3 Steps to Getting a Distant Spouse to Talk to You

[@poisonshift78]

I wish I could afford any of these things. I'm a single dad with 3 kids. All I can do is watch these KZbin videos. I don't have anything else

[@wugrut]

You don't know me from Adam, but I am saying a prayer for you and yours right now.

[@michellebolch2164]

apply for a scholarship. I did and paid very little for the 10 week course.

[@febeford5721]

Michelle Rowe how does this work

[@bridgeidiot262]

@@michellebolch2164 what? How would that work??

[@Garrrrrishere]

Contact them and apply for a scholarship

[@onthelevel189]

I see my wife getting more and more distant every day. I wish I would have been a better husband in the early years of our marriage. I hate myself every time I see her and what my addiction did to us.

[@onthelevel189]

I have apologized to her and our kids for the man I was, but I feel it’s too late I can never regain the respect she once held for me. I have never been so scared about the future 😢

[@The_Struggling_Christian]

How can this work when he’s literally out of the house? Blocked me from everything

[@melissacooper6623]

Tammy Almanza that sucks. Sorry to hear that he blocked you. How is it going now?

[@rh7653]

Pray n talk to God. God can fix what we cant or lead us through to what is to come, come what may. God wants to talk to us but we have to have an ear to hear. God loves to hear what our hearts need to say. God can open doors no man can shut and close doors no man can open. Dont give up. God will restore your marriage or your heart and provide someone better just trust him. God has what our spouses cant give sometimes unconditional love😎

[@jjohnson2927]

same problem here.

[@ljcarson73]

Me too

[@Garrrrrishere]

Mine too and he’s around the world too

[@melissacooper6623]

My husband and I are completely moved out of the house we lived in together. I am currently living at my parents. He is living with a “friend”. He has not contacted me at all. I am afraid to contact him because I feel like I’m bothering him. I feel like he wants nothing to do with me. What if I’m always the one trying to reach out? When I do contact him he is very short. He already has a girlfriend and started dating her the first month he left me and we separated. He doesn’t want to work on the marriage. He thinks we are not compatible. He won’t contact me at all. Not even about taxes or our stimulus check. There are many things distracting him including this other woman.

[@selfmadeliving]

Did anything change for you?

[@imperialTech]

My wife and I still live in the same house and has completely shut down. It breaks my heart to see us in the position.

[@gregcoleman9677]

Update?

[@omenwatcher]

My wife left in March. After a good 30 days with limited contact we started hanging out again. She still wants a divorce. We had a couple of rough conversations and I broke down. She stopped talking, saying we can’t be friends. Her new places power bill got sent here so I reached out to a mutual friend to give it to her. My wife came out and we had a long conversation. I tried keeping strong and kind. We agreed to try to be friends after some space. I’ve been binging videos like this, trying to take advantage of this no contact. It takes everything in me to not call her. We’ve been yo-yoing for 2 years out of a 4 year marriage. Dated for several years before that. I don’t want to loose her.

[@windyzz]

Hey man, I’m in the same situation... I don’t understand and it’s so painful

[@crownpoint9]

You do not have to do no contact. Just do not talk about complaints or relationship, which pushes them away.

[@fountainracing]

Great ideas. My wife has not spoken to me in a few months as she needs space to work on eachother. Focus on Friendship is the key

[@elyracristina4046]

Good for u Darren..i hope all people suffering from sadness thinking positive way and have a positive friends to support around that will be good start to move on..

[@susiequsie1980]

Hope you're still together

[@dionmurphy8289]

This is especially hard for me because one we have no kids: and two my wife already moved out and her mind is so made up no matter how much I beg and plead. And try to show I want counseling her family is such an influence on her I can’t do anything. And she blocked me. I’m so empty and in a very dark space.

[@sitmengchue4077]

Very tough when her family is behind her n maybe, subconsciously egging her on. I had a friend who had problems with his wife. She walked out with their kid and straight back to her family to whom she was v v close. They welcomed her back with open arms. My friend had absolutely no chance. He was one person fighting a whole tribe! Sorry. Rally. Get stronger n maybe try again later. Btw, seeing how he couldn't win, my friend moved on, re-married and had a child with his second wife. I think he's happier.

[@makhrr30]

I am in the same situation as yours for one year.

[@windyzz]

I’m in the same position, my wife just walk away few weeks ago... I have no idea what to do....

[@Garrrrrishere]

Me too

[@kosmicmama6107]

I love you guys everything will work out in due time

[@The_Struggling_Christian]

My husband quit talking to me when I told him his girlfriend was in fact messaging me. She was bragging how she has him hooked. He told me I faked the messages she sent me. So he is defending her

[@petefranco5919]

Tammy Almanza Wow that’s not right. ,! That’s messed up ! I feel for you ! My wife did the same thing to me , sneaking around ,and lieing to me about everything 😤

[@petefranco5919]

They are lost

[@melissacooper6623]

My husbands girlfriend is watching stuff on my Disney Plus app and Netflix to show me she has him and is rubbing it in my face. But I can’t say anything because he defends her. I’n his eyes, she is such a good person, yet she is dating a married man the same month we separated and she moved into my house and was sleeping in my bed.

[@phyllisdickerson9071]

@@melissacooper6623 I'm sorry. Is it any better now??

[@mistyfindley5553]

@Tammy Almanza @Melissa Cooper both of you deserve better. I hope you both found a new path and a well deserved one.

[@RngrMinja42]

What if both parties feel controlled by the other and only 1 sees this?

[@sourclam904]

My spouse shuts down at any conflict. He is a coward. I've been so sweet and he just blows me off. He is emotionally abusive.

[@jenniferdunlap5677]

So, how do you figure out the "why" when they won't talk? I'm not pushing and we've had good (hard) conversations but he won't open up about why. Just says "Do I have to have a reason for everything?!" Ummm, about divorce? Yes, he needs a reason why.

[@karifeimster9101]

My husband has cut off all contact with me. He will not respond to my emails and changed his phone number. He is living with the affair partner. How do I get him to respond and want to talk to me?

[@Revert2017]

I feel myself using this in a manipulative way...so I can get him back into my web. Is there a time a person shifts and stops the control?

[@melissacooper6623]

Anything I do at this moment feels like I’m trying to manipulate. Everyone just keeps telling me to let him go and if it’s meant to be it’s meant to be. They tell me not to call him or anything. He’s not calling or texting you.

[@mjperfume1523]

He's retired, doesn't work he doesn't go off and to a work place

[@progressinthemaking6732]

Would you advise that when you do text how your wife's day was, is it okay to add the word babes?

[@crownpoint9]

Someone summarize briefly and name the three things.

[@ReverseCycoIogy]

So my wife wants to separate but not legal separation. I’ve been giving her space and we’ve been having an open communication due to the kids and I’ve haven’t chased her. Yesterday I found out she told her mom that we’re separated but she didn’t tell her that she cheated. The mom is over our house because of thanksgiving. While the wife was out, me and the mom were alone and we had our conversation about our marital issue. I knew talking to the mom may make things worse but the mom have no clue my wife is still seeing the guy. I just needed to tell the mom because I need her help taking care of the kids and that my wife continuing her cheating ways is going to ultimately hurt the kids. I wasn’t expecting my wife to stop cheating and I am giving her space plus I’m not chasing her anymore. But I’m concerned about the kids because they might get hurt because she’s in the navy and the guy is too, so if they get caught they can get pay cuts and all, our family suffers because of her limerence. Anyway, the next day, the mom and my wife went head to head. My wife’s mom got cheated on by her husband before so she knows what I’m going through. She described her daughter is like her father because they’re cheaters. Anyway I overheard my wife asking her mom why she’s taking my side. It’s just disappointing that it’s not about picking sides, I just want my kids safe. My wife kept on saying that she’s been unhappy for years yada yada. But I can’t change the past I just wanna focus on the future for the kids. I don’t expect my wife back, I don’t have love for cheaters. I’m so stuck though because I need my navy wife’s benefits to help me live longer, I have cancer. So I need some sort of relationship with her.

[@NultyPeter]

Dude. I'm in a very similar situation except for the cancer bit I am dependant in other ways... I have been thinking of telling the mom but I'm very worried this will just fuck things up more. How are things now with the mom?

[@peruvian2013]

I been thinking telling her mom too , how things are working out

[@soarhigh21]

My husband would rather talk to his best friend than me

[@jacquelinegarcia3344]

Do you guys have bilingual coaches?

[@MarriageHelper]

Hey there, we did recently add a new coach to our team who speaks Spanish if that would be helpful to you! We are working on creating more resources that are available in different languages as well. If interested in speaking with our Spanish Speaking coach, look for SCOTT on the coaching page linked here! This will also let you see how to schedule a coaching session and you can even choose which coach you want to work with. Just follow this link to learn more! marriagehelper.com/coaching/

[@ramehm]

this what happened with me and I shutdown on her when she would not understand and rather to explain and advise more than like atitudes negative approaches and all time accusation not that I made mistakes more than thins not being aware and more not figuring properly... either ways she treated me badly after I tried rebuilding bridges and was v painful

[@shannonalleman2801]

My husband won't talk to me.

[@Garrrrrishere]

Mine neither and when he did he was mean and demanding

[@benignamelpi2127]

DeMint

[@warda1322]

How to figure out “Why”, I’m trying to find out HOW? My husband he keep saying “I want to leave alone”, I have try my best about puss and pulls, I try to keep calm and patient. My husband still leave with me and sleeping in same bed.

[@gladysbin9174]

I’m interested in the course

[@brittneycrawford60]

I would like to receive information for services

[@tee.damedic.c8002]

I wish i could afford the courses by i will take advantage of the KZbin videos

[@jeanettekniebusch9812]

They said they have scholarship programs.

[@lizzomso8816]

Why do you water dead ☠️ plants life is bigger than that

[@Solfeggio68]

Why would anyone want to stay with a cheating spouse in the first place?? Ridiculous.

[@The_Struggling_Christian]

If your here to dog us..LEAVE! We do not need your shit

[@lilypowell1123]

@@The_Struggling_Christian what a rude stupid thing to say !!! You could have maybe said. .. that the person still loved them , and wanted to save thier relationship !! Your a real piece of crap !!!

[@annyoliveros3322]

No one want to stay with a cheating spouse but it's not easy to just let go mostly if there are kids involve.

[@lilypowell1123]

@@The_Struggling_Christian DOG??? WHAT DOG?? I'M ONLY POINTING OUT THAT THE REAL TRUTH IS COUNTLESS MARRIAGES SURVIVE THIS KIND OF THING , AND EVEN COME BACK STRONGER THEN BEFORE !! " YOU " CANNOT KNOW IT ALL !! AND "I "HAVE AS MUCH RIGHT TO MAKE " MY " COMMENTS , AS ANYONE ELSE !!!

[@Revert2017]

Many times the cheating is a symptom of greater problems. Some couples are really good friends and would rather find the answer to the problems instead of giving it up.

[@africanqueenmo]

So much talking with no substance

[@michaelknight692]

Some people just need to express their feelings in different ways. Only advise i can give this person is: counseling and go seek more of these videos.

[@lilypowell1123]

@@michaelknight692 NO , THEY WERE TALKING ABOUT THIS PERSON , WHO WAS SUPPOSED TO BE GIVING ADVICE !! SHE SUCKS REAL BAD !! BORING GOING ON AND ON AND ON ... BUT NOT GETTING TO THE ISSUE THIS VIDEO " WAS" SUPPOSED TO BE ABOUT !!!

[@susiequsie1980]

"Any 2people can fall in love " That is ridiculous! Respectfully, this is so not true. Do u mean to say that a husband and wife can fall in love again? That would be more plausible. Again, not tryn to be rude it's just I highly disagree with that notion.