Psychologist Shares What EVERY Parent Needs to Know | Being Well

[@JG-di8oi]

You both are so intelligent. I'm so glad the world has you!

[@revolutionary_evolution]

I JUST finished reading an article about the different qualities of little girls who grow up without a father figure. What synchronicities.👀🙌

[@nopeIdontthinkso388]

I was going to say 'you don't know how lucky you are', but I think you do know.

[@christinalayton345]

Would love to hear more details and experiences about parenting. This is a world I just recently stepped into as a new Mom and this was a very comforting podcast to listen to. Thank you.

[@catherinelent6908]

I just want to say that I feel personally responsible for putting you over the line from 9.9K followers to 100K! LOL. I just signed up today, and it was 9.9 this morning...I happily pushed that subscribe button after watching and enjoying several of your videos. You and your dad have SUCH a nice way with each other...it's healing my family stuff just watching you. :) Cheers!

[@dadSophia1]

Another super session guys. Great information and great modeling. I wish you explored more about how we draw on our own parenting, whether we like it or not. Be prepared for the following thought: I’m treating you (child) much better than I was treated. It requires a massive act of generosity, and a willingness to give what you haven’t been given. Just another sacrifice that parenting requires, and yet a reminder that the meaning of “sacrifice” is “to make sacred.” Thank you 🙏🏼

[@juliennethesabaldo-cubelo3212]

Thank you for this. This is just what I need in a damp rainy morning here in Manila, Philippines. I am an avid listener of this channel. I love these conversations between the two of you (and also the ones with Forrest and Elizabeth). I also acknowledge Rick’s feminist language and know-how. I truly appreciate the clarity in your voice and lucidity in the vocabulary. Thank you for sharing your expertise and vulnerability. Your conversations are a beauty to behold.

[@kaitlananderson4302]

Can you make separate videos going into more detail on each of the parenting parts: nurturing, aspiration, and authority. Various examples of them would be so helpful.

[@ALittleMoreZen]

Congratulations on 100K Forrest!

[@pb11118]

This was an interesting conversation as usual, thank you! I'm a single , neurodivergent parent with an autistic child. Honestly my experience as an educator has made me be the best parent for my kid. Also, I never had preconceived fantasies about my child before I had them. I always say 'deal with the child / person in front of you'. I follow Janet lansbury , Maggie dent & Susan stiffelman gentle and respectful parenting philosophies. Actually I used these methods as a teacher too. For me, I do find these methods VERY practical and concrete. Sportscasting has always worked with my son. When they were pre verbal and even more so , now. I think autistic adults in general often do interact with kids like they are little adults and I have to say, I've always experienced charisma with children due to this. I don't dumb things down, and I treat them like a regular person. I think it comes down to seeing the child in front of you and having that foundation of mutual respect. In actual fact, I find more autistic children to be kind and thoughtful and when I dated other single parents, their neurotypical kids were more prone to peer pressure and adhering to social norms. So this part I definitely agreed with. I am very alternative in my parenting style *screen free, no video games or junk food etc , and I have found that I cannot co parent with others with the above values. It's much more peaceful being single and having our chosen family around us for reciprocal support!

[@pb11118]

Also for context my parents were largely absent and are still very unempathetic and neglectful. I feel that moving out of home young & finding my own community helped a lot to not parent like them. So anyone who is afraid to become a parent because of their traumatic childhoods, I say parenthood is a way to break generational trauma. Or at least it can be if you do the work. It was a great framework of what NOT to do or be. Being there for my child is like reparenting myself as I deserved. Best catalyst ever!

[@denisel780]

This is such a beautiful and vulnerable podcast. Thank you.

[@evarosegger631]

This is the second episode I listen too and I must say it helps a lot. Thank you for making this kind of knowledge available for everybody ❤

[@anoncspan4129]

Thanks for the episode! Probably ten years too late for me, but thank you.

[@wpankey57]

I just found your channel and really like it. I'm a grandpa so I'm looking forward to this video.

[@luzorozco5763]

Thank you 😊!!

[@UserGirly-c7c]

I just wish I had a good dad 😓😔 I think most people don’t have good parents

[@rainbowconnected]

Me too. I'm sorry you didn't get one either. You absolutely deserved that. Every child does. It's obviously no substitute for loving parents, but I've used Rick's concept of the inner caring committee as part of reparenting myself. I chose a father figure that embodied the qualities I wished I had in a dad. I can imagine this person offering my inner child the love, protection and gentle guidance she missed out on. I also imagine him being here for my adult self in tough moments, since my parents still aren't a safe source of emotional support and that is something I need. It might sound silly, but this practice has been life changing and so helpful. I've become much more loving and compassionate to myself since assembling an inner caring committee and including new parent figures in it. I'd highly recommend giving it a try!

[@UserGirly-c7c]

@@rainbowconnected thank you for your compassion and kindness beautiful stranger 💚

[@evarosegger631]

I’ve read a lot of parenting books and I came across the same problem with actions in gentle parenting - what do you do when a child does something that is unsafe and I find there you have to set a boundary because as you said they are no tiny adults and need help. Sometimes this looks like picking them up or holding their hand without their consent and listening to their (big) feelings without getting upset yourself. It is not their job to understand your action in that moment or be thankful for guidance but it is my Job as the mother to keep them safe and validate their feelings about being physically held in a safe space without them wanting to. I did not find anything more respectful to this day with my 3 kids. The hard part is to regulate yourself so much that you can be empathetic and tuned to the childs feelings although it is obviously unsafe and to me - as the adult obviously a bad choice to Walk alone as a 2 yr old next to the busy street. But I am 33 🤷🏻‍♀️😂

[@KR-jq3mj]

To what extent is it healthy to fisrupt the symbiotic relationship in the fourth trimester without damaging infant development. Could fathers be supported to care for mothers as part of their heros journey

[@purvamandlik4696]

They have to seek the guidance. They have to accept that there is something they don't know. They have to care enough that not knowing this would affect the child negativity.

[@KR-jq3mj]

​@@purvamandlik4696I appreciate your comment. It seems the mother and infant need to support of fathers a triad that in turn requires wider family members to nurture the triad. It seems this is a dying concept and adults are increasingly infantacised and children increasingly adult adultified as part of the abolition of family more generally. It seems infants are now tasked with the job of adapting to new ways of moving through their childhood. I guess that's why humans are born with plastic brains but if eye contact is gobbled up by screens and childcare is outsourced it seems infants have a mammoth task ahead as the adults metaphorically leave the room.