25 Things I Quit to Simplify My Life

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These are the 25 things we quit doing to simplify life. I would love to know what you have quit doing to simplify your life! Thank you for watching and I hope you have a wonderful day.

[@kathyol]

Hi, this is Kathy, Shannon's mom. I have to say that I am really enjoying reading all the comments and I'm amazed and happy to know that so many other women are doing many of the same things as me. I seriously thought I was the only one losing hair on my legs and it's crazy to hear that there are so many others like me. This just shows that we are all doing what's right for ourselves without being told how to act, but doing what is coming naturally. The media and social outlets usually only talk about younger women/people, and trends. These 465 comments make me feel like I'm normal and so many are feeling the same, and we are really very happy with ourselves. Enjoy!

[@carrie3206]

❤❤❤ yes!

[@SirenaSpades]

I loved your contributions!

[@ginatheng9506]

Kathy yes we are normal😂

[@cynthiamurphy3669]

I'm 68 and a few years ago noted the hair on my legs definitely wasn't growing like it used to. I bought an electric lady shaver and use it occasionally in warmer weather if I decide to paint my toenails. I normally don't even wear shorts except around the house and yard. I quit coloring my hair somewhere in my 50s and have cut my own hair for years. I've never truly been much of a social butterfly and have done my own thing pretty much my entire life. I love my good old Revlon lipsticks and will usually put a small pair of earrings on to feel feminine.

[@robynforman1978]

Love your natural colour.

[@edithp.7213]

Hi! I’m 68. Stopped coloring my hair ✅ Stopped watching news ✅ Deleted FB “friends” ✅ Gave away jewelry ✅ Pared down fancy handbags and clothing✅ Rescued a little dog that I walk 1-2 miles twice a day✅ Gave up cooking big meals✅ Choosing shoes and clothing that are comfortable ✅Bought a La-Z-boy recliner ✅ My younger self would be so ashamed of me 😂😂

[@cheriebrittin7627]

I quit, storing others items. I quit, thinking I NEEDED 10,000 steps a day. I quit, wearing foundation (now wear sunscreen tinted moisturizer) I quit, buying and saving books. Hello again library 😊 I quit, chasing gas prices. I quit, others drama. Just excuse myself from the conversation. I’m 63 and love knowing others are quitting the same things. ❤

[@NickiHorn78]

Things I’ve quit: Quit buying gifts for adults Quit using credit cards Quit dying my hair just before my 40th bday Quit all social media several years ago Quit explaining myself Quit feeling obligated to say yes Quit making plans with people who are always late Quit doing favors for ungrateful people Quit taking other people’s attitudes personally Quit trying to reason with people Quit caring if someone liked me or getting bent out of shape if they don’t like me. Life is much easier when you stop trying to keep up with all the latest trends, gadgets, etc… Love watching you ladies. ❤️

[@shannontorrens1]

Oh, I love the quit explaining myself! I am working on that one. =) Thank you for sharing.

[@lmi747]

This is a great list!

[@maryjothompson4578]

Interesting list. As I read it, I realized I also do/don't do most of the items. Very freeing.

[@shannonwold638]

Hell yeah! 😊

[@peggystathem8025]

When young you worry about what others think about you. When an adult you stop worrying about what others think about you. When old you realize nobody else was thinking about you all along,

[@shannontorrens1]

Yes! Exactly! I tell my kids no one is looking at you because they are too worried everyone is looking at them LOL

[@nickybookz222]

As a Dutch woman I am used to the natural look. Your skin and hair is much nicer without all those chemicals. My grandma used to say if you can't eat it, don't put it on your skin. Your skin is your largest organ and you should cherish it.

[@shannontorrens1]

Wow I love what your Grandma said! Great advice.

[@goldcoastlady5377]

I love that. Your Grandmas' advice should be good common sense, but alas, good sense isn't common anymore. Let's all spread the word.

[@silkbuttons]

Couldn’t disagree more, all these women walking around looking half dead and if their eighties at 60/because they won’t wear makeup or pay attention to their hair, nails, clothes, jewellery or style. Dowdy,boring, dull. Why is loving yourself and enjoying that , making the most of yourself the enemy here?

[@lgsimona2013]

My Grandma lives by that advice...she uses only natural ingredients on her skin...she exfoliates with oatmeal with a bit of water, and she ages so beautiful, such amazing skin. ❤❤❤

[@leasplans894]

I wear mascara and that’s all. My husband does not like when I wear a lot of makeup and neither do I.

[@oliviadearth7741]

Lol ,"I simplified it by getting rid of all my friends! "Your Mom is so funny!

[@debbie303]

Yes! I am definitely doing this! Neither 2/3 of my adult children nor my Mom are even on FB! why should I care what my high school friend I haven't seen in 40 years had for lunch!!!😃😃😃

[@j.m.7056]

At 72, I recently went through all my jewelry and accessories and passed most of it on. Not having children to pass things to and not wanting to leave a lot for whoever has to deal with my "stuff" after I am gone really impacts my desire to do Swedish death cleaning. This fall I will go through photos and sentimental things. Less make up or none, simple clothing, and minimal jewelry all make life easier and more enjoyable.

[@christined2495]

Yes I know what your saying here, I did Swedish death cleaning for my belongings, my husband is getting there in his thinking. I really only have the jewelry I wear now, I did my photos last year, that was freeing

[@chloeruegg2352]

Have to tell you that I’m doing the same. But I’m having a hard time getting house items out of the house. My D-I-L actually wants loads of stuff but she’s 2500 miles away and prefers to ‘save’ it in my house. Not so perfect for my intentions of cleaning out the house. Regarding photos/letters/cards, geez, I’ve been working on them nearly nightly since January and I still have so much to go through. Got rid of duplicates, blurred , landscapes, about 50% but it’s really really tough. Any advice or suggestions would be welcomed.

[@goldcoastlady5377]

Hire a small storage locker on behalf of your D-I-L and put all 'her stuff' in there. They will then soon realise that you are serious about decluttering and either have it transported to them or let you donate said items. YOU ARE NOT A STORAGE HOLDER FOR OTHERS!! And congratulations on what you have done so far, keep going! Love Goldie X.@@chloeruegg2352

[@karenr.sternberg1920]

@@chloeruegg2352 Easy for me to say as I never married, but pls, you'll have to set some boundaries w/ your DIL. You can't be the Keeper of her / their stuff indefinitely, & you need to pls make that plain to her. Take photos of all that stuff & offer her a finite time by which to have to deal w/ it.

[@chloeruegg2352]

@@karenr.sternberg1920 Thanks for the reply. Good idea re take photos and have a finite timeline. All this stuff so easily drives me crazy.

[@anneinnes7934]

I loved this video!! I am 62, my husband is 70. He has recently retired. We just love sleeping in, living life in the slow lane. I also realised the importance of taking time to just sit and talk with our youngest son who is 31 and has autism. No screens. No tv. No rushing off to do jobs. I just sit and give him 100% of my attention. I have found that decluttering helps him cope better, and even encourages him to try and sort his own room out.

[@ScoobyDoo646202]

Thanks for your encouraging comment. We're a handful of years younger but our family matches yours to a tee.

[@debc315]

My husband just put our 2 televisions in the tool shed Up on the shelf , not being used It is quiet in our house We both watch some things on our cell phones I found because we would not pay for cable we were watching reruns ofASH Quincy Rockford Files Walker What we were watching was violence from about 10 am til 2 am some days I have never been a news watcher so I don't8ss that . If something catastrophic happens we will hear about it

[@anneinnes7934]

@debc315 great idea. I like to keep tv off during the day. Too much negative stuff on TV. Just stresses us and really stresses our son. Prefer reading a good book or watching my favourite youtubers.

[@nataliemccabe496]

This video isn't just about what you've given up as minimalist's but also about what your values are as people. It is so refreshing to hear from down to earth, realistic women with wise words to share! ❤

[@kirstenward429]

I lost my mom last year, and I love your mom. Thanks for sharing her ❤

[@susannovak8263]

Oh, I’m sorry for your loss. My mom died 11 years ago, and I will occasionally still have “moments”. But they’re happy memories!

[@shannontorrens1]

I am so sorry to hear this. Thinking of you ❤

[@kirstenward429]

@@susannovak8263 I'm sorry for your loss. It is getting easier, but it sure is a process unlike any other. I feel like the meaning of life is revealed when you lose your mom.

[@dlm4501]

Same. I lost my mom 12 yrs ago when I was 38 yrs old. She was my best friend. I still miss her so much 😔🥺. Fortunately, God blessed me with two wonderful daughters to heal my heart ❤️ and we have a close relationship like I did with my mom.

[@celestewatson4874]

I did also. My mom was 85 but had a beautiful, easy smile and laugh and I miss it so much. It's lovely to see close mother-daughter relationships ❤

[@reginafisher9919]

Your opinion of me is none of my business, it was the best saying I have ever heard. It really makes it so much easier not to care what other people think.

[@castlequay2327]

having worked as a nurse i now enjoy retirement where i can paint my nails and wear jewellry.

[@chilipeprsandi]

Well I’m 68 and retired, but I still love to put on makeup almost everyday . It makes me happy ! I also love pretty clothes as well as casual. I walk or ride my recumbent and I enjoy making dinner most days, maybe take out once a week. I have decluttered my house, so much easy to clean and more time on my bike outdoors. I had several dresses I wore on cruises and passed on to the local library . They travel (trunk) around our area and pass on dresses, clothes, jewelry etc. for girls and boys, so I know someone will enjoy a dress worn maybe twice. I cut and color my own hair, but plan on letting going gray in a couple years 😊. I really enjoyed your video! 💕💃🏻

[@phhcdh]

I’m 74 & resonate with so many things you mentioned. But, when “mom” said she quit cooking, I nearly jumped out of my chair! No one says that & I always felt like a lazy person if I didn’t cook a “proper” meal. I just don’t like cooking & all that goes with it! Yay!! I’m not alone :))) Thank you- you guys are the best❣️

[@SpeakTruthBeKind]

I agree with a lot of what both you ladies are sharing. 😁 When it comes to not cooking dinner and you have kids I worked into it this way: When my three boys were in their early teens I told them one night a week would be “Make your own” and Wednesday night would be each boy was to take a turn making a dinner for the whole family that they wanted to eat (within reason) but I would be standing by to teach them how to do it. As they got older and more involved in activities where they might not be home at dinner time, it was reasonable for them to either eat the leftovers or make something for themselves. Same went for laundry - I would teach them how the machines worked and they would do their own. They were also required to help clean the house alongside me and taught how to mow the lawn…required knowledge for soon to be adults. 😁👍🏻 Also, sharing in these chores is a requirement to being part of a loving family. In their 30’s now and are all self sufficient and helpful members of society. 😍

[@micheleohmer4117]

My list: Quit investing time in toxic people Quit procrastinating Quit expecting people to change Quit wasting food Quit buying gadgets Quit comparing my life to others Quit pretending to always be positive Quit saying yes to everything

[@SheilaEnglish2]

So interesting to see two generations of women talking about what they’ve quit doing. Different ages bring different challenges but also different opportunities. There are things your mother can quit doing that you can’t quite yet but you can see the path ahead.

[@MissFlutterGirl]

I’m with your Mum. I’m 55 and stopped colouring my hair around 3 or 4 years ago. I have a short pixie style and it’s silver grey and I love it. It’s so liberating not to have to worry about the endless appointments at the salon to get the roots redone not to mention the cost!

[@user-hw9vf4pl9s]

Me too haven't colored my hair since 2016 and cut it myself since 2020 its long and curly so its easy to do and I wear it up a lot. I can't wait till its 100% all silver gray which should be by the end of the year : )

[@anyayankelevich8352]

Thank you for your candor. The fact that these ideas are revolutionary just goes to show how dysfunctional society can be. I appreciate that you are finding a saner way to live and are willing to share it with the world. I find it very validating.

[@shannontorrens1]

Absolutely!

[@freetheppl5376]

I adopted this saying, " What people think of me, is None of my business" It's So freeing. God Bless!

[@krism4139]

Oh my goodness!! I will watch this over and over! So much wisdom and FUN! I'm with you on the hair Kathy. I'm 61 and stopped coloring in 2020 and my husband cuts it for me. So much money saved. And I don't have to deal with hair salon drama 🙄 "Other people's opinions" is a big one for me to work on - thank you Shannon! You two are so blessed and a blessing to many!!

[@kristieshoemake7343]

I sooooo want to quit coloring! But I have been bleaching it and have pretty dark roots. Do you just stop? Won’t there be a weird line?

[@ellen8996]

I'm 68 and can relate so much to what Kathy says. I have even, sort of, decluttered holidays. Easter, Thanksgiving, Christmas, I usually have a quiet day at home. If I feel like it, I might cook something and invite my two single kids. Or not. I've even gotten to the point of not going to other's homes if invited, if the weather is bad or I just need to be alone. Especially if it is family that lives farther away and I just don't want to do four hours of driving for a hectic dinner. Haven't exchanged gifts of any kind for years. So much less stress.

[@user-hw9vf4pl9s]

LOVE IT!

[@lalahdz9553]

You can have kids at the beginning of a holiday to.pick out a favorite holiday decor.

[@simply.clutterfree]

My simplified life list at almost 40 1) I don't colour my hair and haven't since 23 - money saver 2) I don't get regular haircuts. I time my haircuts for when I'm going to a special event and need a blow out 😂 3) I don't "shop as a hobby" anymore and have drastically reduced my wardrobe 4) As a family, we've decluttered thousands of items from our home - simplified home = simplified life 5) Simplified schedule - I don't say yes to every invitation anymore to be a people pleaser 6) I also don't wear makeup every day and when I do it's only a handful of products 7) Yes - I haven't cared about what others think in years lol 8) I make sure the other people in the family are participating in taking care of the house 9) I've really reduced my time on FB & IG too. And trying not to get too sucked into TikTok 😂 10) Yes I've given up unrealistic expectations too. And I make sure I'm not following any DIY accounts. I find some people are never content with what they have and others can get sucked into that thought process too. 11) Simplified holidays are a game changer and when you can get family to reduce the gift giving 😂 12) I was shocked when my husband wanted to declutter our coffee maker - but I think we're moving to an aero press which is smaller 13) I'm also better off sleeping in a bit rather than get up super early. People should follow their natural rhythms 14) I don't wear any jewelry either. Not even my wedding ring. 15) Just live the life I want to live

[@shannontorrens1]

I love that list! Thank you for sharing with everyone. =)

[@simply.clutterfree]

@@shannontorrens1 🥰🥰🥰

[@parkerrose3590]

My hair is also Silver. I stopped coloring it at 66 after I had breast cancer and my husband passed away. I love my hair and I always get compliments. I'm almost 73 now. I think it is your health that determines how good you look and feel, not makeup or dyed hair. You are both beautiful woman.

[@debraisola9037]

I'm 68 and totally relate with your mom. You are blessed to have each other in this crazy world. Enjoying your videos

[@shannontorrens1]

Thank you so much!

[@eleanorbuck715]

I can relate to you quitting the news! So sick of endless political drama; regardless of which party! Plus, the endless violence we are exposed to via the news, etc. It's exhausting and raises the blood pressure! A simple and calm life is best for good health. Love seeing the two of you together. Thank you for your videos.💕

[@janetstraw191]

SO TRUE! 👍

[@voiceojane]

I’m 60 and your mom and I would get along great, lol! Simple hair, little to no makeup, clothes and shoes have to be comfortable, etc. I, too, woke up one day and said I’m never going to pay another dime to a diet company, ever. Emotions and relationships are still challenging to me but the more I accept how complicated people are (including me), the easier it is to just figure out what/whom I can tolerate and what’s just too toxic to accept-then let it go!

[@user-nq8vm2iv9v]

I'm retired now at 68. Sleeping in is my gift to me. I also found it is how you feel for the day; getting not enough sleep messes your whole day up, drudgery in every task. It is the amount of sleep you get, not the time of rising for the day.

[@lesleytownson6421]

I'll be 60 years in January - so much your Mum says resonated! I don't wear make-up, colour my (greying) hair, care less about other's opinions. Having chemo helped my priorities - a lot of body hair is less/ finer/ absent, I realised (from going bald) how great I look with less hair (or none!) Plough your own furrow, don't look to what others expect.

[@luisesandfrau6379]

Yes, I can soo relate. I also went through chemo. And priorities shift. You just are happy to be alive.

[@marylynneturner5290]

I we amazed at how good I looked without hair! My chemo was during fall/winter, so I wore scarves and hats for warmth and to not shock others. I now miss those quick showers and minimal morning prep. I had to pull out the comb again.

[@luisesandfrau6379]

@@marylynneturner5290 yes,the showers. It took some time to get used to feeling the drops on my head.

[@bridfeeney7428]

I had chemo at 60 . Was grey at 45. My hair grew back my original colour . Still there eight years later.😅 you are right i couldnt care less.

[@supergran1000]

Another 67 year old here (from the UK)! I love your mum and identify with her so much! Ageing isn't a bed of roses, but it's also very liberating. The things you cared about when you were younger no longer seem important - like looks, etc. Of course, other things DO become important, like looking after your health. Any bad health choices you made when you were younger will catch up with you when you're older. I'm very glad I never smoked, but I did put on weight over the years. I'm now actively reducing my weight and am feeling the benefits. Like walking uphill without pain, or feeling like I'm having an asthma attack! That's one reason why I cook from scratch, so I can control what I eat. Please tell your mum how lovely she is. She looks great and doesn't need make-up!

[@rachelpalumbo8135]

I really enjoyed this episode. I am 62 my daughter just turned 40, I see you guys as myself and my daughter. So many of these points apply to us. So nice to see this. It puts perspective on so many things. Thank you guys I feel like you are friends.

[@goldcoastlady5377]

Yes, I agree! They are great together and would be a 'hoot' to spend any time with them!

[@elnorawallin7106]

Loved hearing the things you've both stopped doing.. I retired shortly before the pandemic and had already stopped wearing makeup everyday.. then came masking and I thought "what's the point?", now I rarely wear makeup except for very special occasions.. not even to worship services 😊. I used to like thrift store shopping, but I realized there isn't anything I really "need" so I decided that is not a way I want to use my time. I was feeling bad for not cooking for my husband every night, and I am letting that go. He often doesn't have any appetite with his kidney failure so we've taken to eating when we're hungry and eating what sounds good at the time. Letting go of the "shoulds" has simplified my life. Doing what maked me happy.

[@meenakshi6344]

I get such a comforting feeling listening to you both talk. No pressure, loads of humour. Thanks

[@kirstylynn3723]

I'm 43 and I stopped dyeing my hair 6 years ago and it was the BEST decision I've ever made BUT you both inspired me today to let my 17 year old daughter cut my hair (I had an appt on Tuesday and usually get my hair cut once a year.) She did an amazing job, and I saved $50! I'm so happy we just went for it. Thank your your content. I love you both!

[@KCallaAK]

I love you both so much. I'm 67 (like you Kathy) and my daughter is 33 and we are SO close. In fact, we left Alaska and moved to Utah and are finishing out their unattached garage as a "Casita" for my husband and I! 2 grandkids ages 5 and 18 mos.... Love them. Isn't life beautiful! We went from 3500 sq ft home, to 1650 sq ft home when kids moved out, to 650 sq ft now!! Did the Swedish death cleaning 3 times! I enjoy your channel so MUCH Shannon!

[@shannontorrens1]

Thank you so much for being here! We feel the same way about family, often we have talked about getting a big piece of land and we all live together. That is great you are doing that =)

[@Debbiesdilemmas]

I agree that one of the best things about getting older is that you don’t care about others’ opinions of you. It’s so freeing. I think that leads to a lot of the other things you stop doing. If I don’t care what others think of me I’m not so worried about hair, makeup, clothes, my home being perfect, etc. I wish we all could feel this way when we’re younger but it’s just the cycle of life. I’m sure there are people who still care but most of my friends in my age group and older are happy just being their authentic selves.🥰

[@Faithful10415]

Great comment. So true!

[@lindamcdermott9980]

Loved this video, I can identify with so many of the things you no longer do. In my case, I have far less attachment to THINGS. I don’t even give it a second thought about putting it into the donation bin. I don’t shop or browse in a store, I consider why would I need it? do I have something that would serve the purpose?, and where would I store it?. I no longer go to yard sales and rarely into a thrift store, most tempting when I do a drop off. I am making an effort to use up the foods in my freezer and not buy extra stuff. I hate seeing food go bad in the fridge, just because I made too much and got tired of its leftovers. Shannon, I rarely watch the news, or read every line in the newspaper. I am an artist, I crave my solitude and time just to be creative. The biggest and most important thing I’ve stopped doing is saying “I can do that or take on a project”… I’ve greatly limited my volunteering to do things when my plate is already full. This was a great video and just reminded me to keep it simple. 🌻🌻🌻

[@goodenoughgirl8102]

I’m still working on not taking on too much with the cats. Lol. It’s better tho. Most of them are pottying out in the back yard now. The “whinies” about the “good food” is a bit harder to ignore at times tho. 😅😅 I’m 55 and I still want to have fun with funky punk hair colors from time to time tho. It’s healthier than the permanent colors also. More like Rit dye, except it’s for hair. The only hassle is that it’s messy at times. Lol. So I do it when I’m feeling it and I don’t bother when I’m not feeling it. So I’m looking forward to it actually showing up Bcuz now my hair is still too dark. I get a pro cut about once a year. As a single, I stopped caring about dating or finding a mate. Lmao. I find it to be way easier and far more peaceful without so much stress. (Speaking of accepting yourself. The world thinks we all need to mate but I now just think that is a load of BS myself lol). Is it menopause? Idk but I just don’t care. I like having things my way and doing what I want when I want without any flack or having to compromise all the time. And certainly not having to “tend to” anyone else (well except for the cats. You can’t really ever get out of the cat mafia tho once you’re in. Ha ha).

[@laurabotts4064]

Two ladies that speak my language ! I'm 64 years old and I too have experienced many changes and without even thinking about it - we all change over time. What really stuck out was when you both voiced that you don't care as much about what other people think, you tend to do your own thing which is liberating ! Also, I'm just eating what I want and when I want as well. I don't go shopping out of boredom or buy things on a whim, only buy when I need something. I'm striving to live with minimalism but that is a conscience decision and I have down-sized a lot but still have a ways to go with that. Shannon I love your channel and love when you and your mother get together. You are both very down to "earth" and I really appreciate that. See you in your next video !

[@mishti06]

Im 53 and I've already given up a lot of the same things, not because I don't care but because I realised they weren't important. Most of my choices came as a result of sudden changes inflicted by injury and life events but the result is the same. Fanastic video gal's.. you both remind me so much of me and my mum.😊

[@janetstraw191]

What a fantastic discussion!! I am 9 years older than Mom - and hearing her list of all the things she does not do anymore feels like such a RELIEF to me! I’m late to this party, but in the last couple of years, I have been slowly going in the same direction! Thank you for ‘permission’ to make my life easier. It’s hard not to feel guilty for my generation of ‘homemakers’ but I think it’s time to give myself a break already!! 🙋‍♀️👍🥰‼️

[@lisaa3978]

I LOVE how you said, “I no longer sit and watch what the news has decided to put on air that night”. I don’t either! I also LOVE that you used the phrase “addictive apps”. Because thats what they sure are. Im done being suckered in.

[@roxanne4534]

I'm almost 71, and I've never colored my hair, I don't wear ay jewelry except my wedding band. Your mom looks healthy and happy. I'm already a minimalist so I don't do holidays except maybe using something like a pine cone or sea shell.

[@deeh7105]

I'm a 55 years young wife, mom and grandma and I never colored my hair, never painted my nails, never wore jewelry, never wore makeup in my life and people think I'm alot younger than what I am, never had very many clothes, (couldn't afford it) have always worn dresses, never paid any attention to what's in style or trendy. I simply don't care. I wear what I want. Never had a tv and don't watch the news, never been on Facebook or Instagram. 💃😁

[@sherrireyes1982]

I love your mom. I’m 62 and I went grey early and always thought I had to color. About 5 years ago I stopped. I don’t care what anyone else thinks of me. I don’t mind the grey anymore

[@wendys243]

Love the “Dynamic Duo” and the joy they bring! ❤️ Thanks for sharing this encouragement today.

[@goldcoastlady5377]

A really big THANK YOU, to both of you for helping me start to declutter my home! Really you did that!!!! (And boy did I need too!) I have binged watched all your videos and shorts over the past 2 weeks, and it's just as if you are here with me every step of the way. Having turned 70 years young this year, I've got a 'lot of cr@p' to sort through!!! Yeah, not having to shave legs were one of the plusses of the menopause, not wearing make-up, not colouring hair, not cooking big meals, flat comfy clothes and shoes, going to bed and getting up when you want, and yes, getting rid of most 'friends' too!!! Oh, I never gave a 'beep' whatsoever what anyone thought about me anyway! Keep up the excellent work and more videos please (I'm only 2 weeks in!) Love, Goldie. ps Your garden is looking great!

[@valorielynwhitman8531]

Totally agree! 😂. I am 70, so have been doing Swedish Death Cleaning for a while now. I also "Declutter with Feng Shui". I am a devote Christian and my friends worried about me, but I figure that the Chinese people have learned from God's natural laws and I can benefit from their wisdom without losing anything.

[@sharonclegg3213]

What an absolute joy to find the two of you! I am your Mum - I have stopped doing all of those things too. Truly liberating. Thank you so much xx

[@chloeruegg2352]

Great video yet again! Shannon, I relate so much with your mom being nearer her age and just about everything she has quit, so have I. One thing else that I did was to say “No thank you” when getting invitations which would include people I don’t very much care for. I figure I’m too old to waste time with those who don’t deserve my attention or time. Hope that doesn’t sound harsh. I’m just trying to love life to it’s fullest, keeping my mental health well, and giving my time to those in my life who need it the most. I’ve already watched this vid 2x. You and your mom are a delight. Thank you.

[@lesleytownson6421]

My "shiny new things" are usually books! I can walk away from so much that everyone else is drawn to, but it is dangerous to let me loose in a bookstore!

[@PHBRNTGGR2]

Me too!!! 😭

[@SpeakTruthBeKind]

I also love books/reading! I had quite a collection so went through and decided which of that selection e.g. gardening, cooking, Decluttering 😉 and donated the rest…but I still love books! I have heard people say buy them as a digital copy, but I like to hold them in my hands. Others have suggested going to the library, but when I did last week and picked out half a dozen the books felt dirty and some had an odor. So I think I’ll just stick with looking through the book section at Goodwill where it only costs $1.00 for paperbacks and $2.00 for hardbacks. I also have made purchases online and because I share the same love for books, try not to go to the bookstore very often. 😁

[@bashirauwal5825]

I love this video 😍 "living below your means" adjust your lifestyle, be frugal, budget, save and invest. This helped me out as a 6 figure earner. I've grown over a million in retirement savings with this method

[@laurakhalan5648]

Great words, I'm very interested about this to save and have my money growing!!

[@christopherwerner9584]

Best advice of the year yet you've made so much point. Saving a day off work is the best step to financial freedom. I would really love to get started investing

[@bashirauwal5825]

Yes it's been helpful to my general income I make about an extra 2k from my general income

[@christopherwerner9584]

Wow that's awesome. I'm really excited about this how do I get started

[@bashirauwal5825]

There's a lot of investing options real estate, stocks, crypto, ETFs, but my best advice get a professional lead you into profitable one and make good financial decisions

[@davettepittman525]

Your mother is fabulous. I just love her. I started letting my hair go grey at age 27. But I dont do a LOT of the things she doesn’t do now. I didn’t realize it was a stage of life. A great stage where we are our own directors and critics. And we can ban the critic from our play. 😁👏👏👏

[@hairtiecoocoo]

OMGosh, your mom and I are kindred spirits! I'm 65 and have quit almost everything your mom has. It's good to hear someone else feels the same way about so many things!

[@sharonwengler3225]

I quit being a people pleaser! I needed to reset boundaries with many people in my life. It was amazing to see the reaction of others when your not so available or accommodating.

[@jans8139]

I really enjoyed this! Isn't it amazing how much we can let go of once we stop listening to the marketing messages. I also stopped dying my hair, cut it myself, got rid of most of my jewellry, only shave my legs about twice a year lol! Definitely caring less about what others think is one of the best parts of getting older.

[@stowie7733]

I stopped all the “soap opera” drama that seemed to swirl among my friends and co-workers. I used to be so tied to it but realized how damaging it was to me and them. I’ve retired and don’t have a lot of communication with my former coworkers plus I had to walk away from one of my best friends as she just loves all that chaos. It’s sad in some ways but my life is so calm and peaceful now. That peacefulness means a lot to me now that I’m older.

[@susanchristie9322]

Ok, at 66 years old, and after 43 years of marriage, you’ve inspired me to stop reacting to what my husband says! 😂. Love your channel and your Mom!

[@missymurphy9996]

I simplified my life. I stopped coloring my hair. Got rid of my jewelry. I don’t wear zipper jeans anymore. I stick to comfy clothes, colors and shoes. I still shave some but not every day like I used to. I keep my hair short and simple. I’m tired of styling my hair. I don’t do crowds and I pretty much hate shopping

[@vickiemarker9052]

Love retirement! No alarm for me unless I’ve made an early appointment and that is rare. Visit my Mom about five times a week. Mother is in assisted living with Alzheimer’s. I also quit coloring my hair. It’s really nice not having to worry about it. Spend more time reading my Bible. Enjoying life a little easier. I have MS. Doing what I can when I can. God is good. Loved this talk. You both are very wise! Thanks for sharing!

[@denisekyle6603]

Quit hair colouring, makeup, jewelry, cooking dinners ! Love it ! And so does my husband!

[@jenniferklemmensen9052]

I’ve stopped doing a lot of the same ones you both have! I kept nodding my head in agreement saying to myself “yep, me too”. It’s so much easier and less stressful to focus on the truly important things. Thanks for sharing.

[@lauriecampbell1378]

I'm 60-year-old, grandma to a five-year old with another grand-daughter due on New Years Eve and have stopped coloring my hair last November. I don't always wear makeup when I go out to run errands. I don't wear much jewelry, my wedding ring and sometimes, earrings. I want to feel comfortable and not have to fuss with many things that were important in my youth!

[@deonebergman20]

I’m 70 this year. I’ve decided to continue coloring my hair after I asked my husband about going gray and his response was “why do you want to look old?” I do look much younger with my hair colored!

[@73thebutterfly]

I just wanted you (and your mum) to know how much I enjoy and appreciate your channel. I love your enthusiasm, but with the real touch. Watching your channels gives me the motivation to get back on track. As an only parent, I also simplify my life as much as I can. I don't force my children to join clubs and I don't go out, with friends (although we might do tea and cake at each other's houses). It gives me much needed time and saves me money. Whenever I start to feel stressed I look at my life and my expectations and try to make them more realistic. Anyway, thanks for all of your great tips. 😊

[@shannontorrens1]

Thank you for being here! I can relate so much to your situation. Your children will always appreciate everything that you are doing for them ❤

[@paulathepoodlelover]

Although I'm an only child, my parents were both from huge families. Recently several of my first cousins died unexpectedly and I did not attend their funerals that were scheduled at inconvenient times for me and my tiny immediate family. Several cousins verbally abused me for "failing" to attend these funerals. After watching this video, I'm not worrying about that anymore and I may refuse to go to other large family gatherings that I am simply not interested in attending. It's really rather freeing. Thank you!

[@Tesabr1]

I'm 49 and right there with yall on all of this.

[@skyiscrying]

I quit buying a bunch of different chemicals for cleaning. Vinegar, baking soda, barkeepers friend, dawn dish soap take care of all my cleaning needs. I even use diluted dawn to wash my clothes.

[@simplelife2300]

Your mum is so real, so funny bless you and her ❤

[@SCsweettea]

You two have once again hit the mark. For too long, many of us have tried to live up to unrealistic expectations. You pretty well boiled it down to taking an honest look at your life, and cut through the junk. So love the moon and daughter relationship and perspective. Judy

[@Kakapo839]

Your comment about not letting others opinions affect you really reminds me of the podcaster Mel Robbin’s and her discussion on the “let them theory”’

[@virginialangford6257]

I have 1 black Coach bag (30 yrs old) for winter and a yellow/green Coach (11 yrs old) for summer. No jewelry ever. I still have my hair cut and colored…best friend is a hairdresser so no cost and done at home. I watch her dog when she goes away…I have cut my clothing inventory way down only have what I love now. Don’t do manicure/ fake nails. Cook more soups and stews…crock stuff…cook 1 time and eat 2 or 3 times. No holiday decorations at all. Don’t buy books or magazines…the library can dust and store them. Oh so many things I have stopped and feel better for it.

[@Mspiggytmike]

At 65 I sold all my jewelry except a necklace, three pair of earrings, and my wedding band. I don't wear makeup and quit dying my hair. I still need a lot of work, especially financially, but I certainly can relate to you.

[@backyardbreeze112]

I'm with you on dinner! I don't mind the cooking, but I HATE deciding what to make. My kids are adults now and their schedules are all over the place with college/work. I eat plant based so when I cook for everyone else, I need to have a veggie alternative for me. I still do cook for them, but I have scaled back in a big way.

[@katsspace4688]

I’m with you, I cook well and don’t mind cooking…..but I really HATE deciding what to make.

[@AyaSmith-rb2hp]

You two are amazing, I learned so much! Just stumbled upon your utube today. I am 65 and have a daughter 34 who I shared this with. I am on the same path you are on. Gave up tv about 25 years ago. I occasionally watch Netflix. My kids don’t watch tv very often either. So glad you are doing this!🎉❤

[@marcellemayer4772]

I don’t do arts and crafts anymore. And I don’t miss it. I loved it when I did it but that window has closed. I could feel when I was losing interest and it became a chore.

[@mindyu3478]

I’m 56, and have started (or stopped!) doing a lot of the things your mom has. Next up, letting my hair go gray!

[@Ksmoth1225]

Your hair will be happier for it. And nobody needs to be dousing our head with all that chemical!

[@mindyu3478]

@@Ksmoth1225 You’re right, plus I hate doing it myself, and I hate paying a fortune for someone to do it for me! One thing stopping me is that my teeth aren’t white. I even paid $900 at the dentist to have them professionally whitened at the dentist, to no avail. Some people have teeth that w just won’t whiten. :( I feel like white hair brings attention to my teeth.

[@Kim-Renshaw]

put some velcro rollers in when you dried it for a bit if body add a bit of lacquer and it’s a little different than every day hair if you are going out.

[@thelmalopez6212]

Thank you so much for this video I’m 62 and it’s nice to know I’m not alone

[@expressivepaper]

Absolutely brilliant video. Turned 60 in March and had a “mini” stroke that affected my eyesight and balance a bit. Minimalizing my life has helped me adjust to the new norm. I have done many of the same things you two lovely women have done. One thing I need to do is stop being a caretaker for everyone else in my life. Baby steps! Thanks for sharing and I hope you continue to share such insight into different stages of life!❤

[@angelamelling228]

I am 62, and completely agree with what you both say. Life's to short ❤

[@kbetz1978]

Great video! I think your list boils down to one word: CONTENTMENT . Being content with who you are (not caring what other people think, limiting social media, not reacting), what you look like (90% of the comments seem people are ok with going grey!, no jewelry, no or low makeup,) and what you have (not chasing after the shiny new things.) This video and the comments from the viewers feel so refreshing! Be Yourself! 🎉

[@sandrat1205]

Wow...i really resonated with so many things in this video! One thing you didn't mention that I quit was going for manicures and pedicures and wearing nail polish! The salon was destroying my nails. It has been 3 years since quitting and now my nails are really healthy and grow so fast. Tell mom, her grey hair is gorgeous!!!

[@susanbertrand8620]

I was gifted my first ever salon mani/pedi for my recent 65th birthday. While I am still growing out my damaged fingernails, I have decided to go for a pedicure a few times a year, it seems contradictory but the foot care was great..simple polish though.

[@KellyB3]

I’m turning 52 on Sunday. A lot of these things I already implemented into my life. Absolutely no news. It gives me anxiety. My husband and I sold our 4 Br 3 ba home 2 yrs ago for a 1000 sq. ft apt and I haven’t missed it at all. I haven’t let go of my hair color yet. Lol And, I am like you, Shannon, I really enjoy being at home. I’m not big on traveling or parties. My girls are grown and have their own homes. Great video. I really enjoyed it! Thanks ❤

[@shannontorrens1]

Happy Birthday!!!! =)

[@KellyB3]

@@shannontorrens1 Thank you 😊

[@judithscharf6318]

I felt I was getting lazy as I got older. I’m so glad I saw this video. I will stop dyeing my hair when I retire. I stopped polishing my toenails last summer. I can only imagine how liberating not dyeing my hair will be. I became a minimalist in March 2020. I sold, donated and have away whatever my grown kids did not want. I have downsized my jewelry collection to almost nothing. I used to love it so much.

[@sarahsmom1002]

I've learned it's OK to change what you like to own & do, based on the season of life you're in. No explanations or apologies needed. It's very freeing, for sure!

[@dlm4501]

I stopped dying my hair Oct. of last yr. I turned 50 this yr. It has grown about 1/3 of the way out. Was feeling good about myself until I went shopping at Ross the other day and the cashier asked if I could/want to use the 55 and over discount 🥺🤦‍♀️. Now I'm questioning my decision to keep going gray. But I've almost made it a yr so guess I'll keep going. I'm trying to tell myself that I don't care what people think 🤔, but it's hard!

[@sarahsmom1002]

@@dlm4501 I find it's the younger store staff who think everyone with gray hair is 55+. They're just going by hair color & nothing else. Don't take it personally & let it get to you!

[@loswife6233]

I'm overweight but i have also stopped dieting. The yoyoing was really affecting me more than this extra weight.

[@shannontorrens1]

Yes I completely agree!

[@user-sf2dd5wc9i]

Love this video. You and your mom are awesome. 63 yrs old, no longer the jewelry. I was never a makeup wearer, now I mix foundation w/face cream, a little tinted lips and mascara. I wake up when I want and go to bed when I want.

[@amandasymon4363]

Love your mum ❤️ I am a 66 year old women and I relate to everything your mum says - So reassuring 👊 Love Shannon too - She has so much wisdom 👌

[@dianebahl8241]

Such a fun video! I love all your videos, Shannon. But, I especially enjoy the videos when your mom joins you. I’m 69 and lost my sweet mom almost 24 years ago. The relationship I had with her was very much like the one you have with yours. Cherish those times together! ❤I am becoming more minimal every day so I can truly enjoy doing the things that make me happy. Your videos always inspire me! 😊

[@kathrynmolesa1641]

I am a widow. I sold all my husband’s boy toys and could then afford to hire a housekeeper and a gardener.

[@janblack7265]

This is my first time on your channel and I loved the conversation between you and your Mom!! At 75 I totally agree with her and surprisingly do about everything she “doesn’t” do anymore!! ❤️

[@yvonnehyman1683]

My mother in law also came home when my husband was in high school and announced she was done making supper. She had 5 kids that all came home at different times and it was too difficult. They were old enough to get themselves supper. When I turned her age, I totally got it!!

[@intherockies]

You do not look 67 at all!! I'm 59, and honestly, you look at least 10 yrs younger. You both are blessed to have each other. Thank you for the great content 💞

[@shannonscheffel7366]

With the exception of no longer coloring my hair(I have very little gray and only colored it for the fun of it), I still do it all at 55 😂 I have 4 sons that are grown and married, and sixteen grandchildren aged 16 to 6 months and I'm quite involved with all of them so my life is even busier at 55 than it was at 25. I was a stay-at-home homeschool mom for many years, and now I own a business and work part-time. My husband and I are currently renovating a 110 year old house in our spare time. I don't feel overwhelmed, but when the day comes I'm not opposed to letting things go! This is a great video, thank you ♥️

[@valerieviramonte7887]

Love you and your mom, I’m 68 and relate so much to your mom. Before I retired I would have never even gone to the store without makeup, and now I do it all the time. Same with jewelry, just don’t care.

[@lisabean809]

I love this video. I’m 58 and have been on a journey lately to simplify my life. I stopped wearing makeup some time ago and it so much easier and quicker getting ready for work. Your mom is beautiful and I hope I can age as gracefully as she has because I am getting more gray hair everyday and I have no intention of coloring it. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@PowerToolsWithThread]

I'm closer to your mom's age than you (I'm 59) so I love hearing from both of you! As a KZbinr myself, I've learned to stop following shiny new objects and take all comments as water off a duck's back. And Shannon, I LOVE your philosophy about not reacting to your husband's comments! You've learned this earlier than I did but I'm getting there. Mine goes on, and I say, "Ok." and that's it. That doesn't mean I agree with him, but he knows I heard him and that seems to be enough. Pick your battles to win the war!

[@shannontorrens1]

I am so with you on the water off a ducks back. =) Lately when my husband "knows something" I will just say thats interesting I will be sure to google it. LOL. I hope you are doing well.

[@NWSIMU]

So relatable. I have done some of these and will do some in the future. I have not watched news channels for the past 9 years 😄. Cut my hairs for the past 8 years and never wear anytng than my fav pendant. Even wear my wedding band occasionally. Haven't given up cooking but cook lesser than before. And I am almost the same age as the daughter 😄🤗

[@Michelle_Westdam]

"not following diet fads" and "not letting what my husband says effect me" THANK YOU for normalizing that for me, cause that is what I do too!

[@susanhutchinson5305]

I’m 67 too. I quit colouring my hair during the pandemic and was surprised I still have dark blonde hair! At 60 I started paying for a reserved seat and check in bag when I fly! Love it❤

[@susangray45]

OMG. I’ve quit EVERYTHING too. Life is soooooo much easier and peaceful. No cooking, lots of sleep, no ironing, minimal cleaning….