10 Habits to Bring Intimacy Back | Christian Wife Talk

[@kysaschaefer8124]

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[@AnnaDysett]

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[@123JustBecause]

@@AnnaDysettof all of the subscriptions I have on YT, your channel is the one I look forward to the most. It would sadden me deeply if you left this space! Your manner and content is so rare in this crazy, sinful world! The content you make shows how much you pour yourself into your YT channel to glorify God, Jesus, love and family. I will continue to pray for you and your family. The LORD bless and keep you; the LORD make his face to shine upon you and be gracious to you; the LORD lift up his countenance upon you and shall give you peace. - Numbers 6:24-26 ESV

[@rachaelnuchols764]

Great video ❤. Thank you

[@ayrianamosiychuk]

@@AnnaDysettkeep it!!!! It has helped sooooo much!!!

[@SM-JIL]

@@AnnaDysettplease stay, I just found your channel on YT recommendations and I’m loving your content as a married mom of 2 teens! Thank you for all you do here, despite your busy days. You’re helping women of all ages 🙏

[@daughterofmyabba]

This video helps me immensely and we have been married over 27 years. I feel like there's this anointing on the younger generation for wisdom. So many young ladies, like yourself, are learning things it's taken us older ladies decades to learn. I love your channel and look forward to each new video you put up.

[@AnnaDysett]

I think it’s a beautiful give and take! The Lord is so kind 🥹♥️

[@karinacassidy1989]

“Don’t give leftovers of yourself to your spouse”! Wow, what a thought ❤️❤️

[@Gillymomma1225]

Telling each other we appreciate them and saying thank you for doing chores we normally do has been a game changer in our marriage! Married 16 years

[@Sara-hd8co]

You are absolutely right... once again. Your speeches are so deep and authentic. I think part of the problem is the society we live in, so focused on individualism and on such radical feminism that causes so much harm to women that we tend to forget that we are a team and its good to try to make our partners happy!

[@Christine-j7b]

Our best chats are when we wake up in the morning over a nice cuppa in bed (which he always makes for us) and I often thank my husband for what he does ( he does a lot for me) and he also thanks me for dinner. I tell him I love him often. We have been married 49 yrs next anniversary in April. We had a rocky patch in our late 20's (mostly my fault) but we stuck it out and have mellowed with age and experience. We are both in our 70's now and are each other's best friends (apart from the Lord). I am his help meet and that is my main job in my retirement years , it could be something as simple as helping him sweep up the leaves but I look for the opportunities to lighten his load when possible.

[@CinnamonGirl42069]

This is beautiful. Thank you for sharing. 😊

[@AnnaDysett]

Love this! Congratulations on 49 years! Wow! What an inspiration!

[@Neoteny-j4z]

G-d bless you, Ma'am. My wife and I are empty nesters not of retirement age yet, and it's like we're dating again. If I may ask you a question, Ma'am, what does a Christian woman expect from her husband at the empty nest stage of thier marriage?

[@Christine-j7b]

@@Neoteny-j4z I would think companionship mostly but also to enable her to have some freedom to find her own interests in this new season of her married life if she wishes, lots of women do miss the caring for children aspect until the grandchildren come along and may wish to volunteer in some sort of caring capacity within the community.. You sound like a lovely caring man just for asking and I know you will find a way to make life fulfilling for both of you in this next stage of your journey together, enjoy each other.. God bless .

[@Ama.921]

Hey @Christina-j7b what was happening in your late 20s that was a rocky patch and what did you do to resolve it? We hit a bumpy road and I think I’m at fault a lot but not sure sometimes how to remedy? I would love some guidance? I’d love to hear your story

[@ChristinaMiick-wf6hn]

I love your ideas! Esp the idea to look eachother in eyes and hug and kiss. Its the quick little here and there's throughout the days that I think add upyoits really true about our spouses getting the left overs.eslgo to bed hrs before my husband and wake hrs before him, so one thing we enjoy, is when he wakes in the morning I go sit or lay beside him and pillow talk. Over the years we've found that time together when we are rested from the night is better if us. I absolutly love your rules that guard your couple time and marraige bed w your kiddos. Bonus the kids are learning that marraige is sacred. Thank you so much!! I so enjoy your podcasts

[@julie-laurebernard3278]

You have so much wisdom, thank you Anna ❤

[@MrsRLivingSimply]

I absolutely love your channel. You have such a calming voice and are wise beyond your years. It's so refreshing to listen to your videos, your cadence, your tone. I hope you continue on. You are one of the great ones here on KZbin! Thank you -- Shelley

[@morganwickman8451]

My kids gag and pretend to barf when we kiss 🤣 but deep down inside, I know they love our love. Another great video Anna! Thank you!! Adding: We’re a dessert family and my husband and I never eat dessert with the kids. We wait until after bed time to chat and eat our sweet treat together!

[@daughterofmyabba]

Haha our teenagers roll their eyes and act embarrassed, but I do notice that they are markedly happier later in the day. All children crave that sense of security, whether they know it or not. 😄

[@AnnaDysett]

Awww! I love that!

[@kaylawhitfield3570]

I’ve been watching since the summer. I have had this exact topic in my prayer time with God lately. We’ve been married 6 years now, but together 9 years. This is something I have been lacking since we’ve had our daughter. I wasn’t sure where to start or if it had to big things etc. then you posted this video and I feel so helped! It was so comforting and easy to listen and understand!

[@David-ve8pk]

I married because I wanted intimacy and the last 6 years have been intimacyless. She's not interested but acts like she's interested but I am not interested in divorce but I am in an empty emotional space. I would love more since I married for the physical need. I believe we aren't going further along even after counseling several times. But glad folks are keeping on keeping on.

[@keithlamb5398]

I am at 44 years and miserable. We both need to make a decision because it's not going to change

[@David-ve8pk]

@keithlamb5398 I can't say it's miserable for both but certainly not what God intended for a marriage relationship to be. The next question is "will I be married 44 years and end up being miserable"? I am 60 and do I wait for 65? At 35 years do I divorce if I am not miserable but just unhappy like I am now. The option would be to stay unhappy and not deal with another relationship that could be awesome in the beginning but miserable after a few years. I mean I could do it next year. I am going to bring it up this weekend if she's not just unhappy but miserable in the relationship then of course it's a no brainer for a divorce. She's 7 years older than I am. She is overweight by about 40 lbs. She used to be thin but doesn't do anything different and blames me for cooking and she doesn't want to go to an exercise class while I drive an hour home from work every day. So I used to enjoy being intimate but she's always talking about being physical but when it's actually thinking about it or even a hint, she's tired or tells me to be quiet so she can sleep. No more Sunday afternoon naps in 6 years. We used to where we would spend time at church, have a small bite to eat and then "nap" Sunday and I would make us a fancy dinner and we would watch Sunday night football together. But even if I ask, for a little "help" she would be falling asleep during my ask, it used to be just one time a week then she hated doing that and then I said well just even a "hand" would be better if you don't want to talk about it. Then it was like she couldn't care less. So I said ok.. no problem, not worth it. We used to take long road trips and I would drive say, 8 hrs and she would "help" me unwind from trip so we can sleep and get up and finish the destination or start the day early but now she won't offer since I started making our trip into 2 parts. I just bring a small bottle of something and a Benadryl pill and I sleep hard and ready for the rest of the trip. So in our few discussions about splitting up, I said you used to help me relax on long trips I drove for us but you haven't bothered in years and her response was, oh yeah I guess I dropped the ball. I said literally you dropped the ball yes. But she didn't say anything about oh, how about if I pick up the ball right now or something. I just said ok. I get myself a nice massage a few times a month to forget what she's unwilling to do or want to do. I no longer push her or say anything about physical intimacy. I prefer to deal with it without getting pissed or angry and regretting what I am feeling. So I don't say anything. It helps a lot. Does not make me feel bitter or resentment towards her. I just think, ok she's not interested in physical intimacy or physical activity and I just began to think how I could benefit from taking my own actions towards being physical and getting my release without having another relationship that isn't going to upset everything. I am about to tell her that I have another person and I don't want to stay married anymore.

[@doralanders1870]

Anna good advice to the listening audience My husband has been gone for 26 yrs but I have wonderful memories of our life together And pillow talk was the best with 5 chicken in our house We learn to make time for us Because Love was at the top of our self's thanks Anna 😊 Much Love and blessings too you ❤

[@angelaserna4045]

In couple of days My Husband and I will have been Married for 28 years of Marriage! The Top/Most Important thing in Our Marriage is Praying together before we go to bed! Also Important thing to remember when there are arguments, is your spouse is not your enemy!

[@dartht.3736]

We’re married 48 years and your wisdom is beyond your age. Having an open mind to receive this type of wisdom is unfortunately too rare. Your sharing helps!

[@wendykinsley7852]

Do not stop your videos. They are spot on. Thankyou for sharing your heart. ❤

[@moonafarms1621]

❤ great topic to cover. Marriage is a team, such a wonderful part of the human experience. Thanks for sharing this!

[@jackwalker1822]

A suggestion structure your timing so that as soon as your husband enters the house, drop what you are doing and give your husband a kiss and hug and smile and tell him how glad you are that he has returned home and how much you love him. It also wouldn’t hurt to look your best at that time. And a touch of perfume might be good too but not too much.

[@berserker9682]

Pray together, talk together and also always be open to life, and lastly laugh a lot together. From a newly wed Catholic, its always a little tension and adventure, but you are in Gods grace.

[@LindsayGrandberry]

Hello !!!! You're so peaceful to listen to!!!! May God keep blessing you and your family!!!! xoxox I'm a 1st. time listener from Canada!!!! xooxox Thank-you!!!! You're Beautiful inside and out!!!

[@rosemaryharris6064]

You have such good thoughts on this topic and you handle it all so well. I am an older wife but have learned bits of advice multiple times from your videos, including today's.

[@AnnaDysett]

What a blessing. Thank you for sharing that with me 🥺♥️ comments like yours keep me going. KZbin can be such an unkind place.

[@OneR003]

Of course, its great when you let things operate the way God the Father designed it. When you go against the way its designed, youll have issues. Home is suppose to be full of love, peace, joy, husband and wife have their place in marriage in the house. Marriage is a gift from God the Father between man and woman, the structure, its purpose. Words have life, encourage each other, motivate each other, above all keep God the Father first. Dont know who this is for but its for someone out there.

[@arielnicole5921]

Honestly your voice has been echoing in my head. ❤😂 Your videos have really helped me in so many ways. I’m truly inspired by them! You radiate and I pray to draw in a friend like you ❤

[@AnnaDysett]

What a blessing! I’m so grateful and honestly just humbled because it’s ALL THE LORD’S WORK! I couldn’t do any of it without Him. I’m always here if you need a friend, but I too pray that the Father send you someone that you can fellowship with in person ♥️

[@allysoncashion2268]

I absolutely loved this video. First video I’ve watched of your channel. I am definitely subscribing! Thank you so much!

[@AnnaDysett]

Welcome!! So happy you are here 🤗♥️

[@Jonathan-yr3so]

It’s good to ride a bike or walk home or dooo sometimes that releases the stress of work before coming home. Don’t bring work energy home to your parent. My parents did this everyday and it was not just unhealthy from them but also for my brother and I. I try to remember this as much as I can. Why relive a crap day with with your partner. Men don’t generally show each other appreciation, we kind of just expect you to do your job and be reliable. Otherwise, what’s the point of you being around. That being said, it is nice hearing it from you woman.

[@InceleHubby]

Great content. It is much too late for our marriage, as my negatively wired wife checked out decades ago. I've learned to be a disrespected housemate instead of a beloved husband. I do miss the hugs & kisses, playing footsie in bed, etc. It is wonderful others can benefit from your wisdom. Keep looking up!

[@Eliukcory]

It hurts to listen and see how dis functional my relationship is. I feel avoided and that my wife puts in an effort to not support me but instead see me as the cause of our 1/2 empty cup and that if I only did x y and z then she would want to be more intimate or Presant. I’ve gone fro being a decient guy to a less so one with her constant effort to improve me with pointing out all the ways I’m a failure. And if there isn’t enough current failure we like to go back and dredge up something from the past that I can’t fix. I would love what your talking about and to look forward instead at past mistakes and failures I’m not innocent. I just feel that living in light of failure has made me more of a failure and I wish we could look the the good things and the future with that in mind we might grow into how god sees us as blameless and becoming more so because that is our focus. I know beyond a shadow of any font we are an example of how to do it wrong. Most people that stumble accross us would never know. But I’m less intent on hiding it. She just hides from me. I’m alone in my marriage.

[@daughterofmyabba]

I'm so sorry. My husband and I have been though (and still fall into) dysfunction. My husband says he has really been helped by the "husband help haven" website. Don't give up, it's not too late.

[@n9wff]

I can feel for you. Married 23 years now. I get my wife stressed with work and she has to vent every day. So do I but I don't want that on her plate. Yet, I wish wives would "shut off" other things for a time to focus on us and intimacy. Through this is where men feel appreciated when their wife responds to his initiating and engages in sexual pleasure. You know there is a problem when the pronouns change from "ours" to "mine". If only people would self-check first before outside reference when things begin to struggle or crumble.

[@placeholdera5512]

Same here. Married 38 yrs but last 5-6 just been housemates. Looking back I see my failures that I've confessed to God. Just about everything say or ask wife, she critizes or has a grumbling tone. She cares more for our adult kids who she enables. Looking back I see I should have confronted her more on this...out of self preservation from the heart aching anger and criticism I suppose is why I didnt confront more...plus work consumed me and drained at end of day. I envy couples that can be married as God desires. When I see wife's look at their husband's from across the room or hold hands when walking (know near 80 yr old couples doing this) I see what Ive missed never to be regained.

[@tammylawley4626]

Thank you. I appreciate it and will listen to it again and again ❤

[@SM-JIL]

Some great reminders and thanks for being honest about the things you also find challenging- super relatable ❤

[@WildflowerSkyz]

This is so helpful. Thank you Anna! ❤

[@angelagregory2810]

Wonderful wise advice ❤

[@angiee_granda]

Love the video! 🥰

[@annielumpkins7840]

Thank you so much. Please pray for my marriage ❤

[@AnnaDysett]

Praying, sweet sister 🙏🏼♥️

[@gabbyrobles8572]

Really love these videos. You are setting a great example for young couples and mothers. Off topic but I really love your lip color, would you mind sharing the shade?

[@AnnaDysett]

@@gabbyrobles8572 I layer a few things - all super inexpensive too. I start with Rimmel lasting finish lip line in the color cappuccino and then top it with LA girl lip liner in the color reddish. Then in the center I use Rimmel stay glossy in the color Claridges Ruby. Honestly though - all it is is a combo of a brownish red/ red brick liner and a light sheer pink gloss. You may even already have it in your collection!

[@brendabrooks9699]

I agree with everything you said❤❤❤❤

[@123JustBecause]

Anna-Have you heard of the book The Love Dare? It is created for marriage. It is a very well done book. Based on the movie Fireproof. I have benefited greatly from the book in my thirty plus marriage and general friendships. The books speaks to the real meaning of ‘love’ as defined in the Bible.

[@AnnaDysett]

@@123JustBecause I have not heard of it. Thank you so much! I’ll have to take a look!

[@tammypoling9618]

Amen

[@danhouseholder6784]

I am guessing that there are a lot of books out there, some that may even be helpful, but who has the time to read? The bite-size format is probably as important as the actual advice. Thanks.

[@bold2013]

Men and woman are so different but both want God glorifying marriages. It’s hard to do all those things well without #9. I’m sure it’s not great for my wife going to #9 when everything is else is neglected. The only way it works is it we are both serving the others needs first.

[@darryltognarelli6769]

I was married for approximately 26 years and she went out on a binge with one of her friends to the bars. She had divorced me and about approximately one and a half years or so she got remarried. I could’ve got remarried at about 10 years later or so And the spirit let me know So I did not according to the Bible remarriage after her divorce like that it’s called adultery adultery in fornication it is stated in the Bible you will not see the kingdom of heaven. I am very content being single and not have to deal with any other relationships or it is amazing to stay single

[@keithlamb5398]

If I may ask how do you meet your sexual needs?

[@thisIsTheDayTheLORDHasMade]

how do you talk to guys?

[@mariamartens8672]

First one here🎉

[@AnnaDysett]

🥳💜

[@brucemathwig5920]

Ok this is the first video I came across by this young women and maybe her videos are strictly made for Christian women. She seems sweet but, one thing I would say she is approaching the topic strictly from a women’s point of view. I got a bit confused because she is sitting on her and her husband’s bed to make this video. That made me think she was going to talk about sexual intimacy but, most of what she says is more about intimacy in the relationship overall. Perhaps the living room would have been a better location for the video. It is not that as a man I can’t appreciate everything she said as helpful for the relationship in general but, not necessarily helpful from a man’s point of view for sexual intimacy. Particularly if you’re a man around this woman’s age, you certainly want to be appreciated and you may from time to time to have “pillow talk.” However mostly we want our wives to be enthusiastically sexual with us. Part of this is driven by hormones and we want physical satisfaction but, it also meets emotional needs and is a key way for wives to nurture those needs. Also sexual intimacy is for wives as well. Not having sexual intimacy is like forgetting to put oil in the car. Sexual intimacy itself besides being pleasurable for both spouses also binds you together.

[@geetjuhhisdebeste]

You're right brother.

[@krakerjak3]

Isnt is pronounced "imporTant" and not "importDant"?

[@MICHELDILLIONS]

😊🤗💖🙏🏋🦁🦬🌼🌴🌻 Thank You , Anna Dysett , Blessings Always , Romans 8:19 English Standard Version , Sons and Daughters , Chosen Ones , For the creation waits with eager , longing for the revealing , of the Sons and Daughters of God. Prayer for All : ,,,, Abba Father i belong to you ,,,, Gods Blessings in The Lord Jesus Christ , 😊🤗💖🙏🏋🦁🦬🌼🌴🌻

[@lifejoy2340]

how often do you have sex in a week or how much do you recommend?should we use contraception ?

[@jti2007]

Have as much sex as both of you are comfortable with. Sex leads to pregnancy so if you don’t want children you better plan to use some kind of contraception.

[@geetjuhhisdebeste]

Hahaha, how old are you?! Naive/stupid question, isn't it?! The minimum amount is whichever your husband needs, and the right amount is whichever he wants. Also, a quickie or not much involved hand or mouth is (on the long run) not same satisfaction. It all depends. On many factors. Contraception: up to you, or if you're believer, up to you and God. Is it responsible to become parent when your as broke and can't offer a house and love and nurture?! There is never a right time but there are wrong times, I propose. Also, be educated, know the in's-out's so to speak.

[@__-bc4bs]

That’s it, this one got it, Love seeing this.🫂