Dealing With A DRUG OR ALCOHOL RELAPSE

[@PutTheShovelDown]

👆Of course, relapse PREVENTION is the best protocol, click get access to my Relapse Prevention playlist:👉 kzbin.info?

[@goldenraf2000]

Thank you so much for your videos, I learned so much!

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Thanks for your kind feedback, goldenraf2000!

[@dianedishman9799]

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[@codeyal-hammad3018]

I went 6 months sober then relapsed and fell off for 6 weeks because I got the F it’s now I’m 103 day’s sober because I will never give up!

[@PutTheShovelDown]

👍👍👍👍👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏🙌🙌🙌👊

[@bryanlopez4994]

Nice and I was 5 months sober but just relapsed but it was a bad one and now I’m just trying not to get to down on myself and bounce back as quick as possible.

[@codeyal-hammad3018]

Almost 17 months clean & sober thanks to my higher power and the fellowship

[@codeyal-hammad3018]

@@bryanlopez4994 you got this! Never give up🙏🏽

[@ericyoshi2323]

Keep going I'm 81 days clean and I have relapsed twice after 60 days and 75 days this past year. Now I know to forgive myself and I know I can't just use once because it never works out that way. Keep going we got this

[@blksayajinx5499]

Maaaaaaaan by thee grace and mercy of my Father God in Heaven I can say I'm a year and 103 days sober I am all to familiar with the battle, one of the most intense battles ever is not beating yourself up it's a reflex to just dwell in self pity and embracing those thoughts of feeling like a failure which can also lead to thoughts of suicide, it's the most miserable feeling ever but I'm here to tell you it is not impossible to get out of that feeling I know from experience ❤

[@lukasvilla2657]

I relapsed after 5 months of sobriety and I'm the type of person that really feels like a failure like I lost all those days before the relapse. I used for one day and I got back up quickly. I did not stay in the mess. I don't feel like I should throw away 179 good days for one bad day. I had a lapse in judgement, but I decided to stop and decided to get back onto the horse. Each relapse gets worse mentally. I definitely almost got stuck in the shame and guilt until I saw this video. Thank you. Some feelings I can't just think away unfortunately, I'm going to feel like crap for a few days.

[@PutTheShovelDown]

You're exactly right, Lukas, one lapse does not undo your 179 days. The fact that you got right back up is a testament of how strong your recovery is!

[@shanitagilmore6876]

The guilt of relapseing is so bad I wanted to end it all but that will be self'ish towards my kid's and family I just feel so stupid

[@lukasvilla2657]

@@shanitagilmore6876 you have alot to live for. Keep moving forward

[@YouKnowImRight99]

Your comment helped alot thank you!❤️

[@lukasvilla2657]

@@YouKnowImRight99 right on 🙏 you're welcome

[@rian6352]

Messed up a few days ago after 3 years of sobriety. Feel horrible, but I know my progress isn’t lost. Got back up on the horse. Thank you for this video, it was very helpful!

[@PutTheShovelDown]

You got this!

[@katherinebragg9166]

Bravo!!!

[@rian6352]

@@thedrift8515 Hey man, thanks for asking! Now, I’m smoking weed and drinking. It’s not great, I know. But I’m off the opiates which is good enough for me for now. Well, I’m on Suboxone. Take that as you will, I’m not ashamed of it. It doesn’t get me high, and helps tremendously with cravings. I’m going to A.A. to help with my remaining vices. I’m doing good overall! Drinking and smoking weed is nothing compared to the evil effects of opiates.

[@macieq44]

I just relapsed after 4 years. The thing you said about being sober for 300 + 1 day was powerful. Thank you for that! Best regards from Poland.

[@PutTheShovelDown]

I'm so glad this is helpful for you, Macieq44! You have 4 years sober, don't let a little blip keep you down. You got this!

[@guitarandgames1386]

Trying to get sober off Opiates. I successfully quit coke and pcp but I've already relapsed 4 times on pills. I hope anyone who needs help gets it

[@830audio6]

I relapsed friday after almost a year and a half sober. Thanks for this. No matter how good you think you are, that addiction is in the back doin fuckin pull ups and push ups ready to fuckin take you down at the most random times.

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Hi Mitchell, don't spend too much time beating yourself up. You can get right back on track!

[@oc3694]

Unless you you are still drinking, or using you had a lapse not relapse!

[@grilledchiken4038]

I’m 15 and just relapsed today and I’ve been sober for 145 days I feel like a failure

[@jennytaylor2751]

@@grilledchiken4038 don’t quit quitting. My spouse bounces back and forth but progress is progress. Try to learn from the slip ups and make corrections instead of letting shame beat you down

[@ThePlanesEnt]

Hope you’re doing okay man. I just relapsed after 6 1/2 months and it’s been torture! Gotta grow and learn from it

[@heatherjohnson333]

I relapsed two days ago after 7 months clean. Last night, I stopped myself. I threw the drugs in the toilet and smashed my paraphernalia because I was afraid I would wake up today and use again. I felt overwhelming guilt and loneliness today and I just didn't know how to feel better. Thank you for this video. It helped to put it into perspective and see that I DO have 7 months of healthy living behind me and I won't have to start all over like the last time I quit after 5 years of straight use. Thank you so much for this video!

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Wow! Getting rid of the rest was such a strong move! Very impressive 🤩

[@heatherjohnson333]

@@PutTheShovelDown Thank you!

[@danielmller2280]

I had 2 months of sobriety, don't even know what happened but yesterday I fell in again Feeling really disappointed but there's only one way and That's forward 💪 Thanks for the video

[@PutTheShovelDown]

That's right Daniel. Today is a new day, and all you have to do is get right back up and move forward. Don't let a little slip mess up all your good progress!

[@damienhall2917]

That’s the same thing that I just did my brother!! You asked the question for me. Thank you and good luck with your Recovery ❤️

[@damienhall2917]

@@PutTheShovelDown Thank you so much for your wisdom and knowledge of this addiction my family and I are dealing with. Your reply to Daniel was perfect for me too! God bless you for all you are doing!! 💜❤️💜

[@TheBrewsterMillion]

Same here,did rehab and all. Then boom relasp.

[@damienhall2917]

@@TheBrewsterMillion we can’t dwell on the relapse...it happens. I let my kids down but I had to pick myself up and move forward. The Relapse was a lesson not a mistake. I called my Sponsor and he helped me get my head back in the game. Good luck my brother!

[@jonmilburn5259]

When we do the relapse call at our AA chapter, we say it is a Desire chip.........the Desire to stay sober for 24 hrs. That's for the newcomer. Then we say "does anyone need to trade a wet one in for a dry one?" ....that's the call for stepping up and admitting you slipped / relapsed. Everybody applauds for either so there's zero shaming

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Absolutely right Jon!

[@anandadaquino3604]

I relapsed after 22 months, during one night. This Brazilian here who got sober on zoom was crying so much and wanna thank you for saying that my 22 months were real. I can't delete them. I told my sponsor, my mom, and we will recalculate to be back on track! Thank you

[@PutTheShovelDown]

I'm so glad to hear this was helpful. You don't have to let one slip up knock you off track. You got this!

[@AndreaLea-f3f]

You explain things in the most supportive non judgemental way. Thank you so much for your videos

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Thank you so much for your supportive comment, Andrea! 😁😁😁

[@honestjohnt87]

Thank you, Amber. “Don’t get on the roller coaster” is my new self motto.

[@PutTheShovelDown]

That's right, John... Don't get on that coaster no matter how tempting!

[@OhSoUnderground]

The difference between lapse vs relapse. A great reminder & a great help to put a slip in perspective when ur in it and feeling worthless

[@AwesomeEpicnes]

I bought a pack of cigarettes for the first time in 30 days yesterday and I didn’t know how to process/deal with this. Thank you so much for this video

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Don't let that get you down. You can get right back on track!

[@makailynthesizzler]

My boyfriend relapsed after 3 years sobriety. I never dealt with this and this has helped me understand so much

[@PutTheShovelDown]

I'm so glad this was helpful to you, Makailyn!

[@sherylkilpatrick1727]

I drove my son to rehab again Wednesday. He made the arrangements this time. But yes he gets the "F its" with relapses and falls down the rabbit hole all over again. Going to share this and hope he can/will watch it.

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Hopefully it will help him stop beating himself down. That only makes things worse.

[@nikitaw1982]

F it's. Lol. That's me.

[@jerzecandy]

thanks for this video, 45 days sober after 43 years of using . Did 3 weeks PHP then Sober living got Covid left House and went home. Relapsed this is the second week. Put my self in a outpatient PHP but I can’t get off this rollercoaster. I’m going to start today

[@PutTheShovelDown]

45 days is no easy feat! You got this!

[@NB-sq7ui]

I relapsed after 21 days of no binge drinking at weekends..I had 4 or 5 bottles of beer at a friends house was offered other recreational drugs too bit thankfully dudnt succumb and left the scene..Next day I exer used heavily as I usually do to counteract it..Beating myself up about it..But been 2 days sober now so I'm back on the wagon now determined to see it through this time , last time I realpsed after 3 weeks too..

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Good for you NB! You can pick up your recovery right where you left off!

[@Eddie_Jo_Torres17]

Thank you soooo much for your video!!!! I have been sober for over 90 days and I just relapsed once. I did come to feel and think the worst. Thank you

[@PutTheShovelDown]

My pleasure Eduard! I'm really glad this video was helpful to you

[@heartbasedresearchtoajourn8158]

I did a relapse after 4 months but the funny thing was I did not really want to do it, I was running boxing eating well and my friend died and then I decided to have a drink for him, what i learnt was I did enjoy it it took my out of my routine I did not feel good it just was not the same again, I got up after 4 day binge I ran 16 mile next day back and the next day I done boxing strait back into my routine, I feel it gets eaiser the longer u go.

[@PutTheShovelDown]

I love that you got yourself right back on track!

[@kkl4815]

I really needed this video today. 10 months AF and I drank last week.

[@PutTheShovelDown]

No one can take your 10 months away. Don't give up. Just keep moving forward 💖

[@tamz3653]

It was really nice hearing basically that - if someone was good for 185 days & then messed up for a second one day / the 185 days are not erased 👏 forget about the one off day & move on to 186 -- ((( you are correct t too - the Bible even teaches / we need accountability people

[@PutTheShovelDown]

That's exactly right, Tam!

[@IIISWILIII]

Almost 2 months dry. Messed up yesterday. Wasn't just 1 or 2... A complete nose dive. Not giving up.

[@roxy7255]

I can’t thank you enough for your videos amber I have been dealing with my partners addiction for three years using your strategies the last three months has made all the difference. This time when he relapsed I didn’t freak out and he even messaged saying me understanding meant things were much better.

[@PutTheShovelDown]

I'm giving you an A++++++! Very impressive 💯💯💯 It's not easy to keep your cool in situations like that 🤩

[@JTG313]

When I relapsed and my mom said "I'm not even mad at you...I just want you to get help"

[@bjharvey3021]

This is amazing advice. Thank you. I watch your channel most days and it's so easy to listen to my naughty side doesn't get triggerred like a lot of addiction videos. You deserve more recognition. Keep it up.

[@giselanovoa2961]

This has been so helpful. Thank you

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Glad it was helpful!

[@toddkimberlin7609]

Thanks so much for this I’ve been sober for almost two years and a week ago relapsed got fired from my job and fell down the rabbit hole but I pulled the emergency brake so to speak and am trying my best to get back on track immediately this video really helped god bless you

[@PutTheShovelDown]

"pulled the emergency brake" Love it! 🤩

[@ms-zl9qf]

Thank you for this video I drank this week and I am so disappointed in myself I can't even look at the mirror. I don't have a mentor I don't have a sober person in my life to talk to or listen but this video did help keep me just hope

[@spartawarrior2771]

Thank you so much for your video people like you do make a great deal of help and change in people.

[@PutTheShovelDown]

My pleasure. Thank you so much for your kind words!

[@lisasnyder8405]

Oh my goodness Thank you so much Amber! This is awesome! I see how other people are treated in my meetings when they go out and it is hard to come back . I had 35 days and drank again. I do not want to give up or die from this disease My friend went out after 4 years and lied about it because they way she was treated. She has 5 years now. This is exactly how I'm feeling.

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Your welcome, Lisa! Don't let a little slip keep you down. No one can take away your 365 days!

[@richardthayer2210]

I think the hardest part about it is admitting I can't just have one...because sometimes in the past I have had one and not binged but now it's different .The snake is showing his head.Years ago I could pick him up but now he bites me Everytime.

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Very insightful, and great metaphor!

[@bbelizy9627]

Thank you! I found you this morning. You are very reassuring, and calming me down.

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Hi B, welcome to our little community! So glad you're here 😁

[@saraclements8476]

Thank you for your amazing videos. My son is in recovery and your videos have been really helpful to me.

[@PutTheShovelDown]

You are so welcome!

[@JonathanCoates89]

Extremely valuable insight! Subscribed! 😊

[@PutTheShovelDown]

That's awesome! Welcome aboard Jonathan!

[@darcyturnbo4724]

Thanks for the advice, it’s really helpful.

[@PutTheShovelDown]

My pleasure. Glad you liked it, Darcy

[@refri17ner95]

Been thru alot In the last 6 years in my addiction to meth and crack. Last August I had 2 years of sobriety. I released August 2020 for a few days. Immediately moved into sober living. I stayed clean 6 months becoming a house manager. 3 weeks ago I moved out of sober living and now rent a room in someone's house. Alot of things changed and I felt overwhelmed. I drank a beer, bought a bottle of liquor, and within 2 days I was smoking meth and crack. Its week three and I have been using alot non stop. Shit sux.

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Don't give up. You know what works for you.

[@bryanlopez4994]

I know the feeling and just relapsed and did a whole of blow and alcohol a little bit of crack and some ecstasy it was one hell of a binge . I’m done with the binge day one but the worst part of all of it is that I crashed my dads truck and he passed away a couple of months ago . I still know that I’m not gonna give up and I’m gonna feel like shit but it’s all mental just gotta get your head clear for a bit and stay busy .

[@refri17ner95]

@@bryanlopez4994 damn bro. I'm sorry about your dad. Sometimes I think it's about self acceptance on our own for us. We aren't bad people. We just can't face our reality sober sometimes. Your not alone

[@charlieb4050]

Relapsed last night drinking. Ugh I was doing so well. I have so much guilt today is overwhelming 😩😔

[@PutTheShovelDown]

The fact that you're watching this video is a sign that you're already getting back on track! 💖

[@Lifeingover50]

Ugh! I blew it on my birthday & then continued for 3 days…i was doing so well with holiday travel: 2 airports/travel to Ohio AF; visit with fam in OH sober; trip for my bday - 2 days sober & then i caved…and continued. Today, i had 1/2 a drink and dumped it…working on getting back on track.

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Good for you for getting yourself right back on track! 💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻

[@smilinkylen5621]

Went 6 years without a drink and spent the last year and a half battling off and on relapses. Its hell on earth. I am done drinking again

[@janicewilson1190]

Listening to you from Scotland: thanks good information x

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Awesome! Thank you! Glad you're here, Janice 😁

[@mrcat2359]

Functional Analysis would be very helpful. We just had this situation happen with my son using acid at a sober living house, and did the don’ts. If there a way to start over after a big blow up mistake with your addict that would be so helpful.

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Great question and good insight Maureen! If you feel you made a mistake then just go to him and say that you feel you handled the situation wrong. Let him know that you regret the way you reactive and that you're trying to recover too! It's a really great thing to model humility. Often it opens the door for them to admit their wrongs.

[@markustran777]

Lsd is a non even anti-addictive substance tho?

[@maddyG7414]

I relapsed for several weeks. It’s almost like I thought I could handle casually using. Then it spiral to not casual. I was in denial. It doesn’t feel good.

[@YouKnowImRight99]

Thank you for this video!!!❤

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Glad you liked it!

[@truepenny2514]

very helpful, thanks!!

[@PutTheShovelDown]

You're welcome!

[@paulacate448]

Always timely and helpful videos, Amber. Thank you so much for sharing your insight!

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Thanks Paula!

[@polkprincess2714]

4 relapses this year so far.....I feel like it’s always going to be a roller coaster....what’s worse ...trying to make it on a single income or making it with a dual income...but not really ever feeling stable.??? Even when he is not popping pills....in the back of my mind I still think he is. I find it difficult to relax and feel safe.

[@cjgia4898]

So, I still missed this live. Ugh. I will try again next week. Thursday's at 1 EST, right? I rejoined Facebook so I don't miss a thing. Yes, to functional analysis, please.

[@PutTheShovelDown]

You got it. 1pm Eastern. We usually try to make a reminder post on FB. Sorry we missed you!

[@johannamaldonado30]

i was sober for 3 months after drinking all my life i;m 43 i been drinking every nite after i go to the gym ,hopefully today is a new day

[@kellyhoxsey6827]

Excellent feedback, thank you

[@roxy7255]

Found this super helpful though still working hard on the not freaking out part! How do you find the balance between being supportive whilst still trying to reinforce the boundary that it’s not acceptable to use in the house?

[@TMichelle555]

I had a month. Drank yesterday, this is going to be harder than I thought

[@PutTheShovelDown]

You can do this. You can get right back on track!

[@timtom904]

Just had 5 months and picked up. I can't even say how disappointed I am with myself right now

[@TheBrewsterMillion]

I relasped after 2months now i have fight a coutcase and cant go home, quickly homeless and a matter of a day. Now im alone at a hotel. Honestly thinking about drinking right now. I dont want To go to jail

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Hi Brewster, Don't give up! I have a 30 Day Jump Start Program I give to my client. It's just short video messages that come to you everyday to keep you motivated and help you overcome roadblocks. Here's a link that will let you get that for free. hope it helps: www.familyrecoveryacademy.online/30-day-jump-start

[@NB-sq7ui]

@@PutTheShovelDown Many thanks! I need this too ..

[@DianeMaus-p7u]

Within 24 hours of finding out a family member was a drug addict . We surprised him and tried to force inpatient therapy on him. It was nothing but a battle he had already checked himself into outpatient therapy, but we didn’t think that was good enough. We really ruined our relationships.

[@gregpowell4399]

I just relapsed after 5 yrs and I'm in denial. I'm a pillar in recovery community and I am scared to get honest😢

[@PutTheShovelDown]

It sounds like you're not in denial, but just scared to take the steps to move forward. Admitting you relapsed and getting back on track will only make you more of a pillar in the recovery community. Others need to see people who fall and pick themselves back up. You can do this!

[@lisasnyder8405]

This happened to my friend. She finally got honest after a year because she felt really bad about lying but has 4 years now again and is doing great

[@gregpowell4399]

@@lisasnyder8405 I am celebrating 10 months this wk. My relapse was more of a lil stumble. 1 use and back on the wagon. Not justifying,but grateful I didn't go full force. Thanx for that response

[@Shiraaz-u3i]

Im afraid iv lost my family my marriage is almost broken because of my addiction this is going to lead me back to drugs even worse than before 😢

[@gretabecker5303]

I was in middle of relapse and came across your video. I just flushed what lil I had left....thank u

[@PutTheShovelDown]

You are so welcome! Glad It was helpful.

[@paulasuprenant6728]

Thank you for your helpful videos Amber.😃

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Glad you like them!

[@katelynolsen1575]

You are an angel 😇

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Right back at ya, Kate 😇👼😇👼

[@lifeisgr82me]

Yes please on the Functional analysis

[@samuelcimatti7990]

I've relapsed after half a year and it's really bad it's my second day sober after a month straight of drugs and just trying to look for help

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Day 2 is a really tough one. Much respect for all your hard work!

[@jennytaylor2751]

Would love access the the functional analysis you spoke of. Ty❤️. Love love all your advise. My loved one is making great progress and so am I

[@carmenbrown3437]

I know what I should do next time. Sit quiet. Write it out until sanity returns. Even if it takes all day. Instead of catastrophizing.

[@PutTheShovelDown]

💯

[@AMM3.]

Recently I've had a close family member go missing and presumably dead (another victim of addiction and the situations it leads to)😭 so now 2 of my family members who I've always thought were over addiction are relapsing hard.. these are my sober heroes.. and I don't even blame them.. it's a really painful situation.. I don't want to come down on them about sobriety when their dealing with detectives and no sleep.. I'm trying to remind them their going to be physically and mentally addicted in no time.. praying that all my midnight conversations with them will help.. but I have a terrible feeling this situation will lead to more than 1 death 😭

[@skinscapetattoo]

I feel for you..heartbreaking

[@legacy7450]

This is brilliant

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Wow! Thanks PC S! 😁😁😁😁

[@buffy6673]

My partner has been sober for 61 days and then on his 62nd day his psychiatrist had forgotten to cancel his old benzo prescription. So when he got to the pharmacy, they had already filled it out and he felt like oh well. It was prescribed once by a doctor. He did tell me right after he took two pills. my first reaction was shock and upset and then I went to the Internet to try and find a better response. He hasn’t quite acknowledged it as a relapse yet because he still sees it as prescribed medication but it was obviously the doctor slip up. His psychiatrist does not want him to be on that medication and he knows that.

[@spiritualwisdom515]

Off topic, i really love your eyes. 😊

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Oh thank you!

[@movementofvitalenergy33]

​@PutTheShovelDown yep. Nice video though, good info. Ty

[@akitoelgoog251]

I started using and it's been 4 days now in a row after 3 months clean. What can I do to not go further..

[@maryray6647]

13 years

[@ShalumiYashraal81]

New subscriber. Thank you

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Welcome to our community Jacqueline!

[@danakrebs1196]

Yes I would love any information

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Is there any specific information you need Dana?

[@danakrebs1196]

@@PutTheShovelDown the appropriate things to say to support my son & not make him feel more shame

[@Lakerfanva757]

This really helped

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Thanks Lawrence! I'm so glad it helped

[@miriamhunt9008]

Do you talk to them at all when they are in the rows of relapse?

[@therecoveryfamily9901]

Thank you for sharing

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Thank you for watching!

[@mr8966]

Thank-you.

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Thank you too!

[@miriamhunt9008]

Do you talk to them while they are drinking

[@DEADIKATED]

I went all January with no Liquor and pretty much drank all of February I’m going to quit again

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Good for you! Pick yourself back up, and get right back on track 💌

[@corrlee]

I got to say it somewhere..I sobered up at age 25 I had an unusual case of severe alcoholism from a very young age. Just trust me lol! Fast forward 16 years later and I slipped! Been back at it over a year! It sux it’s daily not as bad as before but def no good! I stayed clean all those years for my kids my dad for others it was a promise I made my mission! My kids are grown dad is dead child support is paid in full ect..So I tricked myself said it’s time to relax lol!I suddenly I’m unhealthy lookin old now more than ever just not good ya know? I got to find a new mission yall!?? (Don’t say me that won’t work lol)

[@gailmartindale]

I have heard that a lot of addicts get long term recovery by giving back to the sober community and doing acts of service. I am the parent of an addict and I can see how self centered this disease makes him. He is a young 24 year, single guy and has no kids, no girl friend, and all of his actions are just so focused on himself. He drinks so much he can't even hold a job.

[@Joaocruz30]

I AM TRYING. BUT WITH MY DAD DEATH 3 MONTHS AGO I WENT INTO AUTODESTRUCTION MODE. Thank you so much

[@PutTheShovelDown]

The fact that your watching this video, tells me that you're trying to get back on track!

[@Joaocruz30]

@@PutTheShovelDown I really wish I can jesus you made me cry. I'm sorry

[@chirondawn2966]

I lost my dad to liver failure on Jan 6, 2022 he was an alcohol addict . I am sorry for the pain you feel and the struggle your in. Your not alone. Im here with u.

[@shanechapman2415]

Please make a video around the questions we should ask

[@dionel8]

I slipped/ relapsed after almost 2 years. I'm in AA and I have a sponsor. I think AA is a good program, but I don't agree with the idea that you have to start at day 1 again. I think it's destructive psychologically. I told my sponsor, and I feel it's enough. What is your opinion on this?

[@lisasnyder8405]

You didn't lose that time . Your body knows you had that break.❤

[@paulasuprenant6728]

Merry Christmas Amber!🎄🎅😃

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Same to you!

[@dustbae]

Functional analysis video would be great!

[@PutTheShovelDown]

You got it!

[@aaggie1573]

Has the video on functional analysis been posted?

[@kimberlyhaughton6656]

My son was sober for a year through a faith based rehab. His wife who he was separated from would not get help. He has a restraining order on him from her. Any way he contacted her and left town to meet her. Now I’m at a loss because we got into arguments because of his actions and red flags before he left. I’m ver scared because it’s so bad and he went to a bad place wheee people were trying to hurt him and he went there again because he wanted to meet her and I guess he thinks he could help her. Now he has cut us all off from even res hung him to try and talk to him and help! Please! I need some good advice. Thank you!

[@joylujan593]

I would be interested in a functional analysis video, Amber.

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Okay awesome, Joy I'll get on that!

[@joylujan593]

@@PutTheShovelDown thank you. I'm not sure I can find the words to convey how much your videos have meant to me over the past several weeks. They're great and bring me SO much comfort and insight. THANK YOU for being so amazing.

[@woofielove1970]

So my girlfriend is coming home from being in jail for a year because of her third DUI. She has been in and out of numerous rehabs. The other day I said to her, you need to never ever drink again, not once, not even one drop. Please never ever drink again. She said to me that you should not make a statement like this one alcoholic because you are setting them up for failure. Is this true? Please help! Is it appropriate to tell someone who is an alcoholic and currently not drinking that they can never ever touch alcohol again not even one drop. Is that appropriate? I don't see why not. It's the truth.

[@PutTheShovelDown]

There is a concept in recovery called "One Day At A Time". Many people in recovery are encouraged not to think about the idea of not drinking forever because it feels overwhelming. Instead they're taught to focus on staying sober one day at a time.

[@woofielove1970]

@@PutTheShovelDown thank you!

[@Drug_Fueled_Nightmare]

Addictions so hard especially when you can go to any store I'm america and get your drug of choice and no one stops you they'll sell it to you I've been on and off for 5 years and I try my best but I still fall back into the trap even tho I know better

[@PutTheShovelDown]

The difference in success and failure is ONE MORE TRY! You got this😉

[@nikitaw1982]

They get so much tax too and rarely see alc reduction programs advertised. Be good if they had cheap food so drink less.

[@Drug_Fueled_Nightmare]

@@nikitaw1982 fuck it cut it off and spend some dough on some real food

[@mitchellyarborough1791]

Get it at any store ? Shit where is the heroin isle Bc ig Iv been missing it

[@W1LDWESLEY]

I'm 1/2 people that's trying to help a relapsing friend vent whose getting eviction notice

[@Hemlock15]

What do you do when your partner denies they’ve relapsed when they’re barely functioning, passing out, etc.

[@W1LDWESLEY]

Friend relapsed on "glass" a week ago. He's like purple gru minion. He has a negative view of his family giving his dog away if he goes to rehab

[@peppersghosttheater]

Well I failed that. I freaked out. After 3 years sober, tens of thousands on rehab's. One year of complete hard core drinking like I've never seen.

[@PutTheShovelDown]

If your still alive, your still in the game. It isn't too late!

[@peppersghosttheater]

@@PutTheShovelDown thanks, I meant my husband. I completely lost it with him. My patience is gone. Im not sure the trust will ever return.

[@nicolenicole3142]

I’ve been clean 8 yrs. I was using for 1.5. I signed up for counseling did five years and learned a lot about in that time.I’ve been so depressed every Christmas i have trauma that i can’t get out of my mind. I have so much going on I’m responsible for all bills, I clean house after adult children, i lost several close family/friends recently, my mom cancer hasn’t shrank after year half treatment 😢 regardless of all my hardship I have had a nervous breakdown and struggle to cope with right now. I started using around mid November Im not using everyday but I have used. I’ve been hiding this secret and it’s messed with my heart & mind. I hate looking In mirror lately I just want to be someone else😔 I need to learn how to love myself and deal with my trauma find ways to help with my depression health and bipolar. Nobody talks to me without getting angry. There entitled to there feelings. When I try to express how I’m feeling, what causes me to relapse & how can we fix. I stay secluding to myself not by choice. I recently started to hang out with three friends that have been in my life for over 35 years. I enjoy talking to them and expressing my thoughts with out judgement. I told them about my relapsed and every time I leave to get away from my negative household, I’m being accused of things that I am actually not doing I am not blaming anyone for my choices. being a recovering addict having someone blame you for something you’re not doing really hurts.I am so ashamed of myself. I’m trying so hard to work on me and love me more but everyone is putting me down calling me names and not trying to understand me. What can I do please feel free to leave. any suggestions I really could use someone else perspective. How how can I repair? What should i do any advice. I want respect and to feel appreciated I needed life up not made to feel worse than i already do

[@homelessinALBQ]

I had 6 months and relapsed last night... Alcohol is my drug of choice... I don’t wanna go back to a AA meeting and get my 24 hour chip... ugh this sucks...

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Watching this video is a great step toward getting back on track. It shows me how determined you are!!!

[@trinadang3098]

Please do a video on functional analysis. My son have relapse and i would like techniques to help him analyze why he relapse. Also i was wondering if its ok if I text his friends to ask them to not encourage my son to vape cannibas?

[@PutTheShovelDown]

I wouldn't recommend texting his friends. That's only going to infuriate him.

[@armandomeza2299]

I'm so tiered of using drugs it destroyed my life. And my kids don't deserve a drug addict for a father I can't continue with my life ...

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Hi Armando, Don't give up. I've seen people come back from the most devastating places. I I have a 30 Day Jump Start Program that my clients get. It's just short video messages that come to you everyday to keep you motivated and help you overcome roadblocks. Here's a link that will let you get that for free. hope it helps: www.familyrecoveryacademy.online/30-day-jump-start

[@marthaangami4035]

Hi amber am i responsible for my drug addict husband relapse?

[@PutTheShovelDown]

There are things family members can do that make things easier (and sometimes harder) but you can't make someone relapse.

[@cassdiable4173]

used again after a little over a month and dunno how to tell my bf. i feel like its gonna hurt him or he's gonna get annoyed or judge me. im scared cos he's the one who convinced me to go sober. i've been doing it for him and lately been kinda messing up little things lately. being dull in conversation, some using cigarettes and even that i lied about. but ive been going sober from weed for him pretty much. ive been feeling proud of myself and self-fulfilled even for myself, too. but i think he'll take it personally. im not even close to worried about falling into the rabbit hole. i just dunno how to approach telling him. i should clarify he's a recovered alcoholic and hasnt even considered drinking for a few years. ive been telling him how its been easy but every now and then ill tell him im not doing well since it has been hard but only in those times. it kinda went away when i decided to stick to it and get rid of all the weed in my room. he's been proud of me and my number one support throughout this but im scared if i tell him i relapsed he's gonna feel depressed or see me as less.

[@anuvarma9435]

What if the addict wants to stop naltrexone after 15 days n wants to start bupinorphene...What does it mean.....Is he still in denial?