8 scapegoat child roles in a narcissistic family

[@crazycatladyyoutube]

I am a 34 y.o woman and the scapegoat child in my family, I have two elder brothers and the eldest one is the golden child. the second brother is also a scapegoat, but not as much as me cause our mother is a narcissist, and I am the eldest girl. (her biggest enemy) I have a younger sister but I realized that I was targeted more than any sibling in my family. I was like a little mom in this family, I took lots of adult responsibilities, (loundy, cleaning, ironing, vacuuming, washing the dishes, making all the beds, give free therapy, take care of baby sister..etc) I was a perfect student, I overachieved all my life (lots of degrees), try to be number one in my education with no support of course. I should add that as a girl ı, I faced discrimination cause they favored boys culturally as well. But interestingly, ı was the one who helped them most financially. I think that ı was the "problem solver, caretaker, perfectionist, overachiever" until ı was 30 years old. now ı am kind a more "protector, truth teller, and rebel". marrying a narcissist, learning about narcissism, becoming a mother, and getting older and wiser changed me a lot. I am in the process of learning and healing but it will take a lot. the jealousy, race and sabotage of my mother never ends. PS:I have been trying to divorce my narcissist husband for 3 years.

[@CourageCoaching]

Thank you for sharing in such detail! I wish you the best of luck getting out of your marriage as I know how tough it is to do this with a narcissist!

[@jesperandersson889]

Interesting you position PTSD as a kind of gate-keeper into the land of the damned - other schemes put ptsd at the outer border and butting against borderline and SOME dementia phenomena (seeing that ptsd is really a diffuse kind or outer shell of the cluster B)