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@selmawillam75504 ай бұрын
A woman’s intuition is never wrong. There’s a lot of information here but I can’t remember all of them whilst dating..hence I’d prefer to follow how I feel in my body whilst also already underlying my beliefs, values, and what I need.
@earth_and_spice2 ай бұрын
@@selmawillam7550 this is a great tip and reminder. I'm needing reminders to feel, feel, feel because my mind talks me past red flags!!
@CorporateQueen5 ай бұрын
Thanks Bern. Been doing the work and been single for years, working on my self. Just met a really great conscious guy!
@BernMendez5 ай бұрын
So glad to hear that!
@CorporateQueen5 ай бұрын
@@BernMendezYour videos have been part of it. Thank you. ❤
@meetandinspire5 ай бұрын
"Boundaries are not demands."
@BernMendez5 ай бұрын
Glad this was useful.
@earth_and_spice5 ай бұрын
Aha moment here, something I've been working out for a while, is that my desire to have boundaries and stick with them was contrary to the people pleasing, being a pleasant and flexible woman that culture trained me to be. I'm learning now.
@Cookingcousin5 ай бұрын
All of your videos are so calming, I love watching because it really feels like a virtual coaching session.
@BernMendez5 ай бұрын
Glad this was helpful.
@Missmarymac0125 ай бұрын
I grew up in the 80s and it seems like these came naturally to women once they decided they wanted to settle down. We did these without consciously knowing it.
@Morgan3135 ай бұрын
We didn’t have dating apps and video calls in the 1980s.
@Rhjnkiitewsxbmlp5 ай бұрын
Thank you SO MUCH for all this examples. Everybody is like “set boundaries” but for someone who has never set them and basically has neglected her needs all her life it’s really hard to know what that sounds like. I feel like now I have a map to help me navigate the dating scene after all this horrible years, I have been really depressed for this exact reason lately 😢🙏🏻 thank you again
@pageremick55045 ай бұрын
You always share the most interesting things! Love these boundaries and you are right... this will show who is a serious contender for our attention, versus the player or self-centered guy. I'm bookmarking this till I make sure I have these instilled in myself! Thanks!
@BernMendez5 ай бұрын
Thank you for your kind words, Page : )
@jeanettebrooks19635 ай бұрын
I am definitely subscribed to this useful information!
@BernMendez5 ай бұрын
Welcome aboard, glad you found this helpful.
@donnagudalovic66175 ай бұрын
This is great info! I have learnt a few things by watching this and feel more comfortable about dating
@reemsaif31053 ай бұрын
I love the video interview first :) powerful 🎉
@melissagennis97445 ай бұрын
Thank you for the great tips ❤Love your videos. Really appreciate advise /help 💞
@BernMendez5 ай бұрын
You are so welcome, Melissa.
@aceanyconcept3375 ай бұрын
Great tips! Thanks for sharing
@dandusudha25135 ай бұрын
The idea of non exclusivity to be mentioned is weird. If a man says this to me, I wouldn’t even want to go meet him for a talk.
@BernMendez5 ай бұрын
Why? What is wrong with expressing that you are open to dating other humans so that there are no misinterpreted expectations. Believe it or not, many guys think that once you go on a date with them, you will naturally drop all other connections to focus on him.
@gemstar74475 ай бұрын
Being exclusive is my natural inclination but I see how that has not helped me 😅 And I get the concept of being open to getting to know other men at the early stages of dating coz yeah.. exclusivity is a kind of commitment..
@earth_and_spice5 ай бұрын
Why do you want to commit to someone you don't know? Why do you want someone to commit to you when they don't know you? What does having this be openly communicated mean to you?
@gemstar74475 ай бұрын
I just didn’t see it as a commitment before. It’s just easier for me to get to know one person at a time. My brain can’t handle trying to get to know/make multiple connections/ dealing with multiple sources of information at once. It’s hard enough processing information from one source! 😅
@dandusudha25135 ай бұрын
@@BernMendez Thanks for info. I meant this after a few times of meeting and the guy expressing intentions of marriage. I am not designed to talk to more than one at a time. I consider it immoral. Something says so. I try to get to know persons intentions and if he is serious of me and i find that atleast few basic things i look for are there in him, i would want to be excllusive too. But i learnt not to be emotionally invested because, guys tell lies constantly and may be he is doing the same thing he did withme with others too. Atleast in my case the man was narcissistic and perpetually lied and he repeated the same with 100 of women as far as i know. Before knowing that, he seemed all ok for me and he expressed too much interest in me and i wasnt knoiwng of narcissm then. Only after the lies, betrayal, i learnt something called narcissism. My conclusion is as long as the family is not involved, guys keep taking advantage of women emotionally atleast. In my case i was having strong boundaries physically but i trusted and got emotionally involved and trusted the man a lot.
@Dorothy355 ай бұрын
Great tips ❤
@BernMendez5 ай бұрын
Glad you like them.
@AlexandraTabares15 ай бұрын
Empathy
@BernMendez5 ай бұрын
Alexandra, thank you for watching.
@run_eclipse5 ай бұрын
What if they're good person, have same values and vision of relationship and family but we have different political views?
@BernMendez5 ай бұрын
Having different political views doesn’t need to be a dealbreaker however having a significant discrepancy in values (which sometimes is also reflected in political views) might be.
@flopoirer69575 ай бұрын
Thank you❤️❤️❤️
@janechapman78015 ай бұрын
Why are we calling people toxic instead of behaviour, how can we help them so that they don't feel so disconnected and therefore behave better towards others including us women.
@BernMendez5 ай бұрын
I agree the term toxic is often overused and too simplistic at the same time the Behaviors can be toxic and highly detrimental towards a good life. Additionally a Subject line with 150 characters that explains it all would not work for KZbin or perhaps even to catch your attention to watch this video. So point taken AND it's more complicated than it seems.
@LinnLinnok-fe5tq5 ай бұрын
It’s not our job to fix them. Weed out the trash and move on.
@CorporateQueen5 ай бұрын
Some people are toxic. Dated them.
@janechapman78015 ай бұрын
@@LinnLinnok-fe5tq they need help from some source because clearly their not ready for a relationship yet other side we should all give up.
@melissasmuse5 ай бұрын
Fixing someone is not your job, it’s theirs.
@carmenwalsh29245 ай бұрын
Thank u
@Kashmir-lt4cx5 ай бұрын
@7:13-7:24 well I heard that's when he will do all the right things til then.🙄
@BernMendez5 ай бұрын
Not sure what you mean. :)
@Kashmir-lt4cx5 ай бұрын
@@BernMendez like be 100% polite til the day.
@DemiMalone5 ай бұрын
😭😭I wish I came across this channel 10 years ago,am 29.
@BernMendez5 ай бұрын
You can benefit for the next 60 years of life still : )
@lyndamcmullen55065 ай бұрын
❤❤❤❤
@BernMendez5 ай бұрын
Thank you : )
@amandakropen32735 ай бұрын
Never married, no kids after 40 means RUN! Too inflexible.
@CorporateQueen5 ай бұрын
Not really. Some men put everything into their careers..and do it later. I've met.some lovely no kids single men.
@BernMendez5 ай бұрын
I agree with you : )
@niewieder995 ай бұрын
@@BernMendezwait… do you agree with the OP or the second comment? 😮
@dandusudha25135 ай бұрын
The opposite means sexually promiscous people. The best are single and not yet taken. They have patience to wait and have achieved a lot and matured a lot by this time of 40. The rest find someone so soon and do not know life lessons and cannot deal alone mostly. Are always looking out of marriage for find and pleasure.
@amykirchmann83745 ай бұрын
I’m 39, single, no kids, female- so it’s not true… just haven’t been able to meet someone yet.