AITA Perfume I Buy My Wife Is What My Late Wife Used To Wear (r/aita)

[@MarkNarrations]

🧇🧇🧇🧇🧇 Where you at?!

[@littelmissgaga]

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[@shithead1029384756]

Waffle up! Ready to go! 🧇🧇🧇🧇🧇🧇

[@justjenny5437]

Here! 🧇🧇🤟🏻🤟🏻

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

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[@Sean.notShaun]

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[@0Jenna7]

Op didn't force the wife to wear dead wife's perfume, he tricked her into doing it by presenting it as a gift. It was highly wrong of him to do so and shows he isn't over his dead wife at all. I'm all for grieving and coping however you may, that doesn't include harming someone else. And you better believe he harmed his current wife by doing this. He could have made a shrine for her, or a memorial, placed a picture somewhere, sprayed on perfume occasionally to remember her. Now his living wife has to deal with the thoughts that she's just a replacement wife and if he sees her at all or just someone he can project onto. Someone who will never quite be his "real" wife.

[@Toni_Snark]

Wow. He was not ready for another wife.

[@TsukiKageTora]

OP literally lying to himself to make himself feel better. Telling his family not to tell his wife he was giving her the perfume his late wife wore means it isn’t “it should be ok, it’s not wrong” because going behind his wife’s back isn’t right and OP knows it.

[@altair8514]

Legends tell of a man, a British man, a man who would not stop uploading AITA VIDEOS!

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Lol

[@MarkNarrations]

Never! 🧇

[@altair8514]

@@MarkNarrations come on, Mark, there is a way out of this.

[@lizcatty9281]

@Altair851 Don't u dare go giving him the idea he could get away from all the little waffles he's created hehehe!😜 Much love 💙🇦🇺

[@BiteSizedCrafter]

hahaha Yes.

[@lunashadow9221]

The fourth story: I’ve known people who’ve lied about almost the same story, running away from husband, while on her way to buy designer so 🤷‍♀️

[@scarletshadows459]

Story 3: Bro wtf?! As a woman if you gift your current SO a gift, an ex of yours use to like, it be so freaking weird. I would think what the wife thinks too

[@ciomaria6137]

My mother used to use a particular type of scented soap that I wasn’t very fond of when she was alive. (She wasn’t too much into a signature perfume as she liked to borrow mine and I’ve always changed mine fairly often). However, when hen she passed, I saved a bar of the soap and every so often, I take a sniff for the memories. Scent is tied more to emotions/memories than we are consciously aware of. OP in the perfume story was definitely the AH. A loss is traumatic and using the scent as a therapy tool is acceptable. However, coercing a new spouse (even if only by omission) into becoming a living therapy tool is unethical to the spouse and likely is not helping OP’s wounded heart heal the way he thinks it is. Poor OP’s wife must be doubting so much now. Every gift of jewelry, every compliment on a new dress, every small romantic outing or gesture, she might be questioning it if they were all genuinely meant for her, or if he was trying to relive more moments with his deceased wife. OP owes his wife a sincere apology and he owes himself some counseling or therapy to finally put his grief behind him.

[@VergilTheLegendaryDarkSlayer]

Story 4 NTA She hit you because she wasn't fully paying attention, she could've killed someone, OP can settle out of court or have her sign a contract that she'll pay you back on a payment plan so her abusive ex doesn't find her

[@laurenburt8894]

Story 3: Absolutely the Ahole. As a widow who recently remarried my current husband and I regularly discuss both of our boundaries the things I do to honor my late husband. One of the key parts of getting remarried and being able to remember someone you lost in a healthy way is being able to openly talk about it and give your partner agency. Sometimes my husband is ok with participating (going places that I still enjoy, he wears some Renaissance festival garb that belonged to my late husband that I was going to sell/pass on but that he liked, etc). Sometimes he’s not (rewatching certain movies or episodes of things that will bring up memories). What OP did in story 3 is take away his new wife’s agency and consent and that’s just gross.

[@CocoCece08]

Right? I refuse to buy my MIL the same perfume my mom loved (Navy). Only if she likes it too.

[@lilianaranea7892]

Story 4: Is he entitled to take her to court for costs? Yes. Should he, considering her situation? No. Just because you can, doesn't mean you should. So, AH.

[@FriedaMMartin]

I have returned for another round of waffles and I have my syrup

[@MarkNarrations]

Good Freida, that's what I like to hear 🧇

[@PrincessInDTower]

@@MarkNarrations Nah man, the syrup is ur voice

[@giselleyfish3612]

One time i was on my bike going down the street with my friend who was walking. We were crossing a street, I went in front of a car and he went behind. Well the driver was only looking to the left when he tried to make a right turn, and he hit me, knocked me off my bike. Of course the thought of calling the police and all that crossed my mind, but the guy, a youngish Mexican- maybe late 20s early 30s, was just saying “sorry “ (in Spanish) over and over again. He was driving a pretty old and beat up car, and in my mind, I could call the police and potentially sue this guy, but how many people depend on him? How many people’s lives would take a turn for the worse, financially, if I were to sue him? He most certainly hit me but I had no injuries, maybe a small bruise - nothing memorable... and there was no damage to my bike... so I just let him go. No harm came to me and I didn’t want to be an evil person to take money from a person who is already clearly struggling. There was always the possibility of him being illegal or a family member being illegal, and people finding out because of a spotlight on the family... I just felt that I would do more harm to him that he did to me

[@olly2027]

@@giselleyfish3612 if he is in the country illegally than call the cops.he needs to be deported.

[@fcold9402]

1. NTA. You were given the ring why the heck does your sister think she gets it?

[@idolevin8795]

No he wasn't. Did you read the story? It was given temporarily to his daughter and she lost it.

[@fcold9402]

@@idolevin8795 I re-listened to it and the Grandma gave the ring to OP. The grandma gave OP the ring and made them promise to hold onto it until they got married and wore it themselves. Where did it say "give it to your sister"? Did you listen to the story? Maybe you were talking about a different story. This was story #1.

[@noraallies598]

Story 4 I took a ethics class in college which taught me there are several ethical/"what's right" ways to judge things. Bassically, there is no "right" or "wrong" way for OP, just different ethics they will follow, which can be seen as a similar or different path than what others would have gone. There is the ethics that is structured by rules and laws (Like suing for the money because it is their right by law) Societal ethics (Basing the decision on the outcome for everyone even if it isn't good for op, like dropping the claim even if they may be lying) Ethics of professional matters (If the vehicle is owned by OP's work then if they don't go after the woman it could fall on Op's shoulders for any future damage of the vehicle. OP may have undiagnosed physical damage due to the crash which they will be liable for since taking the blame for the crash legally) And the ethics that follow personal values and beliefs (The OP's personal beliefs and morals will sway them to think more one way than the other, as stated in the first few sentiences of the post)

[@rachelfox8108]

Last story: if it was me, as I wouldn't be in as fortunate position as this guy, I would take pains to set up a payment plan first. I would get this down in writing and even get it in writing. As she's fleeing with her life in her car, I would give her a grace period of six months to find steady employment, a start date to start paying me back, and agree to let her pay me back a minimum of $20 a month (she can of course give me more than that each time to pay it down faster). I'd track the payment, and agree that she can have four years from the six month date to have it paid back before I start seeking legal action. Again, this is all in writing. I appreciate her situation, I know most people in her situation would want the opportunity to make it right without feeling guilt, I'm all about making reasonable allowances and I know this kind of lenient deal would never fly in a court or magistrates. I'm not the OP though -- I can't waive away $400 like it's nothing, because it's not nothing to me.

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Whoever is reading this i send hugs and great vibes. Drink water, eat food, nap, take a break, take care of yourself gosh darn it. And if you don't I swear I will find you and keep you in a cottage and take care of you. 🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜

[@MarkNarrations]

Loving this wholesomeness and I live for it! 🧇

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@MarkNarrations but you seriously need to take care of yourself or I swear.

[@nonbinarybannana]

Ah hello again. This should be top comment

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@nonbinarybannana no it shouldn't im just a small reminder for everyone

[@juliacarpscasnotious9834]

that last sentence felt like a threat

[@Pump-King]

Last story. Yes,she said she was running away.yes,she could be telling the truth. Then again. How often do people "Ruin" children's christmases/Birthdays because they don't gift the things they are selling to choosing beggars? All OP has is her word and that is not enough to spare someone 400$. NTA

[@jazz-cat00]

??? What does Christmas and choosing beggars have anything to do with that story????

[@eaglezaruma]

Exactly, then also consider this. What if she hit someone else, someone elderly or someone with children in the car and they actually got injured or god forbid killed because of her driving recklessly. I can understand escaping but being reckless about it rather than more careful puts you more at risk of making mistakes that will screw you over which will make getting away harder if not ruin the attempt entirely. I'm not saying that she shouldn't have tried getting away but that she should be more careful while driving because if she accidentally killed somebody in the process "Sorry I'm escaping abuse" will not cut it with those who will blame her for the death of their friend/family member.

[@missluciddreams3472]

Because the woman sounds like a lying choosing beggar...let me guess, she has cancer, too

[@jazz-cat00]

@@missluciddreams3472 possible liar? Understandable. But why a choosing beggars?

[@maruwatchesyou8281]

@@missluciddreams3472 no choosing beggar, just a beggar, she is begging op not to pursue legal action

[@sherryflanigan7680]

Story 3 - I don't get how people don't understand, if you are keeping something a secret, then you know it's wrong! Why else would you keep it a secret?? What he did was really creepy! Story 4 - Wow. This really hit home for me. I wasn't running from an abusive relationship but I was an 18 year old single mother with a two year old. I wasn't getting child support, had a minimum wage job and I could not afford insurance. I got in an accident and I swear to you, there was no damage to that car but the man was a complete and utter asshole! I had to pay $1000 for nothing! I could only afford very small payments at a time and his lawyer would even harass me. It was awful! There was no compassion there at all but a little bit would have went a long way.

[@TheZombifiedFairy]

Last story: NTA, she drove recklessly. Had she HIT someone or the accident was more serious, would the redditors still be screaming "Have compassion, she's running from something". No. Accountability. Help her get a job and the first bill she has (outside of basic necessities) is paying her debt to OP. You do not get to stick someone with a bill for your mistakes no matter the circumstances.

[@MsTemptation]

Exactly. The people saying show some compassion would be singing a different tune if it were to happen to them.

[@mk_gamíng0609]

Dude the OP will get NOTHING in court if her situation is dire enough, Witch if she is running away with no money means it probably is . Then hes given the abusive Spouse a fucking map to her

[@seleneledezma3543]

@@mk_gamíng0609 IF and that's a big IF the story is true..🤷‍♀️

[@rayfordreed9304]

Story 4: Letting it for would be morally correct, but I would say filling the suit would be morally neutral.

[@BronzeDragon133]

At worst, this is Lawful Neutral. It's the letter of the law, and she was driving without insurance (a real no-no in my state at least). In my case, I couldn't afford the accident, so...would I still be TA? I don't think so. "But you're not being BEATEN!" Yeah? So now there's a spectrum of issues we have to look at before the law comes into play? I see. I don't think it works that way. NTA. Can't do the time, don't do the crime.

[@MsBELLE7]

In my opinion (I work in a prison and watch a ton of crime stories) this could be the thing that saves this woman or condems her. There's a very good possibility she is running from someone who might try to harm her and her kids. She probably has no money, so if she's taken to court, then found not able to pay, her name is put into public record, she might go to jail lose her kids to this other person and then be found and harmed, possibly killed. Because it happens far more often than people want to realize. Seriously. Foster kids can't have photos of them taken because of this kind of stuff. So yeah hes TA for not taking the chance to use his good opportunities in life for something good. He could be saving a 4 lives. Or he could condem them all. He has the money, has obviously been lucky enough to never experience this kind of pain or fear. He should be kind since he can. Even as a broke person myself if this was the case and I got hit by this woman. I'll live, my life is pretty stable. Ill figure it out. She can't atm. Compassion can have just as big of a ripple effect as acting on principle does.

[@FEKana]

@@BronzeDragon133 Except the law does take conditions into account. So yes circumstances actually matters. Such as cases were abuse victims kill their abuser in a bid to just escape. Some states will give leeway to the victim as long as they can prove thag the victim was under intense emotional disturbance during the crime,which could help excuse victim's actions. They also need to prove other things like history of abuse etc. I'm not a lawyer,just a student studying a bit of law,and from my understanding...yes the law really does depend on circumstances. So we really should go with the "Can't do the time, don't do the crime" way of thinking. But to be fair,the Op would have a winning case against her. Personally I'd just take the loss,but then again I don't own a car so I wouldn't know how I feel about the situation.

[@BronzeDragon133]

@@FEKana Sorry, no. I'm not beating her. She hit me. Still TA. She gets to pay. This argument does not apply.

[@Charlotte-lk3vb]

The last time I was this early people still skipped the initial waffle

[@MarkNarrations]

Madness! 🧇

[@D1Rebound]

@@MarkNarrations pancakes are better

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@D1Rebound the scandal

[@MarkNarrations]

@@D1Rebound I....I....I......nooooooooooooooooooo! You enjoy what you love my friend :)

[@missluciddreams3472]

Some still do...lol

[@TsukiKageTora]

That last story I would go with NTA. Affording repairs is one thing, but he is out of that money because of someone else. The lady though could pay in increments like a few dollars per week and neither of them need to go to court. It doesn’t matter the situation, the lady was in the wrong. Sure OP doesn’t need to take it to court but she should take responsibility instead of trying to back away from the situation to begin with no matter what her story is (especially if it is a scam)

[@darkmantlestudios]

Story four, I'd probably just try to hold her to get word to pay me later, i wouldn't get the court involved

[@darkmantlestudios]

@Zyx Zenyx If shes lying for help, that says something about her If i refuse to help someone who says they need it, that says something about me.

[@anonymousbrooks8194]

As an American I absolutely love nightmare tenant and nightmare landlord. It's very fun to watch.

[@DuckTapeWarrior1]

My dad is getting tested for COVID so we’ll be in quarantine at least till we get the result back. I’ll be even more thankful for these videos even though I almost never leave the house anymore.

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Oh no i hope that your dad doesn't have it and if he does that he has a fast and non taxing recovery. I send hugs 🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜 and if you want someone to talk to here is my discord broken_queer_but_fighting #1451

[@MarkNarrations]

Hopefully your Dad and family is all ok DuckTape!

[@joaolima7131]

I Hope you dad doesn't have it, I lost mine in september due to covid, and my birthday is coming up, it will be my first without him, I wish you and your family the best

[@Akiku2]

I'll be getting tested soon myself (at mom's insistence) just to see if either mom or I have been exposed to it.

[@BronzeDragon133]

Best of luck to you and your father!

[@bunggbungg7787]

Story 4 is NTA, this is what happens when you dont have insurance. She is entitled to her money for the accident regardless of her situation.I personally would give the lady a month to come up with the money

[@finnorourke4861]

I feel OP should wait for the lady with the abusive ex to actually have the money before asking for it. She needs to pay for her mistake, however she clearly can’t at the moment for very good reasons

[@finnorourke4861]

@Zyx Zenyx I’d try and argue with you, however we clearly don’t see eye to eye on a fundamental level. I think that she has good cause for being scared about the scenario, and I think this solution would fit with OP’s mindset of paying for your mistakes. I heavily dislike your attitude towards this as it is very unsympathetic however I can understand where you are coming from.

[@joaolima7131]

@Zyx Zenyx Well yeah but OP said that $400,00 will not impact much on his life, and if something would happen to her because her case/record got public, OP would never forgive himself, it's not worth it being felling guilty over this

[@moarkrabsvids7601]

not tryna cause a fight or anything but what if the woman hit an elderly person or someone with kids, what happened if the person she hit got injured, she was irresponsible and is trying to wriggle out of paying $400 . If I were OP I would tell her to pay, not to mention she could have been lying to get out of it.

[@finnorourke4861]

@Zyx Zenyx not once did she lie. The only thing she did was dodge the question of insurance because she didn’t have any

[@finnorourke4861]

@@moarkrabsvids7601 yeah this would typically go into NTA, but because of these particular circumstances I would say OP would be.

[@notoriousd.i.g.87]

For story 4, op is NTA imo. The overall situation is very complex and messed up for both of them and the choice op has to make is whether or not to be a better person and let everything slide and help the woman by not suing her. But I don't think his choice to not be a more empathetic person makes him the TA. Maybe set up a payment plan or create a contract to allow her to pay you back after a year of getting set up.

[@noraallies598]

Story 4 A lot for the replies read over don't mention that if OP does let the woman go without a trail then if OP ends up having underlying injuries from the collision then OP will likely have no coverage since they take on the responsibility of the collision from a legal standpoint. Insurance companies like to find loopholes like this and this may be $400 no but it could be a big problem later, and what if the woman is lying? No deed goes unpunished, good or bad.

[@rinpaisys]

Story 4: I would rather risk her lying and getting away with it than than I would the consequences of suing and she was telling the truth. Even if I would never be able to know, it would keep me up at night.

[@susanlayton2143]

In the first story, OP's grandmother gave her the wedding ring and told her to hang onto it until she got married then use it for HER wedding ring, to me the sister can kick rocks, Grandma did not give OP the ring and tell her to hang onto it until whichever of her or her sister got married first then give them the ring, she gave OP the ring and told her to hang onto it until SHE got married.

[@greatshax68]

For the first story: as an alternative, I'd get a cheap duplicate made and set it out for the sister, while putting the real thing into a safe or somewhere safe

[@toffiet3347]

10:42 ok so no one else is gonna point this out like he said he wouldnt change her hair because they dont look alike, does that mean if they looked similar he would. That statement creeps me out so much

[@rhylla_864]

Right? I came to a screeching halt there

[@cody.b0658]

i think he meant it differently then that. i think he just wanted to say that he wouldnt try anything like that.

[@ravertaking6343]

My landlord from hell required 45 days notice if I moved. He was required to give me 30 days if/when he sold the house. So, he sells the house, gives me 21 days to find a new place and move and clean the house. It was difficult but I did it. Then he refused to return my security deposit because there was a stain on the carpet. He SOLD the house! Took him to court and I lost. He was so paranoid he thought his realtor and I were in cahoots because she sold me my house. The best part was the woman who bought the house called the realtor a week or so later complaining the AC stopped working. Realtor said, "Welcome to home ownership." It was working fine when I moved out.

[@chloeviolets6865]

I may be controversial in saying this but story 4 ESH. Yeah the woman is going through a tough time at the minute (according to what she told OP), but she was driving recklessly and not paying attention with children in the car. That's never okay in my eyes. What if one of the kids hadn't been wearing a seat belt? They could have been seriously injured. OP should look into the validity of her story, and if it all adds up and they still want to pursue a legal option they are a bit on the a-hole side, but not enormously so in my eyes. You don't drive recklessly with kids in the car regardless.

[@Akichan07]

*pours all the syrups on me* WAFFLE GANG!!!!

[@MarkNarrations]

Get that syrup!🧇🧇

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

🧇🧇🧇🧇

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@Paxton s that sound delicious 😋

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@Paxton s I bet

[@glitter_smack016]

My mom gave me some old clothes of hers from storage and they smelled like her old perfume she used to wear all the time. I swear I had flashbacks lol.

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Mark I know that you are seeing this so I'd advise that you do these things. Take care of yourself, eat, sleep, drink water, take breaks. Don't work yourself to the bone. I really hope that your dad gets better soon and I send hugs💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗.

[@MarkNarrations]

BLess you mate, thank you so much and you take care of yourself too and keep spreading that wholesomeness. It's spreading smiles when the world needs it right now.

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@MarkNarrations I will if you do and you are also a very wholesome person and deserves so much

[@elizabethkaebisch7785]

Put the ring in a bank box where you need to sign in to get let in the safe, especially if she looks like you. Never let anyone try on the ring because that person May not return the ring to you, but return it to your sister.

[@toffiet3347]

10:42 ok so this statement creeps me out so much like he hasn't asked her to do anything like change her hair because they dont look alike, does this mean he would ask her if they did look alike.

[@LS-jv9hp]

TBH Its probably just him not explaining himself properly with that

[@toffiet3347]

@@LS-jv9hp still gives me the willies

[@thedarkestkinghtstar]

@@LS-jv9hp Did he though, not say it how he meant? I think he might've found it difficult to separate the two if they looked physically alike. I only guess this because instead of spraying her perfume on a pillow, a shirt, etc he gave it to his wife just so he could have the scent of his previous wife when his current wife is around. Scent is a very personal thing, that's why widows will keep a shirt of theirs, have a perfume/cologne of theirs and spray the shirt, blanket, etc. You associate that scent with that person and it brings comfort; that's not the issue. The issue is when you have your partner, unknowingly, wear your previous spouses scent to give you comfort in memory of them and not the living breathing person in front of you. You end up mixing their scents together and that's not fair to anyone involved. Not the individual, not the passed spouse, or the current spouse. In short, she deserves to have her own "scent" that he loves and associates with her. He doesn't have to forget or even get rid of his previous wife's perfume; just not have his current wife wear it, even if he doesn't make her. Him not telling her and asking others not to tell her shows he knows he's in the wrong but he's still recovering from her passing and it's not healthy to mix the scent of his previous partner with current.

[@willj24]

For story four, I’m curious how many of the people calling the OP TA for not letting it go are jumping forward and offering to donate some money towards the $400. It’s always amazing how many people are willing to tell other people what they should do with their money.

[@ratoim]

OP4: May you be shown the same mercy you show this woman. When you are running late to catch your flight, send a package, or get an official government stamp on documents, may the gatekeeper hold the door 30 more seconds or slam the door in your face based on whether you chose mercy or legalism.

[@fabiocandelori9163]

Or may you invent whatever lie you can to get what you want. Seriously, why are so many people falling for her lies?

[@nitrogamer8222]

Story 2 Hide a note saying 'Don't trust the landlady...' written in red.

[@kennarose783]

In my situation, $400 is a *lot* of money. But I'd still leave the dent unrepaired before dragging an abuse survivor through the courts.

[@nathan8219]

I understand what you mean with a whiff of the bottle reminds you of a lost one. My late grandpa died, but he smoked a lot, and so whenever I smell cigarettes, even though the smell gives me a headache, it also gives a weird comfort of remembering him.

[@JSainte17]

Let’s not forget OP has been married to the “new” wife FOR OVER A DECADE and still has her wearing the perfume. Let’s assume married 10 years, the bare minimum. Then let’s add on probably 2-5 years between the wife passing and meeting the new one. So, 12-15 years later, he is still unable to let go. He DEF needs therapy.

[@WhinyB]

“Once in a while, sniff the bottle.” I am sorry I don’t know why this made me laugh so hard.

[@hopetirendi2386]

That sister is nuts in story 2 she cant just get the ring because she said so. The landlady is obviously a scammer of course she knows how it works. Hey Mark maybe she will end up on "Cant Pay We'll Take it Away!!"🤣

[@flowerjpotter1629]

With the perfume... He basically lied to his present wife and misled her. That's not good. No wonder it has caused problems. It's the dishonesty that's so hurtful.

[@littelmissgaga]

Damn. If your early it's awesome, but also it's a curse. They are no comments to read while listening :(

[@beliciapinkrah3919]

Exactly right

[@JSainte17]

Scent has a much bigger impact on memories than anything else. Sure, you can see photos and videos of loved ones and think, this is the best way for me to remember them, but then you’ll be walking through a store one day, pass by someone wearing a perfume or cologne of the person you miss and your brain and heart will light up like, “They’re here!” until your eyes can communicate to your brain that they are not, and it’s like a punch in the gut.

[@dragonflyfirefly9465]

Third story - if I was the wife I would have thrown the perfume bottle at the wall.

[@TheZombifiedFairy]

That's just stupid

[@LadyLeomon]

1) NTA, if the grandmother really did give OP the ring then she did nothing wrong. 2) NTA, wanting you to keep paying after you move out? HAH! This woman is funny! 3) YTA man, seriously: “At some point, I bought it for my current wife as a gift and asked her to wear it” ... that’s kind of implied with perfume so that would’ve been weird before you even start. You asked everyone not to say anything, and they agreed and now your wife is rightfully miffed at you ... you gotta let go sometime man cos it sounds like you never got over Wife #1 (Also don’t lie, you knew you were TA when you a) asked everyone else not to say anything and b) didn’t tell your wife yourself what the perfume meant to you!) 4) NTA because a) the story about the husband could easily be bunk she made up for sympathy but also b) she was driving carelessly with children in the car! Thanks for the new vid Mark 💙🐱💙

[@hiro4344]

That last one annoys me with everyone jumping on the bandwagon on YTA. In OP's shoes I think I would keep in contact with the woman to both help her and look into whether she is actually telling the truth, maybe get the police involved with helping her out. There are programs for helping women out of abusive relationships. People use lies to pull on your heartstrings in order to get out of a situation all the time. When I first moved to the city and saw beggars at every corner I drove in certain areas, I felt bad, until my sister who I moved to be with warned me that most of the time it's a scam and they just want extra money or drug money, so instead I remain cautious and also discerning, only giving if I can see clearly, that they are in actual need. It's easy to preach "do the good thing", when you're not the one who has to make the choice. You can bet these people telling OP to drop it, have never done anything themselves to actually help anyone out of a bad situation, have never actually sacrificed anything, or gone out of their way to help someone in need, except in such situations as Christians/Catholics dropping a few bucks into the donation basket, and such.

[@thedestroyasystem]

imma be controversial and go with NAH in the last story. OP's car was hit, they incurred damages that they were not at fault for, they are entitled to financial compensation. End of story. Yes, they could be kind and drop it, and that'd make them EXTRA NTA- but overall, they were not responsible for the accident, their property was damaged, they are legally entitled to compensation. To me, it's similar to any "should I give relative in (awful situation) my (item)?" No, it's your property and you are not in the wrong for protecting it, even if the other person's circumstances are unfortunate. Assuming she's telling the truth, the other driver is NTA, either. She was escaping from an abusive situation and needed to get away- fast. This does not excuse her reckless driving. What if she had killed someone? What if she'd totaled your car? Would they be calling YTA then? As a fellow survivor, I absolutely sympathize with her, so despite her driving I'd say she's NTA. I can understand the stress of that situation, and the fear that follows from your ex being able to find you through court records and owing money you don't have the ability to pay. Ultimately though, the crash was her fault, and she is the only one responsible for compensating you. In my opinion, you should absolutely drop it. But protecting your property does not make you TA regardless of the other person's circumstances. You have the chance to take the high road and be the better person. You should take it. But even if you don't, I will not label you TA. Just be sure you're okay with the implications on your moral character taking this route will hold.

[@bartvansliedregt5482]

Thank you for typing this out. It is pretty much exactly what I think about this unfortunate situation.

[@Jacky.c.v]

I would sue her because I'm poor and 400 is a massive amount

[@ohno8398]

The third one is tragically unsettling

[@JootjeJ]

Last story: me being the person (idiot?) I am, I would probably end up helping her move out of the bad situation (or being conned out of more money) instead of taking her to court.

[@heavenleigh2768]

I always love listening to your videos while I do my cleaning around the house

[@MarkNarrations]

Happy to keep you company doing those pesky chores Heaven!

[@VHEmpress]

Story 3: Husbands family have all told him that he's TA privately. His wife told him he's an AH. He still writes the story in Reddit to try to find someone who agrees with him and fails. You are the AH husband, but you already knew that!!!

[@sephaya1563]

NtA in the last story. God knows if the story she told was true. And if she would truthfully pay back the money she could have suggested a payment plan herself (because some comments say that they would do it in OPs situation.) She lied about having insurence and then about paying back the money. I can totally understand OP. It is his car and it was lucky that nothing major happened but the woman can't just get the "I get abused" card (I don't believe her and many people just say it to get pity) to get out of these situations.

[@Raserei333]

hearing all these stories about terrible landlords makes me feel really, really lucky that my landlord is awesome. The landlord I had before my current was terrible though, so I understand where people come from.

[@digit5465]

These stories are sweet as syrup, story 3 tho is quite sad. That guy needs to get over his late wife a little more honestly. I understand keeping a bottle, but asking his new wife to wear it is a little odd imo. It’s best to keep it around and spray some in the air to remember

[@Akichan07]

Seriously if i ever make it as a comedian Im making a video of me pouring syrup all over me screaming waffle gang

[@littelmissgaga]

Let's all do it!

[@MarkNarrations]

LOL 🧇🧇

[@Akichan07]

@@littelmissgaga I'm down if you are!

[@lessimeharuhi4236]

Small claims court can work with you to make installment payments sometimes. She could do 10 bucks a week for 40 weeks until its paid off

[@Starvin-Marvin]

Story 4: She lied once about the insurance, when that didn’t work, she said she’d pay him back, when that didn’t work, she claimed she was fleeing abuse... It sounds like you’re dealing with someone who keeps changing stories until she finds one that works.

[@mk_gamíng0609]

Dude you clearly dont know that sometimes dire situations mean you do dire shit. If I was running from someone , I would not be thinking straight and I would use whatever I could to get out of any confrontations getting in my way.

[@sarahprice659]

I was in line to purchase some face cream or something, and I saw the woman behind me was holding a bottle of the shop’s signature perfume. I commented that it was a great scent. She agreed, and told me that she actually likes it very much, but she is returning it because it’s what her ex/girlfriend’s mom wore. Scents are powerful and evocative things. I don’t know that the problem was you didn’t tell her about the perfume, but that you gave it to her at all. Keeping a little bit to remind you of your late wife isn’t creepy, it’s understandable. Giving it to your second wife, not telling her how you are familiar with the scent, and then insisting, long-term, that other people not tell her... that is creepy.

[@GeorgiaDLee]

Story 3: You stopped being a sympathetic character when you presented the trick... I mean "gift" to your replacement wife. Justifying gross creepy behavior turns you from sad lost and desperate into an actual villain in your marriage and family. A decade of bad behavior overrides the trauma that caused it.

[@kierstenfish9324]

Story 3 after the 2nd paragraph that's all I needed to hear, grief counselor that's my judgment.

[@DingoTheDemon]

Wow, that last story. $400 is a STEAL getting out of a collision. $400 is a lot to me, but I would honestly just eat it.

[@targetedandfiring4336]

For story 4 - yikes its tough. For me, a struggling college student that can barely get enough to cover tuition and rent - 400 is a huge amount. 400 is more than half a paycheck to me - I would feel bad for the woman but I would pursue the funds. However that guy sounds like he didn't have to stress much over that 400 dollar repair. Compassion goes a long way so I hope he doesn't sue her if she is telling the truth.

[@Kairos_Akuma]

The Perfume: I would be ok IF I was told and could have made the decision. Soft YTA - get Therapy my Dude

[@martinprochazka3714]

I can't force myself to see the op in 4th story as TA. It just seems wrong to me that he should be paying for other peoples poor life choices. And obviously running away from an abusive husband in uninsured car loaded with children and to top it off just casually bumping into another car -- well, to me that seems like truckload of bad decisions accumulated over many years. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes or loose 400$ in this case...

[@littelmissgaga]

Omg qwq mark is reading the comments! Hi!! Awesome videos Love to listen while work or just chilling. Thanks for your hard work ❤️

[@MarkNarrations]

I read all comments, can't always reply but I do read all :) How you doing miss gaga!

[@littelmissgaga]

I'm fine! Even if the lockdown started today in my country. I'm totally fine chilling at home and listening to KZbin 😁 I saw your comment below someone's else comment. Your doing decent. I hope covid 19 doesn't hit you too hard. >~

[@tiamatmianthrope775]

In the last story OP is not the asshole. No matter the circumstances we are all responsible for our actions. And actions have consequences

[@flowerjpotter1629]

The insurance and the escaping woman... The lady not having insurance isn't the OPs fault. If she doesn't want to go to court maybe someone in her family could pay you without going to court. I know the woman said she was escaping an abusive husband, but she escaped charges from the police, she got away with having no insurance which is an offence. I've helped someone in an abusive situation and when I asked for payment for the service, I went above and beyond, she refused to pay and threatened to set abusive husband on me ! I'm just saying even though you can feel sorry for someone it doesn't protect you from being scammed. Also, why didn't she ask the police for help ?

[@fhuber7507]

Car accident. The other driver cause damage... they need to pay for it. And ALWAYS call police for any car accident.

[@veravanriet2761]

I couldn't watch the videos when they were posted yesterday because I was playing Pathfinder. But hey, that means a lot of fun content to catch up on in the morning :)

[@knitwit9447]

I do worry for story 4, because if she's telling the truth, and she is escaping her husband (abusive, maybe?), the public record from small claims could put her in danger. I know that personally, as long as I was physically okay and my car wasn't totaled, I'd let her go. She could be lying, sure, but I don't want to take that chance. I've been in abusive situations and I feel for anyone trying to escape. It's a really tricky situation, because there could be legal ramifications for both parties.

[@paden1865able]

I have fruit and whipped cream for my waffles! Much love to you and your dad, Mark!

[@n3rdv10l3nc3]

If my spouse bought me their late spouse's parfum & didn't tell me what it was -- essentially, removing my informed consent -- and I didn't find out until a DECADE after I'd, essentially, been made some creepy scent doppelganger, I'd have divorce papers ready. Then again, I probably wouldn't date a widow/er, because I'm self aware enough to know I'd probably have insecurity issues & I wouldn't put myself or them through that.

[@cheyannewatkins]

I would get a cheap lookalike and protect it like the real ring. She'll try to steal it and get married with a fake.

[@selbarton]

The poor wife finding out all those times he bought her perfume because he wanted his dead wife and wasn't thinking of her at all. And then he doesn't get that his lying by omission their entire marriage and making her a body to stand in is bad. The car accident story: her situation is complicated and OP might be very sorry for pushing it. I work in a tax office, have for years. One year a girl came in that needed the money to escape her boyfriend. He was going to kill her if she didn't get out soon, with a baby in the mix. I couldn't do anything to help her cover the fees, but I made every suggestion to help her try to find a way to get it though slower, but cheaper. She left leaving her documents with me to find the money to cover it. She didn't get the money, and he killed her a few weeks later. And this OP is worried about $400 that he could but won't spend on his car to further put a woman in danger.

[@tegantalks9612]

Story 2- NTA. I’m in Canada so things might be a little different but here when you cancel utilities the company defaults the account back to the landlord. My dad is my landlord and when we moved into a different house of his, the utilities at the old place were billed to him again. Sounds like the landlady just doesn’t want to pay the utilities and is lazy.

[@fabiocandelori9163]

Sorry Mark, but I'll have to disagree with the last story. Unless the possibly abusive husband was chasing after her in another car (which, given how the accident played out, seems unlikely), she had no reason to drive recklessly. Also, far too many people are willing to lie to avoid the consequences of her behaviour, so I am skeptical of her story. That being said, it is true that she would at the moment being judgement proof. Where I OP I would wait for her to be in a better financial situation before asking for the money back, but still, NTA for me.

[@MarkNarrations]

Nothing wrong with disagreeing Fabio, would be boring if we all had the same opinion right? Thanks for getting involved :)

[@Kingin_Black]

Story 4: NTA it’s her fault she should pay. It’s doesn’t matter if she has problems she massed up so he should sue her

[@Drifter-1315]

My mom died I should be able to get away with anything I want be compassionate people please.

[@Kingin_Black]

@@Drifter-1315 sorry that ur mom died but but compassionate is a show of weakness but it’s depends on what the problem is

[@Dragonemperess]

Reminds me of a fanfiction I read where one person married a relative of their deceased love because they had the same eye color. DEFINITELY NOT HEALTHY!!!

[@fhuber7507]

2... NTA. Not the renter's responsibility to pay for utilities after they move out.

[@Mspryce4]

Enjoyed the waffles earlier so I thought I’d come back for more. Nice🧇😋

[@maruwatchesyou8281]

For the last story i'd have to say NAH. If i was in op's shoes i would let it be, and scold her for driving recklessly, if i called the police and they saw she was driving recklessly with children then she is more than likely going to be arrested for child endangerment and the kids would probably go back to the person she is running away from (if they were married) and the kids would be far worse, there are more than just 2 people who are involved in that story and i whole heartedly believe in the needs of the many outweigh the needs of the few

[@fhuber7507]

1... Grandma gave OP the ring. End of discussion.

[@jeancarbonneau6966]

When I used to live in Ottawa Ontario Canada, I had the electricity under my name. Before I left, I had it transferred over to my ex-girlfriend and made sure that she had hydro. It wasn't so hard for me to do this because I did it over the phone.

[@NeoLotex]

Story 1: NTA, grandma gave her the ring and made her promise to keep it until she gets married, not to keep it until anyone gets married or to give it to the one who gets married first. Story 4: Very unfortunate situation for the woman, but can't they set up a payment plan or something? There are means to handle such a situation without dropping it completely and personal circumstances, as unfortunate as they may be don't excuse damage one causes. Doesn't the insurance also increase the monthly payments in case an accident that wasn't your fault?

[@deanlewis1993]

Story 4 i feel bad for her but op shouldn't have to pay for her mistake.

[@haydennoble9253]

Story 2 I would consider myself lazy and I’ve switched utilities into and out of my name before. I may be biased as I live in a small town but it’s not that hard at all to do. I can do mine online. That land lord should get off her lazy butt and do it.

[@bonniebaldridge1248]

Much love back to you, Mark, and God bless you and your Dad. :)

[@marlon3388]

I am WAFFLE MAn

[@MarkNarrations]

🧇🧇🧇

[@shithead1029384756]

Doing everything that a waffle can

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

🧇🧇🧇🧇

[@jhonafton9729]

am I the only one who wants to call Mark, wiffle king?

[@nattyapple8572]

Lmao watching this unknowingly on x0.75 playback and wondering what in the world you took to have such slurred speech, thanks for the videos!!!

[@MarkNarrations]

Lol!🤣🤣

[@nunciomassara7534]

The last story presents an interesting moral conundrum. On the one hand, OP is right in having the letter of the law on his side. She crashed into him, and in the legal sense, they have every right to sue. But when the moral aspect comes into play, the plot thickens, as the woman seems to be running from an abusive relationship. The only evidence for this, however, is her word alone. This is where more evidence is needed. Hearsay like that is not enough, considering OP’s fondness of the law. If, however, more evidence could be provided (anything from an angry voicemail to a police report of domestic violence), then, in the moral sense, OP would be in the wrong if they still proceeded. Even if the woman is lying, she appears to be an impoverished single woman with children. If her story is true, then it would truly speak to the darkness residing within OP if he went after someone in such a sorry state, especially when they have admitted that they have no need to do so. Such cruelty is the kind of thing only reserved for the darkest corners of our society, and of mankind as a whole. Torturing someone in what may be their darkest hour is a kind of evil I dare not fathom. Given the acknowledgment of these facts, I would have to say OP is TA, though the title may not be enough.

[@meralb7929]

it's incredible how much my view of you has changed since you changed your username and your format. as daddy cringe you used to be just another funny reddit narrator, now i genuinely care about you and this channel. i don't know if it's the fact that i have a name and (cartoon) face to associate along with the voice or the more personal interactions you have with all of us now or both. i don't know, this just came to mind when i started this video. anyhow, i genuinely hope you're doing well and have a great day mark :)) your videos really make my day better and help me focus on whatever i'm doing atm lol

[@jazz-cat00]

"Daddy cringe" Oh, so our mark is a Daddy? Okay, it's official. Mark is WAFFLE DADDY!

[@MarkNarrations]

Aww Mer, this one hit me right in the feels. When I originally created the Daddy Cringe stuff it was mainly going to be meme based stuff but as we've grown in a community we've got a wide range of lovely people from all walks of life. It's really changed my perspective and thinking, thank you for being here

[@VikingsRazor]

That's one of the dumbest phases. Technically or morally correct. If it were up to most people, they would sue. There's a lot of armchair judgements going on here. At least the guy didn't fly off the handle with her. Most people would have behaved very badly in that situation. Go ahead, pot. Tell the kettle. Her problem doesn't not constitute an emergency on his part. What if she's lying!?😱. Just because he has the money, doesn't mean that she doesn't have to pay.