you've been lied to about self esteem

[@humanbeans5474]

Nah. Too late. I've strapped on

[@stacielivinthedream8510]

😂😂 I love your name, humanbeans! My nickname is Sleepibean! 😂

[@BeamRider100]

Strap it on. I didn't realise it was a joke until he indicated it.

[@jonnytheartist]

I strapped in. Then undid it. Was confused about what to do

[@NewelOfKnowledge]

Instructions super unclear 😭☠

[@NLiTNd1]

​@@NewelOfKnowledge bahahaa definition of a Freudian slip..? 😉

[@xuyennguyen7110]

I'm so happy to see Alain's quote here: "We no longer need to judge ourselves through the eyes of people who were too unwell to see us properly". I have kept on reminding myself about it.

[@martialmusic]

Psychologist Carl Rogers had remarks on this earlier. He asserted that low self esteem was a function of the difference between who you thought you were and who you thought you should be.

[@NewelOfKnowledge]

Shouts out to Carl! It’s interesting to see how that guy I mentioned (Vasconcellos) studied under Carl Rogers and was very close with him. Shame he kind of bastardised the movement though. Whenever I read Carl Rogers I feel calm. Thanks for sharing!

[@martialmusic]

@@NewelOfKnowledge Rogers has not gotten all the credit he deserves. Read his biography “On becoming Carl Rogers”

[@impossiblegems]

Should be by whose definition? Society?

[@michaelcoffin4556]

this channel is fr a gem. every video feels like a professor/teacher giving you a lecture that changes your prospective on life. i hope you have a pleasant day

[@Aintbovvered]

His voice is so soothing and his ideas are so effective. 🎉

[@TamaKin-p5b]

hidden gem fr

[@paradise745]

I’m literally so changed rn

[@favOriTe-v6e]

It's because he actually knows wtf he's talking about

[@pratyushrauts]

I second that❤

[@EmerichKovacsIII]

I like how you assume we hate ourselves in the first 10 seconds (rightly so tbh)

[@NewelOfKnowledge]

guilty

[@rail7646]

if we wouldn't why click on that majestic beard

[@Kwartsie]

I was advised a while ago to tell myself daily “I love you” while looking in the mirror. This created so much cognitive dissonance, made me feel so inauthentic and horrible, that the practice didn’t last long. Thanks for pointing that out.

[@breadgarlichouse]

Go on with it. Surely you will start to believe. And...put on some positive subliminal indoctrination video when you sleep. Reprogram your subconscious mind! I wish you all the best. With love, from the Netherlands 💞🤝

[@Kwartsie]

@@breadgarlichouse Thank you for the thoughtful response 😊 Perhaps liking myself would be a good first step, and also doing things I can be proud of, and then to top it off, learning to be more consistent. I had a dear friend in Netherlands who passed away some years ago. I will always hold this country dear to my heart because it was his home. Wishing you all the best, please continue leaving kind comments. With love from Cambodia

[@Brainhacker013]

Yes, daily and forcefully is as bad as you described, just think of the narrative that you had never done it at all. Once, as to see what you miss and as to have something to chase and feed... this may be the healthy one. I'm not arguing, just sharing my thought for you.

[@GoddessDivine75]

Oh I'm strapped on

[@ninasky8975]

😂😂😂😂

[@jonnytheartist]

Me too!

[@NewelOfKnowledge]

😭☠

[@Iannaz91]

😂😂😂 facts

[@AlloyTechz]

I actually took some of your points to therapy and the therapist loved it

[@syualiq4074]

i really find it good that the therapist agreed about his points but the video is 6 hrs ago did you already had a session and discussed about this video?

[@CastleHassall]

​@@syualiq4074was probably referring to other videos in a comment made while watching this one

[@aphr0d]

@@syualiq4074i like how literal you took it, idk i found that adorable 😂❤️

[@NewelOfKnowledge]

@aphr0d 😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@AlloyTechz]

@@syualiq4074 I was obviously talking about other videos lol

[@salwa5476]

I love your style of talking. It's both, really calm but entertaining. I hope it will never change, it's ideal for learning while resting at the same time

[@pattyofurniture]

Mellifluous.

[@whaletooth4616]

I am a mental health practitioner and I can confidently say you are doing an excellent job.

[@NewelOfKnowledge]

Thank you :) what aspects of mental health and you most interested in?

[@brookeanderson6519]

I feel more confident simply hearing you say (as a male) that you won’t download Instagram … what a beautiful sound.

[@brookeanderson6519]

also, the genuine humor is appreciated.

[@StoicNature444]

Imagine a man having fb or instagram in 2024 😅

[@bymork]

This is gold. The fact that this content is free is incredible.

[@justinAclark2075]

I don't compare myself to other people and where they are at right now. I compare myself to a grander scale understanding of all the various paths a person can take, and where those should lead, in what amount of time. The more I do this, the more comfortable I feel with where I'm at now, and the easier it is to make gradual improvements.

[@Maynard0504]

Well said. A lot of people seem to think life has a linear progression and then compare themselves to others as if everyone had the same starting point. The reality is life can go in any direction, and any direction can be a beautiful positive experience. But most importantly not everyone's "square one" is in the same spot.

[@David369m]

I like how you talked about a very important topic of tackling your “negative” emotions from a place of compassion At 28:20 you talked about how loneliness is something we try to ignore and hide under the rug, but if stead you listened to it and tried to understand it you would see that all that emotion wants is to have its need meet then it would leave you alone, or in this instance become happy like you said. This is all like the shadows that Carl Jung talks about, and this is one way to integrate them.

[@sledgehammer-productions]

As a neurodivergent person the "live with awareness" and "live intentionally" look great on paper, but in practice lead to overwhelm and burn out. And that makes me feel not so great, getting me in a negative spiral. As you've mentioned, as I'm still around apparently I've managed to get myself out of these. But I'm constantly anxious about the next one lurking around the corner. To top it all with: I'm not always capable of identifying my emotions and needs (anhedonia), or not immediately, which makes it hard to get them met.

[@melissawalker7570]

Yep this is meant for neurotypical by the sounds of it, I’m also female, middle aged and have back pain due to sitting, I just realized I’m watching a video not suitable to me from what he said. ……??

[@eighteenfiftynine]

You have correctly identified the areas _you_ need to work on, they are many of the areas _I myself_ need to work on. Think yourself lucky, some people don't have any legs! 😊

[@DaleCooper222]

​​@@melissawalker7570 women and mid 30s, I had back pain after started a job on IT that makes me be sitting for hours. Sometimes the pain was too much and even been dizzy of it. One day decided to put a pomodoro to wake and stretch, and do excersise on any free time. The pain started to diminish within 2-3 weeks. I still have the pain for time to time and stretching takes 80% of it on the same day. I stretch at morning, during work and on any time I need it. Hope it helps

[@Valkanry]

if its an executive function problem, remember that these are going to be much harder to implement because they rely on that. The key is persistance, or in other words "Keeping at it". Even if we are only so effective, if we keep at it over and over, it will take time but eventually we will overcome challenges.

[@Tomy_Yon]

People: "You should smile more." Me: "Turn me upside down."

[@berthaortizharo3944]

Thank you for helping me understand that saying positive things to myself is not always the answer. I don't believe in positive affirmation because I feel like lying to myself. This lesson makes so much sense. You are a great teacher!!!!!!

[@alleycat1198]

🐉🐬🤠 This was such a good video that I didn’t realize it was nearly an hour long until I was almost at the end. Thank you for putting this together! As someone who has been struggling with accepting myself and the life I’ve built thus far, it was incredibly helpful to learn about the pillars of self-esteem. I’ve been feeling really down about how my integrity has slowly eroded over the years, and confused about why it feels so hard to improve. Knowing that I’ve been too focused on the end goal, seemingly oblivious to the first steps in solving my problems, is a total paradigm shift for me. Thanks again!

[@lasvegasplease]

This is so true, I avoided a phobia I had, and it robbed me of about 15 years of fun. So instead of dealing with it head on, I tried to convince myself I was positive and okay. Stay awake people and face your demon and ride that dragon!!

[@thatbapa]

Thoroughly strapped on. This ride better be good!

[@LivingOnAudio]

You have saved me probably 1000s of dollars on therapy with your videos. Doing God's work. Your the man

[@zesky6654]

As someone who recently finished therapy. Do it rather than waiting for a youtube video to fix all of your problems. I tried to fix it myself with books and listening to seemingly wise people, but it doesn't work unless you have an objective third party to keep you accountable.

[@NewelOfKnowledge]

No worries man. I'll send you the invoice tomorrow. ;)

[@StoicNature444]

You’re (you are)

[@BigHairyknuckles]

Im a 20 year old girl, ive had my social media deleted for the past year and it has changed my life i feel more in control of every aspect of my life. Give it a try i promise its only for the best

[@AdaezeNjoku-rx3dl]

Hey just curious, what did you count as social media? Like Facebook and instagram or did you include things like TikTok and youtube

[@BigHairyknuckles]

@@AdaezeNjoku-rx3dl i deleted snapchat, facebook, instagram, i keep youtube but i stay away from short form content on here. I think theres alot of good advice and helpful information on here like newel of knowledge for example.

[@BigHairyknuckles]

@@AdaezeNjoku-rx3dl and ive never had tik tok but id say the apps with the short form scrolling aspect should go

[@BigHairyknuckles]

@@AdaezeNjoku-rx3dl im not sure if my 1st reply sent 🤣but i just stay away from short form content i have youtube but stay away from the youtube shorts everything else ive gotten rid of

[@kw31489]

Strap on 😂 I didn't even laugh until you corrected yourself 😂😂

[@Purpleavatar96]

Same 😭🤣🤣🤣

[@neallbee3574]

Bro I just want to say, I love how consistent you are, last video about self worth; now one about self esteem! This is exactly what I need to progress in my life. Thank you bro.

[@Engelhafen]

The problem with social media is that a prevents you from going on and living your own life

[@wattw3900]

Something I struggled with a lot was manifestation. There are so many messages saying you manifest what you think, and when I was learning that my thoughts were overwhelmingly negative and terrible and it just fed my fear that I was creating bad things for myself. It made me also blame myself for not having more positive thoughts.

[@littlesquishy9951]

I’m strapped on ready for this video 😂❤

[@arunninglion]

The way you teach and show these psychology things are incredible. The humor and jokes. I'm big belly laughing. Anecdotes. Metaphors. Quotes. Brilliant. As someone who is most into Emotion Focused Therapy - I've been applauding when chair work, listen to emotion to find needs, unmet need is brought up! Thank you for all the planning and work that go into these videos. Hope the course/community you launched will be giving. ❤️

[@arunninglion]

🐲🐬✨️

[@emiliae7983]

I normally NEVER comment on youtube or any social media in general, but I just discovered your channel two hours ago when I watched your video on “how to beat depression”, and I must say I’m blown away by your clear but insightful explaining of the topics, and the authenticity you show! I’ve been hoping to come across someone as clear and wellspoken on these topics as you, and I’m definitely gonna binge more of your videos. Thank you for sharing and cant wait to watch more of your videos!

[@tika5635]

You are amazing. I don't have a particular issue with my self-esteem, but I'm highly critical of myself, in a way of "I did great this thing - I deserve to be proud of myself... I did badly that thing - I'm a complete failure". But your lecture unexpectedly helped me. Not yet sure in what exact way, but it did for sure, I feel "easier". Thank you

[@amarahslittlelife]

🐲🐬🎻 Thank you for this video

[@nittani.]

Try mindmapping

[@NewelOfKnowledge]

THERE WE GO. Now let's get that essay finished.

[@nittani.]

@@NewelOfKnowledge coukd you go over learning how to learn better and or reading i know some exersizes to read faster i developed my self id like to share with you

[@NewelOfKnowledge]

@@nittani. share away! I'm all ears. (or eyes considering I'll read your comment lol)

[@nittani.]

@@NewelOfKnowledge Look at words as if they were symbols, dont Sub bocalize instead go ahead and hum as you read so that you can't subvocalize. Try 3 words and processing it this is called chunking . Im starting at looking at three eords at a time sometimes 4-5 You can get to doing the entire line

[@ripley387]

That’s exactly what I‘ve been trying to explain to my therapist for ages 🐥 I really appreciate your work and the way you present your content, I always feel like I’ve grown a bit after having watched one of your videos - intellectually and emotionally. Thank you 💙

[@EliteQuarTips]

We are strapped on in this one!!

[@annazann7236]

😇 In Polish language there is a distinction between pride = duma (value of achievementl - healthy and good) and pride = pycha (value of oneself and putting yourself above others because of it - that's the deadly sin)

[@ofkgjsl]

Reparenting my inner child with listening to those calm voices on Yt. Thanks for these long format videos

[@lawrenceatkinson]

I live by the views you've shared here against popular beliefs... So I agree totally with all you said on the topic here. :"You can't avoid having an opinion about yourself; but you can change your opinion about yourself, and when you have a positive opinion about yourself through authentic self-esteem, you make choices that promote your well-being and you improve your bounceback rate in life otherwise known as your resilience." To add to these here, the same wrong approach is often spread in most churches about: like, instead of saying one, his sick (in this case truly sick e.g cancer) say you're well and believe it... many have since died because of this doing nothing to seeking medical help instead. 🧚‍♀️

[@rateloveable]

im not a jealous person especially to people i don't even know

[@141nehaashrik7]

"If you act out of line with your beliefs, you change your beliefs to align with your actions" Was incredible!! And "What you resist, persists" just hit me like a rock 😮 Thank you!!!

[@te-bo7618]

I always thought self esteem was some real bs. Then saw something explaining how it’s not real. I think “mind set” is a much more applicable term to life. Whenever people would (or do) bring up self esteem I crease.

[@BigReptileCrew]

In refermce to self esteem. Its good too keep in mind, that none of us are really that special, and everything is temporary. Keeps the ego in check 😄

[@MinisterAngel777]

frfr

[@yungmentalproblems]

Some people truly are special just not us lol

[@BigReptileCrew]

@@yungmentalproblems I read a good quote which said - 'You're no better than anyone else, but you are as good as them'..

[@pattiaufzack]

Just wanted to say thanks for doing these longer videos. Really important to improve my attention span. Thank you 🙏

[@NewelOfKnowledge]

next one, 33 hours long. You down?

[@pattiaufzack]

@@NewelOfKnowledge hahahha good one! But yeah even if you'd drop a e.g. 2 hour long, well structured video, I'd dig it. But that would be, I imagine, awful to record without having to cut every mistake out etc. Btw love that you reply to so many people here. It really always gives of such a nice impression, when the content creator replies and engages

[@NewelOfKnowledge]

@@pattiaufzack ahaha, let's make this happen! wouldn't be too bad to record although that could be famous last words. And as long as you comment I'll respond comrade 🫶

[@DigitalDreamer621]

You deserve alot more attention

[@gabudaichamuda2545]

32:49 Out here asking the real questions under the guise of mental health. Well played Newel

[@gabudaichamuda2545]

Also, as a side note: Assuming the answer is yes, does this make you the only guy in England that's not a twat, or the only twat in England without a plane? XD

[@japanlove8249]

I don't care what this guy is talking about. His voice is so soothing. I just listen to him every day before bed.

[@Mewfew22]

Thank you so much man, I’ve been praying to god for answers to these questions and he provided your videos. Excellent work 😁

[@MainHazzard]

Your channel is literally life-changing! Everything you say is so applicable and well-spoken! Can't tell you how glad I am I found your videos and how much I love your work!

[@Andimfeelinggood]

Respect for creating this video and for me watching it all the way through. Thank you!

[@LibraLeone]

You explain pleasantly. It's appreciated.

[@USER-ADNANSHAIKH]

this video literally came in the perfect moment in my life, love you

[@gabrielanogueiravicosa298]

Your videos add so much value to my personal reflections and studies - my sincere thank you to you 🙏

[@rail7646]

really good video, actual a realistic approach not just random positivity and forcing yourself to be something you currently are not

[@cryptomnesiagirl]

Such great points! Making me rethink all the “self help” I’ve been giving myself. 🙃

[@merc5333]

31:05 I have kept on thinking about this since I last watched this the other day. I can't say I have ever looked at a cloud and that "that's an imperfect cloud" nor to a wave. Some are more interesting, or I see odd looking things in it, but that's how the human brain do, we try to find faces in things. But I digress, no, I have not once looked at these things and thought they're wrong. And it's not every day something healthy sticks in my head easily. Thank you for your videos, I have been in an extremely bad pit in life. And I appreciate your calm, simple and fun way you explain how the brain shouldn't run on bad memories, bad thoughts, bs people have put in it and the brain thinks it's okay to keep on keeping on. Nice big hug for you. ♥️ Oct 26, 2024

[@Yepee_04]

Thank you so much for spreading knowledge and awareness! I've never realized how much there was to self-esteem until I saw this video 🐉🐬🦋

[@AlexanderAdams-q1v]

Right now, your videos are the only thing keeping me moving forward. Thank you.

[@tedwilson1477]

The problem is when you dont feel ok, it doesnt feel like its ok to not feel ok, otherwise you'd feel ok.

[@svenofthejungle]

🐉🐬😺 Thank you for putting this one out in particular. I've been going through a crisis of self, and it helps to have a (seemingly) sane voice reassuring me that the process is painful but worth it.

[@toadsandtoads]

🐉 This channel has been a blessing for my journey. I am grateful for the many hours of advice you have freely provided on this platform. Thank you. 🐬 I'm a trans woman, and have been watching your essays and pieces for a little month now. You speak from a grounded perspective, which makes your material far more approachable. I believe you elevate your craft beyond the teachings of a typical "self-help" guru. You inspire me. 🐸 While it wasn't the focus of this video, I want to highlight your hour long "master class" on story-craft. In the video, you touched on an idea you entertained of monetizing the video. You wanted to slap a few on the video, and hide the knowledge from those who couldn't pay. The fact you didn't is testament to your character. Stay dangerous. The internet may not be real, but you are. From the bottom of my heart, thank you for all you do. (And cause hey, why not, I'm gonna add a super special extra fancy extra credit emoji. You're welcome or whatever I guess.) Forge your path, and destiny will follow! Much love!! ☯️

[@sabinaleitoiu3091]

I never left the chair, 100% strapped on I really enjoy your points of view on this topic and honestly a lot of them I resonate with. I'm always on the cusp between being prideful and becoming lazy, and something that's always haunted me (conditioning from my childhood) was to never become average because then you become content with your life, and thereby settle for that instead of grow. Thanks for sharing this wonderful piece of knowledge!

[@nakiazagorski5361]

Outstanding. So on point with the destructive repercussion of social media.

[@josephkokomo1752]

I have enough self-esteem. Enough to know the answers are inside me and as I do discover them there is no need for me to share them, as we all become ready when we're ready.

[@estherchandy6292]

"Social media is a platform to tell you WHAT to want". Well said! Here's another gem from another channel "You cannot buy yourself into a new personality "

[@jennodine]

Someone said that self esteem is a misnomer. I think it was Sam Vaknin. I think it’s more like an oxymoron because esteem can’t come from within. Self esteem and self confidence are related terms. Etymology of the word confidence: con means with and fidelity means trust. You build confidence when you earn the trust of others. When your boss or your parent signals that they don’t believe in you, it erodes your self confidence and esteem.

[@mylegguy8115]

It does come from within. You can’t have your self esteem based on the external because if those material things are gone then you’re left with yourself, and guess what you won’t like it. It comes from within and then it is outwardly into the world. That’s how it works. But you gotta take action along with your mental progression.

[@fraseroliver17]

Channel appeared for me at a time in my life when I desperately needed it. Thank you. Keep going. You're doing work that we need. Love from Solihull

[@LabradorPeninsula]

This are some of my thoughts and maxims that have helped me improve in the feelings discussed here. 1. Love yourself it's not the same as treat yourself with love. For me beginning to treat myself like I would treat my best friends or loved ones have propelled my growth and steadiness in difficult situations. 2. Define yourself in as loose terms as possible. Don't limit yourself with stereotypes or terms like. I am a scientist or I am an artist. Because I find that then you feel cognitive dissonance when even considering deviating from your own definition of yourself. Keep your self image blurry, don't worry about who you are, worry about what you do, what your values are and where are you trying to get to. 3. Self reflection, consciousness and mindfulness. You can't understand yourself unless you let yourself experience all your feelings. Stop whatever you are doing and relax, exercise, go for a walk or meditate. Sit and ponder about your situation, how things made you feel and try to figure why. You will go deep. Meditation is a great way of getting your brain to hit you with your trauma and feeling as if you were suddenly illuminated by the cosmos. Practice it, learn to do it, it will get easier over time. As everything, it is difficult to find the path to better places, the key is to take it as a game, explore yourself and others, face the fear of changing your life, and explore your oldest dreams and passions. You will be surprised at how far you can reach. Buena suerte, wish you all the best.

[@vivvy_0]

i’m a void, I don’t know what I’m doing and where to go. I’m trapped in a house of mirrors maze, full of excessive self-reflection and overanalyzing every little step I do with no way to ever get out of this this hellscape that is my consciousness.

[@LabradorPeninsula]

@@vivvy_0 the nature of exploration can feel overwhelming, as we venture to places we are not familiar with. To face this the explorer attempts to calm herself down, looks out into the world instead of into herself, and with the calm that every situation can be dealt with one way or the other proceeds in the direction she finds best. When she discovers that said direction did not take her to the place she wanted to be in she proceeds to explore the other paths, as she knows that the real value it's in the act of exploration more than in the place said exploration leads to.

[@thebluebeyond2329]

I love listening to this guy when l spiralling out of my mind. I listen and write down things that inside coincide with current life experiences.

[@brianh5844]

I've always felt that narcissism is a compensation for a more deeply submerged and profound self-loathing. The same is true for bullying in my experience, but for insecurity rather than self-loathing. This is why you cant necessarily rely on interviews or questionairres that so often predominate psychological literature/data. A close observer of humans would see plainly that a narcissist does not have genuine love for themselves. If they did, they would be able to offer genuine love for others. Love is a connecting force, it is not synonymous with an inflated ego. Trying to make bullies or narcissists feel bad as a way of correcting their behavior is unlikely to be very productive, unless you first repair their wounded relationship to self which is likely to take deep trauma and attachment healing work. When they have a secure base of inherent worth and value, they are more able to genuinely explore the ways their behavior is affecting others and for guilt to be a productive emotion.

[@EMoney513]

Thank you for your time and attention seriously thank you 🥲

[@LesTutosbyGhita]

🐉🐬💅 I took notes on my journal like in a lecture. my biggest takeaways are these: to not demonize negativity, i think i've started to verge on that after reading how to win friends and influence people. to engage in anonymous creative work. the definitions of strength and weakness, to rank my values, to read the fall and ego is the enemy. i'll ask myself more the question of "did i dismiss an achievement because i didn't see it as good as another?" guiltyy. and many other light bulb moments of course this is a gradual work and I can't do it all at once so i'll add it to my journaling sessions and will try to reflect more on my self esteem in general. very valuable stuff as always thank you so much!

[@NewelOfKnowledge]

LET'S GO! Hearing you took notes makes me happy. Thank you for your dedication :)

[@dylanl6445]

@@NewelOfKnowledge I also took notes: more than 13000 characters lol (I added some thoughts from me)

[@NewelOfKnowledge]

@@dylanl6445 13000 CHARACTERS AHAHA! awesome stuff.

[@odedsayar4345]

I discovered your content last week and it helps me draw out a better me - so first of all thank you >> less pleasure for meat lovers) rather than priority (animal > human). You could obviously inject more nuance there, and have a different opinion on the veganism question, but just for the sake of demonstrating Another example could be valuing my own well being over others, but willing to forgo some me-time to help a friend in an acute need

[@MrRagnarxx]

I am starting a month long tech detox today and aim to re-focus my mind on my love of playing instruments, reading, and sports. This has been immensely helpful in focusing me on that goal and I love your videos in general

[@michaelgardner1681]

🐉🀄🐬 Dear Lewis, you may feel justifiably proud of your work in this channel;Excellent and getting better each time. Thank you 🤗

[@slice66]

I love that you leave lots in your video. Keeps you real.

[@ashikdennis9202]

Thanks man ! You and Dr. K are my constants on youtube

[@kevincoudureszenz5357]

🐲🐬 🐦‍🔥 Thanks for talking about narcissism at the end. I believe part of what makes it difficult for me to improve my self-esteem is the fear of becoming like that. As always, great content!!

[@oliolioliX]

Im so early, love ur videos man

[@gantonstepfire3716]

Me too man but this was a complete accident

[@Thecatlovver]

It took me almost two days to actively listen to it and understand it. It was really nice to hear all of the things u explained in a deeper level. Thank you for your efforts 🐉🐬

[@Brainhacker013]

It's a new dawn, it's a new day, I've trimmed my mustache. You're so alive man, I'm really happy for you.

[@crepuscularwintersky]

Actually, YOUR videos make me feel inspired.

[@Zelta.]

my fav yt channel right now ur the man

[@IAM2CAN]

People are great in ruining things : Ruining other their confidence making them think they are ''broken'' while in reality we all have this confidence inside, but let others ruin it.

[@Anna-Amoroso]

Great video! I agree with everything apart from the statement that bullies and successful people have self esteem, I don't think that is always the case.

[@dylanl6445]

One of the best video about self-esteem; thank you ! The previous video about self image is very good too ! 🐉🐬♥

[@oliver7011]

Haven't finished video yet, but this is why I strive for self acceptance, I don't need self love, but self honestly... acceptance of myself the good and bad

[@ericrus]

🐉🐬👀 Love your channel! I'm from Brazil, passing through a lot of bad things right now and your video became very useful to understand some things and deal with it in a healthier way. Thanks a lot!

[@hypatch8014]

🐉🐬What a great video, you addressed all my doubts about self esteem, perfectionism, narcissism, values, assertiveness, how it fits together. Gonna be working through this one, if I beat my perfectionism which says I gotta do all of these other things first

[@KrisKazmierski]

Ego is not my enemy it's part of the human being that I live in. But my ego works for me much as a horse and I'm the rider who has control of his horse.

[@robertososa4503]

You are setting up your channel for huge success my man. Keep the awesome work!

[@Reddiscodancer]

Good affirmations dont bypass, they dont state obvious lies, they begin where it's possible to find an access point.

[@caroc1630]

33:05 took me out 💀🤣😂. Great video btw!

[@DivoGo]

So that’s where that came from!!!!!!!! I’m a California native!!!! That moment has done sooooo much damage! In the 80’s I was already out of high school and in my early 20’s. I didn’t have a clue!

[@Mindset-withPatricke4]

This really changes how we think about self esteem.

[@TheTrunchy]

Thanks for the unique style of conveyance. Good and bad advice is a mixed bag out there, but it seems too much good advice typically gets said one way without explanation.

[@j.2057]

I just found this channel through this video, and it's amazing! Thank you so much for your work!

[@marcelvandermeulen2219]

🐲🐬🐘 Great video, so well explained. My key takeaway is that self esteem is learned behaviour and we can always make small steps to improve. With two main risks: (1) not taking action and not starting a positive spiral, (2) becoming overly positive leading to narcissistic tendencies

[@Jenny1981ism]

Thank you for sharing your truths, I’ve passed this on to some great people. I really enjoy your work, be well!

[@xedfr__9620]

I should have been doing my simulations class assignment, but I am glad I watched this instead. i think I kinda already knew most of those things but I never actually realized them, as it wasn't spoken out. Thank you so much for this video, I really needed it exactly now.

[@ninasky8975]

The strapped on comments are gorgeous

[@lee420129]

There is a solution, the brain hasn't thought of it yet. Great presentation ;)

[@clockworkzen]

Finally subscribed. Love your voice, and your sense of humor, and your lovely take on psychology with a philosophy spin that agrees with a lot of the viewpoints I have myself. And I'd love to share your content around to my friends, but I find myself in a bit of a pickle because I know my friends... and they have ridiculously short attention spans. So! While I personally love your content and don't mind engaging with longer form content, please consider maybe... boiling down or otherwise compartmentalizing your content into some sub-twenty minute episodes, perhaps with multiple parts as need be. It's really good stuff though! Keep up the great work!