I'm a trans man and I went through a "i must be butch as possible and supress my girly interests so i'll pass." And its EXHAUSTING!!! I had to unpack why i thought being a man meant destroying what made me happy. I grew up very femme actually loving pink and princesses and dresses but eventually gave that upbc being percieved as a woman gave me dysphoria. Anyway, I kinda realized that all these things are all bullshit. I can like pink and kawaii and cute outfits and still be a man. Feminine things are not bad, even if it turns out you're not a girl at all. Everyone should do what makes them happy! All the gender rules are bullshit

The tokophobia is real af. Your therapist doing that was diabolical (even if it was accidental / not personal).

im desperately trying to find footage of this clairo scene

i need u to make a cronically online girl video abt promising young woman

Desperate for a “chronically online girl explains Clairo lore” video

i have never had a unique experience.

I love the progression from sitting to standing during booger talk

my bf and i met when he was 21 and I was 19 (i was turning 20 in the fall of that year, literally 4 months later), and he felt weird about that.. 😭, i can’t even fathom doing all that… damn drake 😭😭

8:06 que I wanna be like other girls from mulan 2

Would love to know your thoughts on the pick me gripe 7:03

Folklore and Evermore will change your prospective on Taylor Swift. Up until 2020 I was like you and thought it wasn’t cool to like her. Then folklore came out and I was hooked…. Then EVERMORE and I never looked back. Please tell us what you think!! Love you❤️

being a girls girl is like being best friends with every girl you meet and i love that for us so much

Just be your self and don’t put other people down! You can like whatever you want don’t let gender stereotype stop you!

I was so not like other girls i realized i was a guy the whole time.

The book was soo good but bro the movie was soooo baddd

Oh, this makes me realise I don't listen to men, except some classics and Hozier. I don't feel like I have to fulfill any imaginary quota, so I'll just keep on with my vibes 😊

my jaw dropped when she said "glossier you" as I sit here wearing exactly that.... love being a girls girl, always feeling like I needed to be different to be liked was so tiring.

It’s okay if a girl doesn’t enjoy pop and doesn’t like traditionally girly things if that’s how she truly feels. The problem is a lot of us spent years convincing ourselves that we didn’t like girly things JUST to be cool and different, when in reality we absolutely love that shit! It’s important to give yourself the chance to experience something and make up your own mind on whether you enjoy it or not. Don’t just like or dislike things based on how popular they are.

i can't wait for you to be in your folklore evermore fall-winter era it's the best time to listen to those albums!! also if you enjoy them you should listen to taylor's song nothing new feat phoebe bridgers it sounds like it could be on one of those albums!

"Everyone who studies Neuroscience is batshit crazy" is the realest thing I've ever heard

The strange thing about the Johnsons is actually an Ari Aster movie too! Very heartbreaking thing to watch

Hang on...back up..you missed something - in the scene discussing the doppelganger a "Felix in a pink shirt" is seen walking past outside the window in the garden.

I watched it 6 times....to date....

You encapsulated my experience when I first started giving BTS and KPOP a chance!!

i fully agree, i dont like putting down other gitls for what they like, thats wrong. but i feel like with embracing being basic theres also this weird narrative of demonizing being different coming back. i already see so many people shitting on others because they dont follow every little micro trend and liking every single popular media, theres nothing wrong with that. i just wish people could express themselves how they want without dumb assumptions being made. im not a pick me

I also hate pumpkin spice🥰🥰

When I was a kid I was forced to stop participating in so many things I got joy out of because many people in my life convinced me that there were better things out there I could enjoy. I never let myself have fun with anything, and if there wasn't some deeper meaning behind what I enjoyed I would end up ditching it because it just wasn't good enough. When I graduated high school, I realized that so many parts of my identity weren't my own, and I missed doing this that I found and enjoyed on my own. I didn't talk to anyone about my interests because I was so afraid of being judged. I would stop doing things I enjoyed because I thought it was just too cringe. I needed to hold myself to a higher standard, it was genuinely ridiculous 😭 Now that I've graduated and left a lot of those ideas behind, I've started to re-discover my love for so many things including pop music. Something we need to leave behind is judging people for things that they like. Sometimes " I just want to have fun" is a valid response to why do you like that?

I went through this when I turned 30. I'll like what I like and everyone can shove off. My friends used to constantly criticize every little thing I did; so I have new friends now. Most play video games and are super fun. You can also wear makeup and do your nail plus game now....it's not like a 'pick one group to be in' like in high school and college. 23:21 - That's like me with PopMart blind boxes. I figured they're a waste of time/money but they're so cute. I bought Wonderland ones and I'm obsessed. Very cute. Also I think you'd like Alisha Marie (the KZbinr). She does chill little vlogs like that.

Loved this little chat we had, thank you, im just quiet cuz I love your full brain thoughts 😌💅

give in Clancy by twenty one pilots is amazing

I don't always gravitate towards the thing everyone's enjoying all the time, because sometimes, I just don't enjoy it. That's an alienating feeling. Like I've tried very hard to really enjoy Taylor Swift and Olivia's new album Sour, but it just doesn't click for me. Watching it align with everyone else is painful sometimes, because I want to be a part of this communal joy, but then I'd be lying to myself. Sometimes my obsessions are so unique to my age, which is the other end of the spectrum, and I try to share this joy with others. Most of the time they only exist online. It's ok though. I mean I'm a massive Beyoncé and Charli xcx fan, so at least there's that!

i hope this video reawakens my feminine urge to get my shit together and properly do my skincare routine among other things that make me feel good to be a woman again 🧎

i thought i was so cool for writing green day lyrics on my arm when I was 14 😭😭

also dirty mind is such a banging album

more more more

Please do a “chronically online girl explains the Diddy situation.”

R u a Mr beast apologizer

as someone who likes the uncomfortable chairs (usually low to the grown, im very short) thanks!

This video is just describing who I was in middle school. I missed out on so much hating on popular thing. I MISSED OUT ON FUCKING ONE DIRECTION!!! I didn't get into them cause of my sister's throwaway comment that they're the new boyband when we liked the Jonas Brothers when turns out she didn't even mean in in a bad way. But then I was like, ugh well I like the Jonas Brothers, I'm not gonna care about these new whoeveres. And then in college I got into their music and now they're my favorite band, but now I can never see them since they broke up before then 😭😭😭 Anyway, I agree so much with this. I was never anti-women, but due to patriarchy I feel I did have a slight "not like other girls" phase, like oh I'm cool, I like soccer and Star Wars (still do), so guys come like me. I feel like most women and girls have a phase like this, but once you become aware it's so freeing to like whatever you do and not care about looking cool. It's amazing embracing things I like and finding community like in listening to romance books (audiobook girly here), true crime and pop music, but at the same time then you find what you truly like and don't like. So, like I don't like pumpkin spice or go to Target, but I think it's amazing that other people do and I love that for them.

About that "war is over" trend... I'm pretty sure most women that do it, just straight up hate different people. A lot of them don't even use their own photos in the "alt" phase part. They often do it just so other people comment gross (and often homophobic) stuff under their tiktoks. It really isn't about them becoming themselves but rahter an excuse to hate on others

everyone shut up my program is on

the way i am sitting in a puddle of my own sweat hearing for the first time that prozac causes excessive sweating

22:46 I JUMPED AND PUMPED MY FIST IN THE AIR, ive been obsessed since tøp’s newest album came out, ik theyre not women but their wives are incredible and powerful soo. Embrace the things that you love whether theyre popular or underground life’s to short to care about that shit thank you for sharing Nicole🫶🏼🫶🏼

the fact that i also remembered poot lovato today before watching the episode like whoa....

no you should definitely listen to twenty one pilots again like it’s so fun i love them so much. and taylor swift!! folklore and evermore are so good (but i love her so i’m biased hehe)

i tried to quote punkin spice the other day and nobody got it :(

I think this is what I’m like with Y/A fantasy or Y/A in general. First time I’m admitting this, but I’ve been trying to read more recently and I hear good things. If you have recs, do tell.

am i dumb for not knowing the clairo spitting joke was a joke? i researched it for a good two hours and came to the conclusion that nicole was "lying" and then i was so confused why she would do that and then someone literally had to tell me it was a joke

0:25 I just love that in the midst of all this factual, horror accounting, the dog just jumps up like, "I heard we were talking about eAtINg?!" NGL, this video series finally convinced me to watch Yellowjackets and I'm very much not mad. Hope S3 picks up tempo though

the way i related too much to everything you said. wow, we’re all just girls! i have also been on a nostalgic music binge lately, crazy how many two door cinema club lyrics i remember ❤