3 Strategies to Desexualize Your Brain

[@ZebraMan62]

Don’t replace a bad habit with abstinence, replace it with a healthy habit

[@andersnielsen6044]

Actually it is the healthy habit and lifestyle that should replace and keep this bad ones out... You need a shift in mindset there!

[@jonnytheartist]

Today was a nightmare. Spent most of the day turning to thirst traps. Honestly… I’m angry because it wasn’t worth it

[@ManTalks]

It usually isn’t. Grace and compassion brother. Besting the crap outta yourself won’t help. Just start again tomorrow. Go one day.

[@PattiJohnson-r6p]

Thanks for this. We need more of this content

[@ManTalks]

You got it!

[@Peter_gorge]

Thank you so much for posting such a beautiful and helpful video! Your content truly made a difference, and I appreciate the effort and thought you put into it. Keep up the great work!

[@EstebanLopez-bn9pd]

If this helps. At night, say after 9pm, turn off your phone and leave it in a separate room.

[@ManTalks]

Solid tactic

[@EstebanLopez-bn9pd]

@@ManTalks Thanks! I was surprised about how difficult it was at first.

[@jonnytheartist]

@@EstebanLopez-bn9pdyou got this man! Your brain wants butt cheeks on insta. I punish mine with something boring

[@andersnielsen6044]

No one has sex with their phone..

[@EstebanLopez-bn9pd]

@@andersnielsen6044 your point?

[@ItsJulesy]

Thank you

[@joshua_finch]

Right but I can try to self improve and go on 90 plus day nofap streaks but in the end my life sucks. I turn to the online content because I am in a virtual prison rn (school) and there is no opportunity here. I don't get depressed because I have plenty to live for and improve. I have five solid hobbies and a job I like (although pay still sucks) but I can't attract a woman. That's why my life sucks. There is no one to share it with. I've tried your solution. It doesn't work for me. Also why feel the bad feeling? I tried that and eventually it subsides. But it just makes the bad feeling last longer. Ive tried this and see no benefit.

[@Bossman0307]

Hey man, I understand what you are going through. Though my own story seems different from yours, I know what it’s like to try to stop using explicit materials and escape from that darkness. For me, everything changed when I turned to God, the God who loves us and numbers the hairs on our head, Who became one of us and died for us and Who rose from the dead, giving us a share in the victory over evil and darkness. It may sound like cope, and I, for one, had my doubts at the beginning that it was psychological cope, but 5+ years later I have boundless confidence that it is the real thing and the only true way to come out darkness. As St. Augustine roughly said, “Our hearts are restless, until they rest in you, O God.” I don’t know if the college you go to has a Catholic campus ministry, but, if they do, reach out to them. And perseveringly ask God, who is all good and all loving, to show you the way out. I will certainly be praying for you!

[@joshua_finch]

Is it God that did it for you or did you just find a girlfriend?

[@VanB1276]

Dear Connor, Is it possible to get some advice from you relating to my personal dating life? If yes, how? Kind regards, Brecht Vanoverbeke

[@wongakupiso]

The sad part is that I thought ED is only for older men. I'd like to know solution that can help, besides medical solutions

[@ketakeev]

Quit porn and masturbation

[@creatorsdisciplesteffen]

@wongakupiso real talk, take at least a 7-14 day breaksfrom all porn and masturbation and you'll notice BIG improvement pun intended you've got this Brother!!

[@aarongonzalez4458]

@@creatorsdisciplesteffendude I was addicted to corn since 12 now I’m 20 stopped on April and just relapsed a few days ago a few times ima row I was 6 months free now I gotta restart day 7 rn. I don’t think I lost all my progress tho cause during the time I stopped I couldn’t get an errection I even went out with a girl an couldn’t get hard with her bro😢 fucked embarrassing

[@Po3try27]

Have you got any advice on repeated failures that are a mixture of shit happening to us, and by us. i.e. everytime we get our life back on track an external Boulder rockslides us every single time, and triggers the ''things we shouldn't be doing''. What advice do you have for repeated, incessant hardships. Thanks for dealing with our shit btw Connor...

[@KR0619]

How to avoid watching adult material? Use your hatred against it. deep down you know, its awful.

[@bradenanderson4271]

When society makes it possible for "unattractive" and "unworthy" guys to find connections or purpose, it'll be much easier to not rely on sexual content. Once society can show us that making an effort and being a decent person will actually amount to something, there won't be much need for porn

[@Xokzu]

Exactly. No point in trying to gaslight ourselves to feeling adequate when we're reminded every day we're not.

[@bedabratdutta7367]

This won't happen because social media is designed to make you feel inadequate and the govt earns a tonn from porn industry so as a man you can't escape this if you don't have a purpose in life and willpower to achieve it.

[@andrewsharp3314]

Who wants to connect with someone who sees themselves as "unworthy"? It would be a waste of time by definition. If the feeling is, "Why doesn't society find ME worthy?"... Who cares what that society thinks, if that's how they are? ✌️

[@ioKaza]

“what you focus on expands” if all u complain about is being unattractive or unworthy and believe your life revolves around feeling like that then of course you’ll see life that way. change the way u think man.

[@ElmeriMattila]

God help you✝️

[@kylemcdonnell86]

What do i do for the opposite? 😅