are sooo expensive.

[@SK-lb2fn]

Smart woman...🙌🏼 some talk and do nothing some acta non verba

[@suebrewer1649]

I have a college degree and have been working in my field for 30+ years. I didn’t buy my first luxury bag until I was around 50. To be honest, it wasn’t something I could even think about early in my career. And then I had a family, so other needs took priority. Retirement savings were also a priority. I’m comfortable enough now to be able to treat myself. Be patient when you’re first starting out.

[@michrolfe]

Same here I only got my first luxury bag at 51 :)

[@dixiesmitherman6898]

Sue, I have the same story although I am 64 now. My priority was to have children raised, home paid for, no cc debt, savings. These things should be first priority before buying luxury.

[@suebrewer1649]

@@dixiesmitherman6898 Totally agree. You have to be financially set before you start throwing money at things that, to be honest, aren’t really worth what we’re paying for them.

[@katemiller7874]

Same here I was 48. My family came first not bags.

[@reginag7911]

@@suebrewer1649 I totally agree! When you have a mortgage, kids, bills, savings for retirement, vacation, etc., it’s hard to justify spending thousands on a handbag, which is by any definition a “want” among many, many, many needs.

[@LifestylewithSophie]

Interesting topic! I work 9-5 but still don’t own anything designer (although I would like to). I also think it comes down to what you prioritise - personally I would prioritise regular holidays over designer items

[@Chickadee_]

Me too. Experiences over possessions, but there are those that can do both and good for them.

[@not-even-german4892]

A lot of people think that way and that's reasonable☀️👌👍

[@anutash8037]

You can buy other designer items like I do. You can check the bags and items I bought they not worst just brands do bot est your money și badly.

[@tessy28]

I work 9 to 5 and own a luxury handbag collection and just bought a house recently. I think it depends on what you prioritise but there are ways that you can do both and have the experience and the possessions.

[@mann7298]

also depends on what kind of experiences/holidays you like. my mother took my family on a holiday for the first time when i was 18-19 to spain. afterwards she said, i would much rather just book a summer cottage for a week (which costs the same as one persons holiday to spain). so she doesnt care about traveling far but rather holidaying in our country in a nice cottage, which is very cheap. now, shes not one to buy luxury, but just an example how peoples preferance of experiences can differ as well, doesnt always have to be expensive.

[@susanclarke431]

I am 46 and only bought my first luxury bag when I was 45 because that’s when it was right for me. I have travelled a lot and I have two children. At 17 I was more interested in travelling than luxury bags.

[@emmy7436]

For me it was setting up a direct deposit to a separate “bag” account from my paycheck. For example if I make $500 a week and I put 8% into my bag account each week automatically when I get paid, that over $2k and the end of the year to get something like an LV or Givenchy bag. I did this while I was working in college and I was able to start my collection. Each of those bags is actually now selling for more than what I bought it for so I could probably resell them and get my money back. With the same logic, 8% of 500 is $40 a week. Could you maybe pick up one extra shift? Walk your neighbors dog or babysit on the side? I was a high-up manager at my last job making over $100k a year and guess what? I still walked my neighbors dog for her every night for side spending money! When you break it down, you can create a great savings plan to get what you want without going into debt.

[@masha22092000r]

9-5 jobs can be very different. You can be a software developer or a shop assistant. Hours don't really matter. The job itself does.

[@tanechkaamericanochka4839]

Most of the world works 9-5 , even more.Only some people can afford luxury, because it’s called LUXURY.🤷‍♀️

[@miuuhh5196]

My father always says this to me. "it's not about big incomes, it's about small expenses" He emphasises that it doesn't matter if you get 7000 a month, when maintaining your lifestyle (meaning cars, house, food, loans etc.) eats your whole salary and leaves you to have little no disposable income in the end. (the quote is a translation so if there are any Finns here who could say "ei ne isot tulot vaan ne pienet menot" more fluently, feel free to comment :))

[@whatmarciedidnext6246]

Sophie you are one of the realist KZbinrs. I love the advice you give it really motivates me. I have been redundant since July 2020 and really struggling to find a job. I have a 2 yr old son so not so easy. But now I'm motivated to start my own business and know with my hard work I too will be successful

[@SophieShohetOfficial]

Hi Marcie, really sorry to hear about your redundancy. Covid has ruined so much, I’m guessing covid might have played a part? Try starting your business!! The worst that can happen is it doesn’t work out. Go for it!! Hugs xxx

[@whatmarciedidnext6246]

@@SophieShohetOfficial Yes it was due to covid 😔 Thank you so much for your kind words, means a lot ❤

[@tamaramcrae4037]

Yea she’s awesome, I don’t even care for designers good at this point. She’s very realistic and has a really nice spirit to her☺️

[@orianthi_elys]

I didnt buy my first designer bag until last year (35th bday) as i wanted to pay off my mortage first and i've pretty much used all of my money on that. Now i have that milestone out of the way i have started my luxury collection with YSL, Dior and Chloe.

[@tessy28]

YSL is a such a great brand. I got my first YSL last year when I turned 25 and it felt amazing. Good choices.

[@hyperhypnosis319]

I was dating a lovely man for five years who brought me three designer handbags..I’m very grateful and could never sell them.

[@AishaJadee]

I’m 28 and only in the last year brought my first proper designer bag, the fact that when you where my age you could only buy one a year makes me feel much better. I feel like I’m on the right track, thanks Sophie ❤️

[@SophieShohetOfficial]

Congratulations on your bag AishaJadee! For sure, it took me until very late 20s/30 to afford a few luxury bits. I think that’s very normal, it takes so long to get your career together and start earning an amount where you have some “extra” left over each month after your bills. Thank you for sharing this my friend!xx

[@AishaJadee]

@@SophieShohetOfficial thanks Sophie, love that you point out different factors so we all know that how we feel and progress is normal. Sometimes social media drags people down and it’s great that your here to lift people up ❤️ xx

[@kfitzsimons6615]

And getting one at 28 is not even an "only now" thing... It's an achievement to have one so young! I'm ten years older than you still saving up and dreaming of my first luxury pre-loved bag! In the meanwhile, I have some quality-made leather bags and canvas bags that aren't from huge fashion names, and I don't mind the anticipation at all! (In the meanwhile, the Liberty of London mini bag that I got at 75% off is the beloved jewel of my collection, and proof that persistence in search of a deal can pay off.) I have no debt, I'm fully employed, and I love my job. I'm sure you're being responsible too, and I'm happy it is paying off for you!

[@tessy28]

@@AishaJadee I don't think its healthy to constantly compare though. I started my designer handbag collection at 22 and I'm 25 now. Everyone starts off at different places and everyone is in different circumstances. Some people just have more than others the best thing you can do is just focus on your journey and not feel bad about where your're at.

[@AishaJadee]

@@tessy28 thanks, it’s not a constant compare it’s just good to see people similar to yourself. I’m happy for everyone who manages to get what they want no matter the age, sometimes it just nice to know I’m not the only one late to the party if that makes sense x

[@BeautifulBond]

I’m 26 and I honestly do drive myself crazy because I truly do love handbags and really am amazed at how girls younger than me have these designer bags. I still don’t own anything designer btw. However, I’ve had to just tell myself that I’m still finding my footing and all these glamorous things will come in time. No need to give myself anxiety over materialistic things. Also, I agree that social media doesn’t help with this either🥴

[@br00talpoodle]

I tell myself the same thing because I didn’t have an easy life growing up. It might take a little longer but when I can comfortably afford one it’ll be that much better knowing how far I’ve come. We’ll get there one day!

[@Chickadee_]

The super-fakes are getting better and better. Just like everything else, the technology has improved and it's harder to tell the difference. Don't be fooled by pictures and reels!

[@Rastelle7]

Some people are born into well to do families or have no issues with going into debt. I am not one of them, so I have had to work hard and save up for what I have bit proud of it. You sound like a smart person and I am sure your time will come.

[@juliamelanson173]

All the glamorous things will come in time and it will be even better! Better than peaking too soon. If you get a birkin at 20 where do you go from there?

[@rosepond7178]

A lot of young girls and influencers on social media wear fake replicas, so don’t beat yourself up for not owning an overpriced bag

[@monimarz]

Nah, not all jobs have these types of advancements. I can say I make a comfortable living, but I've max out my ability to earn more. Not all careers are business related. The smartest thing you can do is buy not what is trending but what is practical. I find bag walls tacky and no one needs 50+ bags. Start small, budget and shop around. Buy basic classic pieces and avoid watching unboxing videos or unfollow fast fashion luxury influencers. To own a Chanel, back in my day, was a badge of honour for safisticated women who found success in their later years not 20 year olds. Sustainability should be our focus. Sometimes our eyes are bigger than our stomachs.

[@nadine80r]

Sophie could we possibly say also that it is not the most important thing in the world to buy designer handbags or items in general? Working like crazy is a choice and often a passion, but working to be able to buy designer items is mostly a non-sense. I own few myself, but I reckon the message to pass is that these are just possessions. Especially younger people should be taught to try to have a good balance between work and private life.

[@veronicavenditti3614]

I agree with you. Totally.

[@Ilovevintage77]

“Comparison is the thief of joy” my mother always says. Everybody’s situation vary so vastly and industries vary as well so what one 9 to 5 type of situation pays can vary incredibly from another and it can also be based on your age , seniority and expertise in a certain industry I know that working in financial public relations 9-5 paid QUITE a bit higher then when I worked in public relations for nonprofits. I just had to get very creative and think outside the box on how to Afford luxury items and also adjust my perception and keep perspective / be realistic and realize that a lot of the folks I was seeing online might’ve been borrowing/being gifted items or going into horrendous credit card debt in order to feed the machine that is social media.

[@ShweMyaukMyauk]

Yes but the satisfaction from working with a non profit is so rewarding compared to some of the toxic environment in corporate offices

[@Ilovevintage77]

@@ShweMyaukMyauk helping others is always so fulfilling and feels the best indeed!

[@sonali_kashyap]

I have struggled with bad managers who felt too “threatened” to let me grow in my career. I will stand up to such insecure men and won’t let them come in way of my growth.

[@valderineschoeman8100]

Love you Sophie.. 😍 thank you for your honesty..

[@jenjen-qq2xv]

"I hope I don't make you feel rubbish" No!! You are SUCH an inspiration! Sending love to you, David, and the bunnies

[@kaylahmareecavuto7537]

This is a great topic, thank you for talking about this! I work a 9-5, I’m 26 and I’ve been buying luxury for a year now. I worked hard and bought my first Chanel last year (I now have a great collection of Chanel, Dior etc) I went from being a grocer store worker to a fantastic job in a big 4. As long as your aren’t going broke buying it - it’s possible! Keep working hard for what you love!

[@queenaaren]

Yes! This is why I love your videos. I used to think that I would never own any designer luxury items. But since I watched you years ago, I’ve worked hard, and even before my first promotion I was able to afford my first designer bag working a 9-5 and have no debt. Now, 5 years later, I have a small collection of Chanel and Louis Vuitton that gives me so much joy because they all become a symbol of discipline and accomplishment. And by adopting this discipline habit, I’m proud that I have learned how to be a minimalist and only buy things that are of quality and usefulness.

[@georgiasala5329]

Sophie you are a breath of fresh air in an increasingly tacky world. Thank you very much, your elegance is truly inspiring, sending lots of love.

[@SophieShohetOfficial]

This is a great compliment, I’m really humbled for this 🙏🏽 thank you for watching, I really appreciate you all 😊❤️🙏🏽xx

[@patkapapatka]

Sophie, you actually helped me very much with understanding that I do not need luxury stuff! You helped me in seeing those things as they are - normal stuff with a hefty price tag (not always fallowed by great quality). You didn't glamorise it or attached some immense value to it. So thank you very much :). Maybe later in life, when I'm more comfortable financially I will buy a fancy handbag but I no longer aspire to just own something with a renowned logo ;).

[@piad2428]

Thank you Sophie!! I was 35 when I bought my first luxury bag! I wanted to invest first, glad I did! But I’m not going to lie, there was so much FOMO!

[@lolipena8051]

Plus these price increases don’t help =]

[@Natalia91]

Thank you for this video Sophie! Lately I was watching too many tik toks where young girls show their luxury bag collections or their day shopping and felt bad about it, like I should have more by now. I bought my first luxury bag from Gucci last year (as my 29 birthday gift to myself) and after that I also bought a pre-loved LV. Now I think that I enjoy what I have and I don’t need to own 20 bags. I love watching your videos because I feel like you are a real person that I can relate and that I can get there someday.

[@nekklp4376]

Sophie you are such a good role model for young women. You inspire me .

[@calebholland9206]

I’m just starting university this month and tbh I needed this video😂 it’s so easy to be hooked on the end result and not think about the journey. I have a few designer things but have vowed not to buy more until I’m don’t with my degree. You are so honest and smart and a true role model Sophie! Best to you and David😁

[@Luminaria86]

Having a good supportive manager makes a lot of the difference. Unfortunately they’re incredibly rare and most want to keep good employees exactly where they are and keep using them, rather than promote them. Don’t let them do this to you. Walk away when and as soon as you can.

[@letsakas]

OMG i have experienced this! and they wont let you move to another department unless its something shitty where the new manager is their friend and will treat you bad as well. Had sucha bad experience and had to call them managers out and then months later i left. I hated when the store manager told me i'll be back lol and didnt even believe me when i complaint about the treatment i received. Trust me till today that manager still waiting for me to return lol

[@celinehosea]

Thanks for being so honest and transparent with your audience, Sophie! I am 17, and you are genuinely an inspiration. I had always been anxious and unsure about my abilities, but watching your videos, especially the ones with life advice, has been very comforting.

[@DaniOchannel]

Kids and travel are definitely huge financial costs but they create more memories than handbags xx

[@scoriodes]

Yes absolutely! Stuff doesn’t bring happiness. Experiences and relationships do.

[@karenrobbins6656]

Thank you for this topic. People are seeing the hauls and shopping trips that people on KZbin post. It makes people feel the desire for something similar in their life when it’s not a really good idea (yet maybe)

[@crystal-83638]

I agree 100% Sophie, informative and well-thought out advice from you, as always. It's almost astonishing how much you can save by cutting down on unnecessary and short-term (e.g. trendy fashion items that you won't keep) expenditures. For me, it's usually getting coffees outside or going out with friends. That's not to say that we should't treat ourselves to things that make us happy either. Sometimes we just need a pick me up; we've all had those days or weeks. Hugs.

[@nathalia_z7639]

Love this video...very informative. People often forget that social media doesn't always portray reality. 😃

[@b.delacruz5345]

It all depends on your circumstances. I earn a decent salary. I'm single and in my late 30's but I own only 1 LV. The rest that I have are contemporary brands and I'm not planning to add any to my collection in the near future. I do have luxe bags on my wishlist and If I were only earning for myself, I could definitely afford to buy them but I can't because I'm supporting an ailing mother, a special needs sister and an older sister who quit a well paying job to take care of them. I am not sharing this to get sympathy because I am supporting them wholeheartedly. I just want to share how the context can be different for some of us. In my home country most of us don't have student loans because most parents usually put all their earnings into their children's education without saving for their own retirement. It is then expected that we help support them when they retire. It's not the most ideal and some cultures might not understand this set up but it is our reality. I would love to see this cycle break for the future generations but as of the moment it is what it is. And since I couldn't afford to always buy luxe even if I want to own them I am thankful for your videos because I can live vicariously through them. Thank you for sharing.

[@Mieczyslaw_Mason]

As someone who is part of your younger audience and will start university this fall, I really have to concur that social media can cause quite a decrease in morale. Seeing all those people, 1 or 2 years older than me, sometimes even younger than me, living lavishly like a 2nd Marie Antoinette can really cause for your own expectations to be set unrealistically. I always tell myself that those are the exception or have some background I am not aware of and should therefore keep in my own lane at my own pace, but seeing it plastered everywhere still gets to you in some ways... Hence why I am very appreciative and so open about your own journey and honestly say that you haven't bought higher priced items until later in your life.

[@jesseeec]

I brought my first luxury bag (LV) in my late 20s. I finished paying off my school debts first before I even thought about buying luxury. YT was just starting off then so we weren’t influenced by social media like today. I’m not sure if I would behave the same if I was constantly bombarded by social media influence

[@jinnyjane1213]

Love looking at people unboxing pretty stuff but really can't be arse to save up for it or look after it. I am not very careful with my stuff either. So yea keep unboxing, I will keep watching.

[@MrSincerity88]

Short answer: it’s very possible. You can save, buy used, buy contemporary (which is still luxury imo). Can you buy a Birkin only making 53k? No. A neverful or possibly a Prada crossbody? Yes, you can. And you can do it without going into credit card debt (like I did. I’ve learned!)

[@annabiggs2534]

I have a 9-5 job and buy luxe. I save, I focus on what I want, and I don’t get fixated on trends. I buy preloved, and in store. You have to strategise your budget, and manage expectations around your outgoings. I make sure my spending is in line with what is necessary first I.e. mortgage, bills and key outgoings, then I buy lux. I’m really focused on setting my self up for my future now, and have started building a share portfolio. Luxe is something I love, and I budget for that but only after everything else!

[@reneeromano1179]

Great advice! ❤ I tell my kids all the time that you never know what someone else's situation is and they might look like they are doing well etc but to always focus on what you have and what you are doing. Because what they have they might not have at all.

[@agbaby7757]

I also say pick your poison. I buy luxury for investment pieces not trendy items. I also limit myself to 1-3 luxury items per season. I’m curvy so luxury clothing items rarely work for me so i tend to go for handbags and shoes. Also, i’ve learned to take my time when purchasing and ask myself if this is something i really love or am i getting caught up in the hype! It’s just a freaking name and it should not dictate your worth as an individual

[@maisitag]

I do think that you can buy a few luxury items with a modest 9-5 job. However, I think people become skeptical when they see influencers doing unboxings every other week like let’s say, just an example, Maria Draganova, who claims to have a 9-5 job. Anyway… I don’t think anyone doubts that you are a successful professional, who can afford luxury. Love your videos❤️

[@radostdinkova7909]

I think she is not working . She looks like a person that comes from a family with money, that has nothing to do except shopping . I might be wrong but its hard to believe that for all these years on KZbin we never understood something more about her. Her life is a mystery

[@Chickadee_]

I think you are correct. I think a few people are living at home with their parents (or have done) and/or have shared living expenses. I don't think about it much, but at times I wonder how people are unboxing Hermes bags every month. 🤔 😂

[@curtycant]

@@radostdinkova7909 I think your comment is quite rude. She does have a job and has talked about it but not a lot. You need to remember that maybe she wants to keep her personal life private. She doesn’t have to tell us anything about her life if she doesn’t want to. Her and her husband both make good money obviously but she also has income from youtube to help support the life she has. She played her cards right. Also Sophie doesn’t have any kids. I think you need to do some research before you comment some stuff like this.

[@Patsy0506]

Doing unboxings doesn't mean they own the bag...I think a lot of stuff gets returned after the cameras stop rolling and the instapics are taken 🤷🏼‍♀️

[@radostdinkova7909]

@@Patsy0506 You got me thinking about that😅

[@kassieskittles]

Budget is huge for me. I've never bought from a boutique. So I settle for vintage. I still love the bag and it's got a story. Also, if it gets a touch dirty I'm not panicking. One day I'll celebrate a momentous occasion by going to a boutique and testing myself. ♥️ Your advice Sophie.

[@mikeg8276]

Vintage was made better. If it’s in good condition at a good price, you are absolutely coming out ahead. If you want to buy something new look into glasses, scarves, small leather goods, that sort of thing. That way you get the bag experience and the boutique experience.

[@codebrker24]

Vintage is a great way to get great items.

[@keenoled]

I buy everything pre-loved. I mean, I say everything, when in fact I own one LV wallet and one Balenciaga moto. And a Marc bag. But uh, yes, on a nurse's assistant salary. Would I buy more if I could afford it? Probably, but there it is, ha. You just have to save longer and buy pre-loved. It's fine.

[@Anita211584]

This video is so incredibly refreshing. I had to switch gears to watching only your videos when it came to luxury because you are the only person that does not make me feel like I’m failing by not having a million handbags. Which is ridiculous to even say. You’re so honest and real. I appreciate you ❤️

[@aminab4317]

Sophie you are amazing, honest and real. Thank you for sharing your experiences, guiding us and showing things from another perspective. You have made me feel loads better. Thank you so much ♥️

[@ohjennu]

You know, it was really nice hearing you speak about this. Even though I just turned 30, I am making an ok wage and surviving. So maybe once I pay off medical debt, I can buy something nice! Thank you for being kind and not judge mental 🥺

[@DaylesAddiction]

You spoke about this so well Sophie, I think it’s super hard to put all of this in perspective as an adult woman when there are people in their early 20s seemingly… ahead of you. I bought my first bag at 30 my second at 32 and then the last 5 years I’ve had more disposable income so I’ve bought a lot more. But we own our home, I’ve built a business and no children at home anymore (I’m a step parent). I’ve loved reading the comments here , it’s great to see people connecting and feeling good about where they are at.

[@kfitzsimons6615]

You never know, a lot of people "ahead" of you might consider you "ahead" of them for having a stable marriage and owning your own home and business!

[@DaylesAddiction]

@@kfitzsimons6615 exactly! I’m only talking bag buying here, but when you put it into context it’s a very small window into someone’s life (YT and social media) 😊

[@azapotoczna2000]

You are such an amazing and honest person! I wish there were more people like you out there

[@jouj9]

Yes, it’ll come in time! My school debt was really high (US) that it felt I couldn’t afford anything fancy for years and years, but we paid it down so aggressively that the month after I finished my last payment all that money I would’ve paid went to a designer bag instead. This year I bought a couple luxury things because we didn’t spend any travel budget on actual travel so we decided to buy a few nice things. We also don’t have/want kids - just a slightly spoiled dog - so that’s a huge expense that we just don’t have to take into consideration. Everyone’s circumstances are different! Of course it’s an incredible blessing to even have a job and stable income in the current state of the world, let alone money for nice items, but at the end of the day what truly matters is family, health, a roof over your head, food on the table, and hopefully savings for later in life. The luxury items come last.

[@lifeandstyle-withdaisy7894]

I’m 26 and was one of the lucky grads to graduate with a higher than average paying job 3 years ago. After going through hell at my job for the past year, I decided to treat myself to my first luxury handbag. It’s addictive and I ended up buying a second luxury bag 2 months later. While I could technically afford it, I will not be buying anymore (myself) until I have bought a house with a closet big enough to store these expensive items 😂 This is years in the making though 😅

[@tomweisser6203]

I work a 9-5 and make more than enough to afford a home, nice car and luxury items

[@TKopra]

Same here👌😊

[@lon2336]

The problem these days is people want instant gratification. Anything is possible with patience and taking time to save up for things they want! Great video as always 😊

[@ShweMyaukMyauk]

The problem is perpetuate by social media, it’s been shown like so easy and can be done every other week. We don’t know what goes behind closed doors.

[@s000mable]

I work 9-5 I learn to budget and use that Karna app to make sure I keep my eyes on the prize! I had to work my way up though. I started at 15k as cleaner and now I’m a director too. Long slog and took many years

[@aixavilatte]

God THANK YOU Sophie for doing these type of videos. This is why I follow you since 2017! I am 22, I genuinely do love fashion.. but I am finishing my engineering degree and although I am lucky to be working on my desired field already, it’d be DUMB to buy designer stuff when I am this young. I care more about starting to save up for a house rather than buying stuff that is a luxury. Of course I’d love to own one or two designer bags in the future, in my thirties when I am already very financially stable (and have good savings). It’s cool that you take your time to say this time and again, because social media is warping the reality of being young. Much much love from Spain! 💕

[@anaroute]

Thanks for the video! please share more of those chit chats on luxury work and mindset, I think we all appreciate them:)

[@jennifermcmillan2588]

We started with 6 children so it has been a struggle to get there … I have quite a collection tho , it’s possible !!! Also I love how genuine you are , you’re so real and not a snot lol 😂 🤷🏼‍♀️like many ppl are .

[@AngelineLee7]

I'm 27 and only got my first designer handbag 2 years ago. I work a 9-5 and although I'm obsessed with luxury handbags, it annoys me so much that many other YTers only post their handbag hauls. Love your videos as always Sophie x

[@רפאל-ק1ו]

Listen Sophie!! First of all thank you!!! I have 8 kids.. i really want to work more just because i wish i could buy things that will make me happy! And my familly! I am 40 and i feel that that's it ..its too late maybee.... But famille 👪 is the best investment i just wish i could buy things easily !

[@argbb]

I totally agree with you! I am 33 (no kids), almost debt-free, I worked my a$$ off and I got promoted to Senior Manager at 31 and by that time I was able to start my collection. I am working a 9-5 job in an industry that is male-dominated (IT) and I feel really good about that. Every woman can achieve her goals, either these concern owning luxury items, having a family or whatever, it just takes time and you really need to focus on your goals. Anything is possible and every girl must keep that in mind! Greetings from Greece!

[@alimay3139]

Sophie, once again you are talking so much sense!!! The other thing about social media showing folk their ‘designer unboxing’ is they’ve ordered it, they’ve received it, but are they keeping it? It could be a big trip to the post office store later on to get a refund!

[@janetstraw191]

When I was a young working woman, I bought mostly High Street clothing for work. You do not need a wardrobe full of designer goods - I always carried a designer bag, wore good heels, and as expensive watch as I could afford. It is the quality accessories that make it. But you don’t need more than that!

[@danielintheantipodes6741]

Some of them also buy bags and return them after they make a video! It is possible to buy (and keep!) expensive items on a working wage, but you need to prioritise. Even a Birkin, the most expensive bag of all, costs no more than a car. If you go without the car, you can have the bag, for example.

[@laurajazzpiano401]

I bought my first designer bags when I was 21. This was 8 years ago now but I was living at my parents house, no out goings, so I could. You're right it is much harder when you have more responsibility and bills. I would love to buy the Lady Dior in Black with gold hardware. That's my dream bag and your video has made me think right I have a plan and I'm going to stick to it!

[@paolachirinos]

Hi Sophie, it is true. It is very hard to afford luxury when you have a 9-5 job. From my experience, it is hard. I saved up for my first bag last year for my 29th birthday, and it took a while to saved up. I'm more into nice trips/vacations.. I rather put my money on that every year. But it is either a nice trip or a luxury item per year. Thanks Sophie for this video.

[@dyogy]

Hi Sophie, I just wanted to say that I love your content and how real you are. You’re one of the only youtubers that I would watch from beginning to end without skipping parts. Thank you!

[@valeriemorris1585]

l love this video!! Today's world is so different from my younger years with social media. I've liked luxury for some time now and started with buying Coach and that wasn't until I graduated college and started working. I didn't purchase my first Chanel until after I received my first bonus. Budgeting and prioritizing is important. Thank you for sharing, I think this topic is important and love your advice.

[@ritaagostinelli5696]

You are the sweetest! Thank you for being so open and honest with us, it is really appreciated.

[@CC-vf2ql]

So true, budgeting better will get you the bags you want. When you think of you can actually buy £5k stuff in a year, just spend wisely will get you there

[@pspSkye]

You absolutely can. My first pay went towards a Chanel classic flap. I work in IT and back then, I didn’t make much so I saved enough to buy the classic flap and didn’t buy another luxury bag for a long time. There’s a huge gap between my first designer bag and the future luxury items. I only started to buy more luxury bags once every other year or every year once my income reached a certain threshold that it was easier for me to justify the spending.

[@barbwinkler2291]

Sophie, you are a great mix of luxury with an extremely practical side. Thanks for sharing your honest wisdom!

[@lexiiiwong]

I just want to put it out there that I have only recently started a luxury collection, starting with Mulberry (exquisite leather quality!) Then recently got a LV key pouch. The rest of my bags are Fossil leather bags which I also love and bring to the hospital. I work as a doctor and use my income from my oncalls to pay for these stuff. I definitely can afford to buy more luxury bags but usually I go for 2nd hand items which are in great condition to pay less than the full price. Even then I think long and hard if I should get it as I save/invest most of my money. I make it an aim to finally be comfortable enough to buy a Chanel/dior/LV brand new at their store as motivation for myself to work harder. In no way should a person feel pressured to buy a luxury item and struggle financially at the end of the month.

[@larissaperim6586]

Loved this video! It is so easy to get carried away by social media. Thanks for keeping it real!

[@Itepuce]

You should never judge appearances. We don't know people's real lives. Owning luxury items does not mean wealth and vice versa.

[@alansgail]

Brilliant, thank you for being the voice of reason and being sensible about spending money. I do agree that social media can influence people in a very negative way. So much hype around products that many may never use or even knew they “needed”!

[@thekbstyle]

Thank you, Sophie, for this wonderful topic as always. I'm 38 I'm working in a 9-5 job I bought my first designer handbag last 2019. Thanks to your video, I chose the beautiful Alma BB as my first designer bag. I also made a promise I only buy one designer handbag per year. :) I am also proud to say I finished paying the Property I invest in.

[@lornamarr2772]

Hi Sophie love your content and the idea of buying one of my desired item once a year is Realistic. Thank you for sharing 💞🥰

[@aneta6800]

I love that video. I am on minimum wage and I could afford designer bag. Yes it took me maybe year and half to save it. But my lifestyle and priorities are somewhere else. But with good managing your spending, you can do it. I am not someone who spends too much money and think twice before I buy something.

[@aneta6800]

But it's doable 100%.

[@mimosabasu1082]

One can also create separate savings fr each item they want to buy. Like piggy banks but with monthly or weekly savings put aside...6months or 12 months...depends how much you earn & are able to save & put side. Thanks for the great vid Sophie 💕

[@ahischak]

I like how you emphasized that you paid off your debt before buying handbags. A lot of people have their priorities messed up (with a lot to blame on social media/influencers). I’m 31 and make a decent salary (9-5 job) and would love a designer bag but I told myself I would not buy one until I am 100% debt free. Which I almost am!! 🤞🏽

[@lvettesonai]

Work Hard...play hard!! Reward yourself, and when you worked for it it feels so much better. 🙂

[@Angelcots]

Bought my first designer bag at 30. Can't imagine having pressure to get designer goods in my 20s. There was just no way.

[@veronicavenditti3614]

I was focused on more important things than a luxury bag in my 20s!

[@SophieShohetOfficial]

Same here! Don’t get me wrong, I did want an LV Murakami blossom tube bag, but that was never going to happen 😂xxx

[@veronicavenditti3614]

@@SophieShohetOfficial At that time I wanted something by D&G, a t-shirt, a dress, something to wear in my "special occasions" 🤣 Never had it, of course. But now that I'm 40 I have so many beautiful luxury bags, coats, accessories (I'm not at your level, Sophie 😉)... and I'm sure that I'm able to appreciate them more that in my 20s

[@sheilahc3209]

I miss you Sophie!!! Just got very busy and now I found time to sit down and watch your videos once more. Thank you for your lovely thoughts on this topic. Stay safe! 🙏🏻❤️

[@dennisbkkam1580]

You are a wise lady to give good advice to young ppl. I remember I bought my first designer bag at 35 years old. When I paid, my hands were shaking. I kept telling myself if I have gone mad to spend thousands for a bag...after that it's hard to stop....

[@glamglem1227]

I find it truly wise and genuine of yours to remind the current younger generation that there is no rush in life and that not owning designer items yet isn’t a sign of failure. Especially nowadays, with that whole “young entrepreneur” movement that promotes wealth and financial independence in the early 20s. Everyone has their timing, professionally wise, as well as financially. Moreover, social media can be really tricky whereby, what is shown is often an over exaggerated aspect of the reality.

[@rollinggstonee]

truly loved this! I’m 33 and barely now just landed a decent salary. new subscriber & so happy i found you! thnx for the advice 💖

[@ayeshasiddique6933]

This is such a informative video - absolutely loved it. I personally am coming to a point where I’ve just finished my post-grad and haven’t really stepped into my ‘career’ as such. I have huge aspirations and it goes to show that dedication and focus really can get you where you need to be.

[@stanielatungarova5556]

I don't understand that craze for bags. I've used my hard earned and saved money to travel-Europe, US, Iceland, Brazil, Japan and China...

[@YadiraStyle]

Yes! You can very well afford it with a 9-5. It takes discipline to chase what you really want. Otherwise like you mentioned, the more affordable, less desired items will get in the way and eat away at your “luxury budget”. Great topic!

[@triplenegativepositive3727]

There’s a difference between a minimum wage 9-5 and 9-5 with a degree and established career. Doctors, lawyers, bankers, etc all work 9-5 (or similar). This is where the confusion comes. We see so many young people carrying these designer bags and showing off their designer hauls. However, here’s a couple things that could explain all these young people showing off their designer bags on social media working entry level positions A) They have a side hustle. B) They may receive alimony or child support C) They may use smoke and mirrors. Meaning they buy all these items, do a video and unboxing, and then return all the stuff for a refund. D)Some of the items may be fakes (more possible in photos instead of videos). There are very very good fakes that takes someone trained in this to determine real vs fake. These AAA+ fakes could be mistaken for real in a photo. I was 34 when I got my first designer bag. It was only in the last 2 years (I’m 40 now) that my collection has grown and that was because I took a job in my field that paid much better (much better). Even though I can afford new bags, often I buy pre-loved because you can usually save a lot of money buying this way.

[@lisahirst2929]

Love these videos just as much as your hauls appreciate your honesty

[@jadiecakes3241]

I think it really depends on your job AND your priorities. Im almost 30, and after taxes and retirement i make $70k/yr. I didnt go to uni and i've worked at the same company for 9 yrs (since i was 18, no i did not start at that salary). I could buy 1-2 bags a year no problem IF i didnt want to save for anything else. I definetly regret not saving up when I was younger because im about to apply for a mortgage (around 480k) and theres no way ill be able to save for one afterwards for a while. But instead I bought a new car (half cash) and went overseas a few times (wouldnt swap those trips for anything though!). Budgeting is an absolute MUST and it really annoys me they dont teach basic finance at schools (at least they didnt when I went). There isn't even ONE budgeting method there are several but nah go into the world at 17 and figure it out yourself with no knowledge of how anything works unless you google it yourself. I've learnt more from youtube about finance than anywhere else.

[@MsIzzBizz]

Hi Sophie, loved this video! I’ve recently left my job in which I was really unhappy and just been offered a new, improved one elsewhere! Your confidence and dedication to your work really inspires me! Going into a more professional environment means a smarter dress code for me! Could you please do a video of work outfits which are stylish but still professional (no jeans) for a smart casual dress code? Thanks so much!

[@golddustwoman1253]

Hi Sophie, as another 17 year old viewer (male) I kind of needed the reminder that a lot of luxury is out of reach for a full time student. Of course I could save money but it is hard when there is so many temptations to party etc. I will definitely be putting some money aside and reach for my goal just after finishing my first year in uni. I love your sit down videos btw 💚

[@plantainprincess7427]

I do not know of a single person who can afford designer items with a 9-5 job, if they buy the odd item it is with a credit card

[@StefannieTan]

Hi, Sophie. Thank you for this video! I really enjoy these chats and story time videos. I also generally gravitate towards luxury KZbinrs who are of a slightly mature age because it is more realistic. Plus, the stories of how you and they got their bags are so wonderful. I truly believe that sometimes the journey is more important than the destination. I am in my early to mid 30s, and I was just able to buy a designer (Loewe. I understand that most people may consider that as a "lower luxury" brand, but I really love their designs) bag recently to celebrate getting a new job with a better working environment. In my 20s, I was still a bit lost, moving to different jobs and studying. I certainly had no time or income to spend on trying to buy luxury items!

[@danasami1366]

That's a nice topic, honestly I never bothered about designer bags shoes and clothes until my manager and certain team members told me why ur bags and shoes are not luxury brands, all the team I work with all spend alot on their designer, that's the day that I flipped most of my wardrobe to designer. Honestly if you want to fit in with certain catergory of people and companies thats a mandatory, and I don't regret it, it is a totally new experiance and you feel that you are an upgraded polished person😀 that's after 15 years of work I could do it from my saving However my personal opinion I don't think that designers items are worth that much money spent on their bags and shoes, but the good part is that you can always sell it and get some cash back just in case😋

[@ivettelily]

"Focus on You" I love that Sophie!!, plus we need to choose better "idols".

[@lisamoore1833]

I didn't buy my first LV until I was almost 40 - and am very happy this was before there was social media and influencers. I was involved with an online purse forum for quite a while, and it was really bad for my bank account and wallet. Seeing everyone talking about the things that they bought and looking at pictures of their new bags drove me to buy, and sell, so many bags. Finally I had to step back and I ended up selling all but a few LVs that I really do use. Now I can pretty much buy anything I want, but I really don't - and you're right, Sophie, not having kids does help with the cash flow. I am an advisor for my sorority at a local college and it's amazing to me how many of the girls have LV, Tory Burch, and other designer goods which I assume their parents are buying them. Personally, I could never have afforded that kind of thing when I was in college!

[@naomir3533]

I can’t remember where I read/heard this, but someone said “toddlers need instant gratification every time they do the bare minimum, adults work for it”. It’s helped change my view on my salary and how I save towards big goals, rather than ‘treat myself’ regularly which adds up.