You're Not Lazy. You Have Executive Dysfunction.

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Hey there, I’m Cinzia DuBois. I’m a part-time, self-funded PhD student and KZbinr, Podcaster and writer. I’ve been creating videos for over thirteen years. I discuss productivity, personal development, PhD, academia and mental well-being on this channel. On my main channel, I talk about all things dark and ancient history, literature and folklore.

[@kaylastarr3822]

Oh my gosh. This is exactly what I am like and it always makes me so sad because I see people doing all these things that they love and I'm only ever able to make myself do what I *have* to do and never the things that I *want* to do. I barely read, or write, draw or spend time in nature even though I know that those things bring me joy. I took a gap year during 2020, and it was one of the worst things I did because I did apsolutely nothing every single day for the whole year, and spent every single moment of that day feeling anxious and upset that I wasn't doing anything, but feeling apsolutely unable to do anything about it.

[@thefluffywaffle8388]

That gap year sounds terrible, I’m sorry you went through that. I was still in online school during 2020 but it was a bunch of anxiety pertaining to constantly missing assignments and also being upset that I couldn’t do anything. And right now I almost always have a hard time getting up and doing the things I love as well: reading, writing, drawing, and decorating. It’s nice to know I’m not the only one like this, it makes me feel less broken :)

[@hawkhead-band6110]

This is very similar to my experience, with pretty much those same areas of interest that you mention. I feel as if my life is slipping past and the creative skills I have are falling by the wayside. Then there is the sense of failure/guilt/restlessness that comes with that.

[@IshtarNike]

I mean it was a pandemic. I think you can be forgiven for not going out every day.

[@Jambo66328]

2020 f-me up very bad too. Still trying to restructure my life. Is tough, yet I believe it's possible.

[@taylorrae3947]

Self care is a need, and self care includes things that make you happy. Plan it. Make the time. Put it on the list. I swear, it's the only thing that worked for me.

[@bubbie2982]

damn this executive dysfunction is a full time job

[@RachelFayLovelyDay]

It's horrible cycle of inaction, followed by guilt, followed by despair that the time has now gone. I can do anything I have to do, but then feel resentment that I had to do something that steals so much of my time, that I could have spent being annoyed with myself 😂

[@vaboutsr7749]

'Doing things for your future self' is a recurrent theme in personal development. For me it looks like being your boss.

[@wellesradio]

I used to have this. I was called lazy. I began my journey of discovery and self-acceptance, work only as much as is necessary, and don’t have any “projects”. I take days off and go for walks. I read books. I don’t owe anyone anything. Now suddenly I’m labeled apathetic. 😑

[@marocat4749]

Still good, you could cure cancer and be criticized for it.

[@mashed1476]

incredible how i stumble upon this after crying about how I've effectively done nothing in four days and am in the verge of missing another big deadline

[@RambleMaven]

Shout out to all the other Autistic folks and ADHDers in the comments 😭 this was relatable for me 😭

[@hazeltravers1314]

I literally have to schedule in 'fun' into my day otherwise I just won't do it. It's one of the most depressing parts of executive function for me but I've sort of found a way around it with endless to-do lists and gamification

[@wandguardnoodle]

Yep, that's what I do as well. Literally putting down hobby stuff I want to do along with all the chores and life admin in my weekend to-do lists. Another thing that helps me is scheduling things with other people, like going boulder climbing with friends. Taking classes is also helpful, like, I wanted to learn to sew so I took a sewing class; and it was a bit intense and I was tired sometimes but I was like I paid for this, I need to make the most of it, and every time I actually got to the class it was great.

[@foolishZielke]

How does that work for you? Whenever i plan 'fun' into my schedule it just becomes more tedious than any work I've done in my entire life.

[@wandguardnoodle]

@@foolishZielkeIt works quite well, most of the time. There are instances where it hasn't worked, but I realized that it was because the things I was trying to do weren't actually fun for me, I just thought I "should" enjoy them for whatever reason. Alternatively, sometimes I actually just need rest/couch time 🙃

[@frighten3159]

I had a big thing about asking other people to allow me permission to rest. When I thought about it and how kinda ridiculous it was when I had the urge to ask someone else, I'd stop and say "you don't need permission from others to rest, if YOU need rest that's all the permission you need." It's still a WIP but it's helping.

[@2ndviolin]

Hunger makes me move towards food eventually.

[@strangebird5974]

"I never realized how heavily I relied on external systems to motivate me [...]" This right here, for me. Many years ago, before I had ever heard of executive functions or conditions describing non-neurotypical ways of relating to the world, I had the distinct experience of my life falling completely apart upon leaving the education system. Up until then, I had been a somewhat model pupil and student. But turned loose on the world where no one was telling me what to do or how to live up to some nebulous societal requirements, I completely failed. Given the right motivational system around me, I can move mountains in a day. When they are lacking, I can barely get out of bed and take a shower or eat breakfeast or anything. I used to beat myself up over it constantly. But executive dysfunction as a lens to view it through has made me a bit less moralizing towards myself and a bit more practical. I can get stuff done, but it requires a lot of mental energy and work to get myself in the right frame of mind to get going. Once I get going, though, it's usually gets easier to continue. The hard part is restarting myself the next day, and the next, and so on.

[@kimesch9698]

Never knew this was a thing. This is me. I’m 60, disabled, and have wasted so much of my non-work life. If I’m not doing something I’ll be held accountable for, it usually doesn’t happen- including the fun stuff. Be glad you know this now. Live your life.

[@glitchedoom]

Mine has gotten so bad external pressure doesn't even get me moving anymore. I have jobs, I have bosses, and still it's almost impossible to do what I need to get done.

[@ChingiWingi]

2:12 "I didnt even make a cup of tea" Now that's criminal, this is your first warning :P Thx for the upload

[@marocat4749]

:(

[@robin-tainebrownell1491]

I have 4 kids and a spouse who have all been diagnosed with ADHD (2 also have other mental health issues) in the past few years. The more I learn about neurodivergence, the more I understand how my family struggles in school and work situations (2 of my kids weren't diagnosed until their 20s), decision making, and time management. I really appreciate hearing and learning more from others who are navigating the world from this viewpoint. I really appreciate learning so that I can better support my own loved ones. And if it helps, this mom thinks you're awesome!!

[@JuanGarcia-vb3du]

If you feel lazy be lazy. Don't try to change it. Don't judge yourself. Observe your thoughts don't judge them. Once you do this your mind will slow down. Be your own person. Be a light to yourself. Don't follow anyone. If people don't accept you as you are that is their problem not yours. You don't have control over anyone only yourself. How others feel about you is to be treated as indifferent. As far as I'm concerned you are perfect. Wish more people were like you. Love your videos.

[@marocat4749]

Yep ther eare times to be lazy as much to do anything, and while we live in a society, thats great advice and treating yourself as other part like in a cheesy anime and accepting, might be actually what might really help. Yep you are fine as you are. I love that buddhist inspired ideas. Alternatively i can think of the gurren laggan quote "believe in the me that believe in you, that might make a trick to like yourself more via a trick?! Is ther anyone you trust that thinks you are alright and , too hard on yourself and deserve being fine, can you use others you trust to believe you deserve to have fun and keep stuff to stuff foe only you, would that work a bit?

[@lilo_920]

In a way, this is what I've been doing for a while. I'm finally making some progress with my executive dysfunction and one approach that has helped me is starting every day by asking myself (and writing down): "What would I need to do today in order to go to bed tonight feeling fulfilled and proud of myself?" I focus on this vision, the fulfilled version of myself who expects something from me. I also check in with myself throughout the day, especially if I'm having a bad day, and remind myself that plucking up the strength to do even just a fraction of I'd like to do will result in a feeling of happiness and relief from the pain of inaction. I challenge myself to try doing something for even just a few minutes. Over time, I've found it increasingly easier to get the ball rolling and get more done. I think my brain is beginning to understand that there is a reward and it's increasing my motivation.

[@Wee_Catalyst]

I thought it was interesting when you mentioned that those of us who are neurodivergent and were reprimanded with guilt and shame for not doing our best and letting ourselves down often continue to associate guilt and shame when it occurs in adult life One of my best friend and I found solidarity in a different yet no more helpful way to coping with constantly being told we weren’t living up to our potential was to reject the guilt and shame so completely that when I find myself struggling as an adult with executive function my natural tendency is to dismiss it as a problem at all, which means I usually haven’t even achieved the crucial first step of realizing there’s a problem I need to find an effective way to address I cut myself a lot of slack because the world and I weren’t built for each other and it’s easy to tell myself “well I’m disabled/neurodivergent-of course they don’t get it, I’m doing GREAT” when really I’m totally capable of making a stronger or better thought out effort Fascinating!

[@lauraweiss7875]

I am by nature an extremely lazy person, and I’m not embarrassed to say this. However, I have come to realize that forcing myself to do the stuff I dread doing is exactly what I need to be “happy.” It’s weird.

[@chowyee5049]

Same here. Nothing makes me happier than pulling myself off my arse to get stuff done. It's like a threshold I have to get through. Once I get started things just fall into place. To be happy you have to be content. Nothing kills contentment than not doing the stuff you should be doing.

[@chandler_martian]

I ALWAYS feel amazing after doing things that scare me. I just wish I could channel that feeling when doing other scary things. Every time it still feels terrifying.

[@nedludd7622]

If I understood, "executive dysfunction" is a euphemism for "burn out".

[@PrincessSaskia84]

I am like that during all my days off. How I cope with that is by adding 'fun stuff' to my to-do list. Great vid as always ❤

[@faeriesmak]

I have to do this as well…it helps, though!

[@kanalkanal79841]

Separating myself into more then one personas and switching in between when needed, seems like a great decision I've made in my life. If you manage to scale your success on a personal basis and which persona you want to use, it may solve most of the problems. For example, when you are playing with your pet, you are your inner child; but when you tell yourself to work you are a boss with a strategy; and when you listen your "boss persona", you are an obedient worker full of passion to work more and more. It's not easy as to say, but worth the shot.

[@tulip811]

I have been like this since I was a small child. It started with not wanting to tidy up my room, and then continued with homework 😅 doing that felt like a punishment. Now I can't read books anymore, feels like a chore (I used to do nothing BUT read)

[@padmeasmr]

I thought we all went through this kind of problem. I do gladly things I enjoy and I hate doing things I must do bc of external demands. But it is hard, to discipline yourself in getting things done for yourself. Most of it is a matter of habit. I always struggle to play the piano or learn a language until ive built the habit of doing it for a few days at least. Then it gets easier to stick to it, it should become automatic otherwise it takes a lot of effort to decide to do that thing which we are not accustomed to. I learned somewhere that we we have a certain amount of willpower which decreases with use during the day. The automatic pilot helps you in that cuz you don't really make a decision, you just do it cause you always do it

[@subVersionband]

Struggled with this exact thing for years and found you explained it really well. Having all these grand exciting ideas that i could work on - but lacking enough motivation to put time into them. Made the conscious choice to make myself learn music theory and since becoming unemployed, can actually make myself do it now In small bursts.

[@thebackpackingbookwyrm]

I have adhd and honestly sometimes mentally resisting that type of day makes it worse. Ive learned to just accept the executive dysfunctional days. There's no good in guilt tripping myself.

[@cecilyerker]

I spent a busy day yesterday driving and going to a crystal show and I needed the whole day today to recover. 😢

[@josephchaney4732]

Every once in awhile I have to force myself to be lazy cuz my life is incredibly stressful ironically I grew up in a military system meaning waking up early getting ready for the day doing what I needed to do then timing my laziness to my interests, hobbies, and loves so now as a working person my laziness is used as a way to de-stress.

[@endertoa6049]

Bro, wake up. A new Cinzia video just dropped. 🔥🔥

[@thzzzt]

I sort of trick myself into doing things. If I have to workout for instance (which is a spin on an exercise bike for 15 minutes) I tell myself, well, just set the resistance knob lower and it will be easier. Then, once I start low, it occurs to me this isn't so hard, and I end up turning the knob up to the normal setting. Another one is doing some construction task (of which I have many). I tell myself, well, just get the tools and parts out and prepared, then if you don't want to do it, don't. Then often I end up following all the way through. Another valuable thing in this case: you might not have absolutely all of the necessary tools or parts, in which case you have to put off the task anyway and acquire them.

[@jeffreyroering]

I am not ( insert random relatable thing ) I am actually ( insert relatable thing ) !

[@cheese-bg1xq]

My problem is very different. I've always had this weird sort of thing where I go through a cycle of "trying to reasonably do all of the tasks I have to do -> naturally narrowing down to just a couple huge tasks which I do with basically no break, resulting in everything else being abandoned and being accused of being lazy because these tasks are usually more personal things (e.g. sorting out college notes)". A normal person would see that they have a big project and work on it a little each day, maintaining everything else. I just CAN'T and it's frustrating.

[@user-yi9ro4gm9d]

I am starting to be scared at how targeted your videos are to my struggles, lol. The constant battle I have with myself to do even the easiest tasks is crazy, I feel anxious all the time, people around me think I am very lazy but I wish with all I have that I could do all the things I wish to accomplish without the constant struggles to even start them. Thank you for this video, I really needed it, especially today!

[@user-hq5jy3wb8b]

Yeah. For me as well, the only way how i overcame executive dysfunction, is actually using those thoughts. You have to be incredibly lucky to be able to take time of, and be incredibly willing to take time off, but it turns out that that dysfunction isn't so dysfunctional after all. See it as a compass that is guiding you in the right direction. It is only disfunctional because you make it unable to function. Following the dysfunction actually leads into productivity. See it as someone knocking on your door. Maybe, the problem isn't the message, but that you are trying to kill the messenger.

[@RaisingSerge]

THIS IS THE BEST VIDEO ON THE INTERNET EVER. This explain what I've spent years trying to figure out. I am in tears. I can't tell you how relieved I feel to finally find someone who could verbalize what that's going on in my brain.

[@torrentialrage]

Had issues with executive dysfunction my whole life. Thank you.

[@alicias.8482]

I'm a teacher and by the weekend I've used all my functionality dealing with teaching. On the weekends, I am so wrung out that I'm worthless.

[@godsstrongestmagicalgirl5217]

I mean, teaching is extremely exhausting. Hardest working job imo so you’re doing great.

[@claudiamanno1523]

It felt like listening to myself explaining what I couldn't understand. Why does my fiancé is able to enjoy a movie, stay put but content, they're choosing to stay in the same spot enjoying not doing nothing. I am chained to my bed, either over thinking, or not listening to the music I put on to try to motivate myself to do things.

[@galeocean4182]

I prefer to think that some of us have an extraordinary ability to conserve energy. 😊 These “ lost hours” of inaction must benefit us somehow. Maybe it’s the self-recrimination that is toxic, not the empty hours? IDK - What would it be like to be inactive and be able to embrace it?

[@tob4643]

cinzia trying not to be as humanly relatable to every neurodivergent being as possible (impossible) but it's true! Can't help but feel that myself & my thoughts has succumbed to this feeling of immobilisation in my free time and not getting bits done for intrinsic value. Being autistic likely contributes to this; along with needing to fulfill the essential needs of life that took priority, which isn't inherently a bad thing, even in spite of possibly neglecting some personal opportunities of creative/leisurely outlets for it when I was feeling uncertain about life, alongside the stemming of external influences & the frameworks that some some be easily susceptible to because it's the more validating option for other people to minimize any potential triggers or wrongdoings. I think I have realized overtime that there was no pressure to start these creative outlets if my motivations weren't in the right place. Since now things are becoming more clear, the idea of separating myself as 2 beings can beneficially assert my own dominance within & proceed forward with what my heart wants. Thank you for another great video & also for pointing out the distinction between laziness and exec dysfunction. That clarification was useful!

[@Quan10Mack]

Sorry you're not feeling well. I came back from a convention recently and got really sick

[@cinetheist]

We need a full video on identifying intrusive positive motivation. It was a great work dear ❤

[@justcatb]

Thank you for highlighting this! I have adhd and suffer from this whenever I have time to do fun stuff. A work day is different, with structure and consequences, but days off are very different. It’s a difficult one.

[@williamcainjr8496]

And please do make a video of identifying intrinsic positive motivators. Fear and guilt really don't enter in my equation at all. It's either a "no choice" type of situation or the need outweighs everything else that could/would keep my feet dragging. ..that's the same thing, isn't it? *sigh*

[@holyfreak8]

Love when your dogs pop up in front of the camera😊🐶

[@richardwong7473]

Please do a video on intrinsic motivating factors. This was a very eye opening video and spoke to me. I had never of executive dysfunction but it was spot on.

[@winkletter]

I struggle with this myself. Recently I've been trying to understand how the ecological approach to psychology might help to train myself to perceive affordances (like taking out the trash.) For example, in basketball one can lower the hoop to train athletes to perceive lay ups as a potential action. In games, the hoop is back in position, but athletes continue to perceive lay ups as an action they can take. The more one perceives and acts on potential actions, the more those actions become familiar. Are my executive functions better employed designing point-of-performance interventions and retraining my brain to perceive and act upon potential actions in my environment?

[@macsarcule]

Yes. Your experiment: What if you had to think of yourself the way you think of authority figures? What if you had to try to please or impress yourself or make yourself proud of yourself? These questions were absolutely confusing. I have an amazing imagination, but I feel like I’m looking at a blank wall when I try to imagine this. I wish you the best. This conversation will be part of my therapist appt this week. Lots to think about from your video. 😌

[@gamutgirl]

Oh man, guilt and fear are the only reasons I've gotten as far as I have in life (in my 40s now, but lived with undiagnosed ADHD until my 30s)... 😒 ... and have a dandy little anxiety disorder to show for it. My best to you.

[@AndreShouldBeWriting]

That video was really helpful to me. Thanks a ton for making it. I feel a ton of relief finally having a jargon for things and knowing I'm not the only one experiencing that.

[@lilygreenall2837]

I get this too but I have gradually been trying to work on it, by setting fun goals where I deliberately schedule fun activities in a structured way. I too come from a very academic background and found the transition hard afterwards.

[@timflatus]

I'm watching this because I'm supposed to be taking part in a ceremony involving a thousand or more people. I could actually benefit from a little social interaction, but I know that's not what's going to happen. I'm just going to get even more exhausted and lost. The ceremony is part of my life's work. I shall try to make myself go, maybe dress up to create the illusion I'm having fun. I might even enjoy myself. I'd rather be gardening.

[@megannelson7334]

Thank you for this video. It pushed me to get the litter boxes done immediately and to gather up my trash to take out for tonight. The dishes on the other hand are a whole other entity. And thank you for explaining so well being frozen and wanting to do even the fun things, and not be able to do them.❤

[@Mira_Poix]

I also have a very difficult time staying accountable to myself. I would love to hear more about how you’re going about conceptualizing being both yourself and “the boss” in this dynamic!

[@williamcainjr8496]

I had never heard of this..and it is spot on. Boredom amplifies it to a horrendous degree. I also have to burn myself out on things to move onto something else, unless the task(s) at hand NEED doing. Otherwise said boredom becomes incapable of being overcome. Going to get tested for autism as well; lots point to this as being a real possibility for me.

[@Laura-ci3jr]

Oh my god, your video gave me the language that I needed to understand my behavior. Thank you so much for it

[@clrmcgwn]

I would love to see a video on positive intrinsic motivators!:)

[@LuckyStone888]

Thank you for your insights, the information has offered me a new perspective. I will use it to help me think about my own executive dysfunction.

[@taiho7777]

I needed this...

[@koston_varjo3536]

I can't help but feel like a broken record, but KZbinr: "Would you like me to make a video about ..." Audience: "Yes, yes, yes, of course, do it already." I don't know I have ever heard video ideas being shut down. At any rate, here's some engagement in the form of this comment

[@FruchtcocktailUndCo]

Damn, I felt that. Please yes, talk more about intrinsic motivation.

[@winterburden]

Thank you so much Cinzia!

[@sruthisuresh2852]

Thank you so much. I needed this and was spiraling about this

[@ardethellis8930]

This has been so helpful. I needed another perspective today. I've been researching burnout and executive disfunction can be one of the symtoms. Your explanation hits the mark. I appreciate you so much. 😍❤😍

[@fshbulb1]

Thank you Cinzia, this was incredibly helpful ❤

[@alagorical8001]

Thankyou Cinzia xxx

[@MrsSurrealista]

This is exactly what my psychiatrist said lmao

[@elelonger4409]

My partner needs to need to watch this, i will send this. He really needs it thank you 😊

[@VladimirE.-is2ee]

This sounds like me and I hate it. Because the outcome is that I get work done because it has deadlines and people who will nag me about things that slip (fortunately I work at a place that's pretty accomodating - sometimes we're in a crazy rush which I can do, other times it's absolutely chill which ... I can do ) but the problem is that any personal plans and projects absolutely suffer as ... there's just me. And the older I get the more this is starting to hurt.

[@JagVentures]

This is brilliant and I relate to this so much. Thank you Cinzia.

[@franchesca9148]

Thank you for this video. It spoke to me

[@danieldouglass3761]

Wow, I honestly related to that so much, Because some days I feel like I could do so much in a day on the weekends, but I lay in bed for hours just thinking of doing things but not actively doing them. I think I have this issue lol

[@Jander833]

Thank you for this video, I'll do my best to follow your advice because I really need it

[@biteofdog]

Thank you for your interesting videos, it's nice to hear a different perspective on things every once in a while. I wish you all the best Cinzia in whatever your future holds.

[@tsino6660]

Wow the timing of this video popping up in front of me is bizzare! I was just feeling down/stressed and guilty because I really want to practice guitar for my recent upcoming lesson, so I decided to invest this whole day into it and maybe get 1 hour or 2 into it (since I know that I struggle with these things) but I just cannot get started at all. This video really resonated with me and made me feel understood and I would really love some more suggestion in what I should focus on to get over this problem and keep myself busy. Thanks a lot for your help!

[@RhymeandRamblings]

Something I learned recently that really helps with motivation is called starting the day with “deep work”. Before looking at a phone or doing relaxation, jump right into what is most important to you and stick with the deep work for 4hrs, it can be a combo of things with short breaks for food, fresh air etc worked in. Your brain is at peak performance first thing in the day. Plus you usually don’t have as much pressure to do other things. Hope this helps!

[@tsino6660]

@@RhymeandRamblings that is very interesting. I have been trying to avoid use of my phone first thing in the morning and have actually felt a big difference in my energy level at the early stages of being awake, so this makes a lot of sense to me. Thanks a lot for your help I will try that method!

[@user-yx6cg7fm7z]

You are positively radiant 🌹💜☺️

[@georgemumford3119]

An excellent explanation of Executive Functioning Disorder. I really resonated with your story. Thank you. It might be alexithymia, but I don't feel any emotions attached to my Executive Dysfunction. Neither fear nor guilt help me overcome ED. I never had a problem with feeling unworthy of being invested in, listened to, respected, loved ect... What I experience is I respect myself as my own boss, make decisions, set priorities, instill consequences, dream of futures, ect; and then it is all ignored. All that mental effort smacks into a wall and I'm stuck staring at it. I look forward to your video on identifying intrinsic motivators.

[@ph_H01]

Wonderful video, thank you C

[@VinceLammas]

I only subscribed to your other channel yesterday and now the KZbin algorithm reveals this one. Thanks for explaining the issues facing people with Executive Dysfunction, a few of whom I know. I think the point about addressing self-worth is absolutely essential.

[@moz7173]

Love this, and Yes Please, More on the discussed subject X

[@Katie_v]

You have described my life pretty much exactly. 😅 I have no trouble getting to work on time, or paying bills (usually!). But I haven't learned to play the piano, or the ocarina, or learned to draw etc etc. I firmly believe there's no such thing as laziness. If you don't do something, there's a very good reason for it. You just need to work out what it is. ❤ Mote videos on this topic please! ❤️‍🔥

[@rockywhisperingasmr721]

I enjoyed the video. Interesting topic I had not considered previously.

[@johnmanole4779]

0:15 no i dont wish to work. I hate it 😂

[@Yolohipsteryolo]

Hello to you and your doggos. Thank youu for speaking about your experience, I have those periods of just lying and rolling around in my room too! Especially in the holidays. I‘ll definitely come back to this video. 🫶🏻

[@Dave__f]

I am on a marathon with this

[@shego4814]

Can you make for videos on this topic please?

[@keithparker1346]

I think people are made to feel guilty for doing things which are not particularly important. What does it matter if you don't tidy or clean your room for example?

[@hagoryopi2101]

I know I can do the things I need. I can go to work and pay my taxes. I just struggle to do anything for myself, even if it would be teaching myself a skill for a future job. I feel more like a spectator than an actor, in my body. There are basic "I don't want to do them" things that I struggle to do, like household cleaning. And some part of my brain will abuse that to guilt me for trying to do things I actually enjoy, when I manage to let myself try. That's when I can sit, do nothing, and over think for hours. I just have to remember that the guilt doesn't make the decisions. I wish progress was faster, but it makes progress. It absolutely isn't "laziness" in the way most people would see it, I agree. I try to appreciate, through those unfair comparisons, that it's a challenge and it's worth my effort. And your video helps validate that! So thank you.

[@nikorex32]

I see DuBois, I click. Now let's what the lady has to say.

[@roxybennett3964]

Genius video and info 🎉🎉🎉 Keep going you may discover new ways and things to help others. ❤

[@williamcorrigan5697]

Yup, that's me.

[@lynnoorman2144]

Yes please do the video on intrinsic motivators. This was a fascinating video - I often wondered why I have never used my retirement to accomplish those hobbies that I have always 'wanted to do'.

[@devernepersonal3636]

Yes I would like a video about the practical things we can do. I appreciated this video. I being on the spectrum means i have the comorbid of adhd, which certainly means i have executive dysfunction. That explains a lot. I am glad this video randomly popped up. I will be subscribing.

[@simonliu-uw7tl]

i know im not. got to prepare for any sudden change 24/7 do need energy.

[@jaredpeyton9881]

Hey, it seems like to me the audio is a little off. Other than that, great video. I appreciate the acknowledgment of the executive dysfunction. I feel like it's not talked about enough.

[@bubbles581]

Super cute thumbnail image!

[@LaVictoireRosee]

Please do a video on intrinsic motivation

[@nicoleholding]

Very interesting video.

[@antonyreyn]

Am so lazy can't be bovd watch this cheers

[@Valdagast]

I'll have you know I'm both.