4 Key Themes from Hayley's Journey (Plus Q&A)

If you've been following Hayley's journey in recent months, you'll no doubt have resonated with some of the feelings and experiences that Hayley shared. This week, I explore some of the key themes from Hayley's journey (I also answer some of your questions) and invite you to reflect more deeply on some of these themes, as well as learn some ways to work with them more directly.
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[@danSandandEs]

I found this type of summarizing and reflecting episode very valuable! 🙏💫🌷 Helped me with kind of a closure, or a little separation anxiety from following Hayley’s journey, I didn’t want the episodes to end. Was about to hurry into another In Therapy-season like a substitute in a stressful way. But now when I watched this I feel more grounded, it helped me land and accept it ending. Primary feeling now is gratitude. 🦋

[@hayley1473]

sorry for late reply danSandandEs . I forgot my password and couldn't log in to comment 😆 . Thank you for your thoughts ❤. I am so glad you are feeling more grounded . I really relate a lot to what you say about separation anxiety . It took me a while , after the therapy sessions, to feel grounded - i really missed everyone and it really discombobulated me - i was all over the place . I am more grounded now and the lessons i learned are sinking in more . Thank you for sharing - i totally understand what you mean- sending you love ❤

[@heathersoper6923]

Yes, I was normalised into thinking I wasn't as bright as my younger brother.. and thinking about this it has had an affect on my adult life for many years; I used to think everyone could do things better than me.... until the past 10 years or so when my eyes have been opened wide to the reality..

[@AlexHowardTherapy]

Glad you have seen the truth :-)

[@heathersoper6923]

@@AlexHowardTherapy thanks Alex x

[@nherhandsart]

She visibly perked up when you gave her concrete examples of how she actually is strong. That was awesome

[@AlexHowardTherapy]

We are all stronger than we give ourselves credit for :-)

[@marytrichilo7475]

Letting go of entrenched narratives about yourself is difficult. Harley was courageous about facing hers. It was difficult but she was determined regardless to see them. I so admired her.

[@hayley1473]

@@marytrichilo7475 aww thank you Mary ❤ I’m still working on them - but i wont give up . Thank you xx ❤

[@jandet31]

Your guidance provides great moments of insight. Thank you

[@AlexHowardTherapy]

I'm so pleased to hear that Edwina 🙂

[@collin0276]

Thank you so much, Alex. Watching your therapy sessions with Hayley has added greatly to my experience with the RESET Program. Watching Hayley evolve under your careful guidance has given me such hope and inspiration. I am finishing the year in a much better place than I started. Sincere thanks.

[@AlexHowardTherapy]

I'm so pleased to hear that, thank you for sharing 🙂

[@hayley1473]

❤ xx

[@maciejsiedziako680]

Super valuable episode for me. Main takeaways are insightfull, especially suprising last one.

[@AlexHowardTherapy]

Glad it was helpful!

[@charmaineallen158]

Great information thank you Alex. Extremely useful.

[@AlexHowardTherapy]

You are welcome, glad it was helpful!

[@susyahamed2906]

Thanks so much Alex

[@AlexHowardTherapy]

You are welcome, thanks for watching!

[@kateduggleby6161]

Thank you so much for this unpacking episode, it’s been super useful. Just what I needed to hear heading into Christmas….🙏🏻 It really is a wonderful gift to have free access to these sort of insights. Thank you Alex….❤️

[@lorrainebarker4437]

Such a very useful recap. Thank you Alex🙏🏻

[@AlexHowardTherapy]

You are welcome, thanks for watching 🙂

[@SuperNorini]

Thanks again Alex 🐘🥚🥊

[@AlexHowardTherapy]

You are welcome 🙂

[@chazsmith3866]

Thank you Alex . Food as a reward from a Mother really can have such a big long lasting impact. At 44 I have just about cracked it. Those default habits still pop up from time to time. As a parent myself I can understand how food can be such an easy pacifier. I hope I didn't make the same mistakes x

[@AlexHowardTherapy]

We can only do our best parents, well done for doing the work!

[@dorothy3641]

These videos are really helpful, Alex. It gives me a chance to try new ways to overcome feelings of abandonment, feeling unwanted and wondering who I actually am. It always seems a struggle!! You episodes with Hayley were amazing, and also very caring.

[@hayley1473]

sending you love Dorothy ❤ xx

[@NurseAmy1993]

Thank you once again for your time and insight.

[@helenacoles7960]

Thank you so much Alex. These free sessions have been helping enormously in between appointments with my therapist. It is terrifying to put myself out there and ask for support. Your comments regarding the public reaction to Hayley's sessions has really stuck with me. There have been so many beautiful, supportive, understanding comments after each episode that it gives me hope that I will find some support too if I am brave enough to take the first steps. Merry Christmas to you, Hayley and all the team. Your work is so important!

[@hayley1473]

aww Helena - we are supporting you !! Take those steps - right there with you ❤ and thank you xx

[@maryyoung3762]

@@hayley1473 We love you Hayley!😊🌺🙏

[@maryyoung3762]

Alex that was totally AMAZING!!😊YOU ARE SO KIND And INTELLIGENT

[@hayley1473]

@@maryyoung3762 aww thank you ❤ ❤. Thank you so much 😊 x x

[@amandaford1278]

Really useful, thank you

[@AlexHowardTherapy]

You are welcome 🙂

[@timothyazzam1980]

Very helpful. Thank you

[@AlexHowardTherapy]

Thanks for watching!

[@jillurron2989]

Thank you Alex. I really enjoyed the session. Thank you.

[@AlexHowardTherapy]

Thanks for watching, glad it was useful!

[@hayley1473]

❤

[@danSandandEs]

Gosh how much you have inspired me Hayley! 🙏🦋💖 I hold deep gratitude in my heart for you being so brave and genuine in sharing your process with Alex and all of us watching and cheering for you. Wishing you all the joy and love! From Sanne in Sweden

[@hayley1473]

@@danSandandEs aww thank you so much . Thank you for your lovely words ! I send you love ❤🙂 xx

[@sarahsmith7590]

You are truly inspiring and courageous Hayley! So grateful for your openness and vulnerability and your sparkling cheekiness ❤

[@hayley1473]

@@sarahsmith7590 thank you Sarah ❤. Thank you for your encouraging words 🙂 . I love the phrase ‘sparkling cheekiness’ - i absolutely totally love the phrase !! Thank you - it really made me smile ! It’s got me into some brilliant mischief 😂. thank you ❤ x x

[@kingfisher9553]

The ability to say "Oh hell no!" to outrageous demands is a basic skill a lot of us haven't learned to deploy. We know it. We think it. But doing it is another thing.

[@hayley1473]

so true ! I’m still practising . Hope you go on ok with it ❤ x

[@anta3612]

Thank you Alex for your valuable work. Wishing you a Happy Christmas. 🎄🎍🎁✨

[@AlexHowardTherapy]

Thank you, and you!

[@serenacosmo9872]

Wonderful insights. Thank you!

[@hayley1473]

❤ x

[@almam.6880]

"Our Trauma makes us strong". How about love; support and car? What would that have made us become? I bet you much "stronger" resilient and whole. I'm sorry for anyone who had to be strong. Yes we did survive, but what did survive actually? Our bodies, our biology. But our soul, our true self -as you like to call it- may or may never see the light, or what has left of it. "We" didn't come up with survival mechanisms and strategies, when one is few weeks, months, years old, its the physiology that's doing the surviving on the expense of the essence, the true self.

[@hayley1473]

i send you love ❤ x x

[@almam.6880]

@@hayley1473 💜