5 Signs You SHOULD Date Him

[@zebrazippy]

#6: One of the best pieces of advice I've gotten is that you have a friendship as well as a relationship

[@ExistentialIzzy]

Yes! I was told to marry my best friend. It took about 10 years, but we've now been married for 2!

[@TiffanyDawn]

That’s a great piece of advice! For some people they’ll already have a close friendship before dating and for others that’ll come during the relationship. But either way it’s an important thing to keep an eye on and make sure that’s developing too😄

[@jazzcherylyn]

6. He knows his ambitions/goals 7. He is ready to date more than just casual

[@_Scotchie]

Yes!

[@TiffanyDawn]

jazzcherylyn ohhh having goals! So good! And #7 brings up a good point - that you guys should be on the same page about what you’re looking for from the relationship, so it doesn’t end up being that one person is way more serious than the other.

[@JewlsLittleMonster]

1. Mutual interest 2. You’re excited 😜 😆 😊 3. Friend approval 4. They are respectful 5. They are trustworthy 6. They have (real) goals

[@TiffanyDawn]

Ohhh great one!!

[@MeadowsSweep]

@@TiffanyDawn Edit: *1. Do they have a relationship with Jesus Christ?

[@rebeccamclaren97]

@@MeadowsSweep agree but I think this was a more general list for everyone, regardless of faith! But definitely that is no.1 on my list 🙏 If a guy doesn't have that connection with Jesus, isn't walking in faith with God, I just couldn't date them. Because *Jesus > everything*

[@iifxllxnstxr]

@@MeadowsSweep I fully respect your religion, but I think that this list was made for a larger audience that no matter what they believe in. For example, personally, if a guy or girl does or doesn’t have a relationship with Jesus, I would love them regardless because I don’t really mind. (Please tell me if this came out offensive, I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings!)

[@MeadowsSweep]

@@iifxllxnstxr Don't worry, this didn't come off as offensive. First of all, I have to point out that we Christians love others regardless of their belief in God, that wasn't the point of my comment. But seeing as you felt the need to mention (it for whatever reason) there's some clarification. And yes, I understood that the scope by which this comment could be applied. All I ask of you is this, remind yourself of the context of the original comment. It's about qualities someone should look for in a future spouse. Given that is what the context is my comment makes more sense. Here's the thing doodlepuff, when Christians are looking for a spouse it makes perfect sense that we'd look for someone who shares faith in the most important thing in our lives(Jesus). There are a few passages from Scripture that tell us that Christians are not to be unequally yoked with unbelievers. In both the church setting and marriage.

[@sarahdavis6167]

You should feel at peace in the relationship. If you have a gut feeling that something isn't right, don't ignore that.

[@TiffanyDawn]

PREACH!! Oh man I wish I'd paid more attention to my gut in past relationships!

[@sarahdavis6167]

@@TiffanyDawn me too! But a lesson learned is a lesson preached, and I can use that experience to give advice to others!!

[@JillianHeersink]

He is kind! He treats people with kindness no matter who they are or how well he knows them.

[@nicolebrowne1433]

My guy friend once told me “Everyone says to look at how a guy treats his mom or grandma, etc. which is great, but sometimes we need to look beyond those people. How does he treat a waiter or some other service person whom he has no long-term connection to? Does he treat all people with respect even when they’re frustrated by not so great service or even just with someone who may be “trivial” in their life?” That was amazing advice that took a spin on what I’d always had been taught!

[@TiffanyDawn]

YES!!! That is awesome advice!! Thank you for sharing this!

[@missweenieboys2]

Being emotionally and mentally stable is a good start. My number one is having a high faith in God and coming to church every time the doors are open. I haven't read a bad comment yet

[@cameronwaddel4072]

Being emotionally stable, I don't know what that means, life is full of emotional ups and downs, if you mean someone who has sudden emotional changes for no reason then yes, that could be a significant problem. But that leads into your second statement. Being mentally stable, for some people that is not a possibility, sure medication can help but it's not certain that they will be mentally stable constantly and I am sure that it would be unreasonable to expect such people to remain single forever just because they have a mental health condition which is difficult to control.

[@margiehalpern4573]

This is very specific, but my cousin decided my now-husband was okey-dokey when she saw that he reacted to and interacted with my sister who has Down Syndrome in a good way.

[@TiffanyDawn]

Margie Halpern that’s a really great example! I love that your cousin and you were watching for that ❤️

[@ReboEelyak0610]

Chivalry has huge brownie points in my book.

[@jilliancollom2246]

Thanks for such great advise! I asked a guy from school to my courtwarming that I really like, and he said he had work, but that he had enjoyed our conversations, and felt bad. I then asked him on a date to my church's SuperBowl teen party. He said he was going to try to come. I was excited and eager to hang out with him. But now he said that something came up and he can't come. I understand and he seems like he genuinally can't make it. But self doubt tells me he just doesn't like me. He's very friendly and we have good conversations. I'm just not sure if he's a friendly guy or if he likes me.

[@nokianka1]

Where I schould meet him? Iam 33 years old... my friends having children, so should I go out alone? its getting harder. Please pray for me and my future husband to meet. Thank you.

[@priyabalan3619]

I feel your pain, I'm in the same position.

[@tinakek9601]

I will keep you in my prayers xx

[@Marie_Garwood]

Praying for you this morning! 🙏

[@wannabehuman]

Best of luck! I know you’ll find him 💛 don’t give up.

[@TiffanyDawn]

Veronika Žáková I loved reading the replies on this! So sweet!! And such a good question. That’s the age old question! Where to meet someone. It’ll be different for everyone. But I think it’s helpful to join different social groups, whether like a running club, hiking club, volunteering at church or Bible study, etc - those things open you up to new social connections, which can in turn let you meet someone through those friends and circles. But it’s hit or miss and often takes longer than we’d like!

[@wannabehuman]

6. He’s got his life somewhat together, and is a hard worker! The guy I like is perfect. But he’s also a close friend, and he goes to a different uni, and I don’t want to ruin the friendship or make things awkward. He’s such a good guy though. 😞

[@giselleevans4476]

I totally understand how you feel in this situation, but I think if he matches up to most of these traits, you should tell him you're interested. Yeah, there's a risk of making things awkward, but you have to balance it against the chance that he could feel the same way.

[@wannabehuman]

Giselle Evans yeah, you’re right of course 😌 we’ll see. I don’t know if I’d have the guts, but I’ll try to force myself to drop some obvious hints lol

[@wannabehuman]

ostrokrzew paragwajski Thank you 😌

[@cameronwaddel4072]

@@wannabehuman Don't force yourself, if you have to force something or you feel really uneasy about something, more than a few butterflies in the stomach, then don't do it. If it is meant to happen a natural opportunity will present itself, practicalities, like attending a different Uni may change etc. If you have done something since you posted this, let us know what happened if you feel like sharing.:)

[@mariacharach6736]

I'm actually in a situation right now asking this exact question! :)

[@VSupremeQveen]

❤ love your videos!! From one Christian woman to another 🤗 this is so true! Also, if you have good communication between you both and you both have a clear understanding of your boundaries, likes and dislikes x

[@TiffanyDawn]

Victoria K ohhh yes great one - someone who it’s easy to talk to, or a sense of solid communication - so important! So much of relationships is communication based

[@rebekahjohansen8247]

My number 6 sounds so simple but it would be eye contact! It's something I am NOT comfortable with but on occasion I meet someone who either over time or right away I'm just comfortable doing that with, and there have been others who I've had interested in that I could NEVER do this with, and that should've been a sign that I shouldn't, especially if it didn't change over time.

[@TiffanyDawn]

Oh I love that #6! Thank you for sharing that!

[@kagomeotilia]

Thank you! I really feel the same way...

[@victorialester1634]

All of these apply except that I'm the one to initiate most of our interactions. When I do it's always great and he makes me feel like I have a real chance, but I just really want to be pursued. As much as he's my dream guy I think I need to cut him loose.

[@hadassaheritage]

I agree with the point that you should communicate, but it's natural for men to pursue. They were made to. I say you should start distancing yourself and test him. Is he willing to let you go or will he pursue you further. You wont know if it's really God-led or You-led unless you really put it to the test.

[@giselleevans4476]

@@justv3289 I 100% agree with this advice. Maybe talk to him about it, and then if he still doesn't pursue you, it's definitely time to cut back on the effort you're putting in.

[@InaYefimov]

Thank you! That was really helpful

[@singing.winnie]

Love you Tifff I have this crush and clicked on right away lol

[@EstherS15]

Great video!! The key points were spot on I’m in a position where I’m asking this question and you just cleared my mind about my thoughts about the guy I’m interested in 👍🏾☺️

[@sassarific]

Love how quick & digestible this was!

[@christy183]

Missed you, Tiffany! So good to see you again! :)

[@giselleevans4476]

I love this new series you're doing, and I can't wait to keep watching them! Thank you so much for making these videos!

[@halwiggam5465]

1. Common ground. 2. Like the same movies and music. 3. At least 1 thing you both are passionate about.

[@nicrosilmind]

Me: Okay, what’s the first thing? Tiffany: You need to be mutually interested in each other. Me: Well, I’m hopeless.

[@samlynx2016]

Don't sell yourself short! :)

[@yoxyz]

Hey Tiffany, thank you so much for another video! I love the content and I'm a follower from Germany and wanna grasp everything thats why I wanted to ask you if you could slow down a bit when speaking :-) I don't mind if the video is a little longer than 3 minutes

[@cbentler4528]

Yoco you can change the playback speed on KZbin to a slower pace

[@morgenstern1234]

I'm from Germany, too :-)

[@joannadaly6863]

So goooooooood!!!!!!! Thanks for sharing your take on this! :) check, check, check, check, check!!!

[@tima1443]

Hi, so this guy seems to be putting good effort in getting to see me. After the 5th date, we made it official.. Should I have waited ? Usually when I don’t like the guy, he waits and waits and tends to fall, and so I’m scared that I didn’t wait enough for this guy and we jumped right in. The thing is I feel attraction but I also feel like I’m falling for him... Was this a good move ? I do give space in the relationship

[@DikshaSingh-fq7ks]

thanks alot ❤ love you videos😊😊

[@yoo1764]

We both have all of these...but om still scared. My mom says he isn't for me but my friends approve...so idk.

[@lindamonterroso2265]

Love love !!

[@hannahcinte8203]

Thank you so much for the advices!

[@chimiko13]

I love these signs, tiff! 😍 God bless you!

[@alessandraechevarria7130]

I like this video, although the 3 minutes or less idea... I could listen to what you have to say for so much longer! Haha I miss your longer videos, don't think they were too long, but I actually felt I was listening to a friend 😊 Another one? That you actually like them! That they take you out on dates and are not "boys" wondering what to do now with a girlfriend but are intentional and want to pursue you wholeheartedly :)

[@TiffanyDawn]

Awwww!!! Thank you!!!!

[@JessicaWilliams-iu6xm]

Should I date a guy that is sometimes forward?

[@KC-zn1mg]

1. You should agree on religious beliefs. 2. You should be in agreement on how much time you want to spend together. A relationship will fall apart if one person needs personal time and the other constantly wants to be with the person they date 24/7. 3. You aren’t looking for a relationship just because you are bored or want one person to fulfill all of your emotional needs. 4. You both are ready to be in a relationship.

[@userdoesnotexist5160]

Helpful ❤❤👏

[@DawnyPotter]

But Tiff, hadn't you already half-decided that there wasn't anything between you and James before you started dating? How does that relate to #2 you're excited?

[@TiffanyDawn]

Oh that’s a great question!! When James and I first re-met, we didn’t feel anything and I never thought I’d see him again 😂 then a few months later we started texting to get together as friends, but he was out of town and then I was out of town, so we just texted for three weeks before getting together. And during that time, we were both getting intrigued and excited. I couldn’t wait to get his next text all day everyday. So by the time it was our get together/ first date, we were both really curious and excited 😍

[@TiffanyDawn]

Here’s part two of my response, LOL, that being said, I do think it’s totally fine to go on some dates with a guy just because he’s a good guy. This video is about when you decide to actually be in a relationship with someone. I think at that point it’s important to at the very least be curious and intrigued by him, if not totally excited about the idea. Does that help at all?❤️

[@DawnyPotter]

@@TiffanyDawn thanks! I was recently dating a guy who was really great, but I was almost dreading his texts and seeing him because it just felt like so much pressure. When we did hang out we had a great time. We had talked and found that we were really on the same page; both unsure if there was something more and keen to get to know each other as friends, which really helped with the pressure. But because we both had to go out of our way to find time to meet up, I just couldn't shake it, so I ended it. I was sad to do that because who knows what would happen between us if I wasn't feeling stressed about it? But the stress left no room for anything else in me. I don't know if I get excited so quickly or if I need to date for a while before I can expect any feelings, especially as I am 25 and never had a boyfriend

[@kenzie.b.graciously]

@@DawnyPotter I just ended a relationship in October because I was stressed the whole time! He was such a great guy and we did have a wonderful time when were together but random little things would give me a distinct sinking feeling in my gut. I thought it was just me being anxious, but eventually I decided it probably more than that. Maybe we just weren't meant to be. I'm 23, he was my first boyfriend, and now I'm just trying to figure out where to go from here.

[@DynamicGracer]

Marry your best friend zone

[@sapphireraven5015]

It is the complete opposite for me. He has all the interest in me. He reaches out to me. I feel like I should date him because I'm used to disrespectful, pushy, verbally, physically, and emotionally abusive men. Aside from being pushy, he is great. He backs off when I shut down his advances in the sexual Department. I'm not ready or interested anytime soon. I have to build something with somebody. A choice that I never had in the past. He respects me and my boundaries, but now and then he'll say something vulgar or rude. He says it's in a good way but I don't buy it. I hate it. It feels like all class went out the window not just with him, but everyone. I have been trying, and trying and, and trying to find answers. To look for a sign. Do I date him or do I not once again as always I never get answers. Never get a sign. I feel like I should settle because most guys are going to treat me like trash which is what I was used to most of my life. I dated very few because two out of three abused me. I can't go through that again. I feel like I have to settle because at least he allows me to be 100% honest, express my feelings and thoughts and opinions and respect my boundaries when I make them. There's no verbal, physical, or emotional abuse because I dare to tell him no. So, I don't know what to do. It's nice to be treated with respect, but I don't feel a connection or interest. I feel like I have to settle if I want to be treated right. I keep thinking there might be something better out there for me, but then again there isn't another man out there who's willing to listen to and respect me. All I am good for sex after all. I really, truly believe that after all, I have dealt with over the years. I feel devastated. Disheartened. I feel very stuck. He kept pushing the need to date him. I told him I didn't feel a connection. He told me that nobody ever gave him a chance and all he's asking for is a chance. I hate myself for giving in to that manipulation. I know it's manipulation. I just know what it's like to never be given a chance and that's why I yielded so easily. The only reason why I can stay on this is that he is living over 3 hours away and I don't have to see him. I have been single for many years by choice and all of a sudden I found myself with a boyfriend for whom I don't think I want. We only went on one date. He has been pushing me and pushing me and pushing me to date him. When I told him no because I didn't feel a connection he told me that nobody gives him a chance and that's all he's asking for. I know better than that. I don't know why I gave in. I thought I was Stronger after everything I've been through, but I'm starting to wonder if that's not the case after all.

[@stevehicks399]

As a guy, friendships with women can be complicated, even as a Christian. Getting to know someone should come naturally and not forced.

[@miracle5106]

Hi Tiffany, need help. I’ve know this guy for almost 3 years now, he says he likes me but has never really come and asked me Out. He just keeps asking me to marry him, I mean what exactly is that. Sometimes we go months without talking . He’s a good guy but like you said, some days I wanna date him and other days I don’t. But he still hasn’t come out and asked me out. What do i do ? Help

[@9901902437]

He needs to know how to pacify you when you cry. I feel this is a huge red flag and correlates with kindness and being selfless.

[@mightyknight]

I've got to work on being trustworthy.

[@samlynx2016]

He likes animals. He doesn't smoke or drink. He cleans up after himself (I know a lot of guys that don't even bother to put their dirty clothes in the hamper, scrap the food off their plates, take their plates to the sink, or take the garbage out because "that's a woman's job.") This one is just a personal preference ☺ : he's bilingual. He sings worship songs in his free time.

[@jotengohambre]

I LOOOOOOVVVVVEEEE YOOOUUUU

[@userdoesnotexist5160]

👍👍❤

[@jocelynjames1577]

There is a guy that has liked for a long time. He has said that he loves me, even though I’ve rejected him three times. I am 13 and I don’t know what to do. I have never shown interest in him, but I think I should get to know him more and get into a friendship before going further. Should I do this? Someone please help!

[@ezaan3710]

This dating concept is crap. Straight marry if u like somebody. The safest and the bestest option.