AITA Outing Niece After I Caught Her Peeping On Me? (r/aita)

[@MarkNarrations]

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[@brigzbeebroadcasting2870]

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[@Kristofer382]

When did you get this waffly intro!?

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

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[@comradecommissar8223]

Comrades reporting for duty!

[@bambi3001]

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[@indianspartan76]

Boy or girl, a creep is a creep. The boy got chided, she realized she messed up and fessed up. She's lucky she didn't get chided. NTA.

[@heatherduke5410]

Yeah, the boy was blamed for something that he didn't even do. Also, the girl wouldn't have been "outed" if she hadn't been spying on her aunt.

[@Acidfunkish]

Up to a certain age, it can be completely normal... But if she's experienced enough to know she's gay, then she's likely far too old for this to be considered normal. 😒

[@SLTheOneAndAwesome19]

Story 5: "Our son was getting quite an attitude. I do blame Andy for this." Why? You've said yourself that Andy is a nice, well-behaved young man who is able to CALM your son down. So he's clearly not emulating Andy. Guess he's picking that mannerism up somewhere *else*.

[@danastein8603]

Exactly!

[@tomorrow4eva]

This! He’s imitating the dad!

[@tomorrow4eva]

And boundary pushing like a pro.

[@JasperCatProductions]

Good grief what is wrong with people! Dog stealing, dress stealing and a peeping on your auntie? Ugh

[@MarkNarrations]

I know this one was wild

[@yourneighborhooddeadpool488]

@@MarkNarrations wild with entitlement. Ugh I tried

[@dwoktheraynejonsohn4849]

Story 5, hair: The weird thing is that OP briefly mentions keeping the hair short for the sake of being normal in public school, but not for child's safety, potential harassment from peers, teacher reprimands, etc. They put emphasis on the control aspect through a spiel of "my rules" and "I won't let you be different." When the kid said "I can do what I want when I'm older," I honestly would have said "Well, yes you can!" And then explain why they shouldn't grow out their hair _at the moment._ Kids have a lot better time accepting your rules when you explain why and show that you are looking out for them rather than using power just because you can. I would have explained "not now" to the kid at the start. The parent is kinda stubborn and doesn't realise that you can influence kids to behave a certain way by showing consideration to them.

[@WatsonAndDaughter]

Treating kids like their feelings and thoughts are not important usually ends up translating into kids not feeling like *they* are important. "Because I said so" and "because I'm the adult" is a great way to ensure your kid struggles with ever feeling like an equal human being and that your relationship becomes something negative.

[@dwoktheraynejonsohn4849]

@@WatsonAndDaughter 100% agree. Children have the right to autonomy, but if you are looking after their best interests, you need to be supportive and insightful. Kids have stuff to learn but absolutely never look down on them. They are the best blank slates so teach them well! They are our future.

[@savethebees2574]

Exactly. No one is okay with being told what to do without having a reason why. Not kids, not adults, no one. It's quite literally human nature to need a reason to do things, and especially in this scenario, the kid doesn't know. All this does is teach them that their parents are the authority over anything else, including love and support.

[@dwoktheraynejonsohn4849]

@@savethebees2574 Authority over love and support. Awful! Best for children if it goes hand in hand.

[@judelbugsrutter6727]

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[@toysruskid5074]

Do you realize how Fing creepy it is that a grown married woman's male relatives are calling her husband to complain about her "revealing" clothes?

[@rwilliams8736]

You know....,come to think of it...? Yeah. That does sound creepy.....🤯😶

[@emilyhedrick2851]

They're talking about her as if he owns her and that he needs to control her like she's a child or something. I'm surprised that she was allowed to be around those creepy uncles growing up.

[@angelizdaboss]

LOVE the new intro and the cute little waffle that pops up. Its so wholesome and cute!

[@indianspartan76]

Beat me to it lol

[@dugangreenhorn8639]

It really is perfect!

[@MarkNarrations]

He's a cheeky guy though!

[@sebastianjoseph9628]

Yeah

[@heathermcdonald9469]

It’s the initial waffle ;)

[@justinjones-smith5168]

Story 3: NTA. She was creeping on YOU.

[@KinguKirai]

The new intro 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥 Story 1- NTA dont attempt to steal someone's dog. They'll turn into jhon wick. Story 2- NTA it's OP property. This is theft and I would be this petty ngl. Story 3- NTA OP was being peeped on by her neice!, Sweet home Alabama! It's not OP's fault her neice is peeping on her and came out unnecessary. Story 4- I guess ESH just because how OP handled the situation. SMH Story 5- YTA it's not Andy's fault that they have hair. OP needs to go apologize and not wait.

[@brigzbeebroadcasting2870]

Haha yeessssss, ah man I cry every time I watch the first one

[@FormCreator]

"sweet home alabama!" 😂😂😂

[@dingoatemychild1]

Story 1 yta animal abuse

[@dwoktheraynejonsohn4849]

Story 4, conservative clothing: Said by Jesus himself: "Hypocrite! First get rid of the log in your own eye; then you will see well enough to deal with the speck in your friend’s eye." Matthew 7:5 Stop harping on a woman's clothing or body when she has nothing to do with you. Your sins are your responsibly.

[@catandrobbyflores]

Ah ha ha! I actually love it when you can turn the book on them.

[@UzumakiDonnoHinata]

Love your username. And yes. I love throwing the book they use to bash people right back at them. The words of Jesus strike down almost every man-made bigoted rule in the book, anyway. Thieves (taxmen)? Invite them to dinner. Adultress? Let ye without sin cast the first stone. Lepper? Free healthcare (lol) and rejoice together in their healing. It's like they didn't even read it lol.

[@blacksheep9144]

This

[@artsybeedle4662]

Theft... Is theft. What a crazy concept.

[@cjandauntieyaya1446]

Story 2: OP is NTA for taking the cake back because her friend isn't a friend. She stole the dress. You can't take something from someone else and then "compensate them with what you think is the monetary value. Actually, the value is much higher. OP would need to travel BACK to that vacation spot and HOPE that the dress still exists and is in her size and costs the same as before. The 2-way travel and at least one day hotel and the cost for the taxi to and from the store and the cost of the dress needs to be the compensation.

[@mothmanlol6263]

Andy's uncle seemed homophobic the whole way through straight from the beginning when he said his wife taking him in was being too kind

[@milo4707]

Literally. Like wtf do you mean too kind the fucking kid could have ended up killing himself if left in that situation. And he's making it even worse by not being able to parent his kid and blaming it on a fucking teenager. Disgusting behaviour

[@alexvalentine5091]

Uncle is definitely homophobic

[@CakeofRage]

"I don't want my son to grow out his hair because all his friends have short hair" uhhh, they were asking for a *real* reason bro

[@katx9697]

Sister, "Aren't you going to apologise?" me, "Nope, I gonna call the police."

[@anavucurevic9536]

Sometimes I hate ppl. The hair story is so sad. Like how can you be so uncaring and disgusting. Like what is he teaching his kid? ahfhjaskhfadjk

[@kellharris2491]

The hair......my son should 't be worried about his hair like a little girl. Hmm sounds like the Uncle is secretly homophobic like his parents. Poor Andy.....

[@Mhidraum]

1st story. ESH. Niece and sister for stealing the dog, and acting entitled, but OP sucks for forcing the dog to be vegan. Dogs need meat in their diet. If you can't accept that, you shouldn't keep a carnivore as a pet.

[@nicholaselliott4439]

Yea the vegan dog treat thing was the only thing I have an issue with.

[@abp8723]

I think that dogs can live on a vegan diet because they are omnivores, it's cats that can't be on a vegan diet under any circumstance. I don't know if it's the healthiest choice but I think a lot of vets say it's okay

[@anarchylove92]

They're omnivores and can live with a vegan diet, but they do prefer meat.

[@abp8723]

@@anarchylove92 yes, exactly, I realized I didn't mention in my comment that meat is still better, I think the healthiest diet is for dogs is raw meat

[@tatiblack6087]

The vets said it was okay, so idc

[@Weirdandwonderfull19]

This video is a year old... I wonder if OP in story 5 is still trying to see how deep of a hole he can dig for himself? Surely with the speed he's digging, it must be pretty deep by now 😂 😂.

[@piffba]

“My daughter really likes it” Yeah well OP did too, and it’s HER dress! She isn’t a vendor???

[@nerdy_evy]

20:10 so they're disciplining their nephew for their own sons behavior. Like this situation could have been fixed if they sat down their son and if they were the ones to say he can do his hair however he wants when he was older but currently at that specific school they don't allow long hair on boys. There is nothing wrong with a guy having long hair or a girl having short hair. It's fucking hair.

[@tgirl8955]

I like how he only responded to the “hair offense” comment and not the ones criticizing his actual parenting and teaching his kid “the world is fair” . If he sees someone with nicer shoes are you going to stomp on them or force them to take them off. R/entitledparents

[@clrtwallace0116]

About the nephew with long hair... my youngest son loved his aunt more than almost anyone when he was younger. At around 13 years old, he wanted to keep his hair a little longer... not long, but touching his collar, and longer in the front so he could “flip it” back - think Justin Bieber when he was younger. Well, his aunt hated this and expected him to have a “boy” cut, with the back and sides shaved. She berated him about his hair every time she saw him. At one point, before taking him on a promised mini-vacation, she told him they would cancel their trip of he didnt cut his hair. Of course, he got the required hair cut. And that was the last time he spent any time with his aunt. It was sad because they had been so close, and her insistence that he keep his hair the way she wanted it ruined their relationship. And she was the only person on his dad’s side of the family that he was close to, so this meant he had very little time with them after this happened. It really hurt him, and im sure it hurt her as well. The moral of the story? Pick your battles. She sacrificed her close relationship with her nephew because of a phase he went through that only lasted 2-3 years. Such a shame...

[@reptiles3244]

I agree with that one comment about feeding a carnivorous animal vegan food that's just wrong and honestly that veterinarian is probably like the ones where I live and is a complete numbskull who knows barely anything about animals

[@reptiles3244]

Honestly I went to school to be a zoologist (did it to specialize in reptiles but had to study everything) and I can tell you a carnivorous animal will not live a normal life span of fed vegan food they're missing important parts if their diet that they 100% absolutely need just because humans (omnivores) can live and I highly stretch the live part of that sentence without meat doesn't mean all animals can

[@Opalescant_moon]

O.P probably lied about the diet being approved by a vet to get sympathy

[@reptiles3244]

@@Opalescant_moon yeah I'm not a vet (but in literally qualified to do everything a vet does) but I did go study zoology (tried specializing in herpetology ) but no schools allow you to study a specific field in zoology

[@reptiles3244]

@@Opalescant_moon and I will 100% tell you no actual vet would approve that diet

[@streamerssaymyname]

Dogs are more friendly to a vegetarian/vegan diet than other carnivorous pets. Like cats are dedicated carnivores so removing meat from their diet is extremely unhealthy. That said, there is no good reason to try and make an animal vegan, as they're just as happy to gulp down a squirrel or mole if they found one. But probably she is buying vegan dogfood to avoid paying into slaughter methods she disagrees with morally. She could also do that by buying meat on a smaller scale with a local butcher.

[@Suzied2016]

The last OP posted and update! Edit/Small update - Okay I tried to read all the comments. It hurts to read all the YTA's but you guys are right. I was an absolute asshole. I let my wife read through some of them and she agrees with what you guys are saying. I decided to be the adult and go talk to Andy. I apologised for what I did and told him that I really don't have any issue with his hair, I was just stressed out with my 8yo's behaviour and I lashed out at him. It was not right and I should never have done it, I wish I could take it back but I can't. In turn, Andy told me that he'd been absolutely terrified that he was going to get kicked out, poor boy even had a bag pack just waiting for me to ask him to leave. He told me he felt that I didn't want him in my house and that I thought he was a burden. I have never felt more disgusted in myself, I have unintentionally been making him think that he wasn't welcome, way before I lashed out at him. I had a chat with my wife (apologised to her) and we're currently looking online for new wallpaper and stuff, we want to decorate the guest bedroom that Andy's staying in to make it his bedroom, then hopefully he'll feel more welcome in his new home. I admit it was my wife's idea but I wholeheartedly support it. Andy and I are going to go out shopping for some smaller things for his room (posters,lamps etc.) and just have some time to bond. Things are going a lot better. I spoke to my 8yo about his attitude problem. Like someone suggested, I told him he can grow his hair out over the summer holidays if he wants but he has to stop being so cheeky to myself and his mum and the tantrums have to stop. This has cheered him up a great deal. Over all I am glad I posted here, I really needed the reality check. I know I got pretty defensive at first, I hope you folks can forgive me for that. Thank you all, seriously. I'm glad he finally came around and generally seems to regret his actions

[@ComaLies225]

That's such a great update.

[@sakuraogami6885]

I really don’t know if I believe that bs or not.

[@couchpotato631]

I have to say I kinda see red when people feed their dogs and cats vegetarian or vegan diets. Just no. Maybe vegetarian diet for dogs if it include plenty of fish but plant based diet without any kind of meat is a big fat no. If you are against the gruelty and unnatural living situation towards cows, pigs whatever, then isnt it quite hypocritical giving food that isnt fit for your own pet and possibly causing it shorter life span, illnesses or even death because of it? I know dogs are omnivores and they do need more than just meat, but just please for the love of god give your pets what they actually need! I'm sorry for the rant. Everyone have a good day!

[@sunnishae5047]

OP did say they had the ok from their veterinarian and a dietary professional, and as long as the dog is healthy and happy, but for now the situation with the whole stealing dog thing is fricked up and I agree with your statement on animals need to stick to what they naturally eat and it's wrong to deprive them of that need.

[@nyxcuseme]

I'm a vegan myself and would never think about feeding my dogs or cats a vegan diet. As long as they do change it if the vet takes the okay back because of lack of something, then at least they can be reasoned with.. but dog stealing is not the way to go here either, really. And being shocked afterwards that the person you just tried to steal the dog of doesn't want to help you anymore is just another kind of entitlement.

[@couchpotato631]

@@nyxcuseme I can totally agree with that. The only reason to steal a dog would be if you can clearly see that the dog is malnurished or abused. But this wasnt the case. Even tho I disagree with the OP about what they are feeding to their dog, stealing wasnt the answer and then they acted all entitled.

[@couchpotato631]

@@sunnishae5047 if there was proper suplements for vegan diets for dogs I wouldnt care as much. And sorry I cant remember if vegetarians did eat fish or some other animal products, but if Op is balancing the dogs diet with vegetables and fish, that is ok.

[@helema23]

there are conditions where some have to be on a vegan diet due to health issues. i have seen a few dogs and cats that were actually allergic to meat proteins, and at that point it is either put them down or change their diet. we dont know why that dog was on a vegan formula so its not really our place to judge. btw there are many plant based proteins that act simularly to meat based ones. i hope that op at least uses kibble with that in it.

[@olivituss5140]

For story 2. Tbh I'd just steal back the dress and then fade out the friendship. If a person can't respect that your property is, you know, YOUR property, they're not worth keeping around. Not sure if I'd pay her back either. Ain't my fault she transferred money for an item I hadn't agreed to sell, you know? I know that's petty af tho, so I'd probably feel bad about it. I'm very glad that I don't know anyone who'd do something like this.

[@comajuice]

Someone who limits what their kids and other kids can do with their hair should never complain that someone else is obsessed about hair.

[@jonathanreid2237]

Just saying "Daddy Cringes Waffle Gang"

[@angelizdaboss]

Yes!!! I love it! @Mark u need to embrace this 😂😂

[@UzumakiDonnoHinata]

We got him as Waffle Daddy or Daddy Waffle on discord. ;) Come join us!

[@momotaro1236]

Yes!!!!!!!

[@Tara........]

If a family member attempted to steal my little dog who is the light of my life, that person would definitely not be going to college on my dime!!! What unmitigated gall those two scroungers have!

[@lilydragonsupersta12]

In most situations outing someone is a monstrous thing to do. But being outed after you admitted to committing a crime/a gross invasion of privacy isn't. This is giving me serious Kevin Spacy vibes. Sexual Orientation doesn't excuse this, this is the blue print for something worse the future. Im LGBTQ and I know id never do anything that especially to a family member.

[@kellharris2491]

She sounds young and really confused. Attraction and curiosity in a grown human body happens. If she didn't grow up knowing the aunt well she could be experiencing Genetic sexual attraction. GSA. The parents shouldn't just brush this off. They should sit her down and talk to her about these issues and proper boundaries and if need be get her into therapy. Ignoring an issue doesn't make it go away. The fact that she came clean and seems ashamed is a good sign. She just sounds really confused and needing help.

[@laurenmentink7401]

Story 4 = OP was mocking the uncle. NTA. OP will need to protect his wife more.

[@AuntieCreed]

Story 1 - ESH They suck for stealing the dog and being entitled, but OP sucks for feeding a carnivorous animal a "vegan" diet. Story 2 - NTA. Lesson learned. Story 3 - NTA. WTF? What is a young girl doing creeping on her own Aunt? That's just weird and wrong, that kind of behavior is suspect. The child doesn't need an apology, she needs therapy. Story 4 - NTA, Great hubby standing up for his wife! She should be free to wear whatever she feels comfortable in and it's great to hear a husband with a sense of humor defending his wife from her weird conservative family. Story 5 - YTA! Hypocrite, don't wait for Andy to speak up, apologize now! Parent the 8 year old and leave Andy's hair be. He's been a great kid and is a help around your home. Hair doesn't matter.

[@Dr.RatioSnail]

Wife should kick op out for telling nephew to cut his hair.

[@crdnls1]

The hair story: YTA, I wish there was a 'your an ultra asshole' option. His kid is just possibly going through a phase or finding what he likes, but OP doesn't like it so he has to threaten a child by telling him to cut his hair or else he will be homeless when he knows it's important to Andy to have his hair as a coping mechanism and to feel good about himself. He seems like a real piece of shit for saying Andy is overreacting by ignoring him and that he would only apologize once Andy talks to him first. Andy probably thinks he's walking on egg shells with OP and is scared that he will be homeless if he does anything wrong. I hope his son does make his hair that way one day so OP can be unhappy, since he doesn't deserve to be happy

[@CleopatraDK]

At private school, this girl stole a big jar of hard candies from one of her roommates and ate WHOLE thing in less than one day! The candy had been bought across the border which was close enough for us to cross for some cheap candy/soda shopping but not close enough for a quick drive. This was like a half day trip on bikes. She kept arguing that everyone including her roommate shouldn't be allowed to be mad at her since she had bought her a new one a week later.

[@runawayfromtoads674]

Dog story is an ESH imo. I don't understand putting animals in a vegan diet, regardless if dogs are omnivorous or not. I don't know much on any health reason for dogs to require that diet but I think vets would at least still advise feeding dogs some meat every now and then. Why take in an animal when you can't accept their basic diet? OP seems to be hiding a few things too. Why is the dog on a vegan diet? What's her relationship with her sister and niece? Is she also practicing veganism? I doubt anyone would act so unreasonably like taking the dog unless other factors came into play. But it does not warrant the consequences of the dog-napping either. Sister and niece should have discussed this with OP civilly. Personally, I wouldn't pull away the funds but I'd at least ban them from my house.

[@delilahbelle2125]

Me: *listening to the nephew with long hair story, and looking at my 4 year old son with nearly waist length hair Also me: um, what is normal anyway? If the school doesn't have a "hard rule" about boys with long hair, let the 8 year old have long hair, though a discussion about proper care and hygiene is a MUST. Being worried about it being "frowned upon" is an indication that OP cares more about what other adults think than if his child is happy with his appearance and sense of self. As far as the "fun" color goes, it's understandable if the school has rules about dyed hair.

[@leaflet1686]

Plot twist: Andy is going to be a hairdresser with knee lengh rainbow hair in a sideswept undercut style.

[@Nortarachanges]

And his favorite client will be his cousin. Who will get his floor length hair died every year if that’s how he wants it ^_^

[@Tammohawk1]

1st Story: NTA. Who ever said that OP was supposed to fund someone else's college career? After trying to take your dog? Nope. Idiots. I have no problem going no contact with people. None. Story 2: NTA I don't care if she gave you money for your dress, it's your dress! I would go in and just take it back, or get my mother involved. No one wanted to deal with my mom! 3rd Story: NTA If niece wasn't ready to come out, she should have kept her eyes to herself instead of playing Peeping Thomasina on her aunt. Story 4: NTA I probably would have said the same thing, lol. But, I'm a brat like that. On a serious note, when uncle starts buying the clothing he might get a say in what she wears. 5th Story: YTA This is not an Andy problem but a parenting problem. Teach your kid boundaries and that no means no the first time and you won't be having this problem.

[@Disgrace_917]

Peeping Thomasina took me out 🤣

[@tazhienunurbusinezz1703]

I wouldn't ever be in that OP's shoes because my vegan ass knows better than to feed my dogs a vegetarian diet. If you somehow managed to find a vet who is okay with that bit of disgustingness, I'd be super concerned about the care they provide for anything else. It's the most basic thing that you do not alter the diets of carnivore & omnivore animals as they aren't able to consent to that nonsense & it's going against their very nature as an animal. If you want a pet who is vegetarian/vegan get one that lives that way naturally. That person is a terrible vegan. Eww. For dress girl, I'd call the cops on their non-emergency line & have them talk to them to get my dress back if they wouldn't give it to me.

[@Kairos_Akuma]

Exactly. Get a Rabbit or Gunneapigs...not a carnivorous pet

[@jinxstheories4263]

You know some dogs actually do have allergies to the meats commonly used in dog food? If the vet says the dog is healthy and the dog seems healthy why does it matter. We don't know if the dog has allergies or something

[@tazhienunurbusinezz1703]

@@jinxstheories4263 Yea, a meat allergy is a thing, however, they absolutely would have mentioned that had it been the case with this OP, especially because they were getting shit for altering an animal's natural state of being down in the comments because...duh, of course they were. There would also likely be supplements, in the case of a dog having that extremely rare allergy because of that fact, which was also, curiously, not mentioned either. You don't get to mess with an animal's natural diet for no legitimate reason & still try claim the moral high ground. Nope. If in your vegan journey, you cannot handle having your dog or cat eat it's necessary diet, don't get a darned dog or cat. It's really that simple. Changing an animal's natural diet is super gross just because they simply cannot give informed consent to it. Feeding your animal sustainably & using the best practices according to science is a wonderful thing. Turning any omnivore or carnivore vegan absolutely goes against nature though. If I'm otherwise trying to minimize my impact on the animal world, it's also a REALLY weird thing to do. My doggos would likely be eating the same types of things I feed them if they lived & hunted alone or in a pack anyway.

[@tazhienunurbusinezz1703]

@Rene S Don't think you meant to reply to me.

[@MmmKayHuuNay]

Niece was being a *creep* to her damn own aunt the creepy part is that they are FAMILY...ewwww.

[@sam_humanvariant]

The story about the kid with the hair - OP said "he knows I wouldn't hurt him" - No he doesn't! HE's only living with OP because his own family kicked him out?? WTF That poor kid is doing his best and minding his own business and everyone around him are little shits.

[@pinkdipi]

Oh, that story 2 made me so satisfied! More petty revenges please, Mark!

[@Ashenicky2009]

At the end of story 2 I thought you said "what would you do if a friend went to your house, took an ice cream of yours and left money and said it's theirs now" lol. I was thinking "well, I would have let them have the ice cream for free, but hey" lol

[@jasminebarnes2764]

That last story, dear god what an asshole! That poor teen was thrown out by his own parents and now his uncle threatened to do the same?! What scares me is he didn't say anything and just looked sad. He already has anxiety according to OPs comment, what of he also has self harm thoughts? He dead ass needs to apologise and talk to him before something bad happens.

[@WhinyB]

The little kid isn’t wrong, when he gets older he can even get his ears pierced too.

[@4Just1Girl]

Long hair story OP: Oh for God's sake!! REALLY? Wanna know who else HAD LONG HAIR??!! JESUS CHRIST. Not to mention, Samson (Until the spy/betrayer, Delilah cut it from his head). I don't see a problem with men wanting long hair, as long as it's kept clean, and neat and occasionally trimmed, and tied back when working in a job related employee position.

[@lilolmecj]

I think it was hilarious that the husband said I am hoping she will wear a mini skirt. When did it become wrong think for a man to admire his wife’s beauty? The family overstepped, he gave it back.

[@gregjayonnaise8314]

Story 5: What a terrible uncle. Andy isn’t responsible for this kid’s temper tantrums, and he shouldn’t have to cut his hair to stop them. Also, even if he DID cut his hair, would that even stop the kid from wanting long hair? He seems pretty fixated on it, and cutting the hair might just make him want it more. He’s belittling both his eight year old’s feelings and that of Andy’s for arbitrary and stupid reasons.

[@leighnisbett9691]

To op in the first story,your niece had a college fund ,just image how that could help the homeless ,the food banks ,veteran associations ,why don't you just split up the money to charities ,then there is no money to sue for ,and your niece and dog thief (which is so wrong)loses out of her future education.NTA

[@cjandauntieyaya1446]

Title Story: OP is NTA for getting upset for violations to her privacy. I don't CARE what the orientation is in a child. That child needs to learn that peeping is a NONO! The niece should have gotten punished for violating another's privacy. Just because she was exually curious doesn't mean she is entitled to satiate her desires by creeping on someone else. Her own flesh and blood no less, that isn't just violating privacy, that incest and she needs to get therapy to teach her that sexual desires for her own family is wrong on SOOO many levels. The mother here is an asshole for linking sexual orientation to what social taboos one can get away with.

[@Fiocina.]

As a dude with long hair its so infuriating when people keep saying its wrong

[@MrsMrd1]

Story 3 - NTA. Moving forward, try and have a conversation with the niece. The same if you catch a boy peeping. Why were you looking? This is why it's wrong..., this is why I'm upset... I would assume she has been told that peeping at people, or anything for that matter, is a violation of your safety. Have her tell you what she would feel like an react if someone was sneaking peeks at her. If she has reached the age to express to her family about her sexuality, she's ready for a grown up conversation on boundaries. This goes for the parents as well. Her sister should know better. Giving the niece a free pass is the along the lines of "boys will be boys"! Uhm no. Your NTA, sister is.

[@cjandauntieyaya1446]

Story 4: OP is NTA and made a pretty good retort. The uncle isn't married to the niece and it is just creepy that he's even talking to OP about controlling OP's wife's clothing choices. Op's wife is still in the FOG (Fear Obligation and Guilt) when it comes to her family. This is what happens when one walks away from a toxic family dynamic. Good on OP for defending his wife even when she's unable to accept the protection due to her brainwashed status.

[@stephadoodledoo]

THE LITTLE WAFFLE FACE, CUUUUUTE

[@SpacePlant-nb8gm]

I can't help but laugh at the last op's last comment "I don't hate long hair, my nephew has long hair and my wife can use it to calm him down" because it sounds exactly like "I can't be racist, one of my cousins has a black spouse!" Dude needs to listen to himself talk for once and come to the logical conclusion that he's got some nicely ingrained gender bias that needs prying out.

[@Yori6552]

Story 1: NTA. They stole OP's dog then expect them to hold up what was (Due to the lack of a contract) effectively a frickin' *gift.* They reek of entitlement. oml. Also, while I don't like the idea of feeding animals that are not vegan by nature a vegan diet, there are lots of reasons why one would which can include allergies, digestion problems, picky eating, and more. What matters is that it's been approved by the vet and is being monitored. That's being a good pet-parent.

[@connortait9756]

the intro!! omg i'm in love

[@MarkNarrations]

Thanks so much Cas!

[@Lix88]

The thing that pisses me off the most about the last story is this "he knows I wouldn't try to hurt him on purpose". Yeah man, I'm pretty sure he thought the same thing when he came out to his parents, and look how THAT turned out: he thought OP was someone he could trust, but now he's probably terrified that he's going to end up homeless. Idiot.

[@deebee4930]

story 5 - The hair is really not the issue because the little boy started speaking of all the things he was going to do when he was grown up. That is just a child day-dreaming. The father should just say, "that's nice", instead of arguing. If the child is being rude and belligerent in his comments, the father should say, "when you're grown you will have the right to make your own decisions, just like I do, but until then I expect you to be polite when you talk to me." I think that is the issue, not Andy's hair. Just apologize and tell Andy he's a good kid for heavens sake. Then the dad would be setting an example of the kind of behavior he expects from his son.

[@kathleenmcfarlane2555]

Story 2: OP is not the A-hole! I love it!

[@GIChiyo]

"Why are sdome men so annoyed ny other men having long hair" Because unfortunately everything about women is sexualized by some men and women, including long hair, and they are so insecure about their own self and sexuality that they don't want to suddenly 'accidentally' be attracted to a man because they have long hair It's really sad and pathetic but usually that's the case imo

[@duketha5286]

Usually I get horrible comments about my long hair from old white women saying that I'm going to hell I usually just respond and say that Jesus had long hair and I'm doing my best to be a good Christian and emulate him

[@thedestroyasystem]

@@duketha5286 genuis. Love it. 10/10 response. Keep doing you man :)

[@damien678]

im lowkey scared of straight men's reactions to me bc i have long hair and want to start wearing (stylish) kilts and its like 😬😬😬 tfw some ppl dont understand long hair and some articles of clothing arent inherently feminine in other cultures

[@itsjustme7487]

@@duketha5286 Im an old white woman. As long as your hair clean and combed, who cares?

[@josefinasoria3807]

AAAAHHHHHHH THE LITTLE WAFFLE SKEJBEKSKL

[@jackiewepps4694]

Story 5: The uncle is wrong, and first of all, he should admit that to his nephew and apologize. Maybe the eight-year-old will get over his desire for long hair. But maybe it would help to have him grow his hair out a little bit? There was a boy in my class and from 1st to... I think 3rd or 4th grade, he had about shoulderlength hair. And yes, he did look different, but none of us kids thought twice about it. At that age, it's probably only the adults who care. Who knows, maybe the son will find it annoying one day and decide to get it cut to a "normal" length on his own.

[@hailey4538]

AND KEEP IT ZERO DISLIKES!

[@peteranon8455]

Story 5: YTA. Honestly, you either accept people for who they are or you don't. Either of those is less confusing to your children than "it's okay for your cousin to have long hair, but not okay for you." Not allowing long hair on boys in your house is like a level 4 AH move, but allowing the cousin to have it and not allowing your sons to have it is like a 7/10 AH move, followed up by the 8/10 "forcing or tricking him into cutting the hair."

[@mandyrobbins1041]

I say ESH on Story 5. OP sucks for the outburst, but tempers can't be held indefinitely. 8 year old is having a rude, disrespectful attitude to his parents. That's NOT on. And the wording Andy used in telling him is partially to blame for that, so that's why Andy sucks. Not for the hair, but for causing the attitude in his little cousin. 8 year old sucks for the attitude. If it was just, "When I'm older, I can have my hair how I want" it wouldn't be a problem. But it wasn't JUST that. It was also the "No matter what my STUPID mom and dad say about it!" part. Nobody has the right to say that to their parents at EIGHT.

[@15oClock]

1. Kidnapping a dog deserves serious consequences. Veganism isn't for every dog, but if the vet said it's okay, what they did is even more difficult to justify. 2. It doesn't matter if they paid for it; it was never for sale! Money doesn't make taking stuff any better, no matter what this weirdo thinks. 3. Peeping on a family member is bad, regardless of either one's gender. This niece gives lesbians a bad name. 4. She's an adult; it shouldn't matter to anyone else what she wears. That wasn't what OP said though, nor is it really why he's supportive of her, is he? 5. Maybe I'm biased because I like my hair longer, but OP's a terrible father and uncle. This is a classic "It doesn't matter to me, but it matters to other people and I care more about what assholes think than I what I do."

[@TheZombifiedFairy]

For 5... the boy literally wouldn't be allowed in a school they are paying thousands for. So no its not about "other people" its about education

[@Whale-Shark-Katie]

@@TheZombifiedFairy OP specifically said that long hair isn’t against the rules though, it’s just frowned upon, which isn’t much better but still

[@brigzbeebroadcasting2870]

AHHHHH I LOVE THE NEW ANIMATION (cute widdie waffle)

[@gopikapillai5564]

IKR!!! The into was just 🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@brigzbeebroadcasting2870]

@@gopikapillai5564 loved the butter yellow

[@MarkNarrations]

You got to be careful of that waffle, he's a cheeky little guy!

[@beingWantable]

Put cake in hands, walk to room, get dress. Not there, check the laundy... take dress and walk away. Transfer money back. Save text messages...that's what I'll do

[@telinhajp]

Love the intro! ❤ The yellow is so fun and the super kawaii waffle. Loved it! 😍🌞

[@darlieoneeleven]

NEVER THOUGHT I WOULD SAY THIS: Your MIL is correct.

[@amandamccarthy8283]

ABSOLUTELY LOVING THE NEW INTRO!!! Also I just want to say that you, Mark, are such a good person. I've heard your stance on so many fucked up situations and I can only dream of having that kind of consideration and patience you manage to find within yourself. I hope things are well with you, and that your dad is doing well considering :)

[@MarkNarrations]

Aww thank you Amanda. 😁❤

[@1992KCWolf]

The new intro is adorable. 1. NTA, you don’t steal someone’s pet. And a family members pet? No. Taking the dog randomly like that has got to be purely petty. I doubt it had to do with the dog’s welfare over diet choice of the owner. Not saying that, that couldn’t necessarily be a concern of theirs but their pettiness/greed overshadows that. P.S. some dogs can indeed eat vegetarian and even vegan diets and be perfectly happy and healthy, with the aid and/or advice of a veterinarian. I know of a few good puppers that *had* to have plant based food. Normal doggy diets made them sick.

[@MarkNarrations]

Hey KC, hope you're doing well!

[@tada4945]

I read peeping as peeing, and was very confused.

[@NeoLotex]

Story 1: NTA, Timeout and no money seems like a good idea, maybe they'll think twice about consequences next time. Story 2: NTA, I like this way of taking revenge for things, it's certainly better than destroying something of her stuff and suing someone over that (small claims maybe?) wouldn't be worth it. Best thing would've been to just take it back, but would fall flat if she decided to wear it this day. But imagining OP being like "Excuse me cousin ... *OP opens various zippers* ... *OP takes off the dress* ... ok I'm done, you can go on now" would also be funny. Story 3: One could argue that it wouldn't be the biggest problem to apologize in this situation to (and I don't like to say that) "keep the peace", but I don't see why it would be necessary. The niece put herself in this situation and now she has to live with the consequences. I don't really know why her mom is so invested in this and not the niece herself, she's just emberassed as it seems and that'll be a while, apology or not. Maybe she should question her sister next, insistence often comes from taking things personal. Story 5: I see where OP is coming from and to a certain degree he is right, it's not completely Andy's fault that the 8yo is acting up, but he certainly enables that behavior with thoughtless comments. No idea how mature the boy is and if he would understand a more in depth explanation (nothing too advanced, just a little bit), but this whole Andy thing seemed like a trigger for everything that came afterwards. Best course of actio would probably to apologize and think of a way of how to deal it in the future together. And maybe keep an eye out and get a professional to take a look a the kid, might be something that tries to settle in now and that'll be harder to deal with in the future.

[@drkrazykid]

How is everyone just ignoring that op fed her dog vegan dog food, that is in no way healthy and know any actual vet would not recommend that diet. She has either found a scam, lied, or is ignoring other information pertaining to that diet

[@thecookiesnatcher7674]

OML THE WAFFLE, I LOVE IT

[@shizanketsuga8696]

Story 1: Not every dog can be fed vegan food without negative consequences, but if the vet makes the call that it's okay you have to conclusively show that they are wrong _before_ even considering such drastic measures like stealing someone's dog over it (and it still wouldn't be the recommended course of action if legal options are available). And even if they had done that there is no reasonable expectation, least of all a legal obligation, to still get a gift from the offended party, let alone an expensive one like a college fund. So, while I can charitably assume that the sister's and niece's initial intentions were good they went about it in a stupid and asshole-ish way, and OP is NTA for showing them the consequences. Story 2: For a contract to exist there has to be an agreement between buyer and seller to exchange goods versus money. In this case the "buyer" unilaterally decided on a price. There was no agreement, so there was no contract and no price. The money OP got from her "friend" is not payment for the dress and both this "friend" and her mother are brazenly stupid for saying it is. Their cluelessness sounds a bit like rich people syndrome from the information given. A cake-less birthday party is merely the surprised Pikachu face moment they deserved. OP is NTA. Story 3: Apologizing for inqhiring about being peeped upon _to the person doing the peeping_ just because they had to come out as a lesbian in order to come clean? That's a pass from me. What's OP's ethically meaningful choice here? Not inquire and just enable sexually abusive behaviour that is no less creepy when it comes from a lesbian? Nope, OP is NTA. Story 4: If anyone was disrespectful here it was FIL by treating his daughter like a possession of her husband and OP like an immature child unable to make his own ethical judgments. Sure, teasing FIL with the mini-skirt remark was a bit unnecessary but it's a fair and on-topic retort to his presumtuousness. OP is NTA. Story 5: OP is TA and he knows it, clearly indicated by his last paragraph. I get how his 8 year old is getting on his nerves, but that's no justification to blow up at his nephew and threaten him with unreasonable demands. OP should take his own advice and apologise to him, not let the situation simmer.

[@paden1865able]

What the hell is it with people dictating to others about how they're allowed to dress or wear their hair? My husband has long hair, mine is cropped short. The only time I get aggravated with him about it is when uses my hair brush and doesn't remove the hair spiders, for shit's sake.

[@str4yk1dsw0rldd0minati0n]

Story 1: Everyone is an AH, OP is abusing their dog IMO, dogs need meat, just cause you’re vegan doesn’t mean your pet should be vegan, if you want your pet to have a vegan diet then get a pet who can have a vegan/vegetarian diet (bunnies, guinea pigs, etc.) but obviously the niece and stuff shouldn’t of taken the dog and should’ve called the RSPCA or something

[@Nellipusen]

why does it seem like so many parents are so obsessed with their kid's hair? The kid's eight! If he wants to have long hair, let him have long hair! What's the issue??

[@WBFNBS8809]

The new intro is so CUTE 😍 GO WAFFLE GANG! 🧇💜😁

[@MarkNarrations]

Yaya! K :)

[@taenisierra5929]

Hi Mark! Long time listener, first time commenter. You always say you like reading the comments and learning new perspectives, but today I learned something during the story about the girl with the conservative family. I thought it was funny what he told her uncle, but you made me realize that actually, if somebody joked about myself like that, I would be upset too, because it actually is really disrespectful. Anyways, stay awesome, hope you and your family are well! Warm wishes 💜

[@jesterbrown90]

Story 5: YTA. OP needs to be the better person and go apologize to Andy. If the kid talks shit again, then punish him for being disrespectful like you should've done in the first place.

[@skirties6164]

That new intro is amazing :o I love it !

[@oniroi5237]

I actually chuckled trying to imagine you swishing your hair like the shampoo commercial 🤣

[@MarkNarrations]

I actually was trying, the thought of it is just so glorious :)

[@MJISA5]

Much love, Mark! 🧇🧇🧇🧇🧇

[@Freezinggreece2]

Why force your dog to eat vegan though? Why should your morals be forced upon a non consenting animal?

[@bobbievedvick9334]

Story 1: We have a large gypsy culture in the American city where I used to live. I've had dealings with them with my work in the school district. They have some interesting beliefs. One is that they don't believe in such a thing as stealing. Not this group anyway. They believe any is object is yours but ONLY while it is in your possession. So if I take your things, they're no longer in your possession and therefore no longer yours; they are now mine. In some crazy, weird way, to hear them say this, there's a bizarre logic to it. It doesn't work in other societies, but that's the name of the game in their culture.

[@dingoatemychild1]

Story 1 yta you dont feed dogs vegan food that's animal abuse

[@bunnyslippers191]

Dude, you are the only person I have ever heard who can whisper and give me the ASMR prickles and shivers. Now after that "...wear a miniskirt..." in Story 4 the back of my neck, my scalp, all the way down the backs of both arms, and for some really odd reason, my right thigh are all prickling and I shivered twice. I usually don't have much, if any, ASMR reactions to the ASMR vids on KZbin, but for some reason your not quite whispering/not quite really talking voice does it for me. Bizarre!

[@homersimpson5821]

The guy isn’t an asshole he’s defending he’s wife.

[@jamestown8398]

Story #1 NTA - OP sounds like a responsible dog-owner; they spoke to a veterinarian and a nutritionist to make sure the dog food was okay, that's better than most pet owners do. Thus trying to steal away his dog would be an extremely distressing experience. The college fund was a gift, and you're not obliged to give gifts to people who hurt you. Story #2 NTA - If I was in OP's place I would have told them "I don't want money, I want my damn dress back. Give it back or we're no longer friends" and if they still didn't give it back then I'd call the police for theft or taken it to court. Story #3 ESH - I'm going to start out by saying that OP doesn't owe the niece an apology because the niece shouldn't have been doing that - gay people are just as capable of self-control as straight people so that's no excuse for peeping on her aunt. The niece shouldn't have done that and the mother shouldn't have defended her. Having said that, OP is an asshole for accusing her nephew of being a pervert with very little evidence (and I suspect based on the assumption that boys are perverts). I'm guessing that "things got heated" meant OP screamed at the nephew and kept pushing the accusation. If the mother didn't take his side, or if the niece didn't confess to it, then this could have easily resulted in severe psychological trauma and self-loathing for the nephew. Apologizing to him was the right thing to do but OP needs to make sure the nephew understands she doesn't think ill of him. OP should also take this as a lesson against jumping to conclusions. It bothers me how all the comments forget about the nephew and how he'd be feeling. Story #4 ESH - You embarrassed your wife for the sake of pissing off her in-laws. While she can dress how she wants and it's right of OP support her, that's no reason to create more drama. Story #5 YTA - OP is blaming Andy for something the 8-year is doing, which is just wrong. Moreover Andy and OP's kid are correct in saying that the kid can live as he pleases when he's an adult. OP should make the first move and apologize to Andy. Make it a real apology too, admit to being wrong. That's the only way OP can salvage your relationship with Andy and it'll be healthy for the child to learn that parents are humans who make mistakes too.

[@triumphanimationsandgaming1105]

YES!!! I love your new intro thing!! It’s beautiful!!!

[@MarkNarrations]

I'm glad you like it Terio :)

[@jessicawolfe5861]

Stealing the dog was not ok but feeding vegan food to dogs is kind of sketch. I knew a family that was vegan and fed their dog vegan. The dog always seemed hungry.

[@Ashenicky2009]

Last story, discipline your child for his attitude, don't take it out on your nephew. Your son needs an attitude adjustment, not your nephew.

[@johnchristopher4341]

A teacher once asked a student Teacher "you have ten dogs and somebody tries to take 2 how many do have?" Student "I have 10 dogs Teacher what if somebody forcefully takes two Student replies 10 dogs in a dead body

[@SunBeeSmoked]

Story 5: jeez, Andy basically gets disowned by his own parents and then his uncle threatens to kick him out over hair and a normal 8 yo attitude as they’re growing into *gasp* a PERSON? Also the settle misogyny and homophobia did not go unnoticed by me. I think the husband clearly has some issues with Andy that isn’t just his hair and his own child’s attitude.