Your Ex Will Miss You - Unless You Do This!

[@Adakataba]

Very cool video A month ago, I ended a five-year relationship. My soulmate made the decision to walk away from me, and even though I've done everything in my power to get him back, I can't help but feel disappointed because I can't see my life with anyone else. I want to say that I've tried everything to stop thinking about him, but I simply can't. I miss him so much and I don't know why I'm saying this here.

[@breakupbradbrowning]

If it's only been a month and you still want to try with your ex, then you can reach out to your ex after the 30-day "no contact" period is over. In doing so, it's best to treat the situation with fresh eyes, so it's crucial to keep things fun and light and gently coax your ex into responding the same way. Here are the basics on what to do when it comes down to it. I also suggest you watch from start to the end and NOT skip any parts so you can maximize these tips: kzbin.info/www/bejne/bYHGl3qbf9aIj9E including asking yourself these very important questions to ask yourself before starting the process: kzbin.info/www/bejne/qmesZp5ratWheac but if you need the step-by-step process on what to do, including what to text or say during the process, either hire me as your coach, refer to my other vids or get the 2.0 version of my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com

[@fuzzypanda1684]

I know how much it hurts, but take solace in the fact that you can go out and date other people, either to try and find someone else, or just to find someone to dull the pain. But for us guys...we have no such options. When we get dumped, it's gonna be many months or even years before we find someone who's willing to even go out with us.

[@Britt-b4x]

30 days no contact is nothing. In these dynamics, one or both people are insecurly attached and need sometimes a year or more to work though issues in order to have healthy relationships. Unless this process has started, it will end the same way. If the avoidant partner doesnt want to work on it, dont expect anything different.

[@breakupbradbrowning]

If both parties have issues needed to be worked on, yes you're right, it take more time than usual. Not all avoidants are oblivious to how they treat their romantic partners though and some, although not all, seek treatment. It depends on which category your ex falls into.

[@fuzzypanda1684]

A year? My guy, after a year she's completely forgotten you ever existed. What universe are you living in? Because I'd very much like to cross over to it.

[@fuzzypanda1684]

Missing you means absolutely nothing. If she "misses you", it just means she feels bad about breaking your heart and wants to keep you in her life as a friend so she doesn't have to feel bad about shattering the love, trust and connection you spent years building. It's all about ATTRACTION. If she's still attracted to you, then she'll miss you in a way where she wants to get back together. But if she's lost all attraction for you, like when she say, met another guy who gave her butterflies, then it's OVER. She doesn't want you back and any attempt she makes to keep you in her life, or if she tells you she needs "time to think", but wants to keep talking, it's just her trying to dump you for him, but not have to feel bad about it. Don't let her do that! If she's gonna dump you out of the blue, stop talking to her immediately! Make her feel at least SOME pain, don't let her cut you out of her life slowly or make you her friend so she experiences no pain. She drove a knife through your heart, and although there's nothing you can do to make her feel that level of pain, you can at least kick her in her shin.

[@breakupbradbrowning]

While it's true your ex may miss you, it's definitely not to a degree where she wants to get back together -- yet. The bottom line is your ex has significantly lost attraction but my program is about trying to regain that lost attraction. Watch what I’ve explained here and watch the entire length of the video to gain full understanding, as well as know what to do: y2u.be/E9wG_ErBQoI It’s important to rebuild the attraction naturally so your ex will be amenable to working things out, eventually. Apply the tips here to help you out, too: kzbin.info/www/bejne/pZPTh3t9mrOrgNU Best of luck!

[@Dsifan0423]

Thanks for helping me have a better understanding Brad. I realized my ex is avoidant most likey due to her past. I was clingy and definitely had too many expectations and practically laser focused myself solely on her. After no contact, what do I do. Do I need to let her know that I've worked on myself? As well as letting her know I understand why she feels the way she does?

[@breakupbradbrowning]

You're welcome! The answer to your question is no, let the changes you've been making speak for itself instead. Take it easy also if you're dealing with a DA. It's too complicated to explain everything on here, but here's an overview of these phases and what to expect in each one and take it extra slow: kzbin.info/www/bejne/l5aqf4N4mdWhqas Good luck!

[@maryshamy2567]

Hi, we dated for only three months and he said that he is not ready to have any one in his mind, am in NC right now but am afraid if he will come back or completely disappear, we are co- workers, we have a chance of seeing each other at-least twice in a week, wont that affect this period of NC?

[@breakupbradbrowning]

In this case do limited contact instead and keep any conversation you have strictly work-related, especially the first 30 days after the breakup. You've got a long way to go but for starters, you can follow the tips here to prevent things from getting even more awkward than it has to be: kzbin.info/www/bejne/fYXNdnR9f7yHq6M AND kzbin.info/www/bejne/mnW9o6GEnZ1_hck

[@marguskiis7711]

I don't know. I saw very closely how a woman broke up with a man she was in love with for years. And then the man really disapeared. Total no contact. Within some weeks the woman found another man and moved on. And when the ex finally sent some messages a year later she just did not care, the ex was nothing for her.

[@bumbuso6721]

It happens like that a lot of times it's like they truly never cared but hey if that happens then it just shows you who they truly were

[@marguskiis7711]

​@bumbuso6721 women usually lose any interest on the man they dumped.

[@marguskiis7711]

​@@bumbuso6721​@bumbuso6721 women usually lose any interest on the man they dumped.

[@marguskiis7711]

​@@bumbuso6721 confident women never truely care.

[@breakupbradbrowning]

It happens. Life is a series of choices and people have a choice of whether to move on, wait it out or actively try to get an ex back. My channel is about the latter.

[@plantationcreationz5201]

Hey Brad what if they were cheating and make up an excuse to break up after 9 years on and off This is the fifth bad breakup .

[@breakupbradbrowning]

Was cheating the cause of every breakup you had? An on-and-off relationship often signifies underlying issues which have been left unaddressed for quite some time. Read this first to know what to expect when you have this kind of dynamic in your relationship: bit.ly/1HjcagC But if you're interested in making this your last breakup, sign up for my coaching program at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching especially if there's an available spot!

[@saritepstein3837]

Hi bread I did hide things we did argue sa lot but we dated for a long long time I miss him I want him back did I lose my chance ? He came back the first time we Brock up

[@breakupbradbrowning]

What happened the first time he came back and why didn't you take that opportunity to get back together? Although I'd like to offer a tip or two, there's simply too many elements to your situation that makes this too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation where we could get to the bottom of the issue/s: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching

[@saritepstein3837]

@@breakupbradbrowning hi bread thank you for contacting me I really need your help and crying I did take home back I live in Israel I would like to do a phone or Emil so we can work together so I can tell you the full story

[@saritepstein3837]

Hi bread I don’t have Viza I only have a banking card that’s why I need also to speak to you I live in Israel I really need your help and arch your youtub videos daily

[@sarahgarrow303]

Hey Brad. I enjoy your videos except that I don't believe 30 days is a magic formula for a no-contact period. Instead I believe that indefinite no contact is the way to go. THEY have to come to YOU. Also just wondering whether age gaps can be a factor? My ex, with whom I was falling in love after 3 months of dating (plus he'd asked me out 3 times over 7 years - COVID lockdown got in the way on the last occasion but we finally got together Feb 2024) is 15 years younger than me (although I look the same age as him - if anything I look younger as he's a bit overweight). As he didn't have the manners to given me even ONE reason why he disappeared, I have no idea if the age thing is it, or if it's something else. I have been in strict no contact for the past 2 months now and do not plan on breaking it, even though he had a big milestone birthday last weekend. I myself dated and was briefly engaged to a man who was 18 years older than me so I don't believe age gaps in themselves are insurmountable barriers.

[@breakupbradbrowning]

Yes, it's never the magic pill for a breakup. Getting an ex back is a process so there's really no one-step solution to get what you want. However, if your ex is worth it, you can do a series of steps which is what my channel (and my updated 2.0 version Ex Factor Guide) is all about. You should be able to find lots of information on how to get your ex back by doing all the right steps on my channel here, so check out my other videos as well. They're completely free and comes at no cost to you. Here's one which should hopefully help: y2u.be/7JtmVbDkblw Lots of people have found success with it, maybe you can, too. You can also leave me a brief description of what you're going through. I always respond to comments. Just please keep it concise as I try to answer to as many comments as I can. Good luck!

[@jasperkim5945]

Heres my situatuon brad. What about an ex wife that filed for divorce 2 weeks ago amd currently lives together with 3 kids. Ive listened to your no contact but in my situation how much no contact or contact or what do you recommend.

[@jasperkim5945]

What about this situation brad.

[@breakupbradbrowning]

Nope, the process of trying to save a marriage is different and does not make use of the no contact rule. How long has your marriage been rocky before she filed for divorce? Moreover, why have you waited too long to try and save your marriage? Anyway try to gauge your chances here first: www.marriageguy.com/quiz These may help, hopefully: kzbin.info/www/bejne/oqerYYaKjbukmqs AND kzbin.info/www/bejne/fGLRd4isqdSZbbs but if you still need my help in trying to fix your marriage, sign up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program so I can take a look at what's really going on and help you out, at www.marriageguy.com/coaching

[@Tp-pb6xp]

It’s hard when you have kids

[@breakupbradbrowning]

If you have kids and/or other responsibilities still tied to your ex, it's best you do limited contact or what I call the dynamic "no contact" rule instead of the full on silence associated with the no contact rule. Prepare for things to be tough but if you play your cards right and depending on the extent of damage done, it can actually still be salvaged. Try to prevent things from getting even more awkward than it has to be by applying the tips here as much as possible, in addition to my newer vids I've posted: kzbin.info/www/bejne/fYXNdnR9f7yHq6M AND kzbin.info/www/bejne/mnW9o6GEnZ1_hck or for a comprehensive guide on how to go about things, consider getting my Ex Factor Guide 2.0 at www.breakupbrad.com

[@leska999]

After 8 months of NC he contact me..and I made a HUGE mistake, I took him back quickly, actually I took him back same day he contact me 😢. He said that he thought about me all this time that he never stopped loving me ..I said “me too” what an absolute idiot I am!!! After 2 months of messaging he was acting strangely (hot-cold). I stupidly suggested(many times) to meet up (he lives bit far from me), to go somewhere…and then he said that he feels pressured 🙈 and broke up with me AGAIN! And then blocked me after 2 months even I didn’t contact him …I’m broken ..I don’t understand…I’m lost …help…please…any thoughts or advice?😢

[@Britt-b4x]

I'm sorry to hear this happened to you. You are not stupid. What alot of KZbin videos leave out is that unless both partners with insecurities work on becoming more secure, the same dynamic will play out. These issues don't just go away with no contact or using tactics. If he reaches out again you can ask whats changed with him. If the answer is nothing, you can decide to walk away.

[@breakupbradbrowning]

Hi! This vid is for you for reference to help you understand what's going on: kzbin.info/www/bejne/enWVY3iAi9t_rbs

[@Croy617]

What do you mean be too available? Can you explain? We have a daughter together

[@breakupbradbrowning]

Basically just have your own life first and don't put her at the forefront of what you do. Prioritize your daughter together, not your ex. Does that make sense? You're free to date if you want to. Here are some tips to remember if you're trying to win an ex back and how important Fear of Missing Out (FOMO) is: kzbin.info/www/bejne/iYWvm6yYrs6UeLM

[@patience2398]

hi! I'm from South India... can I use the 30 day no contact? or does this apply to men based on where they belong to? he started limiting communication for nearly 4 months now... but we talk for 2 to 5 mins once in 3 - 4 days... he's done a lot of help to me... he has taken care of me... he's now telling that leaving me is difficult for him but he's afraid that we can't be happy together... he wants to be friends... what should I do now? please help Brad

[@CompanionCubie1]

Sounds like avoidant

[@breakupbradbrowning]

It's based on human psychology so it applies to your ex, so apply the 30-day "no contact" rule. I'm more concerned about your boyfriend/ex helping you out though. Did you mean financially? If so then that could be the main reason why he ended things with you and is not happy. A relationship isn't a charity case and you wouldn't want to make it feel like one in the first place, so do your best to work on and help yourself first, yeah? Relationships work best if there's teamwork instead of one pulling the other one up all the time. Take care!

[@patience2398]

❤ thanks Brad​@@breakupbradbrowning

[@tlgcherry6051]

Hey brad my ex broke up with me few hours ago and i know shes not telling the truth why But i know its becuase of the church..shes actually active in there church...and if your a church member of theres and you have a partner they will pressure you on making your partner join them.... What am i supposed to do

[@breakupbradbrowning]

That's tricky. How long have you two been together and are you open to switch religions? If the answer is no, then just be honest with yourself and take steps towards moving on... because it will only create future conflict which will only lead to your relationship coming to an end anyways, especially if she won't budge. The breakup looks like a blessing in disguise and this may help you process or deal with the breakup accordingly: kzbin.info/www/bejne/bavTaIZ8l8p2iLc but if you find you need more guidance on how to lead a more fruitful life without your ex, get my Beat the Breakup Guide at www.beatmybreakup.com

[@tlgcherry6051]

@@breakupbradbrowning update: actually i now know the real reason why she broke up with me...everytime we meet or go somewhere or she visits to my house i keep on asking for sex, and she got discourage, no wonder for the past 2 months she hasnt been visiting to my house,everytime i ask her to come to the house she keeps making excuses, though i didnt notice it at 1st cuz all of her excuses is about her schools so i didnt complain, she was actually avoiding coming to the house and i didnt notice, she actually wanted us to go somewhere and have fun thats all, i got this information from her cousin, i noticed she wasnt complaning anymore and chatting to me lesser, and oct 1 she broke up with me, im thinking right now why she didnt talk to me and fix about this, though i was willing to change and solve this...what do i do?

[@mariefricchione437]

Let her go😢

[@golden_flake4740]

How does this work when you both live together with children?

[@breakupbradbrowning]

Hi! It's another story if you live under the same roof after a relationship ends. I suggest you do limited contact with your ex where you only discuss the essentials. Apply the tips here, too to help you out further: y2u.be/thVReUI9Vzs AND y2u.be/STL7ru4uSQk I know it's hard, but lots of folks have managed to follow the tips and succeeded. So if they can do it, then so can you! Good luck and be strong!

[@KarmaDivinity]

I did not text my ex on her birthday yesterday and she deleted me from everything. Do i still have any hope? She broke up with me 2 weeks ago

[@JoseChung21]

Nice work not sending her a happy birthday. Blocking indicates she is still emotionally attached to you - stay in no contact. She will most likely reach out but do no respond until she says something significant - humble and regretting the break up.

[@KarmaDivinity]

@JoseChung21 thank you for the words. It gives great motivation. And i won't break until it happens. I'm glad to know there is something

[@breakupbradbrowning]

I say generally it's still fair game unless you see most if not all the signs that your ex is over you. Here's the vid: kzbin.info/www/bejne/kKqtg6OerKmWl5Y and especially if those signs prevail over a prolonged period of time. If you're asking about your chances, I really wish I could give you a direct yes or no. However, as it is, each situation is unique, so I suggest you take the free quiz as it hits on the critical elements that will determine your chances depending on your answers. In other words, my quiz can give you a more accurate answer than I can since as you may have noticed, there are various factors at play here which needs to be looked at as well as your own actions after the breakup. Here's the link: www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Best of luck!

[@souplegends8369]

It's only been two weeks of no contact and she contacted me too know the name of some pills for headaches. It confused me so I just gave her the answer and the conversation ended. I still have curiosity cuz I still miss her but I been trying hard not to think of her but it's been hard if she keeps popping like that each 2 weeks and she originally broke up with me. Any advice? We broke up almost 2 months ago but on those 2 months she broke no contract 4 times for simple questions.

[@breakupbradbrowning]

At this point, you either move on or try to get her back. So what's it gonna be? If you want to try to get back with your ex, then you can reach out to your ex after the 30 days straight of "no contact" period is over. In doing so, it's best to treat the situation with fresh eyes, so it's crucial to keep things fun and light and gently coax your ex into responding the same way. Here are the basics on what to do when it comes down to it. I also suggest you watch from start to the end and NOT skip any parts so you can maximize these tips: kzbin.info/www/bejne/bYHGl3qbf9aIj9E including asking yourself these very important questions to ask yourself before starting the process: kzbin.info/www/bejne/qmesZp5ratWheac but if you need the step-by-step process on what to do, including what to text or say during the process, either hire me as your coach, refer to my other vids or get the 2.0 version of my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com

[@martinwhyment-cm1bn]

She’s contacting you, so ask her to come over and make some food together, have fun and see where it goes. No relationship talk, just fun.

[@souplegends8369]

​@@martinwhyment-cm1bn I appreciate ur idea but I think I screwed up. We recently meet up because she needed my help so I nicely accepted. We chat about each other's life and what we been up too and everthing seemed normal. We even when out to eat and of course more chatting. And at the end she wanted to make more plans with me and wanted to go to a concert only the two of us but I really wasn't sure because I was still not fully healed and really wasn't sure about her attentions. So I accepted without and second thought. I came home and I was overthinking about the vidoes I watched about if I was beaing to available or she was using me just to get over me because it's only been 18 days of no contact and I felt like beaing used. So I contact her to let her know how I feel about her future plans with me. She got upset 😥. She told me if I didn't wanna see her then don't come see me. I told her I still had feelings and wasn't sure if she did too but if I continue hangout out with her the only one going get hurt is me. And at the end she only said don't come see me if u don't wanna see me. So honestly I screwed up and really ain't sure if I did the right thing. Did i let my emotions out so soon? Or am i in the right for letting her know how I felt? 😓 I still love her but I think I missed my opportunity.

[@dremillz3241]

Does the dumper ask to reconnect with the dumpee or is it the guy reasks the girl?

[@breakupbradbrowning]

Whoever wants to give it another shot contacts first. Here's a vid for that: kzbin.info/www/bejne/e3Smi6CVotatgck

[@covidoff]

Nobody misses anyone, they might miss the feelings they once had....HAD. Stop the cope.

[@breakupbradbrowning]

I find this to be the case only if the relationship was a fling/ short-term. Otherwise that's just false.

[@jasperkim5945]

Does this apply to ex wife

[@breakupbradbrowning]

How long have you two been separated? Take my free quiz at www.marriageguy.com/quiz But for reference, the tips from this vid should apply (look for the blue thumbnails on my channel) here: kzbin.info/www/bejne/iJzIkJ9jit2optk but if you have a unique situation, consider signing up for my Mend the Marriage coaching service, at www.marriageguy.com/coaching

[@breakupbradbrowning]

Hi again! Being married/ living together is one of the exceptions to the no contact rule, seeing how you have shared responsibilities together. Please refer to this vid: kzbin.info/www/bejne/iJzIkJ9jit2optk

[@princessmistery261]

So me and my ex were together for about 8 months and were long distance. We broke up because I wanted him to communicate properly and he didn't want to. We've been in no contact for 3 weeks and 2 days and during that time he's blocked me on all his social media and he heard me talking on the phone with his mom and telling her what happened when she asked me. When the breakup first happened I did a little bit of begging and pleading and afterwards sent clean slate text #2 and started no contact. Do you think I still have a chance of getting him back?

[@breakupbradbrowning]

The issue with distance paired with his communication skills, or lack thereof, are huge obstacles. As you've noticed, the distance will always be a major culprit. Is this long distance scenario temporary? Because if it isn't, then it may be as good as over. Watch/review and apply the pointers here first: kzbin.info/www/bejne/fYK8ZYFmadqpqqM AND kzbin.info/www/bejne/a5_JiIWAh9ehd9U However, if you believe your situation is unique and there may still be a chance between you two, then let's take a look at your situation in-depth via my one-on-one coaching session at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching

[@ill_steal_your_pbj7363]

I’m just a stranger on the internet, so take my advice however you like, but if even if he does come back to you, you should pay very close attention to his behavior, and keep paying attention. I don’t know how you broke up with him but if you gave him time to get right, and you should really consider how much time you gave him and how much you demanded (not saying you did it wrong, just telling you to think critically about it), then he still made the choice to not fix his behavior. If he comes back and doesn’t respond to your needs in the slightest, then he doesn’t understand and he’s not trying to. And if he says sorry and goes strong but only for a few weeks, then you still need to maintain your standard. In other words, you might want to rethink if you even want him back. If he’s not the right partner and won’t be responsive or considering then it’s not going to ever work out, sorry.

[@shreyakumari27868]

Hey brad my ex bf wished me happy birthday and also put a story on his insta wishing me birthday as we follow each other but he had hidden my user id and didn't write my name , seemed like he didn't want to reveal to anyone that this story is for me he only posted a pic of mine on his insta story, what it means?(He was also dating someone else but broke up 2-3 months ago and still they follow each other on insta)

[@breakupbradbrowning]

Instead of wondering of the what-ifs, I suggest you take action in order to find out once and for all. You can reach out to your ex after the 30 days straight of "no contact" period is over. In doing so, it's best to treat the situation with fresh eyes, so it's crucial to keep things fun and light and gently coax your ex into responding the same way. Here are the basics on what to do when it comes down to it. I also suggest you watch from start to the end and NOT skip any parts so you can maximize these tips: kzbin.info/www/bejne/bYHGl3qbf9aIj9E including asking yourself these very important questions to ask yourself before starting the process: kzbin.info/www/bejne/qmesZp5ratWheac but if you need the step-by-step process on what to do, including what to text or say during the process, either hire me as your coach, refer to my other vids or get the 2.0 version of my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com Best of luck!