You're Chasing A Feeling, Not A Person.

[@plantmama7442]

I think the best thing to realize when people leave your life is that you were good before you met them and you’ll continue to be after. It really is a feeling we’re chasing and we can create that feeling within ourselves. Going through this right now but I realize I have more peace in my life than I did when they were around so it wasn’t a loss. Not everything you lose is a loss. Let them go, you deserve people who want to stay.

[@LeviLevin-tp6ek]

thank you for this massage , it helped me alot 🙏🏼❤

[@nativew7389]

❤💯

[@JessePadilla-kg6de]

Needed to hear that man never thought about how I was good before them and I’ll be fine without them.

[@Sieg0i190]

thanks. I think i need to hear this.

[@brandonrobertkersjes]

Ngl, I wasn’t happy before I met her. Lol

[@Memon8111]

I’m honestly facing this battle right now. I just pray for peace honestly🫂

[@edonisbuzhala1878]

Maybe im the feeling you want to chase☺️

[@Gettodatmoney-g1i]

@@edonisbuzhala1878yo😭🙏

[@Memon8111]

@@edonisbuzhala1878 that was a good one.

[@Laltroragazzo]

I feel you bud, and prayer prayer prayer does it really well maybe not fast or instant but guaranteed… peace and love ❤❤

[@damiozr1603]

real bro same

[@Cadesbaee]

the timing is CRAZYYYY

[@jackshapiro4668]

ONG. A girl I’ve been on and off for 4 months with now left me yesterday. I loved her, but realized it wasn’t love I needed, it was safety. I could never count on her to be around when I was struggling. I could never be vulnerable with her, or feel truly loved. And I finally let her go, and I looked towards greener pastures. It’s a new day now, and I’ll be okay, and find someone who I not only love, but also feel safe and comforted by.

[@Cadesbaee]

@@jackshapiro4668 “it’s a new day now and i’ll be okay” i love that bro. you’re so right, and life removing this person might’ve just saved you! you’re going to do such better things and find someone who’s so worthwhile and checks off twice the amount of things u want in a person than your past “partner” ever did. i can just tell by your mindset that you’re going to attract a great partner. also vulnerability is such a beautiful and important thing in a relationship, as it deepens your connection with that person, so you not having that kind of shocked me..im glad you realized though and def look for someone u can open up to because it’s such a great feeling when u have that persons trust with that kind of stuff.

[@rofrankie947]

Amen! 36 years old and was chasing this chocolate adonis for affection like a crack fiend scavenging for rocks😂 when all he wanted was sex, hey!!!! Im growing and changing. Thank you, Jesus.

[@Cadesbaee]

@@rofrankie947 Yesss proud of you!

[@Aceofgods07]

So real mine was only 2 weeks but felt like a while for me and got friend zoned in the end😂

[@crustyseashell8848]

Who is this man on my recommended spitting facts that are so specific to my situation rn? 😭

[@pdeannn800]

so real lmao

[@kkaani1336]

Once we grow old we all have to swallow the reality pill. Growing up means finding inner peace and sometimes its not the peace of others we reach out for, its the peace with in. Some situations or people come in your life to open up your eyes, to entlighten the path. Every mistake is a lesson. And not everyone is ment to stay.

[@TalahivaTuifua]

Wise words .

[@kkaani1336]

​@@TalahivaTuifua thank you Pal!

[@nezhazenuni]

you need to chaseYOUR goals not the person , trials come with lessons, lessons turn into progress

[@offxcialjayden815]

real

[@kirahoward23]

I love this❤

[@oflidiggy]

We have to have abundance mindset. Always have trust that something that God takes away He will replace it with something better. Always. Always put God first and watch everything else fall into place

[@qwertyy716]

bro, sitting in my bed crying abt it then this pops up. god is good

[@jillianjillian5493]

😢yes cry it out, you are healing, thank God. One big relief, then it'll come back, but each time you cry the pain gets less. My journey as well.

[@_Oneway_Nickk]

This shit is so powerful… I’ve been waking up at 5:00am every morning for the past 30+ days and this is the most productive & at peace I’ve ever been in my life. Truly the best decision ever, wake up early, read my book & journal at the Starbucks cafe, go to the gym & workout for an hour, work on my business, then go to work & repeat

[@redzycs]

I searched for this, and my issue is that I get attached too quickly and easily. When growing up I didn't get a lot of attention from women, nor did I really give any either, I didn't believe anyone could love me. Now whenever someone flirts with me, which happens regularly I start picturing how life could be. It's easy for me to not act on my emotions, but hell man, my mind doesn't sleep and I want to remove that part of me that is longing for that feeling.

[@jordan332]

It’s a part of you, you’ll have to learn to navigate differently. You know yourself, protect yourself.

[@Silemthhll-gd3kf]

Experiencing the exact same thing, i realized that the more it happens the better i start to handle it, im sure after a couple more this wont be an issue anymore.

[@Jessica-c4o6l]

opposite gender, but experience the exact same thing. guess i just wanted to say that i understand completely and can relate to this feeling 😭

[@AC-mn3zd]

💙💙💙

[@EveGarciaaa]

“People arnt a need they’re a want” ugh imma cry

[@kirahoward23]

God is making my skin tough 😤 I love it. Im gaining wisdom everyday alone with God. My discernment is being fine tuned and trauma healing. Im loving this space in my life right now. It killed me at first, well at least I thought I was dying 😅 Im God's dramatic child but I am being pruned for better ❤️

[@WilliamP97]

That's a spirit girl✨

[@mercy.2107]

just by reading the title, i realized exactly why i continue to unintentionally mistreat the people i love most. "u are chasing a feeling and not a person", you associate a person with the feeling of peace of mind. You guys continue to be exactly the same, if not better than when you first met but you slowly start to drift away from that feeling. And you start to feel it again. Loneliness and that there is nowhere to go. Learn to bring that peace to yourself to bring that peace to other people. You just saved my life brother, i was at rock bottom for a period of my life because of this feeling. Thank you for showing up on my feed. I will go on and find that feeling of peace and bring that to the people i love instead of idolizing my struggle instead of taking it on.

[@Cinnamongirlala]

As someone with adhd, i constantly found myself hyperfixating on people, that feel he would give me, that escape. Now im trying to teach myself what love is, because that didnt always feel like love

[@leapatience]

Crying this entire video. This heartbreak has simply opened a door for me to work on loving myself and choosing myself before anyone. Thank you.

[@AC-mn3zd]

Real 💙

[@joshdioramaworld1002]

god gave me this video exactly when I need to see this, god is good

[@ceddy4204]

Timing is crazy! Not Like I didnt know already but sometimes you just need to hear it.

[@Khi.benji.]

You just explained my life I thought it was something so special about her but really just the way the made me feel the separation anxiety depression was the worse .

[@PrickFlair]

I feel that, I had a thing with a girl months ago, found out she didn’t really love me, actually told me to my face she just liked my kindness. Recently, she guilt tripped me for “flirting” with other women, meanwhile she friendzoned me months ago, we weren’t even dating or even had a thing anymore, it made no sense. I even asked her before hand if it was drama related, she lied and said “no”. She lied and gaslighted me, reflected her own misery on to me. I told her to never contact me ever again. Ever since then, I’ve been a lot better.

[@hendofanaccount6028]

@@PrickFlairi did the same thing for 6 years. 6 years of gaslighting and lies. We will be better bro💗

[@Jai.J]

I’m going through this exact situation rn, chasing someone who makes me feel weird or crazy or less than for caring about a situation with them. and made me feel awkward for communicating my feelings. They made me feel less lonely in this world but I prayed for advice on my situation and this video really just appeared on my feed and described everything perfectly. The timing is insane fr, god really is good. I pray for everyone’s healing who needs this video including me, I’m gonna need it lol.

[@sumitsaju]

Perfect Timing. Got rejected saying she didn't love me. I waited for 10 months to tell her

[@gt-hoverclown3338]

Better late than never man

[@Lezexv2]

@@gt-hoverclown3338 but never late is better

[@gdk8641]

did this too 2 years ago went no contact she reached out, just don’t answer when it does happen because it will

[@capone5494]

mate, I really loved her.

[@nathaliaalexandree]

bro woke up and chose to speak facts 🙌🏼🙌🏼

[@Ramboshadow33]

Ngl man, I done rewatched all your videos like 5 times for the past week. I legit need these things to engrave into my mind. Love got a mf blind. Been finding more peace not caring and letting things go as they are.

[@judynblackwell]

For the past nine months or so there's someone at my job that I grew attached to. They were so warm, charismatic, and for the first time in my life I felt like I was seen. Then they abruptly left and now I'm feeling pretty hurt. But I realized that this was simply a feeling I was chasing, the feeling they gave me of being validated. I need to find that in myself now. Never again will I live for a feeling someone gives me.

[@issasecretsecret7814]

I literally just prayed about this. I need the strength to let go but half of me want him to fight for me and stop me from walking away. But i know now that I gotta keep moving on

[@kbarnes5093]

Omg this! He loves me so he says do what is right for you but that feels like a slap in th3 face. Ppl say he told you what it was but do I still not get to be upset that while we started as friends we both fell in love but my love comes with a marriage and his love comes with just the same old rotation we been on. I'm so angry bc in very area of my life I had to put out the most effort. He made me feel safe and I didn't have to hide me but part of me feels that now that he knows all if me it has led to a decline in the relationship as well. I talk to people about it but they say well he told you in the beginning he didn't want to get married. But really folks does that stop my pain and grief??? Can I not be sad?? No one in my life has a life even close to what I want in any way particularly with the opposite sex so it just like they are part of the problem. Be made me not feel alone and the thought of losing that is tearing me up man. Omg then this video came up like woah!! Jesus must be listening 🎶

[@tashakhanway6619]

This is right on. It's like an addiction. 🙂💯

[@blueskymaster8132]

Bro taught me how to deal with all the shit in my life rn in one video and said I hope you learned a thing or two 😭

[@WillKeepItReal]

😂😂

[@ProjectValentino]

i feel like the moment you know and actually say it out loud that you need something or need someone God proves you wrong and it’s a painful scenario which i feel like as people we overlook that yeah we have to learn a new routine but look! i’m still standing!

[@LoganWhitehair]

Honestly this might be right....there's a girl I like and whenever im around her, she makes me feel like how I used to feel. happy, she makes me smile when im around her...no one else is able to do that but her. Maybe from a sense of loneliness and hope help me feel that way, thanks man, you really just made me think.

[@REINVENTION_7]

Damn you so correct!

[@Divine.Sinner]

these types of videos tend to come when im straying from my path. thanks brother

[@CGTripleD]

😭 Bro between the video and these comments….I needed to hear all of this right now

[@kyreegreen9248]

Yeah I’ve met so many people who just want to play games or just lustful not looking for an actual connection it’s why I don’t look even tho I see it.

[@jeasterawa]

Saw this on TikTok and had to subscribe here, I really needed this cause it’s literally what I’m facing right now 😢

[@seandevine5836]

I’m going to miss them.

[@MrGuitarable]

the timing is impeccable, just got dumped and have to share an apartment for the foreseeable future and im trying to navigate still chasing her while focusing on myself. i needed this dude. thank you

[@leadamian1278]

I just love how this came in the exact right time

[@JBMann-m7p]

Please Lord, make it true according to riches and glory. I wish to meet my destiny. I trust you in all my ways

[@tamiaholman2295]

i think u might have actually just said everything i have felt but couldn’t vocalize. as a black man, u are making waves in our community. thank u

[@HanyuZheng-e1l]

Couldn’t agree more. It comes down to a chasing for certainty or a sense of control when we chase for someone. We’ve seen someone showing it to us and we obviously want it to happen again and again and we were so desperately longing for this stimulus that we ignored if this is the right person for us. We really need more self-system like we have a constant and stable self-providing system. It could be hobby, friendship, sport, anything except for chasing for someone, you are the one that make yourself complete, and the most interesting thing is , when you feel complete and no longer chase “the one”, they would show up, but you are not attached to it anymore.

[@solaris4015]

I’m passing through it, getting better everyday. It passes, it’s not her.

[@yuephengher2608]

I dont know how many times i had to come back to this video just too stop thinking about them

[@johnkarumba9678]

Man you are talking about me...Thanks for the advice.

[@lions2011]

thank you for this video man i cant explain to you how close i was to doing a thing i cant take back and you saved me man i cant thank you enough

[@sheluvenvy9166]

He hit that on the first line

[@yazdan77]

bro it’s been years that i’ve been feeling depressed since that first relationship.. this has been the most helpful video since. thank you bro. you just answered so many questions that are gonna help me.

[@adoriamilan1437]

I’m happy that I came across this video. Definitely needed to hear what you had to say and will do my best to apply this way of thinking to my life moving forward. Thank you for the message.

[@hepmenotbiased3890]

Had to leave the person ive wanted i destroyed myself trying to save our relationship now i just don't want to do anything

[@mikanova.]

this timing is crazy wtf

[@JesusOverAll100]

This is the perfect timing!!! Thank you so much for your words of wisdom. God has given you this platform for a reason! ❤

[@fjanton98]

Really prayed for help and i got it thank you god and thank you Will

[@warrensmall259]

I found this by accident this morning. But I needed it. God put this in front of my as it is what I’m dealing with. I’m so confused and honestly feel so alone. I couldn’t help but drop a few tears listening to this as it feel it all. Every single thing. It’s hurts to be so in love with somebody and not enough with yourself. It’s so painful. To listen to this video it did make me feel good knowing that as a BLACK MAN. Somebody does feel me…thank you will. I needed this release to cry and be validated, vulnerable.

[@litforen]

This is so real man. Damn.... nice video btw

[@abstract7272]

The timing is crazy

[@ojcb6721]

Impeccable timing. There is this lady that works at a store I go to daily that I’ve recently started to develop a HUGE crush on. We’ve known each other for around 4 months, we’d make small talk and smile at each other. A few days ago, I confessed how I felt to her. She told me she has a boyfriend. I wasn’t even able to become friends with her either :( I’m slowly trying to remove her from my head, but it’s hard since I really admired her. Maybe I just enjoy the rush I get when I get a crush on someone. But she felt different from the others, it felt like we could’ve been truly compatible: in both a platonic and relationship way.

[@DeliaFe]

Thank you for making me realize something that I haven't realized fully.

[@ZEK.0]

timing.

[@anubhavchatterjee6847]

The timing is epic thanks bro this vid helped me a lot

[@beyoncuh_]

Absolutely and believing in this is another too. This is something I am starting to understand. I appreciate your honesty and completely relatable too.

[@bhuwaneshjungthapa.1143]

I Just wanna work my better future. Just wanna love myself again and just want to build self belief .

[@hardboiled2987]

The moment I realized what you were talking about in the past, for the first time I went to bed feeling that light radiate from within myself instead of having to be in their presence to be able to feel it. Like what they would provide me, I was now able to provide for myself. I’m glad you recognized the ego motive factor because it really is a huge part of it. You want those feelings from the person and not the person themselves because you’re unable to provide it to yourself. I’d go to bed upset at myself feeling like I was unloved and taken for granted and feeling resentment at them but then I realized that I felt upset because they were not fulfilling my sort of ‘ego-expectations’. In a way it’s like they know you don’t value yourself and that you’re dependent on their validation so they put up walls so you don’t suck up their "energy" you get me?

[@dawsonelmore4794]

Had to learn this hard way……

[@coolguy6982]

bro is speaking straight fire.

[@quynhuu]

thank you so much for this

[@MatildaJackson-Barter]

I have watched so many videos about moving on and genuinely think this is the most helpful video!!

[@diana1637]

dawg ts was too real i shed a few tears

[@fragasm726]

My friend this is the first video of yours I was exposed to. Immediately I knew you were wise. Go far brother.

[@rae7699]

i just went through a breakup w my first bf who would tell me every day things like “youre my soulmate, i was born to this earth only to love you forever, youre my first and last love i swear it on my mother on my brother” and then he just one day changed and said he doesnt even know if he likes me. so now idk how ill trust anyone bc its not even him that keeps me attracted to him, it was all the promises that i doubt i could get from anyone else, and even if i could, now that i see how easy it was for him to break those promises makes me feel like i cant trust anyone. and he was like my first kiss my first crush and all that and now i just feel so betrayed and confused

[@5sosislife635]

Omg same thing my first BF broke up with me 2 days ago and he used to tell me he would never leave me promised me and swear on his mother

[@rae7699]

@@5sosislife635 im so sry its so confusing bc it just shows you what little significance theyve been putting behind the things they say and do for you under the guise of their love for you. its so reckless

[@5sosislife635]

@rae7699 haha I know it's been so tough because he told me he is done and blocked me from every where but suddenly he unblocked me but didn't text like wtf dude

[@rae7699]

@@5sosislife635 LMFAO idk what he thought was going to happen. it sounds similar for me bc hes literally been so rude and cold toward me for like 3 weeks and now all of a sudden is acting nice and its likeee dude i already told my mom and threw away ur shit and deleted every picture of you 😅

[@5sosislife635]

@rae7699 idk it's no contact for me now because he hasn't texted me for 4 days and I won't fucking reach out this time I'm done

[@Infrunami24]

Seeing this while I'm struggling sigh

[@6sarahhh_]

Thank you so much for this video. that's all there is to say, but really thank you. You helped a young girl realize the problem she had been trying to figure out basically all her teenage years. That girl is me and I definitely have some changes to make going forward. Thank you so much, stranger.❤❤❤❤❤

[@CinnaWhy]

this came right on time.

[@THECRASHOUTSS]

dang that hits so deep man u saved my life Will

[@malickcisse4058]

Some real shit🫡. Tryna stay strong cuh

[@b-rizzle2498]

This is exactly how I feel right now

[@taylornikii]

We love the idea but we are not executing an experience that correlates with that idea.

[@love35388]

Funny how the algorithm works .needed this

[@ZapriaLacour]

@@love35388 exactly

[@CohenWebber-kr1dk]

been going through one of the hardest breakups. each-others first love and all that. ended on good terms but she’s changed. toxic acts and mini forms of manipulation. I needed this video ❤

[@Stratus909]

Bro, thank you. I’ve been starting to see this in my “chase” I was attached to the old story. Let me find someone that will abandon, be unavailable, be entangled with an ex and eventually betray me. Leading to a feeling of depression, self Pitty, allow these actions to determine my self worth. forget about myself and give fully to another. Allowing my dreams, goals, and drive to disappear. Begging to lower myself so that I can stay in this comfortable pattern, even it’s toxic to myself. I can give that love and attention to myself and truly love myself in the ways that are good for me. And eventually those people will populate into my reality. Thanks bro, you are a real one.

[@ottojeckerbyrne9236]

Needed to hear this rn. I look forward to being the type of person who only relies on themselves to be happy.

[@risktaker00b]

Facing this now. And I appreciate your video because I do want to heal the healthy way ❤

[@iamsouhaib]

I needed to see things from this perspective, thank you

[@chuimalik3076]

This is a beautiful analysis of being stuck or stagnant in relationships. I can truly relate and thank you for the share and reminder brothamane!☮️✊🏾❤️🔥

[@afrofaeries]

God told me that He’s gonna hide me from men that do not know Him. Because the man that does know Him will be my husband. And as a virgin who never dated or had her first kiss, I pray that my eyes are only set on the man that Jesus chose for me. No matter how long it takes.

[@JustAlexVidotto]

How did this actually show up the exact moment I needed this?

[@daniellawal7665]

🙏🏿❤️❤️perfect timing

[@NotGyra]

The timing of this video is indescribable 😢

[@deklanda]

the timing is insane. this was an eye opener. May God bless you.

[@Cjai2010]

When I tell you I needed this today….right on time!! Thank you bro!!!

[@26bleeek]

Facts 💯

[@stellamarrisedon168]

thank you for sharing!💗

[@Imsomeloner]

I just want someone to understand me and love me for it.. but noone ever did

[@ZapriaLacour]

Thank you I'm so pleasantly surprised not trying to take away your wisdom from you but because you were young I almost skipped past this and I really am so happy that I didn't thank you so much

[@inesboughattas]

it depends to each their own but, it started with a person, and when the person disapointed, it wasnt even the feeling i was looking for, i was trying to cover up, the disapointement, the let down, the realisation. Im better off alone.

[@inesboughattas]

i was young thinking i could find companionship and support in someone else while it was what i was giving. Those are not feelings they are actions. actions take energy. i just realised i was taking from myself to give to the wrong person. and after that i had to realise that hurt me more then i thought and i tried again and again to see in people something they never had and gave up faster and faster till my belief of finding anything in others collapsed. really better alone.

[@AllanLouderbackOG]

Thank you bruddah 🙏

[@CraigJohnsonthethird-w2s]

I remember vividly being told by my friend after my first break up that I don’t miss her I miss the way she made me feel and that didn’t make sense until now

[@queenviber]

This video came on my page for a reason I just need help can someone please pray for me to let go of my ex

[@leowong7694]

this is so real man, thanks for the vid

[@soulhrt]

wow, I needed to hear this so bad

[@BubbleGumFae]

You are literally my therapy thank you so much for existing you wholesome human man 😊🫶

[@SolidSnakeTurrds]

Dude I needed this

[@ILOVEKOLEDA]

Thank you for making this video i NEEDED THIS ❤