You deserve more this time around!

[@lampkinmedia]

That's what I want to attract a person who isnt afraid to open up. I don't settle. I deserve the best because I give the best. I've been healing and I'm confident that in divine timing that person will show up. I'm living in the present and enjoying the journey.

[@anneyoung2310]

Exactly true: It takes high self-esteem to not settle. A man who prefers a pushover will be intimidated by a strong woman, and/or...someone who has achieved, accomplished, or survived a lot. Only a secure man can come to that table. Also, men sometimes confuse assertiveness with aggression.

[@simonschneider5913]

while women confuse lots of qualities with being needy, or desperate. and then you have to tell them that its over when they try coming back, and all that patience is not for them anymore.

[@ChristianaSenibo]

Absolutely right. We need to raise our standards. In doing so, we honour our worth and the God who we are image bearers of.

[@kaoshi_kutie]

🎯🎯🎯

[@brettweary8491]

Wow

[@mgn1621]

We need to raise our standards, then Honour them.

[@WalkrFilms]

Man is made in the image of God, woman in the image of man.

[@smitha1867]

@@WalkrFilmsno

[@papinoo1159]

Absolutely right! You should never settle under any circumstance. Keep working on your standards until you get what you want and not a minute sooner!

[@johntalcott2932]

Great info and thanks for sharing this. One thing that is hard as a man being vulnerable is trusting your partner to not use the information later as a missal when there’s a disagreement this is the main reason men keep things inside. It would be nice to be honest and open and not be judged or thought weak.

[@SigmaFeminine]

EVERYTHING you’re describing was to a tee my first 2yrs with the narcissist. Seemed so great, not only great actually healthy and easy and peaceful and mature same values so connected good communication best friends. everything changed when we moved in then it was textbook narcissistic abuse and by then i was committed. and clueless about narcissism or narcissistic abuse cycles. So, yeah.

[@innergoldenalchemist]

I didn't realize how important looking for someone with empathy was!

[@maureenchevalier3751]

3:55 BEST advice 👍❤️ do you whole heartedly respect this person, who they are, what they value? Soooo important!

[@Lonewolfalchemist]

This video is frighteningly relatable to my current thoughts, emotions, and situation…

[@audioeins]

such a good and healthy post. very happy for you and your partner that you found each other, to truly care for and love each other :)

[@heidyiglesias5536]

My ex always said I didn’t respect him and now I see I didn’t. Also, from what you’re saying, he didn’t respect me either. What you’re saying is so true! Thank you for you videos!!

[@lisabrown9286]

Thank you so much. You are my lifeline, Stephanie. I’ve been in and out of a narcissistic relationship for 4 years. The verbal/emotional abuse has been there since early on, but keeps escalating. I leave and he begs me back - 7 times! I know he will not change. I cannot go back. You click with me, or I with you. Thank you for your nonjudgmental, practical advice. ❤️

[@spokenwordpoetries]

Absolutely. You have to be a safe person for them to let in and they have to be a safe person to let them in. If you don’t have the emotional safety, then it’s not the right person to let in.

[@stefanfeist9893]

Dating is hard when you set boundaries and have standards 😁

[@andersmonemar3833]

The balance between diving deep into tough questions and at the same time not going to fast and thereby risking that they develop feelings, leading to that you are going to break someones heart, is so hard to achieve.

[@jrubidoobidoo]

Thank you so much for this video, Stephanie. It’s so easy to get your vision of what’s possible warped after a string of toxic relationships

[@annbressie8615]

Honestly to hear you describe what is normal and healthy is eye opening. Which is sad on the one hand but so helpful and hopeful on the other.

[@jennifernguyen357]

Stepping into this category to want to life partner with someone, it’s about being able to support each other throughout each others success. Especially when their life calls for many positioning. Meeting anyone should never feel as if you always are auditioning for attention and definitely no judgment. If they aren’t ready to handle life’s measures, reiterate which pool you want to connect with.

[@MS-ns4ki]

Thank you ❤ I will not date bc of the low ball offers it’s so gross lol

[@nRecovery100]

Love this video! The message about not settling and being confident in ourselves is so important. It's okay to have high standards and to prioritize our own self-love and acceptance. Vulnerability is a strength, not a weakness, and it's amazing how much deeper connections we can form when we're willing to open up and be real with each other. 💕💯

[@donnaholton1981]

Point blank they don’t judge you for who you are and where you came from.

[@p.scottrice8235]

Your guy sounds like an emotionally mature man. I’m happy you found someone like that as you deserve it.

[@esskayaussie286]

What you discussed can be all well and good during a certain time period in life and when going into the earlier part of a relationship. But don't neglect to consider most people change (their 'needs and wants') as time progresses. These changes can take many years to begin to show themselves. I have learned it is the ability of each individual in the relationship to adapt and compromise where necessary to keep the relationship healthy on all levels. If this doesn't happen the relationship will inevitably end at some point.

[@joshliam1967]

I've made multiple friends this year who give me unconditional support, and while on my journey of personal growth I'm so incredibly grateful for them.

[@simonschneider5913]

its not even a year, so i would be careful with those statements.

[@joshliam1967]

@@simonschneider5913 Not sure what you mean, care to elaborate?

[@simonschneider5913]

@@joshliam1967 speaking from experience, people are keeping up appearances for many months if you dont test them...happened to me a lot for the last few years...but thats at least partially on me i guess! :) ...just be careful.

[@joshliam1967]

@@simonschneider5913 I'm sorry to hear that's been your experience, I know my friendships involve mutual appreciation and I'm thankful for that. I wish you the best in your journey of healing.

[@matthewwozniak9138]

Your all that and a bag of chips, you deserve the best. I'm glad you found someone to connect with.

[@chaniawillow]

This is so on time for me. Lately I value friendship as a foundation. I am finding that it helps me to weed out the emotionally unavailable and love bombers. It just feels more wholesome. Thanks for this!

[@willelniff426]

This is definitely advice that all can benefit from. Thank you, Stephanie!

[@TheeyeOftruth-yx2np]

You're absolutely beautiful Stephanie, This was absolutely tremendous, Thank you so much for this, I've been doing a lot of inner work and breaking cycles and patterns, I trust the universe to bring me and my true soulmate together, Peace, love, Respect to you and everyone, Thank you universe 🐎🦄😍😘😇🌟⭐🌹🌝🐉👽🎨👁🕊😆💙❤💚💜💛🌌🌈😃🌷🖼☘

[@thedrasc1465]

Im having a really hard time with this because the last person i talked to was open and didnt make me feel ashamed of anything and did appear to have empathy, until he randomly dropped me one day. I am really struggling with knowing how ill ever be able to recognize when someone is being real or just putting up an act. I almost wish i never met him because i now dont know if i have an intuition that i can trust

[@ironsmith9769]

this is all well and good if you believe that no one should hold you to higher standards or that you are not to blame for any problems that lead to divorce. men and women, if you refuse to address your own faults you may never marry up or may never marry at all. granted no one can be perfect, but we can become more than we are with a little introspection and daily effort.

[@jeffricks2640]

I wrote myself a list of wants/don't wants in a partner.........once written I realised there is no such person existing........ I am happy and content on my own so thats how I'm staying......being in a relationship isn't the meaning of life and not necessary if we are happy in ourselves

[@Jayne278]

My late husband was my best friend instantly. Best 24 years of my life. I miss that and I'm not willing to settle for anything less than he was. I have my standards and I know what I want. I'm looking but in the meantime I'm trying to be the best me I can be.

[@vern0123-t5j]

Effortless & less conflict 👍 yeah should be easy. That's a sign

[@Chaitogether]

You are the best Steph!!! 😊💜

[@Brianna-yh7iy]

Thanks, Stephanie your videos are soooo helpful

[@karenrn9435]

I feel like you just described mine and my now fiance's relationship to a t! We are both older, in our 40s and have been through many heart breaks and disappointments. When we met each other, we were at a point in our lives where we were done with the games and we're just looking for acceptance and unconditional love. He is my best friend and we've been together for 5 years. It hasn't been easy and we still struggle, but the love and bond that we share is unlike anything I've ever felt before.

[@monolit23]

You are the real human being!!!

[@gregorystinette8271]

I never have any issues with my dog. Woof!

[@sharonjones7138]

I have apologized to everyone (in my mind) for having high standards. It always made me feel that I was conceited. That, turns out is my narcissistic mother talking 😡😠😤. Well…..I’m not. I, am an Empath & HSP. Yep, extremely sensitive and I just have high standards and I won’t settle. And, I no longer apologize for it. It is who I am and that’s that. However others see that…oh well. Like it and me, or keep it moving.

[@NFSMAN50]

Hello Stephanie!! Thank you for this video!!!!

[@sianpost2]

Absolutely love this ❤️

[@BackSlidBacktoGod]

Don’t settle for that zero , get with this hero

[@hatchet8209]

Helps to be a funny guy like me with narcissists seeing that is called soften the blow in comedy. Extremely surprised they never talk about using humor enough with difficult people seeing you do flip it being funny. Comedy is an art and not enough focus on using it on a daily basis.

[@Sam-pl3yd]

Hia Stephanie 💕yes it’s like they are so confident and it’s hard when you went through abuse.🙏❤️

[@MS-ns4ki]

Many years ago I actually hit it off with somebody just like that and they ended up leaving me for somebody ugly so I don’t know

[@TheHSoko]

Thanks for your thoughts. Taking it in. Your point about respect needing to be there that can create the opportunity for vulnerability and intimacy. Calm and Content… great words.

[@SigmaFeminine]

Actually plenty of abusive narcissists do “own their stuff” and be vulnerable at the start of the relationship, and are supportive. We had years of “calm and content. It’s not about that, it’s about if they show the first red flag, run.

[@rebz-wt6bp]

Thanks

[@heidyiglesias5536]

Also, this is so helpful!

[@williamchiusano3185]

Good one 😊

[@rosaliaoliver-qv3gr]

Thank you!i

[@Cod12Osc]

According to my husband, there was nothing he struggled with. He was a strong confident person.

[@Cod12Osc]

....that was what he said and how he carried himself.

[@MsCristina38]

@@Cod12OscHe sounds like he has zero self awareness. Good lord poor you. I hope you’re happy now with someone new or just enjoying your independence.

[@tb22k]

Thank you for the video ❤

[@davidduval5566]

Yes fs. My goodness so pretty

[@BackSlidBacktoGod]

Last time a person mentioned twin flame , that’s what happened.. it went up in flames, ambulance came … twin flame is a dark red flag .. God bless

[@susanwarner6994]

This was such a great video.. Thank you❤

[@mekman4]

Thank you!

[@3ma_lengend]

Standards come with options and Self esteestem is built off of that if people could do better they would but not a lot of people are choosing them

[@LisaSmith-yb2uz]

PERFECT TIMING ❤☺️

[@txspacemom765]

If he isn't working on healing, I won't even bother.

[@Martiniiiiiiiiii]

Damn you’re good 😮

[@carolbullard7935]

Powerful 🔥 🔥 🔥

[@risingeagle6332]

Great! Glad you found a decent person; such are hard to find.😌 Maybe one day I to will find the right woman who values “peace, calmness, honesty, trust, kindness, friendliness, consideration, genuine article and so on.”☺️ My last one was truly toxic and was misery on steroids. Definitely not a kind person. I married her and got caught in her web for too long. The price I paid was way too high! Sucked! (Toxic Jekyll-Hyde High Conflict Personality types are not worth it at all.🚩)

[@santiagocandal177]

good tips! Don't let something build up instead solve it right from the start, otherwise it becomes passiveness into agresiveness, just a little tip, the videos look a bit uneasing, is everything ok there?

[@thetruther954]

Well, we can all go out for drinks together, your partner and my wife, because what's different for me these days is I'm not sitting there fuming mad. We can all go out for drinks or diner and I don't even have to look you in the eye, it would be nice just to have some friends to sit with. Not "uncle friends" or "cousin friends",, yeah, everything is still the same, but I don't use that language.

[@MrJweb19]

Reciprocity!

[@dakansa]

I will anticipate your videos in next 3-5 years. Probably lamenting about the terrible dating market with a dozen cats at the background. Did you already dump your current husband|boyfriend?!

[@shanez1215]

I will say, make sure that you are communicating constructively and not through the barrel of a verbal shotgun. Otherwise the other person has to either challenge you and make you angrier or people please. Them people pleasing DOES NOT make them weak. It takes a tremendous amount of strength to not lash back when someone is venting at you and saying things they don't fully believe in (or they do but not as extreme as it seems).

[@PapaTad82]

Can these behaviors be something that can be learned?

[@CaptainPhoton64]

Chicks should never settle

[@nurseannesinspirationalwellnes]

❤

[@williamdundas537]

What do you do if, we both were married/divorced young as well as became parents young. Now we both find it hard to expose our hearts to another for fear? Got any advice on that?? I'm ALL EARS

[@hajarsweet870]

❤❤❤❤

[@sanjeevbains690]

🥰

[@dwocelot6913]

Lmao, said the house cat

[@prernaofficial2724]

If I deserve more then why don't I get closure from castism and unknown warrior irrespective of ALL political parties without getting married

[@patrickdaigle5239]

🔥😍🔥

[@Hodenkat]

I think a better name for this channel would be "Type A Personality Coaching". You're welcome.

[@Tyrannosaraus]

I wonder how many guys like me are watching all of Stephanie's videos and have become smitten with her. She is honestly one of the prettiest women I've ever seen. Her disposition is so soft and sweet. On top of that she is in tune with herself and human behavior. That is such a turn on. Now the question is, how do I get her attention and woo her? 😂😢😅

[@smitha1867]

Why do you want to woo a happily committed/married woman?

[@Kyle-xd4ep]

That's obvious, but easier said than done. Less than 1% of women are high quality and they're scooped up married very young for obvious reasons. Then after age 30 already they all have unsavory baggage. Nothing left out there

[@the.toxic.phoenix]

Ugh, I really don't like the term "alpha". Content is good but the whole community behind the word is not healthy, and I don't think the word is even appropriate for the confident, self aware people you're referring to.

[@aaronstone1528]

You also have to understand that when you get back to dating and your at a certain age me being 54 now after wasting the last 10 years and thinking I was going to spend the rest of my life with her. So what I'm saying is anyone I meet now will have a certain amount of baggage for sure. It's impossible to find someone say 45 to 55 that hasn't been either in a abusive relationship or is hiding something. My ex hid raped at 8 for over 10 years from me. If I had known I would have gotten us help her help but instead her heart was so broken by that I suffered her wrath

[@leyvapenny4]

Thank you.!

[@tommyhallock2341]

❤