You're Not Happy Because You Don't Really Want To Be

Happiness -- The shocking secret of happiness is that you really have no desire to be happy. So your plan is working out perfectly! Learn to become aware of this devilishly tricky aspect of your mind.
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[@183haleroad6]

Years of meditation won't protect you from the ice cream truck sound.

[@terriesmith1981]

+Sir Lord Percy Trollington The Third~ First....Great name. Second, fuck yea, the ice cream truck will beat out every time. Lol

[@eugenegurevich1896]

hahaha!!! :D

[@JeanCharlesEvrard]

That's hilarious haha

[@goldschool6288]

This makes me happy

[@jasonlee3508]

LMAOO HAHAHHAHAHAH!!!!!

[@AaronDoughty44]

I think when we say we will be happy if/when, etc we are putting happiness in the future, which will never come because the only moment that exists is now. This is why being present is so powerful. It's more of choice, a conscious choice. Great vid Leo.

[@KenRuan]

AMEN! Both the past and future do not exist.

[@wowalhamdhulillah2494]

Exactly even though it's like I will be happy if I become first boy in the class but problem is that if you become first boy in the class and let's say you get 95 out of 100 your attitude will be why I have not got 100 out of 100 and even though you get 100 out of 100 in your life if you get any fault like a very tiny small amount you will regret cause you are so perfectionist and it's bad .so let go attitude is the best and create a good work habit which is important .Your videos are also excellent and useful

[@wowalhamdhulillah2494]

right

[@wowalhamdhulillah2494]

let go of need everything and find a work what you enjoy,make good habit , being happy with less thing,meditate , being great ful to live and also try to find out the solution of life's problem but at the same time have ability to let go of need is the best tactics.leo and you are good coach

[@wowalhamdhulillah2494]

Aaron Doughty I love Leo and your video

[@iuliusursut2755]

Ego says, “Once everything falls into place, I'll feel peace.” Spirit says, “Find your peace, and then everything will fall into place. Thank you for lighting a torch on my actualization path Leo!

[@charlesfraunhofer7893]

no, you're not happy if you get cut, if you're in physical pain, or if someone deeply hurts your feelings, happiness is pleasure and contentment, you have to do things in the now and not the future to be happy, and no you're not happy without money, do you think I'm happy with the pessimism that goes on in the future? No, I'm happy only when high on alcohol, tobacco or drugs, period!

[@pierrolosapio4623]

Charles Fraunhofer There are Buddhist Monks who burn themselves alive while being in a calm meditative sit and you are telling me external circumstances matter more than the internal peace? Happiness is not dependent on the outside, it can be cultivated inside.

[@charlesfraunhofer7893]

@@pierrolosapio4623 That's the fallacy Leo believes and many of his predecessors believed, but it's a lie. If I sat very still with no clothes on and no money I can't be happy with that, give me a tweed and money to buy tobacco and I'd perhaps be happy that I've got something, we're not satisfied with nothing, we're satisfied with the source of delight or joy, or with a recreation and diversion, (a source of) gratification, and a wish and desire, together with being content with it, happy comes from the word "hap" meaning chance, luck, therefore happy people are lucky people, and you have to have events, and therefore chance, to be happy, happy is implied that you're filled, you have everything, you can't be happy out of nothing.

[@pierrolosapio4623]

Charles Fraunhofer Yeah, exactly YOU can’t be happy with that, doesn’t mean there is a way to be happy with that. A lotta people have shown that after requiring basic needs like food and Water, you don’t need anything else to live a blissful life. It is not a fallacy, it is demonstrable, people in India live in cages or streets with nothing but some clothes and a perfectly happy because they choose a spiritual life and minimizing the Material goodies. It’s fine if you don’t wanna make that commitment but don’t dismiss it just because you can’t be true to your self.

[@iuliusursut2755]

@@charlesfraunhofer7893 Pain is temporary. Suffering is optional. ~Buddhist Proverb I am not about inner order and not living in turbulence. Getting your toe hit on the bed side sucks ass :)

[@MikeJackson690]

"When you set up conditional happiness you guarantee that you'll be miserable in your life." Wow. Powerful stuff. And exactly where I have been going wrong all this time.

[@LinuxJedi]

i've already experienced this unconditional happiness most people just think i don't care about anything but what they don't realize is i'm happy no matter what happens in my life, too many americans are brainwashed by materialistic things to experience this

[@wowalhamdhulillah2494]

Linux Jedi AKA Big Evil excellent , great happiness comes from your ability to let it go or free from all neediness

[@FeelingFitFabFun]

How did you achieve this?

[@fsc172]

you brave

[@FeelingFitFabFun]

Michael Thank you

[@DavisMultiverse]

I been feeling this pretty heavy the past year. It's a little hard to explain. Mine might be mild, when something does disturb me I let go of it again easily once my consciousness wraps around it again. The anger or dissapointment is very reactionary when it happens. Most my unhappiness is around people funnily enough. I guess it's part of the understanding that people aren't too different to animals. It's just a field of nature. The concept of evil is so 2014 to me. There is either illuminated vision or There is the darkness. Those in the dark know not what they do

[@leedleleedleleedlelee2332]

The only way to find happiness, is to not deliberately try to get it, but to accept the problems in life and let it come naturally. Trying to find unconditional is sort of a rule itself, and it puts you in a loophole.

[@tanyathorvilson]

I like your way of thinking. I have also been told that happiness isn't something we strive for. We strive to be a good person and happiness is the byproduct of such behavior.

[@kvasudevan7575]

accept the situation and gradually change it what you want

[@benhermans8214]

From The Book of Not Knowing by Peter Ralston: "It isn't getting what we want that makes us happy. It's being happy with whatever we experience - or perhaps I should say happy regardless what we experience. To some people this will sound like a defeatist attitude, settling for mediocrity rather than striving for more. Yet nothing in the statement says that we can't strive, or create any number of activities or experiences. Simply that we are happy with whatever we experience, even the striving. But one of the traps we tend to fall into is to confuse being happy with being "finished." " I was just reading this this morning and my mind was blown. Man, I can't fathom what the world would look like if everyone read this book. It's phenomenal. Anyways, it's on Leo's book list, so check that out also if you haven't already ;)

[@navpreetbanga]

This channel has helped me in my personal development more than anything else in life. Thank You!

[@apfelstrudlOfOA]

BrownGirlLifts TV holy crap, you've got 70k subs!

[@ashaguischard4449]

BrownGirlLifts TV likewise. Namaste!

[@crazydiamond3065]

@@apfelstrudlOfOA check how many now

[@scarfacevinc5025]

Hey

[@sagqueen1984]

It's great that content like this exists. I can totally relate.

[@MrShootman999]

This video is prolly the one most important I ever seen. Not kidding.

[@terriesmith1981]

+Shootman999~ Agreed.

[@zephyrfelt4934]

Amazing amazing amazing talk this one.

[@cellerism]

This a how to be strategic.

[@WillWright77]

This grammar is prolly the worst I ever seen. Not kidding

[@cliffkonkle3467]

bLy PROLLY

[@JonasMaria]

The coolest part is that Leo ruins our lives and smile at us.

[@badhabits7452]

hahaha, this is so good!

[@joshc7865]

You are Leo from another dimension

[@trishc5498]

Wow

[@salguzman802]

😋😋😊😁

[@ladydee245]

true that

[@jahoytodiesforahoy4615]

Its so hard to settle into happiness when you've only known stress and misery for so long. Accepting love, comfort and good things can be really overwhelming when they're new and consistent, but to mature is to learn how to accept the good things that naturally come to you.

[@_______m________]

I agree sometimes i feel like i shouldn't be happy because i'm used to stress and sadness

[@KarlheinzNiebuhr]

Judging by the downvotes, some ego's got hurt here...

[@77777778044]

I love your comment so much !!!!!!!. Not everyone can understand this video.... Live by your ego and you will die with your ego.....

[@TammyJeanneMovies]

Wrong

[@chrisnuenthel8937]

Peoples egos are always getting hurt. It's a poetic Justice, cause we are all responsible for our own egos. When someone's hurting, just go ahhhhh u did it to urself. Heard this qoute, a ship is designed to keep the ocean out. If it let's the ocean in it starts sinking. We too sink when we let the outside world into our internal mind. Obviously we are mortal and are subject to external forces, but most of the time we sink from our minds inner workers rather than physical phenomenon like a tsunami.

[@Elemxnt45]

Tammy right

[@Leksa135]

"Ego hurt much bruh? U mad bruh??"

[@elhamazar2437]

Just reminded me of Persian Poet "Omar Khayyam" "Ignore that yesterday you should have been rewarded and that you were not. Be happy. Don't regret anything. Don't expect anything. Your future is already written down in the Book of which the pages are turned, as if by accident, by the Wind of Eternity"

[@BigHenFor]

Beautiful

[@elpiolis]

I love poet Omar Khayyam!

[@-anaamna5616]

he kind of reminded me of Sufism. In particular Rumi's poetry.

[@salem3411]

Elham Atayi what's the poems name??

[@mrboobiesrider9212]

Elham Atayi الترجمة ضيعت سحر القصيدة

[@avital3257]

The way Leo expresses these ideas is pure genius

[@penisfisch83]

“There is nothing outside of yourself that can ever enable you to get better, stronger, richer, quicker, or smarter. Everything is within. Everything exists. Seek nothing outside of yourself.” ― Miyamoto Musashi, The Book of Five Rings

[@viccasaur]

Watching this made me cry so much... I really need to be unconditionally happy, but I don't even know what happiness is without achieving a goal or success, I'm so confused... I really need professional help because people get so scared to talk to me because I always act so negative and unhappy, and every time I try "to let go" my brain starts to fry up and I honestly just cry myself to sleep.

[@depthoffield4744]

Be a good kitty then.

[@ragasLTU]

+Crooked cat You just need a good fuck.

[@Darkzen24]

You do not need professional help. Confusion is normal when your Nature and Nurture conflict. You have to spend some time understanding how we operate as a species (biologically, pysiologically and psychologically). It doesn't require mastery of such subjects, just a general understanding of them. Once you have this foundation of knowledge in place, you can being to self-evaluate and self-reflect. Doing this will afford you the ability to see why you act/think/feel the way you do... making you aware of your conditioning/acculturation/indoctrination. Giving you back control over yourself and your choices/decisions. Freeing you to act in a manner that is consistent to who you actually are, under all the cause and effect. This is a divergent ideology and you will be viewed as such, you cannot let others influence/manipulate/control you though, because this means that you're a marionette rather than a person. This is a frightening proposition, because it's going to turn your world upside down, it's going to change everything that you think you know about the world. You're going to be very uncomfortable at first and it's going to take a lot of patience... you have years upon years of conditioning to undo, you're going to stumble and fail a lot. Eventually though, you will recondition yourself to be what you want to be, rather than being what others/reality have shaped you to be. Professionals are limited by the same conditioning/acculturation/indoctrination that you currently are limited by, they cannot help you in this type of journey. They will merely influence/manipulate/control you, altering your perception/perspective to better suit the conditioning/acculturation/indoctrination... teaching you to suppress your consciousness/awareness/conscience further, in order to lessen the conflicts between Nature and Nurture within you.

[@cainennewman4649]

Truth is you have over the years grown away from living in the honest way of reality. That reality is the core (without trying) in our being, existence is very blissful in itself. You have blocked this out, you do this 24/7. Stop trying. Letting go does not need try. Try not to try. Meditation is very unwelcomed for all beginners.

[@natalia9316]

You have to seriously start meditating and slow your mind down, just slow it down, remember, that your thoughts are not YOU, if you have more questions - message me :)

[@giantbear829]

Grieving over other peoples suffering is a central part of our caring / bonding relationship system. Its a process of recognition for another's suffering as much as it is about our own personal conditional sadness. Perhaps unconditional Happiness = Self Love

[@superwomanshellyelz6523]

Ive been subscribed for about 6 years and I find myself here everytime im at a breaking point in my life thank you LEO for your clarity and insight.

[@superwomanshellyelz6523]

@Real Talk Atlanta

[@JackGainzOfficial]

After only 6 months I can say I feel like I'm starting to resonate more and more with everything Leo presents

[@djnv11]

Leo your videos are a millennium ahead of our time mate. Keep up the great work. Life changing.

[@teresasilva9424]

Love this guy

[@jamescannon7935]

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[@davidhart9106]

I love you guys...

[@tikilove2241]

David Hart We love yoh too! :)))

[@micheal3041993]

So much love going on here. Can I love too?

[@seddd]

I love me

[@dawnleighhays]

you don't feel sad/cry when your child is rapped because you feel like it's going to change something. You cry and hurt because of empathy, because you love them and are attached to them in a spiritual way. You are feeling what they felt and it's horrific. I understand the point you are making but I was surprised that you didn't go further and point out this reason. I would think you would have thought of that.

[@zinqtable1092]

Yes. Empathy is a problem.

[@TranquileEngendre]

Empathy and compassion are not problems, the problem is the fear to feel the pain of others, or the own

[@iwanabemw2]

seth chizmar You don't understand. Watch more of his video's and then this video again.

[@Marko.Petric]

@Dawn ditto.

[@schuschumusica]

Thanks for your comment. I also missed that in the video. Even the most enlightened being wouldn’t be HAPPY in such a moment. You‘d be incredibly sad but you‘d be ok with not being ok i guess.

[@rahman21244]

A little unhappiness is essential for progress of a human being. There will always be some desires ---more desires----and this is how we grow. As long as there is life , there will be desire.

[@numbuh53]

leo thank you so much for this video. over a year ago i was suffering from severe depression and was having suicidal thoughts everyday until i found your videos and learned to meditate and have affirmations and all these concepts that i never even thought of before, and started seriously practicing self improvement and reading on it. now recently, because of family issues, i've suddenly found myself falling into a depression again, even though i'm still meditating and reminding myself of many concepts, i'm still depressed. and then i watched this video and i understand SO much and i feel so at ease. i don't NEED to feel upset and trapped about my family problems, or about all these other things i've been stressing about. i'm going to become unconditionally happy!! thank you so much leo, you've put me on the right track once again.

[@loisdahl3847]

For years I’ve held beliefs about why I could not be happy; now I watched this video and feel so much better it’s absurd! Thank you again 😄

[@StefanHendriks]

I can only be happy when I am unconditionally happy!.. Wait wut?

[@cristinaflorina9538]

That's pretty much the whole video in one sentence

[@gemaramirez]

Leo, thank you for all you do for us folks in search of self-actualisation. I love the way you say things as they are, without frills, like noone else dares to say them. I so appreciate that.

[@user-oe8pc5hw4o]

you really cleared a lot of clashes like happiness , satisfaction vs motivation...that has psyched me out for so long.

[@EezySeven]

I've been waiting for an intro to the topic of Unconditional Happiness for a very long time. Thank You!

[@evieball4162]

Brilliant, and so attuned to the true reality of happiness. Most are actually afraid to feel happiness. So grateful for you, Leo.

[@oscarwilliamson1264]

Evie Ball, you look gorgeous 🌹 🌹🌷 🌷🌹 🌹🌷 🌷🥀

[@6agorlak681]

I realized that i'm not happy because i don't want to be a long time ago. I didn't even know it is possible.

[@smcd6101]

This is so true. For a long time, unhappiness had become like a loyal friend to me - always there when I needed it, never had any expectations of me, comfortable, safe, etc. That concept of "happiness" seemed like this foreign object in the distance that I could never reach or achieve. Little did I know that happiness is not actually something we achieve. It is a CHOICE we need to make every day. Very good video!!

[@magda1enaclark]

Leo is absolutely the only human being that can get through to me. COUNTLESS of his approaches for life have significantly impacted my mindset on so many different things.

[@AprilSunshine]

Happiness is not the only valuable human emotion. It can sometimes bite you in the ass if you choose to be happy at the wrong time. For instance, if someone you love dies or betrays you, you need to accept and show that you are sad or else others won't recognize what's going on and reach out to help. There are appropriate times to be sad. This idea of "unconditional happiness" is like telling people they need to be like robots, and makes the assumption that happiness is the only valuable emotion. Emotions make us human and I'm not ashamed of any of mine.

[@davidsami8392]

My heart dropped when you said "Detachment frees you up to do whatever the fuck you want." That really helped my whole confusion about whether detachment conflicts with the "passionate" mindset the average person needs to have to get very far and successful in this society's terms. Because after all, I am a member of the society. Thank you Leo.

[@abbyrocker321]

I should have started watching your videos when my depression was at its peak. I have a feeling that you will help me immensely on my journey of enlightenment. Thank you for all you do!

[@danielokeeffe5848]

Finished to the end - _beyond_ superb. Noticed a crazy high number of downvotes, to be expected with truthful material.

[@slimshany4602]

Sounds pretty judgemental.. if you really got the message, it's all in letting go through observation, non judgement and compassion. Best of luck to you Daniel ✌🏽🌻

[@fern9658]

Leo, this is crazy. I have never ever thought of this list and now it's opened my mind a little bit more. I'm going to start being aware of this list, thanks! :)

[@michaelwardenmusic]

"You use emotion to bully yourself" - This is deep shit!

[@okieization]

This video was huge paradigm shift for me, Leo. Knowing what you just mentioned is like having a big weight off my shoulders. Thank you so much for putting out such good content!

[@pomtubes1205]

People are already disagreeing to this guy without even analyzing the WHOLE video.

[@ScreaminMime]

I think the key is recognizing that the mission is what makes you happy. Enjoy the path as you walk it...

[@shnarfshnurf]

I've been coming back to this video every couple days for the past two weeks or so and can say the benefit it has had ơn my life is so profound and of course, happy.

[@randyniederman8165]

I've seen many of Leo's videos. Now I'm going through and re-watching my favorites. This video, has had the most powerful effect on my progress. Thanks Leo!

[@khristichz]

Hey Leo, I've watched many of your videos but this one struck a chord. I used to always wonder how i would still get things done after enlightment. You've helped me to see thru my motivations. Thanks so much for this. Blesssings.

[@OlympiaStef]

Leo, I'll be happy when you become my husband

[@branndyhontz1809]

+Richard Alpert lol

[@brunohernandezh.1348]

Knowledge digger

[@ActualizedOrg]

Be careful what you wish for ;)

[@badhabits7452]

no, he could show you how to help urself;)

[@salguzman802]

@@ActualizedOrg 😂😂😂😋😊

[@ChimchimTV]

Your words are truly inspirational and moving! Thanks so much for your restless contribution on KZbin for the past five years 'til the day I found your channel!

[@erikam4351]

i think this got disliked because people are misinterpreting his message entirely. for example, if you are not happy due to depression and things like that, Leo isn’t blaming you for it. however, for example, if you’re like me and you are successful in life but constantly holding yourself back from happiness, this video is perfect for you. i want to be happy but i never feel satisfied with my results or who i am. good video Leo

[@anri200001]

Leo you are absolutely right ! This reminds me of Nelson Mandela that has been in jail for 30 years as a class D prisoner living inside a 6 by 8 feet cell. But I guess he still was unconditionally happy the prison transformed him and he became the master of his own prison.

[@mrarky8958]

+UNDERDOGSOCIETY Mandela was fighting for the rights of his people during a time of great strife in his country. Sure he killed people. So did every soldier in a war, ever.

[@crapcreations8009]

MrARKY89 WRONG

[@turbocobra]

Never would have thought of it this way, but it makes sense... I am generally pretty happy regardless of the situation i am in, but I do think i have some work to do in this area.

[@none3668]

I love your mind! Started to get rid of my negative emotions. Letting go was really painful, maybe more than dwelling on them for years. But you are right. The real motivations are kicking in and pure love and pure happiness are been developed. A major surgery to my mind and heart had to be done without anesthesia. I just watched 3 of your videos since yesterday and I feel self affirmation. I know i am doing what i am supposed to do to reach self awareness. Yes. Tired of pretending and living a mediocre life.

[@NizzyD92]

Wow! A lot of these videos have tremendous replay value. This was even more meaningful the second time around. Thanks again, Leo!

[@ssmith6680]

Omg this vid means so much to me right now , thanks Leo !

[@kianrafi3048]

You're a hero. Thank you and keep it up!

[@alinamunir6933]

I fuxking love this video, you gave me answers to all my questions in life in this one video. Everything outside of ourselves, except for food water and oxygen is needed for only unfulfilled people. You can still appreciate it all without needing it

[@Hona_Malaysia]

For giving us the chance to listen to someone like you, KZbin deserve to be classified as one of the best inventions in our modern history

[@jamacanrushour]

i love you leo.I'm buying your course after my next paycheck

[@Granco]

this is so true. I've been experiencing this since I started to delete negativity on my life. I can be anywhere doing anything and still be olay with it. so I do still look towards some goals but I wouldnt even care if I stayed in my house for a week without doing shit. ive also tried not to eat for 24 hours in order to test my food adiction and I did completely fine! so it makes me happy to see that Im 19 and I can already be happy without a lot hahaha

[@TheOrzabalsixty]

This video should be seen by everybody: it is so essential and it really can change your life for good! Very good Lio and thank you so much!

[@angelgifft4547]

Heeey Leo, This is Angel. I'm 47 years old and started watching your videos 3 years ago. You're very inspirational and I appreciate you. For those of you who argue his points-just take what works for you and leave the rest. The first year I focused on your Relationship/Breakup videos because I needed help and strength to get through my divorce and then I moved onto Anger, etc.. I was diagnosed with MS in 2014. At first I thought that was the worst of my problems because I lost everything (businesses, money, home, husband & health). I praised myself on my accomplishments my whole life. My hard work seemed to be making everyone else happy and therefore it gave me (temporary) happiness. But, when I had nothing to give I felt unworthy/ashamed. I became a hermit in my bedroom for a year which didnt help my MS, I fell into a deep depression because I wasnt aware of what else I actually had to offer. During this downtime I found there is more to me and I was worth living for. Even though I didnt know what, when or how, I somehow felt there was Hope.. My whole life has been based on pleasing others over my own needs. I survived on praise and recognition and possibly control. I had no idea who I really was without that. Plus I felt I'd never find anyone to truly love me, (esp. with MS and no income). My journey is not over, in fact it's just begun. I will be Happy during my struggles as long as I focus on my personal self growth including my failures. As I take part in observing my anger I see how HARD I am on myself and Why I set myself up for being unhappy. Little by little I chisel. ha Thanks for allowing me to share. Peace. hugs

[@jamesremus6777]

Very profound. This is what I've been doing without even realizing it.

[@r.garrettm6516]

Hey man great video. Your material really helps to keep me self-aware and on a path of growth, and I am grateful for that.

[@wowalhamdhulillah2494]

I am his(leos big big fan) .Leo is the best life coach. I am so lucky alhamdhulillah that I have got opportunity to meet this person.My life was frustrated not so called so depression mode but happiness was poor or just OK .Now my happy ness level on the good to very good level

[@matthewheger7708]

This is life-changing in every sense of the word. Incredible, this should have more than 30,000 views. Nearly everyone in America should take the time to soak in the deeper meaning of this video.

[@andrewduke777]

thank you Leo you change my life every week

[@cletus9791]

This is probably the most important video of your channel. Thanks for doing it even when you knew it would be controversial

[@Daniel-Cherry]

A box with no light, no music, JUST ANGER!!!

[@lifeunscripted9511]

Anyone else watching this during the COVID-19 pandemic? I'm in lockdown in Ireland and this is so apt for the current situation I'm in! Thank you Leo for your words!! You're awesome and your videos have helped open my mind so much!

[@daffertube]

I don't understand the child torture example. I seems as if you've completely excluded empathy from the situation. How can someone remain happy when they're vicariously feeling the pain of another person? I suppose you could make the argument that mirror neurons are just a biological safeguard to ensure we protect our species... but a world without empathy sounds very cold in my imagination.

[@ActualizedOrg]

+ItzDusty I never said don't feel empathy.

[@daffertube]

Actualized.org I don't think it's possible to feel empathy for a person being raped and tortured and feel happy at the same time.

[@ActualizedOrg]

+ItzDusty What about empathy for the rapist? How limited your empathy is!

[@daffertube]

Actualized.org touche.

[@justinriel2041]

i still don't think even a highly developed and wise empathetic person could feel the pain of both their child and the rapist and be able to maintain a state of happiness. at best they could probably remain neutral and mute their own suffering... but be happy? no.

[@Flooorine]

You're the best man... Huge eye opener again!!!

[@kdsalinas88]

Thank you Leo for all your videos....I somehow went down hill with myself this past year. When I came out of my situations I found your videos which have deeply helped me understand what went on in my mind and how I had everything misunderstood. I have always thought I knew better only to realize I had everything TOTALLY wrong! Thank you for being so clear and articulate with your words, you really do have a way of breaking down such complex concepts in a way that makes it easy for us to understand! Thank you for dedicating your time, your work is so much appreciated! Thank you....I look forward to your future videos and will continue learning all you have to share!

[@chelseamuth3224]

Thank you for posting this! Really puts so much about life into perspective. I needed to hear this today.

[@saracobain4902]

Absolutly beautiful!!! Thank u for this video

[@DeMastaa]

Leo..fuck..this is one of the deepest shit i heard in a while, THANK YOU for your work.

[@Gazic]

Sacrificing happiness to retain personal identity: there's a lot of depth to that idea. Another great video! Thanks man.

[@SharamNamdarian]

I have to watch your videos on double speed, but honestly, you have some great ideas. You're a gift to this world and this website.

[@rambosmambos5037]

Leo! I simply love you! I literally cried and laughed so many times during this video ! I'm so thankful to find you , the most helpful reliable deep teacher to guide me to the "the best life".Keep up the the great work! I never missed a single episode.The tragic thing is so many people are unaware of those topics and even those people who are , they are so underestimating what you are saying...Your words are like holy knifes , the words of God .By the way , why you are avoiding dairy?And can you make maybe an episode about mature versus childish thinking?

[@tbonebeats6429]

Thank u Leo, U r helping so many ppl.

[@Thisisfifty]

I love Leo's first principles approach. He is solutions focused and delivers the talks with a call to action. Champion!

[@Chief244]

I am neurotic indeed, just hearing you talk about not knowing how my mind works makes me feel an incredible amount of pressure.

[@DerHansus]

The problem I see with this video is that Leo's definition of happiness is different to how most people know it.

[@ActualizedOrg]

That's not a problem. That's the point! Change your silly definition. When are you gonna realize it's making you miserable?

[@Sussana13]

Actualized.org how could you possibly be so sure that it makes him unhappy? Stop thinking that you know everything,this is your reality and what you are teaching others-your point of view,thats all.

[@ThepPixel]

@@ActualizedOrg not all of us WANT to be unhappy Leo. Some of us suffer from mental health conditions.

[@christlikemike6671]

Happiness is dependant on a positive interpretation.

[@baloog8]

@@ThepPixel just being grateful and being conscious of that experience can be a huge relief. Imagine you paid 5 trillion cosmic bucks to experience depression.

[@pkpcmu]

One thing I've noticed Leo is that your lectures are getting more and more juicier with time.. Thanks

[@f.e.7060]

This video changed someones perspective of life in Paris, France. There is no greater miracle that realizing that we have changed for the better, thanks to intense self inquiry and research. Actualized definitely helped me on that path of making my subconscious conscious. I owe Leo Gura a great deal. His videos brought more to my existence than most stuff on youtube that's for sure. Sorry for my broken english, i just wanted to truly thank him (hope this is the place), and encourage people to do self actualisation. Although its painful at times because knowledge and truth about one self can be painful, although that self inquiry causes your life to sit still while you do it (sometimes), there is no greater reward than to have an extended consciousness. "You re not happy because you dont really want to be" is extremely true. We can rot in confort, because of our stupid "shoulds" and the hold ego has on us. Keep on the good work Leo, and sincerely, thank you

[@freetoltec3745]

so much wisdom is in this video. just wow. im blown away by the amount of pure truth and the so accurate description on what happiness is and how to get it. this is no theory. this is feeling and emotion... amazing. thank you so so much Leo.

[@john_air]

thank you leo infinite love and balance

[@KlausHendryck]

love your new, super deep topics :)

[@valterescrivao1515]

Your content has taken a whole new level , im going to have to rethink and re examine somethings , I wanna thank you for providing such deep topics for free , thanks

[@WillWright77]

I want you to know how much I appreciate you for this video, I found it truly enlightening.

[@TheJozeFe]

You are changing me, to be really me and nothing else, love your videos. This video complete my understanding of happiness. Exactly it connected my view of "path is the goal" and unconditional happiness. For me unconditional happiness is enjoining and doing everything in my life for 100% the best I can, BUT no more and that's important. If I go to gym my goal isn't get 5gk weight in next month or bench 250lbs, but get from me the best I can at the moment and no more. The same when I go with my friend for a couple of beers, the best I can is enjoying the moment, not on phone(facebook etc.), but with good talk and focus to enjoining the company the best way I can. The same with, love, work, depression, sad emotions, failure, if I fail at something I'm happy, because I do my best at that moment and that's important. Even if I somehow start living in a box, I will do it the best possible way I can and enjoying it. This is my not sure if condition or unconditional happiness I'm achieving. Many people aren't even in holiday or with they love 100% relaxed, and enjoining the moment, because their mind is in "what if ...", "I have to do next week ...", "what if I fail ..." and so on. Maybe I don't get it right way, but is the best I can ;). So much thanks for your work Leo.

[@Tullerman]

Ever thought the purpose of life was NOT to be happy? Maybe we're meant to feel the pain, meant to go through ups and downs as there is no such thing. Happiness might be your favorite emotion but does that mean you should just ignore all other feelings? My favorite emotion ain't even to be "happy", it's a kinda deep forgiving and humbling kinda feeling with a touch of nostalgia and also if my kids got raped (not that I have any kids), the last thing I would want is to be happy. I once told my friend I wish there were some movies and games and shit that could make me cry etc, he said I should just be happy that I'm not sad but he simply don't understand life, the stupid fuck lol. If the only thing we did in life is to survive and meditate, sitting in peace and all that, there would be absolutely no reason to be alive at all, you might as well die and become like nothing again. You still have a lot of great teachings like how we should get to the point where we do shit to create and to give rather than to simply "get happy" but the above stuff is still very important -> Happy=/=Fulfilled.

[@Tullerman]

"Oh Lucifer how though hast fallen" - The lightbringer is on the outside, not INspiration from within and that's the problem indeed but that doesn't mean you should always be happy as that would be ignoring half of reality. "Oh Lucifer how though fly up in the heavens and leave everything real behind you..." And then you loose all kind of empathy and compassion -> Compassion = The stuff that holds this universe together :)

[@arletbode4847]

I agree. How could you know happiness without knowing pain? Alan Watts talked a lot about this topic, about how people who only chase happiness end up suffering bc there needs to be a balance. Maybe Leo did not mean happiness as we think of it now, but as more of a detachment to any emotions at all.

[@arletbode4847]

+Arlet Bode which eventually brigs us to a state of mind that can't be disturbed

[@ActualizedOrg]

Happiness is NOT an emotion. I never said to suppress emotions. Just the opposite, feel all your emotions so fully that you are happy with all of them.

[@Tullerman]

Actualized.org Ah, that make a lot more sense, I'd maybe exchange the word happy with something else like Love or Joy or Fulfillment.

[@rahman21244]

Unconditional happiness does not exist. Happy conditions make us happy.

[@ktube2482]

This is genuinely one of the most profound videos I have watched. I do not understand why there are so many thumbs down.

[@domusic8587]

"I've got some news for you, it's all bullshit!" :D btw nice video, man!

[@marcelomilani]

Thanks Leo, great vid!

[@kacperwielunski2801]

Love it Leo LOVE IT !!! Also gratitude is one of the most powerful forces there are I think once you get to understand go many things you have to be grateful for its mindblowing!

[@prasads151]

You use your emotions to bully yourself! This struck me real hard!!

[@NectarineofQuality]

Ok just hold up a moment --- LEO HAS THE BEST EYES! Oh yeah nice vid too

[@minjijung9991]

Let's all live in boxes and see who taps out first. I really enjoyed watching this video. :D

[@thenasascientist6022]

Dude you are an inspiration😎👊 Over 6 months i've been following your videos and lot of changes came into my life,i'm starting to understand that we're part of something bigger,the whole universe lays within us. Thanks man🙋

[@anilide_]

It's been almost 4 months I've been meditating daily, doing self inquiry. I naturally gravitated towards this "self-actualization" journey after going through a lot of painful heartbreak. Now I'm beginning to understand so much better what you are saying in your videos. How meditation helps us achieve "detachment" from needing anything. I am learning to let go of a lot of things in my life. Most recent thing I let go of is my desire for success and a lot of money. I let go of relationships, friendships, even my 2 cats I gave them away. I am letting go of this desire to have a "rich" lifestyle because I know it won't make me happy anyway. I just want my soul to be at peace that is all.

[@ThePersistentAutistic]

We feel grief, unhappiness, sadness, fear, hatred, upset, depression, worry, etc. for a reason. It's the mind's way of letting us know something is wrong or needs to be changed. Emotions are a natural part of being human. Have you held your 4 month old child while she dies in your arms because a doctor misdiagnosed her? Have you truly experienced grief? A drop in serotonin so low that constant thoughts of suicide plague your every moment? Unhappiness is a GOOD thing! It makes the moments of happiness that we do experience so much better. Happiness is a complex issue that everyone deal with differently. You cannot speak for everyone. Everyone's brains are different and what might work for you isn't going to work for someone else. You are placing everyone into a cookie cutter form and that isn't fair. Attitude however is a choice. Happiness is not and for those who have such a simple life where happiness can come on with the flip of a switch, I hope you never experience some of the things I have.

[@flessested]

You didn't understand the message. You can be happy while your 4 month old child dies in your arms, as horrible as that sounds. As if you being unhappy brings your child back to life. As if you need to be unhappy in order to provide the absolute best care for your child. As if you need to be unhappy to do the right thing. Negative emotions is not unhappiness, you can feel negative emotions and still be happy. Happiness is just a bunch of conditional thoughts in your head. At first, when I saw this video, I was scared to let go of my vision of happiness. I thought the exact same thing - unhappiness is GOOD, it makes the good times so much better, it makes me strive for something in my life! The problem though was that I was miserable all the time, even though I was quite successful. So I said 'Fuck it' I'll just do what Leo suggests because my current life is miserable and has always been miserable anyway. What I discovered was, to my shock, is that I am not wasting my life away, as I feared. I am not doing anti-social things, I am not being an asshole or disregarding other people. Quite shockingly, found out that I am actually a decent human being and I don't need these rules to govern my life. I don't need to be unhappy to do the right thing, to pursue what I truly want. I quit my job and cut out a ton of unnecessary things from my life, that I was just doing for the sake of doing. EDIT: and nothing bad happened, I was catastrophizing over nothing. Nothing bad happened. /rant

[@bblueangel2]

@Samantha you dont get the authentic point to the message. To truely al acknowledg this, you have to let go of alot of baggage. It is your pe conditioned way of getting to make sense of something that's insensible for your state of perception. Even what Wright now is something you'll take as offensive. We love in a world where we see videos where they say that we are brain washed. And the first thing that comes to mind is "yeah the world is brainwashed but I'm not.' It takes alot thi acknowledge this just because people are overeating from the egos point of wiev. It's the ego that makes decisions. It's our lower preconditioned base of making sense of things. Witches means that it will be possible fir some and impossible fir others to comprehend this message. You only hear his words, but your state of comprehension by the words spoken, side not set root just because. There is a quote'the truth is hidden where everybody can see it" but it dosent matter if you see it if you don't have the capacity to open what's already open. The best way to lie is to use some truth and some lie. This principle goes the same way with aknowledging what Leo says. There is truth. And there is truth, but your lies you tell yourself keeps you on the brink of truly understanding. Sad guru and outher enlightened keyhole often Cris reference, and use metaphors. Ti dumb down and make a deeper understanding to their message, judge because of this. And when they do. Keyhole get the point. And if you make notice like in many ekhart tolles videos as well, laughs, wich is an reason's the mind gives to the body, this laughter is a sign of comprehension. He tells them something they believe they dont know just because they're lower self or ego, and distractions hold us away from what is already in the open. That laugh because they realize the they behind the message, they laugh because that realize they di this them self's. Isn this how comedians also make people laugh? By making you feel like you re lived the story? The difference is that. The tell you the truth. While the comedian tell you lies, or lies and some truth. Or just trurth with a good punchline line. Ignorance is only bliss if you want constitutional happiness.

[@shotgun9922]

Then you're playing the victim card. "Happiness is not and for those who have such a simple life where happiness can come on with the flip of a switch" There you go, you said it. Let me tell you a story about my mother, who lived in a Soviet state (Poland) while the cold war was going on. My mother and her family didn't have shit to eat, they didn't have toys, they didn't have normal clothes, they were getting laughed at in school because they didn't have these things, they were humiliated and spat on by people on the streets. My mother even had a miscarriage, and even while we grieved in the moment, we were still happy. See, life is not about pleasure and positivity. Negativity AND positivity comes and goes, and that in my opinion is the premise behind this video. My mother now lives in the Netherlands and she STILL doesn't give a shit about all the materialistic bullshit that comes around. My mother STILL lives humbly, despite of what happened to her as a child, and I can confirm that my mother is the happiest person I have ever seen, despite of everything that happened.

[@joshc7865]

What you’re saying is all about your ego, that you have a very strong sense of self, & your ego is feeling victimised by what Leo is saying. That’s the exact thing your ego would say to keep you in the same comfortable place. You need to detach from your ego & practice enlightenment to really grasp what Leo is talking about. On a core level of the “real” you (not your ego) you should be always unconditionally happy with your life. Realise that your ego (you) is not really (you), it’s just an illusion of who you think you are.

[@reekforceone1992]

@@bblueangel2 not unconstitutional happiness... unconditional happiness... duh!!!🤣🤪🤣