It hit me some times god wants you too be alone too heal yourself bring out the better version of you and growth
@DL-vibes3 жыл бұрын
Relationships can make or pain you. Ugh. Hate it cause one person is always more invested.
@cassascorner6113 жыл бұрын
A like and comment because the physical workaround was funny.
@Chaitogether Жыл бұрын
Go Clay!!
@lukeskywalker3133 жыл бұрын
My ex-girlfriend ask for her key back but never came to get it after a week of her not coming to get it so I mailed it to her
@Moonlight.Melon.Mounter5 ай бұрын
Good
@ketobodybuilder24824 ай бұрын
She is sending me several angry texts im in nc. She is starting to feel the pain.
@makingmajic19383 ай бұрын
Savage 😊
@rsears783 жыл бұрын
Yeah. I was married for 16 years. We have 5 children. The only time she contacts me now is to remind me to send money for child support
@Chaitogether Жыл бұрын
Great channel 😊❤ i like your vibes!! 🎉
@christinemanning65363 жыл бұрын
This was AWESOME advice!! Wow! You nailed it. Love your videos Clay!
@relaxationnapz24443 жыл бұрын
ur vidz are sooo wise
@chrisdabbs31053 жыл бұрын
Thanks Clay....great video
@ClayAndrews3 жыл бұрын
Glad you enjoyed it :-)
@yesno68173 жыл бұрын
spent the weekend drunk talking to each other about how we miss us 😔
@Trataylor7133 жыл бұрын
I’d rather just stay single! Women are too difficult
@wulfclaw49218 ай бұрын
Amen
@Control_Khaibasen3 ай бұрын
True
@koberino48722 ай бұрын
Bingo…sadly
@georgepanagiotou86733 жыл бұрын
I’d be happy just to get a “hey” let alone anything else. Not a chance though 🤷🏻♂️
@cheekcheek35453 жыл бұрын
I feel you...
@rh53403 жыл бұрын
This is gold, Thanks Clay.!!!!
@lucystokes573 жыл бұрын
My ex is dating someone new and i was in no contact then i got an angry text about how i hurt him in the past and then he ended the conversation pretty fast and that was it. He said he’s doing better now. Why would he even text me idk what this means?
@SAMEntalhealth3 жыл бұрын
He just wants you and is mad he can't have you. Date someone, see what he says
@jzlz28062 жыл бұрын
Sounds like he still likes you or why would he tell u that?
@ouhshesari3 жыл бұрын
thats good to hear i signed up for connect and commit also yesterday. i’m pretty sure my ex is going back in the stages and i feel like he is trying to move on like when we first broke up 😔
@ClayAndrews3 жыл бұрын
Welcome to our short course, Ari. :-)
@wulfclaw49218 ай бұрын
NO- DON'T TELL THEM THAT THEY ARE RIGHT. TELL EM "YOU COULD BE RIGHT"
@apoklkr15248 ай бұрын
What if he sends I Miss You?
@Nice_009562 ай бұрын
thats what i did
@nhamdan863 жыл бұрын
Hi Clay - what if we have built up that emotional reconnection. Yet I keep being told I need to be patient but they are happy with how we've been communicating. The other problem is that my therapist makes me feel like im hurting myself by trying to keep the friendship when I dont get much in return. what do you think?
@ClayAndrews3 жыл бұрын
Hi Nadia, there is nothing wrong building the emotional connection with the person. As long as we are detached to any form of outcome and is in acceptance of what they are offer for now. Have you also tried setting a healthy boundaries given that both of you are not in a relationship yet?
@nhamdan863 жыл бұрын
@@ClayAndrews Hi clay thank you so much for your response. They got into a rebound immediately. We were together for 15 years and now have been broken up for 1 year. But when we talk and share memories of all the things we miss. And how how much we miss each other and how we can’t go on without one another in our lives. But I seem to be the one always initiating conversations. And always told to be patient when we’ve been talking for the last 6 months.
@makingmajic19383 ай бұрын
@nhamdan86 Keep your expectations realistic, and you won't get hurt.
@dhash6193 жыл бұрын
My ex reached out today after 4 days of no contact from my side. She brought up a song that we bonded and asked if remembered it. Then went on about a few memories we shared with the song.. I don't know what this means..
@johannesolofsson221Ай бұрын
Ask to meet up
@h3arty3 жыл бұрын
My ex texted saying "You were such a fucking asshole to me. I can't believe I put up with that." oh, hey! nice to hear from you! I ended up sucking up all the responsibility yet again, and felt really hurt by him, he just carried on being hurtful... meh
@stephena575211 ай бұрын
What about the “are you happy” text
@ParadiseAlley17763 жыл бұрын
20 year marriage 8 months in divorce and 1 month until the final i need to fix this i have no time and have broke every rule i didn't give her space but she had about the initial 2 months we slept with each other in the back of my car she talks about reconcile but then ghosts me every time we make foot forward. I need your help brother 🙏
@kostadrandakis58913 жыл бұрын
Clay could you make a video talking about a particular situation on how to bring up your Exes rebound relationship they left you for if it's necessary to talk about them to connect better. I'm kinda stuck on how to bring up the subject.
@ClayAndrews3 жыл бұрын
Hi Kosta, the question is, will you be emotionally ready to talk about your ex's rebound?
@kostadrandakis58913 жыл бұрын
I understand the concern, I can be and have to otherwise it keeps picking at my mind if I don't.
@Jwnurse3 жыл бұрын
@@ClayAndrews how do you get emotionally ready / I have similar situation but not sure to ignore rebound or explore with him ???
@Wavecattt9 ай бұрын
he said he wanted me back but I rejected him, because I was in pain. But now when my mind is more at ease I realise I want to give him another change. should I say this to him?
@Deathcoreee5 ай бұрын
Sure
@yeoitscori36183 жыл бұрын
left him alone for a year... in a long distance relationship breakup. went into no contact after he had the last say. I did not do anything and agreed. I only broke no contact once this New Years and he only replied in kindness, wishing me all the best. what do I do at this point since it has been 2 months after breaking no contact. He who has unfollowed me for a while now and I have not done anything to hinder this space but work on myself still. do you think it's time to sending an accountability to inspire a possibility to reestablish connecting? this is so hard. Please advise
@wulfclaw49218 ай бұрын
No mind games ? Wow ! Is there such a thing ?
@tadbyrum70533 жыл бұрын
how about this one out of nowhere - "would it be possible for us to talk sometime" No hi or hey how are you
@asapmobera23883 жыл бұрын
so i’m in no contact now. going to do this for at least a month maybe 2. I messaged u before about how she was too busy basically and that’s her reason for us breaking up. I realize where i need to improve in relationships in general(more spontaneous, plan dates better, initiate sex more). If we do meet up in a month or 2 how do i go about showing that i’ve improved in these areas?
@ClayAndrews3 жыл бұрын
HI Andrew, authentic change and improvement will definitely show up naturally. Because it became your second nature. Your changes will be noticed as it shows without an effort with how you bring yourself in the situation and the way you interact with the person, especially on the consistency of the changes that you have done for your self as well. Remember, change because you wanted to become a better person as much as you are doing these changes to have your ex back. :-)
@kierraslife85423 жыл бұрын
What does it mean when my ex boyfriend wants to meet up come see me and want to take things slow with us while he is in a rebound relationship???? Honestly He been wanted to get back together but I wasn’t ready to be back together in a relationship at the time We have been together for 11+years and our families know each other very well and they still talk to each other
@ClayAndrews3 жыл бұрын
It sounds like your ex is at the Riding the Dragon phase. It is best to continue focusing on having positive connection with him and remove the rebound in the equation. Taking things slow is a process in which an individual is trying to weigh things and gaining their confidence back in the relationship. It is to give them an assurance that they won't be going back to the old dynamics of the relationship.
@arckhien95423 жыл бұрын
i would like to ask what does it mean if my exgirlfriend do the things that she hates i do when we are still in relationship? She ignores and blocked me everywhere for more than 3months already.
@Anna-nw3hg3 жыл бұрын
After 3 months he sent me a funny short video, then I replied with a laugh emoji, was that ok
@ChiliCheeseGuy72 жыл бұрын
@4:25 when she gets angry and sends a text
@npkrn67643 жыл бұрын
The letter at the beginning (of course we don't know the why or much else) but: Someone is actually engaged yet they "ghost" the person they asked to marry them?? That type of behavior - especially once you've went as far as to be engaged is a HUGE red flag to SLOW DOWN - not race to the alter! 🙄 I swear there needs to be more requirements to meet to be allowed to get legally married - starting with psychological testing. That marriage is doomed.
@maddena9773 жыл бұрын
Haha my ex hasn't reached out to me at all.
@AS-di9vs3 жыл бұрын
Ex messaged me last night about our child then “
@ChiliCheeseGuy72 жыл бұрын
@3:25 building investment
@fleetingfootnotes91333 жыл бұрын
Wow. Words to describe physical activities considered naughty. At the same time, how much violence is there on the tele again?
@KarelChytilArt3 жыл бұрын
Clay when should i Replay. On that "how are you". Maybe the next Day? I am not sure. Thanks
@tennispennis75792 жыл бұрын
I think what happened in the run-up to the breakup and how they decided to end your relationship dictates what if anything you do if and when they reach out. I would not entertain any communication to the person that treated you like dirt and moved on right away , they were probably cheating on you and ultimately some women treat men like a cheap snack wrapper......
@emmapawson85603 жыл бұрын
So does this apply to a situation of 2 years seperation, almost 18 months of no contact, blocked, him 'moving on' to a new relationship???..... is he going to send these texts??🤔🤔 Pls dont just like my comment, a response to my question would b much more helpful...thx!!
@ClayAndrews3 жыл бұрын
Hi Emma, since we are teaching life skills, these are applicable to any type of situations. Though we cannot tell whether he would send you a text or not but will you be emotionally ready to reach out to him to gauge where he is at emotionally instead of waiting for him to initiate?
@wulfclaw49218 ай бұрын
Ask her if she has a chicken coop..... She will reply... Then tell her maybe she should consider it since you've gotta walk on eggshells so often When she texts you BS & angry Drama Answer with: I'll consider what you said. You know, It would be nice if she would make you a sandwhich !
@sawanasasakit6653 жыл бұрын
After a month of no contact my ex msg me last 3 days saying "im sori for everything" and i juz respond her 👍and 33 ❤ on our pic and its 2015 pics... m not angry to her it juz for how many times she dump me and the last time she did i did the no contact... are 👍 response is ok 😅😅
@countrygrl2783 жыл бұрын
He still won’t text me but he’s talking more and more to me in person (we work together). He hasn’t opened up with his feelings though. Mostly just normal conversation but I know we are both feeling a strong connection from the way we talk, look at each other, the vibe I feel must be felt by him too, his actions communicate his heart . But in my mind sometimes I can’t help daydreaming in the middle of talking to him, I just become speechless and I’m afraid he might think I’m not interested but I’m really in shock that all this is REALLY happening after over two years of wanting him back
@stunnak10063 жыл бұрын
@clay andrews my ex and I have been split up for 6 years we have kids together so we are in contact we argue a lot because anger and resentment we were together 10 years the last 3 being toxic and draining I recently realized how much I genuinely love and miss her we’ve been talking to each other better but she says she doesn’t see herself moving backwards yet when I ask if she still loves me and has feelings for me she completely ignores the question what does that mean what should I do???
@carlathompson93083 жыл бұрын
That means no says nothing when you asl that she doesn't love you