6 Life Lessons I've Learned Lately

Life is always teaching us lessons. Here are 6 life lessons I've learned lately. Thanks Skillshare for partnering with me on this video! Get 2 free months of Skillshare Premium → skl.sh/lavendaire9
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[@lavendaire]

For a different perspective on life lessons, check out my recent video on Things to Not Take for Granted in Your 20s → bit.ly/2uFFqy6 I'm nearing the end of my 20s, so I wanted to share some big insights and advice from the past decade. If you're in your 20s, what life lessons have you learned recently? 💡

[@tahirarezwana3532]

1. Live the life you're proud of 2. Close the gap between knowing and doing 3. Seek first to understand 4. Treat people the way they want to be treated 5. Power of team work 6. Resilience

[@Isha-19]

Gracias

[@VannaMae]

Thank you

[@thegoldenchild740]

Thank you 🌻

[@li3838]

"If you are still alive and breathing you have another day, another day to try" Thanks for that.

[@Gi.02]

Your comment defenitely deserves *an author's like👍🏼💖*

[@osse1n]

*#1 - be always truthful with yourself* Self-deception is the biggest barrier to happiness in life

[@rea8585]

Treat other people the way they want to be treated and not the way you think you should! So important! But also remember that other people probably treat you the way they want to be treated and if this is not what you want, you should tell them loud and clear. What is obvious to us is not necessary obvious to other people 😊

[@lavendaire]

True :)

[@NickaPaulo]

This is all good in a personal relationship and even there I don't totally agree because I'm not a downer person and I can never tell my husband he is not good enough in a certain area without hurting myself. The same goes for my parents. Don't get me wrong I'll tell him when I dislike something but I'm not telling him that he doesn't clean the bathroom as well as I like it because he will just stop doing it. He doesn't handle that stuff well from me but when we talk about work stuff and I don't agree with what road he is taking then he listens and gets better... A person is composed of different things and what works for one area does not work for another. So I say always treat people with care and positiveness but be honest and say what you feel. That will always work when the other person cares about us. If he/she doesn't and is just negative just ignore or walk away because it's not a good relationship for you. And I know this can't be done in every relationship like family.

[@thegoldenchild740]

Lavendaire can you please do a video on how to do that? Or how to say no? I’m sorry if you already made those videos 🌻♥️

[@F0reverblessed]

Confidence derives from having already done something and gaining the confidence to do it again! Confidence doesn’t happen overnight, it takes time. Wether it’s confidence in yourself or your craft. From a self love content creator to another, you always know just what to say and how to say it Aileen. Loved it! 💜

[@lo.5704]

I love that explanation!

[@F0reverblessed]

Lo Thank you beauty 💕

[@_jlstx]

I’m really bad for wanting to know everything before attempting to do anything. Probably too much so. Quite often learning comes from doing. I then immediately become confident!

[@ErikaK]

Life is beautiful and we all came here to enjoy every minute of our existence, to be happy, to be free ♡ let go of what no longer serves you and start living your best life

[@doniyorprogrammer]

yess!

[@HeatherCutright]

The first lesson was the most valuable for me right now. (The last lesson was a close second.) I am very content and at peace in my life currently, so sometimes I think "Hey, I'm happy so why not just live like this forever? Isn't the whole point of life to be happy?" But I am not doing anything. I haven't been being productive. I only do things that bring me pleasure. So I am really just comfortable because I haven't been doing anything difficult or challenging. I may be happy now, but if I look back on my life, I wouldn't be proud. I really needed to hear that there's a difference between living to be happy and living a life you're proud of. Thank you, Aileen ❤ The video wasn't too long for me. I was listening while putting on makeup 😊 Also, would like to hear about lessons and mistakes made in business. Maybe lessons first? Since it would go along with this video kinda. "Lessons I learned in Life" followed by "Lessons I learned in Business".

[@DrBiohack]

Anyone else find this so motivating!?💗🙌 Living a positive and healthy lifestyle is my passion🌻💗 Have a gorgeous day😘

[@SarahNicholls]

I honestly gain so so much from watching your videos. Thank you 🙏🏻 💫

[@TimeFliesTimeManagement]

I love how immaculate your videos look all the time 💙

[@lilacollins4308]

The vibes , the editing , the voice , the content she makes Everything is magical , THANK YOU.🌻

[@liafrances4924]

Pls share the journaling series here on youtube too!! U have a wider audience here on yt

[@cupcake5745]

My favorite was the one about being resilient. OMG, that just completely changed my way of thinking, and my future. In school theyve always told me that you can learn from your mistakes but I had never realized that I shouldnt be afraid of failure, I should be afriad of stopping myself from not trying. Thank you so much for opening my eyes and making me realize that failure is proof that I tried, and that as long as Im still breathing I still have more chances of succeding.

[@lavendaire]

🙂💕

[@alexmcginness8859]

Can you do both business videos? I think the business mistakes first. That’d help me so much!

[@maayu649]

I love the first lesson which is to live a life you are proud of. I am striving for that as of late because I feel like I'm not doing enough to earn self-respect. Therefore, I'm trying to do hard things in my daily life even by doing simple tasks such as washing and folding my own clothes. Thank you for this video, Aileen! 💖

[@meriemmim4676]

I swear that all what you're talking about I'm going through it . And eventually I found someone who understands me really truly. Thank you so much Lavendaire you are my role model and my life's teacher. I hope for you all the best and beautiful life

[@afaf.kofficial7293]

the best part u said was when u said that some ppl get motivated with positive affirmations , others not> they just want u t be harder with them. and that's truly true!

[@SaraMakesArt]

"Pursue a life you're proud of" and "As long as I'm still breathing, there's time to make things better", two lessons I will be especially carrying with me. I think either a video on mistakes you've made in business or lessons you've learned about business sounds great.

[@lavendaire]

❤️❤️

[@trishvaldepenas9362]

Thank you for this Aileen! It's very inspiring! 💖 Love and light ✨

[@chyenneariel]

Always great content. Having both videos is my preference. One on lessons learned and one on mistakes made

[@butterkeksgangster6685]

I love seeing you grow personally!

[@madugruba]

OMG i could listen to you forever!! It's so therapeutic, thank you so much for sharing this lessons actually helps me to stop and think and reorganize aspects of my life. Its like talking to a friend!! Thank you so much for you amazing work (sorry for the bad english)

[@therawsoul4997]

U put up video whenever I needed them the most.. Love you 🤩

[@TheFruitDiaries]

I love this video! Thanks for giving me a positive outlook for today!

[@EmilyClaireDaly]

*so much wisdom* Thankyou!

[@Azhar2794]

It’s incredible how everything you mentioned is related to me and is important for me to hear and accept. I love your videos and I feel happy and in peace watching them 😇😇

[@julieboo1447]

Thank you for sharing this, this helps so much to be more open minded.

[@zainabo.7940]

I love your persona and videos and would honestly love to see both, mistakes that you've learned and business tips as well. The more knowledge the better :)

[@aparajitabiswas2911]

Thanks for sharing the knowledge 🤗

[@humayramohua]

Resilience is the best lesson...Make more videos like this Aileen! I loved it!! 😊

[@viana1254]

Everything you've been posting is so timely. The universe is speaking to me through you. Thank you Aileen 💖💜💖💜

[@chinhitasanyal9488]

When ever i see u ...i feel so calm ..and motivated by ur videos....thank u for ur videos

[@emilyjones1]

I’m in the love with this. I’ve never heard these lessons before and they are genius💖. Love you 😘

[@realwei917]

Love this at all!!! Thank you for sharing experiences. I like the video so much!!!!!!!!

[@kj_army9381]

Thank you 💗! This is just what I needed 👏🏻 I‘m glad that I learned something knew that will hopefully lead me in the right direction. I‘m so thankful that I can call you one of my biggest inspirations and probably my biggest role model❤️

[@chesterry]

I needed this now more than ever. Thank you so much!

[@2302arwen]

Thank you so much for your sharing. Carry on allways... 😊

[@boaxiong9162]

Love these videos! I want more videos like this! It is so uplifting and speaks right to my soul. I can relate so much on what you are saying.

[@moiracampos6347]

Love it! It’s very helpful 🦋 Please do more videos like this ❤️

[@shyuba]

Thank you for this video!

[@ilmatt00]

I love how this video comes out the day I learn about the Csíkszentmihályi's flow theory in my Play Developmental Processes class, and my Community Youth Development class. The points you mentioned in your video are some that we discussed in class

[@martina9005]

This video is not too long❤️ I loved it! You should do video like this more times💖 your advice is precious. Have a good day!

[@marplebay3904]

This is really helps me :) lately i'm being so down and stressed out about my college and organization teamwork. People always get me wrong whatever I'm doing somethings. But now I finally realize that every people is different and I just can change my action to take care of them. Thank u so much 😊

[@anjalijha5014]

Aileen, you always leave me awestruck!!! More power to you girl! I am loving the series so much!❤️🌺

[@MommyMeTamil]

Wow... Your videos are really worth watching and so helpful!!!

[@SoumyaMidhun]

This video came at the right time for me. It is so easy to be happy in one's comfort zone that we automatically shut ourselves down from many life experiences that can help us grow and evolve. Love you Aileen.

[@ff444f7]

I definitely ADORE these advice videos! Please do more!❤️

[@xiaojuntete1187]

Yay! Can’t wait honestly Your confidence and how you embrace your love to yourself and others is very contagious, thank you💜

[@aydamatrouh4506]

Absolutely helpful. Thanks for sharing.

[@kayakalugin8644]

I love these lessons! And would love to hear more about lessons in life. My favorite is, seek first to understand. We all go through different difficulties and troubles in life that no one knows we face. Thank you for this. 💕

[@shanb8543]

They were all my favorites. Thanks. Definitely looking forward to both lessons learnt and mistakes made in business

[@imjasmine8608]

I'm sorry but the aesthetics in the beginning especially how they match the dress is beautiful! You're so inspirational, excited for your launch girl! Inspiring me to do youtube :)

[@kathleen_fung_]

Loved this ♥️ please share more about your lessons in business

[@madhukatta5260]

Thank you so much Aileen. I love listening to you❤ love how you articulate your content so well. Keep up :)

[@zaara3636]

Cant wait for the journaling series!! And the video was long but worth watching😘😘👏👏👍👍😊

[@GROAWESUM]

You are an inspiration, Aileen. Love you!

[@akuaron]

Absolutely wanna see more of this! Thank you for your wisdom!! 😊💕

[@MarielaMerino]

I love this! Not too long I would love if you showed these. I would love to hear business lessons too

[@aminaismail5849]

I discovered your channel recently and am happy to be here, love from Africa sis

[@test111ification]

You are such an inspiring youtuber and you always talk about what I am going through in life. Please keep creating such valuable content...both topics are good! I suggest you do more videos on lessons you learned from life and only one video at the end of this series about the mistakes you made in business. Love you ❤❤❤❤

[@AlliAsAlways]

Understanding OTHERS love language and not your own was really profound to me. Thank you. 💜💕

[@maepena6242]

your videos are really helpful ❤️ specially for those who's struggling with their everyday life ! thank you lavendaire 💕

[@nickfaraid6307]

Thank you for this video Aileen, sometimes in life we need this reminder to remind us everything is going to be okay. Don't give up..love your video as always.

[@FabiolaSuarez]

Everyone needs to hear this!

[@mariamnader2016]

Thank u so much Aileen 🙏❤

[@shir35303]

Loved this!

[@user-tg6ot1mb2i]

I like the series very much, wish more, it gives me much energy

[@allisonwong4232]

I love this so much! a quarter of the way through this video I began taking notes and reflecting on the things you said and how I see them in my own way. Truly a worthwhile and great way to spend my night! I found your channel thanks to Liah and I couldn't be more grateful!

[@leen9927]

Thank you so much for making this video ❤️

[@ilaydatugrul13]

hey Aileen! thanks to you, i can improve my English by watching your videos and at the same time you help me a lot in creating my dream life. i have to thank you for these things. love you so much, see you in the next video 💜

[@emysmagicworld2440]

This was one of my favourite videos of yours ! Thank you so much for your quality content and peaceful voice 😘

[@ff444f7]

It’s so crazy how your videos always come at the PERFECT time when i need the advice you give the MOST❤️ Almost as if the universe is sending help through your wisdom! Thank you SO much for this video🌸

[@barby1998super]

I loved the video 💕 The business lessons/mistakes is a good approach, I'd watch it.

[@alicehuang7127]

Thank you for sharing!! You’re such an inspiration. I’ve been going through a quarter life bump now that I’ve achieved my 6 year plan and feeling kind of lost. Your video gave me more perspective and courage to pursue a new job opportunity in a new country!

[@mariaa109]

I was journaling inspired by the email series and then boom! You posted 😇💜 beautiful video ✨😍keep it up🙌

[@ritumalani7211]

hi dear, you have actually helped me a lot through your videos in past 5 months and i am extremely grateful for it

[@user-ti4lk9cg9f]

Love this video! Your videos inspired me ❤️ I left my job 2 months ago, I want to go outside my comfort zone, I want to work in other field, but it seems so hard because I was an engineer and my knowledge does not allow me to enter other field easy. Still in the journey on discovering myself, thank you Aileen, you're my motivation!

[@Selflovewithlena]

I love it to listen to you I’m walking and just put my AirPods on and listen to your voice it’s so chilling and I’m learning new things because I’m listening to you! I found u on tik tok and I loved your tiktoks already so much the positivity u spread out to the world is so amazing! I really appreciate you like for real I love the long videos and thank you so much for your efforts! Thank you so much for teaching me things like a older sister I will never have !!💕💕

[@msteelha]

Love the personal examples! Makes so much more sense

[@carolineinsweden614]

I think the lessons learned help me see new perspectives. At the same times mistakes you made can help me see that even though it can look like everything always work out for you at a surface glance the struggle is there behind the scene.

[@mhemola]

Thank you so much for this video, just from the very beginning you inspired me. Am proud to see you grow, and to share it whit us.

[@christianlamb]

Great tips! Awesome branding and video production as well. Thanks for sharing. Be well! :-)

[@neathenerd]

OMG I’m so early!! Just got back from work so perfect timing❤️ I LOVE YOUR VIDEOS and I was watching them even before work lol. And I’m a small KZbinr. You inspire me. :)

[@natalihurtadorodriguez8907]

You are awesome! I love to listen to you and watch your videos because I learn so much! My favorite part was the one about SkillShare... thank you very much for the 2 free months :) I already subscribed. God bless you. Keep that energy and love for what you do. Greetings from the Dominican Republic.

[@heatherdavidson6896]

Closing the gap btwn knowing and doing... Your explanation of that is literally the best way I've ever heard someone explain how I deal with my anxiety that comes from having PTSD!! When I get cornered by ppl who don't understand why I do things how I do, I am so playing that part of this video for them. Thank you!!!

[@merita554]

Loved this video, please share us more about what u learned from having a business❤️❤️🌸

[@CarolineLivino12345]

You're videos is always so calming 😍💞

[@prachi214]

You explained the concept of knowledge gap so well and you are able to put the thoughts related to each of the topics so clearly. It is a rare and unique quality. I needed help in that area and glad that I saw your video. I also liked the topic of happiness and I was unclear on whether one should move outside comfort zone and still be happy or keep doings things within the comfort zone. You nailed it. It brought a lot of clarity and I am sure many other users also would agree. Thanks so much. Please keep sharing your life lessons. They are very helpful.

[@rparkxoxo]

These tips are gold!✨ I love how much you invest in yourself and others around you. Thanks Aileen!❤️

[@naturallyishmarelda2040]

Loved this one . I love this type of content would love more of it ❤

[@dwitaratna5946]

Thank you for made this video and share your knowledge ✨ 💕

[@doniyorprogrammer]

The opinions you shared on being resilient is really inspirational . I should really absorb it into my whole being and it should become the part of me . Thanks Lavendaire sister for this :))

[@lynnicecarter1210]

As always I love your content🥰 I can’t pick just one🤗 I loved all 6! This video hit many important points and very essential. The 5 love languages book is my next purchase on audible. I’ve heard so many people say it was really good. It definitely helps you understand people and your mate deeper.

[@channa2803]

It was amazing. Please share more 😀 It is very helpful. I will try my best to implement.

[@lifeismorethan]

Thank you for sharing your life lessons. We must live our lives. Because life is short.

[@animallover100]

Wondeful video! Really needed this in life right now. Don't know if you already have a video about relationship but that would be nice. I struggle to keep friendships true and genuine. I think it's my fear of being rejected that's the problem.

[@MariJadeWrites]

I like a longer video once in a while, I'd love more videos like this :) You could make both videos over some time, lessons and mistakes, as I am interested in both. Thank you for sharing :)

[@pavlaadeeova4751]

Like your lessons you've learned rather than failures. And especially n. 4 was really useful. I know 5 languages but this was something level up. Thank you really spot on