It seems like the judge, police, and DV advocate were all proceeding without stopping to think about what the actual facts were...which is standard behavior in the family court circus. Do you think your ex did this out of revenge, because you were cheating on her? Is she making you pay for that?

Thanks for the positive feedback. The system is a beast indeed. The question we have to ask is, "Do we throw it in the garbage and create a better system from scratch?". Any new system must not include any people associated with the current system...they are poison.

That's a great question and I think you are referring to the Fake Laws I describe in Episode 7D....and I hope everybody watches that one. When I use the term Fake Law I'm talking about the incorrect thought process and methodology judges use to decide custody. I can think of 2 types of fake laws: *The first one is when a judge literally interprets and applies the law completely wrong. For example, it's when a judge makes a custody decision based on 2 or 3 points... But the law says we have to look at ALL the best interests factors and the total circumstance. My judge was using that tactic. But in my testimony, I didn't publicly accuse my judge of getting the law completely wrong, because I knew she would get defensive and angry about being embarrassed in front of her co-workers in court. Instead, in my testimony I covered about 12 best interests factors, to show I was a better parent at all of them (like I'm teaching in Episode 11). And I blocked the judge from finding any random 2 or 3 points she could use to justify her rubber stamping the mother. *The second type of fake law consists of the gender biased stereotypes that judges use to make custody decisions...without looking at the actual facts. Unfortunately, judges don't often announce their dumb stereotypes. So when a judge is making decisions against you for no reason, you have to think that there is some dumb stereotype in their head, driving their thought process. But they won't say what it is. (Sometimes they do if you're lucky, so you can contradict it.) For example, one stereotype is the idea that the mother is better at taking care of an infant child from the age of 1 to 4 years old. I did not accuse my judge of having that gender biased idea because again I suspected she would just get angry. Instead, I testified in detail about how I cared for my son when he was an infant, talking about changing diapers, bathing him, providing him safety, and feeding him throughout a typical day (like I discussed in episode 11B). That's how I proactively destroyed (as a matter of fact, without accusing the judge) that stereotype in my judge's head, even though I couldn't be 100% sure that's what she was thinking. More importantly, there are many common stereotypes judges use ( episode 7D), and you have to testify about all of them because you don't know which one is in their head. And just show the facts of your case to prove that this stereotype is not true in your case.... So the judge can't even use it....without saying that it's a biased stereotype the judge is using. It's kind of like a game of psychological warfare against the judge, where you are trying to get into the judge's head... And you are trying to teach them that their entire thought process is wrong. But without saying it directly, because they will just get angry. As you stated you have to shake-up the judge and their thought process, because otherwise they just keep doing what they always do, in the worst interests of the child.

Thank you for the positive feedback. My videos are about 15 minutes each and I hope that parents watch them one at a time, on their way to work or during other breaks, and over a period of time they can watch all of them to learn what they need to know.

Thanks for your comment. My ex has actually tried to engage an alienating behaviors. While we lived together, she often threatened to never allow me to see our son again. And after I got custody, she insults me to him, she tells him that I am satan. But he has primarily lived with me for most of his life, he knows what reality is, so her efforts have gone nowhere and he just becomes angry with her for insulting me. But as you state, many other fathers have had much worse experiences than me in terms of alienation. If I did not get primary custody, I would definitely be an alienated father right now.

Thanks for sharing your experience in South Carolina. It has also been my experience that getting transcripts can take a few weeks....which is fine if you have a very long trial process, with court dates a couple of times a month, for many months or years. But if you have trial dates on Monday and Wednesday and the final decision on Friday, then you cannot gey the court transcripts fast enough. But hopefully, you get the transcripts in time in case you need to file an appeal, or a motion for reconsideration. And the idea that you might not get transcripts from them at all is absurd to me because those are a necessary part of the process. Not sure how they can get away with that.

@FatherX2022 , I had two temporary hearings (Mar 23' and Oct 23') in which my attorney, his co-counsel, the GAL, and the plaintiff's attorney provided false statements to the tribunal, manufactured false evidence, and suppressed all of my exhibits (did not submit them to court). I've filed ODC complaints, and all four are under Supreme Court investigation (lawyers protecting lawyers, it seems thus far). Since then, my attorney\s were recused in Jan 24', and the GAL was recused 23 Jun (unfortunately they are appointed another), and at each of those hearings I submitted my evidence, but each judge said they were only ruling on the recusal. I'm now in the process of filing petitions to hold her in contempt (the judge ordered my attorney to do this at the October hearing for denial of contact, however, he never did and even refused 6 days after court (hence the ODC)) and to produce discovery. Thank you for your time and effort, God bless you!

Thanks for sharing. Sounds like you are on top of your case. You said, "at each of those hearings I submitted my evidence, but each judge said they were only ruling on the recusal." That sounds normal. Each "hearing" has a specific intended legal question and scope. If they are there to talk about recusal, then the question on child custody isn't to be addressed, on that day. But you need an actual trial or hearing date to present evidence on the custody matter. And if this started with a Temporary hearing March 23, and it's 1.5 years later, you need to push for a final trial date for the custody matter asap....does that sound about right for your case?

@FatherX2022 , yes, trial is set for April 25'. I wouldn't say I'm on top yet, but your content is definitely helping me get there; thank you again!

Wow...trial is 8 months away. You have a lot of time to prepare. Please watch my Episodes 10 and 11, where I get into lots of detail about how to prepare your case. I hope it helps. Best of luck!

I don't know enough facts about your case. But in general my thoughts are: Is it still possible for you and your wife to reconcile and stay together? Also where would she go? Would that be temporary or permanent? Would it be out-of-state? *She does not have more rights to the children than you do. So if she wants to leave you, then a separate question is "where do the kids stay"? And if you want them to stay with you, then you have to sort that out with her. She does not have automatic rights to the children, even if she believes she does. *If she takes the kids to another state, for more than 6 months, then if you guys go to court, the kids will have residence in that other state... And you would have to fight for custody in a different state. You should look up Uniform Child Custody Jurisdiction and Enforcement Act (UCCJEA)...for interstate custody rules to confirm what I'm saying. * In general if a man and his wife are leaving each other, The father should not just let her take the kids without a written (even by email) parenting agreement between the 2 of you for fifty-fifty custody or something else. If you agreed to let her take the kids, then later on if you guys go to family court, the judge will look at that as if you agreed to let her have primary custody... And the judge is likely to let her keep primary custody because you agreed to it. So if you don't want that to happen, you have to take actions to stop her. Maybe you call the police. Maybe you email her in writing that you don't want her to take the kids. Maybe you file for a petition of custody in family court before she leaves or immediately after. And this all depends on the actual facts of your case.

I want to try and work things out. Ive told her we can both attend therapy couples.. but she said its too late. We been married for 4 years. Together for 10 years. She said shes going with her dying aunt. Thats a 2 hour drive from where i live. I dont know if its a permanent thing. But the thing is that where we live now our 4 year old was going to attend pre school and her work was just across the street from our kids school! Now she wants to change their whole world for the worst. I tried multiple times trying to tell her that our son ( we have 3 total two girls ages 1 and 3 and boy of 4 years old) need to go to pre school but she never bother to do so. So now idk what i can do. I told her that she cannot take the kids with out proper documentation from cort but she said that she doesnt care and that she made her mind.

Be aware that, for the long-term, a 2 hour drive back and forth makes 5050 custody very difficult.... Because when your kid goes to kindergarten he can't be commuting between towns that far apart. Moving 2 hours away will likely end up removing the children from your life for the majority of their life... Which may be in the best interests of the mother but not in the best interests of the children

I understand. This is why it's so important for dad's to make their own assessment of the best interests of their child... And not just rely on some clueless judge's assessment. And when you determine the correct answer, then you convince a judge of that correct answer. Although I recognize it's difficult to overcome the bias of many judges. *Based on the situation you proposed I would ask one question: What is more important for a child's development - Being primarily raised by the more emotionally stable parent....Or being primarily raised by a parent that is more physically healthy and has higher energy levels? I would say it's the former.

@FatherX2022 I feel the same. I'm just not sure if my evidence is enough. Not without completely destroying the bairn's mum. Is it in the best interest of the child for me to destroy her mum, leaving her with only one 75% functioning parent? Or is it better I take a step back, there to catch her if/when her mum drops the ball. So at least she'll have one 50% functioning parent and another not able/allowed to give the full 75% due to the obstacles set up by the other parent. Is 75% better than 50% +50%?

That's a difficult decision and there may not be an absolute right or wrong. And I don't think you'll find that answer by trying to quantify it. Instead I would challenge your assumption that if you fight the mother for custody that you would destroy her. What does that mean? Is that extreme thinking? Do you really believe that she would emotionally crumble if you challenged her for custody of your child, to the point where she would become a useless parent afterward? And if you are trying to protect the mother, then are you acting in the best interests of the mother versus the best interests of your child? Isn't the mother responsible for her own well-being? Your child's development will be primarily influenced by the parent she lives with the most. By far. So shouldn't that be the primary concern? Of course, I don't know the facts of your case, your court, or your likelihood of getting custody...So I can't tell you if it's worth the fight. You would know best. Also, think about the idea that in 20 years you will look back at your actions today. Which actions or inactions are you likely to regret?

@FatherX2022 having known my ex for 16 years I fear she's currently living in a delusion. If I shatter that delusion she'll need a LOT of therapy to get over that, given previous suicidal thoughts/attempts I'm not sure if she would manage to get through that process. While she's no longer my responsibility our bairn is. What if my attempt to do tge right thing causes her to lose her mum forever? I think for now I'm just going to try and settle on a compromise. Escalation to court is always possible. If I go to court now chances I'd win are low (due to gender bias) and it's almost guaranteed things can't be deescalated after that. It's a line of thinking I'll talk through with my therapist as well. Thank you for acting like a sounding board. The annoying thing is that there's unlikely to be a good answer and I'm just having to figure out which is the least worst.

It's a great idea to ask your therapist for their thoughts. My ex was borderline, suicidal and delusional. I also feared that challenging her in court would cause her to erupt in unpredictable ways, especially given her suicidal thoughts. But that never happened...So I was afraid of nothing. Of course, she is still borderline and crazy but that is the same as before. One of our couples therapists told me that when the mom engaged in crazy behavior, it was my job to hold up her behavior to her like a mirror so that she can see it...as opposed to sweeping it under the rug. So I did that and continue to do so. But that doesn't help or change anything either anyway. Of course, everybody is different, so it's a good idea to ask your therapist.

Thanks for taking the time to make this comment, and sharing your experience with Dr. Childress with this community. I saw one of his videos and see that he goes into technical depth on parental alienation and personality disorders. And he's based in California. Do you know him personally? Can you have him get in touch with me?

@@FatherX2022 I’m not associated with Dr Childress, I live in Estonia 🙂 But since I have discovered his work on KZbin I’ve been listening to a lot of his videos. As he also says, knowledge is the parent’s weapon against ignorance, this includes the mental health people and the legal system. Some other things he says include: The court needs a clearer voice from the mental health people to make better decisions. There are things to correct in the legal system but it’s the mental health people that need to act better first. It’s almost impossible for a child to reject a parent. If a kid rejects a parent and is doing well in other aspects of life, this is counter intuitive. The ignorant people involved will say, there must be something going wrong with that parent then. This child psychologist gives all the tools needed through his books and his videos to assess such a situation. He calls the forensic psychologists ignorant, incompetent and unethical, the worst imaginable for children’s needs (plus there is a Blue Ribbon evaluation of forensic psychologists in the state of New York that finds that the whole field of forensic psychologists is highly problematic, is beyond repair, and that it needs to go away from such court decisions). He has the knowledge to review forensic evaluations and nail their ignorance. His whole family are lawyers, so probably he’s not fearful going against a whole Psychologist field. Taking the proper legal and professional steps he has initially informed the American psychologist association for such problematic assessments. He has even printed a book with all the signatures of parents complaining to the APA. according to his code of ethics, he has taken the right steps to inform, and then he tries to spread the word of the forensic psychologists and mental health professionals incompetence as he has the right and obligation. Any parent wanting to get in touch with him should better schedule an e-meeting, more preferable through their psychologist or attorney. He doesn’t prefer to assist pro se parents because his licence is always at risk. More info for appointments on his consulting website. I haven’t seen him talking to “KZbinrs” if that’s what you’re asking here but it would be great to have more of them like you, talking about his work. He doesn’t seem that interested socialising to spread his word (I might be wrong) but prefers to focus on the quality of his work and this is why whenever applicable I will try to spread the word of his knowledge. So far he has appeared in interviews by Dorcy Pruder and he also endorses her and her Conscious Co-Parenting Institute. She has used data from that institute assessing alienated kids and he has developed a method that proves parental alienation. This is done through an attachment based model, not a theory of his own but based on clinical psychology construct. I need to say again that your work through your videos is inspirational. The need for a “presidential” tone that you describe, not an angry one (although justified), is also showing in your videos. Stating facts about courts (and many apply to different countries) without being angry as it doesn’t help anyway and the need to act accordingly. I’m happy that you have your kid now and I’m sorry what you’ve been through. Me personally I have almost zero funds for a big court fight, and as you AND Dr Childress suggest, I try to become knowledgeable in psychology related matters and recently in legal ones. Thanks again for your high quality work.

@@FatherX2022 He’s based in California but he’s available all over the world. If a court decides, he can be a second voice to a forensic psychologist, assessing custody related problems, or he can review later such a forensic evaluation, or he can assist a local mental health professional to support a parent in a court, in a way that wouldn’t put the local psychologist’s license at risk. His book Foundations seems a proper aid describing all the clinical psychology construct related to this pathology. As he explains, any local psychologist involved wouldn’t have any problem supporting a responsible parent that wants to save their kid from alienating behaviours, by using his work, his detailed book or his support through video calls.. In parental alienating behaviours, he describes as the biggest obstacle of a parent, finding a knowledgeable psychologist, willing to come to a court. There are four different fields that such a Psychologist needs to be knowledgeable, this is rather unlikely, he proposes to parents going either for an intimate partner, violence expert for mothers, as this type of psychologists can be rather tough and recognise the behaviours of a narcissistic or borderline or dark personality parent. For fathers, he suggest looking for a dialectical behavioural therapist to assist them, and if a court agrees, run his evaluation, as it is described in one of his books to see if it is either one parent psychologically abusing a child or the other parent that is actually neglecting or physically abusing the child. I am not an expert, but his method seems very proper, bulletproof and the one to be used in the next decades for sure when his work will spread and the forensic psychologists will be either changed or removed from the court system.

Thanks for sharing your thoughts. You raise an interesting point about if family court is broken: Is it the fault of judges and lawyers... Or is it the fault of psychologists? Or both? *I would say the blame primarily falls with judges and lawyers. I estimate that 80 to 90% of judges and lawyers are incompetent when it comes to thinking about the best interests of the child. But maybe 20 to 40% of psychologists might be incompetent....maybe that much. And if you consider social workers, I would estimate that most of them in the court system are also incompetent, like the judges and lawyers, because people in that ecosystem are lazy and incompetent. *If a forensic psychologist is being unethical or incompetent, I would guess that the primary driver of that is when they only spend an hour or 2 hours talking to each parent in order to understand what's going on. That's simply not enough time. So any forensic evaluator that comes to conclusions after 3 hours of work is probably being deceitful in their analysis. *My own forensic evaluator met with me and the mother for 8 hours each. She met other collateral witnesses, too. My forensic evaluator produced far more intelligent thought than any judge or lawyer in our case. I was lucky. But I do know that many other people do not have such luck.

@@FatherX2022It’s not me raising anything but Dr Childress. 😊 Your case didn’t have parental alienation but I’m commenting about parenting alienating behaviours because other dads divorcing may experience it, plus it’s almost impossible to prove it in courts. In the 80s it was Dr Richard Gardner that had correctly identified such pathogenic behaviours but according to Dr Childress he wrongfully tried to describe it as a new syndrome, although established clinical constructs were there already to describe it. He also gave different levels of its impact. All this made this highly problematic in courts: is it medium parental alienation or low level? Is this a real pathology? And so on. All other children pathologies can be identified with some symptoms appearing on a child. What makes parental alienating behaviours difficult to impossible to identify (given the ignorant, incompetent, unethical MH people usually involved) is that it can be proven by the ABSENCE of something: the targeted parent’s supposed abusing behaviours. In such cases, mental health people assessing and diagnosing this, need to be knowledgeable in four areas of clinical psychology and most forensic psychologists are knowledgeable to none, plus they claim that hat they don’t diagnose pathologies in court evaluations which is highly problematic as diagnosis guides treatment. To move on with a court decision and here needs to be a diagnosis. This is one of the most difficult pathologies a psychologist can face and only knowledgeable people can assess this. Instead of that they usually mention things like resist refuse dynamic or ptsd, but it’s usually not that case. Dr Childress is available to assist parents all over the world. A court can ask to have him as a second voice from the beginning of a custody evaluation or he can then review such an evaluation. In cases of parental alienation behaviours, he describes that the evaluations are so problematic that he has to go through line by line and for a 30 page of an evaluation he can return a 150 page one. His book Foundations, based on clinical constructs hasn’t ever been debated by anyone. He has so far survived 10 years in courts with many cases of getting reports of unhappy parents going against his licence. He has a lot of feee stuff on his website. IMHO he needs to make his content a bit easier to digest and it was Dorcy Pruter that had convinced him to make a four page version of his book Foundations, to have something to show in a court: “THIS is what we need to assess the situation and see which parent creates pathology around the child your Honor”. This is also available on his website. All this is probably far away from your experience in your own case, but I still insist to dive into his knowledge as it can help many parents (mostly fathers I’d say). Me as a random guy trying to spread his word is kind of wrong, he should have a 10-20 min video explaining these key points. I feel very lucky finding his work just two months ago. By seeing alienating behaviours and an aim from my ex wife to solve things in courts instead of cooperating through mediation, I went through some videos in my courts and children raising playlists on KZbin. Videos that o had saved but hadn’t watched them yet, although I had watched countless others. None of them were talking with such a clear voice and knowledge as this guy. Same kind of, applies for you. Other people talking about court battles may be lawyers that may give some good advice here and there, but most of the people aim to sell their masterclass packages or get them hired to help. You speak more clearly and very analytical. This is what men need in such cases. So two of those videos were from this psychologist and I am now convinced that even if I had unlimited budget to go prove parental alienating behaviours in a court, if I would go with the usual Parental alienation syndrome by Richard Gardner, I would definitely hit a wall. Since dr Childress also gives proper reasoning why everyone assessing such behaviours (like initia CPS people involved), are very soft or blind identifying such behaviours (fear and incompetence, he doesn’t make any comment about gender biased people and it good for him because his quality work won’t be tagged against mothers), everything in my case makes more sense and I feel that I had gotten to sleep by the reassuring comments of a play therapist, telling me that the kid is fine in general. Since I have almost zero budget for a court fight, I had tried to get in touch with him showing a refreshed website that I could design for him. But with no answer. If you need a website for all this btw, at no cost for an an 1-5 pages one or nearly no cost for a bigger one, just to help the rest of the parents out there, I’m here to help.

Sure. I have a calendly link on my KZbin homepage, where you can go and set up meetings: calendly.com/fatherx/30minutes

@@FatherX2022 Thank you. It says no dates in July 😓

Try booking the first available appointment. And then we can see if we can reschedule it for an earlier day.

I hear you, brother. It's not easy. She gets angry when I make decisions that don't exclusively serve Her best interests. It gets real old, real fast.

I totally agree that when they delay these hearings, then they use that as an excuse to say the mom has been primary custodial parent for a long time and we should just keep it that way. Time is your enemy in that regard. When you guys calendar dates for court, push really hard to accelerate the timeline. That scenario was a negative for me in my case, but it was the only negative. And I told the court that just because the mom had primary custody for 3 years, it should not mean anything because that decision was wrong to begin with...and it was not in the best interest of our child to begin with. So why would we keep that situation going now that the court has learned the truth? *You need to get through supervised visitation as fast as possible and get unsupervised parenting time. Having supervised visitation is the court's way of saying you have no hope to even get 50/50 custody...because we don't trust you at all. Keep asking them to cancel supervised visits and let you be a real parent. Best of luck to you and your kid.

Thanks for tuning in and sharing. judges are indeed terrible, as you say.

Thanks for tuning in, for your support, and for getting the message out. Much appreciated. Have a great weekend!

Thanks for the positive feedback. Glad my content is helpful. You asked great questions. They are key questions for many other dads, too. I'll get back to you with answers this evening, when I have more time to write a full response....as is merited by your question.

You asked a great question many dads need to think about: Is it necessary or helpful to use the borderline label...or any other mental health label? If you use a label, does it sound contrived, or does it sound like you reverse engineered the diagnosis? *In general, I recommend ignoring the diagnosis, or minimizing your discussion of it. (I am concerned there's an undiagnosed mental health issue.) And focus on the mother's behaviors & symptoms that are in the worst interests of the child. (You can discuss symptoms, without discussing the actual diagnosis.) That's especially true if you don't have a diagnosis from a psychologist to rely on...because most people don't read the DSM or understand different diagnoses, nor do they understand how to identify the correct diagnosis. There are lots of psychiatric illnesses out there. So without any professional input, it generally could look like you are coming up with a random diagnosis. *However, if you've spoken to a psychologist, with the mother, and there's a tentative or proven diagnosis, then it makes sense to talk about that from your point of view. *In my case, I HAD to testify about Borderline Personality Disorder. Why? Because our therapist told me the mom was borderline. And when I looked it up, I recognized the seriously negative impact on our child's future if she raised him. So when I filed my petition for custody, I stated the mother was Borderline & that our psychologist said so. At the time I was naive. I thought it would be obvious to a judge, like it was obvious to me, that if the mom was borderline, she should not have primary custody. And being borderline meant her problems were long-term and not temporary. So I put it in my petition on Day 1 because it was a material fact. However, as it turned out, the judge was clueless about borderlines and ignored it...early on. To make it worse, our psychologist decided to not testify at all. So I was left hanging out there with no backup. And the mother was accusing me in court of diagnosing her as a borderline by myself. So to back up my allegation in my petition, I HAD to testify about my talks with our psychologist. I had to do that to prove I was not lying in my petition about the borderline diagnosis. In hindsight, I learned the courts are 100% worthless when it comes to diagnosing, understanding, or helping to resolve mental illness, like borderlines. I learned that if you don't have an official diagnosis entered into testimony, then you might come across as just making stuff up. Dangerous. And then in my case the judge never determined if the mother was borderline or not. But I got custody based on the mother's violent and abusive behavior and other factors.

Yes, it is. Many people don't even know. I have to speak up about it. Thanks for your comment.

Well, the fear is normal, because you're entering an uncertain, random, and hostile environment in family court. Even though you have 100% custody, you still have to worry about courts screwing up your and your children's lives. But I hope my videos teach you how to defend yourself and your kids, and how to prove your case, especially with Episodes 10 and 11. If you want to chat, you can set up a Calendly meeting with me: calendly.com/fatherx/30minutes

Horrible? Absolutely. Savage. Be careful who you date and sleep with. The wrong person can ruin your life. Let my hindsight be your foresight.

I applaud you for taking on the role of 100% custodial parent, when mommy is unable to participate and you have to do all the work. And it sounds like this is a responsibility that you are embracing, instead of a problem that is forced upon you. Enjoy this time with your children. It's a great opportunity for you to show your children what they mean to you. I recommend you watch episodes 11 of my series where I go deeper into all of the best interest factors and how to prepare for court. I even have an episode on a parent’s alcohol abuse. You should also watch episode 10. As for child support, I don't know your state's rules, but in general it's not something you just have to ask the mom for...you can file petitions in court to have her pay you child support since you are the custodial parent. Child support is not supposed to be something that only men pay. Mothers need to take financial responsibility for their children also. So filing a petition for support in court may be the answer for you. In addition, regarding the stress of a child custody trial, it may or may not be easier with a lawyer by your side. But I think that if you want a real trial, with intelligent thought about what's best for your children, it's up to you as the parent to put in all of the effort to make the court understand reality. Even though I had a lawyer I still had to put in tons of work every week to organize my case. You are the expert on the facts, Not the lawyer. Stay strong, brother!!

Thanks for watching and for the positive feedback, brother.

To my knowledge, Google Scholar does not search case law in the UK, or any other country. I don't know what source to use for the UK. If you find out, can you share it with this community, please?

So she cheated, but you're the bad guy for texting her? Without knowing the details, I wonder if this is just the silver bullet being used against you. Make sure you watch my Episodes 2 thru 11, to understand all of what's happening here with protective orders, sole custody, and what's actually best for your kids. You need to educate yourself asap before the courts steamroll you.

@@FatherX2022 I must face reality and just accept what ever is coming. I spoke with an attorney and they said im pretty much screwed. I need to look out for my mental well being and focus on myself. Im a combat veteran and 80% disabled with ptsd and a bad back thank and im living on the edge of sanity right now. Thanks for all that you do.

I hear you. I just hope your not forced to make irreversible decisions for the next 15 years, just because you're in a bad spot now. Stay strong, brother. Best of luck. I know there are no easy options. 💪

@@FatherX2022 I really hope so too. I have 4 minor children. My ex has my house and I’m living with my mom. I get my kids every weekend while she goes out and has fun it’s a truly painful situation. I have another daughter that is 20 who is disgusted by her moms behavior and left the family home to come live with me, I don’t know where I’d be without her company. My mental health is in really bad shape and I can use all the prayers I can get, I made a lot of mistakes in my marriage as well, so I have a lot of regret. I am truly grateful for the words of encouragement, again thank you for all that you do I hope you have a great day and good luck with your channel.

Thank you. Remember that there is always hope...even if you don't know where or how or why. 🙏

Glad to help. You got this! 👍💪🙏

Thanks for tuning in! The easiest way to set up a time to meet is by scheduling it on my calendly: calendly.com/fatherx/30minutes

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Yes. WE are Father X.

Sorry it didn't work for you. Success depends so much on how stubborn, gender biased, or incompetent a judge is...versus how well you can teach them to do a good job. Same goes for the amicus or Guardian Ad Litem. *As for appeals, check out my Episode 10. Appeals require you to have introduced all the relevant evidence into the trial, and your claim that the judge violated the law by ignoring key best interest factors reflected in that testimony and evidence. Also, in the appeal, you would have to show that the judge's findings of fact were not consistent with the evidence and testimony introduced during the trial. But there's more detail in Episode 10. Act fast, because appeals are only allowed during a limited time period after the final decision, depending on your State law.

Do you offer personal services such as formatting the appeals process ?

If you want to discuss your case, you can set up time on my calendly: calendly.com/fatherx/30minutes For the actual formatting work on an appeal, 50 states have 50 formats...so it's best to get someone in your state that knows the rules on fonts, etc. But if you want to talk about your arguments, we can do that. Just know that between working and this project, I have limited bandwidth to take on an entire case, though, unfortunately. So I teach dads to do-it-yourself via my series. Thanks for tuning in.