AITA For Leaving My Sisters Wedding When Maid Of Honor HUMILIATED Me In Her Speech r/Relationships

[@Songbirdstress]

Sister is horrible. New husband needs an annulment .

[@soteed]

I suspect the husband will be the new target for the woman's friend.

[@Julienna]

@@soteed I am sure, he already is. Somebody, who keeps re-traumatizing own sister by proxy (through a toxic friend), is not capable of a real love. The dude is abused on a daily basis and now after getting married, she will lose all the last boundaries. I am glad that he confronted her on her friend's toxic speech. Eventually, she will be left with the toxic friend, up until she finds out, the friend flirts or sleeps with her husband...

[@bhart3321]

Given how he's acted so far he just may once he learns how his new wife reacted in that update. At the very least he better make her drop that pos & go to therapy for why she dislikes her sister so & blames her for her own mental illness.

[@annem7806]

Yes, do inform the new husband of the level of his new wife's cruelness. Bide your time. Revenge is best served cold. She won't be expecting this.

[@hi_stranger9156]

Story 1: The fact the sister put her hands right where OP struggles to be touched says EVERYTHING. The sister and her best friend are horrible, cruel, disgusting people. That wasn’t an apology; that was an excuse to cause more harm and laugh about it. Gross. OP deserves to be free of the both of them.

[@JamesRT1291]

It like they were deliberately trying to trigger a physical reaction so they can say “SEE SHE’S CRAZY!!!”

[@senatorarmstrong4662]

@@JamesRT1291 what’s funny is it would’ve done nothing but proved that the sister and bridesmaid are nothing but bullies. Especially since the sister knows full well op doesn’t like to be touched in those places. And something tells me if Op took a shot at the bridesmaid during the wedding and said it was just a joke I’m sure those two wouldn’t be laughing and most likely would’ve made op apologize.

[@JamesRT1291]

@@senatorarmstrong4662 I don’t think so, I think the MoH and sister are ableist and would just say, “See crazy” or “See screw up”

[@fionarobinson4169]

Hope op told her parents and brother what exactly went down, including the hands on her.....

[@JamesRT1291]

@@fionarobinson4169 u missed it. They were there

[@AndyyWithAY]

It sounds like OP was SA'd. I've never put my hand on someone's neck or had anyone put their hand on my neck. I don't have trauma regarding that, but I'd be pissed TF off if someone did this to me. Sister is not a clown, she's the entire circus. If OP had cancer, would sister be ashamed? OP decided to be NC with sister. That might be in a comment, but she decided to do that. Thank goodness

[@jemcrosbie]

I thought that too. The sister & her friend are awful and should be ignored going forward

[@paulinadeboer3604]

Quite honnest what sister did was mental assault. What a horrible human beeing. She is petty as heck just because parents gave sister some more attention after an assault and mental breakdown.

[@Catherine.Dorian.]

Yeah someone doing that to you in that situation is very menacing. The moment I hit that part I was immediately livid

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

@@paulinadeboer3604 Honestly, if you're jealous of that, then that tells me how selfish and self-absorbed you are.

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

@@jemcrosbie Agree. I know Reddit screams No contact every time a family issue comes up, but this is of those situations where no contact really is the best option here. A snake can shed it's skin, but it's still a snake.

[@danielpotkalesky9356]

If the butt of a joke isn't laughing, it's not a joke, it's bullying.

[@GrifoStelle]

Yep. If 2 are "joking" but only one is laughing, that's not joking

[@summerv5209]

That the sister put her hands exactly where she knows OP doesn’t like to be touched says so much about her. She knows EVERYTHING and it sounds like she was trying to trigger OP. I’d literally rather perish than purposefully trigger my sibling like that. What a terrible sister.

[@anthonygilmour6236]

If I was OP the sisters lucky she didn't end up waking up in a hospital bed.

[@HinataElyonToph]

Probably so she could whine about OP ruining her big day

[@philwill0123]

Yep, the reason mentioning OP being a screw up is they resent OP getting her life together. Sister enjoyed the sunshine when OP was suffering, and wants to send her back there.

[@paulagoeringer9466]

​@@anthonygilmour6236 fr I'm surprised she didn't deck her right then. I certainly wouldn't blame her.

[@LokasennaCole]

​@@thecursed01 It wouldn't even be a defense. If someone Puts their hands on you in an aggressive way Like that , you are fully justified in defending yourself , even if you don't have any kind of ptsd

[@yamairad1]

Story 1. That marriage isn't going to last. He saw what a monster his wife is. He needs to let it set in. I hope they don't have kids.

[@coreymartin6486]

People that mean-hearted tend to cheat. It wouldnt be surprising if the sister has done it already or will do it....and the friend will help cover it up.

[@ZombieMinion1992]

@@coreymartin6486 I mean with how InSync and evil the friendship is there’s a solid chance she’s cheating with the friend.

[@coreymartin6486]

@@ZombieMinion1992 very possible

[@poetryqn]

Story 1: Want to bet OP parents told that evil witch sister to apologize or else they wouldn't give her the honeymoon money/downpayment for a house/some expected gift. That wasn't an apology, it was a set up. If the bride and groom fought, maybe it's b/c he just caught on that his brand new wife is a "B".

[@Passions5555]

More like a "C"

[@Sparky0627]

Both!

[@Daug555]

Wouldn’t surprise me if they separate/divorce due to her “B/C” antics.

[@gwdzee]

@@Passions5555 nah, she doesn't have the warmth or depth to be called that.

[@MissEasyPeasySleasy]

She the ab And c the entire fkn alphabet!!!

[@kentario1610]

Something traumatic that happened to a 16 year old girl, gave her PTSD and derailed her life, and had a head holding trigger.... Oh no.

[@GalaGrinsArt]

OP confirmed it was SA. The Maid of Honor knows. When OP was recovering, still covered in bruises from it, the sister and her BFF came over, even when OP needed to just be with her family. OP also went onto elaborate that her sister lived 3 hours away for work. So this... unspeakable monster brought her friend over from 3 hours away to gawk at an SA survivor. I was truly horrified by this.

[@simonO712]

​@@GalaGrinsArtThat's... wow. That's just plain monstrous.

[@YellaBellaReno]

I was SA’d in middle school by an adult I trusted at church. No one could touch my head or get on top of me for years without it triggering me. It took me 2 decades to be able to go to the dentist. I get upset at all the ways people don’t understand how an assault can mess with your daily life. At the same time, if they have to go through something terrible to understand, I don’t wish it upon them. It might be hard to understand, but it’s not hard to be kind, and that is all I’ve come to expect from anyone. If they can’t do that, they’re out of my life.

[@softsounds8453]

Combine that with the fact that she did it every time OP tried to protest something? Yikes 😬

[@magicalmomo9987]

Letting your best friend call your sister a screw up for dealing with the aftermath of sexual assault is...wild. I hope the husband sees how much of a nasty little monster she and her bestie is and leaves posthaste. Thats just...disgusting. Not only did she let her friend humiliate her sister, an SA survivor, but also used OP's trigger against her. Like...who does that? What normal well adjusted human being would do that?? Nasty piece of work.

[@faeangel7649]

The sister putting her hands on OP in a place she knows triggers her any time Op tried to speak up made my stomach turn. Like she was trying to trigger Op, especially in private where the only other witness was the BFF. To me, it felt like they were trying to get Op to do something so they could claim she's crazy and become the victims.

[@Sparky0627]

This 💯

[@BexsBoxofConfusion]

Yep yep yep

[@crowdemon_archives]

Or make OP be their circus monkey apparently.

[@axepagode4321]

So, your sister would rather be homeless than make her daughter give back what she stole? Give back something that she says is not worth anything.

[@kathydurow6814]

Then gets upset when the same "something worth nothing" is transferred out of her child's account!

[@AuskaDezjArdamaath]

Sounds like husband was disappointed to realize he’d married the mean girl. The fact the friend blames OP for the husband being angry at her own cruelty and his new wife’s condoning of it speaks volumes.

[@catsncrows]

If op's daughter is too old for the game, the niece is too old to be a theif😑

[@ryancarter1080]

"It's only pixels on the screen" funny that she can't take her own advice, but that what happens with people like that, their mindset is "everything that benefits me is right doesn't matter what laws are broken or who gets hurt, and everything that inconveniences or is to my detriment is a sin against the one true god myself".

[@aduckofsomesort]

They never get the irony

[@DrownedInExile]

I love it! OP flipped her pathetic sh*t-ster's script to perfection!

[@paulinadeboer3604]

Sister tried to make up for her screw-up by allowing this.. but but she is Hurt by the divorse. F that than you had to keep your legs close.

[@RuminatingRaptor]

@@paulinadeboer3604 Are you braindead? The sister may be an asshole, but her husband cheated on her. Wtf does that have to do with keeping her legs closed?

[@anthonygilmour6236]

If I was OP I'd get in contact with her sisters ex. I wouldn't be surprised if it was the sister cheating and the husband found out the niece wasn't his kid.

[@cjandauntieyaya1446]

Story 1: OP is NTA and her sister lowkey hates her guts. The MOH usually does the dirty work for the bride. I'm betting the sister has been trash talking about OP to her friends for a long time. Bet the sister resents OP's mental breakdown and the subsequent attention she received from their parents. Calling someone's mental health issues a "screwup" is wrong and cruel. OP needs to go NC with her sister and LC with her parents if they side with the witch.

[@Julienna]

Lowkey. NOPE. Fully hates her guts, but uses her friend, by proxy, to torture her sister, to keep her public image clean. But people are NOT so stupid. Many knows, that it is her feeding her friend's ear with disgust against her sister. Many on the wedding quickly realized that.

[@cjandauntieyaya1446]

@@Julienna Yeah, well the parents seem to be oblivious.

[@blandoatmeal1273]

Story 1 "She (sisters bff/MOH) told me before that she "in general" doesn't feel comfortable around someone struggling mentally because in her head god only knows what they're capable of." Personally I'm much more afraid of people like the sisters friend that lack empathy for people struggling mentally than people struggling mentally

[@paulagoeringer9466]

YES. People who are struggling mentally might someday do something. You know like anyone. Evil people however, WILL do something. I'm with you in that I'd rather be around someone with issues than someone without a conciense who enjoys hurting others. Wtf is wrong with the sister and her friend?

[@ChrisSmithBass]

If anyone insulted my sister like that in a speech, joking or not, there’d be a massive problem.

[@drewthistlethwaite8909]

I’ve met my bio sister once and ppl can catch these hands.

[@senatorarmstrong4662]

For real that wasn’t a joke that was a personal attack disguised as a joke. If one of my friends said that I would’ve chewed them out right there cause how dare you.

[@BersealiaDreamheart]

@@senatorarmstrong4662 If they did it at my wedding I’d tell her she better apologize or she can shut up and get the eff out.

[@swiftninja91]

I agree. If anyone talked about my sisters like that I'm assuming they want to fight me.

[@shadowkissed2370]

@@drewthistlethwaite8909 I have only met my bio sister online but you bet I will put someone in their place if they think they will talk to her or about her like that.

[@beirirangu]

Story 1. sounds like the sister is a sadistic monster... literally assaulting someone with PTSD because her victim didn't like being publicly humiliated Story 2. "My Daughter didn't steal anything. And if she did, she didn't take much. And if she did, it's just a game. And if it isn't, it wasn't her fault. And if it was, she didn't mean to do it. And if she did, your daughter deserved it for still playing a children's game."

[@paulagoeringer9466]

Sounds right out of the narcissists playbook. And she's likely a thief too as she's teaching her daughter to steal. A lying, cheating thief who's a narcissist. The whole package. Can't imagine why no one wants her around.😂

[@madambutterfly1997]

I love the pettiness of just taking everything in the nieces inventory instead of taking time to decipher which is hers and which is your daughter's

[@Sparky0627]

TBH, since the niece had just started, she probably didn't have a lot. Plus, that would be the punishment for taking what wasn't hers to begin with!

[@stirrednotshaken4823]

I say turn about is fair play because the niece took all of OP's daughters thing first. If you are going to steal all of someone else's things, then you should be prepared for the same!

[@hodgeelmwood8677]

Maybe now that it happened to the niece and she knows how it feels, she'll learn not to steal for other people.

[@fiyahquacker2835]

​@@hodgeelmwood8677maybe but then again her mother likely ain't gonna make that easy.

[@pamelajohnson6425]

I just hope OP's daughter changed her password for the game and made it more secure, so she can't get hacked again. It was fairly easy for OP to hack the niece, so hopefully they made it impossible for her or her mother to get back into the daughter's account.

[@swearimnotarobot3746]

Don’t ever have to stay somewhere that you’re disrespected.

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

Yup. That's the moral of this story.

[@Betty_Virago]

And story 2, you don’t have to have someone disrespectful stay with you

[@marshawargo7238]

I think OP needs to write down a few come backs for frequently slinged digs like when sis asked if she was off her meds, no are you or is MOH? If mom sees OP's POV, why didn't she talk to sis? I used to always be so mad at myself for coming up with great comments After it's too late😢!!! The list is also kinda therapeutic😊!!!

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

@@Betty_Virago Agree.

[@michaelmaiara4770]

Sister is fortunate that she is still married. If my wife's friend made that kind of joke about my sister-in-law, I would nope out of the situation so fast everyone's head would spin.

[@paulagoeringer9466]

Yes. This is a case of who you're best friends are say's everything about you. I hope that guy sees the red flags with both of them. I'm sure it's just the beginning of the red flag parade.

[@alyzu4755]

Story 1: WTAF?!?!! That wasn't a "joke", that was pure cruelty. OP tried to leave quietly, but Sister made a big deal out of it. And the Best Friend is a flaming AH. As is Sister. Update: Oh HELL no! She knows all about OP's PTSD and pulled that crap? I hope Sister's husband leaves her. I hope her life starts to fall apart. I hope she learns some f*cking compassion. Good on OP for going NC. Story 2: NTA. Wow! Niece stole from OP's daughter, period. Absolutely stick with that ultimatum. And Mark, I'm so sorry for your family member who lost their virtual pet! 🥺

[@LawahZdilawah]

You should read some comments under OP post and update telling her to grow up and that she's still a screw up for not taking a joke and how she screwed up the wedding too. I felt disgusted reading those comments knowing there's people like that

[@weirdlybeloved]

Wow.. imagine having the audacity to shrug off your daughter stealing from someone (especially the family that is putting a roof over your head) but when they do the same to her it's this huge deal? The nerve!

[@Sparky0627]

Rent-free too! The entitlement from both sister and niece are astounding. And like one poster said, contact her ex to find out if he really cheated! The sister may have been the cheater!

[@weirdlybeloved]

@@Sparky0627 Right?! They mess up a very generous living situation over "pixels" as the sister put it, and then act like they're the victims! Honestly I wouldn't be surprised if the sister WAS the cheater, because she definitely has the mentality.

[@bhart3321]

Anyone else think the sister in story 2 was the one caught cheating? If he was cheating why did she leave instead of him, now he can argue she abandoned the house & go for it in the divorce. Also the unmitigated selfishness of the woman & her daughter makes me think she's the one dumb enough to cheat.

[@weirdlybeloved]

@@bhart3321 The sister's behavior definitely doesn't match that of a betrayed spouse.. I really hope OP updates in the future and lets us know if she finds out anything!

[@paulagoeringer9466]

I'd bet the sister is a thief which is why she has no problem with her daughter stealing. Who do you think taught her?

[@lexi6916]

Daughter should make a new account and transfer everything to it to keep the aunt and cousin from reporting her and losing everything again

[@Azulakayes]

My kids have main accounts and alt accounts just in case of such instances courtesy of their dad. Glad to hear those are useful.

[@robertx8020]

Report what? Unless you can prove that your account was hacked (difficult in this case) they will do nothing because transfering stuff IS legal ..it's even one of the games main features .(selling/buying/trading) so she needs to proof that it was not legal which will be hard to do!

[@TailsFan]

Reporting the niece's account in the first place did nothing, so them reporting her account will do nothing.

[@Mia-dt3gl]

I’m so glad that most of OP’s family is standing with her. Usually the opposite happens.

[@MrZuriax]

They aren't doing enough in my eyes. Someone should have been with OP when she went to confront her abusers. That person isn't a sister, she's a sick individual. They are birds of a feather (the sicko and the best friend from hell).

[@bobbievedvick9334]

People who make bad jokes at the expense and humiliation of others are clods. The sister is no better.

[@Kayenne54]

They are sadistic bullies, actually. And people instinctively know this and rarely call them out, because they don't want to be the next target.

[@madambutterfly1997]

I refuse to accept that everyone who laughed laughed out of nervousness because it was easier than calling out the maid of honor

[@crazypyp5871]

You would be surprised. Humans in general don’t jump into action unless someone else does first. They wait for someone else before them. Someone may have laughed or laughed out of nervousness and everyone followed suit. Of course there are exceptions, but majority of the time, it’s what happens.

[@CyeOutsider]

Do you want to be the one to start a fight at the reception and ruin someone else's wedding?

[@stirrednotshaken4823]

Surprised their father didn't address the situation!

[@locusxe1411]

⁠​⁠@@CyeOutsiderI mean it ain’t my wedding so I wouldjt care if someone else’s gets ruined personally. And I wouldn’t be the one who started anything. The MOH did.

[@Masenken]

​@@CyeOutsiderbare minimum, they're getting a crash course once they leave the venue. F*** that wedding

[@craigwapples4200]

The sister and story one is horrible trying to manipulate OP by using her Truma and PTSD in their conversation and even having the best friend there and that bs apologize that the Maid of honor gave is lame i would never talk to them again and I would tell the husband they don’t mean anything and just want people to shut up about things they don’t really want to fix it

[@H.P._Lovecrafts_Beloved_Cat]

Story 2: Counter argument: If it just a bunch of pixels, niece should have no issue sending the stuff back.

[@gngrblls2thwall]

S2: "I couldn't tell which items were were stolen so I just transferred all of them" - Based

[@adrestiaceaser3011]

Story 2: 800k in Robux is $10k in real life. Add the $5M worth of items and the niece stole a rough total of $72 thousand dollars from OP's daughter. It's a damn good thing she got them back.

[@Azulakayes]

Whoa

[@Misspellednumbers]

You might need to adjust your math a bit. :> The "ingame currency" they're talking about is Royal High's currency "diamonds," not Robux just yet. So OP's niece stole 800k diamonds and an inventory worth 5 million diamonds. Royal High does have micro transactions, so the maximum currency you can purchase is 240,000 diamonds for 8,000 robux. I played RH for a while once, the effort OP's daughter put into the game is insane. Imo, getting any limited-time item there was horribly time consuming and grindy. 😬

[@hollyberry0602]

@@Misspellednumbers as someone who used to play and still visits Royale High, it takes a lot of time to earn diamonds!! I feel so sorry for OP's daughter, losing all your hard work like that is devastating.

[@stirrednotshaken4823]

Heard this one the other day on another channel and they figured it out and they came up with between $800-$900 actual money.

[@adrestiaceaser3011]

@@Misspellednumbers Oh, ok. I don't really play roblox, so I used an online calculator that shows the vaulue of a robux to a dollar and searched the amount of robux that was said to be taken and the value of the items in robux that was taken. I wasn't aware that there were other forms of currency in the game.

[@BloodSunBlast]

Story 2: NTA It wasn't over a game. It was over the fact she stole from the other kid. So what if it was just in game. It's still stealing.

[@wvanyar1801]

My thought is what is next? A homework assignment, money, clothes, if some starts to steal, where does it end?

[@aduckofsomesort]

Glad the daughter got her stuff back, and now hopefully she also learned to always log out before stepping away from your game.

[@nutty77]

I'm on anti depressants, no shame.I have tried over the years to come off them, but I just spiral, so obviously I need them. OP sounds as though she is on the right path and has her life back on track. Her sister and the friend are vile pieces of crap, and if the husband was angry, then the sister has obviously been hiding her true personality from him.

[@beccaf262]

Good for you I have had a similar journey trying to come off them and it can be hard to accept that you’re better off taking them than falling victim to societal stigma.

[@nutty77]

@@beccaf262 tbh, I fought against taking them 20 years ago it was see as shameful. I've now been on them for 10 years and they really help. I will tell anyone if they ask, my partner is also taking them for past trauma, and we're coping fine. I think social perception has changed over the years about mental health.

[@TH-hy9kr]

There is no shame in needing medication to balance out biological chemistry that's out of whack. It is not a personal failure of any kind. Good on you for recognizing that you don't feel right when not on them and maintaining your regimen to work towards good mental health.

[@nutty77]

@@TH-hy9kr thank you. I came round to the fact I do need them, despite having counselling. I think growing up, it was seen as shameful, and something my mum very much agreed with. It was only in the last few years of her life that she realised how wrong she was.

[@vrsalcedo7245]

There is ZERO SHAME if a person needs anti-depressants! I will be on anti-depressants for the rest of my life. Why? Brain chemistry. My brain/body does not produce the necessary chemicals to keep me 'normal'. If I am off my meds for more than a day, I get headaches. If I am off my meds for more than 2-3 days, I get suicidal. I've tried to kill myself twice, once at age 13, the second time at 57. My older brother saved me the first time from an overdose of sleeping pills. The second time, my daughter ran into the garage, opened the door and repeatedly screamed at me to turn off the car. Anti-depressants for me is like insulin for a Type 1 diabetic. If you need medication to help you live a normal life, that is 100% okay - and fuck anyone who says different!

[@AndyyWithAY]

That final update in story 2 🎉🎉🎉👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 10 isn't too young for a FAFO. See if she would've just done the right thing, she'd have got to keep that super rare prestigious item

[@JoJoGranum]

Story 1: the sister and her best friend are complete and utter AH’s. I’m on antidepressants for anxiety and depression; and on ozempic for t2 diabetes. I’m not going to put up with being shamed for any of it

[@AlexRising_]

Story 2: “it’s not fair she gets everything that she wants online and in real life.” She has what she wants on Roblox because she earned it. Her cousin didn’t like being told to earn it and stole. It’s amazing how when OP’s niece stole, it was just pixels on a screen, but when OP brute forced her way into her niece’s account to return the favor, suddenly the in-game items mattered and it wasn’t fair.

[@LunaMane]

OP's sister sadly has to come to grips with the fact that her sister does hate her. And the sister's best friend validated her warped perspective. She only wanted to give her friend a clean conscience. The sister didn't care about OP at all! The sister better be ready, though, because people like her best friend don't stay friendly forever. She's going to turn on the sister soon enough and start making her the butt of ugly jokes. And the sister won't be able to call it out because she set the standard for such bad behavior. Good on OP for cutting her off!

[@theunknownone5663]

Story two: 4 years of gaming dedication and losing hits harder than people think.

[@Azulakayes]

Story 2: My 10 year olds love roblox so much. Last year one of them was scammed to join a server and lost about 150 robux on it. The tears that were shed that day...(his dad helped him recover them after 3 days and his twin got banned for a week for calling the server creator a stupid poop head over and over again). I can't imagine them losing millions of robux or their prized posessions. I am so sorry for OP and her baby girl and I am glad they got her stuff back.

[@bridgetbenson6291]

"Stupid poop head," lol. My 8yo plays, too. She was angry for the daughter in this story. She was saying the niece should be banned and arrested.

[@AndyyWithAY]

How does daughter get everything she wants?? She's been hustling in that game for 4 years. In 4 years niece could have even more. The sister needs to get her 💩 togther. She's probably the golden child and that's why OP is so over this. She's probably lived through the same type of behavior and isn't gonna let her daughter go through that from her bratty niece. This could have been a valuable lesson for the niece. Greatness takes time and effort. But, niece would rather steal from her cousin and friend. She needs to knock this off or she'll be friendless

[@MiraTheWarlock]

When someone's jealous of you it wont matter to them you worked for what you have. All they care about is you have something they don't and they want it

[@psyolytesaille]

That halo item the niece got from the lotto win would've given her a decent boost if sold for gear etc. money. Now she lost it bc OP couldn't tell whose was what and just took everything back 😆.

[@bhart3321]

Anyone else think the sister was the one caught cheating? If he was cheating then why did she leave instead of him, now he can argue she abandoned the house & go for it in the divorce. Also the unmitigated selfishness of the woman & her daughter makes me think she's the one dumb enough to cheat.

[@madambutterfly1997]

Tell your sister if she wants a place in your life she's not allowed to feel ashamed of you or embarrassed

[@wessexdruid7598]

Clearly, she doesn't. She's happy to bully her sister. The MOH didn't just do this out of the blue, Sis led her there.

[@jojoone1099]

Story 1 OP needs to say, "taking my meds won't make you less of a ...." She should match their energy.

[@Heydodoakskdkdjf]

I really hope her BIL knows what they did. Even if she didn’t, their marriage is doomed with a cruel and evil wife like that.

[@Gaawachan]

That first story had me absolutely fuming. I'm so angry for her. These posts need to get back to the family so OP can find out who she should and shouldn't cut out of her life. The update was a clear instance of physical abuse.

[@meadowsong8560]

Thank you for explaining Roblox Mark. Someone of these stories make 41 feel so old.

[@destinedtogame]

We are old lol

[@Azulakayes]

My kids are obsessed with it. They collect all sorts of items there and while explaining it to me, I just nod my head but understand nothing. When they get to watch a bit of TV on the weekend, they are just watching a guy called 'Flamingo' who plays it. For my case, at least their dad understands it better than I do so they have someone to help them with it if need be.

[@CanadianCatScratcher-ff4sl]

My heart hurts for OP, I know what it’s like to be unsupported within my family, especially when the family sides with anyone belittling me and I’m expected to shut up and put up 😢 OP, I’m sorry that your trauma and mental health is being thrown under the bus and ran over multiple times for years. I’m sorry that you’re gaslit into taking responsibility for everybody’s negative feeling even though they brought it on themselves. I hope that you find your people who will uplift and support you so that these harpies and anyone attached to them will be like dust in the wind.

[@roarkkariyama]

I remember when I tried to open up to my dad and not only did he call my anxiety and depression diagnosis bullshit to my face, he weaponizes that and the short time I tried meds. I live with him for the time being but I no longer share certain things with him and he has the audacity to wonder why I keep things superficial with him.

[@missybuchanan9631]

I was diagnosed OCD last year (at 44) and actually educating my family and being supported has been the biggest battle.

[@YellaBellaReno]

I also have OCD, and I feel you. Luckily, my immediate family has always been patient and loving, even when they didn’t understand. But outside of my family, it has always been a struggle with friends and romantic partners. Well, until my fiancé. He is still learning exactly how much of my life it impacts, but he always gives me the benefit of the doubt. The more you come to understand the scope of your own OCD, the better you get at explaining it to others, the easier it is for them to understand. It’s hard to understand something they have no experience of, and I wouldn’t wish for anyone to have to go through this. However, not understanding someone has never stopped me from being kind and assuming their best intentions. If someone can’t at least be kind, then I’ve learned there is no point in trying for understanding.

[@mgen278]

When the crap friend said she wasn’t comfortable around people with mental health issues because she ‘doesn’t know what they’re capable of’ I would’ve told her ‘that’s smart because you absolutely don’t know what I’m capable of’ 😈

[@senatorarmstrong4662]

W parents and brother for helping OP and screw the sister and the bridesmaid treating OP like that. Nobody is perfect and we all have our problems and bringing someone down for it even after that person has improved is just shameful. Also something tells me if op took a shot at the bridesmaid and said it’s just a joke they wouldn’t be laughing and most likely would’ve made op apologize.

[@LordBison98]

Story 1: What kind of sick person makes fun of someone's mental struggles? Why on a wedding too?? Sister is being a piece of sh-t too, lord have mercy on OP. Just a family of ableists. UPDT: Sister and her little Igor are absolutely horrible. Cut them off, they are not worth of being in your life. From OP's description I think I know what happened, and making fun of that is psychotic. Story 2: Reminds me when I was a teen I had this game where I would be saving up A LOT of very expensive in-game currency, and during that time my uncle, aunt and their kids were staying with us. The youngest one got to my game and spent around 70% of my savings, and what happened? When I started crying I was yelled at and was hit for "being such a brat". "She is just a kid". I'm glad OP stands like a wall for her daughter.

[@bellasmom2597]

A trauma that leaves you with PTSD is severe. For abusive sister to intentionally replicate behaviors to trigger the PTSD is EViL. For sister to be ashamed of a struggle of someone who has been victimized is EVIL. NC can oy be a good thing.

[@lostshadows768]

Story 1: In some ways it feels worse that they're mocking someone with PTSD. Not just struggling with mental health issues, but struggling with them after something awful happened to you.

[@sandeesandwich2180]

S2: OP, tell your daughter to change her password!

[@thylionheart]

Story 1: I hope the sister’s new husband takes notice of OP going no contact and figures out that the woman he married is a cruel and vicious person

[@spockezri]

praying that brother in law in the first story is able to get a quick annulment and move on with his life bc it sounds like he was as horrified as everyone else....sir it's not too late please run

[@MMKMoore1]

Story 2 - Interesting how it's "only pixels" when it's not their kid crying, but they feel righteous anger when it's their spawn crying when they lose their stolen stuff.

[@leelourose2503]

S1.. NTA. The sister is taking OPs past trauma and using it against her and has gone from mean girl to psychotically cruel. I hope OP tells the parents everything those two AH did that made her go NC and make it a permanent break. Sister did not apologize, she just doubled down on her and her friends cruelty at her wedding.

[@CouncilEstateRach]

That little girl will grow up thinking its ok to steal..mum lets me. No wonder op never got along with her sister.

[@tazhienunurbusinezz1703]

Story 2: Beginning to understand why husband wants a divorce.

[@bhart3321]

I'm betting sister was the one caught cheating.

[@tazhienunurbusinezz1703]

@@bhart3321 It's crazy cuz I'm sure had the sister came to OP & told her how the niece was feeling & asked if there was anything they could do to make niece feel more included (before the kid stole), op sounds like the kind of aunt who would bent over backwards to help. Maybe talked to her kid to see if there was anything she would be willing to share & then bought a card so niece could start building her own inventory.

[@swiftninja91]

Story 1 - If anyone talked about my sisters like that, I'm assuming they want to fight me. Op's sister and mean girl friend are awful

[@pris1378]

i'm pretty sure nobody needs a guess as to what happenen to op. which makes sister's behaviour even more heinous.

[@loganjoh1]

Story 1: the fact that she went out of her way to bring up OP to make that “joke” about her mental health is wild to me like why was OP mentioned in the maid of honor speech at all at her sisters wedding?

[@MarkNarrations]

Happy Sunday all, hope you've had a wonderful weekend

[@roseanne74]

5:15am Monday in Queensland Australia! 😂

[@tulipberry1248]

I’m not ready for Monday 😭

[@roseanne74]

@@tulipberry1248 neither am I. Add to that the fact that it’s our winter over here, it’s dark as a black cat in a coal mine at midnight and icy (sub zero °C this morning), and I’m now opting to pull the blanket over my head an hide for another couple of hours!!

[@KarinWaffle]

Hey hey Mark just got back from a long weekend in Norfolk. Hope your holiday was chilled and enjoyable

[@FlamesofJagger]

Heyyo Mark. I hope you are having an excellent day

[@TI3RU]

Given where OP is afraid to be touched after "something happened," I can guess a couple different options on what happened. Those options are horrifying, but regardless of what it was, OP's sister is a monster for intentionally using that trigger. OP should let husband know who he really married, given how he got upset it sounds like he doesn't know the full extent.

[@poetryqn]

Story 2: Somehow, I'm not surprised that OP's brother in law cheated on his wife. She and her spoiled daughter sound entitled as hell, and must be horrible to live with.

[@anthonygilmour6236]

At this stage we only know the sisters side of the story.If I was OP I'd get in contact with her sisters ex. I wouldn't be surprised if it was the sister cheating and the husband found out the niece wasn't his kid.

[@leannecanty8821]

Still not okay. Leave the marriage before messing around with other people.

[@bhart3321]

​@@anthonygilmour6236Was thinking the exact same thing! She didn't leave she was kicked out & given her unmitigated selfishness it wouldn't surprise me one bit. How often do we see cheaters try to blame shift or control the narrative with outright lies.

[@Goliath_mindset]

​@@anthonygilmour6236 I came here to say the EXACT same thing. Bet theres a DNA test shes leaving out too, but even if thats not part of it, everything said lines up with the entitled attitude.

[@bhart3321]

Anyone else think the sister in story 2 was the one caught cheating? If he was cheating why did she leave instead of him, now he can argue she abandoned the house & go for it in the divorce. Also the unmitigated selfishness of the woman & her daughter makes me think she's the one dumb enough to cheat.

[@Weirdandwonderfull19]

😮Had to pause story 1 in the update to take a minute to cool down. OPs "sister" and her friend are absolutely vile, they are the types of people who drive others to self deletion. OP is so much better off without trash like that in her life, I really wish OP the best on her healing journey and hope she realises she's a thousand times better than people like that. The sister and her little buddy need to grow up, their behaviour is the sort of thing would would expect from 13 year old bullies, not adults. I truly hope the sis and her friend don't have children because they're not the sort of people who should be allowed to rub off on an impressionable child. Even worse, if their children ever develop mental illness then are they going to be equally abusive towards those children? Scary to think about.

[@watermellie]

Was so proud of that mom for stealing her kids stuff back, niece is lucky she didn't delete account after!

[@martinstallard2742]

NTA for leaving the wedding early

[@joycetaepke2533]

My daughter was told the same thing about antidepressants. It took YEARS for her to let me take her to a psychiatrist. She’s so much happier now with medication and therapy.

[@fendisugiri1247]

As a gamer, I felt great knowing the dad gave the niece much needed justice and the daughter is made whole.

[@leonievanheerden7090]

Up vote anyone else here thinking that the mean sister in story 1 isn't going to stay married very long, and that the toxic friend of mean sister will encourage the break up 😀

[@ratgoddess9196]

Even if she didn't put real money into the game, the daughter still put a lot of her time and effort into it. She worked for what she had, and the niece didn't

[@nelissaortiz5405]

They way she talked about the sister being all handsy with her made me physically uncomfortable she needs to never be in the same room as her again

[@madcatlady]

sounds like OP was assaulted since she had PTSD, her sister and MOH are pure evil and best hope they never experience trauma in their lives

[@lolalo6344]

story 2: "hacking" someones game that they use as a distraction for their troubles can have incredibly bad consequences. in high-school i knew someone and for him it was just the last straw. he ended up taking his own life over it.

[@habituallearner7680]

Last story: Mom handled that like a boss by getting back the items her nasty niece stole. Now that she has the items back I hope she can take further action to have the niece banned from Roblox entirely.

[@abridgedxobsessed]

Story 2: op's sister claimed that op was cruel for making her "homeless" over a kids video game, but she didn't. Op's sister made herself homeless when she refused to accept her sisters request and indulged her daughters poor behavior instead. It's not op's fault that her sister decided it was more important to her that her daughter keep her stolen gear than keep a roof over both of their heads.

[@coldsilverrain9896]

I cried for the first OP. The sister doesn't deserve her in her life. I wish behaviour like this could be legally punished. Crazy that people can just hurt and traumatize people for life and just get away with it.

[@eileenheath1968]

Sister: You're making us homeless over a video game! OP: And you are saying that to the wrong person.

[@loganjoh1]

BIL needs to divorce OP’s sister

[@1281bexta]

I hope OP's daughter makes a new account to transfer everything to so if the sister or niece decide to try get her account banned, they ban an already empty one. living in the age of entitlement.

[@littleolmee]

S1: I'd tell her parents & brother how the sister acted and put her hands on her right where OP is triggered. How sister & her friend were still taking potshots at OP as she left. I'd also tell her sister's husband & let him know that OP is going NC with them & tell him she hoped no one on his side, his future kids, or himself ever has a traumatic event in their lives that leads them to have PTSD because sister will treat them like shit just like she did her own sister. S2: NTA. OP's sister & her daughter are entitled as hell. Good on OP for hacking the niece's account & taking everything. Sometimes experience is what is needed to learn a lesson. I'd have her daughter change her password & account name too so her niece can't hack her again.

[@arunyasuresh9228]

If the person the joke is directed at is not laughing/genuinely okay with it, it’s not a joke.

[@beccaf262]

Mark thank you for being open about your struggles and your journey with medication. It’s still so misunderstood and people shouldn’t have to feel shame for getting help.

[@BbiBbii]

So for reference on the last story. I play Roblox with my little siblings and nieces, we all play royal high and as the only adult I do spend money on it. We’ve been playing that game for YEARS and my little sister just recently got her first halo. That game is RUTHLESS with money 😅 Everything is expensive and the drop rate of halos are extremely low. Not to mentioned it takes forever to gain enough in-game currency to buy any of the good items, hence why I just spend money and give the items to whatever family member wants them. So yeah I can 100% see why OP’s daughter was so upset when ALL her items were gone.

[@meganb.higgins973]

Stealing is wrong whether in the virtual world or the real one. I wouldn't tolerate having a thief under my roof either.

[@lindaomoefe4156]

The last story. Do unto others what you want to be done to you. Since she was OK with her daughter stealing from yours, she should be thrilled that her daughter's roblox account items were transferred back to your daughter. Why is she freaking out now? She is two faced.

[@star3catcherSEQUEL]

Story 2: When the mom hacked the niece back lmao. The only time that a grown adult stealing from a child put a smile on my face! 😂 Good mom!

[@annabethsmith-kingsley2079]

Her sister hates her, she needs to accept that.

[@cassieosbourne7666]

When the sister put her hands on OP, I audibly gasped. Feels like sister was deliberately trying to trigger OP during the meeting so that she and her friend could turn around and say ‘see how unstable she is?’

[@crazyibel]

story 2: I hope they triple protect the daughters account and didn't admit in text what she did.

[@Raggmopp-xl7yf]

S1: OP should stay NC with her sister. The fact she put her hands on OP SPECIFICALLY where she knew it would upset her the most and getting into her face says everything. Then she laughs at her sister AGAIN!? Yeah - nobody needs that. S2: Dang - I'm an old lady (been gaming since I was a kid) and I'd be PI$$ED if someone emptied my inventory. I'm glad OP return-hacked the niece. Can you imagine the gall to steal from someone who spent time with and played with you? And the fact OPs sister refused to discipline her daughter and make her return what she stole tells me everything I need to know about her character. I'll even bet that BIL isn't nearly the villain her sister painted him to be.

[@Daug555]

S1: The sister and her friends are abusive asf. No contact. S2: Just a bunch of pixels on a screen …GOLD 😂!

[@Cassiopea525]

As someone with PTSD as well, hearing that the sister touched a known point of discomfort made me so angry. When people use knowledge of your vulnerability against you that is the worst kind of bullying and abuse. It’s part of why I can be hesitant to tell people what things would make me uncomfortable because I’m terrified it will be used against me.

[@MsUnamusedNerd]

STORY 2: imagine, having such a worthless pride you are willing to become homeless instead of telling your daughter to give back the virtual items because you’re such a spiteful C U Next Tuesday. Just tell your daughter to give the endgame items back. Jfc I’m glad mom got her daughter’s items back. Hope the niece feels her cousin’s pain when she logs into her account seeing her inventory empty. Awesome when Sister got mad OP said the exact same stuff to her sister said to her. “your daughter should count herself lucky the only thing she has to worry about is pixels on a screen.” I love opportunities when the tables have turned, and you can throw their words right back in their face because they can’t back out of it, unless they’re not smart enough to realize they’re being a hypocrite.

[@FanFicnic]

That sister is unbelievably cruel. What an absolute putrid soul.

[@DFullerLisa]

Story 2 - it's more than just a game. It's leading her to interests in new hobbies like coding. If she continues in coding that creates jobs down the line. It's about boundaries. If I was the mom I'd go and steal some of the Nieces items and hide it and make her miss it for awhile.