How Narcissists 'Change' by Changing YOU: Narcissistic Personality Swap

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@amgod40 14 күн бұрын

Thank you so much for this. I started being the one to explode several months ago and it was really startling. The roles had flipped and is exactly as you described

@ACollectionOfBookmarks Ай бұрын

Thank you for explaining this, I hated who I had to be to maintain that unhealthy relationship. I thought I could help them heal from their depression but now I have to focus on being myself again. I wish them healing, but not at my expense. They need to do the work if they really want to change.

@reettaelina Ай бұрын

I love your style❤🎉beautiful

@rebeccadevries2824 28 күн бұрын

Omg. Before meeting my ex I used to meditate all the time and when we started dating he kept telling me I didn’t need to do that, that our conversations could take place of it. He hated giving me any time to myself. Then in the end after leaving him all of a sudden he’s telling me how he meditates and does yoga every day and how amazing he felt, while I felt angry, depleted, and the hardest time getting back into those things I loved doing before him.

@sayno2672 Ай бұрын

They are waiting for you to reach the point "can't take anymore". DON'T FALL for it. I have been there myself and NOT worth of dealing with them. Life is given for higher purpose. Don't waste on EVILS.

@eph2vv89only1way Ай бұрын

Yup. My ex would punish me if I was out for more than half an hour without him. He got me to the point that I even delayed going to the hospital when I had appendicitis and by the time I did go - and I only went because I didn't want to spoil my daughter's birthday in 2 days by dying - the infection had spread to my intestine. I divorced him when he went to prison for sexually abusing my oldest daughter. The day after his release I was fishing with a friend and had a sense of foreboding that I couldn't shake. I mentioned it to my friend. Her response was, "Didn't Barry get out of prison yesterday?" When I confirmed it she then asked, "Didn't you say he used to punish you for going out without him?" Bingo! She hit the nail on the head! Once the cause was identified the feeling went away.

@Seanus32 Ай бұрын

A very useful video! This swap is very harmful and when one loses one's natural enthusiasm for life, it can be hard to get it back. Deep breaths, plenty reflection and look for support.

@Philip-z3n 27 күн бұрын

Thank you Michelle for this perspective. It is eye opening!

@GMSTP Ай бұрын

it was 9 months before I could sit down...hips not used to it...1.5 years of therapy and reading piles of books...wow.

@Yvagne Ай бұрын

Thank you for this video, Michele! That is true but for some empaths or super empaths, they can actually read whatever the narcissists are throwing. We serve as their mirror to their personality but what is crazy is that they also imitate you and do the mirroring back to you.😁 But you read them all the time, step after step. So if they know you know what they are up to, they involve more people (triangulation) because for them truth is greatest when greater number of people believe that truth. That being said we see them as people who only operate on ideas, images and polarization, no substance. For empaths, I say our memories are strong and our identity is always preserved. The narcissists will always lose finding themselves because they keep searching for supply that does not last long.

@ElizabethO-m2p Ай бұрын

He hated when I read

@lo-ul8nq Ай бұрын

So Very True 👍

@JoyleiaJo Ай бұрын

Epic 7:57 Ridicule, negative conditioning 5:16 7:24 personality

@ElizabethO-m2p Ай бұрын

They copy me, the real me, all the time.

@lo-ul8nq Ай бұрын

Same here

@lo-ul8nq Ай бұрын

My mother is a Narcissist, she copy's me , all the time. She is always into my business, she is controlling, plays mind games and a lot more. I see through her with everything. I know my worth and values. Don't fight with a Narcissist at all.

@tiagonthego Ай бұрын

Thank you so much for this video🫶🏾❤️

@MarlaFernandezBenavides Ай бұрын

It’s how the public school system teaches you how be

@GaryPocisk1 Ай бұрын

Hello there how are you doing today and how is the weather conditions as well 💗💗

@michaelminor77 29 күн бұрын

In the end I experienced a change I stopped caring. Now it seems I got to see how the narc feels.

@AlluAdarsh Ай бұрын

05:26 This is exactly what my narcissistic father said to me during my entire childhood. But he cleverly masked that by saying that 'You need to study now. When the vacation comes, you can read books'. The funny thing is, to the outside world he is a vivid reader.

@Paul723 Ай бұрын

Great.

@barbaralewis-heywood3621 Ай бұрын

I would like to do your group therapy!

@GaryPocisk1 Ай бұрын

Hello there how are you doing today and how is the weather conditions as well 💗💗

@Armored_Saint Ай бұрын

girl you know it's true. - milli vanilli (1988)

@yuu_miran Ай бұрын

I never had a chance to become me, until 13 yrs old i was more alive living with my late mother who lived a turbulent life and i had no choice but to be a part of it but at least she gave me some love and i remember some joyful moments however even then im not sure i was myself not a fawning accomodating calm dauther. After 13, having to live with my late father and his side of a family has totally ruined me. Even now some narcissists keep me in fear day after day and theres no escaping so i guess i just have to accept of whatever my existence on this earth is about and keep going as long as i can.

@donviloche Ай бұрын

I stick with Jesus…that’s what I do. He helped me to make changes in myself that have led me to freedom. Plus I always have a friend. God bless you and as you seek Him may He reveal Himself to you. ♥️🕊 Also read the Bible…just not the parts that would attempt to devalue you as a female. Religion is bad about that, but God is not like that.

@iw9338 Ай бұрын

Dang, I was just thinking I've become the narc😢😮. Wow 😮

@krushnadurga600 Ай бұрын

Kyu toda Mera DIL??

@lisazidlick1650 Ай бұрын

Spot On!!! Makes me Sick! 🥵

@annettebierkos7928 Ай бұрын

My husband pushes my buttons by not doing what he said he would do. We have this broken down car taking up space in the car for many years and hooks me on the line by saying this summer but then he just doesn't and he knows it frustrates me

@yougotgroove Ай бұрын

Intermittent reinforcement

@benjamin734 Ай бұрын

Yeah, I'm messed up, I don't know myself I'm confused often wonder if I'm a narissist, if I'm being selfish, the level of narissist abusive I have experience is pretty high, the past few years have only gotten worse, I'm insulted called weird , there's no closer, I stay silent during years of abuse I have one reaction it gets twisted and I end up looking like I'm the one who has a problem, and I do believing the future fake and lies of a narissist,not following my gut, and continuing to be with someone who, doesn't care , who calls me weird who's abused me with there family, turning everything around on me making me look like I'm a horrible person, the COVID pandemic doesn't have shit on the real pandemic pleging America, narcissism & narissist the pandemic of our time. I do see the conditioning and the narissist calls me crazy,stupid, weird, and the level of abuse just seems to get worse.

@FlockingNerds Ай бұрын

The hard part is I was healing and then the pandemic hit …and now we live with a stupid spike protein that can destroy the body if you get infected to much…and if you have a family you try to protect and are trying to keep healthy you feel you are in constant stress over the winter months which is like half the year pretty much it is depressing when you finally heal and get the will to live and then the pandemic holds us back…anybody comment if they been abused and now have fear of the unknown and the virus always being around pisses them off :(…I feel depressed cause I don’t feel free anymore and it is like the world is a battle field and trying to survive it …if it was just me I don’t care…but when you have a child and people you worry about it different my fear is I protect them now from a world that I feel is cruel and unjust…narcs are everywhere and even more in are medical system …it makes me depressed there are no quality people any more …I feel alone and sad …I have no family cause they are all narcs and to busy just holding my house hold together cooking cleaning and making sure everyone’s needs are met I am to tired to have a social life :(…and there is no time left in the day…and even if you do have time …what kind of a$$hole are you going to meet this time…they are becoming so covert it is literally so hard to see them …depressed…who feels me????? Any takers???

@dvash6231 Ай бұрын

How can they all do these exact same things without having ever met each other? Because this is exactly what they do. Why can the victims change back to normal, but the narcissists won't? Will they one day when they are old perhaps?

@Philip-z3n 27 күн бұрын

Anyone can change, but only if they want to. We only have the power to change ourselves and nobody else. How do you tell someone they are wrong if they believe they are not? From my experience they never change the selfish and self righteous behaviors. It only gets worse...

@iw9338 Ай бұрын

I'm so upset with myself,I came back😢😮. I can't take the silence, and yet he talks to everyone else

@eph2vv89only1way Ай бұрын

Don't beat yourself up. You were likely trauma bonded and definitely hoovered. Learn, deal with the emotions, heal, and move on, but don't beat yourself up.

@Philip-z3n 27 күн бұрын

I agree - don't beat yourself up. The things he do is not a reflection on you. It is a reflection of who he is.

@MarlaFernandezBenavides Ай бұрын

So good and we need to partner up

@FlockingNerds Ай бұрын

I wonder 💭 if any other survivors feel edgy with the constant pandemic we live in and here is some sad info in case anyone did not know the number one profession a narc will get into is a doctor … so they can feed off our pain and suffering I seen plenty in the system …. So with that knowledge and a mysterious spike protein always around and a vulnerable child I am trying to protect it does not give me much joy honestly living in our world today …in the summer I do t worry as much …but still feel sad in the reality we live in …:( and no way do I trust the 0:12 0:12 psychopaths and there idea of what protecting myself is suppose to look like …lmfao !!!!

@kenyettagould6364 Ай бұрын

How sick 😮

@Cararara1987 Ай бұрын

God revealed to me, the enemy sends narcissists into your life to change your character. To turn you back on God, to become resentful, controlling, angry etc. The way forward is spending time with God and good-hearted people who you can then re-stabilse yourself and are able to be the real you.

@GaryPocisk1 Ай бұрын

Hello there how are you doing today and how is the weather conditions as well 💗💗