A History of Homesickness: Susan Matt at TEDxWaterloo 2013

[@magaolinewood7542]

Experienced this 1st year of University. Dreadful experience. My brother rang me one night and I burst into tears just at the sound of his voice!

[@automationsolution]

I also experienced something like this. Only the voice was enough to make me teary.

[@iflick7235]

From the 6th grade until graduation from high school, I attended a military academy, The Palm Beach Military Academy. It was actually in West Palm Beach, light years from Palm Beach. I was from Michigan and a long way from home. They call it "home sick" for a reason. You are genuinely ill! This was dealt with in school. They were spotted immediately by students and faculty. We had students like myself who lived on campus and "Day Boys". Students who attended school but lived in the area. The cadet was usually sent home with one of these Day Boys. They would spend a weekend at their pool and dinner with the family, television etc. They would come around. A few didn't. Losing weight and visibly sick, they were sent home. My own recovery? I watch afternoon reruns of "Wild Wild West" on a roommate's contraband television set. I got better.

[@jayshree9074]

I'm experiencing this rn. 😭😭

[@GlitterLoverBaby77]

Jayshree Belekar I am too. You’ll get through this ❤️

[@jayshree9074]

@@GlitterLoverBaby77 thanks😊

[@TS-og6gf]

my homesickness is so severe that i lack the motivation to do nearly anything. i just spend 90% of my time isolated in my apartment

[@shauryavardhansinghkarakot7347]

I'm experiencing the same..... Hope we both get out of it soon

[@sarathsivankutty6685]

@@shauryavardhansinghkarakot7347 same here

[@shauryavardhansinghkarakot7347]

@@sarathsivankutty6685 you'll be fine brother... Believe me that being away from loved ones is hard, but worth it sometimes

[@sarathsivankutty6685]

@@shauryavardhansinghkarakot7347 now you are okay ?

[@tinadusha]

same😔

[@essenmj2010]

Fighting this battle right now. Moved for occupational work. I moved from a small town to a big city. I learned my lesson I’m small town person. Miss the familiarity. So homesick I’m sick to my stomach often and have frequent headaches and sleep disturbances. I want to go home I miss my friends still there. I’m determined to relocate back to my hometown.

[@Mike-ul7of]

How are things?

[@ranvijaypratapsingh3976]

Same here

[@june9775]

Hi J Esse. How are things?

[@Larousse2010]

Did you go back home yet?

[@rosyssweetcreations]

its the worst experience I have ever experienced

[@ladybug5093]

same

[@84koolkid]

Left Chicago after 51 years in 2014. First two years cried my eyes out, 2020 still miss Chicago 7 more years I will go back, homesickness is a REAL serious for some

[@katec9893]

I always imagined myself living abroad. I studied languages and did live abroad for a few years. I had some great experiences travelling, meeting people and seeing incredible nature but I often felt homesick in varying degrees which surprised me as I never wanted to settle where I grew up. After another two years of living in a different city and feeling really unhappy and homesick I moved back to my home town. Its not perfect but it really is the best place I've ever lived. I feel relieved to be living here. The winters here are hard but I love the cool summers, the nature, all the different things going on, the mostly friendly people. There might be better places to live but I've so far not found them so I'm happy here.

[@mckennahorvath8456]

I watched this because I just got dropped back off at college yesterday and I have never felt so homesick and anxious and this did not help me feel better.

[@Mike-ul7of]

How are things?

[@dylanpezoa]

How are you doing now? :)

[@neilbrewster24]

I started boarding school at 8, and my parents were told “he’s ok, a bit homesick but he’ll adjust”. I’m now 44 and still just as homesick tbh.

[@KrisHughes]

I understand.

[@SatoshiEK]

Just moved to a different country 2 months ago. I keep trying not to call my family a lot because seeing them or hearing their voices alone makes me want to cry. People keep telling me I'll get used to it and eventually I will not want to go back, but I just can't see that happening. I want to make the best of my time here and go back home better than how I was when I left.

[@TheMadnessangel]

I'm in Japan for 4 months and I'm going through it. that's tough.

[@june9775]

How is it now SatoshiEK? 10 months later. Did it get better?

[@SatoshiEK]

@@june9775 Yes, it did. I feel good in my situation now. I still wanna go back but now It's very clear to me that my time here is temporary and that I really should make the best of my time here.

[@june9775]

@@SatoshiEK thank you so much for replying and giving me hope. I’m struggling currently but I know it shall be well.

[@SatoshiEK]

@@june9775 The beginning can be quite scary. If you plan on going back just keep in mind your current situation is momentary. I don't know how long you plan on staying on this new place, but it's probably a very small amount of time compared to all the time you still have to live. I regret nothing and I hope (and think) everything will be fine for you too. Let me know if you need someone to talk to.

[@leeman6101]

3 years away from home. I'm good at hiding it and supressing the emotions, but on some days like this I can't... And I just want to cry.

[@WolfColaUK]

The video is entitled 'A History of Homesickness'. It covers exactly that and does not suggest a promise of advice, or a conclusion.

[@elifaktepe5000]

Definitely.

[@stephentaylor2066]

I remember going on a school trip for a week away from my family at age 11. I had bad homesickness and thought i was just missing my family. However move on 5 years I go abroad for the first time with my parents and guess what I got homesick again!! I’m now a middle aged man, and I can still get homesick going for a weekend break!!! I’ve always considered it a secret shame, that I’m mentally weak. Watching this is a real eye opener, maybe I’m not such a big baby!!!

[@NguyenNguyen-ro9xl]

When I was 15, I went to Australia for a summer camp for 2 weeks, I cried for the first 3 days. I didn't feel much better after that and I just wanted to go home. When I was 17, I went on a trip with my friends for just 3 days, but I still missed my family so much that I secretly cried in the bathroom. Now I'm just 18, it has been 8 months since I'm away from my family to study abroad, and I still cry for missing them. Most of my friends didn't feel homesick at all, and sometimes I envy them a lot. I don't want to be sad all day like this anymore. However, sometimes I think homesickness is a gift that only some people have. You love your family more, you have people supporting you no matter what. For me, it's my motivation to study and work, so I can support my family in the future. You have homesickness, meaning you have lots of love from your family that will help you get through any difficulties in life.

[@subhamshow5884]

@@NguyenNguyen-ro9xlI am 23 still I am going same phase as you.

[@sohamsau4488]

its ok man... nice you shared your troubles ..!

[@caty4061]

I get this, I've moved country 15 years ago and miss home, the people I knew as a child, my family. My children are adults now but I can't go back. I pray that I will spend more time in my home country when I retire. So tired of being asked where I'm from and feeling like a square peg in a round hole. I've integrated, work and have friends but my accent stands out and sometimes I just want to blend in.

[@nathanswartz9147]

As a full time traveller I found this both enlightening and a much needed wake up call for society. Even though I love to travel I accept homesickness as a regularly occurring emotional state and have put a lot of effort and thought into navigating it. Thanks for the video!

[@美波_5]

My family moved from Japan to America in 2012. I had no choice and back then, I was excited to go to a new place. I have lived in the US ever since. Every time I think about my friends in Japan, the experiences, and the life I could’ve had there, my chest physically hurts and I tear up. I miss everything so much and I haven’t been back in over 7 years. We were planning on visiting this summer but... well it’s kind of obvious what happened. I would give _anything_ to have stayed in Japan. I recently begged my mom to let me transfer to a Japanese high school, but after missing out on years of Japanese education, I would probably suffer academically and in turn, get very stressed. The longer I spend in the US the more I resent it here and want to go back.

[@llamchiplayz5580]

I'm boarding right now and I have a few solutions that helps: I talk with my roommate about what we like and some jokes and just basically all the fun stuffs,this helps me forget about my family and trust me, before u know it, ur back at home🙂

[@davine405]

Thank you.

[@llamchiplayz5580]

Your welcome😁

[@SuperRajat1984]

I just can’t seem to get over it. I’m a big baby. The price I’m paying for it: lost opportunities, growth to name a few. Knowing everything, still I feel it beat heavily on me. Any solutions? If still I can’t get over it, at my age, then I consider myself worthless.

[@youdontknow7853]

Holy Moly u aren’t worthless.. even i am homesick.. what i know is that even after years this is who i am .. i accept it.. yes i am emotional and homesick.. i did lost some opportunities but i did justice to every other opportunity i had..all this made me value them even more.. our time on this planet is Limited.. so do not think u are worthless if you are homesick.. just like people with anxiety and depressions should nit consider them worthless.. i know its not the same but homesickness can be consuming.. it drains u .. and u move with a heavy heart.. accept yourself.. and trust me there is always always something to be grateful for.. and yes if u can grow out of it then you are very strong..

[@subhamshow5884]

U r not alone , I too am going through the same phase . Hope someday we will get better at being away from home.

[@Jsatchel2010]

Far from being worthless, you are proof that you are human and not a robot or feelingless person. Embrace your homesickness, imagine you are home, one day you will go home to be with God and homesickness will be forgotten. I feel very sympathetic to economic migrants and spouses in international marriages. The older you are the worse it is I think. When you are young you can fit in with society a little more easily. I find seeking out people of my elderly age helps me a lot and it does not matter what nationality they are.

[@blackustaru4363]

Today is my first away from home for college and I already can't handle it because I feel so homesick

[@cacaktuaaa5695]

how are u feeling now?

[@blackustaru4363]

​@@cacaktuaaa5695Wow I can't believe that 2 years have already passed since I started college. Anyways, the first few months have been rough for me, I always cry everyday because I've felt really sad and lonely in a new environment. But it eventually got better because of the new friends that I've met. Their company keep me distracted and when I've open up to them that I feel homesick leaving my hometown, they said that they also feel the same and it actually made me feel better that I'm not the only one who's homesick. I also just came back from my hometown today because of holiday and I also felt a little bit sad and homesick for a little while, but I'm feeling better now and it's not that bad like the first time. I guess I can never get rid of the feeling of homesickness, but I can definitely handle it better now.

[@allahisone6589]

In the world of today, people have so many distractions like social media, entertainment and fun spots outside that somehow nostalgia usually does not reach to the suicide level. But it kills you from inside that is very true.

[@annam7683]

Specially in these times

[@youraristrocatmom4108]

I feel this

[@الحمدللهعلىكلحال-م7ص]

It is killing me even in my age 43 years old . For that i did not travel outside for 20 years and I rejected all training outside a country

[@ukiahlund8467]

I’m very homesick right now, I unexpectedly started staying at my bf’s home and have neglected visiting my mother and brother, and I feel so guilty that I want to have both mother and bf under one roof, but I just miss the sound of a familiar voice and feeling of absolute acceptance from my mom. I miss being a child to someone and a sister and am so unfamiliar with being a girlfriend and daughter in law, I just wish I could have the familiar feelings while also learning to be someone who my bf can lean on…

[@BigMike00]

Keep going… you will find a way to make it right. Don’t give up. I’m moving back home as I’m texting this.

[@Larousse2010]

How are you now?

[@ukiahlund8467]

I’m doing great now, thank you for asking. I’ve gain a lot more independence and confidence. I think when I wrote this comment, so many things in my life were changing. But I feel good about where I’m going and where I’ve been :) family is good boyfriend is good and I’m good ☺️

[@Larousse2010]

@@ukiahlund8467 Excellent, very nice to hear xx

[@Mike-ul7of]

Just moved across the country for work 2 months ago. I haven’t been able to sleep more than 5 hours a night, i have no appetite and have lost 10lb, and ive had painful stomach issues as food goes right through me. It’s eating me alive. The only reason I don’t go back is because I knew it would be hard, and I swore to God I would give it everything I had.

[@summerstar9717]

same :( how are you ?

[@Mike-ul7of]

@@summerstar9717 things are a lot better now. i’ve come to accept what i’m doing. i’m eating and working out again, works going well. miss my friends and family like crazy obviously. how are you?

[@june9775]

Hi Mike. How are you now? I’m having sleep disturbances now and I don’t want to give up😢

[@jb6368]

Introverts like myself get energy in own place. I am 47 and worked while life, travelled far and home is my natural default. Extroverts are opposite as require social exposure either from place or people or indeed both. Nothing wrong with homesickness at all. Esp in world today post covid now 2022.

[@lukamilic]

Tomorrow, I'm leaving my hometown 300km away,to start working in Belgrade... I have my own place there, already had lived there temporarily from 2017 to 2020 for college (2 with my older brother) Even tho I have already felt the pain of leaving my parents, neighborhood, city behind... Not like this... Only the thought of leaving brings tears

[@aenackerman2486]

Never left home since birth....now I'm in a boarding home for college....first day cried in the bathroom called my friends, balled my eyes out talking with my brother at home, my mom and aunt came with me to drop me off....they will leave the day after tomorrow....idk how I'll manage....crying my eyes out from now....💔

[@rmp7216]

Yea it's really hard to accept... I'm too going through similar situation...moved to hostel 1 week ago...🥺

[@youraristrocatmom4108]

I’m 19 years old with homesickness I wanted to stay where I stayed but because of famility issues I had to go back to live with my mom and she lives in the desert and it makes the feeling even worst because I can only hear my thoughts and working at this restaurant makes me miss the city I low key just wish I can talk about this with someone but I hardly have any friends here , restaurants the music my coworkers play makes me miss home honestly I just have the worsts feelings and I want to breakdown coming back home I love with very toxic parents but hopefully soon I can move out and live back in the city and be home again where I don’t have to deal with everybody bad energy on the other hand I’m glad I have a job distracts from everything I’m going through

[@SydMountaineer]

I'm suffering extreme homesickness. I've moved many times, was in the military, but now in my 50s, I'm more homesick than I've ever been. It's because we did not want to move and leave family, we had to, due to financial reasons - it was move or be homeless - but right now, I'd rather be homeless, as long as I could be near family. My husband ,& I were homeless before (we lived in a hotel, could not afford move in costs for rent) after moving to a new state for a new job - so our FEAR of becoming homeless again, stuck in a hotel spending all of our income just to stay in hotel, led us to taking job out of state - but we soon realized we'd rather be living in a hotel or homeless, or in our car, to be near family. My homesickness is debilitating. I was in survival mode while moving, and now that we got a rental, and moved in, the homesickness hit.

[@mazinal-siyabi2719]

I'm from Oman and I work in the US I'm currently feeling homesick 😞

[@nordlyssrlys6945]

Currently going through this phase... It's hard... 😭

[@rosiearmendariz924]

It’s so so hard

[@KrisHughes]

15 years and I more unhappy every day.

[@kajalsinha2828]

Wonderful research

[@francescacappai2652]

I usually am not that homesick because I love positive changes is my life (especially when I move to another place) but at least I try to understand people that miss their homes. And if I received the answer that the Korean lady gave to the girl I would have seriously told her something

[@Komal-ky2jm]

People died due to nostalgia. I regret hearing this Statement!!

[@kingstonbleek5864]

I'm going threw home sick now right now I'm from a mid size bigger city moved to a smaller city it's hard to deal with sometimes

[@cathmoore]

Very interesting! Now i am wondering if my homesickness i get, even from a short trip, is coming from my DNA and the traumas of my ancestors!

[@MargaritaMagdalena]

I miss Russia very much, but after 23 years in Western Europe it's possible only in theory, not in practice. People living in the same country they were born in and their parents and grandparents were born in, don't know how good they have it.

[@jamieingels1190]

Lilacs Are great. Too bad they're only in bloom for 3 weeks out of the year.

[@selvabharathi1761]

I am homesick.its kills me every second in my life. I miss my family a lot I hate this life... someone plzz help me god please help me to get out of this homesickness

[@june9775]

How are you Selva?

[@christinerose7518]

I watched this to feel better but hearing that people DIED from homesickness makes me feel worse 😭

[@Sailingknight]

I'm in merchant Navy. I'm sick

[@JacksonsLegendary]

I'm in Las Vegas Right Now visiting some family. My mother is back in LA. I really wanna go home but I can't due to my family being busy and stuff. I cry every Night Thinking about home

[@tman5066]

Idiomatic. Of course, people who move away incur homesickness. WHAT'S THE SOLUTION?

[@werlkj567]

She said the only cure is to go home.

[@tkak4]

To go home and also try to accept the change you've come around slowly.

[@mireillenadeau2348]

my advice is, mix elements of old home into new home, making it the new standard. we only long for being somewhere again when it was better than our current situaiton (imo). We don’t mourn our parents’ traditions very long if we form our own.

[@johnmcclane8968]

Solutions ??conclusions??

[@werlkj567]

She said the only cure is to go home.

[@elifaktepe5000]

werlkj567 Gosh. We can't simply give up...

[@theweirdo2187]

@@werlkj567 what? Ok I'm not watching

[@werlkj567]

Maybe just to visit is enough.

[@sandeepvivek6134]

We don't do that here 😛

[@БУрал-у7е]

I know how hard it is living from my hometown I wish my friends were with me

[@Possible-l5lMEA]

Hello

[@bellarose8511]

What's the solution?

[@rubenzohar3254]

So what is the solution…………….

[@sarahmauser3687]

iu bloomington

[@anitahendricks]

[@juancarlosperez1037]

Sonsos

[@banzand]

You had me up to it being a part of “capitalist society”. For this refugee who’s is forced out of her country it has NOTHING to do with Capitalism so much as violent COLLECTIVISM. Suggest you take your points out of the West centric didactic partisanship

[@Possible-l5lMEA]

Hello