10 Years Of Lies

[@pathra]

The interview with OP will be in the next video I put up! Edit: Here is the interview video with OP --> kzbin.info/www/bejne/oqjLiqyaj8lrbNU

[@freak3d]

I need to know if OP is doing well! I'm so sad for OP

[@miktats]

Hi, I’m “Maddie.” Thanks for sharing this story, I can’t speak for all of us but it’s certainly helping me heal from one of the biggest betrayals of my life. And I hope Avery sees it. Avery lied about literally almost everything he ever told anyone. Thanks for sharing OP’s story and I can’t wait to hear the interview. Crazy how I had been friends with him the entire time him and OP knew each other and still never heard a word about her.

[@DeadlyWandererVT]

@@miktats oh he's definitely seen it, he had a meltdown down in the comments. I'm sorry you guys went through this

[@0fluu0]

@@freak3d OP here - I am doing well! The support is overwhelming, you're all so nice.. and "Maddie" and I have bonded over the whole ordeal, as I'm getting to know Avery's friends that I only heard stories about for 10 years, I'm finding them all to be super nice people.. and all bamboozled at the lies that ran not only towards me, but also towards there. So many lives affected.. wild

[@inplane9970]

@@miktats Sounds like Avery is a pathological liar. Stringing up a whole web of (Albeit flimsy) lies and feeling no remorse. I'm glad you guys are dealing with the whole ordeal well.

[@ilitsa]

Speaking from experience, that advice about not letting one person be your sole source of happiness is great advice

[@ex3delux]

I told my gf that and she got angry at me for a week lol

[@ilitsa]

@ex3delux until I experienced the pain and manipulation that came from it, I would have gotten angry hearing it, too lol

[@LordNeltharion]

It really boils down to the life lesson of "if you can't be happy with yourself, how will those around you be happy with you?" by getting your happiness purely from another person you become Dependent on them for it, and thus make your happiness at stake of the whims of that person. Finding a way to be content with yourself and joy in aspects of your life is always a good foundation before seeking dating. It sucks it sounds like you had to go through it the hard way but it's good you're all the better for it.

[@natdomo]

@@LordNeltharion trueeee someone was like this to me when we were just a friend! they always waited up for me to online ff just the fact i said "i am busy, idk if i'll be online", somehow i managed to online but waaaay hours later and they still waited for me.... i was online just to check market board, but instead i had to do roulettes too with them bcus i felt bad for them waited. Also they got mad if i play with my other friend.. like felt insecure if i gonna leave them for this other friend. TLDR: depending your happiness on other is bad, insecurity does make you overthink when in real is nothing happens. Also doing those drives people away cus it makes them go mental (me)

[@Suleku]

Lmao! A whole lot of people fall into that one ;)

[@Flaky1990]

Me: She finally dropped him off at the airport! **looks at the timeline** *almost 20 minutes left* Me: ...oh no

[@DaveTheMedic]

yeah holy crap, it just kept getting worse and worse

[@dhikari222]

"I have no friends" tells you all you need to know about this guy. He had a friend willing to give him TWO GRAND to get a fresh start and still doesn't consider him a friend. Manipulative AF.

[@linkpast96]

Literally my thoughts. She tells the bit about "no friends" right after revealing she'd talked with the friend who paid him for the fresh start... that just highlights the manipulation...

[@ilitsa]

And another that gave him a free home over his head and offered him use of a car

[@johnharbick3605]

yeah having no friends does say a lot. I mean I'm a total shut in. and actually prefer it that way. but still hang out with friends regularly. like people come over catch up on anime with me. hang out for DnD night. sometimes drag me out to bars because I "Need to get out more". but between dude giving him 2k to get started and OP still wanting the best for him. that's some narcissistic BS right there. Hope his next victim's hobby is MMA.

[@dhikari222]

@@johnharbick3605 I think it's unfair to say it's the lack of friends means there must be something wrong with someone. Plenty of reasons that could lead to someone being socially isolated, especially in our modern societies where there's a lot of strain put on social relations. It's more the complete disregard for what friends he does have and the effort they have gone through for him that makes this guy a complete dick.

[@dhikari222]

@@usualrain7082 Yeah, that's what I said 🤔

[@Ce_res]

“His presence still lingers in my house…” You mean the stank from his beanie…?? I’M SORRY I HAD TO SAY IT 😭😭😭

[@peger]

that smelly smell that smell... smelly. a mix of axe, tendies and well worn fedora. xD

[@DasNagi]

I was sitting here the whole story trying to figure out what the smell from his beanie could be ( I studied cosmetology and you have to learn about these things because a lot of scalp infections are contagious and you have to be able to spot them so you know when to turn away a client and recommend them to a treatment or to see a doctor.) , he could have had Folliculitis or Ringworm on his scalp, there are so many infections you can get in the follicles on your scalp, It could have also just been his hair was super knotted from lack of self care and he couldn't clean it properly and it caused oil and dirt build up and he was to afraid for anyone to see so he kept the beanie on.

[@polmao]

Getting too close with people on MMOs while you are with someone irl is the worst mistake you can make. Dont let it ruin your marriage either.

[@aprilleto8767]

This is why I cannot wait for the new blacklist system. This poor girl.

[@hipsterghost7020]

If you aren't physically attracted to someone, it won't work out. You can't be sickened by the way someone looks and expect a relationship to work. It's just not gonna happen.

[@BiancamellaSays]

Adding this to the list of things I wish I knew before I learned the hard way lol..

[@Stiksta]

I semi disagree. Because you can lose weight, you can take better care of yourself, etc. But the fact he didn't was what made him unattractive. His laziness applied to the rest of his life and spoiled those areas as well. Everything wrong with him stemmed from one awful trait.

[@BenkaiDebussy]

I feel like a lot of people find themselves in bad situations because they tell themselves "I shouldn't be shallow." In general, the idea of forming a relationship with someone without having even seen a full photo of them is completely baffling to me. It seems like some people just have the love/relationships version of a gambling mindset, where they convince themselves that they're going to experience the 1 in a million chance that "the online relationship with someone who hides how they look" is going to be with a secret hottie (and completely shut out the part of their brain that would normally raise the red flag).

[@hipsterghost7020]

@@Stiksta Attractiveness doesn't just mean physical, it's also personality, and mental. Weight has nothing to do with things a majority of the time. Crap attitudes, laziness, unwilling to change, etc, these all go into it as well. You have to be able to be with someone without wanting to get away from them. Before I get asked how I would know, my 10 year wedding anniversary is June 13. We met in an MMO.

[@anjolou]

I agree, there is more than the physic, there is also some kind of "smell" ? Way of acting irl, walk etc... It is hard to explain because someone not really commonly attractive can attract me with those things and vice versa :D

[@MrHoutarou]

This was one of the first stories where I felt both exhausted and grossed out

[@nexyshiranuinu1987]

same

[@Rizomon]

ngl at like 30 minutes I thought it'd be over with things going so downhill then i saw there was over 20 more minutes left and screamed "THERE'S MORE?!"

[@GusPagan]

Nooo OP you don't have to lose faith in people! There is someone for you out there I'm totally sure!! I found the love of my life at 35yo, got married, got pets, planning to have kids etc. You'll find someone!

[@obliviouschipmunk6539]

The talk of the beanie, smell and shed skin made me feel like I was gonna barf.

[@bransonchic678]

Same !!

[@FuyunobanaMitsuki]

i physically had to stop drawing just to show my disgust for a full minute...

[@ashleywalker9284]

Seeing that this is an hour long story right before my hour long drive. The timing couldn't be better

[@kichan]

My partner has been with a guy like this, I had a guy like this pursuing me once. It's sad that guys like this are more common than we'd think. I think this guy was just stuck in a fantasy romance and then awkwardly had no way to back out of following through. A lot of people in XIV just want their online fantasy romance. Like, once you've been with a person IRL and then all you have to say is stuff like "I believe you'll accomplish your dreams... of clearing UWU!" as opposed to "I hope you find someone who's good to you, who can be the husband and future father of your children that you deserve." That's proof enough. He equates accomplishments in XIV to IRL accomplishments.

[@Dada-ft2to]

Selling a horse for a man is INSANE LOL. As an equestrian, I cannot comprehend that. Girl, you fked up big time lmao

[@0fluu0]

well there were bills that needed paying, that deffo weighed in a lot

[@Dada-ft2to]

@@0fluu0 i'm just sad for you, coz I can understand to a degree. But you said it was to save for the future with that man. I'm unsure if you had your mare for having her around or riding, but I still cannot comprehend the idea of the man being more important than a horse. I can only hope you can recover financially at some point and get her back or at least return to riding. An awful thing happened to you but at least now you know to never trust a man, LOL.

[@cilismoniker7322]

@@Dada-ft2to If you think pets are more important than people, you're misanthropic and in need of help.

[@natdomo]

@@cilismoniker7322 depends on what people LOL

[@Dada-ft2to]

@@cilismoniker7322 If anything YOU need help lmfao. I said a MAN, a man who is sweaty ff player who have been a one walking red flag. And even if my own partner told me to sold my horse because they don’t like it or some bullshit excuse I would break up with them lmfao. An animal can never betray you, can never lie to you and do you harm like this. If anything you need help for thinking some random people on internet are worth more than your animal friends. XD

[@0fluu0]

MY HOME DIDDLY SQUIDDLY WIDDLY -- squiddely dee, squiddely doo, this OP has no more time for you

[@LimeFaceX]

This OP is the one I've had the most sympathy for. She endured so much. I really wish her the best going forward

[@rsfff]

endured what exactly??? a friend she knew for ten years spending time with her? A friend who let her come and go as she felt like cheating on her bf and then guiltily blocked him over it over and over? she endured nothing

[@Wastingsometimehere]

@@rsfff What are you mad at? Even if she's not the 'perfect victim' in your eyes, she at least exposed a guy doing fraud. He literally will be getting away with a crime. Never mind this is you.

[@lordsaladito]

@@Wastingsometimehereit’s Avery’s alt

[@Wastingsometimehere]

@@lordsaladito Yup.

[@sleepywood4171]

@@rsfff whats under the beanie Avery? 💀

[@axellis8333]

A lot of these stories are already difficult to get through but this one really pulled something out of me.. I'm so sorry for everyone involved

[@neonsears]

This dude getting two girlfriends with no job and I can't even get one, sheesh.

[@lordsaladito]

yeah, i was always wondered how the "discord mod" guys got that many game

[@dixonjt89]

Three...he had two before OP lol

[@KrazyArrows]

You’re dodging bullets…you legend

[@GmansGuitarGamz]

Cuz they're lying my dude. Better to be true to yourself and single than lying your way into relationships. Don't drop your crown king

[@aahart420]

These are my thoughts exactly like bruh

[@ditzyhere3138]

Don't let one person be your sole source of happiness, unless that person is yourself.

[@0fluu0]

yeah.. I feel like people misread this though, I meant this as advice for basement romeos, advice for the Avery's out there, since he turned ME into his whole world, after we broke up he was so crybaby about it because "you are my universe, my one personnn" sorta deal. Just not healthy!

[@yabiyabi]

OP, I hope you learn from this, and I hope you teach other kind hearted vulnerable people about this experience. I hope from now on you can be happy, and smile every day. I am sorry for your experience, thank you for the story.

[@0fluu0]

thank you for the kind words, that is really touching.. the support is overwhelming, thank you

[@bluezhift]

What an absolutely heartbreaking story! I have friends who have met in game and gone on to IRL relationships built on love, trust, and honesty. I sincerely hope that OP will find the love and life she is looking for! She has so much to give, I hope she won't give up!

[@hellobecs]

i was so excited to get the notification for this specific video and oh my god it is just as insane the second time 😮‍💨

[@suplexsuarez3384]

Any other woman would have walked away from the moment she'd see such a man greeting her at the airport. OP is truly an angel for giving the benefit of doubt and trying to make it work.

[@neon9152]

This is going to be a very hard one to top, omg. That was insane and I cannot wait for the interview.

[@VayonexGaming]

I watched you on stream with this one even the impromptu interview. You handled that so good!!!

[@MTausart]

very sad story :( i met my husband online - still together after 10yers and in love. Yet people need to be aware of 2 things - red flags, and long distance relationship beying to long. If thinks notadding up in 2years at most is a time to move on unfortunatelly. For people like that its really easy to be whoever they want online and texting lies is easy.

[@inplane9970]

The way everyone is Avery's life offered him everything to live a good life, and he squanders ever opportunity. He deserves everything coming for him.

[@nyabunny605]

I grew up with someone like this and can vouch that this type of person does not make a good parent. OP was totally in the right for leaving this guy behind. I hope that life only gets better for them from here on out, and that they find the happiness they deserve fr.

[@Vegetonch]

You have people who are kind, good, adorable, who would do anything for people, for one person, but can't find anyone... They're alone and yet they'd be adorable, they'd give everything... Then you have this guy... Manipulative, a liar, doesn't care about a person's feelings... 10 years old... 10 years, this OP deserves all the love in the world... having pictures of gposes in her room, introducing her friends, imagining her life with them, etc... Poor thing, it disgusts me... I (and many others) would give anything to have a relationship like that, taking care of this relationship !! He deserves no sympathy

[@aahart420]

Fact 💯

[@AkudamaEXE]

“Darkness persists but so do I “ is this a devil may cry lyric ? 😂😂😂

[@GusPagan]

What baffles me the most is hiding so much beforehand. Hiding things that he did not had to hide from her at all!

[@DanielSantosAnalysis]

The entire time in my head, I kept hearing that Spongebob meme "oh BROTHER this guy STINKS!!!!!"

[@diabetickakashi]

YESSSSSSSS PATHRA TIME ❤❤ I was there for this story time read, and I really like how this community has in a way formed to be a bit of a support group for people. Whether that be listening and being able to relate, or needing to voice the situations you’ve been in. in a way, it’s like a form of therapy on its own. Even if your stories don’t make it to be read live, I still feel that it’s great and important for people to journal their feelings and it has a form of healing about it, especially when you’ve been through something tragic as this. I hope good karma comes to OPs way and that Avery is able to get the help he needs, he sounds like he has a lot of mental issues from past traumas and needs help, not by you, but a behavioral therapist about this to help him This doesn’t change the pain he’s caused and I’m not validating that but I do hope he can learn from this and use this as an opportunity to better himself to prevent another victim falling into this same situation he caused OP this healing journey is not going to be linear and there will definitely be happy days and some sad ones, and I hope for each passing day things get easier and we all here support you and thank you for getting your message out there.

[@diabetickakashi]

Typing this while at work so if some grammar is off I apologize ❤❤❤PATHRA PUNCH

[@reinhard.gainzz]

I’ve been obese , he shouldn’t have hid it man, it is what it is you know?

[@rsfff]

he didn't hide it. He told her flat out several times

[@reinhard.gainzz]

@@rsfff i should have clarified, I meant that he shouldn’t have to not face time his girl for so long while she was always on cam, because of his insecurity, she accepted him at that time for who he was. Obese or not she wanted to see him on camera I’m sure regardless of how obese he was.

[@inplane9970]

@@rsfff Then show it on camera too? If OP is completely open about her life, then Avery should be too.

[@0fluu0]

He did hide it with the selective camera angles, and refusing to send oictures. That is not full disclosure. And the obesoty wasnt even the game breaker here, that wouldve been all the other lies....

[@0fluu0]

​@@rsfffAvery you really need to go and get a job... for your own future you know. Comments like this just prove over and over again that its you.. as said before, if you invest half the time you spend on trying to lie into finding a job, youll be a millionaire in jo time. This is the wake up call, man..

[@SoraShadowdancer]

First mistake she made was not cutting Avery off as soon as she started to develop feelings for him. The second mistake she made was unblocking him while still in her IRL relationship after their attempts at working things out didn't pan out. Yeah. I have no pity for her. AT ALL. She put herself in that situation.

[@michaelgibson3119]

sorry ladies, he's either good at FFXIV or a suitable partner, can't have both

[@LinkIsMine]

Untrue. My husband is good at both Guild Wars 2 and Diablo and he's a wonderful man who provides for me. 😊 He could probably also be good at FF14 but he hates the combat system and refuses to play it because of that and I don't blame him. XD But I kinda get the point you were trying to make I think. lol

[@neondharma]

he said what he said

[@NyxieXo]

Nah, started dating my raid leader 2 years ago. Living together and happy. He is amazing at the game and an even more amazing partner. Don't let these horror stories scare you ladies, just be safe and don't ignore the 🚩🚩🚩

[@jimmorrison4ever529]

I play a male character now because when I played a female character guys were up my ass 24/7 where I couldn’t ever get anything done in the game! Couldn’t queue duty being asked to join, couldn’t craft without them sitting on my character, couldn’t decorate my house without some guy showing up. Like for real, let girls play and leave them tf alone

[@CKainn]

good thing i’m a dogshit summoner main!

[@DasNagi]

I am just hearing this story a month later, and GURL OP is a real one, stuck it out when it was hard, overlooked all his flaws when they met IRL, gave him a GRACIOUS amount of time to try, to get it all to work; gave up her beloved horse for their future and even her family treated him with such grace and kindness even knowing how hard it all was on OP. OP and her family all stayed wonderful people. I hope she became friends with Tucker as well, it was the only thing off Avery's side of everything that was real was a friend that dude didn't deserve to have. One person she had that told her EVERYTHING. I hope OP is doing well and I hope she makes many friends because just from this you can tell OP is a good hearted person, she is a determined person, and she deserves someone with the same drive and kindness as her. Stay strong OP!

[@quinnmartell261]

I can't stop imagining the stench that must have been coming from that beanie

[@cozyfloret]

joined the stream at the very end of this story and have been waaaaaiting for this upload... 👀

[@mohbar4198]

Saaammmeee here, i was in and outta the stream for it, but was at least there for the interview, so 👌🏾👌🏾🤙🏾🤙🏾

[@bransonchic678]

Yay! An hour long story just what i needed after my physiology lab exam! I really appreciate op's advice

[@superhigh5302]

Holy crap this has to be the the best one so far pathra

[@soldierorsomething]

HOLY MOLY, this story is a nightmare, that BEANIE BRO was something out of this world!

[@drizzlree]

Man this story hit close to home. i was also in a relationship with this guy in ffxiv who is such a pathological liar. Somehow his made up and the revelation at the end was similar to mine. Wonder if its the same guy lmao but on the other side, i understand why op cling to that hope for so long. We don't want the idea of him that we have all this time to be false, that we are still in denial. Good thing op snapped back after all that irl stuffs happened. It was wild, but probably this happened too many times in ffxiv

[@CTN404]

This is heartbreaking! Don’t worry OP. I know this was insane and you made the best decisions you could in this situation. I hope the best for you. I hope this guys gets the help he needs. He doesn’t sound all there.

[@LadyChermont]

"he waited for me for 10 years" ofc no one else wanted him, and i believe he also told that every female who gave him a slight level of attention, op, you were manipulated from the start

[@chewedw1re]

can’t imagine what kind of biohazard he’s got going on underneath that beanie lmaoo

[@thevermin23]

Bears wash their beanies and have a degree in IT. Always choose bear.

[@Ajkkl21]

This is even more brutal than what I went through. At last I wasn't lied to like that. I was in an LDR for 5 years. We met up after 2 years when they came to visit me here in the US. They kept up this idea of a relationship with me even planning out getting married together. I started the process to get them moved over here. After covid and immigration taking too long, it finally came time for them to do an interview. They then broke up with me saying I wasn't attractive to them. We'd sent pictures before even meeting and they DID meet me but didn't say anything for 3 years, keeping up the charade that we would be getting married. I feel for OP and hope they can figure out a way to trust again, because I was only lied to a little for 3 years and have trouble trusting anyone. Their experience is so much worse.

[@LinkIsMine]

Oh man... my heart goes out to you BIG time. I'm so sorry that happened to you. It really effects us when people do things like that, gives us MAJOR trust issues, and it sucks because there really is a lot of amazing people out there that deserve our love. Pretty much almost every guy I tried to have a relationship with has cheated on me, so I already had trust issues from that, but then I had a FF14 experience where I tried to be friends with someone who basically tossed me into the dirt and gave me the cold shoulder after I told him I couldn't ERP with him. This guy was supposed to be my friend and he basically just showed how much he didn't give af about me the entire time. (there's more to it than that but I don't wanna get into it here lol) I also had a guy who I became friends with at a place I worked at, we were friends for a long time, like 3-4 years or so, and he knew I had a fiancé at the time (he's my husband now) but still proceeded to hit on me after we finally exchanged numbers. (I should've known better but we did work together so I thought it would be a good idea in case we needed to cover each others shifts for any reason) The dude basically disrespected me and my husband by hitting on me and saying "he doesn't have to know" and I of course politely turned him down, feeling extremely awkward about our friendship after that. (again there's more to this story but too long to get into) Basically he exploded on me after I tried to help him out with something after our boss warned me about people sending in complaints and he wasn't doing a very good job so I was very politely trying to help him out and it caused him to get mad at me. Funny how he suddenly changed his tune on me after I turned his advances down. lol But yeah... it's situations like that, that give us trust issues, not with just romantic relationships but with friendships also.. and it sucks. 🙃 The best thing we can do though is to not let those toxic people get to us, and to keep trying, and keep letting people into our hearts, because even though some people will try and crush it, we should still give a chance to those who will embrace us and not take us for granted because it's so rewarding when that happens. ❤

[@BenkaiDebussy]

Tbh I think your situation is actually more understandable than the OP's. In your case they deliberately lied in bizarre ways you couldn't reasonably predict or understand, while the guy in the video was obviously full of shit every step of the way. On the upside at least you didn't get stuck with some guy in your house. That's gotta be a nightmare.

[@Zebanoth]

Thank you for Sharing this Story. Now i really wonder what was going on under the Beanie.

[@slikkvic7611]

It's dudes like this that exist that make me feel better about myself as an individual. To string along a series of lies for 10 years is insane.

[@Fearno]

Man, last drama story that made me feel this full of despair was the FFXIV Vegas fanfest scam story that made rounds (yall know the one). Idk if its the fact that it lasted for ten years, that it just ended recently, or that their deepest fears came true... but yeah geezus man. Also, bless the poor souls that had to endure the beanie stench with him on the flight to and from where OP lived as well. 🤢🤢🤢 Okay up to "Miranda" now... HOLY HELL, how does it get worse. .... IT GOT WORSE.

[@yalo3162]

You’re an amazing person, OP. There’s a lot that can be said, but first and foremost, you’re awesome for how much effort you gave, you did your best, and he never deserved you. Most people wouldn’t have tried to make it work at all. You went above and beyond. It’s incredible that a guy with so many issues couldn’t at least try to do well, when he got the best opportunity he could probably ask for. Unfortunately, you rolled the worst case scenario. I’ll say that you should’ve gotten more proof before going through with stuff, but love is blind, and I’ve been there. Can’t possibly blame you. I hope life treats you better from now on.

[@emilyharu8485]

Oh man, I was looking forward to that interview ;;

[@pathra]

It’ll come out in the next video

[@ishirutaekakura308]

That wedding vow was so bad lol

[@0fluu0]

yeah at the moment I was soooo swooned. Hindsight, am I right?

[@celtifer]

My name is Miranda.....my middle name is Eden..... how freaking bizarre

[@pathra]

:o you are the chosen one! That’s a crazy coincidence though!

[@ooooswain]

Beautiful name!

[@Miranda-rc9sw]

I’m Miranda from the story lol I just got told about this video by a friend

[@Eliyanyx]

Lads we got avery in the comment section lmfao

[@LinkIsMine]

I noticed that also, they are very sus. XD And their logic makes no sense about the situation that played out in the story. Also, how did they know he was in his 30s? 🤔 lol In any case, Avery seemed like he didn't even try to get a job or anything, literally was leaching off of whoever he could the whole time. As someone who suffers from mental and physical issues which makes it hard for me to get and keep a job, I still make the effort to keep trying, hence why I'm not blaming anyone but myself if I ended up obese and alone. (which thankfully I'm not XD) I wouldn't be blaming OP or others for my poor life decisions of not trying to better myself. OP tried so hard to make things work but just couldn't handle it anymore, and that's not her fault because of the lies Avery told her throughout their relationship.

[@pathra]

I learnt later on that was actually him on a fresh account because he entered my discord and was willing to be interviewed too.

[@QuillTail]

@@pathra oh boy, I can't wait to hear the excus- I mean... "his side of the story".

[@LinkIsMine]

@@pathra Oh wow! I feel like it's very rare to get an interview with both sides of the story. 😵 I would LOVE to hear what he has to say tbh, because for all we know someone could be lying, and it's a he-said-she-said without any evidence, so if he could provide any substantial evidence that she was lying somehow about anything I would very much love to know about it. That's crazyyy and I can't WAIT for the interview vid, I'm here for ALL the tea! ☕

[@Eliyanyx]

@@pathra omg let's go!!!! I'm hyped

[@Julio-cp1kb]

THE BEANIE 😷

[@iriebuddha]

It was cool being there live during this story. Hope to see more in Jenova!

[@dr0pcandy]

I feel like for us as bystanders, it's so easy to spot the red flags but when you're in love, you tend to give the benefit of the doubt despite the glaring signs of it being a red flag. More than a drama story, this is just a tragic story. I'm so sorry for OP that this has happened... the whole 10 years of time just to have it turn out this way-- I can't imagine the grief and lost time. I hope OP and Avery's friends can find semblance of peace later on after this.

[@0fluu0]

Yeah the red flags are easily spitted since i mention them in the story, right.. and like, I knew they were red flags, i was not oblivious to them. But i always had a "but", there was always a "yes he doesnt send me pictures But he grew up with a dad in jail and a mom whos not alive and a grandmother that only shouts at him.. so i understand his anxiety and respect that." Or just in general the Yes But, caused me to look at the bigger picture. Yes this is weird But this is thr man that waited for me, stood by me, Surely in the grand scheme of things this'll be fine....... I thought that the fantasy version of Avery that Avery had crafted so well, was gonna make up for the red flags.. too bad that was based off a fantasy and not off how he really was.. manipulators man. Wild

[@dr0pcandy]

​@@0fluu0 Oh totally! I understood why you were able to look pass these things since you guys have had history for a long time and you did mention that he felt like he was THE one... I feel like this is something anyone can be easily trapped if they were put in your situation as well which is scary. I was shocked and really felt sad listening to your story, I truly hope despite the future being uncertain as of now that you are able to find someone who can stand by your side. Naïve as it sounds from a stranger, I really wish you all the happiness in the world whether big or small. 😭 I'm looking forward to hearing you on your interview too!

[@markup6394]

10 years... I'm at a loss for words...

[@csrjjsmp]

Op and her family are too kind. I hope she can get her horse back and find someone good who can help her create the family she wants.

[@benjaminfast5496]

I saw this was 1 hours and wasn't sure I wanted to commit. Only took a few minutes to get hooked. I have no words.💀

[@petree]

Op was 33? Hey, it's really shitty tbh hearing that it didn't work out, and you wanted a family. Risks after 35 for having a family are always there as it's associated with increased chances of birth defects. You would be monitored much more throughout the pregnancy. My youngest sister was born when my mother was 40. My oldest sister just had her first child close to 39. Time can never be taken back, but please don't give up. If you ever find love again (which I hope you do), just know that the door isn't closed.

[@kaye507]

My mom had me at 39 and my brother at 41. She wasn't undergoing any fertility treatments to have my brother either. The risks are increased but people def can and do get pregnant into their early 40s. If you really want to, and have the resources (money) available and health permits, you can even carry a pregnancy after menopause with IVF and a donor egg. Grandmas have given birth to their biological grandchildren because the daughter couldn't get pregnant for whatever reason. Out of curiosity I Googled the oldest woman to do this, and some lady from India gave birth at 74. (?!?!?!) It's questionable whether having a kid at that age is advisable or ethical, because ain't nobody going to be spry enough to keep up with a small child at 80 years old, but yeah... If there's a will, there's a way

[@namenotfound8747]

I actually don't feel bad for this person because how does a person in their mid to late 20s and early 30s never video chat a person they are into for 10 years. OP needs to stop playing FF and talk and hang out with people in real life.

[@makatieldarkone3462]

OP, the bonding ring. You can discard it from your inventory and the bond is no more. I'm not sure if you know this.

[@Zinodin]

When I heard about the Beanie guy's in game accomplishments I was immediatedly thinking: "Cool. When does he work? Nothing makes sense at this point. People with money and houses do need to make some smart decisions or they'll lose it anyway." Feel bad for OP though - Thanks for sharing the story!

[@michaelcosta7235]

I've got a full time career, wife, and kid and all ultimates and capped Gil, so that's no excuse for him not working either.

[@Zinodin]

​ @michaelcosta7235 Alright sir. That's a valid counter-point, and I agree. Perhaps I'm projecting from my own personal experience where most overachievers I meet use the game as compensation for real life issues, but that doesn't mean it applies in all cases such as yourself. Thank you for chiming in, and apologies if I caused any offense. Hope you have a good day, Michael.

[@notcolexd]

You're one of the only if not the only youtuber's that can submit an hour video and I sit and listen for the whole thing without skipping 🤣. You own Pathra, keep it up! Also that man prob had the entirety of the Bug-Type pokemon living under that beanie fr fr. Hope your girl got her house sprayed after he left. 🤮

[@0fluu0]

deep cleaning. My spiritual friend brought over sage, LMAO.

[@omnipotentgaming166]

I feel sorry for OP but it’s not too later for her yet there’s good people out there but she has to push on and not ignore red flags… she should keep trying, she can have her children.

[@CxBrowne]

I'm gonna have stress dreams about this story now thank you OP

[@0fluu0]

oh nooo thats not worth it, have sweet dreams about people realizing someone is a sussy baka before getting children together or getting married. It was unfortunate but I dodged a huge bullet. I hope you sleep well >.

[@midwestbox]

As someone who got lucky with my partner but only after going through multiple burn and burn from exes. My heart goes out for OP as a fellow 30s year old person, you'll find your special one eventually. ❤

[@evaidem]

Going against the grain and i will probably get hate for this but thuthfully, my sympathy for OP was thrown out the window when she basically emotionally cheated on her ex, but tries to portray it as if she "did the right thing" when she removed Avery from her life (for a time). She E-cheats for 10ish years?? Im genuinely astounded at how much support the chat gave her. She didnt deserve it. Dont get me wrong, Avery was a POS beyond description, but she needs to take some accountability too.

[@beeIovely]

i went back to see if my comment was removed or something for having this angle too and i'm so glad i saw this. i'm actually astounded that this opinion seems to be the unpopular one. that both of them were responsible for different faults was so obvious to me, but i've seen like no mention of OP

[@evaidem]

@@beeIovely Glad to see I'm not the only one with this opinion.

[@anqeal]

and she did that for someone that much younger than her :(

[@HezrouDhiaga]

Man there's so many red flags happening in this story

[@bellidrael7457]

10 years must be prime drama time because that's how long I was in a long distance relationship before they suddenly decided they 'weren't capable of loving' and all these other excuses. I legitimately wondered if this video was about me. (Though knew it wasn't because it wasn't really in FF) Also the part about the friend sending him money that just, disappeared, reminds me of the time my household (My brother, my cousin, and a friend) were struggling to pay bills, and a friend gave my cousin 500 dollars for rent, and she... gave the money to her mom to help her out, and didn't even TELL anyone of us that she had received money in the first place. Everyone was PISSED when we found out over a chance message from her mom.

[@TryItWithTim]

Damn that was awful 😣 I wasn’t prepared for the beanie part when I was eating my breakfast taco 🤢

[@gentlepengu]

i deleted a years old character due to stalkers and the lodestone url never changing so they can always find you, hopefully the blacklist and friend removal is updated to prevent stuff like that

[@Saphira.]

How did this guy manage to befriend so much amazing and supportive people? This is unreal

[@peger]

my sweet summer child. i think you never listen any neckbeard stories before. xD

[@Kitkat5335]

This is why I don't get caught up with online relationships. The few times I joined a FC that was into the RP scene and insisted everyone get bonded to someone else was so uncomfortable given past experiences with online individuals myself. One turned out to be a super creepy stalker that ended up traveling to the state I lived in (we were only friends) then asked to meet at a coffee house a few blocks from where I lived (never told them exactly where I lived, they had somehow figured it out). Scared the hell out of me. The other ended up being someone that was the sort of 'do as I say, not as I do' type of person who lived in Europe. Made everything super stressful and was stubborn beyond belief. I eventually just broke off all contact cold turkey with them. To this day they still try to talk to me, but I just don't reply. Kudos to those who can manage to some how make long distance relationships work and eventually live happily ever after, but I would say that is super rare over running into odd, creepy, or flat out liars.

[@nauscakes1868]

She didn't sell her horse to be with Avery. She sold her horse because she didn't make enough money to justify a luxury expense as a one person household. She would have broken up with boyfriend #1 anyways, and even if Avery wasn't in the picture at all, that horse would still get sold. Lack of personal accountability is how people get scammed.

[@0fluu0]

I was there, hi ^^ the horse had to be sold either way yes, but it was mostly so I wouldnt have to bend over backwards making ends meet, and could actually save up for the life with Avery, so yeah. Exactly as I said it

[@0fluu0]

and I dare say that being fed a reality that turned out to be entirely false for a decade contributes to getting scammed, not a lack for accountability lol

[@roadchordbeats3903]

I’m 10 min in.. there’s a horseeee????? the plot thickens.. 😂

[@sayajin9513]

Daaamn this is one of the crazier ones..

[@samtaro863]

Just want to remind you that she gave up her ex for greener pastures for this. She fucked up real bad, like holy shit.

[@ReyReyzzz]

Avery literally lied about EVERYTHING. like.....LITERALLY EVERYTHING. not one thing, not even the small details were true 😭☠

[@nauscakes1868]

I could totally see myself as one of those coworkers. When people are so blatantly arrogant and self-righteous that they always think they know best, and hand wave away any criticism or warnings -- you better believe the "I told you so"s are going to come out thick and hard when that arrogance bites the arrogant person in the ass. This woman probably had 10+ people from her family, friend's group, and coworkers all telling her that there are massive red flags, and she probably just brushed em all away thinking she knew better, lol. Well, better she learn what a catfish is when she's young and not when she's 60 signing away her retirement to some online scammer who made all the same promises.

[@lastt1mel0rd]

The Minstrel’s Ballad: The Beanie’s Bane

[@Moecinnako]

Man this story is sooo wild.... the fact she sold her horse for the sake of this guy to behave like a absolute disgusting person not only hygiene wise but as a person.

[@EverFallDown]

Ok, I really need to know what medically happens when you wear a beanie 24/7 for a long time. I can only imagine he would have some infections starting or something from that...

[@Naterkix]

"...home diddly squiggly widdly." ...I'm not done but I'm calling the plot twist right now at 3:22. Avery is actually Ned Flanders.

[@LyannaLastRites]

I feel for this person!!! Ten years!!!! Omg that would be heart breakingly soul crushing.

[@blackrosezombie7166]

This story is crazy, and I can somewhat relate but it wasnt in a game it was rl seven years of my life taking care of someone enough that I could even some of his friends. And I say his friends cause once we broke up I heard nothing from them. After a year and a half I found someone who actively includes me and yes he is a gamer but he ask if I want to play something with him (Which is usually something he helps me complete lol) or he ask if I want to play something solo like 14. But he has good hygiene is sooo cute, and he usually is the one to push that I should play a game. He even waited till I was done a game before he beat it. I think he's a keeper. :)

[@madjackal8748]

What's under the damn beanie? I hate cliffhangers

[@kahome]

A shiny head most likely. He should accept it like xeno. xxfing

[@SuthanNagesu]

I madeee it on the liveeestreaaam XD But yeah.. beanieman def tricked OP and I do feel bad for OP. People look for love and care. Avery took advantage of her emotions at that time. I know she lost 10 years to dedicate to someone online... but it's never too late She will find someone better and kinder to her. I would like to hear from her in an interview to see how her thought process is now after this whole ordeal.

[@crystald2288]

I also met someone in FFXIV too and dated him for 2 years and it was awful,thank God I caught him cheating so I was able to end it, and move to Gilgamesh

[@jolteon8213]

This was a good one to enjoy on the pooper :). gotta start the day off right .

[@KaryudoDS]

One of those stories where I'm sitting there thinking "Well it can't possibly get worse. Wait really?" after every bit.

[@askbjornmusic]

Oh yeah. Holy crap - it's crazy it just kept going deeper and deeper. It's just insane!

[@naru6929]

Damn... OP even sold their horse, hope the guy will learn his lesson and apologise to all the people he lied and stole from. Really nobody deserves to be betrayed like that 😭

[@DICEBOY22]

In short Yeah, pathological liar people that basically vampire your time and energy... Those people REALLY suck!

[@hibawww]

sending you all the love and support OP!

[@Krankhafter]

oh god the beanie. i had a beanie boyfriend when i was younger, the smell of unwashed beanie is unreal. 😵‍💫

[@AnimeFanBadAsS]

People need to stop confusing FF14 with real life.

[@ripvanwinkle3432]

People falling in love with someone they don't even know 😂 This sht is so ridiculous.

[@Fun_Professional2u]

I agree with u both

[@Edwinight]

@@ripvanwinkle3432 If you mean with someone online, I don't think it's ridiculous at all. A lot of people show their true colors online through anonymity, so someone acting nice to people usually is as well in real life. Anyone listening to your random ramblings online and actually cares for what you have to say is someone you can easily consider a friend. I've met many people throughout the years that met online and actually got married and are still married to this day. It's really no different than dating through tinder and not that weird considering you share a hobby in common in FFXIV which is a way to connect.

[@kaileykill]

Not only that she cheated on her REAL LIFE boyfriend for someone on ff14 lol like that's insane.

[@ripvanwinkle3432]

@@kaileykill yup I worded it differently but youtube censored me 😂 There were so many red flags from both of them. People out here acting like she's the victim. She is over here having her online affair for a decade with her perfectly fake man. The hilarious part is this dude is an online Chad, homie had 3 girls. I know so many in the rp scene that cant even get one girl to even be interested.

[@lisahayakawa1191]

Damn this is messed up, how can avery play ff14 when it requires pay to sub when he doesnt work or earn money. I feel sorry for op that she has go through that messed up relationship and i hope she finds better men that wont be like avery.