You Don’t Fear Your Own Power

[@marcgleeson1599]

People are afraid of the extreme pain they felt as a child from their parents withdrawing their love whenever they took steps towards autonomy. And why would a parent do this? Because it triggered painful emotion(s) in them … and as a result they shut down the child. Withdrawal of love by the parent equates to death to a child. So the child quickly learns to give up their soul and develop behaviors, or avoid behaviors, that might result in the parents disapproval or anger (which is the parent avoiding their own painful emotions). As a child I had a emotionally weak, emotionally damaged, non existent father. And a mother who constantly told me that “I can’t do this. You can’t do that” right up to my mid 40’s. At which point I fully figured out my mother knew next to nothing about what she was talking about. But that she had convinced me as a child she did. But now my challenge as an adult (58 years now) is to move through the terror feeling I feel in my solar plexus that I numbed and distracted from most of my life. I know it’s the avoidance of this terror feeling that holds me back. Even though I am fully confident in my abilities, talents and previous successes to be able to achieve my goals.

[@zeinanammour37]

My fear of expressing my power is directly related to my family. I was always told that if i go after what i want, the result will hurt them. This led me to depressions and desperate decisions.

[@ShaShaBC]

Sorry to hear that 🙏🏻🫂 I hope that today, having the awarness of that, you are working and taking steps towards your Real, loving power ❤

[@creativemindsonja]

That is how they control you. They do not love you, they do what is good for them even when they hurt you. Why then you care if you hurt them back??. Another reason, even bigger one is: if you go for what you want you will need to take full responsability for your own life and decisions. Staying home, you always can say everything is bad because of them, not you. Third reason is that you maybe do not want this so much, so the risk of taking responsability would be much higher then final result. Think about all this!

[@ivazadro5857]

Omg so relatable

[@Aed-Adlan]

Power is purely and totally spiritual alone. I learned that the day I encountered a mighty Satanical-demon-demi-god who had my life in his hands. It was the day I also learned that spirituality is my wife. I'm not a normal human.

[@flower.child47]

Me too

[@mindfulfairy46]

you just blew my mind cause I'm constantly battling myself about trying not to make other people feel insecure if I display my most authentic self, and so Instead I find myself playing small because I don't want others feel bad about themselves but I'm literally doing it to myself , so weird how its all interconnected..

[@Sherkel]

Either be afraid, or be powerful.

[@Kyoz]

The God Phobos approves of your message.

[@averagejane09]

I love your consistent ability to straight talk through the BS out there. Honestly, nobody is doing this quite like you do. Thanks for your continued sharing of wisdom.

[@kalaiselvi7712]

You are just Awesome ❤ I am from India I have been following you from 2015 . I was chronically depressed and suicidal. I was abused as a child , as a teenager and as an adult by my own blood relative. I was in my lowest vibration all the time . I just followed Teal I read all her books . I am here today as best version of myself ❤ Thank you for that 😊

[@aaya77]

I feel so similar to Magi’s example, I learned to survive and feel save by minimising myself around people..

[@adimetrius]

Finally! Someone combating the idea of 'fear of success'!

[@stephaniemthoma]

This is spot on- it's the "why" behind people being afraid of their power- it isn't power itself, but the negative impacts of threatening others, inspiring jealousy. At the root I'm seeing an opportunity for someone to not even embrace but become "okay" with being disliked.

[@ericbright1742]

Or the underlying fear could be that, if you are given power, you are afraid you will become a monster with it, and hurt others. Because you have seen people who were given power, and have abused that power to abuse you.

[@AlBuby]

I want to share how this fear manifests on my life… I can’t physically be happy around my parents, I wake up in a great mood everyday, I love my life, but as soon as I encounter one of them my body is turning into a depressed mode or feeling bored, anything within the lower vibration scale… it’s so weird how I feel so much happiness inside but I have to keep it hidden 😅 I’m trying to work things out, thank you for whoever is reading this 🤗

[@whitebirchtarot]

This makes so much sense, Teal. When I was a kid, if anyone showed confidence around my mom, she would call them conceited. She loathedpeople who had any kind of confidence in themselves. Also, the only time she ever paid attention to me was when I was physically ill, so that was encouraged. Every time I tried to do something new, she would tell me that I wouldn’t be able to do it which made me fearful. Also, I know about myself that if I don’t try to do the things I really want to do then I can keep them as a dream and not risk the chance of failure. The older I get the more I see that dreams are not fulfilling - reality is. As usual, you’re absolutely right and I can’t count the number of therapists who have told me that I am afraid of my own power. Your words makes total sense. Thank you again for sharing your wisdom with us. You’re invaluable. 💕💕

[@rubydaniela]

I have been saying this forever! This notion of fearing your own power always seemed counterintuitive to me. It never made sense to me. Thank you for making this video!!

[@KelvinRaymond989]

Hello 👋 RUBY May goodness and happiness surround you all the time, and may sadness never locate you. Which state are you if I may ask??

[@Bluestlark]

This explain my whole life, I've been so afraid of going for what I want because if I do, it feels as if the whole world will abandon me and go against me, yet, this same world I've been stuck in, hurts far more than the promise that the risk I'm about take, the promise of people actually caring about me, having financial freedom and just freedom on when I got to sleep, JUST THAT EVEN. This is something I will run at, I can't bear a world that doesn't see me, hear me or feel me, it hurts too much, I can't take it anymore.

[@milomazli]

OMG, I love this! Teal, can you please elaborate on this concrete example a bit more? I would love to see how one could overcome the fear you mentioned in this specific scenario! I think I am Maggie from this story, I am afraid that if I will become bigger, brighter, I will attract envious, ill-willing people and keeping myself small will protect me from being sabotaged and disliked.

[@andziagreen4922]

I can relate to your comment a lot

[@elinluna]

Me too! @@andziagreen4922

[@KelvinRaymond989]

May goodness and happiness surround you all the time, and may sadness never locate you. Which state are you if I may ask??

[@ecospider5]

@KelvinRaymond989 My current state is that of chocolate cake. One of the better states if I do say so my self.

[@daisyg8384]

Hi 🙂 Well, I'm not Teal, but I think that maybe I can bring you an answer that can help you! I was also recently in this kind of situation, that looks like Maggie's story. I identified the different roles that I was playing with my family, to get their attention, and I realised that I was often afraid to be selfconfident, to show my talents, to say No when I wanted to, to assert my point of view on some subjects, because I knew that they would show competitiveness, rejection, humiliation. Why ? Because of their jealousy, and the fear of losing all the energy that I was giving them for free and that they were never giving back to me. So, what did I do ? Detach from the need to feel loved and recognized by them. Sacrify my relationships with them, because they almost never brought me happiness. And I felt a big release by doing that. Now, I'm gonna move in a area far from them, and live my life without feeling these fears anymore. And that, is priceless ☺ Because when you overcome the fear of something, and just trust that you deserve to be loved and seen for who you are, you won't attract these situations anymore, and if it sometimes happen, you won't really care anymore. Stand up for yourself. Do whatever you want to do, or to say, if it feels good for you. And don't be afraid to loose people in the process, even close ones... The right people will find you, have faith 🥰

[@yingyang2340]

Thank you so much Teal for helping me see why I'm like a people pleasing type of person. I'm afraid of being disliked, perceived as a treat and banished from my social network. But it's awfully not being free. I want to be more authentic. Thank you for showing me the way

[@ShaShaBC]

I relate to this so much! Ive worked on my people pleassing tendencies for a While, I can tell you that it does not feel that bad When someone dislikes or disagrees with you! It really is not terrible and it feels waaaay better -a 300%_ to be in peace with yourself everyday, than giving someone a moment of comfort that they didn't even noticed. I read a Book called " The courage to be disliked" I highly recommend. Also, "The subtle art of Not giving a F***" lol Those two books helped gain and solidify my perspective on What freedom really is. Big hugs and good Luck in your journey ❤

[@yingyang2340]

Thank you so much for sharing your experiences! I will definitely get the books! It's somehow nice knowing I'm not alone 💗

[@jasonb895]

I am a therapist and I have always thought that being afraid of your own power made no sense. It's a neat little thing to say to someone in the moment because it might make them feel better about themselves, but it does nothing to move them forward. You are so insightful Teal. I hope I can meet you some day.

[@flymanhorse]

What a huge mirror this is. This exactly what is playing out at the moment. Thank you Teal 🙏

[@aquariusstar7248]

Omg....I wasn't ready for this. Yes, I am afraid of the responsibility and discipline and facing obstacles on the path towards what I want to create. That is enough to have to face! But yes--the biggest fear is not being supported, being seen as a threat, diminished, etc. This happened to me as a child; I was scapegoated into playing small. Today I am dealing with the same with my family....just this week as a matter of fact. Wow...thank you for bringing that to the forefront, Teal!!❤❤❤🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@faerykindofyou]

Spot on. I have been afraid of judgement, being disliked or making enemies due to jealousy if I fully express myself or use my abilities.

[@maxrico6660]

I totally relate. I don't fear my power. I know in my town I'm one of the top musicians but many of my good friends are musicians also. I don't want to create any jealousy or making anybody feel like I'm being competitive. I especially don't want to come off like an ego maniac but I know I'm one of the best and I'm pretty certain that I'm seen as a threat to other good musicians.

[@GabrielleIsis777]

Woke up and said let’s watch some teal swan for the soul

[@DontSleepOn_Jesus]

I had a pass life regression and in both pass lives, I was so powerful that it resulted in me being kicked out and ostracized from my community. So I feel this! And I also understand why this lifetime I’ve been more hesitant to fully step out in my purpose. Makes so much sense! Thanks, Teal!

[@edensunsunsusnusn]

Teal! I needed to hear this now! Thank you!

[@pipwhitefeather5768]

You have fabulous insight Teal, and I really needed to hear this. I am the person playing myself down to make others feel safe. Thank you x

[@bash4374]

Wow, this is a seriously powerful truth. Thank you for this clarity

[@Kathos78]

Love this. The moment I decided to go for it 😂🔥 I got to understand this concept. Most of us are afraid of the impact of success. Thank you for putting it into words

[@AJ22-80]

Teal you speak such truth. The world so needs you. Keep safe ❤

[@melissaleonard9103]

Thank you from the bottom of my heart, Teal ❤

[@aboutnol]

I have incredible power. I'm like the girl you said(Maggie) who put herself down to be included. Scape goat skills * But I am getting lost a lot. I use my power and then relised I hurt my self by gaslighting myself and then everyone else gaslight me. So I am really trying to stop doing that. Now I feel like everyone hates me and don't understand me. But I can see finally how I made my own bed. Being alone and misunderstood is my worst nightmare and I am relieving it again right now. First time was 15 years ago and I was a child so I don't think I'm at fault there. I hope there is only up from here. I hope my old family and friends will see who I am. I don't think they will. 💔

[@RhiannonRoze]

So fkn brilliant. I feel so called out in the best possible ways. Thank you Teal! You are the meta of meta. xo

[@yeshunee]

✨️💎 that just gave major clarity.! Thankful

[@tantefien]

Excellent clarification, thank you (I never bougth people being afraid of their own power...)

[@KelvinRaymond989]

Hello 👋 JOSEPHINE May goodness and happiness surround you all the time, and may sadness never locate you. Which state are you if I may ask??

[@Neakez]

Thank you, very enlightening!

[@daisyg8384]

Thank youuuu, so well explained ❤

[@Marika-s2l]

That you amazing soul sister🥰 I feel the story as it is mine. I just started listening to you and have seen several of your teachings. My twinnie flame said... She's like you! She's even speaking of the same things as you are. I've been going through this healing for years alone. I want to thank you for your important work and I wish you abundant happiness in your relationships💓🌍💓 I see you siStar🌟👁️🌟

[@narmmbadd]

Interesting! Thank you 💗

[@mikami9099]

you are amazing…wow. thank you for helping us

[@shanayashanaya08]

I’m afraid of how people will view and perceive me because I don’t want to be seen until I’m confident in seeing myself.

[@kashaf8922]

Girl you gave words to my feelings 🥹💖 thankyou

[@shanayashanaya08]

@@kashaf8922 Oh em gee ofc! Glad we can relate!😅😌🫶🏼 I have full faith that you and I will soon be confident in seeing ourselves.

[@sharonjenkins720]

Teal Swan, you are my hero in this video! Thank you for the truth!

[@alllscination]

Agreed. So on point. Thank you for putting yourself out there and sharing your well spoken insight! I feel very much afraid of my own perceived powerlessness in the world. It's like walking through mud day in and day out. It's not fun to be so aware of how powerless one actually feels all the time. I get that people don't want to bear that extra layer of fear and seek easy relief.

[@ritaflores613]

Wow! Beautiful take! Love it! You're amazing!!!❤

[@Lynn-uh4ul]

How can you resolve the fear of being scapegoated? Would love to see an episode on it!

[@cindymorgan8052]

Teal, Thank-you! That was uplifting! ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

[@kimberleydiann771]

I am Amazed always how you dig so deep. Thank you Teal for your work!💫

[@alexbaer9997]

Thank you so much. Now I know which direction to go and what to look at. A game changer ❤❤❤

[@KelvinRaymond989]

May goodness and happiness surround you all the time, and may sadness never locate you. Which state are you if I may ask??

[@alexbaer9997]

Thank you for your kind words. I’m not from the US

[@KelvinRaymond989]

@@alexbaer9997 Anyway nice to meet.. I'm originally from Norway, I live in Illinios, But I'm presently at my place of Work here in Miami Beach Florida

[@KelvinRaymond989]

@@alexbaer9997 How’s the weather condition over there with you guys?

[@iamkatietv]

That was incredible, Teal. Love the way you broke that down. So accurate.

[@OneaeBlack]

Master Swan, your insights are well thought through, accessible, and useful in the wisdom! Thank you!!

[@ongNguyen-pe4vj]

Thank you teal ❤️

[@jamanix566]

This video came at the perfect time.

[@lianahewitt6927]

This video was really eye opening

[@mkclune]

Thank you for this interpretation ❤❤!

[@witchywell]

Loved this!! Thanks Teal 💜👏

[@dangerx7697]

Super beautiful, AND intelligent....woman after my own heart. Love my girl Teal

[@80shaimaa]

You can truly dissect fears on the deepest level where nobody is capable of reaching Every video sheds the light on a something completely different and I always reach an uh-ha moment during the video, yet I always end up a little unfulfilled with the video ending. As I always ask myself, and how should I do that??? How can I face my fears. I read a couple of your books and I followed your methods years back,,, but I’m sure they’ve evolved and became deeper over the past years. We need an updated version on those methods please.

[@silver2zilver]

This was a really good one sometimes teal hits the nail

[@leticiajordaosubliminals9567]

Teal, can you make a video talking about self neglect and its root causes and how to solve it? It is one of my biggest issues in life and your guidance on it would be heaven sent. I tried everything i could and nothing seems to work.❤ Please, i beg you!!! Nothing in the Internet helps. They are so ignorant about it. I am completely terrified of taking care of myself and always when i do it my heart aches to a point i feel sick and disassociated as if i am commiting a crime.

[@Merlodica]

The remedy for self loathing is self love

[@SammyVideoPlex]

Love you Teal thank you for this video ❤️

[@eveimadeit]

This made me realize that, yes, I am insecure but whats really crippling my is that if u succeed i my goals, I would have a high standard of lifestyle, values and motivation to uphold else I’ll go back to square one I’m apprehensive to take on that load. I need conviction

[@devatara]

Literally hits the nail on the head. How does one face work through the fear or been seen & the negative effects consequences of this?

[@BuddhaAfterDark]

GENIUS! Thank you :D

[@PM9Video]

Thanks for this video

[@TheJemanja]

Teal you’re great.

[@patrickmulvaney.6738]

Much gratitude for your insights and time Teal..Looking forward to seeing you in Dublin soon. Better bring your raincoat 😊❤

[@nikriedel]

I love your timing. Thanks for the upload

[@angelakostiuk1409]

Right on Teal.

[@KelvinRaymond989]

Hello 👋 ANGELA May goodness and happiness surround you all the time, and may sadness never locate you. Which state are you if I may ask??

[@angelakostiuk1409]

@@KelvinRaymond989 Canada

[@KelvinRaymond989]

@@angelakostiuk1409 Anyway nice to meet you, I’m from Norway 🇳🇴

[@KelvinRaymond989]

@@angelakostiuk1409 How’s the weather condition over there with you guys?

[@scottcox9108]

Closer and closer to heart of all-nessness Lighter and smoother and clearer Nicely done TS Enjoy your tour

[@AuntieTammy]

Wow I felt that!

[@Lilies-s8l]

Absolutely on point

[@GoodBodyJay]

I think (I hope) that most of us who relate to being afraid of our power are very aware that what we're actually afraid of is the consequences of being seen as powerful. Many of us have faced the consequences of being ostracized or picked on for being exceptional in some way or maybe even worse, seeing someone we cared about be punished because of some comparison to us. I don't think there lies as much confusion as Teal thinks because it still comes down to the fear of our own power. One of the ways I've used to get over this fear of my power is to imagine the consequences of what being powerful would mean and decide (observe) that I can handle those consequences.

[@aaya77]

Thank you very much, Teal 🙏🏻❤️

[@annikabirgittanordlander6887]

What is leading to so called ”unwanted” experiences? Suppressing, denying physical, mental, emotional needs, desires. Suppressing, denying what we are. Solution: embrace, express instead. Thank you Teal 🌎

[@christiancabanillas1932]

I associated the fact of expressing my power with the terror, scare and profound sadness of get injured. This has lead me to now. I'm so sad for my situation and still don't have the power to pull off this cover pattern.

[@Derek-tg2zv]

The caring of human and material things when truly knowing leaves the person at a loss because the fear of knowing what beliefs gives causing to.

[@mijalheinrich4331]

Good analysed. But I guess sometimes it is simply the fear of being not successfull. Especially when the chances to be successfull are so low. If Maggie doesn't wanted to sell bread, but to become a famous singer, a moviestar or a writer, who sells enough books to live of it. You could imagine how realistic it is, that Maggie gets her power... Maybe she would be to afraid to fail. So she doesn't even try.

[@thobilemncwabe9836]

Nailed it!

[@حسينواثقمحمد-ن5ف]

Thanks so much

[@pacarter7169]

My greatest fear is that I am too inadequate in preparation for my goal as an activist… something that I deem impossible but necessary. However, if I were to encounter that I had a greater sense of power, I would take full advantage of it! Nonetheless, my greater encouragement is what I have discovered via personal studies, and my goal to manifest something that is insanely impossible!

[@blue_sky_bright_sun7599]

Thank you.

[@kanaanltaif75]

you are so beautiful actually ,love your voice.

[@eztiger5]

Spot on💯💯💯 Thank you Teal for making me see this more clearly within myself❤️ Could you maybe make a video on how specifically to let go of these deep seated fears?🙏

[@KYEL85]

❤Just at the moment you uploaded this video I was writing down in a notebook: I AM the Supreme Power. What incredible synchronicity.

[@MotherIsRising]

Thank you again, teal ❤❤❤

[@ReignofAragon]

Woah. I'm gonna think on that some. Thankyou for this perspective. 😊

[@CreativeArtandEnergy]

May this year into the next be the final shedding of analyzing how uncomfortable people are and blaming myself. I’ve been going into being too overwhelmed or too intense myself, and my CNS just wants to find people who get what it is like, but not like try to save them from the stuff I went through anymore. That’s where I put my value - in talking people down from suicide every blue moon.

[@KelvinRaymond989]

May goodness and happiness surround you all the time, and may sadness never locate you. Which state are you if I may ask??

[@andrewwabik5125]

I’ve tried to say this. As usual, your ability to articulate is unmeasurable.

[@intuitive_conscious_being_3452]

I see the effect of power as a part of the power itself ... so I would say that the fear of your own power is true from a certain perspective. When you divide the energy-flow of power into different chapters... as you do when you call it "power", "consequence" and "being seen" then you could say that you are afraid of bad concences consequences or of being seen and judged. Then the fear is defined as a certain linear point in the "parts" of the flow. From that perspective, I say you are right. But from another perspective "power", "consequence" and "being seen" are connected into one and the same ... and in that view when you are afraid of bad consequences then you are also afraid of your power. That´s the reason (or one of the reasons) people are projecting their themes and shadows onto others.

[@intuitive_conscious_being_3452]

@Telegran-Swan_Teal You´re welcome. Is it you Teal?

[@401LEO]

I was Waiting for this one to come out!!! 🎉

[@mubikarimjanovnabob8779]

Teal you are so amazing. Indeed my wgole life time strategy was people pleasing and acting humble and putting others up this way i earned their love affection and closeness and them saying i am a very good girl. As a result my whole life i was avoiding my power . As you explained int eh video is i was avoiding to feel disliked, and being a threat to others if i step in to my power . Amazong knowledge thank you so much ❤❤❤❤

[@da99inho]

Fantastic analysis, Teal! Thank you for helping us empower ourselves by seeing beyond the smokescreen 💖🙏🏻

[@stef40nikolov74]

Very, very true. 🤔

[@elpopo5407]

Guys it is INSANELY INSANE!!!! this video uploaded right in time i realised my power and my fear of my power,'cause my comfort zone is the prison of learned helplessness ,and i was in gratitude for the information and guidance i recieve! Sorry for my English...I love all of you!!!! Keep going! ❤🙏🇬🇷

[@worldofameiso5491]

You just sound lazy.

[@muma6559]

true, face your real fears and solve them if possible

[@Lilies-s8l]

Absolute truth

[@Ouranos369]

Wow Teal 😍 spot on as always

[@anaantadze]

Thank you, Teal! Love your honesty!

[@TealSwanOfficial]

In case You'd Rather Read About It Instead: tealswan.com/resources/articles/power/

[@katieandnick4113]

I guess it depends on how you define “power”, but from my perspective, I think of power as having the ability to perceive things as they are, without our egos filtering our perception. It may not sound like such a big deal, but that’s because the vast majority of people have no idea how deluded they are by their egos, or what it would feel like to have that not be the case. And if we use this definition of “power”, then we absolutely do fear our power. We are conditioned, first and primarily by our mothers, to fear our power because our power(to perceive reality as it is) threatens her ego. It could also put her in legitimate danger, and/or us in danger too. For example, if a little baby were to to conscious of how toxic their environment is, they would never stop crying, which could lead our mothers to be judged or even physically hurt by our fathers, or it could lead our mothers to hurting us. It’s a survival strategy that becomes part of our programming to the point that we equate objective reality with death. And in a sense, that’s accurate, because if we were to perceive reality as it is, the ego would die. So even as we become much less dependent upon our mothers, physically, we remain dependent upon them emotionally forever. We can’t perceive reality as it is, because that would kill the image we have of our mothers, and by extension, of ourselves, in our minds. We all have this fear because we are born into environments not meant for human beings. We are born with essentially the same nervous systems as humans had 200,000 years ago. Nervous systems that evolved to exist in that type of environment. Of course there are things that happen on a more micro/personal level that cause us to fear our own power even more. Like having a very weak, fearful mother and an abusive father. But there is no escaping this fear and our egos as long as we live in complete opposition to our nature. That doesn’t mean we can’t be happy in this world ever, but it does mean we can never be as content or feel as safe as we would if we were alive 20,000 years ago.

[@LeiraHP]

I knew this was a total non-sense, but I wanted to know what you were going to say. I know u r a good one, so I was sure u could have the right opinion, & u did. We r only afraid by getting contested & negatively affected by our actions.

[@Trealshorts-jp2bv]

A teal vid! It's been a while girl.

[@MuseSunflower]

So it’s a fear of what bad things could come with that new experience. That makes sense