AITA Shutting The Door In Sons Face After 6 Years Of No Contact

[@lilydragonsupersta12]

Story 4: Artist here, there's a general etiquette between artists that means don't touch my shit without my permission. That's what I was taught. I can compare it to a drink you have this really nice drink that you made yourself and some one comes in and adds something you didn't know about. Thats at least how I can explain it. But as an artist it gives me extreme anxiety the idea of someone else touching my project. I would have exploded on the sister

[@Commenter839]

Fr. You'd think that as an artist herself, the sister would know better than to do shit like that.

[@ineedhealing2420]

Yeah, as an artist my self, I can comfortably say this is how you get smacked upside the head, literally and figuratively. The sister sounds like one of those egotistical, self important artists who think their hot shit and everyone else is beneath them. She needs a reality check before she decides to "fix" the wrong person's art.

[@RavenheartIndustries]

Had a friend like this when I was just starting out... she would forever go on "editing" others artwork. She would alter colors because "they were too bright" she would change designs because "they're drawn incorrectly", etc. And say it publicly. Drives me up the wall that she hasn't yet had a cold slap of reality yet... as she was quick to call me out for "traceing" when I was doing nothing of the sort and attempted to ruin my reputation. Why? So she wouldn't have to have competition in our local community.

[@personman8734]

I put a lot of time and effort into my work. If I found out someone went behind my back and edited my shit. I don’t know if we’d still have a relationship.

[@gibgabs2899]

Artist here as well, it’s infuriated me having to read that. Giving advice is fine, but straight up messing with their stuff??? Omfg

[@laurenmentink7401]

Story about a deaf female who wanted to get a driver's license. The man giving driving test (in car) didn't really want to do that. He allowed the girl to do the driving part. At one point she went off to the side of the road. The guy was going to fail her until he heard the siren for an ambulance going past. The young woman passed both the written and the driving.

[@elevin8858]

I’m legally blind. I used to work for a Deaf woman who I swear was a safer driver than most hearing people I’ve ridden with. And on my own thing, I HATE when people try to”help” me across streets. I’ve had the light change and someone try to go forward, grabbing my arm, until I warn them I can hear a car turning. (I can’t explain it well, but I hear the engine slow just as the driver gets ready to turn. No I can’t see oncoming traffic, but I can hear, and even recognize the whining sound of electric engines.

[@pearl_lisha896]

NTA: Anyone who starts fighting about money especially before their parents are dead are disgusting in my eyes. To simply put it, it’s OUR money and OUR assets. If they don’t like what they’re getting, then they really don’t need it in my opinion.

[@MsTemptation]

The point is that kids aren't automatically entitled to their parents assets. I can leave my money to whomever I bloody please and we are. If my kids want money then they will earn theirs just like I earned mine. Anything we leave you after you become an adult is a blessing we're bestowing down to you. More parents need to teach this to their shamelessly greedy children.

[@toysruskid5074]

I'm not going to depend on my mother. I couldn't depend on her as a child and I'm certainly not going to stupidly try now. My dad keeps trying to bring up his will but I keep telling him I don't want to talk about it. I don't want to think about him dying. I'll cry. My good grandma already died and left me with a hateful witch as my only living grandparent.

[@shelbylengwenat3774]

@@toysruskid5074 I am sorry you had to deal with that. That is terrible and I bestow as many internet hugs as I can.

[@shelbylengwenat3774]

@@MsTemptation Agreed... Full disclosure, I am not a parent. However, I do not expect anything from any of my parents. My mom was a financial train wreck and when she died, I literally just got a life insurance policy that she forgot about. As in she took out everything but a nominal amount of the account and forgot it existed. My dad and Step mom (who I am incredibly lucky to have) have organized shit a bit better. However, as far as I am concerned that is their money. If they wanted to cash it all out before they die and go on a world cruise or whatever, that is none of my business. The only things I have asked them to do in terms of will writing is: 1. write an up to date will with their wishes for burial etc. 2. If there is something sentimental they want us to keep that they make that known (family heirlooms etc, ) especially as I am a step child, I would hate to ask for something that has a lot more significance to that side of the family and make things worse. 3. Don't die until I have a kid... obviously the last one may be out of their control.

[@amanur1518]

Story 2 - I think OP could have handled his son's High School application process better, but I don't think deciding that you don't want your teenage child to go live in a different part of the country is necessarily an attempt to sabotage all of his ambitions. I think a few people aren't considering that when you're talking about starting high school the kid couldn't have been more than 13-15 years old. Most parents wouldn't be okay with sending their kid to another city or state at that age. He should have talked to his son about it before declining those offers, but I think the grandfather was a much bigger AH for going behind OP's back and basically stealing his son. It seems like the grandfather did everything he could to drive a wedge between father and son, and now it's really working.

[@squirrel670]

The father made it so easy. A problem is he didn't even mention location as the driving issue. Then he rejects his son for showing up and when asked if he wants to reconcile says his son is too much like his father and he would be happy when his father dies. Sick. Who says that? My kid is just like my parent and I'll be so happy when parent dies. Make connection between kid and someone i hope dies

[@AllenTax]

@@squirrel670 To what story said. To me it makes it sound like a lot of story is not said. Like emotional and maybe physical abuse. Where is the mother to the story,grandparents.

[@sctpc]

I read it that being told by the son his dad was a embarrassment, was the dads last straw, and he picked the best school around his home. I understand as Ill never see my mum again (Shes alive) and might never see my eldest daughter due to theft and entailment, and fell like I would not be missed by my wife and other 2 girls. you just get to the point of it easier to be alone and not be used and never able to do anything right.

[@squirrel670]

@@sctpc That isn't normal. Are you alright? What do you mean you feel your wife and other 2 girls wouldn't miss you?

[@sctpc]

@@squirrel670 Im only good for cooking, cleaning and giving what they want. Its all one way sometimes we are better alone then being a servant to selfish people.

[@thecraftycyborg9024]

THANK YOU for calling out that the woman was ableist!! So many people deny ableism even exists. Not you, though. Seriously, this is part of why we’re such loyal fans. :) That and your personal stories. I love channels that actually add their own thoughts and feelings.

[@MarkNarrations]

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[@ladosis5596]

I second that. I love hearing about Mark and his parents. And that cute lil dog too. Keep waffling on!

[@MollyElizabethReilly]

Story Three: My first boyfriend in highschool had a mom who was deaf. She had a cochlear implant and would always threaten to turn it off if me and him wouldn't stop bickering in the backseat of her minivan. I miss her dearly, RIP Chasity.

[@kingarchreapagon4403]

The second story op was not actually talking to his son so it started there when the son and father bond started to fall apart. And be said that your no longer bloodlines is saying your not part of the family and being disowned so I can see why op won't talk to him.

[@karend1577]

Grandfather got his grandson and disinherited in his son. Grandson followed grandfather and went no contact, too.

[@Hynotama]

At 13-15 your parents don't owe you an explanation as to why they won't send you away in a different part of the country. OP's entitled and psychotic child proverbially stabbed him in the back.

[@Hynotama]

@Michael Lane yeah, except the grandfather did that to OP when OP was 22. OP's child was barely a teenager and wanted to live on his own in another part of the country. And OP didn't do the same to his child because he enrolled the child at the best local high school. He did not neglect the child's education. And let's face it, high school isn't where you decide your career either. It's college.

[@FrancisR420]

Weird that the grandpa just randomly said that out of nowhere with no context necessary

[@michaelmurratti4687]

@@karend1577 THANK YOU! .

[@smileytuna]

Story 2 really broke my heart. A lot of resentment and anger on my dad's side came out when his father passed away suddenly. He gave me many of the gory details (over several glasses of burbon) and my assessment of the situation was that it came down to my grandfather being too cowardly to express his true feelings toward my dad. Anyone who saw the way my grandfather spoke to my dad and refered to him at family gatherings knew he loved and respected him. And my dad being raised with a lot of toxic masculinity making him feel as if he could not express his feelings. A situation came up where my dad proposed a project between him and my brother (basically estranged, no animosity just weak family ties) the project involved a rare shared interest. Brother then suggested to my sister and i that we basically do the project as a gift to dad. I could not stay silent. I privately texted my brother and told him our father's true intentions. It worked out splendidly. They now still share aspects of the projects that they do together and i think they are closer than ever. TLDR: I got my dad drunk and broke the chain of father son resentment through misscommunication.

[@rickrollrizal2364]

OP1 1. He's not yet dead. There's another will when he dies which is hopefully far in the future. 2. He's passing his practice off to the one who can continue it. It's not a family business. If the siblings want to make it one, then they work there. Like be the reception or janitor if they want. OP 1 is NTA

[@TheNormExperience]

I have to agree. This post really pissed me off because my family DID have a family business which led to my brother and I growing up watching the amount of time, energy, stress, and money it took just to try and make a steady profit. My entire childhood was lived around “the business” first and my brother and I knew from a very young age that trying to start and keep your own business It is NOT easy! Every single one of of worked there for free and for pay because our whole savings and future were built on it. Which also meant that when it did finally go under, like many independent businesses nowadays, it also screwed everyone. A business with a functioning patient base is a head start, but the practice itself is in no way a cakewalk for OP’s son, especially since with the business will come sudden NEW costs to upkeep it, like insurance, leasing, permits, employees, advertising, on and on and on. Just handing someone a business is not like handing them a golden ticket because no business can run itself. It makes sense to me that since OP’s first child volunteered to take this over as a favor, he also deserves an equal split of OP’s money because realistically, a majority of that money will be invested back it in the business, whereas the siblings can do whatever they want with their share. They are acting entitled, and way too focused on the bottom line numbers, not the reality of the situation.

[@EmptyMTYT]

As a formally gifted student turned burned out adult I can't overstate the value of a 'normal' high-school life

[@susanlayton2143]

One of the comments on story 3 made me think about something with my son when he was a kid. My son is deaf and a grown man now, but when he was younger and played soccer, instead of treating him like there was something wrong with him, the ENTIRE team, encouraged by and including the coach learned sign language to be able to talk to him.

[@deaths_enigma]

I feel like a lot of people are skipping past the fact that op rejected those scholarships because he was worried about the influence the grandfather would have over him, not because he was disappointed that the kid was ambitious :/

[@BIGEAGLEDUDE]

That's exactly it I think most people want to look at it as he's telling his son to reject the scholarships and not look at it from my grandfather was this way to me I don't want him to be controlling towards you. And they don't want to look at from his past experience as a child they want to look at from what he's doing out the parrot is a lot easier to go after someone who has experience pass s*** and they don't want it to be repeated through their children vs that person holding their child back from achieving their goals because they think that person is jealous.

[@squirrel670]

@@BIGEAGLEDUDE and look where it got him. He outright rejected what his son worked hard for as his son was ambitious and he didn't want the son to be closer to the grandfather even though he was. He still thinks he is in the right and rejected his son because he hates his father even though he was just as controlling in his own way. The kid himself didn't come crawling back when living with the grandfather and had no problems himself with the grandfather so the father was WRONG. You explain your worries to your child and let them make their own decisions that djould be theirs to make. That was for the kid to find out himself and call home to daddy for help if needed but he never gave the son that chance. The irony. OP is shameful in his mindset and actions and you don't just lose custody like that and for your kid to be that upset they'd rather be elsewhere after you did them wrong is not a small detail.

[@maxm7584]

@@squirrel670 how was the OP wrong? He thought that he would be intentionally alienated from his son if he allowed him to be raised by grandpa in a different city. That is EXACTLY what happened. Losing custody is that easy if you surrender it voluntarily, as mentioned in the story. I wonder, would you let your 13yo child make their own decision if they wanted to move away and live with someone else and only see you once every two months?

[@squirrel670]

@@maxm7584 He didn't make it known to the son before hand since the expectation was that he would get to go to any school and he declined himself. In their country it's like college and you don't turn down that for your kid anyway, so it was a long time coming that this would have been expected to have a plan for. Might have been boarding schools which people do send their kids to. According to you OP could have done nothing to save the relationship with his son even though he currently hates his son and could have chosen to try to fix the relationship but he was spiteful. Is that what you do when you really love and care about your child? He gave up on his kid and came down on him harsh and his actions let the grandpa look good which let this happen in the first place. No one, not even children, likes their decisions made for them and he had his WHOLE life to tell him that was how it was going to be. That he isn't moving or letting him go anywhere else and can get one right there but he didn't. He waited or did it spur of the moment.

[@maxm7584]

@Michael Lane he pressured his son not to be ambitious? He wanted to send him to the best school in the region. And OP left his father as an adult, not in his early teens.

[@jlyo1991]

Mark! Right on time m8. I was craving some juicy drama with a soothing accent.

[@rayneingdown]

That’s the perfect way to describe these videos

[@missluciddreams3472]

Yes! Love his accent! ❤️

[@invadar789]

now that you say that i'm just picturing a crossover between Mark and VoiceyHere the overload of calm reading voices, juicy drama, and cute accents might be enough to kill us 🤣

[@lovingSey]

Story 2.. I too would close the door. Been there.

[@D00dl3z04]

I don’t get what everyone’s saying about story 2, he didn’t want him to go to those high schools because it was farther away and near the grandfather. He didn’t want the grandfather in the boys life because he knew his influence would be bad for him, he wasn’t limiting his son or trying to choose his future he just wanted to keep him aways from negative influences, and he was right because look what the grandfather did to his son, the very thing the father was trying to keep him from. NTA.

[@jessejamesmanfred6319]

it wasnt that he wanted to limit the negative influences, he wanted his son to have a better chance at high school not stressing from the workload of the higher schools, op said in the comments of the post his son almost worked him self to death in middle school and wanted better for his son

[@SnowyWolborg]

Going to school across the country is not a right. When you are a kid, what you _want_ to do isn't always what happens. I do agree that OP shouldn't have decided for him, but it's also not unreasonable to not feel comfortable with sending your child that far away from home. The son took it to another level by making false claims of mistreatment. If OP's son came back after a few months and tried to talk it out, things might have been different. But he only showed up after granddad was on his death bed and probably had regrets about saying he's "no longer part of the bloodline."

[@rebekahsegun8319]

OP only said SOME of the school were in his dad's city. Not all of them. He could have simply asked his son to turn down the schools in said city. I get that not all parents will be comfortable with sending their children so far away at a young age, but the problem isn't that. It's that he didn't even attempt to discuss this with his son. He turned down all those shcolarships behind his back and didn't bother to tell him until after he did it. And he's surprised that his son was pissed at him after that? He was acting no better than his father, but in reverse. Sure, he enrolled his son in a good regional school, but that's not what his son wanted. He didn't give his son the chance to research this school, take a look around and see if it would be a good fit for him. No. He basically just said, "son, I know you worked hard to get all those scholarships for those elite schools. But you gotta relax a little, so I rejected them all without telling you, but don't worry. I enrolled you in this kick ass school 20 minutes away. Hope you don't mind!" Summed up. Not only did he turn down his son's scholarships behind his back, but he also didn't give his son the chance to look at alternatives. And why does everyone think the son reported OP. It was clearly his grandfather. The son looked like he only called his grandfather to vent. Grandfather escalated the situation and used it as an excuse to seek custody and reported OP. Not don't get me wrong, the son sucks for turning into a snob, but I can't fully blame him as he was definitely poisoned by his grandfather. He was still impressionable and mouldable when he went to live with his grandfather. OP is the one who drove his son towards his grandfather. He definitely did not deserve to have his son taken away from him, but what has happened is indirectly because of him. If anything, it is an ESH.

[@TheBigExclusive]

@Michael Lane - Son was 13 years old. He doesn't get to decide what high school he goes to (especially if its far away). The PARENTS decide until he is an adult (typically around 18 years old). This isn't even college. It's HIGH SCHOOL. dad should have talked with son about this, but at the end of the day, it's dad's parental rights to decide where his son goes to HIGH SCHOOL.

[@TheBigExclusive]

​@Michael Lane - WTF is wrong with you. The son went nuclear, and LIED to the government saying he was being ABUSED by his father. He lied, and did something ILLEGAL to get back at his dad. Do you understand what that means? The father could have gone to PRISON if the court ruled against him. PRISON. Any son, who is willing to throw his Dad in PRISON over "not getting his way" is not a good son. Father did nothing to deserve being thrown in Prison and you know it.

[@iwantsifegold]

No OP wanted to protect his son and the father twisted it it’s up to OP to decide weather or not to forgive them. But the worst party in this story is the grand father he took OPs son’s from him. And don’t think for even a second to that OPs son’s knew what the grandpa was doing. So the son is no victim.

[@personman8734]

He didn’t take his son from him. OP drove him right into his arms. He did the same thing his father did and the son went with the grandfather because he was the only one who supported his dreams.

[@personman8734]

OP did less than support him he actively sabotaged him and took out his hatred on his damn son.

[@f.t.cnation9999]

@@personman8734the father didnt want his young child to move away. It was high school not collage. That is the big difference. He wanted his child to have a well rounded childhood have both a good education and a socal life.

[@personman8734]

@@f.t.cnation9999 he could have a much better education and how does living with his grandfather effect his social life. It might even help his social life since he is clearly the only one supporting him.

[@personman8734]

@@f.t.cnation9999 it was a college high school combo. He could have been with a smart business man with no college debt if not for his father’s resentment.

[@KittenUndercover]

The story with the deaf mom pisses me off so much. My mom was deaf and it made no difference in her parenting.

[@nessmiaou3424]

First story: The last opinion is garbage. He says that the patient's pool is the biggest asset of the practice and not the dentist. But WHY do the patients come back? BECAUSE THEY LOVE THEIR DENTIST! So it's fair to say that the biggest asset of the practice is the dentist himself!

[@zerobolt9506]

Yup, I'm on the fact OP is NTA and even after listening to that one comment still think so, and just one guy who happens to be a dentist too doesn't give enough info to just say OP is an AH or anything. And just because things are like that for that dentist doesn't mean there the same for OP, it's like saying that...I couldn't come up with anything, if u have one I'll like to hear.

[@toffiet3347]

So true. My sisters got a new dentist and loved her then her kids got a different dentist at the same practice and she wont go back to that place because of how badly her kids got treated even tho her dentist was boss

[@joimumu]

We are simply missing the biggest part of the story just how much money would the younger siblings get? If it’s 50$ then he is the AH to the younger siblings if it is 5 million$ then he would be a AH to his son if he is giving them 50.000-200.000 then they are getting plenty

[@wilsoncalhoun]

It's pretty common to sell or bequeath client lists in since professions because they do have a lot of potential value, but you're right: someone's Rolodex only gets you a brief initial bump in business. It's up to the doctor or whatever to keep that momentum going.

[@tiggerpooh2715]

Having a starting patient pool, does not mean they will stay.

[@Gloria-ro4vn]

Children aren't ENTITLED to any inheritance or anything else their parents. DAD worked hard and built up his practice. He put his kids through college giving them a good start on life, and they are damn lucky.

[@86londongirl]

Good god, Mark... 😢 I’m so sorry you’ve had to deal with all that’s happened to you - sending you a big internet hug 🤗

[@MarkNarrations]

Ahh tis all part of life but I'll take that hug haha :)

[@bubbles9287]

Story 1, I have something similar. My husband is the only person in his family to work for his Grandpa at his heavy equipment company. He’s been working since he was 16 and he’s almost 40 now. He has been told his entire life, that the company would one day be his. Now that Grandpa is retiring, everyone is coming out of the woodwork. Non family workers, only there for a handful of years, are getting portions of the business much higher than my husband. He is now down to 9% of ownership and he’s crushed. He’s incredibly talented and high skilled in his field, so that’s the salt. We’ve lived in this god forsaken desert just to be close to the office and now we are stuck here. Inheritance issues are the WORST.

[@TheBigExclusive]

It's a shame grandpa didn't reward your husband for helping run the business for years. I had something very similar happen in my family. I won't go into details, but take it from me....I would strongly advice your husband to just SELL his shares and to LEAVE. The other owners must buy out his 9% ownership, and give him cash value. If the other owners can't afford to pay your husband the cash value of his 9% shares, then they MUST sell the business to get money to pay your husband for his 9% shares. You and your husband should take the money he gets from selling his shares, move to another area, and maybe even start his own business elsewhere. Trust me from experience, inheritance is NOT worth the headache of fighting so many other owners!! Plus too many owners means too many arguments about how to run the business. Just wash your hands of the situation and walk away with cash to start a new life elsewhere. Again, sorry this is happening to your family!

[@OscaR-bo8ub]

I think the best option is to leave and start his own thing.

[@GoldenEagle940]

If your son filed an allegation of neglect to CPS, not invited him to spent time to fix things, when the grandfather after 6 years of no contact then they deserve it.

[@Flakey101]

@@elitepanda3000 OHHh no he refused to let a 11 year old kid go to live with a toxic individual, and instead offered him the best school in the region what a total monster the OP was /s

[@natedablack7857]

Op #2 Good job!! That's how you do it! When someone turns on you and shows you who they TRULY ARE, believe them and cut there assess out of your life!

[@squatasaurus9879]

Story 1: OP isn't dead yet, just retiring... So the dental practice isn't technically part of the will, but a separate thing. The daughters aren't dentists or technicians/hygienists (or at least they don't seem to be from the story), so they can't really "take over the family business". Regardless of any of that, it is OP's will, and he can split his assets however he wants. He's trying to be fair in other aspects but when it comes to a business that they can't partake in or improve, he decided to give it to his son so that it can continue on. The daughters expecting or trying to make OP give them more money are being entitled. He could technically just donate all the money. Especially the fact that he paid for their schooling. So it doesn't seem like they'd be in any huge debt or anything where he'd be helping one child over the other two, it would just be extra cash/assets for them. So, regardless of the value of the practice, I think OP is NTA. Daughters are just jealous and being entitled.

[@michaelmurratti4687]

Why do children feel ENTITLED to their Parents Money?

[@marionappelbaum950]

He could just shut the practice down and then nobody gets anything. Fair and square!

[@christianalbarran6544]

@@marionappelbaum950if that happens the daughters will become bigger AH because they will be the cause of people losing their jobs

[@digitalharmony26]

I only found you yesterday but binged the entire day 😂 I appreciate that you show comments as well as the stories and you just seem like a personable guy. Also really sorry to hear about your mum, that’s awful.

[@MarkNarrations]

Hey welcome to the channel 😀

[@TheBigExclusive]

Could’ve there been more of a discussion with dad and son about which high school to go to? Yes. Did it justify the son lying to the government saying he was being ABUSED by his father, and potentially sending his dad to prison? HELL NO. The son is a true a-hole.

[@undeadprincess5726]

Related to the second story, my father always says "being angry at someone is like drinking poison and expecting someone else to die."

[@redemption101caleb]

To be fair that's more or less a paraphrase of Buddah. Wise words; your father is a wise man.

[@blifefamilyadventures6994]

I love this quote and use it

[@shells500tutubo]

It seems to me that OP is more indifferent. But most people refuse to believe that a person can be indifferent and think that the wronged person must really have repressed hatred. That just isn't true. And I don't think that his comment saying he would drink wine when his father died is an expression of emotion, rather a joke by someone who truly doesn't care anymore.

[@tazhienunurbusinezz1703]

Would anyone let their teenaged kid move to another town & in with someone you hate & who treated you like garbage because you aren't into the same things? That seems like an unreasonable thing & I don't think he's an asshole for that decision. The hell?

[@Flakey101]

You not even know the country we go to high school at age 11 here, so the son could even be pre teen

[@Akichan07]

*rubs maple syrup under my armpits furiously * LET'S GOOOOOOO!

[@lizcatty9281]

Dude, not cool making me simultaneously think "yum" & "ewww"!... I mean, c'mon, I don't like maple syrup! 😜 Ok, that's a terrible joke, sorry! I'm in a pretty cheeky mood right now, pls forgive me! ♥️🇦🇺

[@thatone6597]

as a Canadian i approve of this comment

[@Ospyro3em]

Story 3- We found a Karen!!!

[@cheskydivision]

You gave the mom the option to not leave her daughter and she ended up leaving her. He needs to save those texts in case crazy mom accuses him of something.

[@nananaannncy404]

I appreciate that you don't sugarcoat the more adult words. Also that you include the time stamps. Great job!

[@josephbrown9665]

My father left me his business and everything else that he owned. Out of the 9 kids I was the only person that was there for the last 20 years of his life even with my youngest brother living in the same house as he did. He stopped talking to him about 10 years before he passed away and moved into his mother house with her and my dad owned that property as well and it was part of the estate. When he passed away and they read his will they were all completely blown away by it. I had gotten everything and I was in control of it all. I still own most of it and I have built his business into my business and it is world class now and thriving.

[@sacilexi231]

Never apologize for your personal story. That's what most of us are here for...Life Stories.

[@shadowflame2247]

for the dentist story, NTA. Period. If you don't like my opinion on this, don't bother replying lol. Regardless of what he's giving in his will, its HIS and people don't seem to comprehend it.

[@marinam3809]

Mark, I love your little personal stories. They add so much needed emotional context! As someone who is fairly new to ✨ the real world ✨ some more perspective is really appreciated 💜

[@Metonymy1979]

You're such a good person. We all love your personal touch in these vids.

[@Shadow-bl6ji]

Story 4: NTA as joker once said “ It’s not about the money it’s about the message”

[@LibsOK]

Mark. I love your personal anecdotes. Always hit me in the feels. The story about your mother. I experienced something similar...it took my mother being diagnosed with a sudden and aggressive illness (weeks to live) to bring my family together. Hearing the story about the inheritance squabbles is hard for the vulture-like behaviour of the kids. Much love man.

[@RRichO]

Shut the door in the the "family" who threw you away

[@_Sage967_]

also for story 2, REGARDLESS of how in other countries going or not going to the Harvard of highschool may have affected the son how he behaved after becoming a somewhat independent adult is inexcusable. OP did not chain him to a basement and he eventually got the high education he always wanted there was no reason to be a certified scumbag to his dad who put his comfort and wellbeing over education.

[@nikejukebox4107]

In story 3 I think NTA he didn't want to be under the same pressure that he was under growing up and tried to give him the high school experience that people who are under alot of pressure to be the best don't get. (I say that last part from my own experience in a shit prestiges school, where senior were bursting into tears because of assignments and stress and pressure with all of their assignments) and they never got to do anything fun.

[@caninedrill_instructor5861]

In Illinois it is against the law for medical practices, dental practices, chiropractic practices, and veterinary practices to be owned by non licensed members of the respective professions. I don't know what state "Daddy Dentist" is from, but that may also be a factor, or not, in his decision. However, if he was in Illinois, it would be a no-go to give any percentage of ownership in his practice to his non-dentist kids.

[@Tyanna01]

Story 2: I think there are a lot of commenters who haven't been disowned by their family. OP didn't do the disowning, his father and son did. And the cutting contact started on their side long before the final blow out fight. Yes, OP made some mistakes, but let's say he didn't. Let's say that OP let his son go to live with his father and was turned against him anyway. Would OP still be the AH for not wanting to accept their apology? We see on this sub over and over, where ppl tell the disowned OP that they don't have to accept the other party back into their life. So why does this OP need to?

[@FrancisR420]

If the father let his son go and didn't destroy their entire relationship because he wanted to control him then we wouldn't be in this situation. If the son went no contact afterwards because the dad randomly nerfed some other part of his life in an attempt to keep him away from his grandpa he would still be an a******. And yeah there is a double standard to kids leaving their parents and parents abandoning their kids. It exists then it's not going anywhere ever and you can you can think about that for a little while if you like.

[@jamainegardner4193]

​@@FrancisR420he didn't torpedo his life though, High School doesn't matter. He wanted his sonn to not burn himself out and wanted to be there for him then got FALSELY ACCUSED OF CHILD ABUSE.

[@callapratt7927]

I’ve been having a bit of a rough morning and your voice reading these stories is making my day a bit better. And it definitely has not as much to do with the fact that I’m all about accents as you’re thinking after reading this sentence.

[@mrjohnthedestroyer]

Story 1. Leaving a Dental Practice to the only son that is a ,...... Dentist. Gasp. It's not like he doesn't have other money for the other kids in a will, but he's not dying. Just retiring

[@AnimeLover-iy5bv]

Story 1 NTA even with that last post. If You want the benefits of a "family business" then You have to go into work with the "family business"

[@MD-co4lu]

friend made a very good point about the second story. this kid isn't someone going to college. this was someone entering high school. would you, as a parent, be comfortable sending your kid off to an unknown city where you don't have friends or trusted family? remember, this is a kid who is like 10-14 years old (some countries don't have middle schools).

[@tazhienunurbusinezz1703]

My little sister is a dental hygienist. It took her FIVE YEARS after she graduated to build up her practice (she is attached to an actual dental group with 2 full time dentists in a medium sized town. They expanded to include a hygienist , X-ray tech & oral surgeon 3 years after opening so that's when they offered my sister the position.) enough to justify her full time hours so that dentist is being unfair in a huge way. His son is absolutely getting one hell of an asset right off the top.

[@joimumu]

Sure he is getting a lot but the real question is just how much money are the other siblings getting? If OP would sell it would it be more or less than 1/3 of what the other siblings getting, also if the dentist is crappy then the dentist office wont be worth much OP son and you’re sister worked their a$$ off to get there

[@missluciddreams3472]

Great stories and as always, great work, Mark. Love to hear about ur life...makes everyone feel closer to their favorite You Tuber...much love 🧡 The story about the deaf mom: NTA...how did the girl's mom not know her daughter's friend was deaf? How did she set up a sleepover without actually talking to someone on the phone? (that would have made her aware that the mother was deaf, they is y u call). This mother seemed uninterested in her daughter's life until she saw someone to pick on and then she jumped on the opportunity... smh 😟

[@Princess-Jellyfish07]

As someone with hearing aids the deaf story pisses me off so much. I can drive just fine without my hearing aids.

[@Princess-Jellyfish07]

@Elizabeth Perry I personally have hearing aids to help me drive. Others who are completely deaf just need to pay extra attention. There are classes I've heard of for learning to drive deaf, as well as a lot of other things to help like visual cues some people don't normally notice.

[@TheBigExclusive]

Story 2: Uhh....The son called CPS and LIED to court about abuse from his Dad. All because the son couldn't go to the HIGH SCHOOL he wanted (which was far away from dad's home). Not College. HIGH SCHOOL (son wasn't even an adult). It's not like the dad wanted him to a bad high school either. His dad just wanted son to stay close to home, and dad signed up him up for the best HIGH SCHOOL in the area. Son could have gone to any college he wanted in a few years, but he absolutely crossed a line by lying to the government about abuse. Son is truly an AH. dad doesn't have to forgive that.

[@jenkzkh]

My oldest was adopted out. I wanted him but couldn't support him. He's 19 now and I'd give ANYTHING to meet him. This guy is totally ta!! His son tried to make up with him. He should have hugged him and been grateful!!

[@BiteSizedCrafter]

Story 1: NTA but A solution would be that if the son does sell the business one day he has to share the money from it evenly with his siblings minus and fees/taxes etc ( that would come out of the total before splitting it ).

[@joimumu]

He could also just sell it to his son (on a good price) but that’s not necessarily, I kinda wish he would say just how much the other siblings would be getting because I think they are getting a lot more then the son

[@Slicksterpat]

Story 1, NTA tell the vultures that because of their attitude they will get nothing and then go NC with them. It's your money not theirs.

[@MadameMushroom]

Digital artist here, it's considered very rude to "fix" someone else's work without asking. Just look up art fixing and you'll see way more people who are angry about it then people who think it's ok. Doesn't matter if you're family or not

[@maggpiprime954]

As an artist, and an art teacher, this sister is TA, big time. Touching someone else's work without agreeing on a collab, signing it, submitting it as a collab is theft. Shared credit is still theft if there was no agreement for it. "Hey, Modigliani does some really long necks, I'm gonna fix that bit of anatomy and sign my name, it's shared credit/collab" is unlikely to win any arguments with the museum curators or a court of law.

[@15oClock]

1. Not all inheritance is practical, but the practice primarily is. Perhaps there are other things the younger two can get, but that's assuming they deserve anything after this mess. 2. You need not achieve greatness to be happy, but sabotaging your children's ability to do so is disgusting. OP needs to admit his fault because his father sure is, even if it is late. 3. Everything OP has done in this post doesn't justify the mom's ableism. Everything she did stems from that, no true concern with him or her child. 4. Unsolicited editing doesn't actually help. She should know this, but she doesn't; she just has an ego to feed.

[@karmagrl76]

4. I'd get her back. "I've been thinking about it, and you're absolutely right. YOU are the professional here and only YOU know what you are doing. So I talked to our pastor to let him know I don't feel comfortable with my skill level helping them out, so you'll be doing all the work from now on. Free of charge, of course."

[@williamrafferty8935]

@@karmagrl76 I'd honestly like to see her reaction to the OP telling their sister that.

[@darkshadow5581]

Edit: for story 2 But question, he decided his HS right? I still think its a bit rude, but blackmailing,refusing contact and then blaming OP for not doing enough to reach out is way overboard. Also, the kid's at least 26 when they show back up. He chose no contact, he gets no contact.

[@zerobolt9506]

@@darkshadow5581 yea see you saw it too, I thought I was going insane, I even went on a rant about it. Yea it was high School, but the idiots of reddit are like your a bad father for not sending you maybe 13 to 15 year old kid somewhere far far away. The F is wrong with them.

[@charimonfanboy]

@@zerobolt9506 The Grandfather got legal custody of the kid. The biological parent of the kid, who has been raising the kid for years lost his parental rights. Might be different in their country, but in most places that does not happen due to a disagreement over which school they want. Either the dad signed his parental rights over voluntarily, as in he allowed his son to go to school elsewhere but only on the condition that they weren't father/son any more. Or he got his parental rights stripped from him (or had this threatened), as in a vulnerable kid was rescued from a dangerous home environment.

[@Nellipusen]

Mark rambling on about his life is honestly my favourite part of these videos

[@MarkNarrations]

Lol most of the time I don't even realise I'm doing it till I'm nearly done haha 😁❤

[@scifiwriter6092]

Art is very personal. It comes from the heart. Even if the changes are better, it is still a betrayal.

[@drewthistlethwaite8909]

I listen to this in group therapy when I’m about to lose my shit over triggering stuff. Your voice helps me calm down enough I don’t have to bounce, just listen in one ear so I can ground.

[@H.P._Lovecrafts_Beloved_Cat]

I’m in school for graphic design, and that last post filled me with a deep, blinding fury.

[@Frilliosis]

Perfect timing. Thanks g

[@TNTMAN360]

I'm sorry for taking the first comment it was one second before yours please accept my apology

[@rorimorganwilliams7294]

In the dentist story, I have a different idea of the situation. Straight out the two children who aren’t dentist are ghouls and AH. With the son, he is taking a risk because patients could walk very easily if he is a new doctor and if the assets (machines) need to be replaced soon he’s screwed. Also in these times dear old dad may decide he needs to come out of retirement because Rona flushed his investments down the toilet. The children can’t count their chickens until they hatch!!! In the second story, the way I see it OP was trying to have his son go to a school close to home so that his father and his attitudes didn’t change his son’s personality and their relationship. His father ended up in control and he never saw his son again because OP’s father never approved of a simple mechanical engineer (I wonder what the AH did when his car broke down, buy another one, jerk.) OP’s father made OP’s son a clone of himself and to both of them OP is garbage and a waste because he did what HE wanted with his life, he was happy. I wonder if they are or ever can be?

[@ladypseudo6096]

You say dentist and I pretty much go numb, I'm so highly phobic of the dentist it's unreal. They absolutely terrify me.

[@moxopal5681]

story 2: The father should have every right to decide where his underage child lives. The father mentions that his son was a realy good student. I have never seen a single person do well in school or academically that didnt have a supportive or carring parent. They could be strict but carring none the less. This makes me think that he was indeed a good parent. And single on top of that! And his crime was that he wanted to spend more time with his child? He even took responsibility for him even though he could have dumped him with his mother. I believe that the son was poisoned by the years against his father by grampa. Grampa propably helped out with money at some point and used it as a trojan horse.

[@Sarah.J.Jacobson]

story 2: hard NTA. He didn't cut his son off, the son and father cut off OP. They only want to see OP now, to assuage their guilty consciences. If the father was not dying, they would still say OP is out of the bloodline.

[@sephaya1563]

Couldn't agree less on story two with you mark. The father didn't want his son to live alone yet (understandable) and on the other side knew how the grandfather was like raising OP. He was afraid that the grandfather wouldn't let his son go out and do normal teenage stuff ( hence the "I want him to live as freely as possible"). Maybe it wasn't the best choice but he DID discuss it with the son and explained his reason. He wanted the best for his son and there was nothing like sabotaging. On the other hand son and grandfather called CPS (!!!) on him and went to court to take away the custody. Then they ignored him, cut Family ties with him and after the grandfather got sick they suddenly are sorry? They called OP lazy for not being something like a doctor. OP opened his own shop with his own money that still seems to be working and that at the age of 22. That is an great achievement in my eyes even if it is "only" a repair shop.

[@josequins9099]

The father should've let his son go to the college of his choice. Dad was pissed about how his father had pushed him to do something he didn't want to do, but then he does it to his own son, forcing him to go to a college he didn't want to go to.

[@donnellhamilton7901]

And cutting his son out of his life. The son cut him out of his life. He tried to contact his son through out high school and the son didn't want anything to do with him

[@rseegraves]

Dentist story. NTA I’ve read so many stories and witnessed in real live dental practices closing when the dentist retires. The others aren’t doing shit for the money, he’s going to have to work his ass off if he wants to keep it going.

[@nicetomeetyou3362]

Ok for the third story My sister is graphic designer with diploma and I'm selflearning digital artist. Never had she tried to edit my work, she did gave me few advices but never editing. We do share ideas when we work on something. When she is unsure or stuck I give her an opinion or idea that might inspire her when I'm not sure of the colors or shadings she gives me profesional advice. We respect each others. As an artist OP's sister should know this

[@leegraves8878]

In story 1 patient pool doesn't mean all of his dad's patients will stay with him some more than likely will but if my healthcare professional of any kind retires I am not automatically going to go with his replacement.

[@didyasaysomethin2me]

You always seem so apologetic for your little side stories. But I rather enjoy them. You're not just robotically reading Reddit stories. You're making them relatable. Only someone with a fair amount of life experience could do that.

[@MarkNarrations]

Oh boy, life has been a wild ride recently and find myself relating to a whole bunch of these in some ways so can't help myself going on haha :)

[@didyasaysomethin2me]

@@MarkNarrations Go on going on. The people complaining are few and far between. The waffle gang can do without those people anyway. 😘

[@BlahBlah-sz4ne]

The dentist was traing someone who he hoped would buy the practice but that fell through. This person would have not paid zero for the equipment and goodwill in the practice (patient pool, location, reputation etc) So the practice must have value that the son will benefit from. It is up to him to keep the clients like any business when he takes over. So the dentist father was minimising the value of the practice to suit his argument.

[@dougmartin2007]

Story 1: I've done some M&A work and I have seen companies sell for nothing more than the customer list. This, in one spectacular case, was a company losing over 800K USD per year. Story 2: tough, but I think the OP needs to gather his emotions and then think on it. I feel like he will want to at least get some closure with the father and then maybe have a son again.

[@jimmiesussler8640]

Story 2 I think the whole reason he tried to get his son at a school in his region was because he wanted to spend more time with him.. there is obviously some care in there all be it misguided care. strange now everything’s said and done he’s finally got a chance to reconnect with his son and he decides not to at of spite for what was ultimately his mistake.

[@selimkarayl7823]

How is that strange? OP still try to spend time with his son but he wasn't invited any important events and holidays. His own son insulted him and later cut all contact for years which hit OP limit. Afterwards if OP's son wants to reconnect he has to work for it or give up.

[@jimmiesussler8640]

@@selimkarayl7823 Ironic might have been the better word.. Though i've forgot my reasoning since watching this.. so we will never know :(

[@boba4]

The son basically kicked OP in the teeth and left him behind like yesterday's garbage. After cutting him out of his life for years, he is now losing the parental figure he chose and comes swaggering back to tell his father he'll consider getting to know him again. If you think this is too harsh a way of looking at it then you know how I feel about the people putting the hate on OP. The kid would need to bring a gigantic bag of contrite before I'd so much as make sure the door didn't hit him when I slammed it in his face.

[@karend1577]

Story 1, OP is NTA. One may get the dentist company but not necessarily the clients. I've been going to my current dentist for decades because I like him. He does great work. On the other hand, my sister keeps jumping from one dentist to another because they do lousy jobs or services. My dentist treats me with respect. I have seen his other 'partners' and ... if my dentist retires, I will be checking other potential dentists to be my dentist. And it won't be in that clinic.... Story 2, OP is NTA. Even after reading the comments below, I would not have sent my child to a high school that's across the country or far from home. We're talking high school. Anyway, both his father and his son blackmailed him and threatened to call CPS, disinherited him, and no contact? They made it very clear what they thought of him.

[@randommadman7348]

2nd guy. Nta. Did anybody consider that there might be a good reason for op to dislike his father? Also the kid was entering high school. He was 13 at most. Not hoing to some prestigious high school isn't life ruining, op even tried to enrol the little shit to a school that was closer to where they lived and he tried to have him arrested! Op doesn't owe him shit.

[@songohan3321]

It is always a breath of fresh air when the stories are not read by a robot with weird pronunciations of certain words.

[@MarkNarrations]

Love the pfp and user 😁

[@JasperCatProductions]

The first story, the other kids are not a dentist! These younger kids seem very greedy, your money and property is yours to give away. If my kids got greedy I would leave them $25 each and give the rest to oldest. My dad died (2019) he left his home to my brother. I could have fought it, but I don’t care about his house. I want my dad back.

[@missveeta8872]

Oh, Mark I'm sorry sorry about what happened with your mom! Internet hugs! (WOW *Teary*)

[@rebecca4480]

1st story. Spend all your money instead of leaving it in your will, problem solved.

[@Grace_x68]

S1 NTA - no one has the right to decide how another person's Will will be devided.

[@jamess6203]

F all those people that said the father was the A-hole!!! For years he tried to be in his son's life and was rebuffed by both his father and his son. You don't get to come back years later after you find out one of the two people is terminally ill trying to have a relationship regardless if you are blood related. If blood really mattered this F would not have either started or been fixed years ago. For me I can't get past the son telling the father he was ashamed of him knowing everything he did behind the fathers back. As a parent you have to right, regardless of what anyone else here says on what path you want to direct your child on. If people disagree tell them to go jump in the lake! Keep strong and don't feel bad for people who NEVER tried to support you in your life.

[@S7-Envy]

I would have called her out not. Not just In front of her family/friends but on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter.

[@pedersonjason5256]

That sister commited plagiarism and resending it without the original artists permission.

[@floraposteschild4184]

S1: well, you can sell the business to someone else. That just happened at my dentist: the business changed hands, and the new dentist gets a practice with hundreds of patients. OP really wants to pass the business to his son, but to make it look to the rest of the family that son was doing HIM a favour.

[@RhonyLynn]

I think that I will be downvoted, but I don’t think that the OP in the 2nd story is in the wrong. When a child is underage, it is the parent’s responsibility to raise them the way they see fit, unless they are abusive. And contrary to what seems to be the new popular belief, telling a kid “no” is not abuse. And I took from the story that OPs real issue with his son was his behavior AFTER he became an adult... telling him he was ashamed of his own father just because he wasn’t as money hungry as the son or grandfather... alienating his father from “family” events like graduations and vacations. It sounds like despite the son calling CPS just because he couldn’t go to the school he wanted, OP tried to still have a relationship with him until he just got kicked in the teeth one too many times. I wouldn’t be surprised if the reality is that maybe grandpa DOES feel bad as he lies on his deathbed, and the son found out that his grandfather plans on leaving OP money he’s now trying to cuddle up to OP to get.

[@HartDoug]

Regarding the last story, where OP’s sister ‘modified’ her art without OP’s permission, OP is NTA! If sister had ‘saved’ the project, made modifications, and offered OP the option of choosing which to offer the pastor, THAT would have been different... perhaps... As it is, I think OP needs to put passwords in her computer (and anything else ‘electronic’)... Not sure I’d kick my sister out of my life but I would certainly make it more difficult for her to interfere in my work (or play)!

[@ashenblazenyt348]

For the last story, if someone told me they went onto my computer and said they edited my art work, I would grab their face with both my hands and tell them thank you cause I don't do art 🤣

[@geckokid8265]

Mark i like how unafraid you are to talk about your feelings, it's something people don't see often enough especially from men cheers

[@dragonpokemonlover237]

Story 4: NTA NTA I absolutely love drawing it’s my escape and a hobby. If I’m stuck, need advice or if someone has a suggestion I’m my than happy for anyone to help. HOWEVER if someone was to touch or adjust my work without my permission I’d go full Sasuke mode and chidori them for sure. It’s an unspoken rule and common decency DO NOT TOUCH ANOTHER ARTISTS WORK without permission.

[@ArtfullPuffin]

Story 2 NTA if you son who has hurt you and left you for your own AH father then I would slap the door in his face too. The kid didn't even try he just showed up out of nowhere and left after 1 minute?!! If he would have ment it he would have stayed or attempted it a different way.

[@jackson8753]

I personally think YTA but not because he rejected his son's apology, it's because he rejected the scholarships from all of the schools

[@ashleyhudson8253]

Story 4: Absolutely NTA. I would scream even more at my sister and mother if they did that, and I would make sure that my computer is locked to them before walking away. The worst thing is I can see what the sister thought process was cause I went through something similar. My little brother was hired by the daycare that used to run inside my church (cures you virus) to create and maintain their website because they new him as a tech guy. At the time I was at the end of my associates degree in graphic design and I wanted to see how my brother was doing and if I could offer him any assistance if he wanted. So I checked out the website. Now could I have gone to his computer gotten access to the website and make the changes I thought needed to happen to make it better while he was out of the house? Yes. Did I? NO! All I did was tell him that it looked good and if ever he needed help I'll be right there for him, and then I never mentioned anything about it again.

[@colleennewholy9026]

With the graphic designer sister... My sister and I are artists, and the ONLY TIME, we work on each other's work. Is if we asked one or the other for help. If my sister did this, I'd be sooooo mad and vice versa. That sister needs some effing boundaries

[@joimumu]

Op should add ingredients when his mom is cooking without asking then ask why she upset, he can do other things I just gave cooking as an exempla

[@Azulakayes]

Story 3- I am so pissed at Callie's mom. Not only she was she an ableist she is a huge *Karen* . Its really horrendous behaviour!

[@bethanntay]

Nope, I don't care what the dentist in comment says but in the end it is up to him. He went to be a dentist. If I was in the same situation I would give it to the one that would actually put it to work. The others want it, go to dental school so your brother isn't doing all the work and you are benefitting from it. It can become a family business.

[@bethanntay]

Nta! Forgot that part.

[@charlieoscar2339]

Story 1. I told my parents that I don’t want any inheritance. I want them to spend all of their money BEFORE they die. They have spent enough money on us. Sell the house. Make up funeral arrangements. Spend all of it on the themselves. Material objects mean nothing.

[@maubrey2095]

The last story makes my blood boil. I've had so many people steal my work, claim it as their own, or say that they did a part. NO. NO. NO. This isn't even focusing on my own art but also academic work and it makes me mad. No form of intellectual or any type of property is subject to tampering from someone who changes it without the original owner's consent. The sister should know this. If my brother were to also take up design as a hobby and provide free services, I would give him tips but I will not tamper with his work like how mom does not tamper mine, even as an artist herself.

[@sharonblevins3281]

Mom's an AH in the dead dad story. Sorry for the little girl. Ban mom from the house. Tell little girl to play with someone else.