5 Cringy Valentines Day Social Media Trends That Are Embarrassing To Watch *Relationships in 2024*

[@basiccaucasian6234]

Honestly, all I think of when I see a path of red rose petals trailing through the house is “someone’s going to have to clean that up.”

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

😂 omg yes

[@jzm2293]

Gives me OCD seeing it 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@triciavivienne]

😂😂😂

[@DevilsAngelsMoony]

Maybe I´m weird, butI also think it´s so wasteful and sad to rip up perfectly fine flowers =D

[@sanna000]

Haha excatly my thoughts😂

[@Gooeybrowniebaby]

If you have to try to convince the world that your love is true and has substance, you’re doubting it yourself and want the world to help convince you.

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

Oooo good point!

[@Cassandralynn83]

Very much like jlo, and look how that turned out🤣

[@IrinaVanRonkel]

That’s why I protect myself from social media. I can post twice a month here and there but I DO NOT scroll a timeline. Everybody who really matters to me - simply calling me and sending messages and pictures on my WhatsApp personally. Other stuff doesn’t exist for me - I’m not triggered 😅

[@piaandrainbows]

100% agree

[@dMi_mi]

I stopped posting any photos on socials years ago .. 🤭 I send them directly to those close to me. I don't need random opinions on my best life moments. 💖

[@Julia36D]

I should do this with the no scrolling because depending on my mood/time of the month I can get into a spin of comparing myself or my relationship.

[@tippytoe1250]

I post for my family because my husband and kids likes to look through it every now and then. It’s an online family journal/ album for them. They would go through and reminisce about the experience. I barely allow any followers. Just close family and friends.

[@letakennedy]

Hi Caitlin! I had to chime in 😀. I think in addition to making some women feel badly that their spouse hasn’t done anything elaborate for them, I think it also may make men feel terribly that they either didn’t think of something like that, or couldn’t afford to do something elaborate for the person they love. It’s a really damaging two way street on that one. I think the gift of someone’s time is amazing. The thought that someone could be doing any number of things on a particular day, but they chose to spend their time (which they will not have back) with me is just enough for my heart. I hope that made sense 😊

[@anjalianthony1656]

I certainly ruined some good relationships by comparing my boyfriends to these unrealistic insta-relationships. It’s very damaging to normal couples. Especially for men who are not overtly showy with their love but are steady & caring in other ways!

[@hettijayne]

I agree. My partner hates posting on social media and hates having photos taken. And I’ve always felt bad or compare other people sharing their relationship online and felt like he didn’t love me as much because he didn’t want to share it. When actually it’s got nothing to do with that. A lot of those people over sharing stuff have broken up. And we’re still together. It doesn’t mean anything.

[@christymarie9136]

The 'icks' come across to me as people really going out of their way to find something in the other person to take issue with/find fault with. Overall, I've always found the oversharing of relationships on social media a bit weird, but maybe that's because I'm a very private person. I remember seeing a quote several years ago (can't remember who it was from) along the lines of, 'relationships last longer when nobody knows your business,' and that's something I very much believe in.

[@buntyjoy1800]

Are they real text messages? Not sure i believe it. I can imagine these women texring themselves from their very own "boyfriend" phone.

[@thatElene]

😂😂😂 might be the case

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

Never thought of that 😂

[@thuydungphan3867]

😂😂😂 good one ☝️

[@MsNinahhh]

Social media in general is ick. These relationship trends are ick.

[@nejackson9570]

Caitlin, I do agree with you! I’m not on Instagram etc at all anymore and my husband never had been-he’s incredibly private and if I posted his messages to me I’m sure it would make him very uncomfortable. Just to start with. A dark side of this-haven’t we all heard the joke/meme that the couple that loooooooove each other super publicly (always texting, doing elaborate things, buying hugely expensive presents), and it all becomes very performative. Those are the couples that usually break up. It’s almost like the woman is looking for validation from others or trying to project a relationship she doesn’t have. Someone I’m close to almost divorced, the entire time posting mushy things about breakfast in bed. It’s weird and sad. Men are different. Women are different. Stages of life are different. My husband isn’t a naturally romantic person and he’s not the sort to do anything like this. Imagine having a social media post be the “expert” advice that says he’s “wrong” or “settling.” Loooool

[@nuthingness]

Ughh totally agree with you. Especially when they say their boyfriend offers to pay and insists on paying for everything and all their make up! And thanks them online. Thank them in person! Don’t need to thank them on the Internet for everyone to see all the things they do for you 😅 weirdos. This is why I can’t stand social media. Deleted fb and ig long ago and am so much happier.

[@catchmybreak]

Covering this topic is so important! It's so helpful to bring awareness to this so hopefully in the future it'll be more acceptable to cut it out 😂

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

Thankyou so much for your support :)

[@Stylemebetter]

I never thought that showing presents could harm someone, but I definitely agree with you on that point now when I think about it. I see that top bloggers quite stopped to show presents/unboxings right now, and maybe soon it will become a “unfashionable vibe” overall. I have seen your videos a few years ago and now I must say I love the transformation of your personality and your channel much! I am also on my way to minimise purchases and decluttering my wardrobe ( I got rid of approximately probably 300-400 pieces for past few years) and now realising more and more that if I buy smth it may be very similar to what I had before. So why even sell and buy?😅 I am growing to actually also talk about it on my channel when I feel I will be ready to talk about it more deeply. Keep inspiring people, you do it great!💪

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

Wooooooow 300-400 pieces that’s amazing! Thankyou for being here and sharing your story xx

[@ebrucelikalay9416]

I love the things you talk about. Its always about things i feel in my gut but am scared to say.

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

Thankyou for watching xx

[@alsmellz]

Great video!! When it comes to relationships, I think it’s nice that people share experiences and discuss things in order to help others navigate their relationships or milestones etc. But beyond that, the showmanship is weird. It’s not a competition it’s just life. And the ick.. it shows how shallow we can be and how media can infiltrate our view of how a partner should be.

[@fwebster6226]

I’ve found a few times when people have posted lots about how fab their partner is and how much in love they are etc that they break up not long after

[@dMi_mi]

I always find over sharing of d relationships in social media weird. 🤭 But d most strange to me is the sharing of "ultrasound baby" pictures. 👀 That's something soo private and should be shared with d close family only ..

[@deborahcurtis1385]

A friend's husband shared the birth on social media complete with her private parts... the whole bit! She was absolutely appalled. The relationship survived but it was not good for a long time.

[@dMi_mi]

@@deborahcurtis1385 Omg. That's unimaginable. I am glad the relationship survived at d end. I could never forgive for something like that. No. That would be a done deal for me. The husband should b guarding his wife and children with his life, meanwhile this unique specimen exposes his wife's private parts all over d internet. As well as his childs most vulnerable moments .. unthinkable.

[@Chelseabee55]

I know someone who recently shared pictures of her newborn baby the moment she was born. Like all gross, the way babies come out. And obviously naked. She posted her newborn daughters vulva and butt showing to the whole internet I reported the photos

[@purplelove3666]

​@@deborahcurtis1385what!!!, 😮😮of course it survived, I am not shocked ,some or a lot of these women don't have any standards or self respect when it comes to men

[@radhiadeedou8286]

​@@deborahcurtis1385 is it a good thing that it survived? What lind of man would do that

[@thatElene]

I get second hand embarrassment watching these videos. 😂

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

same omg

[@Cassandralynn83]

As do I..🤣

[@nejackson9570]

Aaaaaaaaah just got to the ending of the video about the shoe thing. First of all, never in a million years thought of that being a thing. My husband has helped me with my shoes-when I was nine months pregnant and IN LABOR 😂😂😂 something I find so bizarre about these social trends (as someone who only experiences them through KZbin) is how completely unsustainable/immature they are. The man of your dreams shouldn’t be defined by something only possible with certain time and financial and life stage limitations. Real non-performative relationships grow and change and that’s absolutely what they’re supposed to do.

[@sarahwales6276]

No, you're not the only person thinking this. I think it's so weird people believe the world needs to know what is going on within their relationship.

[@deborahcurtis1385]

case in point that woman whose husband hit someone at the Oscars...I couldn't be less interested but it was coming up in my feed. She's written a book on her marriage failure and how she hid it! Unbelievable lack of self-awareness there. I'd be hiding and not coming out for a while, until everyone had moved on. But no. A book.

[@nohamotaweh7982]

I just love your videos ❤ watching you it’s like watching myself expressing my opinions 😁

[@candrawstuffinc3186]

I love her, talking about stuff that desperately needs to be talked bout 💯

[@DianneLandry-qk8kr]

Having met my soul mate almost 20 years ago I can say you just need to find the "perfect person for YOU" and ignore all the other nonsense. I fear these ladies who are looking for the knight in shining armor who takes off their shoes (LOL) are going to end up alone. Most people are just trying to find their way through this massive shift in societal norms.

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

I couldn’t agree more!

[@SydneyConnectsDots]

I think couples post TMI stuff online to convince themselves most of all! People who are in genuinely happy relationships feel no need to get validation from anyone!

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

Agreed!

[@aminzainudin]

Agreed 200%…!! The fact that we’re at the end of 2023 and bout to go into 2024 in less than 2 weeks baffles me that people are still desperate for attention and most importantly followers! I mean if it was 10 years ago or when Instagram just came out I would totally understand it… Desperate for followers were like back in my 20s when Twitter was the rage…

[@aminzainudin]

And yeah I personally think if a guy or the partner really cares for you it’s not all about these materialistic things. How about making sure that we have a roof to sleep under and food to eat. That’s what true love is. Just cause he don’t want to untie your heels he’s not good enough like are you for real? Or are you disabled that you can’t do what even small kids could have done on their own…

[@HollyTheDinosaur]

Thank you for speaking out, Caitlin! Finally someone has common sense 🤣

[@PettyaAtanasova]

I just realised that you are my spirit animal. I think those same things too! Thank you for making a video about it and hopefully people take notes from it.

[@adinadade8167]

its definitely an on going episode of black mirrors and its just overwhelingly annoying. we've essentially consented to a life of being watched and monitored 24/7 and I'm not here for it.

[@DebDebbiesWorld]

I dont pay attention to other peoples relationships so I cant help you there, but man, i fly all the time and my husband picks me up all the time and i have late/delayed flights all the time and let my husband know. and he just says 'no worries. ill grab you a cup of coffee while i wait' i guess we're just doing it wrong. no. no we're not. id rather have the starbucks or timmy's waiting for me when I get off the plane than a stupid text with smoochie faces and then have it posted all over social media. I think you're right with the INTENT behind all of it.. they want the ATTENTION and the VIEWS and the LIKES and the FOLLOWERS and the WHATEVER. The only time my husband EVER put my shoes off or on was after I had surgery and literally COULDNT BEND OVER to put them on or take them off. And no, I didnt have to ask. I'm a grown woman. Normally I can put my own shoes on and off LOL. I bet most of these women are also women who hash tag everything with #bossbabe (major pet peeve of mine!) LOL My husband doesnt have a romantic bone in his body, bless his heart. But he would take a bullet for me, without a second thought. He gives me his heart every day. I don't want for anything. Could I BUY luxury items? Yes. Do I? no. Its not me. ;) Do I have the ability to do the things I want to? Yes and I do. And.... it's not publicized. we are perfectly imperfect together. even if he is from canada and eats poutine. ick. ;)

[@angelina-ade]

You’re absolutely right about these reels and posts being staged. When it comes to real life relationships, everything happens in the moment, and the last thing you can think of is whipping out your phone and filming. I used to work late night shifts at the bar, coming home absolutely shattered. My husband would remove my boots, massage my tired feet and have some dinner ready. That’s the definition of love. But I never once thought about making social media posts about this 😅 I think that the need to create this public image of happiness really does come from the people who, perhaps, don’t actually have it or have no clue about what it is. A lot of people seek validation, often times from their much happier friends who don’t actually post anything online. Ironic but true. You realise this when you grow up 😊 Love your channel, just found it and watched a lot of videos. Keep up the good work! xx

[@Ajlatango]

The only time I’ve asked my husband to take off my shoes is when I was pregnant and my feet were so swollen that my shoes were hard to get off and my belly was in the way so I actually needed help

[@hettijayne]

Thank you for creating this video! My partner hates taking photos. He hates having his photo taken. And I’ve felt bad / compared my relationship & felt like he didn’t love me as much because I’d see other couples showcasing their relationship online. And now alot of those people have broken up, we’re still together. My partner would always say why do we have to show case things on line for others to see.

[@LindsayOverton]

I’ve never posted a personal conversation online. I’ve certainly posted enough but I didn’t know people did this. It’s not anything I pay attention to but I agree that it’s probably over compensating of some kind

[@mansoor3159]

Thank you Caitlin for sharing this video because it's truly truly helpful to me and your videos are so so motivation for me and I will support you till end🥺🥺❤️❤️❤️

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

I hope you have a beautiful festive period with your loved ones ❤️

[@jzm2293]

I enjoy your videos Caitlin. Its crazy given all of this cause due to social media I've known people who have gotten engaged shortly after meeting the person or gotten married quickly due to it being a trend on social media. I even have 2 people i had to set boundaries with one of them being a relative because they only text or call me to ask if I have a partner or comparing my life to theirs as why its better to have a partner but they somehow want to seem like the better ones because they have partners so yes i appreciate the videos you make regarding all of this keep up the good work 👏

[@litavee4549]

what about when the whole room is filled with ballons and a cake / chocolates for a bday moment ... and they enter the room like they had no idea their bf organised it 🎉😂

[@yo-31]

The gift topic, I totally agree with you. I always need to give an idea of want I would like. As you if I want something, I do not wait to get it offer.

[@hettijayne]

I also 100% agree with your opinion on the ‘ick’ thing. I think the new way of being that we’re being told & influenced to be or behave. Is to be demanding (take off my shoe vibes) and also being extremely narcissistic.

[@theHappyTrucker]

Can we also talk about the annoying platitudes people post on Facebook? It the ones where the woman is essentially trying to describe herself in third person. It'll be one of those generic wordy posts like "she is seen by all as strong and fierce. She is a rock, but deep down, she is a soul crying to be understood with so much love... blah blah blah." It's like, no, you're clearly in need of validation. You want people to look at that say, oh yes, that is you. It's just cringe. It's usually some high drama chick that couldn't be stoic long enough to write such a meme lol

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

Lmaoooo omg yes this kills me

[@lovingsunshine3515]

Oh Lort, I have a couple of those women on Facebook lol. Do we have the same friends 🤣 I can’t help but roll my eyes lol.

[@theHappyTrucker]

@lovingsunshine3515 we might lol. I saw this post the other day and think it's a hilarious example of drama and empty threats. It reads: "If you have any issues with me, it should be brought to me. If you are going to continue to talk about me, maybe you should be a little more disceet about it. Next time, I am calling you out on your bullshit, so be prepared." How can you feel tough making a cryptic post like that for the whole world to see? I think people need to go back to real fights. Lol

[@lovingsunshine3515]

@@theHappyTrucker omg 🤣 Kids are better bc they’ll call other people out on their bullshit haha. Instead of posting it, why not just confront the person they’re having a beef with you know 🤣 And I feel the same about the lovey dovey posts. Say that shit to your partner or spouse “in person”, they’re the ones who need to hear it the most, not the whole social media world 🙄 Always seeking for validation from others 🙄🙄

[@stina9659]

My husband and I dont do Valentines Day nor cut off flowers ect, its just waste full and one needs to appreciate each other every regular working day, not just one stupid day, and we dont need the world to confirm if we have a good relationship, its non of the worlds business.

[@tiffffffffffffffff]

Yes! Omg finally someone else agrees! I have such an issue with people posting lovey dovey posts to their partner. Nine times out of ten when their partner is sitting right next to them 🤦‍♀️. I often wonder who they are posting it for- their partner or their audience (FB friends, IG followers etc). Surely a more genuine and heart felt method would be to actually say it to them? (Or write them a cute card). It also baffles me why these same people are shocked when their friends & family form strong opinions/assumptions and may make comments (not all positive) about their relationships. Especially when the relationship ends. Like my dude, you’ve literally been oversharing your relationship on your socials. They don’t seem to value privacy nor do they understand that privacy is a means in which to protect a relationship. Especially if that relationship goes through a rough patch or breaks down.

[@IlanaPinsky]

Hahahah I love this!! I also find it cringe when people call their partner “baby”. Ew they’re not a baby that’s so weird. I hate it. “Babe” is fine but not “baby”

[@hallievanoutryve3109]

Babe is better, but baby is not near as bad as calling a male partner daddy! That has always creeped me out hardcore! No one is going to mistake your S/O for a baby, but... daddy, a kid's name for parent? How did this become a thing? it is just to icky and disturbing!

[@IlanaPinsky]

@@hallievanoutryve3109 yes agreed!!

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

Omg yes! I remember I dated a guy once who wanted me to call him daddy… just couldn’t get past it 😂

[@purplelove3666]

I actually hate babe lol

[@michellewasthere]

Hola, agree with these gurl! 😄 🍻

[@belsren]

I unintentionally ghosted a guy because he'd just gotten a new tattoo...but he got tattooed the wrong "we're" . He seemed like a nice guy and it was such a silly small thing, but it made him seem a bit simple 🙈🤷‍♀.

[@jenmar9428]

Your friend is just like me. I tell hubby what I want. I even asked him what his heart desires for his birthday last September. ❤️

[@1992Nereida]

I was laughing through the whole video 😂 #QUEEN

[@mIcheLLeyyYy520]

Would love if you did a video about the 50/50, “sprinkle sprinkle” tiktoks! Interested in your thoughts on those.

[@samrussell1325]

I also wonder why people post anniversary texts of their parent's death and how fabulous they were etc etc. Why? Why? I totally get you Caitlin.

[@tippytoe1250]

Fortunately I’m middle age and most of my SM peers doesn’t follow these trends. But there are a couple that post those annoying huge lovey dovey paragraphs post about their spouses. But DM me venting about their spouse and kids later. Even considering leaving her husbands for the most pettiest reason. I had to talk her down.

[@k700i]

1. Gender reveals ~ I hate when they go overboard. 2. Grand Engagement proposals and even grand weddings, when you know… it’s only grand for the clicks 🥲

[@catchmybreak]

FINALLY someone said it! I also think it's weird to congratulate ppl getting married as if it's an accomplishment. It has set the awful precedent of relationships being end all be all and if you're single, then you're a failure. It should be more acceptable to be single if that's what you prefer

[@UsernamesForDummies]

I’ve had so many icks when I met my now husband. His trousers were too short, his blazers too wide, his old-fashioned black leather sofa gave me the ick, etc., etc. He turned out to be the most caring, selfless, and supportive guy I’ve ever met. And yes, after a month of dating, I went to a clothes store with him and helped him choose a perfectly fitting suit. And hey presto! he was suddenly extremely sexy. Even he himself couldn’t stop looking in the mirror 😂. All this to say,, there are so many icks based on superficial things that can either be changed or lose their power the more you love your partner. And who knows, maybe you even come to love some of them, because you adore the other person and he/she wouldn’t be themselves without them. And to the women who find a kind guy icky…. just you wait until you’re in need of a helpful and supportive guy because something terrible has happened in your life. You’ll thank your lucky star that you found someone who can carry you until you can walk again yourself.

[@carolineweaver343]

Omg, a guy unzipped my boot like 10 years ago and I was like “did you see The Darjeeling?” And he had 😂

[@carolineweaver343]

But it was hot

[@e.tezani3877]

As someone who is alternative gendered.. videos like you've mentioned are why I don't want to even be around a lot of people Boring superficial people who have nothing to say and it makes me glad I've chosen to be myself instead of falling into this artificial social media lifestyle.. Especially the "ick".. that's peak internet's

[@deborahcurtis1385]

People are 'prostituting' themselves and faking their lives for clicks. It's all fake.

[@kikiursalone]

As a society now, there seems to be this really strange encouragement of narcissism and selfishness under the guise of self-love and care whilst simultaneously calling everyone narcissistic and toxic for the slightest perceived inconsideration! It's insane! We aren't encouraging self-awareness, introspection, accountability, no! It's all how you feel is how it is! Conclusion- We are all doomed and need Jesus! Thank you Caitlin for addressing this, much needed!

[@LeConde]

here in brazil a woman ended the MARRIAGE with a famous soccer player because he was "too nice".

[@AltoonaYourPiano]

I agree with this! (On that note, sorry I haven't been around in eons, tons going on in my life, most of it not good) I think I'd be weirded out by anyone posting every intimate detail of everything we do on social media. I'm a kind of affectionate guy who does romantic stuff but I'm not someone who ever does these overly elaborate things. I hate to admit it but when I see those overly elaborate rose petal arrangements, part of me wants to grab a leaf blower and go to town and laugh like a cartoon villain. All kidding aside though, I think a sixth trend I'd like to add to this list (thankfully haven't seen much of this in recent years) is the posts that shame people for being sad over not having a date, the ones that go "if you're feeling sad about not having a Valentine on Valentine's Day, some people don't have a mother on Mother's Day" type posts, as someone who lost his mother three years ago, I don't appreciate people using my trauma to shame people who are feeling lonely. Anyways, I hope you had a great Christmas and New Year's.

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

Thanks for checking in Hope you are having a good week and things are looking a bit better for you soon xx

[@Ll-zc7s3]

More videos like this please!!!!!!

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

☺️❤️

[@Elif-vz8rb]

I agreed with you generally but the aniversary part idk its good imo

[@Jennifer-fy4pg]

I agree I’ve ask myself that a lot and sometimes these get to me and I’m married

[@user-bg9ws7ys4k]

It's a strange world we are living in....on the one side we go onto the barricades for protecting the little of the privacy we are still allowed to have and......then we splatter our most intimate/important/special moments/details for the whole world to piss on it😮😮😮. Sounds sick to me and no kidding!

[@micheleann1737]

The only time to dump him from not taking off your shoes is acceptable is when you're pregnant. If he's not helping you with something so little, he isn't going to help you with the big things.

[@momokunn]

Sometimes I feel like a cold hearted unromantic person when I cringe and laugh at these "lovey dovey" and "sweet" type of posts... Good for you if you do or like these this kind of things tho.

[@jihanannesa]

There are these weird videos of couples lying in bed and changing positions with an overhead camera. Anyone seen these? Who are these videos for? It’s so weird.

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

Oh yes incredibly weird too 😂

[@radhiadeedou8286]

A man helping his wife take off her heels is sweet, a woman filming her husband taking off her heels and posting it on social media is a humiliation ritual

[@angelapetrucci5507]

I know a couple that will post "man crush Monday" and "woman crush Wednesday" pics of each other every week, along with matching couples outfits for "date night" every weekend, posing in every picture in a way that will always show off her giant rock on her finger 🤢🤮 I'm sorry, but all of that is just doing waaaaaay too much. When couples are that over the top (and consistently for like 2 years straight) it doesn't make me think "oh wow, they are so in love!", it makes me suspicious that they have to perform for social media so everyone is "jealous" of their relationship.

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

It’s super weird to me 😂

[@serenityq26]

ick = too young for me. if i didnt speak like that growing up, im not talking like that at 40. gross

[@ME-zc7sw]

It is weird.

[@flonotflow]

Oversharing in general drives me kind of nuts. I don't need to know most of this and neither does anyone else! I know someone that used to send out these long "stream of consciousness" emails when they traveled to everyone and it was so annoying. My sister and I used to joke that we were waiting for the one that had every time they took a crap in it. I also think so much of it is fake or someone begging for attention. It's like I've always said--that coworker or friend who is constantly talking about their sex life in reality probably doesn't have one.

[@SvDu-bb7rh]

I can imagine how stupid that looked to a stranger - all those staged photos of perfect people living a perfect life. I imagine how they yell at each other to do things right on camera ))) As a 40 year old I only can laugh of how stupid that looks, but can’t imagine how much damage that stuff may do to young people.

[@jenmar9428]

I have no idea what’s “For You” and page. 😂😂😂😂

[@roxy4325]

Keep it that way

[@Maddelinegolding12567]

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[@kathleenwang]

that's so funny! taking my shoes off is too personal, i got hands and brain, independent women!

[@KaiAstraStylist]

Is it me or do all these look like apology flowers for cheating? 😬 my boyfriend gets me flowers all the time but these are more flowers than i got for my graduation from my entire family. Very weird if it’s not a special occasion

[@artbygilik]

I also cringe at the anniversary posts. I never understand why announce your feelings to your partner on social media instead of sharing it with your partner personally, but to each their own 🤔

[@Z369.]

“Princess treatment” on social media 🥶. Some are common sense, but some options are questionable.

[@thatElene]

Apparently we need men to tie our shoes 👟 👠

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

👏

[@madeleinbronner3943]

This has NOTHING to do WITH THE VIDEO, but your teeth are looking FABULOUS!!!! LOL. And great video. Honey, I have been married to a great man for 33 years. I tell him what I want , of course I do not ask for a palace 😂😂😂😂😂. I would love to see “real” channels.

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

Thankyou so much! And me too! I am trying to follow and view more realistic content ❤️

[@svetlanadreher7190]

There was one time when my shoe kept untying at a dancing party so my husband kneeled and tied my shoe and it was such a romantic gesture and I felt so cared about. But it was one time and we didn’t post 😂

[@thebeaside]

I’d be pretty pissed If my husband spent that much money on balloons and flowers and chocolates at every anniversary. That’s so much money on temporary things and we have shared finances. We do a weekend away for our anniversary, and we don’t do gifts on events. Sometimes we get each other presents but it’ll be a random thing, like I came home to a new puzzle when I had a few days off. Presents don’t matter, we’re adults, we can but the things we want for ourselves. What’s actually important is how we treat each other and the day to day care we show each other.

[@operaanna]

Some of those anniversary posts aren't that long, though? One of the examples you showed was only a couple sentences... I would never read the super long ones, but I think it's sweet, and I understand those who want to celebrate in that way. I shared my bf and I getting engaged, because I was excited and wanted my friends to know. Not an anniversary, so maybe it's different? Idk, maybe people want to get use out of the wedding photos 😆

[@jamesl3058]

What we find attractive is firstly physical and mostly biological/evolutionary, so the whole point of an ick is that it is understood to be irrational, but the people who get the ick can't really help no longer finding that person attractive

[@Cassandralynn83]

I’m gonna take hits off my vape pen…’lord! Weed me strength!’ I know I don’t have to watch this weirdness, but it’s like a train wreck, I can’t resist watching the wreck/aftermath. I’m morbid👀 And this isn’t coming from jealousy, my wife and I are very happily married, and we don’t feel the need to parade every little detail of our marriage online. We value our private moments. Whether they be good or bad. Sharing private texts messages online? What sane person does that?! If the answer is: no sane person does this. You’d be correct.

[@Hakumokuren]

Thought it was just me who finds such posts cringy.. Posting to all one's friends and tagging your partner on a quote, throwback photos, etc. hints communication problems in the relationship. I used to be a little like that, but wisdom has taught me to leave my relationship out of socmed. We aren't even friends. I find that just sharing personal photos, dedications, and messages with my partner personally is more intimate. No audience needed.

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

Thankyou! I’m so glad you agree!

[@Julia36D]

Sorry but between about 10:03 and 10:15 I thought I was looking at a red pen!s. The round red balloons at the bottom didn’t help as I kept thinking why are there so many balls!! Then I realised it’s a 1😂. My partner doesn’t like me posting to much about us (not do I) because he deems it as bragging about our relationship. He’s right. Also we’re both very private and those sweet things and, honestly, cheesy things we do for each other are between us. No need to brag. If I have something to share that he did for me, I just tell my closest friends and my family. I don’t even keep in touch with 97% of the people I’m connected to online so they definitely don’t need to know anything about my most intimate and personal relationships.

[@frankmunro3303]

I'm not even the type of person to use social media. I have a facebook account and that's it. Just use it to find events and keep in touch with people. Change my profile picture once a year maybe. I had an ex who would get upset that I didn't post things of us ever. I had all the validation I needed within my relation ship but I don't understand peoples obsession or measurement of a good relation ship by what is shared with others online or how much you share.

[@jamesl3058]

It's quite black and white to go from "I don't like when guys are too nice" to "I like to be treated like s__t"...the reality of the situation is a bit more nuanced...the best analogy for me when thinking of the guy that's too nice is to compare him to someone handing something out for free on the street...usually...if you don't have to work for something and it's being handed out for free on the street, it's usually not that valuable...that doesn't mean the girl wants to be treated horribly, she just wants to know that she has a man that is not a desperate pushover and a man that's real and not just putting up a front of being the "nice guy"

[@drlessismore]

I completely agree. It’s CRINGE!!!!! 🥺

[@theHappyTrucker]

I got the ick with my ex but it was more like one day I just woke up to how I'm not attracted to him and he annoys me. I couldn't unknow what I knew. He just turned me off. It wasn't some stupid arbitrary thing. When I first heard of the ick, it made sense. Someone finally put into words the phenomenon going on in my head, but since then, the ick has blown up and the concept has been greatly misapplied.

[@kaylheecarroll3186]

I have always been a private person about relationship❤😊

[@kelleyr8702]

A few things- my hubby and I never share gifts on social media. We do buy very expensive gifts, experiences, trips and luxury items, but we do not like the aesthetic of showing off to family and friends. Also, everyone has a different relationship and different personality. If my hubby sent me that airport text, I would assume he was being held at him point and I needed to call police. Finally, given that the average American woman is now 5’4” and 180 lbs, maybe her guy just doesn’t want to see her gross fat feet.🤷🏼‍♀️

[@h52114z]

You’re not mean for keeping it real. Honestly those type of people who post this attention seeking content are usually just really good at painting pretty pictures of their life But they’re just paintings, and paintings don’t come to life.

[@MuseSunflower]

What's the saying... "the longer the caption, the more unhappy the couple actually is" I get it, sometimes peoples brand is just all about relationship lovey dovey stuff to get views and money. But its still cringe to pimp out your partner for social media fame and attention

[@Cassandralynn83]

That calling each other king/queen bullshit makes me legit gag.

[@nele9045]

Look up Mary Harrington and digital modesty 😊

[@ceci_lux]

sometimes is cute to have pictures that represent memories for the future, the first year i was with my fiance i didnt posted anything about us, and now i regret bc now i really enjoy posting our pictures and memories of our travels, concerts, dinner dates, etc

[@ewcik.4ever]

But you can have pictures without posting it 😅

[@Vjestica7]

@@ewcik.4ever Obviously not anymore in today's world, if it is not online it didn't happen. I cannot believe the logic people have in their head. I am so glad I don't have any social media anymore and I am having my life and my memories offline.

[@andreasalgadom]

OMG YEEEEEEEEEEES AGREEEEEEEEEEEEE!!!! I

[@olgaabuz6276]

Another example-I have never seen any man's account with such tiktoks. Even if they exist its a huge minority compared to these accounts owned by women.

[@Mapache095]

I know I'm late to the party, but in my honest opinion the shoes thing is also very k*nk content related. It portrays a certain dynamic that not everyone is into or wants to participate in. Even if the partner was asking in a totally sweet way, you don't spring that type of stuff on your partner, it has to very much be discussed because it can border into uncomfortable very quickly if the directives aren't clearly established.

[@lanaori5097]

Personally, I guess all of things and types of content you mentioned is mainly made for the views and following, yes, some of them can be genuine as text messages, or some celebration preparations, but for me a lot of it seems staged. As for shoes, I think some men care about the women and want to take care of his girl, but it feels strange that people film it=) some men can just have kinks about shoes and feet, it is really harmless kink though=)

[@equarshie14ify]

As someone in an inter-racial marriage (black/white) I can’t stand inter-racial social media couples acting like their relationship is different because of their race. Of course certain things happen because you are of different races but 99% of the time it just a normal everyday marriage.

[@deborahcurtis1385]

Everybody is trying to market themselves. It's the commodification of the self. Then people wonder why the suicide rate is so high: people's inner world simply isn't matching the reality. I just watched a documentary on fame, and the pressures thereof. It's quite insane that seemingly 'everyone' wants fame and when they actually get there, realise it's a gilded cage. You cannot go out of your famously large house and compound, because you will be gawped at and mobbed. All interactions become fake and loaded with agendas. It's horrible! It doesn't fix your problems it gives you new ones and isolates you from normal existence. We should celebrate our ordinary lives, because we have no idea how lucky we are to be in a first world country (speaking for myself there) and also not have problems with privacy and autonomy. If we want to go out to a restaurant it doesn't involve a military operation. We aren't constantly scrutinised and get hate mail. This is why famous people end up together, and why their relationships often fail. There isn't enough normality. Sorry for the extra rant!

[@Flaming_2023-p4p]

I used to wonder a bit if people are actually like this. But I ended up knowing someone in person who posts like this about huge full relationship post but they are not in the best relationship at all. I would have left the guy long time back if he treats me like that lol. Whereas she fabricates just enough white lie or tells him exactly what to do so she can film it lol and once camera stops and then ignores each other omg. But they shamelessly sit down and post love notes ro each other on social media. It’s such a huge ick and cringe In comparison my husband and then boyfriend does all of the cute romantic things that people talk about on the internet. But it’s not exactly like that when all this cute things are happening and it’s real, I’m too busy feeling loved and in the moment and never capture it in camera or felt the need to capture. So yes some of those things they show in social media is correct yes I’ve had such nice things being done for me but I never needed to film it. Whoever is busy filming it is either doing it our of rehearsed choreography or it’s just their job as influencers

[@aniasmirkin-bazejewska810]

Hahaha, omg the cringe! 😅😅😅😅