Ever heard this from someone? What is too picky? What is realistic? Today we're talking about one special branch of the whole PICKY VS. REALISTIC tree.
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@HauntedBlack4 жыл бұрын
Bold of people to assume that faith - relationship with the Lord - is not about love.
@emwilss4 жыл бұрын
100%.
@fandoms5ever4 жыл бұрын
👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
@kat55094 жыл бұрын
Yes, Sis speak. this is the kind of girl talks we need. plz dont stop this ministry.
@emwilss4 жыл бұрын
Thank you for the encouragement :)
@eavsingleton4 жыл бұрын
Love this! Honestly I'd rather be "alone" forever than in an unhappy marriage where we don't have the same values
@TheGeekApprentice4 жыл бұрын
YES! And on that note, if I don’t meet someone who meets my standards and shares my values, fine! Marriage is not the only way to be happy. If I can’t be happy single, I most definitely won’t be happy married (cause I’ll be dependent on another human for joy rather than finding it in myself and in God). THANK YOU FOR THIS VIDEO!
@emwilss4 жыл бұрын
So wise, and so true. Adopting this perspective is very, very important for all people.
@meggyg80894 жыл бұрын
Very well said!
@allisonmagera4 жыл бұрын
I NEVER want to be at my pizza parlor without my future hubby, wishing he was there, AMEN HALLELUJAH (sorry lent, that one deserves a hallelujah)
@emwilss4 жыл бұрын
Apology not needed but accepted :) . We all need more than a few Amen, hallelujahs these days.
@arianaalessandri77054 жыл бұрын
I absolutely LOVE this! For all my sisters who are still waiting to meet a virtuous man of faith, KEEP WAITING! It is 100% worth it. I recently got into my first relationship with a young man who shares my faith and values and let me tell you, it is SO worth the 22 years of singleness I spent refusing to settle for less. Of course, there are going to be times when you wonder "am I ever going to find someone?" but let me tell you, it is better to be single than to be stuck with the wrong person. Just a few words of encouragement for any young people who might come across this! The wait is worth it!
@amandawalker36984 жыл бұрын
Thank you for the encouragement ❤️ I'm 27 haven't found one yet
@rosieschweebie4 жыл бұрын
Excellent!!! I was passionate about meeting a man who loved Jesus, and wanted a family. I’ve been married for 30 years, and he’s the love of my life! Don’t settle. God will do it! ❤️❤️
@JeCar174 жыл бұрын
This is something this single, 35 year old gal needed to hear today... Thank you, Emily and all the commenters giving hope and encouragement to everyone out there!
@emwilss4 жыл бұрын
Thanks for watching :)
@margiehalpern45734 жыл бұрын
Love the pizza parlor analogy. And worse than being lonely alone is being lonely in the key relationship of your life because, while the other person "doesn't mind" what's at the heart of your life, s/he is not invested in it with you.
@mariahprice-perez20334 жыл бұрын
I haven’t even watched the whole video but I’d much rather be alone than be with someone who is not on the same mission as me!!! That’s just sounds miserable ! This is our whole life people Helloooo!
@emwilss4 жыл бұрын
Hellooooooo is right!!!!!!
@hilaryhui12044 жыл бұрын
Agreed! People that said it differently probably dont really how hard relationships are...so that's another sign haaa
@GinnyandEric4 жыл бұрын
YES, you are so right!!
@JoshIdachaba4 жыл бұрын
As a guy, I agree with all of this! Ladies, don’t compromise your standards, foundation, or identity to attract a guy! If you do, you’re giving the guy permission to define your standards or identity. No matter how high your standards are, challenge guys to meet or exceed your standards if they want to pursue you. The right one for you will not only meet or exceed those standards, but also honor and respect your identity and foundation!
@eugeniyah80784 жыл бұрын
Taraji P. Henson once said "People like to project their fears onto you." That's the logic behind that phrase "You're too picky." So whenever you hear that just know that they're indirectly telling you what they wouldn't do if they were you. Your passion is your purpose and at the end of the day, you just need one person who's truly as invested in the same passion as you are. There are a lot of good men out there, but if they don't share the same passion as you, then they're not good for you.
@estenglish4 жыл бұрын
I wish I'd had you next to me when I was discussing this topic with my friend!! He was trying to explain that if I cut off any guy who's not a Christian I'm limiting myself in understanding new views and perspectives and that he wouldn't want me to limit myself and be unhappy or unfulfilled because of that, but I was trying to tell him that he doesn't need to worry about that for me because I know what's good for me and what will make me happy and marrying someone with opposing beliefs to mine and not sharing my passion for God is not it
@VintageInkBlot4 жыл бұрын
LOVE THIS! Especially when you said that those naysayers will NOT be directly affected by the choices I make in my relationships. I love how people feel that their opinion about my personal values and preferences matter. I am going to be the one living with it and I want to live with a man who matches with my values and who I am- not who you are Karen! 😛
@emwilss4 жыл бұрын
You are so absolutely right. We will all live with the choices we make in regards to everything - including dating and/or marriage! So glad you agree!
@ruth52274 жыл бұрын
PREEEEEEACH!!!! As soon as I went out with the first guy that actually LOVED his faith, I truly felt the presence of God enter our relationship. That made me feel safe, respected, and sincerely loved. Even though we are great friends now, I still feel God’s presence hovering over us whenever we talk because that is what our relationship was built on, faith. Emily, you are so right! 💞 Love!!!
@kromatic36104 жыл бұрын
Love this, Emily. I completely identify with this video. I can't tell you how many times I have been told by my "formerly-Catholic" friends that say, "Are you serious? You're still on that 'waiting until marriage' thing that we were told in middle school. Oh my God, come on. Be realistic." I just smile and nod my head, "Yes, I am old-fashioned." I'm not being unrealistic. I have standards. I find it so funny when my guy-friends in grad school find out that I am Catholic and religiously so, they stop paying attention to me. God is helping me weed-out the ones who don't love Him as much as I do. I've been praying for my future husband until I was 13 and will continue to do so. God bless, Emily. Praying for you and your family and the whole world during this time. Stay safe, healthy, and in faith, my sister of God. 💕
@emwilss4 жыл бұрын
I am old-fashioned with you. Go girl.
@blurry11bloomlisa4 жыл бұрын
Girls should stop having such low requirements! Just because it's definitely not easy to find somebody, doesn't mean ya should stop being picky and standing up for yourself! I know it's hard but gurrrlll, at the end of the day, ya want to be happy. So better wait and be picky than be with someone that makes you unhappy. PERIOD
@jewelbowers26074 жыл бұрын
Yesss! I love Crazy Chiquita!
@emwilss4 жыл бұрын
I am so glad!
@AshleyMarie-qs6xq4 жыл бұрын
Honestly would say this is one of if not my favorite video by Emily. The pizza analogy was sooooo good! I’m using it from now on and honestly this video has been a great reminder for myself with the standards I am setting for myself. God bless ❤️
@emwilss4 жыл бұрын
Hey thanks!!!!!
@Thais-hw1io4 жыл бұрын
I made a list with all the values I hope to find in a man. I put this paper on the wall of my room and everyday I look at that to make sure I won't forget I deserve the best. Sometimes I think I'm being so picky, but suddenly I think '' Come on, girl. This is probably one of the most important decisions of your life''. I didn't want to share my list with anyone but God, so I made it in English (as I'm learning English and just in case my parents get into my room and read the list...they don't speak English). Of course I tried not to be futile and I chose his commitment to God as my top priority but I have to say that since I've done it I feel peace in my heart. Having standards is a way to resist loneliness because dating the first guy who appears in front of us is not a big deal anymore. God bless you Emily ♥
@rscampbell34 жыл бұрын
Love the pizza analogy. So clear. So simple. So true. Bless x
@Christina-cf9ot4 жыл бұрын
Yes! I want a passionate Catholic who believes sex should be saved for marriage. Having dated men who were either not Catholic or didn't value chastity, I realize that I'm weak. I want someone who will help me become a saint, not drag me down into hell. Now, I'm in my late 30s, so I've had to think long and hard on maybe being single for life. I decided my soul was worth more than being married to the wrong person.
@emwilss4 жыл бұрын
And boy am I glad that you are not married to the wrong person! May God direct your steps and guide you along in His plan for you.
@annagarnet12324 жыл бұрын
LOVE IT EMILY! 👏 Don't settle girls. Sick to your convictions. You have to live with the man you marry forever NOT them!
@quinoasongs25074 жыл бұрын
Thank you, Emily. That puts it out there for those who want me re-coupled yesterday. Another saying is, "I'd rather be picky than desperate"
@MunthApollo4 жыл бұрын
This is important advice. I myself am very comfortable with being single, even if I have loathed it at times. People act like I'm too unwilling to bend to societal norms to ever get a boyfriend. The truth is, I don't want to compromise my individuality for anyone else, I'd rather be single. A friend once told me I was too picky about what denomination I wanted a potential partner to be apart of. At the time I reluctantly agreed, but I now see how that could cause problems when it comes to differences in doctrines. For example, what you believe about the state of the dead. When raising kids, this could cause confusion. Where did grandpa go where he died? Daddy says he's in heaven, Mommy says he's sleeping while he waits for Jesus to come back. Thanks for the awesome video Emily, the pizza waving was great xD
@annagoehlmann26964 жыл бұрын
This is just the main reason why I broke up with my ex-boyfriend one year ago. He still is a nice person and he's very dear to my heart, but we don't share the same core values and beliefs for example religious beliefs whatsoever. It's already been hard for 2.5 years. I wanted us both to have the chance to find someone even more fitting than we were. And even though it's tough because I feel society's pressure to "stop being so picky at almost 31 years" that it's very important to remind you of this exact message which Emily shares in this awesome video! Thank you Emily. Also: Currently reading Go Bravely and it's so full of God's wisdom for us, comprised in your beautiful words. ❤️
@emwilss4 жыл бұрын
Thank you for your sweet comment. You will not regret your decision - I am sure of this. And so glad you are liking Go Bravely :)
@dianacostea33984 жыл бұрын
You just explained that so clear and so well! Thank you a lot for this video ❤️🙏🏼
@emwilss4 жыл бұрын
I am glad it painted a good picture for ya!!!
@Jess_ica29274 жыл бұрын
Emily you helped give me the confidence to break up with my ex and now I'm with a really Catholic guy and it is THE. BEST. Big fat whatever to everyone who said I was being too picky. Thank you and all glory to God ❤
@dalijacob4 жыл бұрын
Hi Emily and all who are reading this! I'm so glad you made this video like you have no idea! It really motivates me even more to wait and pray for that someone God is preparing for me, because sometimes it's so hard to wait and the fact that you have half of your beloved ones Catholics who supports my ideals about marrying a catholic guy who has the same passions as me and to live in chastity until marriage and on the other side having these friends or familiars who say that if I'm picky at my short age (almost 24yo) I will never get married and be alone and the older you are the less chances you have to "find a good man", which sometimes it upsets those comments. Once a friend told me to write a letter to God to pray and ask for a good Catholic man and how I would like him to be. I think it's an intimate and wonderful thing to do if someone would like to do the same. Thank you so much, Emily, for encourage each one of us who watch your videos and to never let us down! I love and admire you! Thanks for your videos (: God bless you all!
@ayeshat68684 жыл бұрын
So so so true! My husband is a devout Catholic and I've been called picky and I've been told that I'd never find a man who meets my standards. None of those people have anything to say today. So happy that I didn't settle! And thank you Emily for all your videos, they helped me through some very tough times❤
@Sarah-qy4we4 жыл бұрын
This is so good to hear. I'm a Protestant Christian in college and the guy I like is Greek Orthodox. Right now, I'm still learning about the orthodoxy and how his beliefs line up with mine (and how passionate he is on them), but I'm struggling to keep in mind that if they DON'T line up, I've gotta let him go. It's too easy to believe that no one better will come but for so many reasons I know that's just not true. I'm really glad you made this video Emily!
@amandagrace67674 жыл бұрын
Sarah Hocutt also remember to be open minded when learning about new faith:) Continue the searching, God had the perfect plan!
@zoez32434 жыл бұрын
Greek Orthodox means Orthodox Christian. So you're both Christian. Of course, Orthodox Christianity is the ancient Christian faith so there's a long history and a beautiful depth of layers to it. It is common that the western world misunderstands the essence of Orthodox Christianity, mainly because it flourished in Eastern Europe and the Middle-East versus the Anglo-Saxon West and seems very foreign to the West, when indeed it is the beginning of how Christianity blossomed. After all, the New Testament was written in Greek. Reading about the history of Christianity from the start, how people perceived and practiced the faith then, are good questions to have in mind. Also, y2am is an Orthodox Christian KZbin channel that may answer some of your questions of Orthodox Christianity. I'm sure being open to learning and understanding the same religion in a different light is not only helpful for you to figure out your personal relationship but also to learn about your Christian faith and its history. All the best!
@Sarah-qy4we4 жыл бұрын
Thank you for the channel! I'll check it out. I absolutely want to learn more about the orthodoxy and be open to it if the core beliefs are the same. :)
@yasmine90464 жыл бұрын
Emily... I. LOVE. YOU! I mean, I went CrayCray Chiquita too watching this video and had to restrain myself from yelling "That's it girl! Say it louder for the people in the back!!" Haha 7 minutes with you feel like nothing and everything at the same time. Your very invested pom-pom girl ^^
@emwilss4 жыл бұрын
Hehehe love this comment!!! Thanks Yasmine!!
@inesgomes8534 жыл бұрын
Wow, I just had a conversation yesterday with a friend and she accused me of being too picky. She told me I would never find someone if I kept being so picky. I told her “How am I being too picky, when I just want someone who shares my values?”. I tried to explain to her all the repercussions of marrying someone who, unlike me, for instance, doesn’t believe in God. She asked me at the end “Can’t you just go to mass on Sunday on your own?”. She didn’t understand... Thank you so much for this video! It really helps :)
@emwilss4 жыл бұрын
I'm so glad it did. I could never, ever, ever have been married and spent the rest of my life going to Mass alone. I understand deeply where you are coming from.
@inesgomes8534 жыл бұрын
Emily Wilson, thank you so much for your reply! 🤗 Sending love and wishing you all the best from Portugal. Will pray so that you can keep up the amazing work you’re doing for us! Thank you 🙂
@izzycohen94 жыл бұрын
I love this. I have been in relationships where i felt emotionally and spiritually stuck. I left then behind and prayed to God for someone to love me the way I deserved to be loved. Three weeks later I met my husband who is a Christian. His faith and love for God is strong and instead of feeling emotionally and spiritually stuck, I felt free. Like I could talk about God when I wanted, I could discuss messages I felt I was getting from God, and when I was depressed and my faith was waivering he guided me quietly and loving back to God, just like I needed. Don't settle for someone just because they're great in so many other ways; if they don't hit the major check marks that you NEED to be met, it doesn't matter if they look good on paper in other ways.
@meganhenshaw17174 жыл бұрын
Thank you, Emily! I needed this today. Every guy I've been talking to or been on a couple dates with in the last year either doesn't care about their faith very much or they are scared off by the fact I'm going to graduate school and have big plans. I need someone who is a strong Catholic and can make big dreams with me. Because I am a daughter of God first and foremost and he made me a dreamer.
@marissac68344 жыл бұрын
Better to be single and wish you were married than to be married and wish you were single. Thanks Crazy Chiquita for reminding us never to compromise
@LivAlexa324 жыл бұрын
Yes and Amen!! I’m so passionate about career ambition and fitness (especially running) currently dating a catholic man who is also career ambitious (he’s studying for the CFA while I work on my masters!) and he’s into running and fitness too!! Together we’ve had so many workout and study dates and he’s introduced me to new things too like salsa dancing!! I’m so happy :) Next we’ll work on cooking pizza 😉
@Bgarcia-10974 жыл бұрын
I just saw your Instagram story of you, Daniel and Zion dancing to Bruno Mars!! Too adorable!! Great video btw! ❤❤❤ Stay safe, Beautiful. 💕💋
@emwilss4 жыл бұрын
Hehehe I'm so glad you liked it!
@seedsandpaperleaves4 жыл бұрын
Amen sister! Compromise is apart of life but the last thing you want to be doing is compromising your VERY waking moment instead of sharing and enjoying life with someone. I love what CD Brooks once said, "I get women coming to me saying, 'Oh, but Pastor if I don't marry him I'll die!' And after they marry that person, they wish they were dead." Marry for the right reasons; not because of loneliness or infatuation. And if you want kids, please remember that they pay for your mistakes as well. Blessings xx
@elizabethleighraum4 жыл бұрын
YES Emily! Love this video!! I used to tell my roommates and friends in college that we should all have 3-5 core desires that we want in the people we choose to date and marry. I am happily engaged to a man who meets all 5 of my core standards and more! Thank you for putting my thoughts into a video. I love the pizza analogy too!! ☺️🙌🏻
@MaryScarpati4 жыл бұрын
Amen! Preach Crazy Chiquita/ Emily! I 100% agree with everything you said! I was told I was picky for years but now I'm with a man who is the answer to all my prayers. Have hope ladies!
@emwilss4 жыл бұрын
Amen, hallelujah!
@hannahcherney56274 жыл бұрын
YYYAAASSSSS!!! Excellent analogy Em!!!! Thanks for blessing us with another Crazy Chiquita vid today :)
@lisahyatt56734 жыл бұрын
Always love your perspectives Emily! I have fought many wars on this with many friends, family and others. But the 17 years I waited and watched for the Man God had promised were so worth it! There are times we have faced recently and when I hear him say 'WE chose this, this is Our Journey' I cry for Joy knowing I am with a Man who will pour his life into our mission and purpose!
@AndrielleHillis4 жыл бұрын
Actually, when I was dating, my parent and other adults in my life got on to me for not being picky enough. The thing I was told growing up is to always remember that it is the most important decision you will ever make because your spouse is the one and only member of your family you get to choose.
@LadyK0074 жыл бұрын
Thank you thank you thank you thank you thank you Emily. I’ve struggled with this for years. Thinking that I should put my desire to marry a Catholic man to the side, especially since I’m well into my 30s. But my heart of hearts just doesn’t want to marry anyone. I know Id regret it if I couldn’t share my faith with my husband. Thank you from the depths of myself for being a voice of reason on this very important topic!
@emwilss4 жыл бұрын
A very thoughtful comment. I'm glad you were encouraged!
@hurbacz4 жыл бұрын
YES. This is so true. Even for myself, I've determined that I would rather be single, uncompromisingly loving Jesus with my whole heart than to be in a relationship where I don't feel like I can be my whole self. Sure it can be hard, but from past experiences with guys who don't share my faith, the heartache of dividing myself is MUCH worse than not being in a relationship. Thank you Emily!
@clariita20044 жыл бұрын
Oh.my.God... this is NOTHING like what I was expecting after reading the title. Wow, mamma mia, Dios santísimo, ¡qué impresión! Dear Emily, I truly believe God made me watch this video for a reason, it could not be more on time, I really needed this right now, and I didn't even know it! You are an angel, God bless you, and thank you, thank you, than you! ❤
@emwilss4 жыл бұрын
You win comment of the day :)
@christianmamadiaries4524 жыл бұрын
Hahaha i love your impressions... you were SO on in so many ways. I broke up with a guy whose family was catholic but it was not a priority to him. I originally thought it was fine bc he was “religious”. I learned that doesn’t mean ANYTHING, and that i needed to be with a man who was full of humility and fear for the Lord, whose relationship with God cane before me. Love love love your content Emily!!
@emwilss4 жыл бұрын
Thanks SO much!!!
@olgatwiggy15314 жыл бұрын
Totally agree! My friend married a guy that does not share her faith which is extremely important to her, and recently said to me that if she hadn't rushed into this marriage and waited, she could have met a man that really reached out to her standards...
@GIMJ844 жыл бұрын
Same thing they said to me. When i got intentional with my dating after being single for 8 yrs, I met a man on Christian connection who 9 months later is now my fiance. Faith in Christ was first and foremost for both of us!
@nikkid88344 жыл бұрын
Thank you for existing and doing the work you do
@emwilss4 жыл бұрын
Makes my heart happy to read this. Thank you for appreciating my efforts :)
@cierralovesUlots4 жыл бұрын
Such a great video, regardless if it religions or adventure or pizza it’s so important to find someone who doesn’t just support your passions but is an active participant in them! .... also random I love that lipstick color !
@jamesmerone4 жыл бұрын
I think men and women should be realistic and compromise on the superficial requirements. No one can be too picky when looking for virtue, but I do think as Christians, we try to find a saint right out of the gate.
@cjscjs10644 жыл бұрын
Thank you! Your hard truth encourages me!
@danceninja214 жыл бұрын
Oh I love the pizza parlor example! I'm totally gonna use that next time people tell me I'm picky. People tell me I'm too picky all the time!
@broadwayzjm52574 жыл бұрын
I'm a college freshman and I've never dated anyone simply because they don't share my faith, but I have so many doubts too.. I want to know what it's like to experience a relationship and all, but I don't entertain guys who don't share my faith.. my friends think I'm picky so sometimes I think "what if I gave these guys a chance" bec I want to know what it feels like too. Thanks for the reassurance tho. :)
@monicabalderas11764 жыл бұрын
My friends constantly tell me I’m being too picky and that I’m almost done with college and I’m still too picky. But thank you Emily for your videos. After watching your videos I am reminded that it is okay and I don’t have to give in or sacrifice anything for someone because I’ll one day find that someone whom is perfect for me💖
@annav6084 жыл бұрын
Yaasssss this analogy is so helpful on not being picky what negative people say but showing your standards and passion for also your future spouse! Peace, God's will and a strong man of faith is a beautiful combination.
@ruthdobinda28324 жыл бұрын
Just true words and full of wisdom! God bless everyone 🎉
@sarahauer62054 жыл бұрын
Love this❤️
@ritacastillo93914 жыл бұрын
YES AMEN! a "friend" told my fiancé when we were only friends at the time that he would never be with the perfect girl cause he's so picky. Although i am in no way perfect but my Lord my God is, we so appreciate the imperfectly perfect flaws in each other that we discovered along our friendship to relationship. Im so glad we didn't listen to other people because of our dating standards!
@Pigpenguin8004 жыл бұрын
This video could not have come at a more perfect time! I have been struggling with doubts about my desire to find a catholic man as passionate about the faith as I am. This message was the reminder I so greatly needed to stay strong in my conviction, and the pizza parlor analogy really drove the message home for me. Thank you soooo much Emily for making this video, I am beyond grateful!!
@alainathachuk19504 жыл бұрын
I need a Crazy Chiquita sweater. Somehow in some way, I will find one.
@emwilss4 жыл бұрын
So many people have asked that I'll have to make one.
@sarahbishop55554 жыл бұрын
Thank you for making this video! ❤
@aramintawilliams52054 жыл бұрын
Honestly in this overly sexualized society I’m not even trying to anytime soon, it’s all just a joke. I don’t get how it makes sense to be in a crappy relationship then to be single doesn’t that kill purpose? Taking the longest break as possible I’m about to hit 11 months. My goal is to hit one year.
@marisadf134 жыл бұрын
🙌
@jmcast31954 жыл бұрын
My dad always said it is better to be alone than with someone you can't stand.
@aramintawilliams52054 жыл бұрын
Kayla Ellis thank you.
@aramintawilliams52054 жыл бұрын
JM Cast exactly.
@nayeliayala2454 жыл бұрын
THANK YOU for this!! I hope you continue to post more vids especially during this time- they're my fave!! 🌼
@livwalker41004 жыл бұрын
Can you do another version of this video where you talk about good standards vs. bad standards? That’s something I’ve always really struggled with. I’m a Christian and to me it’s important that if I get married it’s to a man who’s whole life revolves around knowing God and making Him known. I don’t want a good Christian boy who goes to church and “counts as a Christian”, I want the real, passionate, deal. I’m the type who is really nerdy about the Bible and I love to get into long conversations about what this verse means or what that passage is saying about something in theology, and I want a man who gets just as exited about that as I do, but I’m being told that it’s unrealistic to expect a guy my age to be like that, that only middle aged and older men who have had time to mature in their faith are like that. So in that topic (and many others) I’m curious if my standards are too high and I should just give in, or if I’m right on track and I should keep it up. So a video on standards would be extremely helpful for me (and I’m sure many others)
@karolinamazur2614 жыл бұрын
THIS IS SOOOOOOO GREAT!!! Thank You Emily!! ❤❤
@fishfinder4014 жыл бұрын
This definitly a very timely video for me
@katherinegraceahrens25024 жыл бұрын
YES. I have always believed this and my family members DO NOT GET IT. Thank you for this encouragement to continue searching for someone who has the certain things I am searching for.
@fandoms5ever4 жыл бұрын
Amen sista
@christinesparks5064 жыл бұрын
I needed to hear this. I just broke off a relationship with a guy who was a fallen away Catholic. Of course the faith wasn’t the center of his life but it is the center of mine. We would go to Sunday mass together but that was about it. I didn’t see much of an interest about learning more about the faith from him. Anything faith based that we would talk about or do would come from me. And it’s not like I could have even expected him to be on the same page as me because he was away from the faith for 6 years and really only knew what he did through CCD. He was a good guy. But I recently came to the realization that if I ended up marrying him the faith would only be important to me. I’m sure he’d come to Sunday mass with me but I wouldn’t expect him to initiate praying the rosary every night or get any support when doing anything faith based or religious. When I looked into the future I saw that he would probably never be as passionate about the faith as I am. So yeah. It was a really hard decision but I believe it was the right one. I still pray for him every day, hoping that he’s able to see how fulfilling it is to make God the center of your life. I’m trying to keep my standards high. So this definitely encouraged me. Thank you 💖
@eliskamichalcova2974 жыл бұрын
Another amazing and truthful Crazy Chiquita video👏👏👏 (and now I have pizza craving😂)
@emwilss4 жыл бұрын
Pizza party!
@kaylagrace24814 жыл бұрын
THANK YOU EMILY! Honestly, this questions has been on my heart and I’m glad to finally have an answer and some peace. God bless.
@emwilss4 жыл бұрын
You are welcome Kayla Grace!
@abigailfolk1964 жыл бұрын
Thank you, Emily! This is so nice to hear!
@MRD924 жыл бұрын
I think you are right, but I think as people get older and remain unmarried, it is easy to rethink those things. Like you got married pretty young so you didn’t have to hold out that long, but if someone is 32 or 33 and not married, I think it would be easy to lower one standards or maybe reevaluate.
@jeniferj4 жыл бұрын
Is it just me or did crazy chiquita became a new yarker from jersey with the vocal tones!!lol! Loved it
@emwilss4 жыл бұрын
Ya know, Crazy Chiquita is just all over the place sometimes.
@akankescott55954 жыл бұрын
Someone literally told me this when i was in high school. I havent forgotten it and that was several years ago.
@estenglish4 жыл бұрын
It's funny that I was just discussing this with a friend the other day and he couldn't wrap his head around my reasons for my decision and I couldn't wrap my head around his reasons why I shouldn't have made that decision!! But this video helped to reaffirm where and why I stand in this perspective and to know that I'm not the only one people think is being crazy!
@Elizabeth-mf3dn4 жыл бұрын
The people that say “you’re too picky” are the FIRST to say “you sell yourself short” if you aren’t 🙄🙄🙄
@mariemi35954 жыл бұрын
NEED THIS TOO BAD!!! Period. Thanks a lot ♥️♥️♥️🙏🙏🙏
@dazzlemefine3114 жыл бұрын
Thank you for posting this!!! I agree 100%.
@FarAwayDistance4 жыл бұрын
This is one of my favorite videos of yours😭😭😭
@emwilss4 жыл бұрын
Thank you SO much sistah! I appreciate the encouragement!
@rachellllhines4 жыл бұрын
I have tears watching this. I feel so alone. I just want a partner who will devote his life to the "pizza parlor" with me by his side
@y-nhyduong16734 жыл бұрын
Hi Emily, I love your channel. Thank you for such good, positive, and empowering content.
@k.emory_artistry4 жыл бұрын
Love it! Been called picky before and God said to me: "You're not picky. You're precise and so am I." It's good to know yourself and know what matters to you!
@meganslonesings4 жыл бұрын
Emily, I LOVE your eyeshadow (unrelated to video...), but what kind is it? You're so right, Emily. I'm the one affected NOT them. Awesome video as always. GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR FAMILY. GOD PROTECT YOU ALWAYS!
@ReinaBRamos4 жыл бұрын
Caution ! It is not better to marry anyone than to die alone... you can be married to someone who is abusive and you will prefer to die than to just live like that... Sad but true story
@nikkijoycrichlow4 жыл бұрын
This video is a 7 minute TRUTH bomb. Splendid. 👏🏽💣💣💣
@MariaPullatt4 жыл бұрын
"It takes three to get married" - Venerable Bishop Sheen God and I are ready, we ain't got no man. Maybe we should take matters into our own hands and just marry each other. I mean, maybe I should join a convent lol.
@rachellynch27024 жыл бұрын
Sitting in my room in quarantine, drinking wine, and screaming, 'YES YES YES & YES!!" at my computer screen. Crazy Chiquita speaking straight FACTS.
@thebestofmae4 жыл бұрын
Veryy timely. I was just wondering about this a few minutes ago. Thank youuuu Emily! ❤❤
@emwilss4 жыл бұрын
You got it girl!
@carolinasjmj4 жыл бұрын
I was one of those 5,000 who voted yes!! and I do not regret it❤️😇
@emwilss4 жыл бұрын
Hehehe I'm so glad you don't!
@HaleyMary4 жыл бұрын
Preach it, girl! I find it difficult to meet a guy who shares my spiritual values. I've met guys who were Christian, but drank and smoked and as I do neither of those things, it wasn't an option for me to date those guys, though I wasn't attracted to them anyway. I've also met guys who don't drink or smoke, but they don't share my spiritual values. I feel like God is still working on me anyway, so it gives me time to develop into the woman God wants me to be.
@anastasiafrederick15804 жыл бұрын
Yes thank you so much doe this Video I have people tell me all the time that I'm too picky for having standards when it comes to dating so it great to know that having standards dose not mean you are picky.
@emilygignac59804 жыл бұрын
Thank you, thank you, thank you 😭♥️
@rachaelbee224 жыл бұрын
LOVE LOVE THIS thank you!!!!!
@quesavolontesoitfete4 жыл бұрын
always so good ! Thank you Emily
@emwilss4 жыл бұрын
Thank YOU!!
@MissingGingerSnap4 жыл бұрын
Preach crazy chiquita! 🙏🏻
@Theprincessinyellow4 жыл бұрын
Pray for me sisters. I know the Holy Spirit has been telling me to leave my relationship but I was silly and thought that I could inspire him to love God more. He was raised Catholic but strayed when he got older and I thought that it wouldn’t be missionary dating if he was already brought up in the church I guess. He has been absolutely wonderful to me (chivalrous, masculine, loves his family, adores me, all of it) but like Emily reminded me, I would rather be single at 35 and whole and fulfilled in the Lord than wishing my husband was at church with me, or wishing that he would pray over our family even if I’m not there, or prioritize teaching our children about God 10 years in. I need all of His strength to do it. Today is actually my one year anniversary with this guy. I let way too many people speak into my life and minimize the place that God should have. But forgiveness is abounding and satisfaction is found only in the Lord