Thank you for putting to words what I only vaguely recognized in myself and what I've passed on to my son. I thought I only had one problem but it makes total sense that there's a nuance to it. Now, about those ring light reflections in your glasses ...

Same here and totally agree. Although I'm still having daily difficulty bringing and especially keeping order into my household. I love having everything neat and in order but don't seem to accomplish to keep it so very often. Tend to hyper focus a lot aswel as "dreaming" or zone-ing out, not sure how to say this in English. Accomplishing things in life and maintaining them, are often a struggle to be honest. Lot of things like maintaining a job, I'm often depressed or just down and self confidence is still a thing at almost 38 years old(in two days). For a great deal of my puberty and even a bit after, I did not even realize I overstepped my own social boundaries and when I needed to recharge. At around 29 I got my Autism diagnosis, ADHD I got when I was a kid. Became a Marijuana user at puberty(16) to try and regulate a bit I guess(don't use anymore, even don't drink anymore because it also doesn't seem to be a good fit for me). Thanks for your video, it's nice to hear someone speak and feel they understand the conflict, it's funny because I often say "I'm a contradiction inside myself", so among other things in the video, I really feel I resonate with this 😊❤ Greetings from the Netherlands

To date, the mixed findings of etiologic ASD-ADHD comorbidity studies do not permit a clinical description of the physiopathologic comorbidity of these disorders. When speaking of comorbidity, are we not rather describing the severity of an attentional trait, with disabling functional effects, present in all ASD children? These studies themselves demonstrate that children diagnosed with a comorbid disorder have more severe ASD. This suggests that-rather than an ASD-ADHD comorbidity, as authors conclude-the causes and consequences of a major attentional deficit typical of ASD are responsible for these patients' profiles. -NIH PS: You have Willful Ignorance comorbid with average intelligence.

To date, the mixed findings of etiologic ASD-ADHD comorbidity studies do not permit a clinical description of the physiopathologic comorbidity of these disorders. When speaking of comorbidity, are we not rather describing the severity of an attentional trait, with disabling functional effects, present in all ASD children? These studies themselves demonstrate that children diagnosed with a comorbid disorder have more severe ASD. This suggests that-rather than an ASD-ADHD comorbidity, as authors conclude-the causes and consequences of a major attentional deficit typical of ASD are responsible for these patients' profiles. -NIH PS: You have Willful Ignorance comorbid with average intelligence.

I found this so relatable! I used to compulsively suck my bottom lip. My parents had to intervene and force me to stop because it was messing up my teeth. I still constantly chew on the insides of my mouth, tap my feet and fold my body up like a pretzel. I mask it pretty well "outside" but damn I just caught myself doing all of the above while watching this alone lol

This explains my life better than I can! I am impulsive, get excited and talk a lot, when it's a topic I know about/excited about and that others show an interest in. I've never quite fitted in fully, but not enough not to fit in, but enough to get some odd looks when I say something quirky. I didn't think I have autism because it often says about low emotional intelligence, however, EI has been a special interest so I feel more hyper aware of it - which doesn't help much as I can see people zone out when I'm talking which makes me more anxious and the Au part of the AuDHD kicks in. Anywho, thanks for the video and bloody good summary of a day in the life of.

2:22 I’m AuDHD…and I expected ADHD, but I was completely blindsided by AuS, mainly bc I didn’t ever take the time to know what AuS is. But holy cow it’s that ah-ha moment will be one of the biggest milestones of my life.

This is me 100%!!!!!

MAY HAVE.

I can also relate to not being that black and white in my thinking. Maybe the bits of black and white thinking are the kind of things I speak out about or sort of blurt out more often.

You didn't ask me, and I'm not diagnosed yet but, I was in Iraq in 2010 for OIF, you know, PTSD from "war" (mortars, rockets, shootings, culture shock etc), and I've been having severe issues with "shutting down, panic attacks and vivid nightmares since then. I thought that perhaps I'm feeling similar personal experiences than ASD, but when I recently opened up to my sisters and close friends about it they said "yeah, we've always known you're autistic" -paraphrasing-. Before than I had the ignorant perception about ASD that fits the stereotype from movies. I've always thought I'm just sensitive and awkward around people 🙄. So all that to ask, should I be looking for an alternative method of healing now that I'm ready to talk to the VA therapists, or is the therapy the same ether way? I brought up Autism with the person I'm talking to now and she seems to. Think it's something you grow out of. I'm working with AZA next year to start evaluations. I'm new to this subject so go easy on me, I don't need support in life, but mental health wise, I need some help.

I was thinking the whole damn time this is kinda like me except everybody does that until u got to the friend bit! I love my friends but they feel the need to hang out multiple times a week to have an active friendship but I need more time to decompress lmao

As a technician, incomplete diagnostics are pointless, you can't draw reliable conclusions based on only half the picture, at best you can fix the listed external symptoms. Instead, get all the information you can, and all the tools, do not assume you know the fix but iteratively work out all the issues you encounter until you have a working system. And since humans are infinitely complex, there is no single diagnosis that applies to more than one person, and solutions must be tailored to the subject.

i used to bite my hair when i was younger. i never ate it, i just liked tapping it between my teeth. that ended when my mom made sure my hair was cut too short to make it to my mouth for a few years.

It literally IS a disorder, it IS a deficit. It's DIS-order. A lack of order. If you can't handle reality then that's a sign of something you should probably look into.

Having this growing up was hell.

I think I have adhd and I'm a girl iswell so it's harder to know I do have autism and I got told by my parents they tested for autism and ADHD Is under tha tree whatever tha means but I don't think they tested for adhd so

I have ADHD however I have suspected that I have had autism since I was about 12 years old everything that you have described has hit the nail on the hammer because I have been very social since I was young however, I have always felt a disconnect with the people around me I’ve always wanted to talk. I’ve always felt emotion, but I’ve still felt disconnected because it wasn’t what I wanted, but it was still what I “wanted”. Descirbing ADHD and autism as two different people who wanted two different things has never made more sense to me because I feel like I’m constantly contradicting myself and am frustrated because I can’t stay in a pattern.

I somehow sometimes relate to people on the autism spectrum but I'm not quite sure if that being a correlation because of similar traits (meaning ASD traits) or because of "swimming through the ocean of life" with a above average IQ and its developmental differences in social contact and interests. I do have a legit diagnosis of adhd though. Do you have any info on the differences between having adhd and asd simultaniously and adhd and high iq from a personal and/or academic viewpoint?

Yep. I like heavy clothes when im under stimulated, if im over stimulated I have to tear clothes off and the lighter the better. I like people bit not too high energy or too low energy because I don't want to over whelp or be overwhelmed. I crave going out, but getting all of that together to make it happen, yikes. I love coming home but then dread what I now have to do to feel comfortable in my home. So I sit outside a lot until I can get the house just right, but I can't over clean or organize or I get overwhelmed and hit what I call a crash... which isn't a big deal to most but for me it's full of regret, anxiety self doubt, that I have to appropriately process or I can't pep talk myself to do the things I need to do to escape my hole... that I dug and only I can see. But I need the hole sometimes because it's my safe space to decompress. So what's good is bad and what's bad is good. Talk about a reality oxymoron that I get to live in... daily.

I’m pretty sure my son and I are both

I deeply care about the answer when I ask someone 'How are you?' When someone says 'fine' It actually annoys me because I want to hear more. Not one shoe fits all. When I asked people how they are I genuinely care about the answer. I'm an empath….. Anyway, I'm here to learn about my mum. Who I would describe as 'having no emotions'. She's not a narcissist. From the list of traits… so i've been for years trying to find out.. how she can lack emotional awareness and empathy and be so deeply avoidant of any kind of talk about emotions.. or… when i'm upset she has no idea what to do… and resorts to "cup of tea'. I've been searching for so long for an answer.. and this is possibly the closest I've got to thinking this is her. I'll somehow try to get her to do the test.

😂😂😂😂😂

Omg all points apply to me 😨 I know I have ADHD but I never considered the possibility of being in the spectrum

I feel the inner conflict of both at times. But I’ve always wondered if it’s on or the other and if it is is the other just my introverted side of me.

Is it ADHD getting distracted by the green circles reflecting in her glasses throughout video?

Omg. I ate paper too! Just little bits. Weird. Mine was lined paper like the kind you used for school.

Okay so, im an autistic teen, 17, and my mom is also autistic. My whole life ive had a really hard time being around her, like trying to connect and communicate, its gotten better as ive gotten older amd can hold conversations with her, but she has always been very "emotionally distant" or it feels that way. I dont want to blame her or keep being angry at her for "not loving me" but it hurts sometimes. How do i fully know she cares and loves me and stuff? She has a hard time being with people and shes constantly emotionally drained from her job, (runs a hotel) but i want to spend time with her, any thoughts?

This was a very helpful video, and I appreciate your honesty and openness. . . There was one small point that I disagree with, however, and that was your comment about how “ACTING is really LYING”, because it is simply not accurate. In actual fact, actors-good ones at least-are enacting/embodying someone else’s TRUTH, which is the opposite of lying! Other than that, this list from your childhood helped me to make sense of my own, and for that I wholeheartedly thank you!

Great 😬 I can totally relate

My son was diagnosed with both 18 years ago….

I call the simultaneous under/overstimulation "pacing tiger mode". I dont know what i need but im not having a good time bouncing between things trying to satisfy it

I have a cousin with Aspergers and I’m no psychologist but no one with your level of communication skills - which are above average - has autism it’s just ridiculous - being an introvert is not a disorder it’s a perfectly natural personality type and introverts get over stimulated by social interactions and have social anxiety - I’m an introvert and suffer with those issues and prefer spending time on my own - it’s not a disorder - your not autistic your an introvert

Yeah we are annoying

Oh my god, I can relate to everything you said. That’s wild. Thank you.

2:04 had a psychiatrist tell my mom (that’s what my mom says) that I’m not autistic (after seeing me for less than one hour and NOT TESTING ME) just because I FORCIBLY (out of shyness and trying to be polite) laughed on a joke she made. I literally force myself to smile at people to seem polite and LITERALLY TRY WITH ALL MY BEING TO ACT “NORMAL” WHEN I LITERALLY FEEL LIKE AN ALIEN 🤦🏻‍♀️

My mom keeps saying to my family (some aunts) that I have a “bit” of autism. I’m getting tested soon, so far I have only self diagnosed but I’m pretty pretty sure I am autistic. Is so infuriating to hear her say that. Not only that but she also compares autism to retardation, saying I don’t have a thick tongue (as a bad thing)(since some people with Down syndrome have a thicker tongue physically?) she dismisses me and insults me saying what she says and more. I have just known my whole life i always been different and now that I found this and it makes sense and I have done TONS of research and I want to understand myself I’m being mistreated, I can’t wait for getting diagnosed officially so I can shut some mouths

Having a really hard time focusing on what your saying because of the reflection of your light on your glasses. Especially because there's a double reflection and you're very animated. Which isn't bad, really, but the light makes it's hard to listen... Creates what I call the moth effect.

Hello, Firstly thank you for your content. I am interested in the Sunday Reset Routine Template, but when I click it , it doesn't work, could you re-share the link ? Thank you

SEE A PSYCHOLOGIST YOU MORONS.

One is diagnosed with autism (I.self-diagnosed aged 4.5) by age 5 if they have autism on the stupid DSM Rainbow. I have HFA, which is autism with superpowers and idiosyncracies I knew to mask by kindergarten. ADHD is Dxed.by age 12. You have neither. You exhibit no autistic behaviors -- you're not even trying to look autistic, suggesting... Read the DSM. ADHD and Asperger's (the study was specific to Asps, READ IT) share ONE trait that is really two: hyperfocus. Someone with ADHD has no difficulty focusing on doing things they're interested in. Which suggests every stupid parent (you're stupid enough to have had kids, which is possible only if one can forget their childhood and how their parents liked them from approx 5-puberty. Autists overexplain. If someone with ADHD is focused, they can easily be interrupted. Autistic hyperfocus, eg, is looking at your computer and almost immediately deducing how to wirelessly network everything in the apartment. When I was.done it was the next day. I hadn't used the bathroom, eaten, or been aware of my existence. My Dad said he's had more luck rousing coma victims. You don't behave in anyway like you should because Autism.and ADHD CANNOT BE COMORBID. The Dx for GoldHD brought to you by Moms Who Need Another Cat or Kid just stop poking this bear, rat. The Dx.woukd.be Has difficulty maintaining interest in stereotypically one to three activities from which his focus cannot be broken by anything but the smell of dinner. And amphetamines would treat Autism. If they're so (idiot) similar, if they're Wondertwins, a medication for one works on tbe other. Autists and people with ADHD are 1% of the world population, respectively (funny to a former Post copy editor). To have Get A Real Problem Assholes Disorder, you'd have to be one in 10,000. I'm one in 9 billion. Stop or be stopped. Take it from a guy who calls his genius brothers geniuses to demean them. Mean IQ is 100. 0 is dead. My IQ makes everyone non-philosophical zombies. And two sides? Sometimes I'm autistic,.sometimes I'm?! HFA shares traits with sociopathy. Kill your channel.

Oh... I'm diagnosed with ADHD and I didn't think it explained everything I went through growing up, the problem is now that I'm 20 I'm also diagnosed with BPD, which I'm 100% sure I have, and my dad also is diagnosed with, I'm also sure I have ADHD because I got diagnosed with BPD first but I couldn't get better until I got diagnosed with ADHD and started treatment for it and a lot of things started to make sense, but maybe it's better to not keep digging?

I have both

Paper sometimes gets sweet inside your mouth. I thought maybe it's the glue. I sucked my hair for a while and on the cords of my jacket, but they got icky pretty quickly.

“Suddenly Autistic” and “Suddenly School” are books I wrote 😊. I did everything on my own and was still awarded first place by Amazon in the “Biographies of People with Special Needs” category 🎉. Because of my works, a psychiatrist got her doctorate ❤. So there is a lot of useful information in it 😁.

Me: im an ambivert The Facts™: Me: mm... i should think of seeing a doctor

No, because what you call demisexual is incredibly common!!!

4:11 except for trains. At least in my experience, we all like trains.

So, basically, Pinkie Pie.

My nightmare is getting lost. I am mechanical reliability engineer so my phobia of getting lost helps me to create indicators that help me predict future problems. I find it funny when people or amaze not knowing I am fixing it to please myself so yea my company got a new management tool.