A Day in School as an Introvert (the struggle)

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[@LanaBlakely]

Next time someone asks you why you're leaving early, you...: a) Excuse yourself with being tired b) Tell them you have someone waiting for you - your book and bed c) Lol no one asks me

[@natemarx4999]

Or just show them this video and walk away.

[@zoealessia755]

Nate Marx --- yes.

[@natashamudford4011]

I just say my brain is full and I need to decompress. Sometimes I'll go for a walk, then return to the gathering.

[@michaelmurillo7444]

I'll just go home early rather stay with toxic friends and their offensive jokes.

[@zoealessia755]

michael murillo -- felt this one.

[@NielMalan]

"Why are you so quiet?" "If you were paying attention you would have noticed that my attempted contributions to the conversation were all interrupted, so I concluded that it's pointless to say anything."

[@Tha_Pencil]

🙄

[@Villex93]

Dont be a vuss and confront people if they constantly interupt.

[@NielMalan]

@@Villex93 I'm at a polite social event, not a political rally.

[@feministslayer3308]

@@NielMalan yeah its relatable. I even felt my personality was not imposing enough and therefore getting cut in the middle. Then i realised that its my mistake. At the same time my closest people are good listeners of me. I noticed that extroverts know how to speak very formally and casually at the same time. So when they get interupted, they some how carry off the consersation by cracking a joke or diverting the topic without showing the pain of insult in their face. Introverts on the other hand are most honest and want to engage in a meaningful and deep conversation.When they get interupted they clearly show the pain and take it personally. Being interupted is an insult for intro and extroverts.But extroverts accept the spirit of casual conversations and move on. Even extroverts dont like some conversations and somehow wanting to avoid it.So my suggestion is 1)Talk your mind to the nearest ones. 2)Talk formally to unknown people. Sorry for the lenghty speech. I m just sharing my thoughts. 3) Staying quiet at times is good as it is the charm of an introvert.

[@NielMalan]

@@feministslayer3308 Good advice. Also, know and accept your style. I am trained in public speaking , so if I have something to say I am learning to say "here's a lecture", and then give a condensed, uninterrupted version of my knowledge of the subject. Then I let the conversation carry on without me, but nobody thinks I'm quiet.

[@maelynmonett5873]

“Why are you so quiet?” Says the person that never talks to me..

[@ranfujikawa6533]

Maelyn Monett To me, this is the most common but yet the hardest question to answer😅😢

[@yamrix3416]

Honestly!! I used to get asked this all the time 🥴

[@santjevana8279]

But what on earth do they expect us to answer?!

[@ericsonlostsomewhereinthew7528]

I always say to them: "Idk. What should I say?" Then they leave me alone lol.

[@ptrcrispy]

Reply with exactly that. "Cause you never talked to me"

[@uckBayNguyen]

True introverts are indeed chameleons, one moment they can stand out in the crowd and the next moment fade to oblivion

[@LanaBlakely]

Very true!

[@slkjess1206]

U right. U right.

[@stevetheiii477]

uckBay Nguyen i like to think introverts are overpowered because they can adapt to different situations i espescially like to surprise people who think they have me figured out but they really don't. We're like hybrids, people think that because i'm introvereted that i'm shy but i love to see the look on people's faces when we're in a group setting and all of a sudden i'm the dominant speaker, yet most times i prefer to keep to myslef

[@retrobit5973]

@@stevetheiii477 I can see where you are coming from. Literally the first day at my job, I was quiet like usual. I did not engage in a conversation and stuff with my co-workers. One day, we had a meeting, and let me tell you it was boring as hell. So I poked the guy right next to me asked him "Why are bullets so special?".He was taken aback by it but still managed to ask "Why?". I said, " Well, they do their jobs even after they are fired.". When he heard that, his face went like "all my soul, sucked down the stream". It was a pretty XD moment for me.

[@uckBayNguyen]

@@stevetheiii477 we're not shy my friend. Shyness is not knowing what to say, intuition is knowing if it's worth the conversation. Seize the moment and shine then leave them in awe and wonder

[@nilo5512]

The thing is, I feel alone when I’m with people, but I don’t feel alone when I’m alone.

[@boxofficerankings3807]

Nice logic

[@nilo5512]

YøItzMatthew :3 I’m so glad someone else gets me lmao, but actually that’s pretty accurate

[@HawkinaBox]

Same

[@sparkee.]

I know :(

[@xhalfltm]

Wow you described perfectly how I feel

[@emanessa8795]

OmG tHeY CaN TaLK

[@SideLineStar]

^

[@blumen9724]

Omfg. One girl called me mute because she never heard me speak. 🙄 The struggle is really real when you're surrounded by extroverts, especially the ones that calls anyone not like their cohort "weird". I don't even want to get started on how people either assume I'm dumb or scared because I don't talk enough. 🙄🙄🙄

[@MrsLollie411]

🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

[@OnlineLifeGuide]

@@blumen9724 lol I can relate, I never participated in anything much of my school life, and when I did took part in a debate, I could hear people saying "oh he has a tongue? didn't know that", as I walked towards the stage... I crushed the debate though, and it was satisfying to watch them shocked at the performance 😂😂

[@blumen9724]

@@OnlineLifeGuide Gald to see someone taking wins. I've been miserable since starting work. People always see me as rude and just extra space on the payroll. I'm going to quit soon. I just hate that finding another income like that will be hard where I live.

[@keemadoo247]

"Wait do I say bye to everyone?... Absolutely not" haha perfect and so accurate

[@seobiespaghetti]

No to be that person but I was your 1K like

[@Iseeyou0165]

I even forgot to say bye to my friends lmao

[@marijanavickaite9123]

@@seobiespaghetti you are that person

[@saarahali1512]

@@delectablemimi Yes but we don't mean to be at least I don't

[@saarahali1512]

@@delectablemimi Yes, I know and I get it so I make sure that I wave or smile or something to acknowledge them

[@Davinci-xl9st]

Dear people of the world: ACCEPT THAT SOME ARE JUST QUIET!!!

[@user-pz6ex9vv5r]

@•skyberries_ • why???

[@elevenscorpio]

*nods

[@JonDavis]

Exactly. It's a different world now, acceptance is much wider, even in the corporate world a lot of that 90s extrovert management BS is dying off

[@stools4437]

@멈츨 수 없어빠져 비겼어 Me too, I'm actively trying to be a quieter person cause they looks so calm and grounded.

[@motbydelig_3169]

Im sorry but if i say that that would be a fucking lie i get like - Why wouldnt you shut up?? Every FUCKING TIME even on internet i talk shit like lol everyone be like you damn frick charter box :^ yes today i fucked up some other people grades because i talked to much shit about myself

[@MelissaAlnardo]

Being an introvert, everyday things such saying hi, bye, introducing myself and eye contact are a struggle.

[@obama69890]

Everyone hates eye contact.

[@yan-bbyan]

that's actually not something introverts experience, that's social anxiety. introverts need their alone time to recharge their mental energy after a social event, for example, while people with social anxiety are scared of socialising (obviously).

[@pixiedust0874]

Yeah

[@jowhy7243]

I hate saying bye and I don’t know how to do it, so I just flee the scene like a rat down a drain

[@jowhy7243]

Gabriel I know I have the trait to despise making eye contact, but that’s caused by other reasons

[@Xscape128]

"Why are you so quiet?" Or " You don't talk?" ..2 questions that make my blood boil

[@recoveringsoul755]

I talk when I want to and when I feel safe enough to. It takes me a long time to get to know someone well enough to even begin to open up to them. Why do they want me to talk? Why are they so loud? I love comfortable silences. I am looking a bit into Selective Mutism. Sometimes I just choose not to talk. I learn more by listening than I do by talking. There are many ways to communicate, and language is only one of them.

[@OnlineLifeGuide]

just say to them "wiser people tend to talk less" and then watch their blood boil 😂

[@bri1317]

I don’t think you should get upset by it, maybe the person asking is an extrovert and simply can’t understand what it is to be an introvert or assume you are upset when simply us introverts just like to be within our thoughts. I get told that I look mean or I have a ‘resting bitch face’ which obviously upsets me but when people talk to me they say I’m so sweet and innocent lol

[@zainss9626]

To be fair to people who ask this maybe it’s their way of starting a conversation

[@marcus813]

I can't stand those questions, either. Even if it's someone's way to start a conversation, it's really not a good way to do it IMO. All questions such as those do is make many quiet people feel more self-conscious.

[@osse1n]

EXTROVERT - regain energy from socialising INTROVERT - regain energy from introspection

[@luifer.00]

hope your page grows as fast as you'd like it to pal, glhf.

[@XGoldenPhoenixX]

Hm i don’t know if I agree. I am an ambivert. I regain energy from introspection, but sometimes I gain a lot of energy from socialising if it’s good socialising and it feels fun and meaningful. If it’s only shallow I feel very tired. I’m both an introvert and an extrovert and I think many can relate. There seems to be different types of introversion and extroversion. I am an extrovert in the way that I take a lot of information from outside of myself but then I need a lot of time to introspect. People may see me as an extrovert sometimes because I do initiate conversation with many and search contact with others and I give out a lot of energy when I am with people. But if I then feel like the conversation isn’t going anywhere or that the people I’m talking to are talking about really boring things, I get really quiet (if we are a group of people talking), and sometimes it’s only that I’m just listening. I think it’s interesting haha and I think that it’s not always easy to say what it is to be an introvert or an extrovert.

[@hobimin3091]

Yes Man Me too. Fr tho i feel like a vampire by doing this

[@joshmapa226]

@@hobimin3091 dont shame it its better then around fake person sorry i dont use english well

[@sonanvatsal900]

True so true!

[@tanniesarmy1820]

School is the worst as an introvert. I hated every second of being there.

[@Cinnamoroll322]

Same

[@taniazormpa9700]

@Misanthrop noice

[@ediedee909]

i get such bad anxiety even when passing when people in the hall

[@catpillow9130]

@@ediedee909 same and others are still looking at me, I hate it!😥

[@ediedee909]

Cat Pillow yah and i felt like people would judge me

[@superstar-lr3un]

when I'm at school or just hanging out with people I feel like I'm wasting my timeee

[@JustinK0]

instead you'd rather go home and do nothing important haha

[@superstar-lr3un]

Justin Caleb ikr!

[@OnlineLifeGuide]

no bigger truth has ever been spoken than this 😂🙏🙌

[@hobimin3091]

I've always the same feeling

[@chadibn-based2803]

Yeah true..

[@boostedboosted3088]

Did she just make a whole video based on my life ? Thanks

[@yellowforever794]

For real

[@LanaBlakely]

Haha. Thanks for watching.

[@ndpd7695]

ARMY?

[@hobimin3091]

Yup

[@RedorBlueDaily]

BOOSTED Boosted cringe

[@user-gg7vq8ci6c]

The worst thing I when people think you’re “stuck up” because you’re not talking. You can look confident but be socially anxious and just can’t think of anything to say 😔 Thank you for this video though 🤍

[@traviswilliams1296]

Yeah I’ve had that problem because I appear confident but quiet

[@olivia-oz3qe]

G So true! I remember being told I was weird and creepy for not talking, but I’m super shy, I have really bad social anxiety and I’m half introverted.

[@user-gg7vq8ci6c]

ilike kitkatmint and that’s okay! We’re all doing our best!!🙌🏽🖤

[@brandi4902]

True true

[@El-yo5zk]

Yeah I’ve been called arrogant just because I don’t talk often

[@CH-he8pr]

its like people are offended by someone that minds their own business and doesnt get in anyones way

[@betransformed682]

Sadly some people do get offended by that lol

[@iao4942]

So true

[@WhoElseWillIHaveIceCreamWith]

I love this. Thank you so much for putting this out there.

[@kalduayam1060]

as if they'd be happy if we're doing the opposite lol

[@freeforall6427]

Yes! My roommate would start petty fights with me just to get attention.

[@brandonrodriguez8615]

Hello fellow introverts

[@yellowforever794]

Hey👋

[@LanaBlakely]

👋

[@manassehsusairaj182]

Hello

[@mohannedj8099]

Hey!!!

[@melodiecaem2702]

Hi

[@elizabethsummers9796]

I hate that being an introvert is seen as a defect. When it's just the way we are, nothing wrong with that. Unfortunately society prefers extroverts and they want us to be like them. Growing up hearing "why are you so quiet" all the time really hurt me, made my self esteem go completely down, it made me feel worthless, I felt like it wasn't valid to be myself, like I was broken. Next time an extrovert tells you: "why are you sooo quiet", tell them "why are you so loud?" "why aren't you more quiet and reflective?" Then they will understand that it's hurtful to say that.

[@nikomitk8091]

This idea is awesome

[@motbydelig_3169]

Well if you can actually reply to them :^ but i think it wont work either

[@HawkinaBox]

I find that I see more things that those who are talkative don't see. I can see if someone is uncomfortable when no one else can. I am pretty good at reading emotions.

[@seiji99]

Pygmy Puff thats really good bc extroverts have made me uncomfortable many times. And maybe I am wrong but I have the feeling that extroverts tend to only speak about themselves and don‘t let u say shit

[@fakenamefakesurname5005]

Sorry but no they won't, they will just think you're rude and strange, and that's ok too

[@dr.samlowry4808]

the most annoying part is when people accuse u of being quiet even when u try to act extrovert!

[@Itzzy515]

Exactly is the perfect description of social situations you're happy and act extrovert and the question is why so quiet, why so silence, why so serius why why why its so frustrating y don't understand that people want of us

[@Periwinkk]

Ye ikr

[@smk9320]

Happens to me ALL the time. My jaw drops... I'm thinking in my head, "But I just spent 20 minutes having a conversation with you. Wasn't that enough?" Apparently not. You must be frolicking around the room and kissing everyone on the cheek in order to pass as social. Otherwise you are a quiet person and a gosh darn mystery and somehow it's okay for everyone to point it out to you. We don't go around labeling YOU loud and asking YOU why you're such a loudmouth.

[@beatrixerd]

exactly :D I love silence becaue the world is so noisy, people want to talk non stop and I feel I can only relax my mind if the world is quiet around me. So many times I got the question "hey what's wrong why are you sad?" because even my face is so serious all the time - what I don't like so tiring to smile more but can not fake my personality. :) Not easy to love myself but I need to try, I didn't choose to be like this, quiet person, but I have to face the fact that I was I am and I always will be 😅😅

[@tiramisunsun]

@@beatrixerd saaaaame but I found friends who are okay with it! Even if sometimes they do make fun of my quietness, they let me be in my own world and don't ask more than I can offer, which I really appreciate... I hope you'll find the people who fit you ^^

[@ninitchu_]

I think the most difficult thing is the feeling of not being wanted. You want to talk to someone but you are scared that you annoy them and that they don’t care about you. You have friends but you are never first place for them. If I wanna hang out with them I’m always the person who has to make the first move and not them. People have asked me many times over the past few years why I never talk or don’t speak that much. It’s a simple question but so hard to answer for me. People think I’m this happy and confident person but inside I just feel alone, sad and depressed all the time. You just try to hide it and act like you are fine but damn you just feel lost inside..

[@alishanightshade3270]

My only friend suddenly just don't talk to me but I know I'm never his friend that on the first place. Being an introvert boy, I hate school very much. Teachers know I don't talk but they still punish me when other boys are loud. Every year, I will be punish at least one. Sometimes it much more worst, e.g. writing reflection about why I talk in class. It makes me feel alone in my gender. Every time teacher punish me, I be more quiet than before because I want the teacher know I didn't talk. 😭😭😭

[@ninitchu_]

hc loong I’m so sorry to hear that. I just want you to know that you are not alone in this and you can always talk to someone about this! And also if your friend ignores you or doesn’t talk to you anymore let him go because it’s not worth fighting for someone who doesn’t deserve it in the end! I hope you feel better soon :)

[@alishanightshade3270]

Ninitchu Now I feel better. I always have this kind of short “friendship”. It always confuse me what a “friendship” is. How others think about “friendship”.

[@ninitchu_]

Crystal Fairy yeah I get it I mean I prefer to be alone a lot because I just have trouble with speaking to persons you know. I just don’t really know what I have to say or if they really care about me at all..

[@ljay1470]

Right. I have a few friends, they're real friends to me. But whenever we have to make groups of 2 people, I'm always the one left alone. I have the habit of observing a lot and I realized that it happens because my other friends - extraverted- are around so they're always the first we choose because they talk more than me... I wish I had an introverted friend I' d spend my time with, sitting and being quiet.

[@myxsel]

my everyday routine be like: make millions of scenarios i want to happen in my head and just hope they will happen like magic

[@thenotsogentlecat5847]

OMG! I do the exact same thing!!

[@brendakarna6174]

IF THIS IS NOT ME THEN I REALLY DONT KNOW WHAT IS- All day everyday, I come up with scenarios in my head of how to talk and deal with stuff, but it never plays out how I want it too and then I just stand there and it’s weird.

[@myztake]

For me I make up a bunch of scenarios but know they won't really happen. It's a good way to pass time.

[@karri17]

Ain't that the truth

[@IoIita]

true because i daydream 24/7

[@Famoomoo]

“Why are you so quiet?” I’m not quiet, I choose not to talk to certain people when I’m not in the mood or if I feel uncomfortable 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@Kanenfan]

Exactly

[@Sunflower28384]

So I feel uncomfortable with almost everyone..

[@izzyidelisse841]

Every introvert worst nightmare: presentations

[@madeleinep.828]

As someone who’s really quiet and almost always alone at school, it surprises me to learn that there are so many more introverts than I thought.

[@TheSkinnybiker]

I recently took a good course on being an introvert in an office. It was the best explanation I have ever heard. An introvert can think without talking. An extrovert talks to think. I don't feel bad about being an introvert anymore.

[@finthehuman3649]

Extroverts actually do think before talking, its just that they find it easier to day the things they think than introverts

[@pinata111colada]

Lmao we do think without talking, we just have more fun when talking to others about what we think about. Allows for an expansion of ideas.

[@motbydelig_3169]

Welp we extroverts arent idiots :^ we think before talking because if we didnt think before that we probably wouldnt have friends cuz we have a shitone of stuff to say to others :> and we think a lot but we can talk while thinking :> we are happy talking to others and making friends thats why we talk

[@kellyetienne1391]

@@finthehuman3649 no they don't

[@jojobizarrelivingstone594]

I actually I talk to myself about my thoughts surprisingly...just in the toilet

[@ashutoshghosh3554]

Never felt so low when nobody wanted me to be a part of their group in school projects just because I was quiet and they felt that I wasn't interesting enough.

[@user-ot4vs1mg2o]

This is why i hate group projects! I can be myself except school is my only discomfort zone... which is where i'll spend the most of my youth! -_-

[@lora7809]

Ashutosh Ghosh I’m sorry you felt that way. I’ve been there also with teams on gym class:( kinda sucks, but their opinion on you doesn’t define you at all. Hope you’re doing good:)

[@taekookmyheart1090]

This always happens with me

[@ninahasabanana]

@@lora7809 Its so much worse with gym

[@sparkee.]

Being quiet does not mean you can't do anything.

[@sophie3howl]

Thanks Lana, my younger self really needed this. School was more than 10 years ago but I still cannot forget the pain and the struggle of being judged and labelled as the quiet weirdo all the time by my classmates, teachers and even my parents-despite being the top performer and the best graduate (apparently no achievement is worthy unless you are social, rowdy and noisy?!). I tell you, the society I grew up in is vicious, they are practically a cult. I’m still angry about this sometimes, but I’m learning to let go and moving forward one step at a time. Not because they deserve forgiveness, let God be their judge, but because my soul and my being deserve peace :)

[@OnlineLifeGuide]

Yes! you deserve peace and love. whoever you are, wherever you are, I accept you as you are and send love and positive energy to you 🙏 Stay blessed

[@RachelNicole]

Lol it’s everywhere this society itself is a cult

[@94srg]

May I ask what you work with? As an introvert myself I don't really know what I want to do with my life.

[@RachelNicole]

Sanfran technology come stop by my channel the opportunities are endless cause unlike most majors you can make your own opportunities

[@retrobit5973]

Proving something before is society is just like performing before Simon Cowell in AGT\BGT. You are asking yourself to be judged.

[@emily-sv8yk]

"Pushing yourself is important, but there's a fine line between pushing yourself out of your personal desire to grow versus out of the idea that you need to live up to some standard to satisfy those around you." LOVE THAT.

[@jennyrtgo]

Emily Aspen that was my favorite part❤️

[@sparkee.]

So many people need to hear this ; that the way you are is perfectly fine till the time you are not doing something wrong.

[@sagithegreat1452]

Love this too 💕

[@Nickelist]

"Why are you so quiet?" 1. I struggle explaining 2. My blood boils, and my head goes "statically"

[@lux27.42]

Alvin chang ,

[@gabrielsanders9709]

Same

[@olivia-oz3qe]

I’m really shy, I have social anxiety and I’m half introverted, but when I try my hardest to be extroverted, what I say comes out wrong and what I meant to say, I didn’t say. Edit: I am slightly shy, but I’m more confident now than I have ever been before because I gave my heart to Jesus Christ. I was insecure before because I didn’t know what true love was, and what sin I had hidden within my heart. I urge you to do the same :)

[@mosaicbrokenhearts2886]

Same.

[@jynxnashix4259]

Work on your anxiety. It'll help a great deal, won't be easy but nothing worthwhile is easy.

[@fahmifahmi7974]

Yeah same

[@hangezoeseyepatch150]

ilike kitkatmint everybody makes mistakes

[@rosypanday5586]

Exactly! I'm slowly trying to socialize cause they talk a lot ..but They misunderstand me Everytime...😣and i feel ...past me was better

[@olivia6485]

“Why don’t you say anything” Me: “ i do” *clearly uncomfortable laugh* “Say something” Me: “hi” “No, can you actually string a few sentences together!?” Me: “umm what do you want me to say?” “I don’t know...something” Me: “I’m gonna go get a drink” * this was my way of getting out of the situation* I really wanted to cry, right then and there

[@Paoferdy]

Yep, i've had some conversations exactly like this one... is like they actually think we can't talk...

[@kez_4184]

Yeah being pressured in an uncomfortable situation is the worst..like i hate being with this one classmate of mine because she makes me talk whenever i go silent. Shes like "talk something, u look like ur not interested" "why so quiet" and the worst worst moment is when all eyes are on u...just looking at u..waiting for what u say. So i just uncomfortably laugh then go to cr and cry. Even if its not a big deal and they just want me to talk and not look uncomfortable.. But its hard..its hard..but if I want to be understood so I'll just understand what they did. I feel u dude, hope ur okay now 😔

[@warorislam]

@@kez_4184 I got one friend like that out of school i.m old to be in school. Yeah we all experience it. Even my parents don't understand if I told them about introvert personalities. They just coheirse you to talk etc etc ugh. It's tough and unfair because extroverts impose themselves on and don't respect our way of being. While we just want them to be more understanding the way we are. I'm only recently discovering this for myself and Lana has just reinforced it. School wasn't for me it felt overwhelming hence I was leaving school half way into the day. At the time I didn't know why but.

[@roopa6783]

Yea...I feel u.. had similar situation 😭😭

[@julianmunoz6034]

People who start conversations like that are assholes. Like why did you come up to tell someone they’re weird or broken. Mind your own business and stop trying to feel superior to people different from you .

[@daddyinthestreetsenpaiinth9250]

Me: Doesn't want to talk out of fear of annoying someone My parents, teachers and classmates: *WhAT a WeIrDO*

[@cinefae5212]

mood :--(

[@joelc9197]

I see your a men of culture

[@dastvan8002]

Mum: Why don’t you have more friends? Me: I’m perfectly fine with the friends I have. Mum: *THAT’S NOT GOOD ENOUGH!*

[@paulmuaddib913]

When i think about it, the moment i started accepting myself and feeling more normal was when i discovered i was an introvert. I always felt like a weirdo but, when i discovered what introverts were i was like : oh... so there's nothing wrong with me? no way! I've been feeling great since then. Now i'm trying to love myself more. Also: Your videos are great and they helped me a lot, please keep making more.😊

[@LanaBlakely]

I relate to this :-)

[@Frankya92]

Once you get older is when it becomes more of the norm. You see more things through experience, meeting more people, and learning from mistakes. Makes you more observant

[@claudia160]

That is exactly what happened to me last year and omg now i feel so at peace with myself and i feel like now is when i actually started living and being my true self

[@krsmanjovanovic8607]

True! Running from your self is race you can not win,you get tired,and die never knowing true happiness

[@imanirban]

Hey, I also am an introvert and I wrote two blogs about introverts. Please share your thoughts in the comment section. I'll definitely appreciate that. 1) inksaw.blogspot.com/2020/04/there-are-lot-of-misconceptions-about.html 2) inksaw.blogspot.com/2020/03/6-signs-youre-introvert.html

[@samjebaraj24]

0:20 that's a pretty watch u have there

[@angelinaarmy3761]

Lmao 😂😂😂

[@user-di4js6xw9n]

I'm so stupid! I went to the time stamp just to realise that she wasn't wearing any watch, and I watched the whole video a while ago🤦😂

[@samjebaraj24]

@@user-di4js6xw9n lol

[@samjebaraj24]

@@angelinaarmy3761 😛

[@hobimin3091]

niharika jagdish you're not alone bro

[@ilovebasil__]

Lmao I hate this question : WhY dOnT yOu TalK aRe YoU mUtE oR sOmEtHiNg Me : * *talks* * Them: oH sHuT uP dOnT yOu SeE tHaT wE aRe TaLkInG

[@pilly3815]

SLAPP THEM omg

[@ilovebasil__]

@@pilly3815 lmao I wish xD

[@kiramad734]

Ikr i hate that

[@IoIita]

group activities are the worst for me because when the project we have to work on is already finished, everyone is just laughing and chatting along while i just sit by in the corner wishing i wasn’t there lol.

[@SexiBlackBarbieXoXo]

My teachers love to remind me to “don’t be shy” even though I’m not shy at all.

[@HeyImSupercoo]

Im not quiet. Im only quiet in the classes i have no friends in or the ones i don't like. Im very talkative in 3/4 of my classes. Im a senior and im awesome.

[@jazz_intown4723]

Same

[@ssww3]

and your a Jedi

[@elin3284]

Ok? Good for you?

[@HeyImSupercoo]

@@elin3284 whatever idiot

[@ssww3]

@@elin3284 don't disrespect a Jedi

[@oh6489]

As an extrovert, much respect to introverts. Most times when I’m talking to one I think they sound more intelligent and I can have a deeper connection. This doesn’t mean extroverts are nosy, or introverts are selfish, it’s just different talking to both types.

[@cheesyfeetfam2702]

“Quiet people have the loudest minds”- Stephen Hawking

[@NightCloudI]

so true 🥲

[@OnlineLifeGuide]

All my life I always tried to fit-in and be accepted in the extroverted society. I've found that the more you try to fit-in, the more you're looked upon as a people-pleaser. People would not respect your personal space or your choices, and would try to change you and even control you. The only way to gain genuine respect is to be yourself and stop caring about fitting-in. Now that I've embraced being an introvert, and proudly so, people show more respect and consideration towards me. I would blatantly tell people to message me, instead of calling directly (unless it's an emergency). I would confidently tell people that yes I keep my phone off to avoid distraction. I would tell them that yes, talking too much drains my energy. I not afraid to say NO anymore without giving too much explanations. It's my life and my time, I can do whatever I want with it without explaining to anyone. When I started making KZbin videos on personal development, I felt obliged to be on camera and show my face, but then I realized that I don't really have to, so I decided to make animated videos instead on self-help related topics, which are more creative than what I was making before, plus I found that to be less draining. You've gotta make choices that suit you. To all those introverts out there, embrace your introversion proudly. You don't need to be apologetic for not fitting-in!

[@alinoorali]

YES! we don't have to apologise for being ourselves 🙌👊

[@Itzzy515]

Great message!

[@gabrielsanders9709]

Facts

[@jsuisdetrop]

"Why are you so quiet?" "Why are you so noisy?"

[@tomasalvarez3084]

It’s nice seeing other people like me in this comment section. At school I feel like a freak

[@brendakarna6174]

Yah I’m so glad I found out people who think and act like me, I just wished I had a friend irl who was like me 😔

[@Coffeecaffeineee]

I think most of us needed this

[@avadakedavra3463]

Living in a society where barely anyone even knows what an introvert is, or worse: knows but tells you to act along, be involved and t a l k to everyone, your videos make me feel like im not alone. That I’m understood. That perhaps, i can live a good life without exhausting myself with forced socialisation. And i just wanted to say, Thank you Lana. It means a lot.

[@obama69890]

Are you also a night owl? We feel kind of similarly. In the entire world day is the time you work and night is the time that everyone sleeps. The truth is, that rhythm doesn't always work for some people.

[@rae8562]

"Why are you so quiet?" me: wHy R u So AnNoYiNg??

[@jenshansen3329]

why r u so annoying? how do you know what they where thinking. Lots of depressed/anxious people are quiet because they are scare to talk to people. They where probably just checking if u where ok...

[@Zoyiekka]

“Why are you so quiet, why dont you talk?” I got that asked today and i responded with “i don’t need to talk” I mean true

[@isabelaguilar5175]

Great response

[@michelleschrock5059]

Once some bully said to me in a loud voice " Why are you so quiet? Can you even talk?" I just said "Why are you so loud? Can you even shut up?" And i walked away like a boss. * Proud introvert noises* 😀😜

[@julianmunoz6034]

I usually say, “ There’s nothing to say”

[@kristenmgr]

I'm getting tired of talking only to myself.

[@laurav8999]

Talk to me I feel the same :c

[@mariamps540]

Same

[@leondaniel9741]

Same

[@Jorge-pm4cy]

Damn. We could change that though

[@DanishAli-rm2ky]

I quit Facebook Instagram and Twitter to talk to people in real life now i only talk to myself.

[@moisafiraratu9478]

Finally i found this channel. At least ,i know, that im not alone as introvert

[@user-fc9eb6wm7o]

"Why are you so quiet" "You should talk more" "Why are you sad?" "Your quietness is bothering me" These words once made me believe that there's something very wrong with me that I have to change. My whole high school went like that. It's awful.

[@windywen1476]

And when you're so shy and don't talk to anyone, it comes off as being cold. It pretty much sucks :(

[@pawan2647]

I could so deeply relate to all of this, its kind of the same thought, accept yourself and know that you are amazing. I like the way you present things right pace right words. You express very properly, Lana

[@dontmindme.imjustafraidofe9327]

I have social anxiety, and I suffer from something similar to this. I’m literally at the movie theatres right now with two people sitting next to me and my anxiety is on a super-high because someone forgot to take her meds. Everyone always gets so surprised when I talk and I eventually just stopped doing it. They’ll go, “Oh, you talk!” “You can talk!” “Who said that?” “Was that really her?” It’s really frustrating because there’s a huge part of me that wants to socialize with the world and out myself out there, but I jump at every little sound, and I hate being so stuck inside myself. It’s not that I don’t want to talk to anyone, I’m too scared and I can’t. I hate being alone. Help me.

[@xiaskyz9136]

In school I usually talk to people if they talk to me first or when I have something to ask them related to school.... I don't really like to talk especially to the ones who gossips

[@eldridgecoutinho2674]

"Many of us have become expert pretenders"... you're so right.

[@pilly3815]

I got a lot of hate by being quiet and they said I'm "fake" because of that. But after watching this video, I'm starting to embrace myself a little, being the "expert pretender".

[@imanirban]

Hey, I also am an introvert and I wrote two blogs about introverts. Please share your thoughts in the comment section. I'll definitely appreciate that. 1) inksaw.blogspot.com/2020/04/there-are-lot-of-misconceptions-about.html 2) inksaw.blogspot.com/2020/03/6-signs-youre-introvert.html

[@momo_the_duck]

If anyone is wondering The song at 6:04 is called The Music Box by Ave Air I love this song and thought someone might like it too And the video is great Keep it up Lana

[@missyvelasco2959]

"Why are you so quiet?" "Well, i never ask you why are you so noisy and how it really drains my energy."

[@recoveringsoul755]

I dread the leaving a event and the whole Goodbye issue. Very uncomfortable trying to tell each person that you are leaving. I usually leave without saying anything.

[@dylandog1289]

Extroverts tend to use the word “shy” when trying to figure out introverts. “Shy” is not a thing.

[@alishanightshade3270]

I hate people say I'm shy

[@dylandog1289]

Same here. Quiet? Sure. Fine. Its a descriptor. But shy? Thanks for deciding that because im quiet it must mean i’m intimidated by you.

[@alishanightshade3270]

Last time at school, I finally found a topic is very interesting then I talk. Then one of the student said to me Don't be shy! Other students agree with him. Okay! I will not talk anymore. You want me to talk but you just lose this rare chance. Angry and go away but no one think I'm angry just saying very quietly that “Why is he so shy?” 🙄🙄

[@alishanightshade3270]

Why extroverts tend to describe us “shy”. We will not use the word “annoying” to describe them. We use the word “talkative”.

[@dylandog1289]

Quiet, thoughtful people who listen and wait until they have something to say, (or just dislike smalltalk) confuse extroverts, who often find silence and one on one conversations intimidating. Lack of empathy really.

[@user-uq9fz5wv1d]

"Can you say that a little louder?Noone heard you."

I want to say thank you. For making me feel better and understand myself better. I feel recharged and inspired after watching your videos. Love what you do and how you express yourself.So,yeah, thank you for making my mind calm. Wish you a good day.

[@OnlineLifeGuide]

Whenever someone call you out for being introverted e.g. "WHY YOU SO QUIET" or "You should speak up more"... tell them that "Wiser people tend to talk less, I CHOOSE to be quiet" OWN being in introvert!

[@artistryanu1279]

They will just call us as Rude person

[@retrobit5973]

@@artistryanu1279 That was a rhetorical statement, my dude. You just took him out just like that.

[@artistryanu1279]

@@retrobit5973 hm

[@silverrain530]

One isn't necessarily wise though. "I don't speak unless I have something to say" or "There is nothing I want to say" may be more accurate. I normally say "This/your conversation doesn't interest me"

[@imanirban]

Hey, I also am an introvert and I wrote two blogs about introverts. Please share your thoughts in the comment section. I'll definitely appreciate that. 1) inksaw.blogspot.com/2020/04/there-are-lot-of-misconceptions-about.html 2) inksaw.blogspot.com/2020/03/6-signs-youre-introvert.html

[@Channel-wl2ig]

Omg I love it when someone asks me like "Why are you sad?"

[@TomSmith-qn2iu]

As a introvert I am a quiet person who dont really like social interactions, I try to challenge myself and go to friends gatherings, I stay for what I think is acceptable, but friends just like seeing me outside of work, so it kind of helps knowing they dont just see me as a quiet person at the back.

[@Ojuolape]

I put my phone on Flight Mode sometimes because I simply don’t want to talk to anyone. Not out of maliciousness. I just cannot...

[@KuncanDastner]

I do this too sometimes, sometimes it's exactly what we need

[@Ojuolape]

Kuncan Dastner I agree!

[@mindthegap1669]

Me too

[@melb1666]

same

[@saee8576]

Me too

[@nedzhminedkov1159]

It always amazes me how when a young woman or man (17,18,19 year olds) isn't a party animal or doesnt go after boys or girls, but would rather stay at home in their freetime and chill out and like to be by themselves/isolationist are called weird or outcast. There are different people with different interests and different personalities and that's called empathy

[@kishorevaid6451]

All the best for your new upcoming website and thanks a lot for making videos on introverts like me and others on regular basis.

[@teddie7845]

Literally my life

[@johndeerman2105]

Another well done video. I really enjoyed the beginning. That was clever and spot on. Good topic. I enjoyed learning how you found your easy through it. ✌🙂

[@abhirammadhu2973]

"BE YOURSELF" : being an introvert, this made my day.

[@immartian3041]

You look like a hollywood actress my queen👑

[@lixxeth-]

thank you for this video, i've been struggling lately to accept myself while also trying to please others and get out of my comfort zone by 'breaking out of my shell' so to speak. you are right in that school often expects us to be very social and extroverted most of the time, but i just wish it was more acceptable to be a true introvert and not have to worry so much about how extroverted you are or aren't to please others :( it's honestly very tiring at times

[@ichione732]

You put into words those feelings deep down my heart.

[@rohitsaptiskar2737]

Your narration is fantastic .. so relatable ... like inner voice saying back ... feels listening to your voice again n again. Thks for making these videos.

[@Mano_Nolmans]

Thank you so much for this video i really needed it!!

[@totalt6600]

Ms. Blakely, you have grown into an excellent documentary film maker. Plus, your message is timely and brilliant. Thank you for your hard work. You speak for me, and so many others. 💖

[@LanaBlakely]

Thank you so much.

[@alexanderx3554]

"Be your authentic self and go on a self-exploration journey." Exactly! Thank you!

[@Veronicaax3Love]

Lana, your channel I came across today and your videos are so relatable to me. I feel so happy knowing that I'm not alone with these problems and really appreciate your words and advice that you are giving us. Keep it up

[@smokintay143]

You perfectly described what it’s like being an introvert (for me at least)! I’m slowly pulling myself out of my comfort zone and am starting to volunteer at the local animal shelter soon! :) my boyfriend works all day and I’m home all day (no school, no work aka a homebody freelancer) and it’s hard for me to even keep track of the days since they all seem to fade into each other. I have trouble making friends due to past friendships burning in flames. Hopefully I can come to a better understanding with myself where I can live comfortably. Also you are so beautiful!!! Wow ❤️

[@joalirivera1802]

Your videos are well articulated, insightful and refreshing. "Do I say goodbye to everybody? Absolutely not" looooool felt that one!

[@miraclebradley5238]

I ♥️ this video. It teaches you that Introverts (including me) live an outstanding life of observation, enjoying life, and to cherish valuable memories. Also, that just because we're lonely doesn't mean we are depressed, but we are happy and content with our lives learning about ourselves.

[@edavidlp1312]

I understand completely the part of not changing who you are but it is good to get out of the comfort zone ones in a while as you mentioned as well. Obviously keeping true to our introverted selves. I have been doing this lately and it is amazing sometimes to find what you said too. The hidden introverts in an ocean of extroverts.

[@lucaslino2760]

Awesome Lana. I wish that everyone could listen to your words of wisdom. Keep doing your job, you are incredible in doing so. The video is inspiring in all aspects. Please don't avoid your essence, your style is extraordinarily unique.

[@mikecarbone828]

Good afternoon Lana! When I was young and my sister was in school I was usually all by myself to entertain and occupy my time. I spent a great deal of my time pondering things, and as I got older those habits persisted. I didn’t know or realize that I was introverted until much later in life, because I accepted that for me, how I spent my time was normal for me. Even though my family accused me of being a family drop out, because I didn’t watch many of the TV programs they were watching. Instead I used that time to practice my guitar or violin or piano, or I would paint or draw pictures. I found this a more rewarding way to spend my time, not realising that I was recharging from the drain of energy that socialising takes from me. I am and have been social at times. When I feel the need to leave a social event, I have found many ways to extricate myself, usually I explain that I have things to do, or an errand to the store before it closes. There are so many options I have found. I really appreciate the videos you post. Please continue your work. Thank you! Please have an excellent and awesome day! 🙂🙏🏻

[@XGoldenPhoenixX]

What a great video, it was so pretty too. For me as an ambivert and quite introverted in many ways too, it was difficult to sometimes feel a balance between my introversion and extroversion. Sometimes when I was out with people, I felt like I would maybe miss out if I didn’t stay longer, and it would leave me so frustrated, annoyed and exhausted. I had to learn that balance and learn to leave when it’s starting to feel boring, or leave when I still have energy if it’s been a good time with people. Sometimes it’s still difficult to say that I have to go because I can feel a bit mean when I do that, but that’s ok. Don’t force yourself to stay if you really want to leave, it’s only going to be a waste of time and a lot of energy.

[@sunggyuhyung]

This really resonated with me and brought clarity to a lot of things i thought and felt in college and experienced with others during that tough time. Thank you for sharing!

[@LanaBlakely]

Thank you for watching!

[@dera641]

The visuals and music is the background make this video very appealing and support the message well. Appreciate the effort you put in to make such good content.

[@mickey1615]

I really liked the editing! Thanks for the advice. I relate 100%.

[@LanaBlakely]

Michaela Wells thanks Michaela!

[@Lil_Slimetx]

I like your explanation on pushing yourself to where you are comfortable.

[@lifeofnally]

I love your content a lot, I see my self as a sort of younger version of you(if that makes sense). You really ARE giving me the strenghtto look at my interior self more and deeply. thanks for everything :)

[@nayaragonzalez]

hi. i was looking for a video about introverts and uni, and im so glad it's a video of yours.

[@user-di4js6xw9n]

I related to EVERY SINGLE word you said in this video! I realized a while ago that I was pretending to be an extrovert, when all along I've been an introvert. Watching your video made me realise that it's totally okay to say "no" to things you'd prefer doing alone. I've always been the type of person who says "yes" to everything bc I don't want to hurt someone or make them feel bad. I really really really enjoy watching your videos! Looking forward to more content!❤️🌟

[@asifahmedsourav6355]

Loved your content. Very relatable.

[@natenelsen9915]

Thank you for making this video. College has been the most difficult time of my life (because of the social aspects) and I just want to love myself for who I am, and this helped at least a little bit.

[@rachelc4179]

i relate to this so much!!! also your so articulate like how??? what?? i can barely form a sentence than makes sense

[@mongmong5215]

This is so uplifting. Thank you for making this video. I thought I was the only one who always been asked "Why are so quiet? Why are so shy?" Evertime I hear those things It makes me more anxoius making me restrain myself for being embarrassed making me feel not to talk to anyone anymore.

[@khadeejaarshad2789]

I’m an open introvert and I feel so much better than most extroverts - as I’ve noticed in college most of them feel lonely most of the times when they don’t have a huge group surrounding them On the other hand I’m very satisfied with being alone by myself as I know I’m not as lonely as most around me

[@Crystal552280]

I fuckin adore your mind! I feel inspired and ready for life every time I watch your videos. Keep thriving ✨🌸

[@marywinchesterguio9691]

Me: tries to make friends and fails every time Also me: an introvert, who has social anxiety, wants to stay in bed and never leaves the house ... Yeah, all fine

[@brendakarna6174]

My life in a nutshell

[@MichaelBordenaro]

This sounds familiar!! Ducking out early from social events because I have had enough, ☑️I am fine with it though. Being an introvert is actually pretty great once you accept it for what it is...

[@LanaBlakely]

Agree!