Told Sister Stop Saying "Family" Like It's Meant To Mean ANYTHING!

[@DuckTapeWarrior1]

It’s hilarious when the people that kicked you out then say that you’re family when they want something.

[@wrestlingfan3117]

Yeah. I wouldn’t blame OP for feeling that way because they kicked him out when he 15!!!

[@chadnorris8257]

It's weird how some of these stories are about a family disowning an individual, and having no contact for years if not decades, then pulling the family card when they want something. You kicked someone out of your life, and went no contact. You are no longer family. Apparently blood isn't thick enough, or else you wouldn't have kicked them out. This shouldn't be a difficult concept to wrap your brain around.

[@wrestlingfan3117]

@@chadnorris8257 They’re very stupid and opportunistic. They’re like ‘we can disown you, but we won’t when you have children’ or someone like that. They’re just a bunch of hypocrites that they felt hurt by OP, while not having any feeling when they disowned him at a young age.

[@chadnorris8257]

@@wrestlingfan3117 Yeah, they want to be grandparents after they disowned their child. Or they need money, or an organ, or something else. It's really sad how many self centered people decide to have kids.

[@wrestlingfan3117]

@@chadnorris8257 Indeed and have them say ‘we gave birth to you so you give us something back’. I would go crazy if I had parents like that. OP is as tough as rhino skin.

[@asherael]

If "family" means anything, than you wouldn't illegally evict your young child. Once you do that, you can NEVER, not EVER claim "family" for any reason. It's like divorcing your spouse (in some new criminal way) and THEN demanding they abide by their wedding vows.

[@anyaarcadia9166]

@Arthur Morgan I think they meant "Ohana", like Lilo and Stitch (And if so, I'm CACKLING at that) Other than that I have no clue how they jumped so far to that

[@RizzRoss9001]

@vergorance They're dead buddy

[@wilsoncalhoun]

That's great and all, but the story was about his response to his younger sister who, considering that he was only fifteen when kicked out, certainly had no say in the matter. He also states that she and his brother have been in touch with him for some time, implying that they looked for him as soon as they were able. Guy's in no way bound to make amends with anybody he doesn't want to but don't make the mistake of blaming the daughter for the transgressions of her parents. She's as much a victim here as anyone.

[@cRuchi96]

@@wilsoncalhoun right!? I'm so glad I saw your comment...like usually I'm all for running for the hills when it comes to toxic families, but yeah How much say did the younger sister have really? It doesn't excuse her actions, but to me it just seems like she's just trying to truly reconnect with her brother.

[@ashleylowther7759]

Agreed!

[@jenniferfaver595]

The blood of the covent is thicker than the water of the womb meaning family we choose is closer than the family we are born in to

[@jenniferfaver595]

Yes it is I live by this cause toxic is toxic family or not

[@demonic_myst4503]

What they mean is the original saying is older than that one its nit a reference to it

[@liviwaslost]

@@jenniferfaver595 I wish more people thought like that.

[@gingerleepuppy]

Thank you I was making sure someone made the comment. People misquote this all the time to try to say” oh you need to stand by family”. Not if they’re toxic not if they’re not good for you. Who you choose to be your family is who you stand by.

[@Jenifer_R_]

It probably has its origins in the military.

[@_Fizel_]

Why is everyone saying 'you couldn't have had the same waitress so it must be fake'? Like wtf. Restaurants don't have an endless supply of waiters people.

[@tkb5726]

Story 1: I haven’t laughed that hard in a while. OP went for the fucking _jugular._ 😂

[@BronzeDragon133]

Actually, he went below the belt, worked around there for a while, and presented the results to excellent effect.

[@alexisgrunden1556]

@@BronzeDragon133 I'd say he went for the femoral artery, but in this case, I think he went for the interior illiac artery (branches off the femoral and feeds into the groin)~

[@KE-hr4sb]

I'd say he went for the balls lol.

[@theycallmet3061]

I don't want to use stereotypical slang but honestly she had every fiber of her wig snatched.

[@Sir_Gerald_Nosehairs.]

"Blood is thicker than water" is just an English proverb, it doesn't appear anywhere in the Bible. "The Devil makes work for idle hands" is pretty similar.

[@toffiet3347]

Is that the dont wa nk one

[@jameson1239]

@@toffiet3347 yes

[@MsTemptation]

Why would it appear in the Bible? Plus how in the hell does "The Devil makes work for idle hands" sound similar in any way at all? Jeez talk about reaching....

[@gamestain1511]

The entire quote is "Blood of the covenant is thicker than water of the womb." It basically means that you CAN choose who you call family

[@rupert909]

@@gamestain1511 read the wiki page, it says that version is is a modern interpretation with no historical evidence to support that being the original quote... The idea of blood being symbolic of family dates to roman times or earlier

[@117bertold7]

The 1st story's comeback sounded like the marthyrdom achivement xD

[@femalepapyrus]

That was hilarious

[@117bertold7]

@@femalepapyrus thats right and by the power of the mighty waffle king we got to see that perfectly executed comeback

[@Picsixpirates]

Creative and awkward for the sister

[@117bertold7]

@@Picsixpirates perfectly balanced as all things should be?

[@Picsixpirates]

This is true 117

[@thislookslikepatrick5070]

S1 Honestly Gay people have the best comebacks because theres just so much can say without others being able to retort NTA

[@joimumu]

My faith is humanity is so low that I’m pretty sure OP is rich and OP family only wants his money

[@thislookslikepatrick5070]

@@joimumu wouldn't be surprised if they were.

[@jackspring7709]

Lol, when she rolled out that old chestnut "You need to let go of the past". "I have. Goodbye." would have been a well deserved answer.

[@LinneAzalea]

He clearly hasn’t though. We need a lot more INFO to that story to judge it. For me he just comes off as petty and immature 🤷🏼‍♀️

[@peteranon8455]

​@@LinneAzalea Nope, you're judging things through the lens of "family" that he owes her anything. The onus is on the person demanding things from you to offer something worthwhile in return for their time. The key statement in the story that highlights this is "This is when she got really pissed off and started to yell," which tells you that she wasn't asking anything, much less politely.

[@LinneAzalea]

@@peteranon8455 Don’t assume things. Had she been one of his parents I would have judged much harder, since I would have had enough to judge them on. In this case, I judged it based on: 1, She had nothing to do with him getting kicked out. Why? Well she is stated to be younger than him, thus she could have been anywhere between 0-14 years old, when he was kicked out. Even if she was 14, she would still have been too young to do anything. Did it ever occur to you that it might have been a really traumatic experience for her? She was too young to stop her parents and too young to help her brother. She might have loved, adored and idolized him, like many younger siblings do. Maybe she had to seek therapy for it? You have no idea, and neither do I, but it’s not a far fetched idea, is it? I for one can’t stand even imagining seeing a sibling getting thrown out at such a young age, if I myself couldn’t even help. 2, She simply wanted to meet him, but was refused in a quite harsh way. So obviously she got hurt and didn’t react in the most mature way (neither did he). She first started asking about thanksgiving, and he said no. She then asked about Christmas, and he said no. Then she simply asked about when they could meet, and he said no, that he had no will or interest in meeting her. Which of course is hurtful, no matter if it’s a sibling or a friend. He doesn’t owe her anything and has no obligation to meet her, but the fact that he doesn’t want to meet her (when we know little of the reasons behind) does make him come off as petty and immature. He has a lot of healing to do still, he clearly isn’t over his past

[@comradecommissar8223]

I really hope your father lives his last months pain free and surrounded with loving friends and family.

[@lieutenant_wong9351]

Wise words comrade

[@hagrid419]

"Blood is thicker than water" being used to show family is more important, but custard is thicker than blood, so is dessert more important than family?

[@f.ah.c2114]

You obviously never had siblings and a cake too small for everyone if you truly need to ask

[@sharkgirl3609]

Wise words of wisdom from the ground keeper.

[@Yuritsissymaid]

lol 😆 good ones hagrid

[@TheNormExperience]

Depends on the dessert. Lemon Meringue Pie? Hell yes! Fruit cake? Nahhhhh.

[@ruthgriffiths7365]

@Kageyama’s Milk You are commenting in a forum which exists to allow people to offer an opinion. If your response to opinions you don't like is to tell the poster to stfu, then you completely negate the purpose and function of debate.

[@larrackell]

Why the hell are people acting like it's so outlandish that they'd get the same server? It's not even remotely hard to believe.

[@cirqule8877]

Ikr, I go to this restaurant in my city all the time and I get the same waitress more often than I'd like to at this point lol

[@Keira_Akoma]

My thoughts exactly! Like I used to go to a restaurant once every two weeks and 9/10 times I would have the same server!

[@志瑜杨]

How does the over tipper know that the person who answered the call when he called was the same waitress? Or that she has the power to return the money, especially with him not physically being at the restaurant?

[@Good_Enough4]

@@志瑜杨 it was more than likely the manager that answered the phone, and if anyone has the power to make that change, it's them. They would be required to come back with the card that was used. However, I'm not entirely sure if that works the same way with a tip.

[@robertx8020]

@@Good_Enough4 Chances are that a creditcard tip (with an extreme amount) doesn't even go to the waitress! What is stopping a manager to tell her, he just tipped $20? Or maybe they collect it all and divide it over all the waitresses. OP could have screwed her over.

[@JasperCatProductions]

I don’t understand, if someone I care about said they couldn’t attend etc, I would say ok we’ll miss you. Like yelling,fighting, guilting someone to do what you want is so gross. If someone really missed you they would not act that way.

[@TheNormExperience]

Well said.

[@Original_Tenshi_Chan]

I'm going to go out on a limb here and speculate that the sister wanted something. Going by the way they booted OP at 15, ignored him for 20 years, and then bitched at him during every major life event after, it doesn't seem like there is any love or affection for OP with that toxic family. Maybe they wanted money, connections, etc from OP, or maybe they just wanted their proverbial punching bag there so they can "relieve stress" at his expense. Either way, I agree; they don't miss him, don't love him, and didn't invite him for altruistic reasons.

[@peteranon8455]

Yes Jasper Cat, that's what healthy people do.

[@SmoothBrainStuff]

Is it bad I actually laughed when I heard the comeback from OP in story one People are staring at me now

[@thedestroyasystem]

ikr? very creative. If his family doesn't accept him, they don't deserve to be a part of his life.

[@SmoothBrainStuff]

@@thedestroyasystem Pride acceptance 👌

[@climaxstriker]

nah that was fucking funny as fuck.

[@SilveryBlue1010]

That witty comeback killed me XD

[@RavenheartIndustries]

It was quite literally a cum-back... I'll leave now

[@Musical_Pigeon]

Story 2: Unlikely to have the same waitress in different visits!? There are places where I live in America that I consistently have the same waitress in different visits. Some have been there for years and know my drink orders without having to ask. At places on my college campus I consistently have to the same people from at the places I frequent, I've also been served by friends at some of the places. It's not like when you have a job you only get to work once a week and have no consistency.

[@clairebear-96]

Right that’s what I was thinking too! I used to go to this one restaurant all the time and I would see the same waitresses there pretty much every time! Whoever’s saying “oh i highly doubt it was the same waitress, what are the odds” Have you ever been to a restaurant regularly? the same ppl are always there lmao

[@zozocecp]

Yeah... as a waitress, I get a lot of repeat tables. Heck, sometimes my regulars are tables that just somehow, get my section every time.

[@Jessidafennecfox]

@@zozocecp much respect to you for being a waitress.

[@MrJpaynebb]

YTA. You went out with the intentions to purposely not tip the server. Servers don't have the authority to return or refund a tip once it's been processed only management does. OP has taken his anger out on the wrong person. Also the restaurant didn't overcharge you, they processed the payment which you filled out and signed for. The server didn't forge a signature or write in that tip, OP did.

[@abrahamlincoln8573]

@@MrJpaynebb you are absolutely not obligated to pay a tip. Tips are just a way to show how you liked the food. Also tips is just an excuse to avoid paying minimum wage. You are already paying for the food to be serviced in the form of cash. Why are tips necessary to you? Yes customer service jobs are hard but not being paid properly by management is not the customer's fault.

[@Opalescant_moon]

The actual saying is:" The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb."

[@LadyMcBite]

"Blood is thicker than water, but the blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb"

[@AndyPrimeOne]

Story 2, I hope he never wants to go there again. Cause I would be worried about spit in food if I did that.

[@Riomy13]

Wait, wait, wait: The parents kicked the boy out at 15 and now the sister is blaming the guy for leaving the family? It's not like he had any say in the matter there. How delusional can you be...?

[@krystalendermalie1361]

What's a moby? And tipping is to show how we felt about our food. However, some restaurants use it as an excuse to keep people on minimum wage.

[@angelnavarro1010]

Facts

[@angelnavarro1010]

It should be YOUR choice

[@kaileyjohnson3870]

Servers get paid 2.13 an hour on average and the tip is added on to there wages and they pay tax on it.

[@angelnavarro1010]

@@kaileyjohnson3870 and why do you think that they are paid that low? Because tipping has become so common that people now think it's mandatory, and because of that employers can legally pay less, if we just stopped tipping this wouldn't be that big of an issue, we're like the only country that does this

[@tazhienunurbusinezz1703]

@@angelnavarro1010 Yes that's all true but hardly the waitstaff's issue. If people want to change that policy we have to go to the people who make those decisions & stop harassing the people who can't do a thing about it.

[@emilie5716]

I think the second someone uses the word 'family' as a weapon, they stop bring family.

[@terryburnett751]

Last story. Even his girl doesn't want his family around, that should tell you something.

[@TheMarie2000]

First story i coughed when he responded the way he did. Fabulous "burn" . The proper saying for blood is thicker than water is " the blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb".

[@unkemptjargon91]

As someone who survives off of tips, not a waiter but a delivery driver, I can say that was the a hole. It's illegal for us to alter the information on the credit card slip if the customer isn't physically present. Also a few times in that post strike me as the guy bending the truth to make his story sound better. Like the server getting the manager in response to you not tipping... that doesn't happen ever.

[@TheZombifiedFairy]

Yea... don't say never. I went to a restaurant once and we had a big party. Gratuity was already included in the check and we were going to tip more but the service was horrid (so much so that no one from our party has ever went back or recommended the place). Well entitled waitress made a scene and then went to the manager telling him WE were making the scene. He comped 25% of the bill, don't know (and don't care) what happened to her. Waiters can be (and many are) entitled.

[@jinxgiz3104]

The guy in story 2, why would you go back if A) you had no intention of tipping in a country where waitstaff are heavily reliant on tips and B) they didn't refund when you think you were overcharged?

[@toffiet3347]

He wornt over charged he over payed. Over charging would be putting one two many items on his bill. He pressed an extra 0 when tipping

[@f.ah.c2114]

His friends wanted to go, and makes me wonder why was he the one tipping. Also, I never read an implication the post was from the U.S.

[@tatsuhirosatou5513]

Waiters aren't reliant on tips in America its a common misconception because they don't want you to know that they can't earn less than minimum wage, if they made less than minimum for a shift the restaurant by law has to pay the difference.

[@darkshadow5581]

Except 1)his friends brough it up because they learned what happened after they planned to go 2)the tip was a comrpomise to them still going. If they didnt she still misses tip. Also, it.adds up to waitress g ed tting more than if they tipped with no mistake (100+0>10+80). They agreed of its above 90 they pay the difference, i say thats a fair compromise. He effectivley just secures the service his money would of bought

[@angelnavarro1010]

Because A) it's not a requirement, B) is friend's convinced him, C) he really enjoys the food, D) he meant the tip he never once said that they overcharged him when it came to food

[@taylorwiseman8078]

Story 1 "Blood is thicker than water" Even though the original quote meant the opposite of how it's used now.

[@cheskydivision]

I want to know why sister is trying so hard to have brother over all of a sudden. When ppl who usually ignore you start showing up they want something.

[@LinneAzalea]

@Osito Kintsugi If she wanted something of him or wanted to announce something, she wouldn’t be asking about both thanksgiving and Christmas and just whenever they’d meet. Did we even read the same story? She has clearly been trying to keep in contact with him but he seems to blame her for what their parents did.

[@LinneAzalea]

Nowhere in the story did it say that it was all of a sudden. He clearly said it’s been going on for several years. Jesus, y’all are really bad to pay attention. Also did you notice the detail that she was younger than him? Meaning she was really young when he was kicked out.

[@violacheesegay796]

My grandma is constantly going "blood is thicker then water, family comes first etc" She gets PISSED, to the point where she has thrown me out on christmas, when i say "maybe so, but i can atleast pick my friends" 🤭

[@justinjones-smith5168]

Story 4: NTA. There's some clear favoritism and she didn't do very well to protect you from bullying.

[@luckyassassin1]

Why is it so hard for people to believe that he did get the same server? I cant even count how many times i get the same server when i go out to eat because almost every time i get the same one, it's not that rare

[@zachf748]

That’s an A+ response to the whole "blood family" argument people love to use. Lol

[@halima-joyelliston5707]

Story three: I feel him there. My mother’s family were utter shitheads leading up to, during, and after my brothers funeral. Completely unsupportive with the few exceptions of my grandmother, my uncle, and one cousin. They had the gall to alienate my brothers only child from my mother and all of her children (who saw my brother as their father figure), not visit her for the entire first year, save for one who brought flowers twice (the aforementioned one cousin), and proceed to also alienate her from the extended family. Just picture the pain she had to go through: losing her first son, thinking that she had a strong support system, being alienated by that support system, and having to leave to go live with your daughters hundreds of miles away because the people who are supposed to be your family are shitting all over you. If I could completely cut all of them off, without hurting my mothers feelings, I would. It doesn’t matter how much they act as though they care, they showed that their love is not unconditional, and that when shit gets hard, they lash out at people who are already hurting. OP is completely NTA. You can’t choose blood relations, but you can choose family.

[@theonlybomber]

Oh sweet lord! That come back comment was F-ing brilliant!!! I nearly peed myself trying to drive to the store when I heard that & Mark your narration didn’t help when you cracked up too!!! Then when mentioned the visualization I definitely peed myself a little!!!!!!!!!

[@spacetofu5306]

The clapback at the first story had me laughing because it was so good.

[@melvinISmischievous]

I personally like" blood is thicker then water but water washes away blood"

[@redconvoy]

The one with the "family" argument, I never let that sway me. Believe me, I have one family member that tries to use that and it doesn't work with me. I am over it.

[@TheNormExperience]

The last story is NTA. Putting your future children’s well being ahead of anything, especially your mother’s pride is what a parent is *supposed* to do. I’m so sorry your mother couldn’t ever do it for you, but well done for NOT repeating that cycle for your own kids. You’ sound like the only adult in your toxic family, even at such a young age. But amazing that you’ve learned from that bad environment to get better because you’re already a better parent than your own and you haven’t even had a child yet.

[@strawberrysangria1474]

I love this philosophical question of what's thicker than blood and water. Oobleck surpasses all! Praise cornstarch for it's might!

[@jameson1239]

Maple syrup is thicker then blood and water

[@thecraftycyborg9024]

... you mentioned your dad needing a stairlift right as I was taking my chairlift down to the basement. I had a moment of thinking you were psychic, lol. Accepting needing a stairlift is hard but they’re so damn helpful!

[@driftninja_468]

‘My husbands blood didn’t run through my body, but his semen did’ *WHAT A BURN*

[@lightwork11]

I'm so sorry about your dad, Mark, and those false accusations are reprehensible.

[@lovingSey]

Omg for the 1st story!! 😭😭😭😭😭

[@ScarabD]

"Blood is thicker than water" ...yeeeah try telling that to the relatives of Myra Hindley, see how well it goes down. Honestly that always looks so stupid when you realise what OTHER people you're bound together by "blood".

[@501Magnum]

1. NTA. That comeback was beyond epic. XD 2. NTA. The only AH here are the owners of that restaurant. 3. NTA. N/A (having a brainfart and can't think of anything to explain my thoughts on this one) 4. NTA. No one should be compelled to have a relationship with someone they don't want in their life. Even if that someone is their family.

[@志瑜杨]

He said he called the restaurant, not physically visited. If I answered a call and someone claimed that they overpaid but did not provide proof (which cannot be done over the phone) I would refuse. If I didn’t and it turned out that they were lying, I could lose my job.

[@501Magnum]

@@志瑜杨 Well yeah, but the one talking to OP on the phone could've been more empathetic and given him the option to return to the restaurant to talk about it further.

[@Lisapizzza]

It wasn't until I saw that comment that I also thought that the original was 'the blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb'

[@jamestown8398]

I'm sorry about the situation with your father, Mark.

[@philwill0123]

Word up markster👍you almost choked on the semen line🤣🤣

[@NeoLotex]

Story 2: I think the no tip thing was fair, but I would've declined to have dishes combed.

[@markmasters7982]

The Blood of the Covenant is the true original. The watered down version used to promote family ties (no matter what) over everything is from the Medieval ages

[@momotaro1236]

I don’t want to ruin the mood of the video and I don’t know what the specific laws are where you live but you may want your dad to sign paper work that says if he’s going to die for the EMTs not to try to revive him. Depending on where you live they are required to try to revive him even if they know it’s impossible to get him back, it can be very Trumatic to see a person go though that.

[@jameson1239]

A DNR card that’s actually a good idea if his dad wants that

[@courtneycherry113]

When my great grandmother passed she was revived 4 times before she passed. It was heart breaking and I wouldn't want it.

[@jennysmith38]

My mum doesn't want to be resuscitated, we have already done all the paperwork

[@krisg4815162342]

i've worked in restaurants for 25 years, and i say the second guy is NTA. That waitress sounds like a scammer. also, there's no way those comped dishes are coming out of the waitress' check.

[@annvictor9627]

I'm sorry about your father, Mark. Even though I spent years peeking into my parents' bedroom to make sure Dad was still breathing after he had that bypass when I was 16, it was still a shock when he died. Take care of yourself when it happens. (For younger readers who might think I was being paranoid, bypass surgery was still so new then, that my dad was the hopeless patient the doctors at Walter Reed [just "Army Hospital" at the time] picked to try it out on. So much of his heart had been destroyed that he should have had a triple, not single, bypass. They just didn't know that then.)

[@annvictor9627]

@Osito Kintsugi Thank you. It was not recent.

[@jasminebarnes2764]

First, sending love and support. As someone who lives off tips, we are told by the manager that if someone tips us a large amount like that, we have to correct them and make sure they aren't giving us too much. Like if someone is drunk and tip us too much, we have to give it back even if it's the next day.

[@ericksaulbetetaperez2208]

Well actually in the first story, I think that his brothers din't kick him out, it was his parents' actions, probably his brother and sister are trying to repair what their parents done, so I'll go with NAH

[@CodyJonesXD]

Actually I've Heard That Saying Before. The Blood Of The Covenant Is Thicker Than The Water Of The Womb. It's not an old saying Like "Blood Is Thicker Than Water" but it is a saying. I can't remember if its from a movie or a book though. Maybe from a movie/book that revolves around a witch.

[@laurenmentink7401]

The word "tip" is speculated to be an acronym for "To Insure Promptitude," which was printed on bowls in British coffeehouses. In the United States each state deals with tips differently. Some states give the same minimum wage as other types of workers. My state has a pathetic minimum wage and then the tips makes up the difference. I hate it!

[@samakiraroyjanssen6326]

basically, it was meant to be something to encourage better behaviour. "hmmm, if i make the customers happy, they tip, and i gain extra profit in exchange" which is a perfect idea, because nobody loses out in it. the customer get a better experience at the restaurant, the owner gets happier, and thus more loyal customers, and the waitress get more money.

[@KE-hr4sb]

Mark, I am sorry for what you are going through with your dad's health and family. My heart goes out to you. Sending prayers and good thoughts your way.

[@Shinigami-ve1mf]

Story 2 I used to work at a restaurant granted it was in the back of the house but I couldnt stand the girls(90% of our wait staff were girls and relatives to the owner) that felt they deserved the tip and some of those girls treated my guys in the back like crap so I'm going with NTA. And its completely common to have the same waitress/waiter 2 days in a row just like it's common to come in for lunch and have the same girl when you come in for dinner

[@LunaTheBeast-lf1ly]

I love all the stories about your father and love hearing how he's doing. You make me feel like I was there with you, like I knew him all my life too. Since your father is, unfortunately, going to pass soon, I'm sure he lived a full life, and I think it's best to focus on that, and remind him of all the good times, and make these last few months the best months of his life.

[@crazytwospoons]

Bloods thicker than water, but so's shit.

[@MarkNarrations]

Lol, I laughed way too hard at this

[@emm_uhh]

From my experience many resteraunt's credit card machine are OLD. The only way you can refund is physically putting the card in the machine. ALSO tips don't just go to the waitress, they often get split between wait staff, hostess, and people who bus tables. So he could of had the same waitress but different wait staff.

[@beautybard]

I love seeing my name at the beginning of the list, reminding me that I've been here since the Daddy Cringe days. I know it's silly. I've had to explain to my fiance why I love you to bits and he eventually understood. You're kind, funny and help me through my long days of cleaning and/or drawing. Also I love when you waffle on about shit and apologize... no need. I love when you go on about your related experiences. Sorry about MY waffling. I've just been listening to you off and on all day and had to spill my lil Texan guts. 🥰

[@JohnSmith-xq1pz]

Title story NTA op should've cut the lot out of their life Second story well umm... I can't blame them but bad karma a bit? Third story NTA leave the bridge nuked Fourth story NTA cut the b out of your life permanently

[@RavenheartIndustries]

Mark: Too much info, but it was a good comeback... Me: Oh you and your Dad joke puns... lol

[@kathyniebylski6735]

I haven't really been to many places that you could tip here in America. But if I somehow do one day, I'll give them something that I could spare.

[@blackfedoramedia6498]

I mean she's the one who went to the manager, OP never said he was going to tip ever again just not that time. She alredy got 100$ out of them unfairly, what more could he possibly owe her?

[@skullsandlotuses]

Exactly!

[@marcusegan8682]

the $100 wasn't gotten unfairly, just mistakenly. My issue is, why was she even checking the tip and complaining about it before OP even left? Or did he bring it up while paying "Hey, just so you know Im not tipping this time because of last time?"

[@darkshadow5581]

@@marcusegan8682 except it becomes malicious when they refused him the refund. Imagine grabbing McDonalds for $10, and grabbing a $100 bill but being refused refund. She got MORE money then if he didnt make the mistake (100>90)

[@angelnavarro1010]

@@marcusegan8682 he told her, and not tipping her also wasn't unfair

[@kaileyjohnson3870]

@@darkshadow5581 if he asked for it at the restaurant they would have gave it to him she paid the taxes on that tip

[@madeleineastor4652]

Unfortunately when a family member is sick and dying or dies you get some family that are quick to judge and poke their nose in or others that just want money! I hope it works out !

[@hatterrose]

When parents throw minors out of their home it is not only immoral but it is also illegal. Small restaurants often have a small staff, or people who work regular shifts. As a previous server, no manager of mine would ever have refused to reverse the charge, that is BS. Tipping is not required most places unless it is a party over 6. 15-20% is pretty standard for good service. Plenty of people don't or leave religious pamphlets or crap like that. Luckily a lot of restaurants are switching to a decent hourly wage, and tips are just extra.

[@ravenvixen7903]

Story 2: NTA for one very specific reason. The meal comp, her possibly losing it out of her wages, possibly getting in trouble and fired... that's all on her. He and his group didn't call a manager to get them involved, the waitress did. She was the one who caused a commotion over it. She could very easily have copped it on the chin, taken a moment to realise she was still up $10 in tips from one customer and gone on in life. She chose to make a scene, she can take the consequences.

[@yorukage5926]

15:00 does this person not understand how strict Asia is in terms of stuff like this

[@jennysmith38]

True, and from what I understand, it was his family that arranged all the wedding plans

[@doggothesavior9107]

I love your videos so much! They are so awesome and it seems like you work super hard on them! :) Story 1 NTA op is hilarious, but anyway no, I feel bad for op considering that they were thrown out of the house at such a young age and it’s so sad. Story 2 NAH the waitress is also in a hard spot so I can see why she’s mad, but op is not in the wrong. Story 3 NAH it was over a decade ago, though what they did was horrible they still deserve a second chance, if they proved to have changed and have been kinder than thats good! :) Story 4 NTA ops mother seems horrible, and those are ops children and you don’t have to spend time with someone that just so happens to related to you.

[@志瑜杨]

Story 2 I think OP is at least a little bit wrong. He made the mistake, and took it out on the waitress, which may or may not be the same one that served him, and may or may not have been the one to answer the phone. Plus, he can’t just call the restaurant and expect to be paid back. He would have to physically go there and provide proof of this error. He didn’t do either.

[@RiliaVonAegir]

Ok that second story the waitress already had 100$ from last time the total tip between the 2 would’ve been 90$ so he still tipped more than necessary and then she got the manager involved and that’s her problem

[@scousemouse9566]

Story 1, NTA, that comeback was everything. Great video Mark, thank you 🧇🧇🧇

[@SonicdaShapeshifter]

It's actually entirely possible to get the same waiter or waitress if you return to the same restaurant on numerous occasions. Considering the hefty tip the guy accidentally gave the last time, the waitress may have specifically requested to wait on his table, likely expecting more.

[@MacCrafter707]

Tipping is stupid. Pay your staff!

[@Shniedelwoodz]

If people accuse you of [insert doing horrible thing for money], ask them if that's something they would do because you can't see what's in other people's minds but you can see what's going on in your's and assume other think alike.

[@falling_bones]

Oh, yeah! The blood of the covenant is thicker then the water of the womb. It’s one that I’ve always gone by, since I learned it.

[@AwolCommander]

Love listening to these while I draw!

[@tobybarnett7147]

I can legit listen to you for so long and be like what the videos over already???? and it can be half an hour

[@nicolebaker7659]

1st story's comeback was genius!👍

[@grimhatesyou2663]

The actual saying is "Blood of the coven is thicker than Water of the womb"

[@rorimorganwilliams7294]

I realized just how horrible having to depend on tips is when I was trying to get an accounting degree. A restaurant can pay a server as low $1.50 to $3.00 per hour and they are supposed to make up the rest to minimum wage in tips. The owner is not obligated to pay the difference if they don’t make it to the thresh hold of minimum wage because it is “a sign of their performance.” There is many things in accounting that isn’t right so I couldn’t finish the degree. I tip a lot because of knowing this.

[@SounnyKitty]

I heard it as "the blood of brotherhood is thicker than the water of the womb" meaning those you make family is a stranger bond the family you were into.

[@robinroscoe3531]

The blood of battle is thicker than the water of the womb

[@hrobert2338]

For those saying the sister isn't to blame in 1st story, did you miss the part where she and the brother berated OP when the dad died then when mom got sick? She may not have been the one to throw OP out but perhaps OP is justified in not wanting anything to do with her Also, if she really does want to rekindle a relationship why does it have to be a holiday with most likely other members of the family that OP doesn't want to be around? Why can't she suggest just her and OP meet up for coffee or something?

[@Sai-AnneMa-jax]

In story 1 they forgot ahana means family and family means no one gets Left Behind or forgoten I love stitch

[@erikrungemadsen2081]

Only as long as there is more than one slice of pizza left. If there is only one piece left, then it is on like WWE.

[@Sai-AnneMa-jax]

And if you are getting bullied at school then you can get your younger sister To defend you and not get expelled when she goes off at the principal for doing nothing about it

[@erikrungemadsen2081]

That would propably be my cousin doing that. But she would also try to kill me (or her siblings) if anyone beats her at UNO.

[@pennyclark4844]

I've always said where there's a death there's a will and where there's a will there's a fight.

[@TheRealMovieHero]

I was a server in the Netherlands. In our culture a tip is a big thank you. If you make mistakes like bringing drinks to a wrong table even wen you correct that can already cost you the tip. And any restaurant works differently wit the tip system. A tip can you put in the tip jar to evenly split between workers on ours worked (including the cook’s). Or directly to the server how got the tip.

[@airaz1235]

Mark's person stories are the best. It makes his videos more personal and has a lot more heart than the robotic voiced ones (still good thou). Much love ♥️

[@sirenspeaks3210]

That ending to the first story just made me laugh so hard omg The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb

[@sirenspeaks3210]

oh crap didn't listen to the answers first woops

[@worm-gf]

The original saying is "Blood runs thicker than water", which is an old Gaelic proverb which can be traced back to 12th-century writings. The "Blood of the covenant runs thicker than the water of the womb" was written a few decades ago, and has been wrongly quoted as the original proverb (through Tumblr and possibly many other channels)

[@reptilelover2129]

Hey I'm early! 1. The real saying is "the blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb” It means that the people you shed blood for is thicker then the blood of the womb. "His blood might not run through my body but his seamen." BWA HAHAHAHAHAHAHA🤣😂 2. In the US some waiters/waitress' do in fact demand tips even though it isn't mandatory. She isn't entitled to a tip in the first place so she shouldn't be demanding extra money. If she would have had the dma amount in the same two times, she doesn't need any more.

[@wilsoncalhoun]

"The real saying is...." Only since 2005-ish when a messianic rabbi decided to use it in a homily. The actual saying goes back to at least the 17th century and reads, "blood be not spoilt by water." The modern version is likely the result of cultural or historical misunderstanding.

[@WatsonAndDaughter]

Tipping isn't mandatory, but waitresses get paid as little as $2 an hour. Refusing to tip is disgusting. If you don't have the money to tip or don't want to, go to fucking McDonald's where you belong.

[@wilsoncalhoun]

@@WatsonAndDaughter If you're working for tips and don't make at least minimum wage your employer has to make up the difference. If you're waiting tables and your take home is only $2 an hour then you've got both a state and federal case and need to talk to a lawyer. American style tipping only serves to justify predatory employment practices by placing the cost of employee payroll squarely on the customer instead of the employer; it's just more welfare for the powerful over the weak.

[@reptilelover2129]

@@WatsonAndDaughter $2 an hour? TF? No one is entitled to extra money from a stranger. And if I'm not mistaken $2 in hour is not allowed. No one has to tip, A-hole. Tipping was originally a bribe back in the day if I'm not mistaken. Are you awear other countries find tipping disrespectful? Are they A-holes too if they refuse to tip in America? My mom sometimes didn't rip because we couldn't afford it, but she still wanted the best for me. You can go F yourself with that backwards logic.

[@reptilelover2129]

@@sw3783 I'm sorry to hear that, but my point is, I think the waitress is TA because of how she handled it. Thinking that you can force someone to give you a tip when it isn't mandatory is a bit entitled and getring the manager involved is worse. Or maybe that's just me, but I can't imagine asking a customer for a tip, nevertheless expecting one like I'm owed it. I'm sorry you went to bed hungry and believe me, I do infact tip when I can (which is often) but I do believe that when you demand more money after being tipped $100 the day before is rediculous. Or again, maybe that's just me. If a customer gave me a $100 tip, I would be surprised if they bothered giving me more, especially if it was a mistake the first time.

[@GinDenkai]

i love that music switch each time its so awsome keep up the good work mark

[@PixelPawse]

No normal waitress would demand someone to get a tip and get the manager to force them to tip

[@rayfordreed9304]

Story 2: NTA, the waitress tried to get a customer banned for not tipping. That's not right because tipping is not mandatory

[@goawayleavemealone2880]

I'm not American, I've left places before even ordering because the menu said "14% mandatory gratuity". I know servers are paid a terrible wage and are extremely reliant on tips, but they need to get over the idea that tips are mandatory.

[@wounderwillow9532]

Blood is thicker than water is a medieval proverb in English that means that familial bonds will always be stronger than bonds of friendship or love. ... The oldest record of this saying can be traced back in the 12th century in German

[@TNTMAN360]

Hope you're feeling well waffle King

[@doggothesavior9107]

Me too :)

[@117bertold7]

May the waffle be with all of you :)

[@TNTMAN360]

@@117bertold7 love the reference this is the way

[@117bertold7]

@@TNTMAN360 haha thanks mate, it was just my tired mind coming up with this xd anyways stay safe and have a great life mate :)

[@TNTMAN360]

@@117bertold7 same to you

[@LadyLeomon]

1) So they didn’t treat you like family for over 2 decades and are now expecting you to “move forward in a positive way” (translation: forget all the shit they put your through?) NTA, Happy Post-Thanksgiving Lounging! 2) NTA, they could have proven shown their good nature by refunding the difference but they didn’t, that kind of reputation can cripple a business! 3) NTA, history aside they sound like awful people, sorry for your loss. 4) NTA, cut the problem out at the root and don’t let this affect your future children. Thanks for the new vid Mark 💙🐱💙

[@TheAngelChaz]

Story 1 omg I hate when people say "family" in a meaningful way that blood is important XD blood is thicker than water but maple syrup is thicker than blood and I care more about pancakes than my family

[@15oClock]

1. Oh, so OP has to act like family, but the family doesn't have to? Yeah, this has to go both ways or neither way. 2. Punish the restaurant with no patronage if you want, but not the server with no tip! There's nothing to proven, gained, or learned by this; you're just petty. 3. All of this is based on a rumored of maliciousness. If it's true, OP has no need to associate with those who won't apologize, but if they're not.... 4. "I tried my best!" Well, that was never enough to make up for not being loved like a child should.

[@f.ah.c2114]

In 2 I don’t think it’s about “proving a point” and more like “no to waste an exorbitan amount of money on bloody tips”. 100 bucks isn’t pocket change.

[@tatsuhirosatou5513]

The restaurant isn't required to refund a tip but 95% will in this situation if you catch it before closing.

[@darkshadow5581]

For story 2, the server got more from the mistake though. (100+0>10+80). Despite this she still complains. Very entitled.

[@15oClock]

@@darkshadow5581 Would you think it's fair if it happened to you? One day, a table of two tips $100 and another day a group tips you nothing because one guy was unintentionally generous one time? No, because it's not your fault and you're the one being punished for something you didn't do.

[@angelnavarro1010]

@@15oClock it was the same waitress both times, and that would just be bad luck, you aren't required to tip