No advice from you given?

He brings me animals in Red Dead Online. 🥴

You are absolutely right, she has came after 2 months and after 2 days. She left me and blocked me all over. Jusy because i asked a question, i guess she wasn't ready for. But bow i am feeling its hard to be with someone who doesn't want to listen your voice.

What if I get the cold and hot but she agreed to work on us?

Just closed all tipe of contact and mind my life!!! Such a relief 😅 if someone wants you will show ! Simple as that😊

Im an avoidant and I hate it so much that I’m in therapy for it and I communicate now.

Jesus. Way too much work. How about if we just don't engage with avoidants. Problem solved.

You gif me this info 39 years to late

Well, we put spaces and silence, but she confessed to me that she had sex and relation with another man twice. Even she confessed to me that she couldn't have any orgasmo orgasmo with this man. She came to me, she cried, and for one night, we were as before the perfect lovers, no sex included just feelings and tears for bout. We connect, but wine was playing a distortion about what happened in relation to the chance to fix it. She said that. There was too much alcohol that night to me beforehand I encountered it with you. She said that also. Well, I couldn't process what happened considering that it was too early she fails?, even though the relationship at that moment was broken, she said, "I had the right to do it." I didn't violate any rules and values. Just my feelings were the freedom to do it. She argued. Well, now the feeling I have is not chance for us. Eve her the same feeling. Do you think we can have a second chance? I want, but she doesn't.

We didn't officially break up...he just blocked me one day 2 years ago, i deleted his contact....one day, out of the blue i get a message from him ....he said he wanted to check on me

Why ex? 🤷🏼

It was 1 month of talking stage i said him before i date for marriage we met for once literally the meeting was of 1.5 hour i was so much confused wether he liked me or not and was not expecting any msg from him he after an hour msged me are you sad? I flirtatiously replied yeah bcz meeting was vry short you were fun to be around he said he honestly loved meeting me in person but i was still shocked he didn't made any comment on my appearance but then at night he said you looked good in yellow and smelled amazing i could still smell you in my car... I was still confused wether he liked me or not and then 3 days ago i talked to him about what i didn't like about meeting specially being it short he said i would not answer your questions now bxz why didn't you tell me right after the meeting when i asked you how was it and you were acting fake for 2 days i explained everything and he said i accept i am wrong and you are right ok? I said yes ok then he blocked me from Instagram phone and snapchat everywhere...he said i was being liar throughout because once i previously told him i am not feeling the conversation Because i found him hot and cold and he used to reply often late but he said he don't do it intentionally he always made be confused but yet in his mind he was treating me the best he could and one thing more i noticed he used to avoid difficult conversations and conversation about commitment and about my feelings and whenever some dispute happen to occur he used to blame shift or either say sorry to early but most of the time blame shift i am confused was he just passing time with me or he was an avoidant but wanted to continue things with me plus will he come back or not since it was very short 1 month and 1 date plus 3 days has passed we haven't contacted and i blocked his whatsapp as well...

What if my avoidant ex told me his feelings for me had gone (but made him feel weird saying it and made him feel crap) - I then removed him from instagram and unfollowed him too - then i caught him watching my stories, then a few days after Christmas he blocked me. What does that mean?

We broke up because of his 💩. He immediately wanted to friend zone me. He already has a female friend he was with before me. I didn't want to be a part of his friend circle. Told him to focus on her as they seem to be a better fit for each other.

Ex had a girlfriend when we met I didn't know about. Apparently they were just on a break. When she returned he tried juggling me with her. I kept leaving and he kept chasing me and sucking me back in. I finally told him to 🖕 off and concentrate on his girlfriend.

Hi brad my boyfriend and i broke up last month and its been extremely difficult. We lived together and been together for 2 1/2 years. We have been in no contact ( his decision not mine because he blocked me via phone and social media.) He suffers from a lot of trauma growing up and has combat ptsd. Its been very hard and i need help please

My ex doesn't miss me one bit, she is that far gone I don't think she even cared even when we in the relationship let alone out of it! Last time I seen her was in public & she took off like a scared little child not a 46yo woman it was absolutely ridiculous.

Thanx Brad....all that points you mentioned are exactly depicting from my ex's side. What would you suggest, how should I proceed with this situation..pls help

This is horrible advice! If someone don’t want you leave them where they are! Especially if you was good to them

My ex keeps texting me to offer to buy me my favorite drink. I decline. I'm not here to play games.

I don't think no contact is possible during a mareiage separation when kids are involved.

Wow, the timing of me seeing this video is perfect, I was with a narcissist for 4 years, and when we stopped seeing each other, i found the love of my life, and because i was trauma bonded, i ended up ruining things but i realized my mistake and did all i could to make sure i got her back

Almost of my ex comeback after i move on and had new boyfriend 😂...they ask for another chance and begged me Who tf want ex when we already had new bf

Oh good grief . That hot and cold 🥶 is happening now .

Mine did profess love and missing me, biggest mistake of his life losing me.....7 months later DID THE EXACT SAME SHIT. If they miss you? Who cares, that won't over power their need to be dickheads. Oh and he blocks and unblocks on social media, might be cute if he wasn't 40. He's blocked now. Hover on that.

Lol I'm the avoidant and it cost me this girl

I made contact the day after the split because it was a hard split and I needed to get my side out - and we'll see in the long run if that's a mistake or not

Unless they are working on themselves through specified therapy, stay clear of the Avoidants, unless you don't mind a lifetime of heartache.

My avoidant ex really dislikes me, for no reason? He tells everyone he's never coming back to me, and he's changing his number because of me (he's had me blocked since day 1 so I've never been able to call him) I trigger this man so much while I do nothing. It's really weird behavior. He ghosted me after future faking for almost a decade, he told me he loves me until the very end when he broke up with me. He was a great actor

Why the second yt channel? 😮

Mine keeps coming into my work. Doesn’t talk to me. Just pops in every now and then. It’s weird, she ended it with me and chose another guy. Please leave me and my peace…

My ex of 23 years has been dating a narcissist for the past 6 months as our divorce was final in April. I can’t tell her what I know about him of course. So how does this apply to me ?

Its a horrible experience to date these people.. we need to stop being in these dysfunctional relationships out of love for ourselves, but also them! We just enable this behavior when we stay in this dynamic.

I got upset and break up with my pregnant gf bec she was letting her ex go to the doctors appointment instead of me.

F*ck that emotional cycle of torture. Stay away from them. Dont get drowned to something toxic.

I'm not sure whether I should really take the first step towards her. After all, she threw me away like dirt and said it was final, even though she wanted to see me again that day to start again. Approaching her would just show that I was waiting for it. She must have approached me because I respected her decision that it was over, right?

Haha. I told my avoidant at the end of october that our friendship is to expire because i felt do much better not having him in my life. He was SHOCKED. I did not care. I aldo told him to keep all my commission payments from our work ($15,000) because i truly do not want to hear from him. Turns out he's not allowed to to keep my commissions. We still have to talk due to some client files, but i resigned from the company to stop seeing him in zoom calls. When he massages me, hes super warm and wishing me well. He even sent me a 2am 'happy birthday' text. I think i hate him, but i am also upset with myself for letting him drain my energy

My ex has no idea what it feels like to be dumped. She has never been dumped in her life.

They don't miss you. They miss the idea of you. The reality is very different. When you're back in the 3D, you're primed to get ghosted again.

Does your avoidant ex constantly looking at your stories (not on instagram or facebook) but on things like Snapchat and WhatsApp mean this miss you? Also, would you be better to keep posting on there for them to see you living your best life or to stop so they really feel the loss?

My avoidant just happens to be my roommate. 1: Hovering He has become too invested in why I keep going out and who I’m going out with every weekend. He’s even gone as far as ask my mother and sister if they know who I’m going out with. 2. He keeps wanting to hangout but won’t ever commit. Even thought he’s agreed to go on a cruise with me. And he wants to move into the new house I’m getting with me. He even wants to share a room. 3. He keeps trying to hype that he’s talking to someone, but he’s still active on dating apps so there’s no one he’s talking to. 4. He often cooks for me and helps me with chores around the house. 6. He completely lashed out at me and was angry with me because he didn’t like that I kept going out every weekend without telling him who I’m out with. I guess there might be hope for us…

Well my girl, always blocked me by saying she loves me but didn't want reconciliation. And then unblocked me after few days. Breakup caused by infidelity by me in September. She's still in my Instagram from her another I'd. But her behaviour feels like avoidant and I am not sure what to do now. She's very unpredictable and also didn't want to come back.

What if you are the one who leave them

How to date an avoidant: DON’T if you love your sanity and desire to be loved deeply lol

What people don't talk about is the "little time" that avoidants need. It's actually 3 to 6 weeks. You need to give them time until they are not triggered anymore. Also, be consistent. Don't be mean, it'll make you look cheap. This is coming from an FA. I use my own anxious tendencies to gauge; when I'm not anxious about the relationship anymore that's when to reach out

Very good and precise insights. I have been in nc with a DA ex. Tried to reach out after 3 months of no contact. A few meet ups and she gets cold and turned down our date. So, I won’t reach out first any more.

she broke up with me in late november, today she texted me on the 2nd. “I wanted to say merry christmas and happy new year but didn’t know if i should or should not.” I assumed she moved on with someone quickly from what my mutuals told me. so i just don’t understand why she even texted. is this still a sign even if she is with someone ? or should i not look into it? Appreciate the help from anyone.

Do these apply to an avoidant who has a crush on you or situationship with you?? Not exactly an ex?

Cmon. You are in No Contact. So, how you can see these signs???

She broke up with me at the end of Oct. A week later, we were back to pretty much a "situationship." Talking every day. Sleeping with each other. Etc. But she refused to kiss me nor get emotional. We were discussing getting a house together again. She would hit on me. Make plans with me. Then said she didn't want a relationship. December; we were gift giving. Our kids were back together again. I spent almost $1K on a 2 night get away for us as a Christmas gift. Tons of sex. Only one kiss. Made plans do be together on Christmas. Christmas day, she lied and said she was sick. I know cause she had me over the next day and there were two coffee mugs out. NYE, I told her she was hurting me. She basically told me it was my fault. I was the one that wanted a situationship. I called her out saying she knew I wanted more and if she didn't, she shouldn't have done everything she had with me. She read it and hasn't spoken to me since. Her patterns now match up with how she was with me in the beginning. Which lets me know she's found someone else.